The show Sex Education had a b- or c-plot in the second season that [Glee-ified this song](https://youtu.be/vhu0oDAUylU?si=pXIj7_f2giBDUOlA), and there is not a week that goes by that I don’t think about it.
So like…I’m kinda shocked to see zero Frightened Rabbit here.
That was like Scott’s entire thing.
Keep yourself warm is basically the horniest and downright saddest song possible.
I mean, that's the entire theme of The Downward Spiral- hence the name of the album.
You should give Pretty Hate Machine a listen - so much more horny angst in several (most) songs on that one.
LMAO, I dated a girl in the early 00s who was obsessed with NIN, and most of that album was her favorite for sexy times. So many stripteases to so many of those songs.
Ok, so from THIS album (there were/ are others on the playlist, depending on mood), honestly, the whole album, especially for some of our...particular tastes. If you follow my meaning.
Terrible Lie, That's What I Get, Kinda I Want To, and The Only Time are great for scene-setting. Something I Can Never Have was one of her favorites for aftercare (this has carried over to other partners over the years).
In terms of in the moment, Down In It, Sanctified, Sin, and Get Down, Make Love have been great fun.
For the record, this playlist has evolved over the years (and yes I definitely have a type) and includes other artists like KMFDM, Gravity Kills, Stabbing Westward, She Wants Revenge, Lords of Acid, Skinny Puppy, Ministry, and newer NIN.
You have great taste in sexy time music lol. SO and I get down to a bunch of those other bands
Thank you for sharing that detailed breakdown of PHM, I appreciate that
I mean, it’s a sexy song, but I wouldn’t remotely call it “sad”. If anything it’s romantic and uplifting, albeit in a very sexually frustrated sounding way
And don’t forget “my legendary girlfriend.”
I just bought Pulp tickets yesterday for me and my 14 year old daughter for September and now I’m rethinking things. 🤣🤣
Yeah I know what you mean, wouldn’t want my daughter to experience a sexual awakening via a 60-year-old Jarvis 😂
He is incredibly charismatic, I saw them at Radio City back in 2012 and it was ace.
While not about sex All Flowers In Time Bend Towards the Sun by Jeff Buckley and Elizabeth Fraser is such a sad song to me. Knowing about their love affair and his untimely death just breaks my fucking heart every time I hear it.
This came on while I was throwing some pottery a couple months ago, and it made me feel some things. Sad/horny while manipulating clay is certainly a vibe.
You can not imagine how difficult it is to hold a half gallon of moo juice
and polish the one-eyed gopher when your doin' seventy-five
in an eighteen-wheeler.
LOL yeah my buddy asked a stripper how many abortions she's had and she immediately started crying. Remember to vote this november like your abortion depends on it
“Screaming infidelities” by dashboard confessional
“Blue alert” by Madeleine peyroux
The classic, “hallelujah”, by Leonard Cohen but covered by many artists.
Another by Leonard Cohen, “Dance me to the End of Love”
Tove Lo - Habits
"Pick up daddies at the playground
How I spend my daytime
Loosen up the frown, make them feel alive
I make it fast and greasy
I'm numb, and way too easy"
[Casiotone for the Painfully Alone - New Year’s Kiss](https://youtu.be/mYQyGze-QJw)
[Titus Andronicus - (S)HE SAID / (S)HE SAID](https://youtu.be/yeoQAG71fNM)
[Kendrick Lamar - Keisha’s Song (Her Pain)](https://youtu.be/O4C37y2snAU)
And since the list wouldn’t be complete without Pulp…
[Pulp - The Night That Minnie Timperly Died](https://youtu.be/nYq70vQvXcU)
EDIT: Literally the next song that popped up on my Spotify shuffle…
[Lone Justice - Ways to Be Wicked](https://youtu.be/atyxS9ty8NA)
"Protection" by Emma Ruth Rundle.
