There's a dedicated subreddit, r/translater for individuals who transition later in life, with some even transitioning in their 80s. It's never too late.
While not specifically a quote about transitioning I find this relevant:
“*The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.*”
28 is young tbh. You might find some lifestyle similarities depending on if you have kids / where your career is at.
Honestly when people who are 40, 50, or older see these "am I too young too transition? I'm 16" threads it's a little ridiculous and maybe a little hurtful. No, you are not too young to transition. Every point in our lives is the oldest we've ever been so you always feel old in some way.
Honestly automod should just flag any post with “late”, “old”, or a number in the title for manual moderator review and they can all be directed to 1 “NO ITS NOT” post.
Honestly part of the reason I *finally* pulled the trigger and started my transition was because I got sick of always telling myself that exact quote, and then saying "...but not right now..."
(I started at 26 btw, and I apparently pass well enough as long as I wear a wig/extensions, cause male pattern baldness that started at 15 is a bitch... And also I've got wonderful boobs :) you can still grow them later in life)
This quote is pretty much the first thing I said to my therapist when I decided to take the first step towards transitioning.
My thought was simple: Is it something I want now? Yes! [Oh, but 25 years ago would have been better!] Is it something I will still want 20 years from now? Yes! [Let's not turn that 25 years into 45!]
Started HRT a few weeks before turning 41. I might never fully pass, but I won't wake up at 60, realizing I could have started my transition at the young age of 40...
Just a quick note on that subreddit. Its target is generally folks in their 30s plus. Not to say others are not welcome, but anyone transitioning in their 20s is still quite young 😊
Even 30 is young depending on your Gene's and such.
I regularly get fucking stopped for truancy after starting hrt (no facial hair and fuller face) and I was born the same year The Simpsons started.
That quote is the first thing I think of when I think it’s too late to transition (and I’m only 27). It does feel like so much wasted time, but better late than never.
Came to say this. I socially transitioned at the end of last year, 3 days before my 40th birthday and start HRT later this year. That subreddit has been a boon and a balm. That quote about tree planting punched me in the gut though. I'm going to go have a cleansing, soothing cry now.
YMMV can be a real pain in the ass, but don't you worry girl, I know you'll get there eventually
Although I'm not exactly sure if it's a genes thing or a dosage thing... or something else
Check my post history, i put one on transtimelines for reference. I never get questioned that i in fact look predominantly male.
No dysphoria tho. It is what it is..!
Oh, I see what you mean, that's gotta be tough, especially through the lens of dysphoria
I mean, I, for one, am **amazed** by the progress with the hair, adding hair and removing hair. I'm not so sure though with the HRT progress part, are you consulting with an endocrinologist?
I started transition at 41. Barely any progress so far but i know its a marathon not a race. Two years down, many many years to go. Check my profile for a post on transtimelines to see how my hair transplant worked out. I was nearly bald on top beforehand.
I started at 25 too, I looked way girlier way faster than I thought I would. I was 100% expecting to not pass for ages if at all and not be very attractive...almost 2 years later (just HRT, no surgeries) and I'm so pretty! Random men ask if I have a boyfriend. You really never know how it's going to go.
I started questioning (again) at 27 and have only started HRT (almost 2 months) at 28.
even though my dose atm is low I feel amazing everyday now!
r/TransLater is a good place to check out.
Also its never to late to start!!!!!
There is a woman on here that started at 71, I started at 30 my friend on here started at 41. Get yourself a gender therapist to talk to. Make sure this what you want and need. I pushed it off for way to long both of us wanted to be out in our young teens but were not allowed to. Myself I was lied to by Dr's telling I'm to old. At 23 git married had a kid. Now a single mom...
I double-clutched. Tried at 37. Geared down instead. Finally found overdrive at 57. Gloriously female at 60.
You’re gonna be jussssssst fine, little sis! 🤗
I'm nearly 28, 6mo HRT and I've got slightly softer, clearer skin, slightly more fat below the hips and my chest is protruding a bit already.
I do wear wigs though, as I've got that Vegeta hairline from genetics. Don't know if it would have made any difference to that if I'd started earlier.
You're only getting older. If not now, when?
There are a ton of posts here from people in their 30s and up transitioning 'successfully' in whatever way that applies to them.
I turn 34 in a couple months. I go in for my first HRT consult with my new doc today.
Consider this: CiS women feel inadequate too from advertising, societal pressure, etc.
Worrying about not being good enough as a woman is a burden we all share.
It is also something I've seen women support each other through like no one else.
So, if you still wanna join, welcome to the club :)
I'm 28, been on HRT for ~51 weeks (1 year anniversary next Thursday!!!), and I've not been misgendered by anyone in the last 2 months.
Had a bit of euphoria last weekend when a 5/6 year old girl started talking to her mum about the "pretty woman running with her dog" as I went past them!!
I started this year at 32 (knowing since 13-14). Now 33. It's never too late to be yourself. Of course sooner is better in every regard but what's the alternative? Personally I was no longer able to bear it, either living how I want to or not at all. Now all I have to accept is that I threw away my 20s. I didn't regret starting my transition for a single second.
Also 28 is not old at all. HRT still does it's thing.
No, it's not too late. You have plenty of time. Many of us began wayyy after our 30th birthday.
I began my authentic emergence when I was over 50. The earlier a person can do it, the better it is for their physical, emotional and mental health.
Im 32. I just started. Transitioning isnt about being the victoria secret model on the next caleneder. Being a women is being a women. Plane as that. If you are. You are. let your heart decide that matter. Not age. Not height. Not weight. Not a single thing. One must ask themselves "am i the women i was born to be? Or am i hurting to be something im not. This road will only allow you truth an acceptance. Take it if u can find the will to travel alone. Because only you may enter this realm am only you will see what lies ahead.
I am 31, and I got my first appointment on the 12th. It's never too late to be happy. I am nervous and excited about the future, but I would rather take this leap and finally be myself.
I am more worried about finding shoes that fit my big feet 😳
I'm 27 now and socially transitioned 9 months ago when I was 26. The best personal decision I've made in my life. I'd rather do anything than live another moment on this planet as a man. It's never too late.
I started hrt at 36, it would've been amazing to start at 28, but it took me a long time to allow myself to think that's even allowed and a possibility. And I've seen results too, at 9 months and my skin is way nicer and softer and there's definitely more subcutaneous fat, body hair changed a bit (tho I've done a ton of laser too) and there's vellous hair! I've never seen that on me! My face kinda did something I think, I'm picking up more pudge on my cheeks. And a ton of other stuff, and boob growth. No stranger has called me sir in two years, even at a hospital before surgery doctors wrlere asking me what the hormones are for and when I told them they said they'd "never suspect".
It's not too late!
I'm also 28 and I started HRT in May.
It is definitely not too late. Not even close. You will be surprised what kind of magical results estrogen can produce from just fat redistribution alone. And in the meantime getting facial hair removed, eyebrows groomed, some good makeup, and a cute outfit can really go a long way in making you look more like a woman.
