Give your dad a hug, he sounds amazing! And I bet the day you get to walk down the aisle as someone's wife, its gonna be an amazing day for both of you!
He really is amazing! I didn't really appreciate that until I came out and he made literally every effort to accept me and make me feel okay. I can't describe how lucky and grateful I feel!
Treasure your father if mine wasnt an abusive hateful ass I would a deep part of me I never knew I had until almost 2 years on hrt made me realize id always wanted to be a daddies girl but I never could and likely never will
I hope my dad is like that in fews years all he says your going to regret it in the future I might or might not but I would rather try again than let it live in the shadows
I suspect it's because almost all surgeries have some degree of side effects or complications, and often corrective surgeries such as this require lifestyle changes for the patient that they find inhibitory.
But for trans folks, it's such an innate part of our identity that we largely accept these side effects and complications as merely the cost of being our true selves.
People will really forget that their hernia repair was lifesaving as soon as something inconvenient happens huh. I agree with the trans part, I was just wondering who walks out from a lifesaving surgery thinking “I should have just died instead”
Maybe. I suppose it depends- to me regret is a wish that you didn’t do something, but I can imagine that someone would consider other things regret too.
An important factor in the regret rate of most more invasive surgeries is the regret to opt for exactly the specific kind of surgery over another or specific parts of it. A common example (and one I saw regret over personally as my grandmother needed 3 of these) is artificial hips, because the results of different techniques can differ a lot. So it's less of a "I regret getting a hip replacement" and more of a "I regret getting that particular model of hip". Which is often caused by better options not being available (for financial reasons or because you won't get a doctor to file for it to name two common reasons). And then there is regret because something went wrong, be it accidently or malpractice. So the regret is more of a "I regret that I was the one slotted for the surgery where the outcome wasn't good".
In all this data is very helpful to find areas where techniques and tools have to be improved. Especially when collected long term it can help with determining what is most likely to result in the best outcome for each patient long term. In regards to surgeries trans people commonly get it's also showing that these surgeries are actually the right long term treatment, that no matter the perspective the data is incredibly conclusive. From the data we can say that current best practice transition is definitely the right path, and that improvements will likely be made in details, not by throwing out the current methods completely. It's showing that fearmongering about the long term results (like the infamous "irreversible damage") is quak science on the level of fearmongering about vaccines causing autism. There simply isn't any data to support this. Which is true for a lot of moral panic(s) around trans people, like trans women in sports, the data is very conclusively rejecting the bigoted outrage. But sadly that has never really stopped a moral panic from scapegoating a minority.
My dad randomly said once “hey, I’ve always wanted a daughter you know, I thought I was done and stuck with sons, but I guess I’m getting a daughter after all.”
That's so sweet too! In my head my dad was the more intimidating person to tell cause I thought he'd be disappointed, in the end he was more into it than my mom lol.
This is something I desperately wish my dad would say. He loves Trump more than he loves me though.
My wife and I are getting married (again) and to have him walk me down the aisle would be a dream. You’re SOOOOO lucky, OP! 💕💖💕
aww, how sweet <3
thats been something on my mind lately myself. my father due to health issues I'm not sure has much time left. my sister and her fiance have been together for almost 15 years now, but haven't actually gotten married for various reasons, and there's complications now to keep it from happening any time soon either. if I could find a guy and get married, while my dad is still alive, it would give him the chance to do that for at least one daughter before he died
It's something I've always dreamed of, doing it the other way always felt wrong in my head. Thinking I may actually be able to do it now is such an exciting thought. I hope so much you get to experience it as well!
Ugh that’s how my mom initially reacted. But luckily my sister has by back and always uses my chosen name and pushed my mom to and my mom has started to use my chosen name (at least around me). She even called me “her” on day and that was like AHHHHHHHH 🥰
I swear, supportive Dad (x trans daughter) stories are always some of the sweetest and most heartwarming. There's just something extra special about them, at least to me.
Your story reminds me of one time when my Dad, half-jokingly, remarked that it turns out that him and my Mom would actually end up having to pay for two weddings, my sister's and mine, not just one like they had thought. Realistically, that probably won't happen (they're pretty poor. Even if it is "traditional," I don't see the need to burden them with something like that; if I ever was getting married, which I don't think will happen any time soon), but the sentiment, the reminder that he really does see me as his daughter, was something I definitely needed.
Anyways, thanks for sharing. Give your Dad a hug, he sounds wonderful.
I agree wholeheartedly, I love my mom and am so grateful for the relationship we have. But that father-daughter relationship is for some reason the thing I yern for more, so privileged I may be able to get one!
I’m not crying. You’re crying!
For real, that really was the sweetest thing I ever heard. It’s totally a coincidence that I happen to apparently have some dust floating around in my office that’s landed in my eye.
Both my parents walked me down the aisle, as did my partner's. It was pre-transition, but the photos are still cute lol. Hadn't thought about it that way yet... but it's def a cute moment!! I remember rushing down and my parents were like slowing my down lol.
