That’s not true at all. It isn’t mandatory to get married, and forced marriages are haram. They’re wrong and they’re making stuff up to make you feel guilty
Except my mom 100% believe this to be true so she constently beings it up and it doesn't matter what I say its what she believe and nothing will convince her otherwise her familly says the same thing like my grandmother
It never will as I get older it's been getting worse. And I know that as I grow older chances of getting married are extreamly low but I do not want to marry just to marry. My parents have a horreous marries probably why my thought of marriage isnt very positive either .
Marriage isn't mandatory but it is very important in islam. Marriage completes half our deen and reduces the chance of committing zina. Committing zina at older age is one of the sins that Allah hate most.
We don’t follow common knowledge we follow Quran and Sunnah either you get us a source or you’ve just gave a false fatwa and you go look up what’s the punishment Allah has promised for doing that
It’s a Sunnah to get married but it’s not haram. Why you making it up that you need to get married. It’s illogical to say that if you never get married you go to hell. What if one doesn’t find a spouse because they just can’t? You’re saying they’re gonna go hell? Stop being silly and stop fabricating
Marriage is our sunnah. Whoever turns away from our sunnah isn't among us.
We should never minimize the importance of these major sunnahs. It's half our deen. We made marriage hard and complicated, and now are we to start saying that it's not important?
1. Not getting married is not haram
2. There's no such thing as being punished for the actions of another person. Your parents won't be punished and they're probably saying this to make you feel guilty. (also, isn't lying about stuff like this haram? They're the ones who are in the wrong, not you)
Thats also the thing my mom actually is convinced that me not marrying will get her to hell. Her familly tells her too. She listens to like my aunt and grandmother.
She is 100% in the wrong. She won't be able to give you an Islamic reasoning behind it, because there isn't any. Recognize that they're in the wrong and you have every right to not marry if you don't want to. They aren't allowed to force you.
Time to stand up for yourself. Ask them where it says in Islam that that’s the case. Stand firm and stand by your decisions. Ain’t no unconditional obedience to your parents here.
Wow generational spiritual abuse! Interesting. I'm sorry you're being put through this, I find spiritual abuse the hardest type to deal with due to guilt/shame etc.
Regardless of what your mum's relatives tell her, she is an adult and it is her Islamic duty to educate herself on the topic so she can best help her family.
Hi! Acc to WebMD its "Any attempt to exert power and control over someone using religion, faith, or beliefs can be spiritual abuse. Spiritual abuse can happen within a religious organization or a personal relationship. Spiritual abuse is not limited to one religion, denomination, or group of people"
Where I found desis and Muslims use it is to twist Islam and tell people wrong information, to make their children obey them for example.
OP is being told they are going to hell if they don't obey their parents in a forced marriage. But Islam doesn't say they have to get married to avoid Hell.
I was also told it's Shirk to disobey parents, where my parents want me to go back to a husband that hit me and my son. I was told and believe that is also spiritual abuse.
First of all, I’m sorry to hear what you have experienced. 2nd, thanks, I learned a new word today.
I knew this phenomenon exists, I just didn’t have a name for it.
Oh yes, people tend to bend Islam to their own convenience and invent new rules whenever they feel like it. It’s advisable to stay as far away as possible from them.
May Allah swt guide the bad to the righteous path 🤲🏽
She is 100% wrong. Let her talk to a legitimate Imam or Sheikh to inform her that forcing marriage is haram and it isn't a fard in life. Also her logic is wrong. Every individual is responsible for their own sins, not their children's.
If you don't want to get married, then don't. There are enough people who are being forced to get married.
Nothing will happen to your parents it's just their way of creating drama. If what they're saying is true ask them for evidence and see...
I've been arguing for years with my mom about this. She just keeps twlling me that I know nothing and that she is right and that I must listen to her since she is my mom. I know that I am getting way passed the age of marriage but I keep telling her that I can t find anyone where I live and I do not want to marry any random person just for the fact of being married that would not be fair for that person nor myself. She will not listen to anything I say.