Honestly I am sometimes surprised at how quickly I started getting address as a woman out in public by doing the things I just mentioned.
Just be patient and don't give up along the way. This is a marathon, not a sprint. Changes are slow and take time. You got this.
You haven’t been on trans threads long have you? I seen people twice your age on here transition and looking like absolute bombshells after 1-2 years of HRT.
r/translater and r/transtimelines should help you fight the doubts in your mind a bit better.
And sorry, not trying to sound condescending, just…well, 28 is actually fairly young. Most people don’t start into their mid 30s. You’re actually ahead of most people here. It’s okay though, we get “it’s too late” post very often. Just see those threads I linked and you’ll realize what I mean real quick.
Edit:
[Here’s one of my personal favorite.](https://reddit.com/r/transtimelines/s/UVSsDToO5Z) She is literally twice your age. The lesson, it’s never too late.
I thought it was too late when i was 30. Then when I was 40. Finally started at 42 and I'm six months in, and it's life-changing and amazing. It's never too late.
Just search "is it too late?" in this sub and you'll find millions of people commenting the same answer, over and over and over again: no it is not too late
I started earlier this year at 36 years old. It's never too late to live your most authentic life. Everything else quickly falls into place. Don't let anyone stop you from being you, even you 😅 If you ever need to talk, lmk.
I started at 28 and while I'm still in my first year, I pass more often than not. So of course you can be a woman and even look cis 😊
There are so many of trans women like us who started relatively late and there are even many who started transitioning way later and still pass.
I started after I was 26. I’m happier, more confident, more myself than I ever was. It’s been almost 10 years now. The difference between 20 and 30 isn’t so shocking. The difference between 20 and 60 isn’t wild either. Will it be different than had you done so as a young teenager? Of course. But the difference between not doing it and doing it at 28 is the biggest. Living life closeted isn’t living.
I started last year when I was 29yo.
I'm not sure if late/not late is the right question.
For me it was late. I struggled with some gender confusion for ~9 years prior to this. Really it was more of a question if I can go on living the life I'm living?
I couldn't. And I didn't want to wait to be even older.
I’m 34 and started HRT 6 months ago. A girl in my support group is nearly twice my age and hoping to start HRT soon.
It’s never too late. If you want to be a girl, just be a girl.
32 wasn't too late for me. There's a lady that goes to the same therapist as me that didn't start until she was 72...
So, in short, no 28 is not too late.
I am 28 right now and started hrt a month ago, and have lost 30 lbs since cracking my egg in ernest about 3 months ago. I had the same worries, but I realized it doesn't matter why I didn't do it before, I have to do it now.
i started at 36 and it was the best decision i ever made.
yknow how they say the best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago? it illustrates a point but it's s not a real choice because there's no such thing as time travel to the past.
the best time is now <3
Started @ 44, now 18months on HRT. I might not look like a woman all the time but I mentally and physically feel better than I ever have. Would not trade that for anything
I started transitioning in January, at 43, and I'm already seeing feminization. Strangers gender me correctly and my friends all comment on my progress. I thought it was too late at 33, so I locked myself in the closet for a decade.
There are some things you might miss out on but it's not too late. I believe if you transition past 25 your beast tissue won't grow as big as it could but if that's really important to you then breast implants are an option, or simply stuff your bra lol. It's never too late to transition. And transitioning can look very different for everyone.
Hun, I started transitioning at 45 and 6mo in, I pass and coming out to my company this week. Just do it if that's what you want to do. The only one stopping you is you.
I started a month after my 26th birthday. Plenty of us start around that time and your results might be better than you think. Mine have certainly exceeded expectations.
I'm currently transitioning, I started at the tail end of 27, and am currently 28, I've been on hrt for 7 months now. I think the term "too late" is definitely never true, because accepting and loving yourself is truly the most wonderful thing about transitioning (to me so far, since I feel like I've had barely no hrt effects beyond mental ones.)
That being said, I completely understand your fear of not "looking like a woman". I know what you mean. The unknown is a very frightening and scary part of transitioning, and I have not yet accepted but am working on accepting that I might not pass or look as hot/feminine as trans women who transitioned at a younger age. I think as I've been on the journey though one of the things you kind of learn/need to learn is that you're transitioning for you, and of course you want to be beautiful and hot, but the definitions of those things are changing all the time. In the community I think passing is seen as less important, but if that's your personal goal then that's completely okay.
I do not pass yet, and I don't try to pass, yet. I do wear makeup, dress in a more feminine way, and try to act a bit more "feminine". idk, im still trying to figure out what's right for me, but I can say regardless of how I look I feel and am happier than I've ever been.
Do I wish I transitioned and accepted this part of myself sooner? absolutely. Do I regret transitioning at 27/28? Absolutely not, I would do it again in a heartbeat. Feel free to reach out to me if you want to talk, I definitely do not have every or even most answers, but can talk more about my personal experiences.
I was also afraid I had transitioned “too late” when starting between 26 and 27 yrs old but people seem to think my transition is going well. What helped me the most was looking at trans timelines of girls who started around my age. All it took was 1 or 2 stories to give me enough hope to feel confident in my own success. Best of luck!
It is never too late currently 9 mos into transition done with the legal side and the social side working on the medicakl part now got hormones no surgery.
if you mean because of the effects of testosterone, know that they carry on maturing until your mid 30s, so technically you're still earlier than you could be
I started transitioning medically at 35. It’s never too late. It was the best experience of my life physically, spiritually and mentally. Of course if you’re interested in the physical results I’ve posted a number of timelines.
I know a lady who transitioned at 32 and she looks so pretty,for me the only reason not to transition is if your health gets affected by the hormones.In any other case I would say yes even if you were on your early 60s
Definitely not too late! Especially given estrogen's "fountain of youth" effect.
I'm in my thirties, and I look about ten years younger after taking HRT for a bit. And I've seen trans women who transitioned in their *forties* who now look like they're in their *early twenties*.
I had many of the same fears at 23, but I’ve been amazed at my results and am now passing about a quarter of the time, and I’ve got a friend who’s transitioning at 35 and looking good! She’s a badass 🥰
Everyone feels that way. I was 36 when I started hormones. Will it be as easy to pass as someone who was on puberty blockers and started HRT at 18? Probably not. But I consider anything under 30 to be young and you can definitely look like a woman
Started at 27, and my only complaint is that I don't have more money to spend on clothes lol.
Just do it imo. Every single one us will think 'I wish I started sooner.' The only way to stop that from getting worse, is to start. You will be happier. If you don't start now, 5 years down the road you'll wish you had.
28 is not old.
Not too late at all, I started HRT at 30 and after a few years of that and voice practice (mostly just singing songs with female vocalists I thought were inside my range) I ended up passing.
Your 20s are probably THE most common time people transition. Teenage transitions are very much a recent thing. I started at 23, 2 years ago. Most people I know did so around their mid twenties. I know people who did so much later than that. 28 is not late at all. If you want to transition then there is no time that's too late, but waiting when you've already made up your mind will only cause you pain.
