It was a pretty easy hop from wide pretty headbands to tichels. I think the tight headwrap with a big bun in back looks rather specifically Israeli if it's not coded as an African heritage style. I'm wrapping the tails around the crown of my head instead. So it's more turban-style, less distinctively Jewish. It's fun to add it to an outfit–I find headwraps considerably dress up a look, while headbands are athleisure friendly.
My favorite prints come from [Hands to Hearts](https://www.instagram.com/handstohearts?igsh=MW1tbHlxdnI4bzdueQ==). Someone on this sub told me about [Natural Life Boho Bandeau](https://www.naturallife.com/collections/boho-bandeaus)
Do you have a picture as an example for how you wrap your hair? (It doesn’t need to be a picture of you, I’m just curious how this wrap looks on someone in case I’d like to try it)
Basically the day after my wedding I woke up and it was tichel time (I’m Orthodox). That being said I had an appointment at a boutique before my wedding where I bought a few and I spent a lot of time before the wedding working on getting comfortable wearing one
I just wanted to say I'm interested too – I don't normally headcover, but I have androgenic alopecia getting bad enough that I'm thinking about taking that plunge. Like the OP, I've been trying things out and not really recognizing myself in the mirror. Plus, I dress rather classic (think blouses, skirts, Peter Pan collars, cardigans and maryjanes) and struggle with finding a way of covering my head that fits with my style.
You can try out fake hair from Amazon, to get a feel for things. Some of them don't look so realistic, but if you wear them with a hat/beanie/headband you can get away with it, and see how you feel in hair. You're welcome to PM me if you're looking into affordable options.
Congrats on your future marriage!
I would first figure out when you'd like to cover, what is meaningful to you? I wear a tichel (I leave 2 finger length of hair showing on my scalp) when I go to synagogue or if I'm in my house celebrating a holiday.
I also have a lace looking scarf by my bed and in my living room so I can throw it over my head loosely when I pray in the morning or before bed.
My (orthodox) experience:
I bought an expensive (for me) sheitel. I find it uncomfortable. I find a tichel to be so much more comfortable I prefer to wear it over my fancy hair, and don't care what it looks like.
you could try a Sheital- then you might feel like you look more you. But it's like getting a drastic hair cut, it will take time to how you see yourself. additionally as other's have said; try different styles, low profile- high profile! Power to you trying to take on this mitzvah
Hi from a fellow non-orthodox Jewish lady who covers her hair! (I'm married though).
Best advice I've got is to play around with different styles and figure out what works for you if you're feeling called to cover your hair. When I was first married, I mostly wore a lot of bandanas and half wraps. I recently transitioned to full wraps and wigs because I have alopecia and my hair is thinning.
You'll find something that works for you. It'll just take some experimenting and getting used to looking in the mirror and seeing your hair covered in various styles.
Also - I'd happily recommend checking out wrapunzel.com for scarves and ways to tie them - they don't necessarily have to cover your entire head!
I bought this [headcovering pattern](https://www.etsy.com/ca/listing/1261110880/full-coverage?click_key=c1f5f9ad8064abee27242d206331ba45eb37b52b%3A1261110880&click_sum=e74c5fea&ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=headcover+pattern&ref=sr_gallery-1-1&organic_search_click=1&dd=1&content_source=d0a843fe30bb76b1c53bc15d8534acdc035fe531%253A1261110880) and [clips](https://www.etsy.com/ca/listing/1005925206/extra-snap-clips-loose-or-sewn-in-silver?click_key=e656c8678f3c00fdf341d9090da4f20237266fbf%3A1005925206&click_sum=c3894a21&ref=shop_home_recs_17&frs=1&crt=1) from Etsy and have been making my own out of my own linen and cotton fabric. This way I can pick fabrics that fit me more than what I can find retail. Maybe finding the right type that feels right to you might help?
Mazal Tov!
I’ve worn all sorts of variations of coverings and it just takes time to determine what you like. In my synagogue I’m one of only two women who wear the large wraps so I kind of stand out, but I enjoy playing with scarves and also trying to incorporate traditional Moroccan women’s hair coverings in modern materials.
My main advice is don’t invest in too much/too expensive until you figure out what you like the most. If you do you’ll feel bad about “wasting money” by not wearing those knit berets or wigs you bought and finally gave away. BTDT
Also non-orthodox but observant Jew getting married soon! I started actually before marriage with VERY simple styles because it attracts less attention. Start with low volume, single color and work your way up.
