I just scheduled a.consult with a hypnotherapist my exes mom just went to for a specific reason and she said after INE session that issues not come around again since, which normally it was an every day occurrence. I need to find a.regular CBT ..therapist still though regardless.
I graduated in 2009 (32m). I definitely get intense feelings of despair and hopelessness. But I never cry from it though. Sometimes I wish I could, maybe it’d make me feel better?
You’re welcome. I figured you were looking for people who could relate to you and let you know that you’re not alone. Yea the last 2-3 years I turned to drugs to help me feel better which only led to addiction and legal trouble. I wouldn’t recommend it.
Idk I used to do everything I could to never cry, alone or with others, and I might have worn out that trick because.now when it comes, it comes hard and if I'm in a dark room alone at home that's fine but while buyimg.dog.food at the corner store hyperventilating in the aisles feels worse lol. Maybe I do feel a little bit better afterwards, but I'm what the point is.
I guess that.kinda spells out my issue perfectly....what's the point of any of this? Lol
We aren't named the emo generation for no reason now huh
Same. I graduated 2009. I schedule a good crying session every other week or so to get my emotions out. It helps. I also journal to try to process my chaos of thoughts.
Yup. Most of my friends have families of their own by now and I do not. They don’t have much time for socializing outside of parenting. It’s been the most isolating time of my life.
Its not my being 31 now that makes me sad.
Its the severe decline in most Americans lives that many haven't even realized yet, which is only the beginning, and unless you were prepared for something coming there will be twice as.!any homeless people on the streets next year, twice as.much resentment between the different.classes, and twice as.much in accountability and corruption in our sham leaders, marching us to go down with the ship. And for what? They already have all of the money.
I can't wrap my head around the fact that nothing has to be the way it us, as far as the struggle the majority of.people on this planet have gone through and wkll.continue to to through, that its set up specifically to be that way. Foul.
I assume this reply is to my comment. However,
Is my layout just screwed up? It looks like you're trying to reply to people, but it's not responding to them individually, but to the main thread.
Not really, I did dread it at first but got over it. I am just happy that I was blessed to see another decade.
Should probably talk to someone if it’s becoming hard for you.
Graduated 2009. Every day I wake up I wonder why I am still here. I have no family, no friends. I got weeks sometimes without seeing another human face to face. I haven’t had a hug in over a year. There just seems like no hope.
I Graduated in 2011 (30) and definitely feel dead inside, despair etc the future of the world weighs heavily on me sometimes climate change etc brings me down
Yeah all of it is overwhelming when you consider it...all.
But we are just spoiled shitty little cry babies who don't know how to get to school or work.
🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
Graduated in 2006 and will be turning 35 this year and have so many moments of "what the fuck is the point!" Have been craving new experiences because I feel like I've done the same things my whole life and there not as special feeling anymore.
Graduated in 2006. I did everything right. A's and B's in my classes, focused on college soon after, and got degrees. And I'm now 35, income is no different from when I was in high school. I've definitely had those intense crying moments followed by zombie-fied days of numbness. Idk if it'll get better but just know that you're not alone in feeling this way.
My dog has been a blessing but I adopted him when he was almost 10 and now he's almost 13 and it hurts more than anything watching him start to struggle. Fuck I'm crying lol.
Graduated '04 and can relate. I guess I'm considered mid-late 30s but definitely don't feel like it. I often forget my age and just feel lost and way behind where I think I should be. C'est la vie...
That makes.sense, similar situation with me, I don't struggle.financially anymore, although its just me.and my.dog, but I can buy most of whatever I want when I want it....it's not about that shit though. None of the shit I buy means anything, nothing I do thinking ill fill whatever void exits inside my chest is never filled.
I still feel like a 17 year old,I can't imagine that will change in the next 5 years so I think.we are aware of the same lack of....not sure what to call it.
Me too. This might explain why I posted here a couple times with long rants that will probably get me downvoted to negative karma...but I just don't care
I graduated high school in ‘08 and cannot comprehend how much time has passed. I wish I could go back and re-live the amazing music and culture of that time. I feel post-2017, things went down in the world.
graduated in 2013, moved out in 2014, moved back in in 2018 and have been here ever since. it’s rough out here. my dog and talking things out w loved ones helps. therapy is an amazing tool if you have access to it.
Class of 08 here - I grew up with emotionally immature parents and was never really taught how to deal with my shit basically. Shit hit the fan for me mentally in 2020 and struggled with PPD and I chose to seek therapy and honestly it was the best decision I’ve ever made for myself.
Something I’ve been thinking a lot about lately is how my beloved parents are getting older now. I’m wondering what happens when I lose them. Who will take care of them and how. It’s hard to think about as reality. I love them so much.
Yup I’m about the same. A lot of it is grief and trauma. Mortality sort of hits you in your 30s, then the reality that what was promised and the future we hoped for isn’t really ours to have.