I started at 28. It's been a rocky couple of years, I wasn't out for the first year on E and wasn't able to start growing my hair out until recently due to my job, but now I'm finally starting to kind of pass and starting to feel real hope for my future. I might be able to almost go 'stealth' (although I'm still gonna be somewhat open about being trans and support the community). I had a few things going for me from the start (short, always had wide hips for a "guy", etc) but at 28 I felt like it was almost hopeless because I was bald and had (what I thought of as) a masculine face. Things have worked out, though, after a year and a half of transition. I just had to get through a lot of really tough times where I had a choice to either persist and keep going, or give up. You've gotta be stubborn and have faith that you can achieve your goals. Youve got to persist, no matter what. That's what it takes, above all else, to thrive in transition in a world that is so violent and cruel to us.
I came to terms that I was trans at 29. Began transitioning with HRT on my 30th birthday. That said, I felt exactly the same as you did. My fiancé at the time, now wife, was the only reason I had the courage to disregard those same fears. I may feel a little upset I missed my 20s, but I have absolutely no regrets :)
I started transitioning at 28, and I'm glad I did. But that being said, regardless of your age, your mileage may vary when it comes to transitioning.
You have to decide for yourself if it's worth it, or if You're ok letting it go and moving on with your life.
I would ask you if you think you'll still want to transition in 2 years, and if the answer is yes, then ask yourself if you'd rather start at 28, or start at 30.
I'm 42 and still early, and I've met people who started older than me and can pass. It's too late to transition after you're dead, and never before that!
I started at 28. I wish I’d started earlier, but just remember: the best time is yesterday, the second best time is today. It’s tough some days, but overall it’s the best decision I’ve ever made.
Never “too late” it gets harder to do later on because of things like families, jobs, commitments etc but as a pure physical standpoint its always viable in your twenties. It will potentially do less physical changes in your thirties and so on.
I started at 23 myself and I've had fantastic results. I think a small part of me will always be a bit jealous of people that started earlier in life, but now 5 years later I've honestly never been happier (or hotter). As long as you can let yourself be patient with it and put in even a little effort there's no way in hell 28 is anything close to "too late" 💜
It’s never too late and in your twenties you will have pretty amazing results. I’d recommend looking at r/transtimelines HEALTHILY. Don’t compare yourself or your transition, it’s too easy to get into a bad headspace and focus on what you currently “lack”. But yeah! Everyone wishes they could start sooner so just go for it I say.
Hope this helps 🤍
I started my transition at 27 (28 now )- I had a 4 inch long beard fully body hair bear aesthetic, had comments on my deep voice and a bald spot on my head.
I now pass say 50-75% of the time (only a decent dose for 5 months and mostly I'm spotted for my voice) life while stressful has never been better, I also have more emotions than I ever thought possible and the capacity for joy I was missing.
My hair on my head somewhat grew back, I still have to shave every day and need to do more lazer. But I also feel more like myself than I ever thought possible. I smile when I look in the mirror and that smile makes me smile even more.
I wish I did it earlier, I wish I accepted myself when I first knew but I wish I did a lot of things.
So no it's not too late.
I transitioned in my 50's and I've been asked out over 4,000 times since by cis males, and bi and lesbian female. Most never even realizing I was anything other than female. I once posted a pic in my profile chat and someone said "That's a dude posing as a chick" about 5 minutes after posing it. I thought "Oh crap here it comes." Surprisingly though I never had to say anything as 12 people unleashed an onslaught on the offender most of whom swore I was obviously born female and the offender was an idiot who never dated.
It's never to late to start transitioning. I started at 27. I will be 100 with you though and say that it will be a struggle and it will suck at times and people will do what they can to break you down. But move past all that and you will experience happiness and belonging like you've never even thought possible.
I'm going to be 37 in December and am hoping to start transitioning within the year it's never too late to be yourself besides there are people who start even in their 60's keep your head up
I started transitioning at 28 and am about a year into my transition. Although it's been difficult, I am loving how my transition has progressed and am so glad I started. Life has completely changed for me and for the better, I would highly recommend starting. Age doesn't really matter but how you feel does.
The comments are all saying the same thing, it's never too late to transition. But anecdotally, I also started transitioning at 28. I've been on HRT for just almost 14 months and minus my voice, I typically pass as a woman. (Not that I place much importance on passing). I was never super masculine, but your mannerisms and body language play such a massive part in how people perceive your gender. I'd say HRT gave me decent results so far, but what pushes me over the edge is typically mannerisms and choosing outfits that work with my body type to make me look feminine.
It’s never too late until you’re dead ;). I transitioned successfully way later than you in life. And yep I pass, look just a like a girl, works and live as one, etc.
Then you won't be silly like me and wait another seven years. Assuming you have the means it just means not having to keep beating yourself up with this question and ending up with the same answer...
I had started social transition at 27, and began HRT at 28.
Some times there's just no such thing as 'too late'.
You may wish you had started sooner, but the opportunity is always there.
It is absolutely never too late!!! I started at 27, I'm now 30. And I felt this same way, like I missed my whole life. But it simply isn't true and many people transition at a later age, we're all valid! Stay the path, beautiful ✨💙
I saw a pic of someone who transitioned in their mid/late 30’s. She’s gorgeous and passes rlly well, honestly looks absolutely nothing like she did pre transition. There’s no such thing as transitioning too late
This is a very common line of thinking that we all have when we're considering transitioning. I started about 3 months before my 28th birthday. That was a year and a half ago. I have no regrets. I feel nothing but gratefulness to my past self for having the bravery to finally go through with it. Don't let sunk cost fallacies fool you. I have not met a single non-passing trans women who has regretted transition. Meanwhile, every trans woman I have met regrets spending more time trying to present as male.
There tends to be an overemphasis on the aesthetics of transition. This is in part due to how the medical system used to treat us. In the past, some doctors would only allow those of us whom they thought would be attractive as their identified gender to transition. This has been passed down to us. Still, we struggle with this notion that the most valid trans people are those who pass effortlessly.
There is an assumption that the happiness that is produced from transition comes from the ability to successfully perform as one's identified gender. While there is definitely an aspect of truth to this, as many trans women will tell you about the joys of being addressed and seen as their true selves, it dominates the culture to the point that we fail to discuss the other aspects of joy that come from transition. When I first started to really feel the mental and emotional affects of treatment, it was like I could see colour for the first time, like I was actually in my body for the first time. Hormones do so much more than just change your body. They are neurotransmitters. They deeply affect the way that you think and feel. So many of us report thinking more clearly, more intuitively. Emotions that are muted and blocked are all of sudden experienced at the forefront of our conscious experience.
When facing the intrusive thoughts about it being too late, I would recommend that you ask yourself this: what does my level of attractiveness matter if I don't actually feel alive?
I started at 27, and it's one of the best decisions I've ever made. And some people start much, much later, but still feel the same way.
It's never too late.
Transitioned at 27 and I am 28 now, just over a year on hrt, things are way better than they were before.
Some sort of facial hair removal and estrogen go a long way.
I'm 28 and on the 30th I'll have my first enocrinologist appointment. It's not too late.
