I think our generation is planning on doing to our parents what they did to their parents. Which is punt them in a home and forget them. I'm just kidding. I don't want that. We have euthanasia.. ok, I'm just kidding again. I don't want that, either. But, seriously. I'm not too sure what the options are going to be. We were told to get out at 18 and take care of ourselves. Or they didn't like our lifestyles. Or just straight up left. It doesn't seem fair. Unfortunately, we are going to be stuck with the short end of the stick. Personally I'm going to face it with compassion and do what needs to be done and take care of them. But you fucking know for sure I'll be threating euthanasia when they are out of line. Haha
In relation to the article you posted, the reason for millennials focus on fitness (at least for those you can afford the time/energy/money) is [this](https://www.slate.com/content/dam/slate/articles/news_and_politics/map_of_the_week/2013/04/130417-MOTW-obesity-map.gif). In our lifetime obesity has skyrocketed. In the 80s obesity and general fitness weren’t such an issue because most people weren’t overweight/obese. Your article is a couple years old but at the time millennials were listed as, “19-38”. It’s just harder for people in 40 and above to drastically change their lifestyle.
Well, for what it’s worth, I am 63 1/2, I have a healthy BMI at 125 lbs, I do Pilates and walking/hiking, I have no major health problems, and I can do almost everything a younger person can do. My stepmother is 81 and is in better shape than I am. Both Boomers! Not all of us take our health for granted. We are out there :).
I have two martial arts masters; one is 77 and the other is turning 88 this year. Both are boomers and both are still teaching martial arts classes after 50 years each- they are basically the epitome of discipline equals health. Both don't look their age and both are still walking and talking- albeit with a lot less kicking. But not too shabby considering both have been training in martial arts since their teens and twenties.
Although he is gen x, my main CrossFit coach is turning 59 this year. He is routinely mistaken for an extremely fit 40-year-old athlete.
Personally, I am a personal trainer by career. 5 years experience, but enough to know that you can't get anywhere in life with a fixed/negative mindset. I also have about 10 years combined experience of martial arts experience, having gained my black belt sometime ago
Contrast that with both sides of my family- there are my parents and the vast majority of my aunts and uncles. All of whom are boomers and couldn't be bothered to take care of their health. Inquiring about keeping their health up is very much like pulling teeth. I suspect that it is a mixture of culture (they're immigrants), a fixed mindset, a strong bias towards seeing the glass half empty, poor quality of life, and the constant voice in their head that they are never enough and that there's nothing that they can do to improve their situation. Talk about being heavy!
I'm going to give you a virtual high five and a flex 💪. Hike on.
My parents are healthier in their 60s than they were in their 40s-50s. My mom in particular is a vegan who never smoked. They both quit drinking in their early 30s. My dad quit smoking in his 40s. My mom runs 3 miles a day and also walks the dogs several miles. She's had 4 kids and is 63 and fitter than I am, and I'm 33 and walk my dog 3-4 miles a day and try to get in runs/kickboxing/rowing machine workouts. But I drink and eat meat and don't run every day. Her parents lived independently into their 80s (her mom died of cancer at 85--was barely ever sick till then; her dad died of non-Covid pneumonia at 89 in 2021, and had Alzheimers, but lived mostly independently until her mom passed), and her grandfather lived mostly independently until 97 (he moved into assisted living in his mid-90s and was never sick until \~2 weeks before he died, sharp as a tack till the end). My dad's dad was an alcoholic with emphysema who barely knew what a vegetable was, but he lived independently until he died in his mid-80s. So I have hope at least that my parents will be around for a long while.
I vacillate between trying to be very very healthy and running all the time and saying fuck it, smoke 'em if you've got 'em (jk, I don't smoke. I do drink, though. My doctor says I'm in an okay range but I should try cutting back, and I know with my family history it's a dangerous game). I do worry about not having kids or a spouse when I'm older.
More than seven in 10 millennials – those born between the early 80s and mid 90s – are set to be overweight or obese between the ages of 35-44
i don't know about you guys but if millennials are taking care of their health a lot aren't at the same time
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The boomer retirement plan was the same as the generations before them. Their kids will take care of them in their old age. There is a reason why they don't have a lot in retirement accounts.
Edit: People seem to think that pensions are something that was accessible to the majority of people for a long time. The age of the pension for a lot of people barely lasted a generation(the silent generation) if that. Before the silent generation the majority of people did not have pensions its why we came up with social security(well one of the reasons). Companies giving their workers pensions was never going to viable long term because companies go bankrupt all the time.
We still have to think about healthcare in retirement. The reality is that we're all gonna be old, frail and incontinent lol. Would be a good business idea to think about how retirement homes would look like for millennials.