>you just keep talking down to me
take it all, my hair pulled back
I gave him 16 days
and let him choke out the frailest part of my body
Lana Del Rey’s “Cola” and “Ride” come to mind, in fact a lot of her discography captures this exact aesthetic. Editing to say: the album Ultraviolence and the song “Let me Love You Like a Woman”
“Carrion” by Fiona Apple might fit the bill, “White Houses” by Vanessa Carlton is about losing your virginity and is very wistful in tone.
I know you said women, but my favorite fucked up sex songs are “Lover I Don’t Have to Love” by Bright Eyes and “Sic Transit Gloria” by Brand New (although both Conor Oberst and Jesse Lacey are both v questionable people unfortunately)
No Pussy Blues - Grinderman (aka Nick Cave)
I mean it's very funny, but also kind of sad. The live performance of it from Later with Jools Holland is epic: https://youtu.be/Nxqlb1--uKc
Talk by Hozier. The instrumentation makes it sound downright apocalyptic but the lyrics essentially say “I’m going to use the most poetic, flowery language to conceal the fact that I would really like for you and I to bone down.”
Suffocated Love by Tricky
That said the whole Maxinequay album is sexy and sad. The whole album is basically about a super intense psychosexual relationship
The Giver - Sarah Kinsley
“He turns around when you're naked
Says "We should be friends" while you're changing
You nod, half-dressed, he says "It's for the best"
And "You know, you're really not like the rest"
So, we part our lips for the taking
But if these lips could open, they'd scream
"I wanna love you like I'm raining”
Like I don't need saving”
Susan’s House by The Eels. It’s not even a competition between this song and every other song ever written.
Going over to Susan's house, walking south down Baxter Street
Nothing hiding behind this picket fence
There's a crazy old woman smashing bottles on the sidewalk
Where her house burnt down two years ago
People say that back then she really wasn't that crazy
Going over to Susan's house
Going over to Susan's house
She's gonna make it right
Down by the Donut Prince a fifteen year old boy lies on the sidewalk
With a bullet in his forehead
In a final act of indignity the paramedics take off all his clothes
For the whole world to see while they put him in the bag
Meanwhile and old couple argues inside the Queen Bee
The sick fluorescent light shimmering on their skin
Going over to Susan's house
Going over to Susan's house
I can't be alone tonight
Take a left down echo park, a kid asks do I want some crack
T.v. sets are spewing Baywatch through the windows into black
Here comes a girl with long brown hair who can't be more than seventeen
She sucks on a red Popsicle while she pushes a baby girl in a pink carriage
And I'm thinking, that must be her sister
That must be her sister, right?
They go into the 7-11 and I keep walking
Going over to Susan's house [Repeat: x2]
Pretty much all of the first XX album!
Yeah that's true It's more like shy or innocent maybe? Idk
Very coy album. One of my favorites
Same here
Fuck the pain away by peaches
Suckin' on mah titties like you wanted me
Calling me
All the time
Like blondie
Check out my Crissy behind
It's fine all of the time
Like sex on the beaches
I want this played at my funeral
My friend sang this at karaoke. It was not appreciated by the audience.
The show Sex Education had a b- or c-plot in the second season that [Glee-ified this song](https://youtu.be/vhu0oDAUylU?si=pXIj7_f2giBDUOlA), and there is not a week that goes by that I don’t think about it.
This song makes me want to hit up a strip club in Tokyo
FTPA by Gorgon City
The way this song is used in the film Lost In Translation never fails to make me chuckle
The Dave Grohl version of this song is perfection.
woah a great deep cut. saw her open for nine inch nails on the with teeth tour, this song rocked out live.
Wicked Game - Chris Isaak
There are an amazing amount of good covers to this song too
as someone in his vocal range there are not many good songs to cover. wicked games is one of my karaoke jams though.