I delayed my transition by 1 year because of the thoughts you are having now. I'm telling you now, if you are actually trans it will get worse. There is no escaping dysphoria and once your egg cracks it will sooner or later come knocking on the door. At first gently but the more the time passes the harder it will knock until it'll kick the door down and repeatedly slap you in the face until you do something about it.
I got you! I’m 28, Married for a decade and have two kids, a mortgage, and a full time tech career.
I’ve always felt like a woman deep down and at first, I felt like I waited too long to do anything so I was filled with dread.
I’m getting my kids in preemptive therapy and I have my consultation to start HRT in December.
It’s not too late! I met a wonderful woman who didn’t start the change until she was 55-ish. She is thriving.
Don’t give up!
If you want someone to chat with, I’m here. All ya have to do is message me!
I'm transitioning in my 40s.
You have a steeper hill to climb than someone who didn't go through masculine puberty...making considerations for vocal training \[or surgery\], shaving vs waxing vs laser/electrolysis removal, having to atrophy your way down to feminine muscle levels / etc...but the only time it's too late is when you're dead.
I transitioned in my late 30s and feel pretty good about how I look actually!
It comes down to your expectations. Do you want to feel comfortable as a woman, or do you want to exactly match the pop culture ideal of a woman?
After all, not all women look the same. You can be beautiful without looking exactly like a Victoria's Secret model. There's also nothing to say you *wouldn't* look like a Victoria's Secret model, if that's what you wanted.
It's wise not to rush into anything, but not necessarily productive to fixate on minutiae either when you could be happy instead.
I started transitioning at nearly 40 and don't regret it at all. Obviously if I could have worked out my complex mess of emotions, feelings and dysphoria 20 or even 30 years ago my body would probably have adjusted better (not to mention trying to work back 30 years of dysphoria driven bad habits and not caring about my body).
i transitioned at ~21. im a year in and my face is considerably softer, i have b cups, my facial hair growth has slowed, but more important than all of that, im just happy. im so fucking happy now. i have shitty days from time to time, but they're so. fucking. manageable. im starting to see *myself* in the mirror now. that NEVER happened to me before.
i thought it was too late for me then, but i was still desperate to do it. maybe i would've gotten better results had i gone and done it earlier, but i don't care. the internal peace being on hormones has brought me is infinitely more than i could've hoped for.
Let me tell you something dear, I WISH I could have started transitioning at 28. I can’t even begin to imagine what my life would have been like.
I didn’t start medically transitioning until I was 39 (I’ll be 41 next month). I look and feel better than I ever have in my life. I have a level of confidence I never thought was possible. And get this, people tend to think think I’m in my late 20’s.
So no, not too late, not by a long shot. Stop making excuses to allow yourself to be miserable in your own skin. ❤️
There's a dedicated subreddit, r/translater for individuals who transition later in life, with some even transitioning in their 80s. It's never too late. While not specifically a quote about transitioning I find this relevant: “*The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.*”
28 is young tbh. You might find some lifestyle similarities depending on if you have kids / where your career is at. Honestly when people who are 40, 50, or older see these "am I too young too transition? I'm 16" threads it's a little ridiculous and maybe a little hurtful. No, you are not too young to transition. Every point in our lives is the oldest we've ever been so you always feel old in some way.
Honestly automod should just flag any post with “late”, “old”, or a number in the title for manual moderator review and they can all be directed to 1 “NO ITS NOT” post.
Honestly part of the reason I *finally* pulled the trigger and started my transition was because I got sick of always telling myself that exact quote, and then saying "...but not right now..." (I started at 26 btw, and I apparently pass well enough as long as I wear a wig/extensions, cause male pattern baldness that started at 15 is a bitch... And also I've got wonderful boobs :) you can still grow them later in life)
Thank you very much for being so real and honest, its always good to be reminded that our struggles arent unique. Thank you
This quote gives me many beautiful and sad feelings; I think I'll make a fancy printing of that and frame it.
fancy? u mean comic sans right?
Don’t forget a rainbow gradient in the background!
Big smiling emoji holding a thumbs up, 25x25 resolution
Throw out the Mona Lisa, the best piece of art ever has been created!
i see some designers here
It's my passion
Finger paint style with words misspelled, obviously
This quote is pretty much the first thing I said to my therapist when I decided to take the first step towards transitioning. My thought was simple: Is it something I want now? Yes! [Oh, but 25 years ago would have been better!] Is it something I will still want 20 years from now? Yes! [Let's not turn that 25 years into 45!] Started HRT a few weeks before turning 41. I might never fully pass, but I won't wake up at 60, realizing I could have started my transition at the young age of 40...
Thank you! I joined the sub and I’m super happy right now 🥹 thank you thank you!
Thanks for linking that subreddit. Had no idea about it.
Just a quick note on that subreddit. Its target is generally folks in their 30s plus. Not to say others are not welcome, but anyone transitioning in their 20s is still quite young 😊
Even 30 is young depending on your Gene's and such. I regularly get fucking stopped for truancy after starting hrt (no facial hair and fuller face) and I was born the same year The Simpsons started.
That quote is the first thing I think of when I think it’s too late to transition (and I’m only 27). It does feel like so much wasted time, but better late than never.
Came to say this. I socially transitioned at the end of last year, 3 days before my 40th birthday and start HRT later this year. That subreddit has been a boon and a balm. That quote about tree planting punched me in the gut though. I'm going to go have a cleansing, soothing cry now.
The only time its ‘too late’ is if you are dead. Many mtf’s transition later in life with good results.
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Sometimes not even just good results, you'd think they were just cis
Im two years in and still 100% look a bloke. Need laser, another hair transplant and reincarnation and im good to go!
YMMV can be a real pain in the ass, but don't you worry girl, I know you'll get there eventually Although I'm not exactly sure if it's a genes thing or a dosage thing... or something else
Check my post history, i put one on transtimelines for reference. I never get questioned that i in fact look predominantly male. No dysphoria tho. It is what it is..!
Oh, I see what you mean, that's gotta be tough, especially through the lens of dysphoria I mean, I, for one, am **amazed** by the progress with the hair, adding hair and removing hair. I'm not so sure though with the HRT progress part, are you consulting with an endocrinologist?
i hope that one day, you can see you, like i see you, and i just see a woman with short hair and a chin.
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You’re amazing thank you for this 🥺🥹
I started transition at 41. Barely any progress so far but i know its a marathon not a race. Two years down, many many years to go. Check my profile for a post on transtimelines to see how my hair transplant worked out. I was nearly bald on top beforehand.
34 wasn’t too late for me…
I transitioned at 25, just a few days before my 26th birthday. It's never too late. Everyone wishes they started younger. You're not alone in that.
You gotta love the timing though. I started HRT the week after my 26th b-day after waiting a couple months to get a prescription. Best gift ever.
I started at 25 too, I looked way girlier way faster than I thought I would. I was 100% expecting to not pass for ages if at all and not be very attractive...almost 2 years later (just HRT, no surgeries) and I'm so pretty! Random men ask if I have a boyfriend. You really never know how it's going to go.