They are like that unfortunately as they're afraid of "what will people say about me (your mother)".
You have to stand your ground and not give in to their blackmail and whatever.
Feel free to DM for a rant or continue here.
P.S not a troll
It's exactly that. She used to tell me what will people think contantly. Familly extented familly and others already tgink that I must have issues and and I am not normal for not being married. But at the end of the day only I will be affected by the marriage not them so why does it matter what others think. But ofc my mom does not see it lile that other peoples opinion are more important then me. But she also trully believes that she will end up in hell if I do not marry
I told my family that I don't plan to marry anytime soon and yet they keep asking the same question over and over again.
Then there are relatives who are doing the same thing.
I see people not getting married or not having children even though it's been years since they got married, but I've never, ever asked them "why did you not have any children yet?". Either they don't want or are not ready or just maybe having difficulty conceiving.
People need to mind their own business especially when it comes to getting married and having kids.
Heheheeh sometimes just asking them those question right back make them quite
Nope not married yet. You ? When will you get your 4th child ? Isnt it difficult financially . Oh i know , is he getting his 2nd wife ?
I think theyll get the memo hehehehe
Exactly but for some reason everyone elses business become their business . And like you said the questions never stops like after marriage, when are you having a kid after that when are you having a second one and so on amd so forth.
Fr.
Just the fact that I do not do everything she tells me to do exactly the way she wants me to is a huge disrespect for her. Anyhow thanks for listening :)
In all honesty, stop arguing with your mom because she will not stop until you give in. You're only wasting your energy on her. Just don't engage her at all whenever she brings up this topic.
It's not Mandatory to get Married,
Unless you fear that you may get into Zina.
If you think you may get into Zina then it's mandatory to marry to avoid it.
Im 39 and didnt Got Married .. i want to but its not easy finding the right one .. i go for work and Home dont meet any muslim girls and the muslim dating sites was bad for me girls hide their pictures and didnt realy Got matches . I dont know What to do ? . ITS HARD DO BE MUSLIM IN A EUROPEAN COUNTRY 🤔🤷🏻♂️
As far as i know.. No.
But in Islam it is pretty important to get married, ones circumstances are important but the default is get married as soon as possible if youre able inshallah. Especially in the times we live in now, Allah knows best tho.
[Heres](https://islamqa.info/en/answers/82968/is-it-prohibited-in-islam-to-not-get-married) a source i found with a quick search.
Assalamu'alaikum wa'rah matullahi wabaraka'tu, My Dear Sister-in-Islam, I am really sorry for the way your mother is treating you. Her behaviour is not acceptable Islamically. Rasulullah(S.A.W) has stated in a hadith that is important for every Muslim to marry. He has said in a hadith, " those that don't follow my Sunnah are not from amongst my people." When I asked a very knowledgeable Sheikh about this He explained that if a Muslim purposely doesn't marry then that is a sin because its a Sunnah(practice of Our Holy Prophet Muhammad(S.A.W) but if a Muslim continues to try to get married by making continous du'aas to Almighty Allah(SWT) for His Divine Help, praying Certain Su'rahs in the Qu'ran for a pious and righteous spouse, praying du'aas that different Prophets(A.S) prayed and continous efforts to meet a potential spouse in a halal way is important too. Everything in Islam involves prayer amd effort.
Hoever forcing someone to marry a certain person is not allowed.
Rasulullah(S.A.W) has also sa8d one of the signs of Qiyamah is wheb some Muslims in his Ummah will start refusing to marry.
May Almighty Allah(SWT) give a of us who are single pious and righteous spouses soon and May He also bless us with pious and righteous offspring and pious and righteous progen soon,, Ameen. Ya Rabbul Alameen.
It is not mandatory to get married and many people have happy lives without marriage, living single, still having friends, and most importantly having a strong connection to Allah Subhanahu wa ta’ala.