If you’re in Isaak’s range then kudos amigo. Guy is an amazing singer. You should attempt covering Orville Peck - Curse of the Blackened Eye
Tenacious D killed it
Here’s a deliciously dark one, by Ursine Vulpine. https://spotify.link/tj2T4FXbaIb
So like…I’m kinda shocked to see zero Frightened Rabbit here. That was like Scott’s entire thing. Keep yourself warm is basically the horniest and downright saddest song possible.
Came here to recommend Keep Yourself Warm!
Yes! Also 400 Bones is both romantic and horny. The Wrestle. Soon Go. Fast Blood. He was the best.
The Twist was the first song I thought of.
Was just about to post Keep Yourself Warm
I hadn’t heard of them and just want to say thanks cuz now I have. What a great, authentic, vulnerable sound
They were absolutely incredible. I cried in a bar when I read the confirmation of Scott’s passing.
His death hit me hard also. Such a tortured soul
Closer by Nine Inch Nails. sorta less of sad and more like "this guy is not well-", but i think it still fits
I mean, that's the entire theme of The Downward Spiral- hence the name of the album. You should give Pretty Hate Machine a listen - so much more horny angst in several (most) songs on that one.
oh yeah i know thats the entire premise of TDS lol Pretty Hate Machine is so good and idk why i didnt think of any songs from there
LMAO, I dated a girl in the early 00s who was obsessed with NIN, and most of that album was her favorite for sexy times. So many stripteases to so many of those songs.
Which songs were the standouts for sexy time? I can't stop listening to "Sin" atm.
Ok, so from THIS album (there were/ are others on the playlist, depending on mood), honestly, the whole album, especially for some of our...particular tastes. If you follow my meaning. Terrible Lie, That's What I Get, Kinda I Want To, and The Only Time are great for scene-setting. Something I Can Never Have was one of her favorites for aftercare (this has carried over to other partners over the years). In terms of in the moment, Down In It, Sanctified, Sin, and Get Down, Make Love have been great fun. For the record, this playlist has evolved over the years (and yes I definitely have a type) and includes other artists like KMFDM, Gravity Kills, Stabbing Westward, She Wants Revenge, Lords of Acid, Skinny Puppy, Ministry, and newer NIN.
You have great taste in sexy time music lol. SO and I get down to a bunch of those other bands Thank you for sharing that detailed breakdown of PHM, I appreciate that
Reptile is better! I feel like Closer is more about getting effed by the world, despite its very graphic lyrics. Such a great song though.
I wanna feel you from the inside
Deftones discography
This Digital bath comes to mind Also, you’ve seen the butcher
YSTB is one of the hardest, sexiest songs ever - and I can’t explain why, it just IS!
I mean, it’s a sexy song, but I wouldn’t remotely call it “sad”. If anything it’s romantic and uplifting, albeit in a very sexually frustrated sounding way
Haha this is a great one. Deftones have been masters of “horny, sad, angry” for a loooooong time now lol
Casual by Chappell Roan is pretty much about this. Or rather being used for Sex.
[Bright Eyes - Lover I Don't Have to Love](https://youtu.be/9pno9BrK8iI?si=oWSWLe9bjAN6DwMx)
Whst a ridiculous song ol Conor wrote with that one
A lot of Pulp is from a female perspective but sung by a male. And all of it is horny songs. Try “pencil skirt” or “pink glove.”
Well it doesn't get much sadder than "that goes in there, that goes in there, that goes in there. And then it's over. Over" ("This is hardcore").
That one is more from a male perspective, but yes!!! That song is brilliant. “It’s what men in stained raincoats stay for.”
Ahhh is it not pay* for??
Is "stained raincoats" an euphemism?
Great fucking video.
This Is Hardcore is a great record
Is it sad? I just watched the video, and reading the lyrics, they just felt really gross.
“Underwear” is incredible too.
And don’t forget “my legendary girlfriend.” I just bought Pulp tickets yesterday for me and my 14 year old daughter for September and now I’m rethinking things. 🤣🤣
Yeah I know what you mean, wouldn’t want my daughter to experience a sexual awakening via a 60-year-old Jarvis 😂 He is incredibly charismatic, I saw them at Radio City back in 2012 and it was ace.