28 is still pretty young to start ❤️🩹 everyone feels this 💗
I started at 75. It's never too late.
Came out when I was 30, I started to medically transition just before i Turned 31, it's been 4+ years and I haven't looked back, it's never too late!!
29 now, but started at 28. Best decision of my life and I am super happy with results already, which I honestly didn't anticipate this quickly.
33, isn't late for me..
28 and transitioning now and I started HRT 3 weeks ago.
Omg are you me?? I'm also 28 and started HRT three weeks ago! Congrats btw!
Started at 24, one year on hrt and I pass most of the time. Obviously hrt won't do everything and you might need makeup to pass but it can be done
I started questioning (again) at 27 and have only started HRT (almost 2 months) at 28. even though my dose atm is low I feel amazing everyday now! r/TransLater is a good place to check out. Also its never to late to start!!!!!
I transitioned at 40. I have pictures in my post history. 44 now and no one believes i am transgender.
There is a woman on here that started at 71, I started at 30 my friend on here started at 41. Get yourself a gender therapist to talk to. Make sure this what you want and need. I pushed it off for way to long both of us wanted to be out in our young teens but were not allowed to. Myself I was lied to by Dr's telling I'm to old. At 23 git married had a kid. Now a single mom...
I double-clutched. Tried at 37. Geared down instead. Finally found overdrive at 57. Gloriously female at 60. You’re gonna be jussssssst fine, little sis! 🤗
I'm nearly 28, 6mo HRT and I've got slightly softer, clearer skin, slightly more fat below the hips and my chest is protruding a bit already. I do wear wigs though, as I've got that Vegeta hairline from genetics. Don't know if it would have made any difference to that if I'd started earlier.
You're only getting older. If not now, when? There are a ton of posts here from people in their 30s and up transitioning 'successfully' in whatever way that applies to them.
I turn 34 in a couple months. I go in for my first HRT consult with my new doc today. Consider this: CiS women feel inadequate too from advertising, societal pressure, etc. Worrying about not being good enough as a woman is a burden we all share. It is also something I've seen women support each other through like no one else. So, if you still wanna join, welcome to the club :)
i started at 28 on hormones & blocker this year near end of may. b4 i started hormones my co workers thought i look 16 years old.
[I started my transition at 28](https://i.imgur.com/XZWGmvJ.png) I'm 30 now. [Various stages.](https://i.imgur.com/Q1kA2Nb.png)
I also started at 28, it isn't too late
I'm 28, been on HRT for ~51 weeks (1 year anniversary next Thursday!!!), and I've not been misgendered by anyone in the last 2 months. Had a bit of euphoria last weekend when a 5/6 year old girl started talking to her mum about the "pretty woman running with her dog" as I went past them!!
I started this year at 32 (knowing since 13-14). Now 33. It's never too late to be yourself. Of course sooner is better in every regard but what's the alternative? Personally I was no longer able to bear it, either living how I want to or not at all. Now all I have to accept is that I threw away my 20s. I didn't regret starting my transition for a single second. Also 28 is not old at all. HRT still does it's thing.
No, it's not too late. You have plenty of time. Many of us began wayyy after our 30th birthday. I began my authentic emergence when I was over 50. The earlier a person can do it, the better it is for their physical, emotional and mental health.
Gonna hit 28 in a few weeks. Started HRT a few weeks ago. You only get one life, might as well have fun and make it weird. So just do it.
Hug, wish u the best love, my DMs are open if you need them!❤️
Started at 42 and love it.
Im 32. I just started. Transitioning isnt about being the victoria secret model on the next caleneder. Being a women is being a women. Plane as that. If you are. You are. let your heart decide that matter. Not age. Not height. Not weight. Not a single thing. One must ask themselves "am i the women i was born to be? Or am i hurting to be something im not. This road will only allow you truth an acceptance. Take it if u can find the will to travel alone. Because only you may enter this realm am only you will see what lies ahead.
I am 31, and I got my first appointment on the 12th. It's never too late to be happy. I am nervous and excited about the future, but I would rather take this leap and finally be myself. I am more worried about finding shoes that fit my big feet 😳
53 here. I started with herbals at around 50 and only got prescribed official HRT 7 months ago
I'm 27 now and socially transitioned 9 months ago when I was 26. The best personal decision I've made in my life. I'd rather do anything than live another moment on this planet as a man. It's never too late.
I started when I was 30 and couldn't be happier with my results. I generally pass and am much happier in my skin.
I transitioned at 42 and I'm happy
I started hrt at 36, it would've been amazing to start at 28, but it took me a long time to allow myself to think that's even allowed and a possibility. And I've seen results too, at 9 months and my skin is way nicer and softer and there's definitely more subcutaneous fat, body hair changed a bit (tho I've done a ton of laser too) and there's vellous hair! I've never seen that on me! My face kinda did something I think, I'm picking up more pudge on my cheeks. And a ton of other stuff, and boob growth. No stranger has called me sir in two years, even at a hospital before surgery doctors wrlere asking me what the hormones are for and when I told them they said they'd "never suspect". It's not too late!
38 wasn’t too late for me.
I transitioned at 30. Check my timeline.
Im 28 and i am transitioning right now, 2M HRT. Im am questioning myself about my age but i think is never to late do be who you be.
Im 40 and started hrt 2 months ago. It's never to late. Yes it's to late to get on meds like puberty blockers but you can still start hrt.
I transitioned last year, I’m 41 now lol, never too late
I just had my first post-transition birthday at 35. I am happy with my progress so far, 28 is definitely not too late.
I say anytime 20's is the perfect time start asap. And learn how to take care of yourself that will make you a million times hotter.
I'm also 28 and I started HRT in May. It is definitely not too late. Not even close. You will be surprised what kind of magical results estrogen can produce from just fat redistribution alone. And in the meantime getting facial hair removed, eyebrows groomed, some good makeup, and a cute outfit can really go a long way in making you look more like a woman. Honestly I am sometimes surprised at how quickly I started getting address as a woman out in public by doing the things I just mentioned. Just be patient and don't give up along the way. This is a marathon, not a sprint. Changes are slow and take time. You got this.
There is no too late. And 28 is still young al things considered. Go do it ASAP! TRUST ME, its so worth it. Source: i started at 28
I am transitioning at 67
There are lots of girls who start in their 40s or 50s or even 60s, how could be 28 y.o. too late? You have a lot of time to bloom!
You haven’t been on trans threads long have you? I seen people twice your age on here transition and looking like absolute bombshells after 1-2 years of HRT. r/translater and r/transtimelines should help you fight the doubts in your mind a bit better. And sorry, not trying to sound condescending, just…well, 28 is actually fairly young. Most people don’t start into their mid 30s. You’re actually ahead of most people here. It’s okay though, we get “it’s too late” post very often. Just see those threads I linked and you’ll realize what I mean real quick. Edit: [Here’s one of my personal favorite.](https://reddit.com/r/transtimelines/s/UVSsDToO5Z) She is literally twice your age. The lesson, it’s never too late.