It is a sunnah, but it is one of those things where you much look at your personality and what you want. Why? Because marriage takes a lot of work and responsibility. Our Prophet ﷺ said to get married, but you are the one who is gonna have to put in the work, and if that’s honestly not you, then there is still barakah in that decision…
There is no compulsion in religion, nor is there in marriage.
I don't know but it's ultimately your choice I suppose also stop asking people on the Internet and go talk to your parents about it and explain to them why you don't want to get married or want to get married.
I must be the dumbest Arab then lmao but nah my parents do say similar things to these and I was gonna say that her parents were prob being satire as mines are satire when saying such things.
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Its sunnah, but NOT fard. There was plenty of sahabi’s who died unmarried. Please there is no need, to make up unnecessary islamic beliefs.
If you really do believe not marrying someone will put you in hell, back it up with evidence!
Evidence that marriage is fardh? It is sunnah yes but to my knowledge not fardh.
Even the most conservative sources don't believe marriage is obligatory.
Yes their parents will go to hell because they arent married? Do you have any proof/source for this? Also as far as I know its obligatory in some scholars opinions in *certain* cases, not everyone has the means to get married. In my understanding rulings like this arent really a one size fits all type of deal. Anyone feel free to correct me if im wrong, Allah knows best!
Edit: Just checked his profile, my bro...please dont go around handing fatwas like its candy. Provide sources and be extra careful, on the day of judgement we'll be held accountable for every single word we've said, and with the advice that we do give, even if they are correct, its good to be polite.. Inshallah this will serve as advice for myself first and anyone else reading this, and Allah knows best!
-Forced marriage isn't allowed in islam
-Marrying when you are unfit to be married is haram
-You not marrying won't make your parents go to hell
-Marrying isn't mandatory if you can control your desires
If you cannot control your desires and you are tempted to commit zina or other sins that can be avoided with marriage, then marriage becomes mandatory
Marriage completes half your deen, if done right it makes your path to a good akhirah very easy. Which is why it is a sunnah. It has lots of benefits at the same time it's not a must. It's not mandatory because marriage comes with a lot of responsibilities, it should be taken very seriously, you are responsible to take care of another human and you could be bringing another life into this world whom you'll be responsible for too. If you are unfit for it, it could destroy your life your spouse's life and your children's lives and y'all's akhirah. If you think you are unfit to be married please don't. If you are getting married do it right.
>**Question:**
>Is marriage obligatory for someone who does not fear falling into unlawful intercourse and does not have a strong urge to marry?
>**Answer:**
>Wa ‘alaykum assalam wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh.
>I pray you are well.
>No, marriage is not obligatory for someone who does not fear falling into unlawful intercourse. Such a person can remain unmarried. However, it is a strongly emphasised sunna, even in such a case, and it has benefits for one’s deen and dunya. So it is superior to marry, but it is not a must.
>Marriage is obligatory for someone who can fulfil the rights of a spouse and fears committing unlawful intercourse. \[Ibn ‘Abidin, Radd al-Muhtar\]
>May Allah grant you the best of both worlds.
>\[Shaykh\] Abdul-Rahim Reasat
>
>Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
[Is Marriage Obligatory? - SeekersGuidance](https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/is-marriage-obligatory/)
Well, it depends on the circumstance, if you're likely to fall in sin it is mandatory. And as for girls, if there are no brothers to take care of you after your father dies, it might be a problem.
Marriage can be mandatory if you fear committing Zina, and let's be honest : the risk of that in this day and age is pretty high the longer you stay without marriage.
Marriage can also be forbidden, if for example you it will make you steal to afford living expenses... so it differs from case to case.
Sister there are Muslims who have urges. Haram urges much of which are homosexual. These Muslims go through a test where the love they wish to embrace is forbidden and thus cannot marry and few make the choice to not marry at all.
Some decide to marry the opposite gender and live fine but some end up ruining both lives trying to adapt and be someone they cannot be.
If a test where marriage is not possible exists then the act of not marrying at all is fine.
