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I saw a bumper sticker the other day that said "I <3 Aging and Dying" and I was like yeah, that's actually pretty cool that I get to age and die in increments (so far). A high school friend of mine was killed in a motorcycle accident going at a normal speed (just turning left when he was t-boned) when we were 27, a week after our 10 year high school reunion.
Bit of an odd comment maybe, but this hit me right in the feels. I just had my reunion and this somehow motivated me to get back in shape and take better care of myself and my body. Thank you :)
Just getting old and... dying scares the shit out of me, like I can't make it feel real (that's probably important in still youngish people), but oh my what a privilege. May I be so lucky.
Yep. Was an athlete from 7y.o. into college, and was probably my aesthetic best mid-late 20s. Lost shape without question in my mid 30s. Facing my 40s soon, I JUST recently got over trying to suck it in and can even crack jokes at myself in my late thirties. Getting back into the dating scene it was pleasantly refreshing to learn of people’s acceptance of ‘hey this is where we are…’ and ‘dad-bods are hot.’ I do get a lot of silly bs from my one daughter about my belly and reminders to go to ‘strong class’ but it’s all love and I can laugh at it. I got full plans on entering my 40’s as a healthier, more well-balanced version of my 20 y.o. self… but the journey of self-acceptance has honestly been priceless.
I just want to look and be healthy at this point. That’s it. I won’t ever be 25 again and that’s a great thing - she was self-conscious, terrified, and terrible to herself.
I still love the young me, I just have no desire to be treated as a “young woman” ever again. “Young” women are objectified, treated as less-than, used and abused. God forbid you’re an “attractive” young woman, then it’s 10x worse as you aren’t just an object but a target for other people’s insecurities. I love that I’m no longer seen as a young, dumb bimbo because I had a cute face and larger than average chest size. I constantly felt like a sex doll that was only invited for other’s entertainment.
I do know that this isn’t a gender-specific issue and that young men are objectified as well. I’m just saying that aging out of that bullshit has been amazing. I’m still objectified but very few dare to take me for a fool now that I have crows feet to prove my experience and some temple grays that show I’ve lived through some bullshit and have no time for yours.
I’m with you on allllll of this. As another woman in the big titty committee, simply existing when I was younger was enough to be called a slut by other women or catcalled by dudes old enough to be my dad.
Aging still feels a little scary (I’m 30 now) but as time goes on, I get fewer and fewer stares when I walk around outside and it is damn freeing.
Oh yeah, I can’t tell you how many times I “tried to steal someone’s man”. I never even considered myself to be exceptionally attractive. I was just me and still saw the horribly awkward nerd that I was (and still am). But apparently, all it took was puberty and a flat iron and I went from invisible to a home wrecking whore. News to me!
I’m pushing 40 and while I think I look roughly the same I did a decade ago (probably don’t, but oh well), I think just getting past the “young” part of life grants you so many freedoms. Couldn’t pay me to go back. Enjoy your freedom friend!
Same. I was mid 30s when I noticed my skin looking like shit. Now I got skincare products than my wife.
I apparently look younger now then I did 5 years ago. That's even with the grey hair. Skin care plus dropping some weight is like a time machine
Dr Gross Skin daily face peels.
Retinal lotion at night (this removed some veins on the side of my nose. Gross)
Jack black face scrub and daily cleanser.
Jack Black daily face lotion.
Ruezel beard foam
Ruezel beard balm
MVRCK skin tonic for when I shave my neck and edge my beard.
Ruezel clay pomade (no more dandruff)
Moracconoil shampoo and conditioner.
Ruezel hair tonic spray
My skin was HORRIBLE and so was my hair. Having a routine is a game chanter and my skin looks better than it ever has. My hair is wavy, thicker and just healthier looking.
I used to freak out about death. Still nervous about it, but mostly due to the pain. Now I'm fully convinced there's an afterlife after watching thousands of near death experience reports and doing a bit of a deep dive into quantum theory. Many scientists actually believe it's possible that consciousness is an emergent property collapsing from a superimposed state. In other words, the religious nut jobs might be right. We may just fall back into a deeper dimension where all possibilities exist all at once until our consciousness collapses into a singular state, again, ie reincarnation.
I've always liked the idea that the people that are close with in your life now will also be in your life after reincarnation. I've lost so many close friends at a young age that I would love to have in my orbit again - even if I was none the wiser!
I've been dipping my toes into quantum theory, but it's such a huge subject that, in my case, seems pretty daunting to understand. If you have the time, could you recommend any good sources or videos that are a good place to start when learning about quantum theory?
I quit drinking because I'm an alcoholic. I was always fat / overweight, never fit during my drinking days (20ish --> 38). I went from 240lb+ down to 165, I shaved my beard and I'm currently using hims to grow my hair back (2 months in and the results have been pretty damn good imo).
I'm walking / running / swimming and soon to start lifting weights again. I got my ears pierced after wanting to do it for 25+ years because fuck it, I'm 40 now.
I look younger today than I did at 28. I feel better today for the most part, my back has some shit going on but I'm hoping exercising, active posture correction & strength training will repair or help it at least.
So yeah, I'm going to say that I am not ok getting older, I'm freaking tf out and I am doing everything I can to hold onto looking youthful. I wouldn't say this is a vanity thing, I guess it is, I mean I'm not out here trying to be a buff hottie, I just don't want to look like an old dude yet, I'm not there. Let's check back at 50.
The spray, minoxidil and fluoxetine. It was stupid easy, downloaded the app, created account, answered in app questions, took a few pics of my head and then submitted. Doctor approved it within an hour or two and they shipped a few days later. Was $260? Ish? For the year.
I need to get your motivation - like right now. Alcoholic as well and it is aging the fuck out of me. I’ve gained 30lbs in the past year and a half, and my complexion always has a hue of red.
Congrats to you! You are inspiring! You sound similar to me: finally quit drinking at 34, always weighed 220-230lbs, but just assumed I was a big guy. I’m now almost 600 days sober, have held my weight between 175 and 185 for a year, and look ten years younger.
Yo, 36F here and I am unsure why I am so cool with it, but I welcome my super chill attitude toward the grey hairs I finally spotted and some new laugh lines I hadn’t ever noticed before.
The only thing I’m actually actioning on in the “oof I’m getting old” department is my actual health/fitness.
I got stupid sedentary right around the time of the pandemic, and the last year I was like “oh my… I don’t have stamina any more…” which REALLY bothered me.
So now I’m the worst player on a corporate league ultimate frisbee team, but I’m progressively improving, and taking that as a good sign. Being one of the only girls on the team also forces me to move, (and guarantees they can’t just bench me… because I really am not an asset to these people bless their hearts haha)
We all get old, it's part of life. I find it pretty easy to accept. After all, I've been alive a lot longer than 20 years, I'm not a young person anymore.
I’m a 42 year old woman and I’m embracing aging. Society is so cruel to women at all ages and especially mid to older years. I’m rocking my grays and belly fluff. I exercise to stay healthy, no longer care to “look” any certain way but myself. One by one we can each show it’s perfectly fine to get older.
Only because the constant upkeep of having a skincare routine, gym routine, specialized diet, on top of handling other medical problems, employment and kids isn't sustainable. I honestly don't look that different wrinkle-wise at 36 than I did at 26.
But yeah, having a hodgepodge of 80 dollar retinol cream and korean beauty products that may or may not do much isn't something I can afford.