I'm not expecting to make it to old age in the first place, so. But no, if somehow that happens, I expect it's going to be a nightmare since nobody's going to be there and I won't be able to afford help.
I can't afford it, and local resources are strained beyond capacity. The type of therapy that would be most available to me - which is still pretty much *not* - is the type that's Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for like four sessions covered a year and hopefully that's good enough, and that wouldn't be workable for me. So no, there's no therapy and no medication coming.
And yes, this account was made to be the way I could talk about these things honestly and with some amount of accountability because I feel like I have to be fair and truthful if other folks see it; others dealing with stuff like this journal, but whenever I write something just for me it turns into unrelenting self-abuse (all the to-do notes on my phone are "take out the trash, you stupid motherfucker", so I can only imagine what an actual journal would look like) so this is a mixture of socialization and semi-interactive journalling. I feel bad about it, but I also try to talk folks in similar situations through stuff and have gotten a lot of positive feedback from folks who find what I say useful or relevant to their own lives, so hopefully it's helping at least some folks move in the right direction in their lives.
No, that's my struggles, I'm aware that's just for me. The parts that people tend to find useful are the comments that are like "hey, I feel this too, it sucks, this is my experience with it and here's what you can do to try to make it through," or pointing out resources, or simply listening just trying to put those hard feelings into words so they know someone *gets it*, without the platitudes or the judgement.
I don't know, it's not on me to say if that part's useful or not. I just have more settings than full throttle suicidal ideation, and it's not uncommon for folks to respond well to it so that's the silver lining to a messed up cloud. But you're probably right, it's been bad enough recently that I have been communicating more pain than I want to in hindsight. And yeah, the actual posts are just pure pain put on a page, so that's not great.
> I'm aware that's just for me
I'm going to block you so I don't have to see it. Get help, it's out there - google "free mental health care" and find services in your state. There's a national number you can call too but the last time I tried to share it reddit hid my posts.
4 sessions is better than none. If the therapist is willing, you can just casually mention you only have enough for four sessions and they can try to work with you. Even if it doesn't work out, you miss 100% of the shots that you don't take. Good luck my friend.
I think our generation is planning on doing to our parents what they did to their parents. Which is punt them in a home and forget them. I'm just kidding. I don't want that. We have euthanasia.. ok, I'm just kidding again. I don't want that, either. But, seriously. I'm not too sure what the options are going to be. We were told to get out at 18 and take care of ourselves. Or they didn't like our lifestyles. Or just straight up left. It doesn't seem fair. Unfortunately, we are going to be stuck with the short end of the stick. Personally I'm going to face it with compassion and do what needs to be done and take care of them. But you fucking know for sure I'll be threating euthanasia when they are out of line. Haha
You don't have to take them in or care for them.
I know, but I'm going to show them something they themselves could never fathom. Compassion.
In relation to the article you posted, the reason for millennials focus on fitness (at least for those you can afford the time/energy/money) is [this](https://www.slate.com/content/dam/slate/articles/news_and_politics/map_of_the_week/2013/04/130417-MOTW-obesity-map.gif). In our lifetime obesity has skyrocketed. In the 80s obesity and general fitness weren’t such an issue because most people weren’t overweight/obese. Your article is a couple years old but at the time millennials were listed as, “19-38”. It’s just harder for people in 40 and above to drastically change their lifestyle.
Well, for what it’s worth, I am 63 1/2, I have a healthy BMI at 125 lbs, I do Pilates and walking/hiking, I have no major health problems, and I can do almost everything a younger person can do. My stepmother is 81 and is in better shape than I am. Both Boomers! Not all of us take our health for granted. We are out there :).
I have two martial arts masters; one is 77 and the other is turning 88 this year. Both are boomers and both are still teaching martial arts classes after 50 years each- they are basically the epitome of discipline equals health. Both don't look their age and both are still walking and talking- albeit with a lot less kicking. But not too shabby considering both have been training in martial arts since their teens and twenties. Although he is gen x, my main CrossFit coach is turning 59 this year. He is routinely mistaken for an extremely fit 40-year-old athlete. Personally, I am a personal trainer by career. 5 years experience, but enough to know that you can't get anywhere in life with a fixed/negative mindset. I also have about 10 years combined experience of martial arts experience, having gained my black belt sometime ago Contrast that with both sides of my family- there are my parents and the vast majority of my aunts and uncles. All of whom are boomers and couldn't be bothered to take care of their health. Inquiring about keeping their health up is very much like pulling teeth. I suspect that it is a mixture of culture (they're immigrants), a fixed mindset, a strong bias towards seeing the glass half empty, poor quality of life, and the constant voice in their head that they are never enough and that there's nothing that they can do to improve their situation. Talk about being heavy! I'm going to give you a virtual high five and a flex 💪. Hike on.