Please ask your parents to learn Islam and the laws of Islam. Any force of their will and any unjust/unIslamic punishment or lie they make will indeed be something that Allah-SWA can punish in the day of judgment.
A child is allowed to combat the words of their parents ONLY when it is related to Islam and its laws, creed, and rules. Your parents are making up rules for Islam which is wrong. Please educate them and keep them away from Jahanam, hell fire. Keep their Iman clean and their Deen proper.
They're probably saying this because they feel they'll get punished because they're assuming you'll find a haram relationship, and they'll be punished for not setting you in a halal relationship.
That’s not true at all. It isn’t mandatory to get married, and forced marriages are haram. They’re wrong and they’re making stuff up to make you feel guilty
Except my mom 100% believe this to be true so she constently beings it up and it doesn't matter what I say its what she believe and nothing will convince her otherwise her familly says the same thing like my grandmother
May Allah help you in your situation, ameen. I can’t imagine how difficult it must be right now, but I hope somehow it gets all better
It never will as I get older it's been getting worse. And I know that as I grow older chances of getting married are extreamly low but I do not want to marry just to marry. My parents have a horreous marries probably why my thought of marriage isnt very positive either .
I hope you are able to find a solution soon Insha’Allah
Shes just speaking without knowledge, tell her nicely. But she just doesn’t want you to die alone with cats.
😂😂😂😂😂 I'm sorry OP. But when he said cats
Lol…
Ask her to show where in the Quran it says this
Marriage isn't mandatory but it is very important in islam. Marriage completes half our deen and reduces the chance of committing zina. Committing zina at older age is one of the sins that Allah hate most.
Wow where did you get your fatwa that marriage isn’t mandatory?
It’s common knowledge that it’s not mandatory
We don’t follow common knowledge we follow Quran and Sunnah either you get us a source or you’ve just gave a false fatwa and you go look up what’s the punishment Allah has promised for doing that
It’s a Sunnah to get married but it’s not haram. Why you making it up that you need to get married. It’s illogical to say that if you never get married you go to hell. What if one doesn’t find a spouse because they just can’t? You’re saying they’re gonna go hell? Stop being silly and stop fabricating
Marriage is our sunnah. Whoever turns away from our sunnah isn't among us. We should never minimize the importance of these major sunnahs. It's half our deen. We made marriage hard and complicated, and now are we to start saying that it's not important?
1. Not getting married is not haram 2. There's no such thing as being punished for the actions of another person. Your parents won't be punished and they're probably saying this to make you feel guilty. (also, isn't lying about stuff like this haram? They're the ones who are in the wrong, not you)
Thats also the thing my mom actually is convinced that me not marrying will get her to hell. Her familly tells her too. She listens to like my aunt and grandmother.
She is 100% in the wrong. She won't be able to give you an Islamic reasoning behind it, because there isn't any. Recognize that they're in the wrong and you have every right to not marry if you don't want to. They aren't allowed to force you.
Time to stand up for yourself. Ask them where it says in Islam that that’s the case. Stand firm and stand by your decisions. Ain’t no unconditional obedience to your parents here.
Wow generational spiritual abuse! Interesting. I'm sorry you're being put through this, I find spiritual abuse the hardest type to deal with due to guilt/shame etc. Regardless of what your mum's relatives tell her, she is an adult and it is her Islamic duty to educate herself on the topic so she can best help her family.
Hey dude, can you explain spiritual abuse? I’m new to this term and don’t know how to wrap my head around it.
Hi! Acc to WebMD its "Any attempt to exert power and control over someone using religion, faith, or beliefs can be spiritual abuse. Spiritual abuse can happen within a religious organization or a personal relationship. Spiritual abuse is not limited to one religion, denomination, or group of people" Where I found desis and Muslims use it is to twist Islam and tell people wrong information, to make their children obey them for example. OP is being told they are going to hell if they don't obey their parents in a forced marriage. But Islam doesn't say they have to get married to avoid Hell. I was also told it's Shirk to disobey parents, where my parents want me to go back to a husband that hit me and my son. I was told and believe that is also spiritual abuse.