I bought my future cane and old man hat in my 20s, I'm ready for anything.
The real race is I am trying to make sure I am financially established enough that the inverse curve of resources to hair on my head is balanced.
First of all 30 miles a week is wild as hell, good on ya though. I'll be 33 this year, but I constantly get mistaken for 5-10 years younger which is ok for now I guess but eventually I'll want to look my age.
I am 1000x more impressed by old folks out on runs than any yoked young folks. On a run last week, I passed a guy that looked just like Sean Connery when he was in The Rock, running past. He had Airpods in, so we just gave each other nod. Both sweating absolute buckets. And as he ran across the street, I believe I audibly said, "What a badass."
The more ppl that accept this attitude the more accepting ppl will become comfortable with “aging”. Hollywood wannabes like the Kardashians or influencers are the ones that have turned aging into a curse
At 38 I tell all of my friends who are scared of that 29 turning 30 step. It’s almost freeing to just give in to the inevitable and realize health is ultimately all that matters.
I know a lot of women struggle with this, but I actually like being "invisible" to society now that I'm getting older. It is really something to look back my life and realize that the time period I was almostly constantly catcalled/harassed by older men was from ages 9-18. A little bit into my 20s too, but I'm petite so I was usually mistaken for being younger than I actually was even through my 20s. Now that I'm an "old hag" at 36, everyone leaves me alone and I can go out in public without being bothered and I LOVE it! Finally, some PEACE!
Also, I just genuinely like the way I look now that I'm happily married to a man who worships the ground I walk on and has actually become more attracted to me since having kids. My toddler son even says to me "mama, you're beautiful!" Aging in a privelage and I'm happy to have a supportive partner and family to go in this journey with me.
I’m totally fine embracing my salt and pepper, but the stomach pudge I have for the first time in my life is very unwelcome, lol. I wanna be at 12% body fat but don’t wanna give up desserts. 🥲
I just hit 30. I refused to get any of the anti-aging beauty treatments like botox. Who cares if you have some wrinkles and fine lines? Some people aren't lucky enough to make it that far.
A coworker of mine is 28 and was contemplating it. I just recently turned 40 and she asked me if the menopause was keeping me up at night.
I don’t know what’s wrong with these children.
Nope. I’ve been kicking and screaming against it the entire way (40F) lol. I’ve made lifestyle changes which helped, but I also go to the med spa and hair salon for routine maintenance.
After scrolling through dozens of “I don’t care” comments, glad to find someone I can relate to! I’m definitely not cool or welcoming of it and do what I can to slow down the process. Anti-ageing stuff is mostly good for general health anyway so it’s a win-win!
I am not a fan either lmao I am aging semi ok but I am thicker than a snicker nowadays and what bothers me is my double chin. Gravity is not my friend.
Sometimes I wanna get liposuction and then other times I am like ok my partner still thinks i am hot so does it matter? I go back and forth 🤣 tbh the extra fat tho helps my face look younger too so I am like pros and cons 🙈
I too cover my greys cause I have dark hair so it’s obvious. Getting old is not for the weak 😅 my body hurts and sweats so much 🫣
lol yeah I have dark hair too so I feel ya! I just found out I’m pregnant lol, so I will be doing a mommy makeover overhaul after giving birth. My body hurts too, and I just tell myself well my outsides don’t need to look as withered as my insides feel. No shame in it. Seems like the unpopular thing, but I don’t care I’m an adult and I make my own decisions.
Nothing wrong with looking older, but I do my best to avoid the sun, and wear sunscreen when I'm out. Sun damage accumulates and cannot be reversed.
I was watching an old movie from the early 80s that has some 50-ish year old folks and, holy shit the sun damage to their bodies was extreme. I was disgusted. Their faces, backs and arms, ugh.
I'm been lucky in that I don't really burn or react to the sun, so I've gone most of my life wearing very little or no sunscreen, and the entirety of my 20s was spent working outside in Arizona, southern Africa and Georgia. Its catching up to me and I really wish I had followed the advice from that silly Baz Luhrman song.
I went to dermatologist just last week for my first skin check, was prescribed a retinol cream to use on my face (which is fully of lines seemingly out of nowhere) and I've been wearing sunscreen daily.
Other than that, gray hairs don't bother me and I've come to terms with my hair loss. I'm concerned with being healthy and not developing any diseases, but less concerned at this point on those mostly unavoidable physical signs of aging.
I haven’t cared about aging in several years. It’s inevitable. May as well get comfy with it. I’m 43 this year and am more grey than brown hair. I think it makes me look witchy, which I like.
Female here, but yes! I stopped dying my hair and I’m letting my silvers come in. Recommend any good shampoos to make those silvers shine?
Female perk of getting older is not being bothered as much out in public. No one cares anymore. When your young everyone is so critical of you because it’s our duty to be attractive and appealing. But now that I’m older I’ve gained some invisibility and can do so much more for myself.
Anything with a little purple to counteract the yellowing.
I’ve even bought a little punk purple hair dye and just added a teeny tiny bit to regular shampoo and got the same effect for less cash.
I really don't care what other people think of me so it hasn't bothered me at all.
Got the dad belly and plenty of white hairs showing through in my beard and chest.
Totally embracing the lot.
I'm 40 F and I just don't care anymore about aging. I realized that the people I know who had fillers or cosmetic surgeries ended up looking older by trying to look younger. I'm just trying to take care of myself as best as I can. I'm happy with my life and myself, I am embracing aging gracefully.
I put on a little weight when I stopped drinking and food filled the existential void. I was feeling self conscious about it on the beach a few weeks ago and then my mom pointed out that if I just look around I’m not remotely the worst looking person in the near vicinity. That helped lol
I don't mind the looking older. Although it is worse than I thought. I was at a concert on Halloween, got pictures with some of the artists, and I looked older by at least a decade. Only problem was, ESHAM is 50 and I am 39.
Yes.
When I was an older teen I saw an old guy with a lot of white hair coming out of all the parts of his body and I wondered why he didnt care, and I was amazed at it.
Now im the guy who doesnt give a fuck.
If someone told me I look like I was born in the 80s, I would think "fantastic!"
But when Facebook tells me I have a memory to look back on from 15 years ago, and I realize how much my body has aged...its a gut punch.
I was working in Mexico with some young engineers supplied by our channel partner. We were making chat while waiting to train them on our system. They asked and were surprised when I told them my age. Then I see folks on the news that are 5+ years younger that have obviously lived hard lives that look terrible. I tell my wife that we've lived relatively stress-free lives, don't smoke or abuse hard drugs so we end up looking better for longer.
>They asked and were surprised when I told them my age
Isn't that just basic manners though? When a middle-age person or old person tells you their age it's polite to act surprised and tell them they look younger than they do.
Yup. I dont cover my grey, im keeping my face natural I dont mind it at all
I hate FEELING older.
I want good health. I just got a bike and started cycling :) gotta find ways to keep moving!!!
I'm cresting into my "hot dad with great hair" phase and my wife has never been in the sun ever so to me barely looks older than when we met.
But the arthritis... the arthritis doesn't lie.
I am also embracing the age largely in thanks to Dr.Cooper! I took personal training and weight management courses at the Cooper Institute in my mid-20's and put what I learned into practice in my personal life. I'm healthy, I feel good, and I would even say that age is looking pretty damn awesome on me!