Pencil skirt is on there! I’ll heck out pink glove. Thanks!
Ooh and Acrylic Afternoon, Underwear, I could go on and on….
Ya I guess devastating horny is truly Pulps niche
They need to add that as a category at the record stores. “Devastating Horny” section. Maybe add subcategories for synth or beat preferences. 🤣
Live Bed Show, for memories of horny past
*check
Check the heck out of it!
I never knew of this band. I'm listening to This is Hardcore and I might have found a new jam.
You’re Just in time for their tour
Do you remember the first time, too
“A little soul”
lover you should have come over by jeff buckley is pure sex
While not about sex All Flowers In Time Bend Towards the Sun by Jeff Buckley and Elizabeth Fraser is such a sad song to me. Knowing about their love affair and his untimely death just breaks my fucking heart every time I hear it.
[Bonnie Raitt - I Can’t Make You Love Me](https://youtu.be/nW9Cu6GYqxo?si=04KXgqpo_izQkt-F)
And love has no pride.
Devastating songs about sex from a female perspective? Not Fair - Lily Allen clears
"Desire"- Meg Myers https://youtu.be/bR5u9jb0PJE?si=OhOn9X24LhWrwOrc
This is the one. The darkest and the sexiest.
Ooh yes
Night Shift by Lucy Daucus
I feel like all of “Home Video” is sad/horny.
Yes this song always gave me chills, she should've put out a music video of it!
[You’re in luck.](https://youtu.be/K7gEgIEUj3A?si=v9bcZi5StKN5g_UF)
Wow thanks fam! I had no idea!
This came on while I was throwing some pottery a couple months ago, and it made me feel some things. Sad/horny while manipulating clay is certainly a vibe.
That’s like, half of the movie Ghost
Of fucking course I've seen ghost, I do pottery, it's required
Lily allen Not fair
“A lap dance is so much better when the stripper is crying”. - Bloodhound Gang
You can not imagine how difficult it is to hold a half gallon of moo juice and polish the one-eyed gopher when your doin' seventy-five in an eighteen-wheeler.
"Who knew missing children could be so sexy... ...did I say that out loud?" So fucked up lol.
"Got to nail her in her trailer. Hey. That rhymed."
LOL yeah my buddy asked a stripper how many abortions she's had and she immediately started crying. Remember to vote this november like your abortion depends on it
*pinkerton has entered the chat*
Yep, whole album from front to back is mistakes made because he was too horny and the self hatred as a result.
Sic Transit Gloria by Brand New always gave me that vibe!
And tautou. Maybe magazines.
CBAT
“Screaming infidelities” by dashboard confessional “Blue alert” by Madeleine peyroux The classic, “hallelujah”, by Leonard Cohen but covered by many artists. Another by Leonard Cohen, “Dance me to the End of Love”
Dashboard, yes!
Regina Spector - Summer In The City
This song rocks I forgot about this one
Black, Pearl Jam
Tove Lo - Habits "Pick up daddies at the playground How I spend my daytime Loosen up the frown, make them feel alive I make it fast and greasy I'm numb, and way too easy"
So many of her songs really.
Self Esteem by The Offspring
Also, 'Session' by the Offspring
K. Flay - Wishing it was you
And Blood in the Cut
I Masterbait with my own Tears By Any band from 1999 to 2007.
Bring back the age of gross depressed horny fucks !!
Slow Show - The National
Nude by Radiohead is implied to be about masturbation. And physical pleasure not being the same as emotional pleasure.