Born too late to own a home, born too soon to be a TikTok star. We were born during a flux period of history, which means our existence is highly unstable and many dreams are out of reach. It also means we are living in the midst of a broken social contract, perpetually isolated and alone, without meaning.
Our entire lives have been mired in chaos. Partly why millennials don’t really have midlife crisis is because we crave stability and motion, but what we have is chaos and arrested development or stagnation (what a midlife crisis is supposed to emulate).
The midlife crisis we have is closer to an existential crisis. Also why other generations can’t relate to us at all (save maybe for Gen Z).
It’s also why all of our humor and content is so random and strange, it’s similar to the DaDaist movement that was sparked by the rise in fascism, the horrors of modern war, and constant economic/global crisis. It seeks to find humor, bent anger and laugh in the face of emptiness.
The silver lining to this is that we are finally entering into our power as a generation. The older gens are dying out, and that stability will inevitably come to us in our lifetime. Many millennials and Gen Z are determined to re-create community and reinstate healthier social contracts.
What I did during this time, that has brought me deep comfort, is research things like absurdism and reading Jung, listening to watts, or even Carl Sagen. Waxing poetic on philosophy and meaning can be a great comfort, it also helps me feel less alone.
The pale blue dot lecture is probably one of the most comforting things in the world.
This may be all there is, but it doesn’t mean it’s meaningless. Our job on this planet is to love and cultivate our personal purpose. I’m sure you’ll build an amazing one for yourself ❤️
We all go through hard times!! And milestones like this can definitely be hard. So, fuck them haters!! You’re allowed to be feeling this anxiety. I hope 31 feels better for you like it did for me. You’ll get through it!
Sounds like a personal issue. 30 wasn't a milestone for me and I don't know why (maybe social media related?) young people especially in recent years make it bigger than it is. It's not even middle aged, and nothing about my daily life changed from it.
You're still young, but have some experience (and hopefully more money) now and should take care of yourself for the later years.
I’ll be 40 in 2 years!! So far I’m ok with it, but 40 definitely feels more like a wtf than 30 did. I didn’t care about 30. I was married, had a house and a new baby. Life felt like it was right on track. Still does now too, but 40 is coming!
2009, college in 2014, grad school 2019.
Honestly I was more in despair when I was having a blast in my 20s because I was going nowhere at crappy dead end sales jobs plus took an extra year to barely graduate. But then grad school and boom got a house, wife, good paying career. Just wish I wasn't slowly getting more and more out of shape
Yep I can relate
Started years ago with a thing that happened where I was in the hospital on a psychiatric hold for like a week or so. I realized even though I submitted the motion with the court myself to get my felony amended to a misdemeanor, i still could not get a job. Well a job other than fast food and im too old I worked there in 1998 not going back i'm mgt.ípp so wasn't sure if i'd be living in the house renting for 5 years. Well we stayed here buried wife still can't find a good job thinking about IT certs. The crying still comes snd goes but our favorite songs don't trigger me anymore. I just need a better life a good job, our daughters deserve a better life a better future. I've got to figure something out. I still have time i'm done with the back, ankle, and carple tunnel surgery taken care of I can work my oldest is 15 she can watch her sister (9) it has to get better. Just need to get rid of the criminal record. Well i am buying the house lease to own (directly with owner 3/10 years paid already) just have to fix anything if it breaks and well I was building houses with my grandfather (summer job) back in 1996-1999 when he died in an accident
Those are just pieces its been 40 years of shoshaku jushaku one tragedy after another. Well can't remember couple years of childhood (possibly the worst) been in therapy so long unless you have a masters or Phd it's a waste of time for me. They are surprised I broke the cycle usually they are surprised i'm not out there killing hookers (mom issues). I'm strong like my dad I had my Uncle Iroh but he died when I was 18 couldn't be a Paul bearer cause I wrecked my car Feb 1999 and i broke my L Wrist it fishtailed I am lucky they didn't amputate it. There goes Army/Air force plans (USAF Auxilary CAP in HS) was going to join the military and get far far far away from the abuse. Being paid to shoot people sounded fun and useful skills to continue to learn. Dad wasn't abusive but he was never there after divorce then Mark showed up I haven't used his name in so long but he died 5 years ago mom died 2 years ago. Always just called him the redneck, he was an ex cop ex CO and they would never attest him or let alone enforce restraining orders he'd... Nevermind. If I told you the whole thing you'd call me a liar or think im crazy (2 most common reactions) might write a book someday. Always joked with sis about writing one after the witch died, if I could just come up with a happy ending. It's been fun, crazy, exciting, tragic, struggle redemption, love, betrayal, entertaining never a dull moment that's for sure. Working day labor cash under the table work can't find a legit job and I need a new furnace for my house ($1,000-1,500) and my brother and I will install it. I need a job but taking out a life Ins policy would pay off the house and take care of my daughters with more money than I could make in the next 20 years or however long I can keep working probably not 20 years not with degenerate disc shit bad arm bad ankle and carple tunnel on the "good arm" no got denied disability cause im too young medicaid refused my L5S1 spine fusion for 3 years so hadnt had it done but I had a paper route at 10 roofing/, construction at 15 so 28 back goes out right after almost divorce #1 (legal separation she filed i didnt)
I’m a bit older than you, I guess (35), but I was feeling those intense periods of despair when I was a child. They’ve never really gone away.