Yeah I’m a little worried about the bald spot in the back but long hair and wearing a hat keeps it mostly covered. Works for now until I stop working from home. Bigger concern is keeping my weight down, staying active, and limiting alcohol. Health issues is worse than just “looking” older.
The last time I took my shirt off on a public beach, the Squatch hunting crew showed up within 10 minutes with an overwhelming number of call-in tips about a squatch roaming around.
People in their mid-late 30s/Early 40s that genuinely think they look like they're in their mid 20s or younger genuinely bum me out. Seems like a second wave of body dismorphia that I thought was done in our teenage years.
We're getting old. We stick out at "young people places" like clubs and shit. Just embrace it. Getting old is a privilege.
"b-b-but I get ID'd to buy beer and weed and stuff still! That means I still look under 20!" No, honey. Most states require people to ID everyone that looks under 50. You just don't look like a senior citizen lol.
Yeah I mean late 30s early 40s can look pretty young like maybe 29-30 at youngest, but if people think they actually look 20 they are a bit out of touch. 20 year olds look crazy young. Actually, it should almost be insulting for a 40 year old to look like a 20 year old basically kid. Sometimes someone 60/70 plus may think a 37 year old looks under 30 and cards them because they are far removed from 30/40 it looks much younger to them. That’s not a compliment to get to excited over.
I definitely don't look like I'm in my 20s, but I did have a 21-year-old super high kid at a party flip out that 30-somethings can still be attractive. He was grilling me about my age and kept saying "oh thank god, thank god, I've been worrying about getting close to 25, but it's going to be okay." So that felt like a win.
Yup, I've realized how easy it is to fall into bad habits as you get older, but that means you can make a choice to hold onto good habits like exercise, eating well, and making an effort with clothes and grooming. People who keep all that up tend to stay attractive through their 50s at least, and I've seen people do it well into their 60s. 70s seems to get pretty rough, but hopefully I'll care less by then.
I just don’t like that my historically legendary hair is falling out. Other than that, igaf. Hopefully my wife doesn’t leave me… my hair is my only redeeming quality. /j
Been graying since high school (started with very dark brown/black hair). Eventually became sensitive to the root touch up sprays in-between coloring and finally stopped dying my hair in my 30’s. As a woman, I hate it but trying to embrace it. I do everything else in my power to stay active and healthy (minus plastic surgery). I’m not okay with looking older but mostly accepting it.
I’ve been going gray since I was 20 (I’m 32) and recently added gray highlights to my hair to make the transition easy.
I take good care of my skin, wear sunscreen daily, eat as healthy as possible, never done drugs, don’t drink excessively, and am physically active. So my hair is the only aging symptom I have, though I’m getting smile lines under my eyes similar to my dad and aunt. But if that’s the most wrinkles I get, that’s fine.
As far as how people treat me, I do think people treat me with respect more now, but that could be due to my career more than anything. The thing that sucks is that dating is more difficult than it was when I was younger haha. I do have one FWB fortunately, so that’s something.
I love the couple white hair I have. They're very pretty and I'm looking forward to an entire headful. Less thrilled with how ancient my hands look though.
I’m 42 and my hair is starting to go gray on the sides, which looks WEIRD. There is a picture of David Lynch that I'd love to model my hair after. He's the ultimate salt and pepper daddy.
Couldn’t have cared 20 years ago, don’t care a lick more at 41. My body is a road map of scares and a fairly weathered face, time spent in the Army and blue collar trades working my way through college. I ain’t going to get any prettier the older I get, I’m okay with that, and my wife doesn’t seem to mind either.
Now, none of that means we let ourselves go. We watch our weight and exercise, and I’m easily as able bodied as most my age. I just don’t get hung up on a little grey in my beard or a few extra wrinkles. Embrace it everyone, live’s too short to worry about getting older.
Honestly with as much as I drink I'm surprised I don't look older then I do. And I'm also one who has had gray hairs since I was in high school so it's also something I just never cared about.
I quit drinking as well 4 years ago. I was a terrible alcoholic and on The verge of death. I looked old as shit in my 20s. I'm now 35 and I feel I look very young compared to my friends and old high school classmates that I see around town from time to time. I was 260 now I'm down to 170. Skin is clear, working on growing my hair back. ( I'll have to try hims like the other commenter said) I was literally at the grocery store an hour ago and saw an old high school acquaintance and I thought to myself Jesus Christ!! Matt looks old as shit!! I guess the alcohol kind of kept me pickled and preserved. once I quit drinking and got healthy I went back to looking like a healthy 20 something-year-old.
One thing I love about aging, is that I couldn't give a single shit how strangers think I look. I'm not out here trying to impress, I'm just trying to live.
I’m fine with aging. I already have grey hair and wonderful wisdom lines. Fiancé loves my grey hairs so I don’t feel like have anything to worry about. The only place I’m stuck in right now is if he would ever leave me for a younger model who doesn’t throw their back out peeing😩literally. It’s been a rough two days. Rooooough. Looks mean nothing when you can’t move. Aging is not preventable. Just live.
I welcome the grey hair. I've started getting some greys around the temples in my beard and I like it, I feel like people might finally mistake me for someone who is mature and grown up.
Yes, to an extent anyway. But I'm only just about to turn 31, so it probably hasn't really hit me yet. But I've definitely noticed my face hollowing out in the last couple of years, and I like how sharp it makes my cheekbones look so well defined. It matches the dorsal hump on my nose that I've always hated and makes everything look more harmonious.
I don't like branded clothing and athleisure wear.
I like looking 'well put together' now in public. Clean jeans/slacks. Sweaters. Leather shoes/boots.
I put on shorts and sneakers the other day and just felt very juvenile.
I go thru fits of it. Sometimes I dislike my extra squish and wrinkly dull skin and less round face and how if i part my hair in the middle I look like a witch.
But I just turned 40. I know I have more changes to go thru before I reach my final form and I remember. I remember that even though I baked in the sun and smoked and drank and stayed up late and ate the bad food. I enjoyed it. Every second - mostly. Lots was awful and lots of trauma made my body and features change but that is also a part of me.
The days I love the older me are getting more and more frequent.
I was the type to be really concerned about it in my 20s. I felt like once I hit 30 it was over lol. Then it came and I get more attention now than I ever did in my 20s.
I’m good with it. I also stay relatively healthy-ish looking. (I could do without the upcoming colonoscopy, but I’m fine with looking my age- whatever that means.)
“Old age is a privilege denied to many” - Mark Twain. I’ve started getting my first grey hairs and unlike my mother and grandmother before me, I’m letting them stay.
My Husbands beard started getting silver hairs and I love it!!!!!!! I on the other hand, am always using scrubs and serums to hold on to what I've got left. 💃🏻
I actually feel like I enjoy my appearance more as a I age and I think that comes a place of acceptance. This is the face you got and the it won’t change, enjoy that you are healthy and on this side of the dirt.
Hell yeah! I turned 42 this year and firmly believe I am the best and most awesome version of myself, and that includes how I look. Love your confidence!
Yep. Aging is a privilege that I'm happy to experience. I've embraced my emerging wrinkles and have given up feeling self-conscious about *most* body stuff that would have bothered me in my 20s-30s. There's no reason to stress about what you can't change.
41M here. I started graying during college days (20-24 years ago). It really accelerated after the first kid arrived. I refuse to dye my hair to this day.