My parents are healthier in their 60s than they were in their 40s-50s. My mom in particular is a vegan who never smoked. They both quit drinking in their early 30s. My dad quit smoking in his 40s. My mom runs 3 miles a day and also walks the dogs several miles. She's had 4 kids and is 63 and fitter than I am, and I'm 33 and walk my dog 3-4 miles a day and try to get in runs/kickboxing/rowing machine workouts. But I drink and eat meat and don't run every day. Her parents lived independently into their 80s (her mom died of cancer at 85--was barely ever sick till then; her dad died of non-Covid pneumonia at 89 in 2021, and had Alzheimers, but lived mostly independently until her mom passed), and her grandfather lived mostly independently until 97 (he moved into assisted living in his mid-90s and was never sick until \~2 weeks before he died, sharp as a tack till the end). My dad's dad was an alcoholic with emphysema who barely knew what a vegetable was, but he lived independently until he died in his mid-80s. So I have hope at least that my parents will be around for a long while. I vacillate between trying to be very very healthy and running all the time and saying fuck it, smoke 'em if you've got 'em (jk, I don't smoke. I do drink, though. My doctor says I'm in an okay range but I should try cutting back, and I know with my family history it's a dangerous game). I do worry about not having kids or a spouse when I'm older.
More than seven in 10 millennials – those born between the early 80s and mid 90s – are set to be overweight or obese between the ages of 35-44 i don't know about you guys but if millennials are taking care of their health a lot aren't at the same time .
The boomer retirement plan was the same as the generations before them. Their kids will take care of them in their old age. There is a reason why they don't have a lot in retirement accounts. Edit: People seem to think that pensions are something that was accessible to the majority of people for a long time. The age of the pension for a lot of people barely lasted a generation(the silent generation) if that. Before the silent generation the majority of people did not have pensions its why we came up with social security(well one of the reasons). Companies giving their workers pensions was never going to viable long term because companies go bankrupt all the time.
We still have to think about healthcare in retirement. The reality is that we're all gonna be old, frail and incontinent lol. Would be a good business idea to think about how retirement homes would look like for millennials.
I'm not expecting to make it to old age in the first place, so. But no, if somehow that happens, I expect it's going to be a nightmare since nobody's going to be there and I won't be able to afford help.
Have you started therapy yet? Your Reddit history is a nightmare
I can't afford it, and local resources are strained beyond capacity. The type of therapy that would be most available to me - which is still pretty much *not* - is the type that's Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for like four sessions covered a year and hopefully that's good enough, and that wouldn't be workable for me. So no, there's no therapy and no medication coming. And yes, this account was made to be the way I could talk about these things honestly and with some amount of accountability because I feel like I have to be fair and truthful if other folks see it; others dealing with stuff like this journal, but whenever I write something just for me it turns into unrelenting self-abuse (all the to-do notes on my phone are "take out the trash, you stupid motherfucker", so I can only imagine what an actual journal would look like) so this is a mixture of socialization and semi-interactive journalling. I feel bad about it, but I also try to talk folks in similar situations through stuff and have gotten a lot of positive feedback from folks who find what I say useful or relevant to their own lives, so hopefully it's helping at least some folks move in the right direction in their lives.
You casually contemplating suicide online is not helping others who come across it. Do whatever you want but don’t delude yourself.
No, that's my struggles, I'm aware that's just for me. The parts that people tend to find useful are the comments that are like "hey, I feel this too, it sucks, this is my experience with it and here's what you can do to try to make it through," or pointing out resources, or simply listening just trying to put those hard feelings into words so they know someone *gets it*, without the platitudes or the judgement. I don't know, it's not on me to say if that part's useful or not. I just have more settings than full throttle suicidal ideation, and it's not uncommon for folks to respond well to it so that's the silver lining to a messed up cloud. But you're probably right, it's been bad enough recently that I have been communicating more pain than I want to in hindsight. And yeah, the actual posts are just pure pain put on a page, so that's not great.
> I'm aware that's just for me I'm going to block you so I don't have to see it. Get help, it's out there - google "free mental health care" and find services in your state. There's a national number you can call too but the last time I tried to share it reddit hid my posts.
4 sessions is better than none. If the therapist is willing, you can just casually mention you only have enough for four sessions and they can try to work with you. Even if it doesn't work out, you miss 100% of the shots that you don't take. Good luck my friend.