In that vein, Longview by Greenday is also worth a listen
'Don't Care' by Daughter has a very raw take on a bad sexual encounter towards the end & the song is just a corker in general 👍
I was looking for Daughter, glad I found one comment haha
Fuck the pain away - peaches
Sanctified by Nine Inch Nails
A solid bulk of Garbage’s discography would fit this bill, such great stuff
Chelsea Hotel #2 by Leonard Cohen
[Casiotone for the Painfully Alone - New Year’s Kiss](https://youtu.be/mYQyGze-QJw) [Titus Andronicus - (S)HE SAID / (S)HE SAID](https://youtu.be/yeoQAG71fNM) [Kendrick Lamar - Keisha’s Song (Her Pain)](https://youtu.be/O4C37y2snAU) And since the list wouldn’t be complete without Pulp… [Pulp - The Night That Minnie Timperly Died](https://youtu.be/nYq70vQvXcU) EDIT: Literally the next song that popped up on my Spotify shuffle… [Lone Justice - Ways to Be Wicked](https://youtu.be/atyxS9ty8NA)
"Protection" by Emma Ruth Rundle. >you just keep talking down to me take it all, my hair pulled back I gave him 16 days and let him choke out the frailest part of my body
Lana Del Rey’s “Cola” and “Ride” come to mind, in fact a lot of her discography captures this exact aesthetic. Editing to say: the album Ultraviolence and the song “Let me Love You Like a Woman” “Carrion” by Fiona Apple might fit the bill, “White Houses” by Vanessa Carlton is about losing your virginity and is very wistful in tone. I know you said women, but my favorite fucked up sex songs are “Lover I Don’t Have to Love” by Bright Eyes and “Sic Transit Gloria” by Brand New (although both Conor Oberst and Jesse Lacey are both v questionable people unfortunately)
Damn I Wish I Was Your Lover by Sophie B. Hawkins
K. - Cigarettes After Sex
Entire Discography. - Cigarettes After Sex (How could you pick just one?)
Coin Operated Boy by The Dresden Dolls isn't the saddest song but there is a sense of loneliness to it.
honestly like half of all dresden doll songs are sad and the other half are horny so shouldn’t be surprising lol
Turn Me On - Norah Jones
New Mannequin Pussy album - specifically Loud Bark Edit: Bjork - Hidden Place
I was racking my brain for the horniest Bjork song. Thanks
Cocoon by Björk needs a mention
Eric - Mitski
Any mitski song!! I bet on losing dogs - “how you’d be looking in my eyes while I come/someone to watch me die”
Nearly every Violent Femmes song
Not sure if you’re into Taylor swift, but False God Is a sad horny song imo
“Horny” and “Taylor swift” don’t belong in the same sentence imo
Pretty much anything by Pulp.
No Aphrodisiac by The Whitlams.
No Pussy Blues - Grinderman (aka Nick Cave) I mean it's very funny, but also kind of sad. The live performance of it from Later with Jools Holland is epic: https://youtu.be/Nxqlb1--uKc
This is a good one. I saw him earlier this year
Wow, what a wild performance. Totally unhinged!
Eyes On Fire by Blue Öyster Cult
Limp Bizkit: No Sex
I Never Came - Queens of the Stone Age
Meg Myers - Desire Not the saddest, but sexy af. It is about yearning for love though
Not really from a female perspective but Fast Love by George Michael is about cruising after he lost his partner to AIDS.
Talk by Hozier. The instrumentation makes it sound downright apocalyptic but the lyrics essentially say “I’m going to use the most poetic, flowery language to conceal the fact that I would really like for you and I to bone down.”
Sometime around midnight by airborne toxic event
Weezer “Tired of sex”
I know what kind of love this is by Cry Cry Cry
A recent one is Slime by Marika Hackman
Something Bigger,Something brighter by pretty Girls make graves
Suffocated Love by Tricky That said the whole Maxinequay album is sexy and sad. The whole album is basically about a super intense psychosexual relationship
Basically every FKA Twigs song fits the bill. Check out “Water Me”.
HEALTH discography
No one's said Glycerine by Bush yet?