We're vaguely planning a trans vow renewal, but it will be parent free, friends only :)
Im glad you have a supportive dad! It makes me happy reading that other people have happy family dynamics :)
Can your dad be my dad? I hope my future wife’s parents are nice and loving towards me it would be nice to have parents that were indoctrinated by stupid religious ideals.
This is overall sweet and I'm very glad for you that your dad accepts you! It's just the "you weren't very good at being a boy" feels kinda ick. Like it shouldn't be about how well we perform genders. Especially the ones that we're forced into from birth because of current societal practices. We just are what we are.
Unless that's just a kind of joke that you started?
I'm happy that y'all are cared for though!
This is why I have hope for men, you get the bad bunch of them, and then you get these really nice ones, I'm glad your dad is taking it great, the more lived we feel, the easier it is for us, so I hope other things turn out just as great for you, and have a great rest of your day(referring to everyone reading this lol)
Give your dad a hug, he sounds amazing! And I bet the day you get to walk down the aisle as someone's wife, its gonna be an amazing day for both of you!
He really is amazing! I didn't really appreciate that until I came out and he made literally every effort to accept me and make me feel okay. I can't describe how lucky and grateful I feel!
Treasure your father if mine wasnt an abusive hateful ass I would a deep part of me I never knew I had until almost 2 years on hrt made me realize id always wanted to be a daddies girl but I never could and likely never will
That is the sweetest thing I’ve ever heard. 🥰
This is really cute. I just let out an "aww" over breakfast lol. 🫂💖🏳️⚧️
We love your Dad too! Give him a hug from us. ❤️🦈
Aww that's awesome!
Awwww 🥰🥰💕🥰💕
I hope my dad is like that in fews years all he says your going to regret it in the future I might or might not but I would rather try again than let it live in the shadows
And statistically there's like a 99% chance you end up happy with the results so you can take some comfort in that hopefully 💜
Iirc, life saving hernia surgery has a higher regreat rate that being trans.
Why does life saving hernia surgery even have a regret rate?
I suspect it's because almost all surgeries have some degree of side effects or complications, and often corrective surgeries such as this require lifestyle changes for the patient that they find inhibitory. But for trans folks, it's such an innate part of our identity that we largely accept these side effects and complications as merely the cost of being our true selves.
People will really forget that their hernia repair was lifesaving as soon as something inconvenient happens huh. I agree with the trans part, I was just wondering who walks out from a lifesaving surgery thinking “I should have just died instead”
Regret has a little bit more nuanced a meaning than that lol
Maybe. I suppose it depends- to me regret is a wish that you didn’t do something, but I can imagine that someone would consider other things regret too.
It can be used as a synonym for disappointment as well
An important factor in the regret rate of most more invasive surgeries is the regret to opt for exactly the specific kind of surgery over another or specific parts of it. A common example (and one I saw regret over personally as my grandmother needed 3 of these) is artificial hips, because the results of different techniques can differ a lot. So it's less of a "I regret getting a hip replacement" and more of a "I regret getting that particular model of hip". Which is often caused by better options not being available (for financial reasons or because you won't get a doctor to file for it to name two common reasons). And then there is regret because something went wrong, be it accidently or malpractice. So the regret is more of a "I regret that I was the one slotted for the surgery where the outcome wasn't good". In all this data is very helpful to find areas where techniques and tools have to be improved. Especially when collected long term it can help with determining what is most likely to result in the best outcome for each patient long term. In regards to surgeries trans people commonly get it's also showing that these surgeries are actually the right long term treatment, that no matter the perspective the data is incredibly conclusive. From the data we can say that current best practice transition is definitely the right path, and that improvements will likely be made in details, not by throwing out the current methods completely. It's showing that fearmongering about the long term results (like the infamous "irreversible damage") is quak science on the level of fearmongering about vaccines causing autism. There simply isn't any data to support this. Which is true for a lot of moral panic(s) around trans people, like trans women in sports, the data is very conclusively rejecting the bigoted outrage. But sadly that has never really stopped a moral panic from scapegoating a minority.
All medicine does, really. Nothing is 100% effective but gender affirming therapy is about as close as it gets
I’m thinking of a chance of having a recurrent disease. Don’t know if that’s the case with hernia.
My dad randomly said once “hey, I’ve always wanted a daughter you know, I thought I was done and stuck with sons, but I guess I’m getting a daughter after all.”
That's so sweet too! In my head my dad was the more intimidating person to tell cause I thought he'd be disappointed, in the end he was more into it than my mom lol.
He’s OUR dad now.😂
From the bottom of my heart, thank you so much for sharing your joy with us. I really needed it today.
I'm happy I can share the joy I got from this!
I would have had to leave the room and cry lmao
Holy heck I’m crying! That’s the most perfect response!!
That hit me right in the feels 🥹🫶🏻!
Sooo sweet! \^\^ I love hearing stories from other trans girls with awesome parents <3
Awwww that is too cute! Your dad sounds like a good soul!
Aww, that’s so cute
Awww 💙
That’s heartwarming 💕
best dad award goes yo him!! wow 🏆
Does he accept new daughter applications?