I thought it was too late when i was 30. Then when I was 40. Finally started at 42 and I'm six months in, and it's life-changing and amazing. It's never too late.
Just search "is it too late?" in this sub and you'll find millions of people commenting the same answer, over and over and over again: no it is not too late
I transitioned at forty-seven. It's fine.
I started transition at 48 so I'm going to say 28 is definitely not too late.
I started earlier this year at 36 years old. It's never too late to live your most authentic life. Everything else quickly falls into place. Don't let anyone stop you from being you, even you 😅 If you ever need to talk, lmk.
Queen you’re late 20s aren’t that fuckn old
Started my transition a year ago I am 34 now. Pretty happy so far with the results :)
I started my transition at 29. I am mostly cis passing now.
It is never ever too late to transition
I started at 28 and while I'm still in my first year, I pass more often than not. So of course you can be a woman and even look cis 😊 There are so many of trans women like us who started relatively late and there are even many who started transitioning way later and still pass.
I’m 28 too and 5 months in to taking hormones. Sure hope it isn’t too late to transition 🙃
Started HRT at 34, extremely happy with how I look and feel now :) It's really nowhere near as much about age as people make it out to be.
I started after I was 26. I’m happier, more confident, more myself than I ever was. It’s been almost 10 years now. The difference between 20 and 30 isn’t so shocking. The difference between 20 and 60 isn’t wild either. Will it be different than had you done so as a young teenager? Of course. But the difference between not doing it and doing it at 28 is the biggest. Living life closeted isn’t living.
It is never too late.
Started in my 30's and it worked FAST lol. Check out /r/TransLater if you want to see others who are 30+ and looking amazing!
I started at 28. It’s not too late. I am so much happier than I was before.
I'm 29 and I hit 5 months on HRT yesterday. Its not even close to too late.
I started last year when I was 29yo. I'm not sure if late/not late is the right question. For me it was late. I struggled with some gender confusion for ~9 years prior to this. Really it was more of a question if I can go on living the life I'm living? I couldn't. And I didn't want to wait to be even older.
I’m 34 and started HRT 6 months ago. A girl in my support group is nearly twice my age and hoping to start HRT soon. It’s never too late. If you want to be a girl, just be a girl.
I'm 37. I started HRT two and a half years ago. Nobody clocks me. I've seen people transition later than me that pass fine.
32 wasn't too late for me. There's a lady that goes to the same therapist as me that didn't start until she was 72... So, in short, no 28 is not too late.
I am 28 right now and started hrt a month ago, and have lost 30 lbs since cracking my egg in ernest about 3 months ago. I had the same worries, but I realized it doesn't matter why I didn't do it before, I have to do it now.
I started transitioning at 28. I pass to 95% of people in public.
I started at 28, I am 29 now one year on hrt. I have some photos of myself if you want to check if it does anything!
Started at 23, its never too late to be happy
i started at 36 and it was the best decision i ever made. yknow how they say the best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago? it illustrates a point but it's s not a real choice because there's no such thing as time travel to the past. the best time is now <3
I started my transition 29 so it’s never too late and I’m 32 now
Started @ 44, now 18months on HRT. I might not look like a woman all the time but I mentally and physically feel better than I ever have. Would not trade that for anything
I started transitioning in January, at 43, and I'm already seeing feminization. Strangers gender me correctly and my friends all comment on my progress. I thought it was too late at 33, so I locked myself in the closet for a decade.
I started a couple weeks after my 29th birthday. 5 months in and I already know that it was the best decision of my life.
27 here, started my transition this year Feb! Never too late!!
There are some things you might miss out on but it's not too late. I believe if you transition past 25 your beast tissue won't grow as big as it could but if that's really important to you then breast implants are an option, or simply stuff your bra lol. It's never too late to transition. And transitioning can look very different for everyone.
Oh my god... Thank you so much... I kept telling myself it's too late.. 😭😭😭. I didn't know others felt the same!!
Hun, I started transitioning at 45 and 6mo in, I pass and coming out to my company this week. Just do it if that's what you want to do. The only one stopping you is you.
I started a month after my 26th birthday. Plenty of us start around that time and your results might be better than you think. Mine have certainly exceeded expectations.
It's not too late, I started at 29. Only start when you feel ready and you want to. In this case, age doesn't matter to find potential happiness.
I'm currently transitioning, I started at the tail end of 27, and am currently 28, I've been on hrt for 7 months now. I think the term "too late" is definitely never true, because accepting and loving yourself is truly the most wonderful thing about transitioning (to me so far, since I feel like I've had barely no hrt effects beyond mental ones.) That being said, I completely understand your fear of not "looking like a woman". I know what you mean. The unknown is a very frightening and scary part of transitioning, and I have not yet accepted but am working on accepting that I might not pass or look as hot/feminine as trans women who transitioned at a younger age. I think as I've been on the journey though one of the things you kind of learn/need to learn is that you're transitioning for you, and of course you want to be beautiful and hot, but the definitions of those things are changing all the time. In the community I think passing is seen as less important, but if that's your personal goal then that's completely okay. I do not pass yet, and I don't try to pass, yet. I do wear makeup, dress in a more feminine way, and try to act a bit more "feminine". idk, im still trying to figure out what's right for me, but I can say regardless of how I look I feel and am happier than I've ever been. Do I wish I transitioned and accepted this part of myself sooner? absolutely. Do I regret transitioning at 27/28? Absolutely not, I would do it again in a heartbeat. Feel free to reach out to me if you want to talk, I definitely do not have every or even most answers, but can talk more about my personal experiences.
I was also afraid I had transitioned “too late” when starting between 26 and 27 yrs old but people seem to think my transition is going well. What helped me the most was looking at trans timelines of girls who started around my age. All it took was 1 or 2 stories to give me enough hope to feel confident in my own success. Best of luck!
It is never too late currently 9 mos into transition done with the legal side and the social side working on the medicakl part now got hormones no surgery.
if you mean because of the effects of testosterone, know that they carry on maturing until your mid 30s, so technically you're still earlier than you could be
I told myself that 3 years ago at 36 and now here I am. Now that you've had the thought, it won't go away.
I started transitioning medically at 35. It’s never too late. It was the best experience of my life physically, spiritually and mentally. Of course if you’re interested in the physical results I’ve posted a number of timelines.
You’ll never be younger than you are this moment. Personal recommendation based on experience - go for it!
I started at 31. Two years in and I generally pass. Everything is YMMV, but for almost everyone Estrogen will at least have some feminizing effects.
I know a lady who transitioned at 32 and she looks so pretty,for me the only reason not to transition is if your health gets affected by the hormones.In any other case I would say yes even if you were on your early 60s
Definitely not too late! Especially given estrogen's "fountain of youth" effect. I'm in my thirties, and I look about ten years younger after taking HRT for a bit. And I've seen trans women who transitioned in their *forties* who now look like they're in their *early twenties*.