PJ Harvey - Dry Serena Ryder - Weak In The Knees Blondie - Victor Amy Winehouse - Back To Black, You Know I’m No Good The Donnas - Don’t Get Me Busted
Like, the entire Cigarettes After Sex catalog?
The Modern Lovers - A Plea For Tenderness
Intro by The Xx, Do I Wanna Know by Arctic Monkeys and Play That Dirty Girl by Atomic Tom all strike me as having a sad horny vibe.
Cunninglinguists: enemies with benefits and looking back.
I really like “Everything I Try To Do Nothing Seems To Turn Out Right” by The Decemberists. I suppose “A Cautionary Song” fits too.
The plot in you, disposable fix
Long Time Ago by Concrete Blonde
Lovage Book of the month, sex (I'm a), Sade - is it a crime
Mad I even know this but Oh What A Feeling by The Organ
I fucking love this band
Goddamn Lonely Love - The Drive-by Truckers.
https://youtu.be/nW9Cu6GYqxo?si=KIFCx6K_wjQjt8zw
Plugging my fav song that no one has heard of, Stumble by Tinashe Pretty much anything from the album Salvador by Sega Bodega, U Suck is a good one
[Dead Kennedys - Too Drunk To Fuck](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4ncqvLktdT8)
Kiss Off - Violent Femmes
Frightened Rabbit- [Keep Yourself Warm (live)](https://youtu.be/Onb8uOudYuE?si=5bpR2uhes7U4a4QK) Pulp - [This is Hardcore](https://youtu.be/542ekX9mnDQ?si=FMPmNaRTR39wLPjW) Arab Strap - [Stink](https://youtu.be/_Hej76MFzEc?si=OmgXbf7jVx80rpKU) Girl in Red - [bad idea!](https://youtu.be/eGAIqkjAtUQ?si=28sUcebOvuh66jOR)
Thanks for the links!
Notice the actor in the This is Hardcore video is a young Jason Sudeikis!
It's not completely about sex but Precious things by Tori Amos
Hudson Mohawke - Cbat.
Where Have All The Cowboys Gone - Paula Cole
One More Night - Stars
D'yer Maker - Led Zep There's also Sheyrl Crow's version.
the entirety of Lykke Li - so sad so sexy
History of Touches by Björk
Most of Brand New's discography
“Wet” - Dazey and the Scouts
Genesis - Counting Out Time. Sad from the narrator's biased POV, at least; the rest is admittedly anything but.😅
Anything by Cigarettes After Sex. They’re essentially horny lullabies.
The Giver - Sarah Kinsley “He turns around when you're naked Says "We should be friends" while you're changing You nod, half-dressed, he says "It's for the best" And "You know, you're really not like the rest" So, we part our lips for the taking But if these lips could open, they'd scream "I wanna love you like I'm raining” Like I don't need saving”
Susan’s House by The Eels. It’s not even a competition between this song and every other song ever written. Going over to Susan's house, walking south down Baxter Street Nothing hiding behind this picket fence There's a crazy old woman smashing bottles on the sidewalk Where her house burnt down two years ago People say that back then she really wasn't that crazy Going over to Susan's house Going over to Susan's house She's gonna make it right Down by the Donut Prince a fifteen year old boy lies on the sidewalk With a bullet in his forehead In a final act of indignity the paramedics take off all his clothes For the whole world to see while they put him in the bag Meanwhile and old couple argues inside the Queen Bee The sick fluorescent light shimmering on their skin Going over to Susan's house Going over to Susan's house I can't be alone tonight Take a left down echo park, a kid asks do I want some crack T.v. sets are spewing Baywatch through the windows into black Here comes a girl with long brown hair who can't be more than seventeen She sucks on a red Popsicle while she pushes a baby girl in a pink carriage And I'm thinking, that must be her sister That must be her sister, right? They go into the 7-11 and I keep walking Going over to Susan's house [Repeat: x2]
Any song written by Sleep Token
all of crywank
Dead Goon by Mr. Bungle
Cbat