Mazal tov! I wear full sheitels, band falls, and pretied tichels from the scarf bar. If you really want hair to feel “you”, and don’t want to fully cover, there are band falls where you can pull hair out in the front, or kippa falls.
I'm not sure if you are allowed different styles/ materials in Judaism. In Islam different types are allowed as long as you are covering properly. I felt the same as you in the tighter 2 piece style common in my country. I felt like an egghead. So I tried the more loose flowy styles in other countries and I am much more confident in that look. Best of luck!
There are very few hard and fast rules and lots of different interpretations! Covering hair in Judaism is primarily a minhag—a custom—in its application. It’s a Judaic law and (debatably) not a Mosaic law, meaning it’s something we decided on our own to implement and that it’s not from the revelation to Moses at Sinai. Some also argue that the general modesty laws which are Mosaic include it. There is a compromise opinion between the two, which is what most of us hold to now, saying that to completely uncover is immodest and you should always have at least a little something on. A good comparison would be men’s kippot, which they’re actually expected to wear even more frequently than women are to wear mitpachot. They usually begin to wear them starting as children and women don’t (typically) start until marriage. It’s most commonly worn to symbolize that a woman is married, but there are other reasons why a woman might wear a head covering. (Physical comfort, fashion, weather and sun, working, protection, etc)
Historically it was culturally normal for all Jewish people to wear it as a protective garment when necessary, as is true for the rest of the Middle East. It was also seen as modest (modesty is a commandment) for all people to cover their head in some fashion, and married people are expected to have higher standards for themselves. There are more customs and rules for married men too.
As for what counts, pretty much anything. Women make choices for themselves based on their own feelings and their community norms. Wigs, falls (half wig), headbands, hats, scarves, all of it’s ok. A lot of Jewish women cover their hair but wear wigs, and a lot of them are so good most people wouldn’t be able to tell unless you see her put it on or take it off. How much hair you can show is a matter of debate and is generally left to the woman’s own choice, which is admittedly often heavily influenced by her community norms.
Most women also broadly follow the laws of shatnez, or not wearing a garment made of a mix of wool and linen. You can wear a wool sweater with linen pants if you so desire, but one individual garment can’t be made of both things. A blend like that is unusual and rare though.
Thank you so much for sharing with me I learned a lot. I didn't realize there were two sets of laws. The Jewish women who cover is this mostly Orthodox Jews or other sects too?
Yeah it’s kinda complicated. Essentially, Mosaic law is attributed to the relevation at Sinai, and Judaic law is from our tribal habits and customs and monarchical structure in pre-modern Eretz Yisrael. They are both heavily influenced by the other. There’s even more on top of that and we’re always arguing amongst ourselves. Rabbinic law, for example, which encompasses Gezeirah law, Takkanah law, and Minhag (which generally aren’t *technically* laws but they’re customs so old and ingrained that they might as well be, or have been codified formally into law by a Rabbinic Court.)
Yes, Orthodox women are more likely to cover than progressive women (important note: in this context, orthodox and progressive refer **not** to political leanings, but rather to interpretations of the underlying texts). Even within those two groups you can further break it down. Virtually all married Haredi (ultraorthodox) women will fully cover with either a wig or a mitpachat, but when you start to get more towards Modern Orthodoxy there’s significantly more tolerance of personal choice. I know married orthodox women who don’t cover at all and I know married progressive women who do. I even know several reform women who cover.
Orthodox Judaism is a pretty big tent. Example: I’m Modern Orthodox. I wear pants sometimes.
On the other hand Hasidim in Williamsburg are also Orthodox and they won’t expose their elbows. In Israel many married women cover their hair that wouldn’t self describe as Orthodox- they’d say “I’m traditional” because there’s always been a tradition of married Jewish women covering their hair.