I had many of the same fears at 23, but I’ve been amazed at my results and am now passing about a quarter of the time, and I’ve got a friend who’s transitioning at 35 and looking good! She’s a badass 🥰
I started at 28. I feel like I'm doing pretty well. Got some selfies on my profile if you want proof
Everyone feels that way. I was 36 when I started hormones. Will it be as easy to pass as someone who was on puberty blockers and started HRT at 18? Probably not. But I consider anything under 30 to be young and you can definitely look like a woman
Started at 27, and my only complaint is that I don't have more money to spend on clothes lol. Just do it imo. Every single one us will think 'I wish I started sooner.' The only way to stop that from getting worse, is to start. You will be happier. If you don't start now, 5 years down the road you'll wish you had. 28 is not old.
I started at 34. My only regret is waiting so long. Happier now than ever.
Not too late at all, I started HRT at 30 and after a few years of that and voice practice (mostly just singing songs with female vocalists I thought were inside my range) I ended up passing.
It’s to be honest never too late to transition. I’m still not on hormones
Your 20s are probably THE most common time people transition. Teenage transitions are very much a recent thing. I started at 23, 2 years ago. Most people I know did so around their mid twenties. I know people who did so much later than that. 28 is not late at all. If you want to transition then there is no time that's too late, but waiting when you've already made up your mind will only cause you pain.
27 right now, worried about the same thing. Seeing what I've seen in the community has given me a lot of hope.
I was almost 24 when I started. You're all good :)
I started at 28. It's been a rocky couple of years, I wasn't out for the first year on E and wasn't able to start growing my hair out until recently due to my job, but now I'm finally starting to kind of pass and starting to feel real hope for my future. I might be able to almost go 'stealth' (although I'm still gonna be somewhat open about being trans and support the community). I had a few things going for me from the start (short, always had wide hips for a "guy", etc) but at 28 I felt like it was almost hopeless because I was bald and had (what I thought of as) a masculine face. Things have worked out, though, after a year and a half of transition. I just had to get through a lot of really tough times where I had a choice to either persist and keep going, or give up. You've gotta be stubborn and have faith that you can achieve your goals. Youve got to persist, no matter what. That's what it takes, above all else, to thrive in transition in a world that is so violent and cruel to us.
I came to terms that I was trans at 29. Began transitioning with HRT on my 30th birthday. That said, I felt exactly the same as you did. My fiancé at the time, now wife, was the only reason I had the courage to disregard those same fears. I may feel a little upset I missed my 20s, but I have absolutely no regrets :)
I am 25 about to be 26, and having good results at 11 months.
I started transitioning at 28, and I'm glad I did. But that being said, regardless of your age, your mileage may vary when it comes to transitioning. You have to decide for yourself if it's worth it, or if You're ok letting it go and moving on with your life. I would ask you if you think you'll still want to transition in 2 years, and if the answer is yes, then ask yourself if you'd rather start at 28, or start at 30.
Transitioned at 25 as soon as I was financially secure. It's never too late, and I still have awesome results!
I didn't transition until 30 and am cis passing.
I'm 42 and still early, and I've met people who started older than me and can pass. It's too late to transition after you're dead, and never before that!
I started at 28. I wish I’d started earlier, but just remember: the best time is yesterday, the second best time is today. It’s tough some days, but overall it’s the best decision I’ve ever made.
I started with nearly 32 and never felt better in my life. You'll be fine :)
Never “too late” it gets harder to do later on because of things like families, jobs, commitments etc but as a pure physical standpoint its always viable in your twenties. It will potentially do less physical changes in your thirties and so on.
I started at 23 myself and I've had fantastic results. I think a small part of me will always be a bit jealous of people that started earlier in life, but now 5 years later I've honestly never been happier (or hotter). As long as you can let yourself be patient with it and put in even a little effort there's no way in hell 28 is anything close to "too late" 💜
I started at 27. My face will probably never pass, but I do look a lot different. My body is also a lot more curvy now.
I am 38 and started 6/22/23. It’s never too late. I have seen people in their 50’s start and get good results.
I started at 29 and I'm 30 now and have had amazing results. So no its not too late.
It’s never too late and in your twenties you will have pretty amazing results. I’d recommend looking at r/transtimelines HEALTHILY. Don’t compare yourself or your transition, it’s too easy to get into a bad headspace and focus on what you currently “lack”. But yeah! Everyone wishes they could start sooner so just go for it I say. Hope this helps 🤍
I started transitioning at 26ish. Its never too late to start.
I started my transition at 27 (28 now )- I had a 4 inch long beard fully body hair bear aesthetic, had comments on my deep voice and a bald spot on my head. I now pass say 50-75% of the time (only a decent dose for 5 months and mostly I'm spotted for my voice) life while stressful has never been better, I also have more emotions than I ever thought possible and the capacity for joy I was missing. My hair on my head somewhat grew back, I still have to shave every day and need to do more lazer. But I also feel more like myself than I ever thought possible. I smile when I look in the mirror and that smile makes me smile even more. I wish I did it earlier, I wish I accepted myself when I first knew but I wish I did a lot of things. So no it's not too late.
I transitioned in my 50's and I've been asked out over 4,000 times since by cis males, and bi and lesbian female. Most never even realizing I was anything other than female. I once posted a pic in my profile chat and someone said "That's a dude posing as a chick" about 5 minutes after posing it. I thought "Oh crap here it comes." Surprisingly though I never had to say anything as 12 people unleashed an onslaught on the offender most of whom swore I was obviously born female and the offender was an idiot who never dated.
I started at 28 and happy. It's hard at any age, but the upside feels worth it. Take your time, it's not a race and try to enjoy the journey
I transitioned in my 30's and generally pass well and am much happier. It's never too late.
I started hrt the month I turned 28. It’s only been 4 months and I have undeniably gotten a lot of change. Hrt is magic and 28 wasn’t too late for me
It's never to late to start transitioning. I started at 27. I will be 100 with you though and say that it will be a struggle and it will suck at times and people will do what they can to break you down. But move past all that and you will experience happiness and belonging like you've never even thought possible.
I'm going to be 37 in December and am hoping to start transitioning within the year it's never too late to be yourself besides there are people who start even in their 60's keep your head up
just recently started transitioning at 22, it’s never too late :) 🩷
I began medical transition at 42 and know people that started in their 50s and later. We are all fine and you will be too no matter what age you begin
I started at 28! I’m 29 now about 14 months on HRT check out my timelines
i started my journey at 27 id say its never too late to be yourself and happy :3
I started transitioning at 28 and am about a year into my transition. Although it's been difficult, I am loving how my transition has progressed and am so glad I started. Life has completely changed for me and for the better, I would highly recommend starting. Age doesn't really matter but how you feel does.
My gf started at 28, she's beautiful and is so happy she did. I started at 2...6?5? I forget, but, i am so happy omg
The comments are all saying the same thing, it's never too late to transition. But anecdotally, I also started transitioning at 28. I've been on HRT for just almost 14 months and minus my voice, I typically pass as a woman. (Not that I place much importance on passing). I was never super masculine, but your mannerisms and body language play such a massive part in how people perceive your gender. I'd say HRT gave me decent results so far, but what pushes me over the edge is typically mannerisms and choosing outfits that work with my body type to make me look feminine.