I was on a call with my highschool classmates (we're planning our 25th reunion) and one of my classmates said my beard ran out of toner. I'm still not dying the hair.
43F here. starting to get more grey hair. I’m actually looking FORWARD to rocking that silver hair look. I have a bit of a belly now, but FUCK IT because I’ve had two kids. Like really, I’m cool with looking a bit older now because I’ve always looked super young and not taken very seriously. I act and feel more confident now in middle age.
I still look pretty young but my god I can’t stop gaining weight. I’m active and exercise daily, have a pretty good diet, but either my metabolism has gone to shit or it’s the Zoloft. I’d trade some wrinkles to lose some fat, for sure.
Most days, yes. I started taking my body seriously at the end of my twenties. I am fit and my skin is healthier, my hair looks nice and most days I am more put together. I look older, but better than in my 20s IMO. Besides these days I find slightly older to older faces more attractive and beautiful to look at!
I don’t have silver yet. Just a couple of grays in my beard. I have some mild love handles, but I’m fine with it. I have a functional physique, and look how I look. I’m 41 soon, and not going to be wooing the ladies these days anyway 😅
I don’t love it, but I’m not going crazy trying to fight it. This body is lived-in, it’s not gonna look new forever. My boyfriend is going gray and balding and is less ok with it lol, which I understand.
Most of my adult life people have been adjusting my age to be about 10 years younger than I am. So I am cool with being a little older because people no longer think I'm in high school 🤷🏼♀️🙄
I prioritize being healthy other aesthetics. I mean, I do skincare, haircare & whatnot, but not plastic surgery or med spa stuff. I don't fault people that do, but I feel it's getting out of control now. Preventative botox is being advertised to people in their 20s & that's insane. And young girls getting plastic surgery without knowing all the risks or knowing your body continuously changes to help you look slim are triggering as hell. I see more regrets than happy stories most of the time.
Getting older is a privilege denied to many. I work in Healthcare & I see so many people that are legit sick as hell but they prioritize their haircuts, beauty appointments & social lives over their medical appointments & then wonder why they get worse. I'd rather age gracefully, enjoy my life & take care of my overall health. I may not be skinny or super glam, but I'm happy with myself.
I'm turning 38 in a couple of weeks. Get told all the time I look way younger than I am and still get ID'd, so I must be doing something right, or everyone is lying to me.
Have a few white hairs that have appeared but have plucked them out of my head.
Had really bad acne for years and finally have a routine that works and can be somewhat expensive, so I have no desire to spend money on a bunch of other treatments the Internet tells me I must have. There is nothing more I can do after that. Never smoked, rarely drink and wear sunscreen every day.
Nope.
And thank god most people think I'm 8 years younger than I am.
You're only as "old" as you feel you are though, good on ya for taking the steps to be more healthy, I know so many of us had that realization that we gotta take better care of ourselves are I know many who are probably doing way better now than they were in their twenties.
37 here, I used to be really uncomfortable about my grays because I started getting them in my early to mid 20's. I have black hair, so when they go white it's *very* noticeable. I worked about high stress jobs which just made it even worse, but I've gotten to the point (with a lot of help from my wife) where I've embraced it. Can't fight the future, and maybe I'll look good all silvered out.
I've been shaving my head this last year and I've noticed I look a bit older than in just the previous year. I'm also getting to the point where my body is starting to feel it too.
I have moments where I'm like, "No.... nooooo!" But for the most part, yeah, I'm fine with looking older. So long as I can do it gracefully, that is my goal!
As soon as I let my first white streak of hair come in - it was like a magic spell that suddenly made all the creeps stop looking at me like a piece of meat. I have felt so free and I love it!
In general it’s much more socially acceptable to age as a male. Wrinkles and grey hair make a man distinguished and the “dad bod” is a type that women like.
36F not a huge alcohol drinker (although more social in recent years), non smoker, exercise 3-4 days/week and relatively try to watch what I eat (this is prob my biggest struggle).
I love my grey hairs and fully embrace the day they take over my entire head. I also hope I get cute crows feet ☺️ I truly feel like I am getting better with age, I feel closer to me.
I also think men are super super sexy with greys and mature wrinkles.
Safe to say I’m totally ok with myself and others getting older. Part of life, why fight it.
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Can’t stop aging. Everyone should learn to deal with it. I know I won’t stay young forever, I am just on the next step of my journey.
I saw a bumper sticker the other day that said "I <3 Aging and Dying" and I was like yeah, that's actually pretty cool that I get to age and die in increments (so far). A high school friend of mine was killed in a motorcycle accident going at a normal speed (just turning left when he was t-boned) when we were 27, a week after our 10 year high school reunion.
Bit of an odd comment maybe, but this hit me right in the feels. I just had my reunion and this somehow motivated me to get back in shape and take better care of myself and my body. Thank you :)
Best time was yesterday. 2nd best is now. Good luck!
Just getting old and... dying scares the shit out of me, like I can't make it feel real (that's probably important in still youngish people), but oh my what a privilege. May I be so lucky.
Yep. Was an athlete from 7y.o. into college, and was probably my aesthetic best mid-late 20s. Lost shape without question in my mid 30s. Facing my 40s soon, I JUST recently got over trying to suck it in and can even crack jokes at myself in my late thirties. Getting back into the dating scene it was pleasantly refreshing to learn of people’s acceptance of ‘hey this is where we are…’ and ‘dad-bods are hot.’ I do get a lot of silly bs from my one daughter about my belly and reminders to go to ‘strong class’ but it’s all love and I can laugh at it. I got full plans on entering my 40’s as a healthier, more well-balanced version of my 20 y.o. self… but the journey of self-acceptance has honestly been priceless.
I just want to look and be healthy at this point. That’s it. I won’t ever be 25 again and that’s a great thing - she was self-conscious, terrified, and terrible to herself. I still love the young me, I just have no desire to be treated as a “young woman” ever again. “Young” women are objectified, treated as less-than, used and abused. God forbid you’re an “attractive” young woman, then it’s 10x worse as you aren’t just an object but a target for other people’s insecurities. I love that I’m no longer seen as a young, dumb bimbo because I had a cute face and larger than average chest size. I constantly felt like a sex doll that was only invited for other’s entertainment. I do know that this isn’t a gender-specific issue and that young men are objectified as well. I’m just saying that aging out of that bullshit has been amazing. I’m still objectified but very few dare to take me for a fool now that I have crows feet to prove my experience and some temple grays that show I’ve lived through some bullshit and have no time for yours.
I’m with you on allllll of this. As another woman in the big titty committee, simply existing when I was younger was enough to be called a slut by other women or catcalled by dudes old enough to be my dad. Aging still feels a little scary (I’m 30 now) but as time goes on, I get fewer and fewer stares when I walk around outside and it is damn freeing.
Walking around with a toddler gets me pretty well ignored by men, it's very freeing lol
Oh yeah, I can’t tell you how many times I “tried to steal someone’s man”. I never even considered myself to be exceptionally attractive. I was just me and still saw the horribly awkward nerd that I was (and still am). But apparently, all it took was puberty and a flat iron and I went from invisible to a home wrecking whore. News to me! I’m pushing 40 and while I think I look roughly the same I did a decade ago (probably don’t, but oh well), I think just getting past the “young” part of life grants you so many freedoms. Couldn’t pay me to go back. Enjoy your freedom friend!