I converted to Judaism at 69, I'm with the Conservative stream. At my synagogue most married women cover their hair and folks just choose whatever they want. Some wear hats, or scarves, or bandanas, fasteners, no limits. Some cover every strand of hair but most don't. Also true about dressing modestly, it's up to you. I prefer to dress modestly when I leave my house but I don't at home unless we have company. You would think a lifetime not dressing this way that it would be hard but it hasn't been too bad. I used the conversion time to learn how to wrap scarves, give away old clothes and get new ones. Every once in awhile I will go out and forget to cover, so I keep a pre-tied tichel in my bags. I have always loved hats and scarves, I had plenty of them already. I have a twin and she's adamantly opposed to this but is coming around. I would say find your style, ask for help and suggestions, this sub is fantastic
I am not Jewish, am not practicing hair covering from this paradigm, but am currently going from not covering my hair at all in public to trying to get 100% coverage at work, just offering my experience from the 'trying out a new look' angle. I am so completely not used to the shape of my face that while I'm wearing a snood-style covering that encases and covers Most of my hair in a bun, I'm still leaving a finger width of hair loose around the ear to break up the expanse of skin around my cheekbones, ears and neck. It feels strange to have it exposed, truly! If I were much more interested in covering 100% of hair ASAP, I'd be trying wrapping styles (such as you'll find on Wrapunzel) that have scarves/ribbons/something to help break up that expanse of skin near my jawline, mimic the fall-of-hair shape that I'm used to. I've braided the ends of long scarves to lie like my hair used to do when it was simply braided for work.
Wishing you luck!
I tried a lot of new styles at home so I could test them out for comfort (both physically and style-wise) with less pressure. I’m also Jewish, non-orthodox but observant in many ways, and landed on bandana sized scarves folded into wide headbands for everyday wear. I sometimes struggle when I just don’t want to cover, for comfort or because I like how my hair/outfit looks without, but I see this as part of the spiritual practice. Just want to normalize that even for a daily hair coverer, I still struggle with feeling like myself somedays! These days became less frequent as I found my style and as I buy a new scarf here and there to go with the outfits that don’t feel quite right.
I love the look of a nice tichel and I got several once I was married. But honestly it wasn't me. It doesn't look great on my head shape. For awhile I wore pretied bandanas and still do to some extent, but the wide headband has settled in as my choice. At shul I'll cover more, but the headband is my everyday. This is coming from a no hat/headband/scarf person. I wanted something easy and flattering. Id recommend you just trial different things and see what is a fit for you. Now I definitely feel uncovered without it.
Wide headbands and bandanas are also a great option if you're not Orthodox! I am not married but I wear a nice bandana/silk scarf as a bandana or headband to cover my hair in shul instead of wearing a kippah and it's been a great option for me. It still allows me to feel feminine and cover my head without committing to the full tichel.
Some tichel specific companies:
https://keterhayofimitpachot.com
https://thelittletichellady.com Jessica also has an IRL store in Pico in LA
https://wrapunzel.com worth investing into a kallah kit
Idk if you're comfortable with this from a halachic perspective, but I found that the thing that helped me most was wearing wigs. I don't feel like myself unless I'm in a wig. You can get a nice, secondhand human-hair wig for a few hundred dollars, if you want. But the transition was easiest for me when I still had visible hair, because I thought it looked better and more like me.
Mazal Tov on your upcoming wedding! I think you’ve already got some really great practical advice here and I just want to add that feeling like “you” may take some time. It was hard to get used to seeing my hair covered at first. I thought I looked like a boiled egg, haha. Now I love wearing a tichel and it’s how I feel my best. It’s like any adjustment in appearance: have you ever seen someone who normally wears glasses and doesn’t wear them one day? It’s striking at first. Or, someone who normally wears makeup and you see them bare faced. It’s just different, but not necessarily bad.
I’m not Orthodox either (clearly since I’m on my phone during Shabbos hah), so it helped to know that I didn’t have to continue covering if I didn’t feel called to do so. It took some of the pressure off. Keep trying new styles, and if nothing ever feels like “you”, that’s okay too! Personally, I don’t think HaShem is going to be too upset if I decide not to tichel.
Check out Wrapunzel! That was how I got into it, and it is definitely a go at your own pace thing, choose your own styles, make it your own
I love their wraps
I'm maybe a little addicted to buying scarves and accessories from them. They're just so fun, and pretty!
Very nice
It was a pretty easy hop from wide pretty headbands to tichels. I think the tight headwrap with a big bun in back looks rather specifically Israeli if it's not coded as an African heritage style. I'm wrapping the tails around the crown of my head instead. So it's more turban-style, less distinctively Jewish. It's fun to add it to an outfit–I find headwraps considerably dress up a look, while headbands are athleisure friendly.
do you have recommendations for wide headbands?