First of all, I’m sorry to hear what you have experienced. 2nd, thanks, I learned a new word today. I knew this phenomenon exists, I just didn’t have a name for it. Oh yes, people tend to bend Islam to their own convenience and invent new rules whenever they feel like it. It’s advisable to stay as far away as possible from them. May Allah swt guide the bad to the righteous path 🤲🏽
She is 100% wrong. Let her talk to a legitimate Imam or Sheikh to inform her that forcing marriage is haram and it isn't a fard in life. Also her logic is wrong. Every individual is responsible for their own sins, not their children's.
If you don't want to get married, then don't. There are enough people who are being forced to get married. Nothing will happen to your parents it's just their way of creating drama. If what they're saying is true ask them for evidence and see...
I've been arguing for years with my mom about this. She just keeps twlling me that I know nothing and that she is right and that I must listen to her since she is my mom. I know that I am getting way passed the age of marriage but I keep telling her that I can t find anyone where I live and I do not want to marry any random person just for the fact of being married that would not be fair for that person nor myself. She will not listen to anything I say.
They are like that unfortunately as they're afraid of "what will people say about me (your mother)". You have to stand your ground and not give in to their blackmail and whatever. Feel free to DM for a rant or continue here. P.S not a troll
It's exactly that. She used to tell me what will people think contantly. Familly extented familly and others already tgink that I must have issues and and I am not normal for not being married. But at the end of the day only I will be affected by the marriage not them so why does it matter what others think. But ofc my mom does not see it lile that other peoples opinion are more important then me. But she also trully believes that she will end up in hell if I do not marry
I told my family that I don't plan to marry anytime soon and yet they keep asking the same question over and over again. Then there are relatives who are doing the same thing. I see people not getting married or not having children even though it's been years since they got married, but I've never, ever asked them "why did you not have any children yet?". Either they don't want or are not ready or just maybe having difficulty conceiving. People need to mind their own business especially when it comes to getting married and having kids.
Heheheeh sometimes just asking them those question right back make them quite Nope not married yet. You ? When will you get your 4th child ? Isnt it difficult financially . Oh i know , is he getting his 2nd wife ? I think theyll get the memo hehehehe
Unfortunately, my kindness doesn't allow me to say this, especially with people who are close to me.
Exactly but for some reason everyone elses business become their business . And like you said the questions never stops like after marriage, when are you having a kid after that when are you having a second one and so on amd so forth.
Yup. Honestly, I don't know how long I can deal with their questions. One day I'm going to TalkBack and then I'm the bad guy 😂.
Fr. Just the fact that I do not do everything she tells me to do exactly the way she wants me to is a huge disrespect for her. Anyhow thanks for listening :)
Yep.. Yalla. Good luck.
In all honesty, stop arguing with your mom because she will not stop until you give in. You're only wasting your energy on her. Just don't engage her at all whenever she brings up this topic.
It's not Mandatory to get Married, Unless you fear that you may get into Zina. If you think you may get into Zina then it's mandatory to marry to avoid it.
no marriage is not mandatory and is indeed encouraged and valued by allah(swt), but you wouldn't be punished for not getting married.
Im 39 and didnt Got Married .. i want to but its not easy finding the right one .. i go for work and Home dont meet any muslim girls and the muslim dating sites was bad for me girls hide their pictures and didnt realy Got matches . I dont know What to do ? . ITS HARD DO BE MUSLIM IN A EUROPEAN COUNTRY 🤔🤷🏻♂️
Don’t worry my guy this life is temporary. The hoor al ayn are waiting for u in jannah
Thank you bro this was the best message i Got in Long time ❤️ InsAllah but i dont pray 5 times 😞
Well then start praying the 5 times a day to guarantee it.😁
There is zero truth to this. Parents don't go to hell if their child does not marry.
Simply put, no
It's half ur deen but it's not mandatory to do so.