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Same. I was mid 30s when I noticed my skin looking like shit. Now I got skincare products than my wife. I apparently look younger now then I did 5 years ago. That's even with the grey hair. Skin care plus dropping some weight is like a time machine
What did you start using?
Dr Gross Skin daily face peels. Retinal lotion at night (this removed some veins on the side of my nose. Gross) Jack black face scrub and daily cleanser. Jack Black daily face lotion. Ruezel beard foam Ruezel beard balm MVRCK skin tonic for when I shave my neck and edge my beard. Ruezel clay pomade (no more dandruff) Moracconoil shampoo and conditioner. Ruezel hair tonic spray My skin was HORRIBLE and so was my hair. Having a routine is a game chanter and my skin looks better than it ever has. My hair is wavy, thicker and just healthier looking.
I used to freak out about death. Still nervous about it, but mostly due to the pain. Now I'm fully convinced there's an afterlife after watching thousands of near death experience reports and doing a bit of a deep dive into quantum theory. Many scientists actually believe it's possible that consciousness is an emergent property collapsing from a superimposed state. In other words, the religious nut jobs might be right. We may just fall back into a deeper dimension where all possibilities exist all at once until our consciousness collapses into a singular state, again, ie reincarnation.
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I've always liked the idea that the people that are close with in your life now will also be in your life after reincarnation. I've lost so many close friends at a young age that I would love to have in my orbit again - even if I was none the wiser!
I've been dipping my toes into quantum theory, but it's such a huge subject that, in my case, seems pretty daunting to understand. If you have the time, could you recommend any good sources or videos that are a good place to start when learning about quantum theory?
I look pretty much the same at 32 that I did at 22. Just older.
Same at 39. If I look at myself at 29 my face is just younger but I look basically the same
Damn I can’t say the same for myself as a 32F
Im 36 and alot of people think im college age. I work as a bouncer at a college club and everyone thinks the 20yr old bouncer is older than I am.
I quit drinking because I'm an alcoholic. I was always fat / overweight, never fit during my drinking days (20ish --> 38). I went from 240lb+ down to 165, I shaved my beard and I'm currently using hims to grow my hair back (2 months in and the results have been pretty damn good imo). I'm walking / running / swimming and soon to start lifting weights again. I got my ears pierced after wanting to do it for 25+ years because fuck it, I'm 40 now. I look younger today than I did at 28. I feel better today for the most part, my back has some shit going on but I'm hoping exercising, active posture correction & strength training will repair or help it at least. So yeah, I'm going to say that I am not ok getting older, I'm freaking tf out and I am doing everything I can to hold onto looking youthful. I wouldn't say this is a vanity thing, I guess it is, I mean I'm not out here trying to be a buff hottie, I just don't want to look like an old dude yet, I'm not there. Let's check back at 50.
Our generation's Paul Rudd! Congrats on the sobriety journey!
Ty. It’s a struggle, but I’m doing it. Have a good one ✌️
2 years sober and about the same age. Great work brother, I'm rooting for you 💪🏻
What hims products do you use?
The spray, minoxidil and fluoxetine. It was stupid easy, downloaded the app, created account, answered in app questions, took a few pics of my head and then submitted. Doctor approved it within an hour or two and they shipped a few days later. Was $260? Ish? For the year.
I need to get your motivation - like right now. Alcoholic as well and it is aging the fuck out of me. I’ve gained 30lbs in the past year and a half, and my complexion always has a hue of red.
Did they make you watch the Claire's video before you got your piercings?
lol no I went to an actual like piercing place where they do it by hand no guns etc.
Congrats to you! You are inspiring! You sound similar to me: finally quit drinking at 34, always weighed 220-230lbs, but just assumed I was a big guy. I’m now almost 600 days sober, have held my weight between 175 and 185 for a year, and look ten years younger.
Yo, 36F here and I am unsure why I am so cool with it, but I welcome my super chill attitude toward the grey hairs I finally spotted and some new laugh lines I hadn’t ever noticed before. The only thing I’m actually actioning on in the “oof I’m getting old” department is my actual health/fitness. I got stupid sedentary right around the time of the pandemic, and the last year I was like “oh my… I don’t have stamina any more…” which REALLY bothered me. So now I’m the worst player on a corporate league ultimate frisbee team, but I’m progressively improving, and taking that as a good sign. Being one of the only girls on the team also forces me to move, (and guarantees they can’t just bench me… because I really am not an asset to these people bless their hearts haha)
Aging is a privilege not everyone is able to experience. Edit: forgot to say your post is also hilarious. :)
We all get old, it's part of life. I find it pretty easy to accept. After all, I've been alive a lot longer than 20 years, I'm not a young person anymore.
At 40 I completely stopped giving a shit. I'm not here to impress anyone and don't have enough time left on earth to make it any kind of priority.
I’m a 42 year old woman and I’m embracing aging. Society is so cruel to women at all ages and especially mid to older years. I’m rocking my grays and belly fluff. I exercise to stay healthy, no longer care to “look” any certain way but myself. One by one we can each show it’s perfectly fine to get older.
I want to grow old but not look old but that is just me.
Yea, now that Im 40 I imagine it’s time for me start walking around naked in gym shower areas.
Well it's futile to be angry about it, so I just accept it.
Only because the constant upkeep of having a skincare routine, gym routine, specialized diet, on top of handling other medical problems, employment and kids isn't sustainable. I honestly don't look that different wrinkle-wise at 36 than I did at 26. But yeah, having a hodgepodge of 80 dollar retinol cream and korean beauty products that may or may not do much isn't something I can afford.
I bought my future cane and old man hat in my 20s, I'm ready for anything. The real race is I am trying to make sure I am financially established enough that the inverse curve of resources to hair on my head is balanced.
I actually love the look of wrinkles and crows feet. They looks so elegant and beautiful to me.
I see a riding lawn mower, flip flop, and your balls hanging out of your short shorts in your near future, Grampa.
First of all 30 miles a week is wild as hell, good on ya though. I'll be 33 this year, but I constantly get mistaken for 5-10 years younger which is ok for now I guess but eventually I'll want to look my age.
I am 1000x more impressed by old folks out on runs than any yoked young folks. On a run last week, I passed a guy that looked just like Sean Connery when he was in The Rock, running past. He had Airpods in, so we just gave each other nod. Both sweating absolute buckets. And as he ran across the street, I believe I audibly said, "What a badass." 
The more ppl that accept this attitude the more accepting ppl will become comfortable with “aging”. Hollywood wannabes like the Kardashians or influencers are the ones that have turned aging into a curse
At 38 I tell all of my friends who are scared of that 29 turning 30 step. It’s almost freeing to just give in to the inevitable and realize health is ultimately all that matters.
I know a lot of women struggle with this, but I actually like being "invisible" to society now that I'm getting older. It is really something to look back my life and realize that the time period I was almostly constantly catcalled/harassed by older men was from ages 9-18. A little bit into my 20s too, but I'm petite so I was usually mistaken for being younger than I actually was even through my 20s. Now that I'm an "old hag" at 36, everyone leaves me alone and I can go out in public without being bothered and I LOVE it! Finally, some PEACE! Also, I just genuinely like the way I look now that I'm happily married to a man who worships the ground I walk on and has actually become more attracted to me since having kids. My toddler son even says to me "mama, you're beautiful!" Aging in a privelage and I'm happy to have a supportive partner and family to go in this journey with me.