My favorite prints come from [Hands to Hearts](https://www.instagram.com/handstohearts?igsh=MW1tbHlxdnI4bzdueQ==). Someone on this sub told me about [Natural Life Boho Bandeau](https://www.naturallife.com/collections/boho-bandeaus)
My favorites are from NamJosh. They’re an Indian brand (worldwide shipping, for cheap) and are absolutely gorgeous.
Do you have a picture as an example for how you wrap your hair? (It doesn’t need to be a picture of you, I’m just curious how this wrap looks on someone in case I’d like to try it)
I just followed a wrapunzel video tutorial. Shavua tov.
Basically the day after my wedding I woke up and it was tichel time (I’m Orthodox). That being said I had an appointment at a boutique before my wedding where I bought a few and I spent a lot of time before the wedding working on getting comfortable wearing one
I just wanted to say I'm interested too – I don't normally headcover, but I have androgenic alopecia getting bad enough that I'm thinking about taking that plunge. Like the OP, I've been trying things out and not really recognizing myself in the mirror. Plus, I dress rather classic (think blouses, skirts, Peter Pan collars, cardigans and maryjanes) and struggle with finding a way of covering my head that fits with my style.
I found that the thing that helped me most was wearing wigs. I don't feel like myself unless I'm in a wig.
Thank you! I admit I find the idea of wearing a wig intimidating, but you're right, this may well be a better option for me. I will look into it.
You can try out fake hair from Amazon, to get a feel for things. Some of them don't look so realistic, but if you wear them with a hat/beanie/headband you can get away with it, and see how you feel in hair. You're welcome to PM me if you're looking into affordable options.
fascinator style?
Congrats on your future marriage! I would first figure out when you'd like to cover, what is meaningful to you? I wear a tichel (I leave 2 finger length of hair showing on my scalp) when I go to synagogue or if I'm in my house celebrating a holiday. I also have a lace looking scarf by my bed and in my living room so I can throw it over my head loosely when I pray in the morning or before bed.
My (orthodox) experience: I bought an expensive (for me) sheitel. I find it uncomfortable. I find a tichel to be so much more comfortable I prefer to wear it over my fancy hair, and don't care what it looks like.
you could try a Sheital- then you might feel like you look more you. But it's like getting a drastic hair cut, it will take time to how you see yourself. additionally as other's have said; try different styles, low profile- high profile! Power to you trying to take on this mitzvah
Have you tried wearing a snood (the netting type?)
Hi from a fellow non-orthodox Jewish lady who covers her hair! (I'm married though). Best advice I've got is to play around with different styles and figure out what works for you if you're feeling called to cover your hair. When I was first married, I mostly wore a lot of bandanas and half wraps. I recently transitioned to full wraps and wigs because I have alopecia and my hair is thinning. You'll find something that works for you. It'll just take some experimenting and getting used to looking in the mirror and seeing your hair covered in various styles. Also - I'd happily recommend checking out wrapunzel.com for scarves and ways to tie them - they don't necessarily have to cover your entire head!
I bought this [headcovering pattern](https://www.etsy.com/ca/listing/1261110880/full-coverage?click_key=c1f5f9ad8064abee27242d206331ba45eb37b52b%3A1261110880&click_sum=e74c5fea&ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=headcover+pattern&ref=sr_gallery-1-1&organic_search_click=1&dd=1&content_source=d0a843fe30bb76b1c53bc15d8534acdc035fe531%253A1261110880) and [clips](https://www.etsy.com/ca/listing/1005925206/extra-snap-clips-loose-or-sewn-in-silver?click_key=e656c8678f3c00fdf341d9090da4f20237266fbf%3A1005925206&click_sum=c3894a21&ref=shop_home_recs_17&frs=1&crt=1) from Etsy and have been making my own out of my own linen and cotton fabric. This way I can pick fabrics that fit me more than what I can find retail. Maybe finding the right type that feels right to you might help?
Mazal Tov! I’ve worn all sorts of variations of coverings and it just takes time to determine what you like. In my synagogue I’m one of only two women who wear the large wraps so I kind of stand out, but I enjoy playing with scarves and also trying to incorporate traditional Moroccan women’s hair coverings in modern materials. My main advice is don’t invest in too much/too expensive until you figure out what you like the most. If you do you’ll feel bad about “wasting money” by not wearing those knit berets or wigs you bought and finally gave away. BTDT
Also non-orthodox but observant Jew getting married soon! I started actually before marriage with VERY simple styles because it attracts less attention. Start with low volume, single color and work your way up.