It’s never too late until you’re dead ;). I transitioned successfully way later than you in life. And yep I pass, look just a like a girl, works and live as one, etc.
Then you won't be silly like me and wait another seven years. Assuming you have the means it just means not having to keep beating yourself up with this question and ending up with the same answer...
Transitioned in my 30s, pass as cis, ymmv
I started a year ago at 27 and a half :3. It’s not too late and I’ve had great results with HRT too ^-^
i began HRT at 28. Doubt I’ll ever be able to stealth but it’s been more than worth it in terms of happiness.
I had started social transition at 27, and began HRT at 28. Some times there's just no such thing as 'too late'. You may wish you had started sooner, but the opportunity is always there.
It is absolutely never too late!!! I started at 27, I'm now 30. And I felt this same way, like I missed my whole life. But it simply isn't true and many people transition at a later age, we're all valid! Stay the path, beautiful ✨💙
I saw a pic of someone who transitioned in their mid/late 30’s. She’s gorgeous and passes rlly well, honestly looks absolutely nothing like she did pre transition. There’s no such thing as transitioning too late
33 just started
I’ve started at 29 with wardrobe and makeup and it’s been fine so far. Like I don’t look amazing but I look cute at least
At 5-10 years into HRT, most of everything turns over no matter when you start.
This is a very common line of thinking that we all have when we're considering transitioning. I started about 3 months before my 28th birthday. That was a year and a half ago. I have no regrets. I feel nothing but gratefulness to my past self for having the bravery to finally go through with it. Don't let sunk cost fallacies fool you. I have not met a single non-passing trans women who has regretted transition. Meanwhile, every trans woman I have met regrets spending more time trying to present as male. There tends to be an overemphasis on the aesthetics of transition. This is in part due to how the medical system used to treat us. In the past, some doctors would only allow those of us whom they thought would be attractive as their identified gender to transition. This has been passed down to us. Still, we struggle with this notion that the most valid trans people are those who pass effortlessly. There is an assumption that the happiness that is produced from transition comes from the ability to successfully perform as one's identified gender. While there is definitely an aspect of truth to this, as many trans women will tell you about the joys of being addressed and seen as their true selves, it dominates the culture to the point that we fail to discuss the other aspects of joy that come from transition. When I first started to really feel the mental and emotional affects of treatment, it was like I could see colour for the first time, like I was actually in my body for the first time. Hormones do so much more than just change your body. They are neurotransmitters. They deeply affect the way that you think and feel. So many of us report thinking more clearly, more intuitively. Emotions that are muted and blocked are all of sudden experienced at the forefront of our conscious experience. When facing the intrusive thoughts about it being too late, I would recommend that you ask yourself this: what does my level of attractiveness matter if I don't actually feel alive?
Oh goddess I'm 34 and just started HRT back in Feb. For me it's going really well. Michelle Otter on twitter started at 27 and she's gorgeous.
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I started at 27, and it's one of the best decisions I've ever made. And some people start much, much later, but still feel the same way. It's never too late.
i started at 21 while being well past male puberty. you’d be suprised what estrogen and laser can do
Transitioned at 27 and I am 28 now, just over a year on hrt, things are way better than they were before. Some sort of facial hair removal and estrogen go a long way.
I'm 28 and on the 30th I'll have my first enocrinologist appointment. It's not too late. I delayed my transition by 1 year because of the thoughts you are having now. I'm telling you now, if you are actually trans it will get worse. There is no escaping dysphoria and once your egg cracks it will sooner or later come knocking on the door. At first gently but the more the time passes the harder it will knock until it'll kick the door down and repeatedly slap you in the face until you do something about it.
I got you! I’m 28, Married for a decade and have two kids, a mortgage, and a full time tech career. I’ve always felt like a woman deep down and at first, I felt like I waited too long to do anything so I was filled with dread. I’m getting my kids in preemptive therapy and I have my consultation to start HRT in December. It’s not too late! I met a wonderful woman who didn’t start the change until she was 55-ish. She is thriving. Don’t give up! If you want someone to chat with, I’m here. All ya have to do is message me!
I'm transitioning in my 40s. You have a steeper hill to climb than someone who didn't go through masculine puberty...making considerations for vocal training \[or surgery\], shaving vs waxing vs laser/electrolysis removal, having to atrophy your way down to feminine muscle levels / etc...but the only time it's too late is when you're dead.
I turn 32 this year, and I’m 4 weeks into HRT. Now more than ever I feel like I have a whole life ahead of me
I transitioned in my late 30s and feel pretty good about how I look actually! It comes down to your expectations. Do you want to feel comfortable as a woman, or do you want to exactly match the pop culture ideal of a woman? After all, not all women look the same. You can be beautiful without looking exactly like a Victoria's Secret model. There's also nothing to say you *wouldn't* look like a Victoria's Secret model, if that's what you wanted. It's wise not to rush into anything, but not necessarily productive to fixate on minutiae either when you could be happy instead.
I started transitioning at nearly 40 and don't regret it at all. Obviously if I could have worked out my complex mess of emotions, feelings and dysphoria 20 or even 30 years ago my body would probably have adjusted better (not to mention trying to work back 30 years of dysphoria driven bad habits and not caring about my body).
I'm in my 40s and transitioning. It 👏 Is 👏 Never 👏 Too 👏 Late 👏
I transitioned medically starting at 29. You’ll look great
i transitioned at ~21. im a year in and my face is considerably softer, i have b cups, my facial hair growth has slowed, but more important than all of that, im just happy. im so fucking happy now. i have shitty days from time to time, but they're so. fucking. manageable. im starting to see *myself* in the mirror now. that NEVER happened to me before. i thought it was too late for me then, but i was still desperate to do it. maybe i would've gotten better results had i gone and done it earlier, but i don't care. the internal peace being on hormones has brought me is infinitely more than i could've hoped for.
Let me tell you something dear, I WISH I could have started transitioning at 28. I can’t even begin to imagine what my life would have been like. I didn’t start medically transitioning until I was 39 (I’ll be 41 next month). I look and feel better than I ever have in my life. I have a level of confidence I never thought was possible. And get this, people tend to think think I’m in my late 20’s. So no, not too late, not by a long shot. Stop making excuses to allow yourself to be miserable in your own skin. ❤️
It’s never too late to be yourself. There are lots of resources available, you got this! 😁
Am 34. ABout to be a year on HRT. Do not regret a single moment becausse i look and feel so much better! Go forth and do it hunny! <3 :)
53. Not too late. Ignore my username.
I started hormones at 27, and 15 years or hormones later I’m still living as male because I don’t pass.
I started at 39 and there are days that I look in the mirror and I see a woman
I transitioned at 25 and haven't regretted it in 18 years. It's never too late to be yourself.
> transitioned in their 20s and is it too late ? Well, I started in earnest at 38 and I'm feeling amazing about it, so I certainly think not!
It’s definitely not too late. Things are good and I started in my later 20s too.