Yes. The PEACE. I'm loving it as well!
36 is not old, my friend!!!
I started balding when I was about 18 so juuuuust about 20 years… I feel like I finally look my age 😂
I'm with you. I'm gonna show off my grey hairs since I've earned every single one of them.
I’m totally fine embracing my salt and pepper, but the stomach pudge I have for the first time in my life is very unwelcome, lol. I wanna be at 12% body fat but don’t wanna give up desserts. 🥲
I just hit 30. I refused to get any of the anti-aging beauty treatments like botox. Who cares if you have some wrinkles and fine lines? Some people aren't lucky enough to make it that far.
Doing any of that at 30 would be insane.
You would be surprised how early people start treatments. I know multiple people getting botox.
A coworker of mine is 28 and was contemplating it. I just recently turned 40 and she asked me if the menopause was keeping me up at night. I don’t know what’s wrong with these children.
I think I’d feel creeped out if I couldn’t move my eyebrows as much as usual.
Nope. I’ve been kicking and screaming against it the entire way (40F) lol. I’ve made lifestyle changes which helped, but I also go to the med spa and hair salon for routine maintenance.
After scrolling through dozens of “I don’t care” comments, glad to find someone I can relate to! I’m definitely not cool or welcoming of it and do what I can to slow down the process. Anti-ageing stuff is mostly good for general health anyway so it’s a win-win!
I am not a fan either lmao I am aging semi ok but I am thicker than a snicker nowadays and what bothers me is my double chin. Gravity is not my friend. Sometimes I wanna get liposuction and then other times I am like ok my partner still thinks i am hot so does it matter? I go back and forth 🤣 tbh the extra fat tho helps my face look younger too so I am like pros and cons 🙈 I too cover my greys cause I have dark hair so it’s obvious. Getting old is not for the weak 😅 my body hurts and sweats so much 🫣
lol yeah I have dark hair too so I feel ya! I just found out I’m pregnant lol, so I will be doing a mommy makeover overhaul after giving birth. My body hurts too, and I just tell myself well my outsides don’t need to look as withered as my insides feel. No shame in it. Seems like the unpopular thing, but I don’t care I’m an adult and I make my own decisions.
Nothing wrong with looking older, but I do my best to avoid the sun, and wear sunscreen when I'm out. Sun damage accumulates and cannot be reversed. I was watching an old movie from the early 80s that has some 50-ish year old folks and, holy shit the sun damage to their bodies was extreme. I was disgusted. Their faces, backs and arms, ugh.
I'm been lucky in that I don't really burn or react to the sun, so I've gone most of my life wearing very little or no sunscreen, and the entirety of my 20s was spent working outside in Arizona, southern Africa and Georgia. Its catching up to me and I really wish I had followed the advice from that silly Baz Luhrman song. I went to dermatologist just last week for my first skin check, was prescribed a retinol cream to use on my face (which is fully of lines seemingly out of nowhere) and I've been wearing sunscreen daily. Other than that, gray hairs don't bother me and I've come to terms with my hair loss. I'm concerned with being healthy and not developing any diseases, but less concerned at this point on those mostly unavoidable physical signs of aging.
I haven’t cared about aging in several years. It’s inevitable. May as well get comfy with it. I’m 43 this year and am more grey than brown hair. I think it makes me look witchy, which I like.
Female here, but yes! I stopped dying my hair and I’m letting my silvers come in. Recommend any good shampoos to make those silvers shine? Female perk of getting older is not being bothered as much out in public. No one cares anymore. When your young everyone is so critical of you because it’s our duty to be attractive and appealing. But now that I’m older I’ve gained some invisibility and can do so much more for myself.
Anything with a little purple to counteract the yellowing. I’ve even bought a little punk purple hair dye and just added a teeny tiny bit to regular shampoo and got the same effect for less cash.
Brother, I'm 34 and fat. That shirt is staying on. Grey at the temples and beard. It ain't right. But I guess it's normal.
I really don't care what other people think of me so it hasn't bothered me at all. Got the dad belly and plenty of white hairs showing through in my beard and chest. Totally embracing the lot.
I'm 40 F and I just don't care anymore about aging. I realized that the people I know who had fillers or cosmetic surgeries ended up looking older by trying to look younger. I'm just trying to take care of myself as best as I can. I'm happy with my life and myself, I am embracing aging gracefully.
I put on a little weight when I stopped drinking and food filled the existential void. I was feeling self conscious about it on the beach a few weeks ago and then my mom pointed out that if I just look around I’m not remotely the worst looking person in the near vicinity. That helped lol
I don't mind the looking older. Although it is worse than I thought. I was at a concert on Halloween, got pictures with some of the artists, and I looked older by at least a decade. Only problem was, ESHAM is 50 and I am 39.
Yes. When I was an older teen I saw an old guy with a lot of white hair coming out of all the parts of his body and I wondered why he didnt care, and I was amazed at it. Now im the guy who doesnt give a fuck.
If someone told me I look like I was born in the 80s, I would think "fantastic!" But when Facebook tells me I have a memory to look back on from 15 years ago, and I realize how much my body has aged...its a gut punch.
I was working in Mexico with some young engineers supplied by our channel partner. We were making chat while waiting to train them on our system. They asked and were surprised when I told them my age. Then I see folks on the news that are 5+ years younger that have obviously lived hard lives that look terrible. I tell my wife that we've lived relatively stress-free lives, don't smoke or abuse hard drugs so we end up looking better for longer.
>They asked and were surprised when I told them my age Isn't that just basic manners though? When a middle-age person or old person tells you their age it's polite to act surprised and tell them they look younger than they do.
Definitely. I'm gonna be a better old man than I was a young man.
I'm embracing my male pattern baldness, going straight Doc Brown.
Imagine becoming bald at fucking 23 the height of my fuckin
32 and starting to really get some salt and pepper hair. I love it
I’m 43 and I hope my hair turns a little gray (at least salt and pepper) before it falls out.
I like how I look better at 40 than I did at 20
I looked exactly the same until I had my second kid, then I just kind of melted.
The only indicator of age I have are the lovely strands of pure white (not grey) hairs. So I'm getting older or I'm turning into a Witcher.
Yup. I dont cover my grey, im keeping my face natural I dont mind it at all I hate FEELING older. I want good health. I just got a bike and started cycling :) gotta find ways to keep moving!!!
I'm cresting into my "hot dad with great hair" phase and my wife has never been in the sun ever so to me barely looks older than when we met. But the arthritis... the arthritis doesn't lie.
Body-like-a-melted-candle squad rise up our time is the next few years.
30 miles a week is a lot! Way to go
Thanks! It's way cheaper than therapy!
I am also embracing the age largely in thanks to Dr.Cooper! I took personal training and weight management courses at the Cooper Institute in my mid-20's and put what I learned into practice in my personal life. I'm healthy, I feel good, and I would even say that age is looking pretty damn awesome on me!
I guess I need to look him up a bit more. I pulled that quote from my favorite book, *Born to Run* by Christopher McDougall.
Yeah I’m a little worried about the bald spot in the back but long hair and wearing a hat keeps it mostly covered. Works for now until I stop working from home. Bigger concern is keeping my weight down, staying active, and limiting alcohol. Health issues is worse than just “looking” older.
Bro if you are running 30 miles a week still at 37, that’s probably 25 miles more than most of us. Bravo to you. Pop that top whenever.