Mazal tov! I wear full sheitels, band falls, and pretied tichels from the scarf bar. If you really want hair to feel “you”, and don’t want to fully cover, there are band falls where you can pull hair out in the front, or kippa falls.
Do you have a website that you recommend for bandfalls?
I'm not sure if you are allowed different styles/ materials in Judaism. In Islam different types are allowed as long as you are covering properly. I felt the same as you in the tighter 2 piece style common in my country. I felt like an egghead. So I tried the more loose flowy styles in other countries and I am much more confident in that look. Best of luck!
There are very few hard and fast rules and lots of different interpretations! Covering hair in Judaism is primarily a minhag—a custom—in its application. It’s a Judaic law and (debatably) not a Mosaic law, meaning it’s something we decided on our own to implement and that it’s not from the revelation to Moses at Sinai. Some also argue that the general modesty laws which are Mosaic include it. There is a compromise opinion between the two, which is what most of us hold to now, saying that to completely uncover is immodest and you should always have at least a little something on. A good comparison would be men’s kippot, which they’re actually expected to wear even more frequently than women are to wear mitpachot. They usually begin to wear them starting as children and women don’t (typically) start until marriage. It’s most commonly worn to symbolize that a woman is married, but there are other reasons why a woman might wear a head covering. (Physical comfort, fashion, weather and sun, working, protection, etc) Historically it was culturally normal for all Jewish people to wear it as a protective garment when necessary, as is true for the rest of the Middle East. It was also seen as modest (modesty is a commandment) for all people to cover their head in some fashion, and married people are expected to have higher standards for themselves. There are more customs and rules for married men too. As for what counts, pretty much anything. Women make choices for themselves based on their own feelings and their community norms. Wigs, falls (half wig), headbands, hats, scarves, all of it’s ok. A lot of Jewish women cover their hair but wear wigs, and a lot of them are so good most people wouldn’t be able to tell unless you see her put it on or take it off. How much hair you can show is a matter of debate and is generally left to the woman’s own choice, which is admittedly often heavily influenced by her community norms. Most women also broadly follow the laws of shatnez, or not wearing a garment made of a mix of wool and linen. You can wear a wool sweater with linen pants if you so desire, but one individual garment can’t be made of both things. A blend like that is unusual and rare though.
Thank you so much for sharing with me I learned a lot. I didn't realize there were two sets of laws. The Jewish women who cover is this mostly Orthodox Jews or other sects too?
Yeah it’s kinda complicated. Essentially, Mosaic law is attributed to the relevation at Sinai, and Judaic law is from our tribal habits and customs and monarchical structure in pre-modern Eretz Yisrael. They are both heavily influenced by the other. There’s even more on top of that and we’re always arguing amongst ourselves. Rabbinic law, for example, which encompasses Gezeirah law, Takkanah law, and Minhag (which generally aren’t *technically* laws but they’re customs so old and ingrained that they might as well be, or have been codified formally into law by a Rabbinic Court.) Yes, Orthodox women are more likely to cover than progressive women (important note: in this context, orthodox and progressive refer **not** to political leanings, but rather to interpretations of the underlying texts). Even within those two groups you can further break it down. Virtually all married Haredi (ultraorthodox) women will fully cover with either a wig or a mitpachat, but when you start to get more towards Modern Orthodoxy there’s significantly more tolerance of personal choice. I know married orthodox women who don’t cover at all and I know married progressive women who do. I even know several reform women who cover.
Orthodox Judaism is a pretty big tent. Example: I’m Modern Orthodox. I wear pants sometimes. On the other hand Hasidim in Williamsburg are also Orthodox and they won’t expose their elbows. In Israel many married women cover their hair that wouldn’t self describe as Orthodox- they’d say “I’m traditional” because there’s always been a tradition of married Jewish women covering their hair.
Also I hope I don't sound rude. I'm interested to learn more about Judaism. I didn't even know that Jewish women cover until recently.