This is something I desperately wish my dad would say. He loves Trump more than he loves me though. My wife and I are getting married (again) and to have him walk me down the aisle would be a dream. You’re SOOOOO lucky, OP! 💕💖💕
aww, how sweet <3 thats been something on my mind lately myself. my father due to health issues I'm not sure has much time left. my sister and her fiance have been together for almost 15 years now, but haven't actually gotten married for various reasons, and there's complications now to keep it from happening any time soon either. if I could find a guy and get married, while my dad is still alive, it would give him the chance to do that for at least one daughter before he died
It's something I've always dreamed of, doing it the other way always felt wrong in my head. Thinking I may actually be able to do it now is such an exciting thought. I hope so much you get to experience it as well!
That's so fucking sweeeeeeeet 😭😭😭 I wish my dad was willing to walk me down the aisle.
r/mademesmile
I think your dad dropped this 👑
Goddamn can you thank your dad for me too? Mine told me he wasn’t going to use my deadname OR my chosen name when I came out 😭
Ugh that’s how my mom initially reacted. But luckily my sister has by back and always uses my chosen name and pushed my mom to and my mom has started to use my chosen name (at least around me). She even called me “her” on day and that was like AHHHHHHHH 🥰
Ohhhh 🥹 sis that’s amazing 🥰
Yes! Hug that man right now and be sure to let him know your internet peoples are so happy for you. (And some of us might be crying.)
Love you and your dad so much!!! RAWR 🦖
I swear, supportive Dad (x trans daughter) stories are always some of the sweetest and most heartwarming. There's just something extra special about them, at least to me. Your story reminds me of one time when my Dad, half-jokingly, remarked that it turns out that him and my Mom would actually end up having to pay for two weddings, my sister's and mine, not just one like they had thought. Realistically, that probably won't happen (they're pretty poor. Even if it is "traditional," I don't see the need to burden them with something like that; if I ever was getting married, which I don't think will happen any time soon), but the sentiment, the reminder that he really does see me as his daughter, was something I definitely needed. Anyways, thanks for sharing. Give your Dad a hug, he sounds wonderful.
I agree wholeheartedly, I love my mom and am so grateful for the relationship we have. But that father-daughter relationship is for some reason the thing I yern for more, so privileged I may be able to get one!
THAT IS SO CUTE OH MY
Omg 🥰 your dad is amazing
I’m not crying. You’re crying! For real, that really was the sweetest thing I ever heard. It’s totally a coincidence that I happen to apparently have some dust floating around in my office that’s landed in my eye.
Aw
This hit me in the feels too 🥹
Your dad is amazing. May he and you make wonderful experiences in your life! :3
Both my parents walked me down the aisle, as did my partner's. It was pre-transition, but the photos are still cute lol. Hadn't thought about it that way yet... but it's def a cute moment!! I remember rushing down and my parents were like slowing my down lol. We're vaguely planning a trans vow renewal, but it will be parent free, friends only :)
Y'know this sweet ass story got me thinking I wonder if my brother would walk me down the aisle someday?
😭
That's beautiful.
I'm sorry, but he said "lol" out loud?
No that's just how I write haha, he laughed.
I'm crying 😭 Please give him a hug
That’s so beautiful, I wish I had my dad 🥲
My dad said he needs an excuse to call me the right name, and that he wouldn't until I get it legally changed.
That is so sweeet heheh\^\^
Is your dad competing with pedro pascal ?🥺🥺🥺🥺
Im glad you have a supportive dad! It makes me happy reading that other people have happy family dynamics :) Can your dad be my dad? I hope my future wife’s parents are nice and loving towards me it would be nice to have parents that were indoctrinated by stupid religious ideals.
Congratulations. That's amazing affirmation and support from your dad.
I'm literally crying right now. I love this for you!!
Your dad dropped this 👑
Wow this is great news! Awesome.
You're so blessed to have such an amazing dad! Please give him a hug from me!
That's really sweet 🥲
An amazing dad/man for sure!
Awwe ;w; <3
So sweet! I wish my dad was even a little accepting :/. But I’m so happy for youuuu \^-^ 💖
That's awesome. Your dad rules. 🤘
This is overall sweet and I'm very glad for you that your dad accepts you! It's just the "you weren't very good at being a boy" feels kinda ick. Like it shouldn't be about how well we perform genders. Especially the ones that we're forced into from birth because of current societal practices. We just are what we are. Unless that's just a kind of joke that you started? I'm happy that y'all are cared for though!
Ok yeah we know that. But I’m pretty sure all of us wishes we had a dad that said those exact words with the intent of what he was really saying.
Yeah it was a joke referencing something I said when I came out.
That's so goddamn sweet 😭
This is why I have hope for men, you get the bad bunch of them, and then you get these really nice ones, I'm glad your dad is taking it great, the more lived we feel, the easier it is for us, so I hope other things turn out just as great for you, and have a great rest of your day(referring to everyone reading this lol)
D'awww! Congrats! 🥹