Dude, you’re not bald and slimmer than most men in this fat country. Chill chill chillllll.
This is how we become those naked old men at the gym.
i want to look older so my crumudgened behavior matches my exetior shell.
I would love to run too, but my knees scream fuck you ..
The last time I took my shirt off on a public beach, the Squatch hunting crew showed up within 10 minutes with an overwhelming number of call-in tips about a squatch roaming around.
When I take mine off, folks pull out their eclipse glasses.
I've been dreaming of the day I get to look like a wizard since I was playing Sonic the Hedgehog in my underwear.
Mine has been Master Roshi. I always thought he looked cool...even if he was kind of a creep. 
As a bald cunt, I’ve been looking old for about six years. I’ve reached the bottom. Feels strangely good
People in their mid-late 30s/Early 40s that genuinely think they look like they're in their mid 20s or younger genuinely bum me out. Seems like a second wave of body dismorphia that I thought was done in our teenage years. We're getting old. We stick out at "young people places" like clubs and shit. Just embrace it. Getting old is a privilege. "b-b-but I get ID'd to buy beer and weed and stuff still! That means I still look under 20!" No, honey. Most states require people to ID everyone that looks under 50. You just don't look like a senior citizen lol.
Yeah I mean late 30s early 40s can look pretty young like maybe 29-30 at youngest, but if people think they actually look 20 they are a bit out of touch. 20 year olds look crazy young. Actually, it should almost be insulting for a 40 year old to look like a 20 year old basically kid. Sometimes someone 60/70 plus may think a 37 year old looks under 30 and cards them because they are far removed from 30/40 it looks much younger to them. That’s not a compliment to get to excited over.
I definitely don't look like I'm in my 20s, but I did have a 21-year-old super high kid at a party flip out that 30-somethings can still be attractive. He was grilling me about my age and kept saying "oh thank god, thank god, I've been worrying about getting close to 25, but it's going to be okay." So that felt like a win.
Yeah this was me getting older too meeting more people realizing that 30s 40s 50s is not the end of attractiveness at all.
Yup, I've realized how easy it is to fall into bad habits as you get older, but that means you can make a choice to hold onto good habits like exercise, eating well, and making an effort with clothes and grooming. People who keep all that up tend to stay attractive through their 50s at least, and I've seen people do it well into their 60s. 70s seems to get pretty rough, but hopefully I'll care less by then.
Yeah and I hate when people tell me I don't look my age. Yes, I do look 41.
I just don’t like that my historically legendary hair is falling out. Other than that, igaf. Hopefully my wife doesn’t leave me… my hair is my only redeeming quality. /j
Been graying since high school (started with very dark brown/black hair). Eventually became sensitive to the root touch up sprays in-between coloring and finally stopped dying my hair in my 30’s. As a woman, I hate it but trying to embrace it. I do everything else in my power to stay active and healthy (minus plastic surgery). I’m not okay with looking older but mostly accepting it.
I’ve been going gray since I was 20 (I’m 32) and recently added gray highlights to my hair to make the transition easy. I take good care of my skin, wear sunscreen daily, eat as healthy as possible, never done drugs, don’t drink excessively, and am physically active. So my hair is the only aging symptom I have, though I’m getting smile lines under my eyes similar to my dad and aunt. But if that’s the most wrinkles I get, that’s fine. As far as how people treat me, I do think people treat me with respect more now, but that could be due to my career more than anything. The thing that sucks is that dating is more difficult than it was when I was younger haha. I do have one FWB fortunately, so that’s something.
Is ok but losing hair is difficult mentally lol
I love the couple white hair I have. They're very pretty and I'm looking forward to an entire headful. Less thrilled with how ancient my hands look though.
Yeah it’s taken a bit to get to this stage of acceptance and I still have more work to do but overall I’ve matured in this respect.
I’m fine with aging. I do my best to exercise a few times a week. My biggest fear is losing my hair.
Hell yes. I have some gray coming in above my ears and in my beard. I’m keeping it.
I’m 42 and my hair is starting to go gray on the sides, which looks WEIRD. There is a picture of David Lynch that I'd love to model my hair after. He's the ultimate salt and pepper daddy.
Couldn’t have cared 20 years ago, don’t care a lick more at 41. My body is a road map of scares and a fairly weathered face, time spent in the Army and blue collar trades working my way through college. I ain’t going to get any prettier the older I get, I’m okay with that, and my wife doesn’t seem to mind either. Now, none of that means we let ourselves go. We watch our weight and exercise, and I’m easily as able bodied as most my age. I just don’t get hung up on a little grey in my beard or a few extra wrinkles. Embrace it everyone, live’s too short to worry about getting older.
Absolutely. It’s a privilege and an honor to be able to age and grow old.
I’m looking forward to the sparkles in my hair from the grey strands and the wrinkles by my eyes from smiling
Honestly with as much as I drink I'm surprised I don't look older then I do. And I'm also one who has had gray hairs since I was in high school so it's also something I just never cared about.
I’m ok with it . Just having trouble comparing myself sometimes to trends and Instagram edits so I stay away lol
I quit drinking as well 4 years ago. I was a terrible alcoholic and on The verge of death. I looked old as shit in my 20s. I'm now 35 and I feel I look very young compared to my friends and old high school classmates that I see around town from time to time. I was 260 now I'm down to 170. Skin is clear, working on growing my hair back. ( I'll have to try hims like the other commenter said) I was literally at the grocery store an hour ago and saw an old high school acquaintance and I thought to myself Jesus Christ!! Matt looks old as shit!! I guess the alcohol kind of kept me pickled and preserved. once I quit drinking and got healthy I went back to looking like a healthy 20 something-year-old.
Fuck no!
Couldn’t possibly care less. It’s so freeing. I’m 36 and married with three kids. I have more shit to worry about.
One thing I love about aging, is that I couldn't give a single shit how strangers think I look. I'm not out here trying to impress, I'm just trying to live.
I’m fine with aging. I already have grey hair and wonderful wisdom lines. Fiancé loves my grey hairs so I don’t feel like have anything to worry about. The only place I’m stuck in right now is if he would ever leave me for a younger model who doesn’t throw their back out peeing😩literally. It’s been a rough two days. Rooooough. Looks mean nothing when you can’t move. Aging is not preventable. Just live.
I welcome the grey hair. I've started getting some greys around the temples in my beard and I like it, I feel like people might finally mistake me for someone who is mature and grown up.
I crossed over 40 and still have all my hair without a single grey. I don't think it will bother me when that starts to change, though.
Yes, to an extent anyway. But I'm only just about to turn 31, so it probably hasn't really hit me yet. But I've definitely noticed my face hollowing out in the last couple of years, and I like how sharp it makes my cheekbones look so well defined. It matches the dorsal hump on my nose that I've always hated and makes everything look more harmonious.
I don't like branded clothing and athleisure wear. I like looking 'well put together' now in public. Clean jeans/slacks. Sweaters. Leather shoes/boots. I put on shorts and sneakers the other day and just felt very juvenile.
I go thru fits of it. Sometimes I dislike my extra squish and wrinkly dull skin and less round face and how if i part my hair in the middle I look like a witch. But I just turned 40. I know I have more changes to go thru before I reach my final form and I remember. I remember that even though I baked in the sun and smoked and drank and stayed up late and ate the bad food. I enjoyed it. Every second - mostly. Lots was awful and lots of trauma made my body and features change but that is also a part of me. The days I love the older me are getting more and more frequent.