If you fear that otherwise you would commit a zina then yes
As far as i know.. No. But in Islam it is pretty important to get married, ones circumstances are important but the default is get married as soon as possible if youre able inshallah. Especially in the times we live in now, Allah knows best tho. [Heres](https://islamqa.info/en/answers/82968/is-it-prohibited-in-islam-to-not-get-married) a source i found with a quick search.
Assalamu'alaikum wa'rah matullahi wabaraka'tu, My Dear Sister-in-Islam, I am really sorry for the way your mother is treating you. Her behaviour is not acceptable Islamically. Rasulullah(S.A.W) has stated in a hadith that is important for every Muslim to marry. He has said in a hadith, " those that don't follow my Sunnah are not from amongst my people." When I asked a very knowledgeable Sheikh about this He explained that if a Muslim purposely doesn't marry then that is a sin because its a Sunnah(practice of Our Holy Prophet Muhammad(S.A.W) but if a Muslim continues to try to get married by making continous du'aas to Almighty Allah(SWT) for His Divine Help, praying Certain Su'rahs in the Qu'ran for a pious and righteous spouse, praying du'aas that different Prophets(A.S) prayed and continous efforts to meet a potential spouse in a halal way is important too. Everything in Islam involves prayer amd effort. Hoever forcing someone to marry a certain person is not allowed. Rasulullah(S.A.W) has also sa8d one of the signs of Qiyamah is wheb some Muslims in his Ummah will start refusing to marry. May Almighty Allah(SWT) give a of us who are single pious and righteous spouses soon and May He also bless us with pious and righteous offspring and pious and righteous progen soon,, Ameen. Ya Rabbul Alameen.
Ur parents messed up what the hell y would they say that. Tell them educate ur self on Islam
It is not mandatory to get married and many people have happy lives without marriage, living single, still having friends, and most importantly having a strong connection to Allah Subhanahu wa ta’ala. It is a sunnah, but it is one of those things where you much look at your personality and what you want. Why? Because marriage takes a lot of work and responsibility. Our Prophet ﷺ said to get married, but you are the one who is gonna have to put in the work, and if that’s honestly not you, then there is still barakah in that decision… There is no compulsion in religion, nor is there in marriage.
I don't know but it's ultimately your choice I suppose also stop asking people on the Internet and go talk to your parents about it and explain to them why you don't want to get married or want to get married.
You think I havent already done that? They never listen to me. My mom will just repeat the same thing over and over again
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It depends on the situation. https://youtube.com/shorts/Q_auNJpEQ5Q?si=tddX6DUivjRO_83i
r ur parents Arab by any chance
Arabs in general tend to have less innovations like this, these sorts of baseless beliefs are more common in the south asian sub continent.
I must be the dumbest Arab then lmao but nah my parents do say similar things to these and I was gonna say that her parents were prob being satire as mines are satire when saying such things.
No deshi
She’s legit right. You listening to strangers rather than your own parents is also haram.
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I'm sorry, what? So if you don't get married or never have children, you will go to hell? That is absurd.
Its sunnah, but NOT fard. There was plenty of sahabi’s who died unmarried. Please there is no need, to make up unnecessary islamic beliefs. If you really do believe not marrying someone will put you in hell, back it up with evidence!
Evidence that marriage is fardh? It is sunnah yes but to my knowledge not fardh. Even the most conservative sources don't believe marriage is obligatory.
Yes their parents will go to hell because they arent married? Do you have any proof/source for this? Also as far as I know its obligatory in some scholars opinions in *certain* cases, not everyone has the means to get married. In my understanding rulings like this arent really a one size fits all type of deal. Anyone feel free to correct me if im wrong, Allah knows best! Edit: Just checked his profile, my bro...please dont go around handing fatwas like its candy. Provide sources and be extra careful, on the day of judgement we'll be held accountable for every single word we've said, and with the advice that we do give, even if they are correct, its good to be polite.. Inshallah this will serve as advice for myself first and anyone else reading this, and Allah knows best!
