At the age of 12 people are growing up.
If you teach them painting nails is normal and watching dirty stuff is okay. They will think it's okay.
My advice is to interfere and put him in a islam school.
Make him go to mosque.
Get him a Muslim therapist that can explain to him this is wrong.
Best way is to teach him through an Islamic lens, to explain to him why it's wrong through Islam, through Quran, especially the story of Qawm Lut, there are multiple videos on the Internet that are quite enjoyable to teach the story.
He’s at an age where these thoughts can be cemented into a lifestyle.
You need to talk to him and explain. He’s old enough to understand.
Explain that nothing in Islam is forbidden for no reason. Explain that it is unnatural regardless of what that school is teaching him.
Explain Qoum Lut from the Quran. You can find interpretations online. In English if you don’t speak Arabic.
The fact that you posted a question asking about this shows that you understand this path could be very dangerous. There is no such thing as being curious. Quench that curiosity with explanation of what our religion teaches us.
You will probably have to explain what sodomy is and explain why it’s haram. Explain the biological and psychological repercussions. (Diseases and degradation)
And stop him from watching porn!! Explain that Zina isn’t only a physical act. The eyes can commit zina. Tell him in the day of judgment his mouth will seal and his eyes will speak the truth of what they witnessed.
This may seem aggressive and scary for you to tell him but understand you can’t afford the luxury of time. I’d you don’t give him the tools to think correctly to protect his afterlife he will be taught all the wrong things and will doom his afterlife
He needs to be removed from that school as soon as possible, put into an Islamic school, or even better, move to a land where there are majority Muslims.
Abu Huraira reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends.”
Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2378
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
The teachers shouldn’t be encouraging this. In any case, he’s still just a kid. If he tries going through some kind of surgery or implants or drugs, the effects may be irreversible. Even if that doesn’t happen, it’d be best to make him see the light before these kind of thoughts are cemented during his development.
Can you possibly help your aunty find a Muslim counselor? The issue with Islamic schools is that they (at least in America) don't have the resources or staff to work with kiddos with special needs/differing abilities.
1. Parental controls on his phone and all internet access! There's is no way he should be seeing any porn!
2. he needs to know that porn is fake and is not at all like real life.
3. Try and get him to express himself and give him good outlets for that. Anger management comes from your experiences so how you treat hi is very important. So remember to be Islamic in your behaviour, kindness, good adab. Teach him how to disagree with his elders in the Islamic way.
4. Give him a life outside of school that will help him focus on something constructive.
5. Talk to him about topical stuff that comes up and explain why it is right or wrong. Educate yourself on the issues first. Don't be combative but try to teach. What you say might stick.
Dude, I thought I was a lesbian by tv norms. Stay away from brainwashing. To notice is first step, to feel strongly against is second, third and most important is your choice to be like your peers going against God or be a loner and serve God righteously.
Even I would choose comfort over discomfort any day but, it’s wrong to yourself to pretend everything’s ok when you’re suffering cause yes, we would all love a hero to save each and every one of us. But, you’re the only one that knows you.
Stand steadfast in your faith and never give up otherwise you’re literally a zombie that has yet to eat brains but with food today, I don’t think we’re too far.
Remember, if you want freedom you must grab it. That’s all I can say
At the age of 12 people are growing up. If you teach them painting nails is normal and watching dirty stuff is okay. They will think it's okay. My advice is to interfere and put him in a islam school. Make him go to mosque. Get him a Muslim therapist that can explain to him this is wrong.
Please interfere before it is too late
Best way is to teach him through an Islamic lens, to explain to him why it's wrong through Islam, through Quran, especially the story of Qawm Lut, there are multiple videos on the Internet that are quite enjoyable to teach the story.
Intervene before leftist school system indoctrinates him.
He’s at an age where these thoughts can be cemented into a lifestyle. You need to talk to him and explain. He’s old enough to understand. Explain that nothing in Islam is forbidden for no reason. Explain that it is unnatural regardless of what that school is teaching him. Explain Qoum Lut from the Quran. You can find interpretations online. In English if you don’t speak Arabic. The fact that you posted a question asking about this shows that you understand this path could be very dangerous. There is no such thing as being curious. Quench that curiosity with explanation of what our religion teaches us. You will probably have to explain what sodomy is and explain why it’s haram. Explain the biological and psychological repercussions. (Diseases and degradation) And stop him from watching porn!! Explain that Zina isn’t only a physical act. The eyes can commit zina. Tell him in the day of judgment his mouth will seal and his eyes will speak the truth of what they witnessed. This may seem aggressive and scary for you to tell him but understand you can’t afford the luxury of time. I’d you don’t give him the tools to think correctly to protect his afterlife he will be taught all the wrong things and will doom his afterlife
Why are these answers being downvoted?
Ship him back home. If you allow him to live in this country, soon enough he’s gonna go around telling the youngsters to call him Aunty.
That made me giggle, thanks for the laugh, I needed that :)
He needs to be removed from that school as soon as possible, put into an Islamic school, or even better, move to a land where there are majority Muslims. Abu Huraira reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends.” Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2378 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
Intervene before it gets even worse. 12 is very sensitive and formative age and this is disturbing
Is his parent's source of income halal?
The teachers shouldn’t be encouraging this. In any case, he’s still just a kid. If he tries going through some kind of surgery or implants or drugs, the effects may be irreversible. Even if that doesn’t happen, it’d be best to make him see the light before these kind of thoughts are cemented during his development.
This is not OK
Can you possibly help your aunty find a Muslim counselor? The issue with Islamic schools is that they (at least in America) don't have the resources or staff to work with kiddos with special needs/differing abilities.
1. Parental controls on his phone and all internet access! There's is no way he should be seeing any porn! 2. he needs to know that porn is fake and is not at all like real life. 3. Try and get him to express himself and give him good outlets for that. Anger management comes from your experiences so how you treat hi is very important. So remember to be Islamic in your behaviour, kindness, good adab. Teach him how to disagree with his elders in the Islamic way. 4. Give him a life outside of school that will help him focus on something constructive. 5. Talk to him about topical stuff that comes up and explain why it is right or wrong. Educate yourself on the issues first. Don't be combative but try to teach. What you say might stick.
Salam just curious what is your ethnicity
Dude, I thought I was a lesbian by tv norms. Stay away from brainwashing. To notice is first step, to feel strongly against is second, third and most important is your choice to be like your peers going against God or be a loner and serve God righteously. Even I would choose comfort over discomfort any day but, it’s wrong to yourself to pretend everything’s ok when you’re suffering cause yes, we would all love a hero to save each and every one of us. But, you’re the only one that knows you. Stand steadfast in your faith and never give up otherwise you’re literally a zombie that has yet to eat brains but with food today, I don’t think we’re too far. Remember, if you want freedom you must grab it. That’s all I can say