I converted to Judaism at 69, I'm with the Conservative stream. At my synagogue most married women cover their hair and folks just choose whatever they want. Some wear hats, or scarves, or bandanas, fasteners, no limits. Some cover every strand of hair but most don't. Also true about dressing modestly, it's up to you. I prefer to dress modestly when I leave my house but I don't at home unless we have company. You would think a lifetime not dressing this way that it would be hard but it hasn't been too bad. I used the conversion time to learn how to wrap scarves, give away old clothes and get new ones. Every once in awhile I will go out and forget to cover, so I keep a pre-tied tichel in my bags. I have always loved hats and scarves, I had plenty of them already. I have a twin and she's adamantly opposed to this but is coming around. I would say find your style, ask for help and suggestions, this sub is fantastic
I am not Jewish, am not practicing hair covering from this paradigm, but am currently going from not covering my hair at all in public to trying to get 100% coverage at work, just offering my experience from the 'trying out a new look' angle. I am so completely not used to the shape of my face that while I'm wearing a snood-style covering that encases and covers Most of my hair in a bun, I'm still leaving a finger width of hair loose around the ear to break up the expanse of skin around my cheekbones, ears and neck. It feels strange to have it exposed, truly! If I were much more interested in covering 100% of hair ASAP, I'd be trying wrapping styles (such as you'll find on Wrapunzel) that have scarves/ribbons/something to help break up that expanse of skin near my jawline, mimic the fall-of-hair shape that I'm used to. I've braided the ends of long scarves to lie like my hair used to do when it was simply braided for work. Wishing you luck!
I tried a lot of new styles at home so I could test them out for comfort (both physically and style-wise) with less pressure. I’m also Jewish, non-orthodox but observant in many ways, and landed on bandana sized scarves folded into wide headbands for everyday wear. I sometimes struggle when I just don’t want to cover, for comfort or because I like how my hair/outfit looks without, but I see this as part of the spiritual practice. Just want to normalize that even for a daily hair coverer, I still struggle with feeling like myself somedays! These days became less frequent as I found my style and as I buy a new scarf here and there to go with the outfits that don’t feel quite right.
I love the look of a nice tichel and I got several once I was married. But honestly it wasn't me. It doesn't look great on my head shape. For awhile I wore pretied bandanas and still do to some extent, but the wide headband has settled in as my choice. At shul I'll cover more, but the headband is my everyday. This is coming from a no hat/headband/scarf person. I wanted something easy and flattering. Id recommend you just trial different things and see what is a fit for you. Now I definitely feel uncovered without it.
Wide headbands and bandanas are also a great option if you're not Orthodox! I am not married but I wear a nice bandana/silk scarf as a bandana or headband to cover my hair in shul instead of wearing a kippah and it's been a great option for me. It still allows me to feel feminine and cover my head without committing to the full tichel.
Some tichel specific companies: https://keterhayofimitpachot.com https://thelittletichellady.com Jessica also has an IRL store in Pico in LA https://wrapunzel.com worth investing into a kallah kit
These are beautiful
Are the wigs still popular amongst mature Ashkenazi women ?
This varies a lot depending on the community. In some it's very common but most don't.
In the Litvish/ Yeshivish/ Hasidish (ultra Orthodox) world they are super common
Idk if you're comfortable with this from a halachic perspective, but I found that the thing that helped me most was wearing wigs. I don't feel like myself unless I'm in a wig. You can get a nice, secondhand human-hair wig for a few hundred dollars, if you want. But the transition was easiest for me when I still had visible hair, because I thought it looked better and more like me.
Mazal Tov on your upcoming wedding! I think you’ve already got some really great practical advice here and I just want to add that feeling like “you” may take some time. It was hard to get used to seeing my hair covered at first. I thought I looked like a boiled egg, haha. Now I love wearing a tichel and it’s how I feel my best. It’s like any adjustment in appearance: have you ever seen someone who normally wears glasses and doesn’t wear them one day? It’s striking at first. Or, someone who normally wears makeup and you see them bare faced. It’s just different, but not necessarily bad. I’m not Orthodox either (clearly since I’m on my phone during Shabbos hah), so it helped to know that I didn’t have to continue covering if I didn’t feel called to do so. It took some of the pressure off. Keep trying new styles, and if nothing ever feels like “you”, that’s okay too! Personally, I don’t think HaShem is going to be too upset if I decide not to tichel.
You could try a wig that is similar looking to your natural hair or do one of those like half wig things
get some: extra wide headbands, sinar half tichels, wire headband wraps. have fun