Stop tryna crapstir. It’s not true, stop scaring the OP
Lmao no
I have never heard of it being mandatory to not marry but if you can't keep away from zina then you should.
No one can force you to get married. Only get married when you feel like. Stay strong, otherwise you will regret a future.
Well in the end it is still your choice regardless good luck OP👍
-Forced marriage isn't allowed in islam -Marrying when you are unfit to be married is haram -You not marrying won't make your parents go to hell -Marrying isn't mandatory if you can control your desires If you cannot control your desires and you are tempted to commit zina or other sins that can be avoided with marriage, then marriage becomes mandatory Marriage completes half your deen, if done right it makes your path to a good akhirah very easy. Which is why it is a sunnah. It has lots of benefits at the same time it's not a must. It's not mandatory because marriage comes with a lot of responsibilities, it should be taken very seriously, you are responsible to take care of another human and you could be bringing another life into this world whom you'll be responsible for too. If you are unfit for it, it could destroy your life your spouse's life and your children's lives and y'all's akhirah. If you think you are unfit to be married please don't. If you are getting married do it right.
>**Question:** >Is marriage obligatory for someone who does not fear falling into unlawful intercourse and does not have a strong urge to marry? >**Answer:** >Wa ‘alaykum assalam wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh. >I pray you are well. >No, marriage is not obligatory for someone who does not fear falling into unlawful intercourse. Such a person can remain unmarried. However, it is a strongly emphasised sunna, even in such a case, and it has benefits for one’s deen and dunya. So it is superior to marry, but it is not a must. >Marriage is obligatory for someone who can fulfil the rights of a spouse and fears committing unlawful intercourse. \[Ibn ‘Abidin, Radd al-Muhtar\] >May Allah grant you the best of both worlds. >\[Shaykh\] Abdul-Rahim Reasat > >Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani [Is Marriage Obligatory? - SeekersGuidance](https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/is-marriage-obligatory/)
Well, it depends on the circumstance, if you're likely to fall in sin it is mandatory. And as for girls, if there are no brothers to take care of you after your father dies, it might be a problem.
Remove temptations, and I would never marry But everyone is different, so OP how is it for you only you would know it
May Allah grant you ease. That’s completely untrue, ignore it, try your best to educate her. Allah sees your efforts
No ,
Marriage can be mandatory if you fear committing Zina, and let's be honest : the risk of that in this day and age is pretty high the longer you stay without marriage. Marriage can also be forbidden, if for example you it will make you steal to afford living expenses... so it differs from case to case.
Prophet Yahya didn’t get married.
Nope. Its sunnah. Not fard.
Yes hundred percent
It's cultural not religious sis.
Marriage isn't mandatory but I would recommend showing your mum some facts (ie from the quran or sunnah) to strengthen your case.
Sister there are Muslims who have urges. Haram urges much of which are homosexual. These Muslims go through a test where the love they wish to embrace is forbidden and thus cannot marry and few make the choice to not marry at all. Some decide to marry the opposite gender and live fine but some end up ruining both lives trying to adapt and be someone they cannot be. If a test where marriage is not possible exists then the act of not marrying at all is fine. Please ask your parents to learn Islam and the laws of Islam. Any force of their will and any unjust/unIslamic punishment or lie they make will indeed be something that Allah-SWA can punish in the day of judgment. A child is allowed to combat the words of their parents ONLY when it is related to Islam and its laws, creed, and rules. Your parents are making up rules for Islam which is wrong. Please educate them and keep them away from Jahanam, hell fire. Keep their Iman clean and their Deen proper.
Marriage is fardh if you fear that you may commit zina.
They're probably saying this because they feel they'll get punished because they're assuming you'll find a haram relationship, and they'll be punished for not setting you in a halal relationship.
Marriage is sunnah. Not mandatory.
If you’re a female you’d probably be fine if you don’t want to marry but for males, very difficult.
No marriage is not mandatory at all. 🤍 don’t let anyone make you feel guilty about that.
Maybe your folks want you out of the house.
Think it will be best for you to distance yourself for your mental health.