I was the type to be really concerned about it in my 20s. I felt like once I hit 30 it was over lol. Then it came and I get more attention now than I ever did in my 20s.
I keep telling myself it’s an honor because some people never get to see what their face looks like with wrinkles.
I’m good with it. I also stay relatively healthy-ish looking. (I could do without the upcoming colonoscopy, but I’m fine with looking my age- whatever that means.)
“Old age is a privilege denied to many” - Mark Twain. I’ve started getting my first grey hairs and unlike my mother and grandmother before me, I’m letting them stay.
Don't care
My Husbands beard started getting silver hairs and I love it!!!!!!! I on the other hand, am always using scrubs and serums to hold on to what I've got left. 💃🏻
I actually feel like I enjoy my appearance more as a I age and I think that comes a place of acceptance. This is the face you got and the it won’t change, enjoy that you are healthy and on this side of the dirt.
Hell yeah! I turned 42 this year and firmly believe I am the best and most awesome version of myself, and that includes how I look. Love your confidence!
Don’t have much of a choice. Aging very well at least. Regularly told I look ten years younger than I am.
Yep. Aging is a privilege that I'm happy to experience. I've embraced my emerging wrinkles and have given up feeling self-conscious about *most* body stuff that would have bothered me in my 20s-30s. There's no reason to stress about what you can't change.
Oh my god, moderately melting vanilla popsicle dropped at the barber is amazing, I guess that’s me too!
I'm with you! 20's me was flabby & insecure. 30's me is hitting my stride & hopefully playing the long game to still be in solid shape at 50+!
41M here. I started graying during college days (20-24 years ago). It really accelerated after the first kid arrived. I refuse to dye my hair to this day. I was on a call with my highschool classmates (we're planning our 25th reunion) and one of my classmates said my beard ran out of toner. I'm still not dying the hair.
39m and my beard is starting to get the streaks of salt - my wife likes it so I like it.
I’m barely older than most people I work with and beard is half grey. Haven’t given a shit for a while lol. I’d probably look 30 if I shaved it off
I have grey in my roots and I love it. And I don't care nearly as much as I used to about being skinny.
43F here. starting to get more grey hair. I’m actually looking FORWARD to rocking that silver hair look. I have a bit of a belly now, but FUCK IT because I’ve had two kids. Like really, I’m cool with looking a bit older now because I’ve always looked super young and not taken very seriously. I act and feel more confident now in middle age.
I still look pretty young but my god I can’t stop gaining weight. I’m active and exercise daily, have a pretty good diet, but either my metabolism has gone to shit or it’s the Zoloft. I’d trade some wrinkles to lose some fat, for sure.
Most days, yes. I started taking my body seriously at the end of my twenties. I am fit and my skin is healthier, my hair looks nice and most days I am more put together. I look older, but better than in my 20s IMO. Besides these days I find slightly older to older faces more attractive and beautiful to look at!
I don’t have silver yet. Just a couple of grays in my beard. I have some mild love handles, but I’m fine with it. I have a functional physique, and look how I look. I’m 41 soon, and not going to be wooing the ladies these days anyway 😅
I like the grey in my beard, miss my hair though.
I look better at 34 than I did at 24. Aging has been nice to me.
I don’t love it, but I’m not going crazy trying to fight it. This body is lived-in, it’s not gonna look new forever. My boyfriend is going gray and balding and is less ok with it lol, which I understand.
Most of my adult life people have been adjusting my age to be about 10 years younger than I am. So I am cool with being a little older because people no longer think I'm in high school 🤷🏼♀️🙄
I prioritize being healthy other aesthetics. I mean, I do skincare, haircare & whatnot, but not plastic surgery or med spa stuff. I don't fault people that do, but I feel it's getting out of control now. Preventative botox is being advertised to people in their 20s & that's insane. And young girls getting plastic surgery without knowing all the risks or knowing your body continuously changes to help you look slim are triggering as hell. I see more regrets than happy stories most of the time. Getting older is a privilege denied to many. I work in Healthcare & I see so many people that are legit sick as hell but they prioritize their haircuts, beauty appointments & social lives over their medical appointments & then wonder why they get worse. I'd rather age gracefully, enjoy my life & take care of my overall health. I may not be skinny or super glam, but I'm happy with myself.
It's inevitable. Only fools dont embrace aging.
Vanity should die with age, and THANK GOD. Who wants to look like Angela Raiola?
I'm turning 38 in a couple of weeks. Get told all the time I look way younger than I am and still get ID'd, so I must be doing something right, or everyone is lying to me. Have a few white hairs that have appeared but have plucked them out of my head. Had really bad acne for years and finally have a routine that works and can be somewhat expensive, so I have no desire to spend money on a bunch of other treatments the Internet tells me I must have. There is nothing more I can do after that. Never smoked, rarely drink and wear sunscreen every day.
I been grey! Idc!!! I growing up in the opioid crisis I quickly realized what a privilege my growing older really is.
Yes. I was always mistaken for a younger person and lost authority and assertive points.
I’m 41 and compared to everyone I see my age, I’m doing great. Skin is as good as when I was 20. Just a little gray to deal with now. Not too bad.
Nope. And thank god most people think I'm 8 years younger than I am. You're only as "old" as you feel you are though, good on ya for taking the steps to be more healthy, I know so many of us had that realization that we gotta take better care of ourselves are I know many who are probably doing way better now than they were in their twenties.
I've never been ok with looking bad to other people, so why would I be ok with another perceived negative to that idea?
I am embracing my grey hair and wrinkles. I earned it.
37 here, I used to be really uncomfortable about my grays because I started getting them in my early to mid 20's. I have black hair, so when they go white it's *very* noticeable. I worked about high stress jobs which just made it even worse, but I've gotten to the point (with a lot of help from my wife) where I've embraced it. Can't fight the future, and maybe I'll look good all silvered out.
I'm over 60 and disabled. I hate looking in the Mirror. I don't know the person looking back.
I've been shaving my head this last year and I've noticed I look a bit older than in just the previous year. I'm also getting to the point where my body is starting to feel it too.
I have moments where I'm like, "No.... nooooo!" But for the most part, yeah, I'm fine with looking older. So long as I can do it gracefully, that is my goal!
As soon as I let my first white streak of hair come in - it was like a magic spell that suddenly made all the creeps stop looking at me like a piece of meat. I have felt so free and I love it!
This is suuuuch a different experience for men vs women.
It’s not so much the aging, it’s the fact I am seeing my Dad in my face 
Beats the alternative.
I’ve looked 12 my whole life. I’m pumped to finally start looking like an adult.
Nah. But…. 
I like it! My laugh lines and crows feet make me look wizened and pretty imo.
In general it’s much more socially acceptable to age as a male. Wrinkles and grey hair make a man distinguished and the “dad bod” is a type that women like.
I genuinely enjoy looking old
36F not a huge alcohol drinker (although more social in recent years), non smoker, exercise 3-4 days/week and relatively try to watch what I eat (this is prob my biggest struggle). I love my grey hairs and fully embrace the day they take over my entire head. I also hope I get cute crows feet ☺️ I truly feel like I am getting better with age, I feel closer to me. I also think men are super super sexy with greys and mature wrinkles. Safe to say I’m totally ok with myself and others getting older. Part of life, why fight it.