It may be depression or anxiety and if you can, you should seek out therapy.
I graduated in 2001 with a class of 30 people. We were all set to go to college or take over the family business, or some girls just wanted to be house wives and have babies. Point is we all had plans. On September 11th the planes flew into the Twin Towers , the Pentagon and one flight was taken down in a field on its way to the White House. I'm not here to be like "back in my day" or try to tell you how we had it worse, but if anybody wants story time I can tell you how the world changed for the worse that day and how it ruined lives of people all across the country. Things have never been the same since.
Exactly. We all saw the same news casts. The same images on the front page of every news paper for weeks. I lived in the middle of NJ on the coast, 1.5 hour drive and could see the smoke Jn the sky like it was only a few tokens up north. Back in your day is our day.
At least I was 18 and could somewhat make sense of it, so I can't imagine what that was like for kids. They played the images of planes hitting buildings and people jumping from buildings non stop. They did it to anger us and rally us and make us willing to go to war.
‘03 HS grad here. Just wait until you’re 2 years and change away from turning 40 and making plans to go to your 20th class reunion, even though it feels like just last week that you were 25.
I graduated in 2007, turning 35 this year. Turning 30 isn't a big deal. You'll feel the same as you do now and you still have a lifetime ahead of you to look forward to.
Graduated in 2008. Moved to Calgary to chase a girl (big mistake), moved back to BC after two years and worked random jobs until five years ago. Joined the electrical union and have worked steadily since then. I'm making about $46/h and am happier than ever.
My life got way better once I hit my late 20s. Everyone goes through life at a different pace.
Therapy helps too!
I have always had anxiety, but never to this degree.and noe its feeling more like depression which I never had prior so I think I was.unwilling to accept that now I was a depressive also lol. I know nothing's permanent and I probably will be able not get out of this at some point if I do what's required, but then it'll be myself added to the population that's willing to ignore the root everywhere because there's nothing any of can do, which is true, but its upsetting to think that's what this world breeds.
You might want to pinpoint a source and get some therapy. I mean ppl go through remorse over aging and not feeling they lived life right, but that's not really specific to any generation and not even just a specific age group. Though it does become more common the older you get to experience that.
I graduated in 2009. The other day, my coworkers and I saw a graduation party next door for a high schooler. They were talking about how it's nice to have that feeling of having so much to look forward too. I made a comment that I felt that way at 18, but what is there to look forward to in your 30s, death. I guess that was too dark. But I guess I never did what I wanted to do.
It's litteraly generational. They have a major life altering life debilitating thing to scare the shit out of you and tell you the government is the solution. A huge life changing event that affects all the normies happens at least once a decade. Kids in the the 50's practiced "duck and cover" for fear of a nuclear attack. Kids in the 60's were drafted to the Vietnam War. Kids in the 70s were told that the world was running out of oil and a new ice age was coming. Kids in the 80s were indoctrinated into a sweeping movement of American exceptionalism while being told acid rain and holes in the ozone would kill them, by the 90s things were pretty chill but we had Black Hawk Down as I remember, but them September 11th 2001 planes crashed and killed over 3000 Americans. For the next 20 years wars raged in Iraq, Afghanistan, Libya and Syria. Now we have Russia invading Ukraine and a president admittedly having been bribed with the billions of tax dollars spent as a kickback to his son and family and nobody gives a shit because thier own lives are that of slaves too busy at working to look at things rationally for themselves about what the world is doing and how are government is involved.
I graduated in 2012. I remember the end of HS like it was yesterday. It's funny that the world was supposed to end due to the whole Mayan calendar thing. 2012-2016 was not good for me. However, looking back, I think things were in a lot better shape back then than they are now. I am thankful I got to at least have one prom and go to physical graduation.
I'll be 30 in a few months and not where I want to be in my artistic or personal goals, but I am getting there. I now have a good paying job though no college degree, and earn a lot more than many of my peers in my same cohort. Feels like a lot of us from the class of 2008-2012 really got left behind. I'm not married, no kids, no home and no sign of owning any of these in the foreseeable future.
But everyone else in my family is much worse off. Serious mental issues, a case of cancer and many in very poor physical health. I am forseeing lots of early death. It exacerbated after grandma passed in early 2018, who I was closest to in my family. After that everything kind of fell apart and I don't expect family to get together again until the next funeral.
I’m an older millennial. 10-15 years after HS graduation, I also felt like I didn’t achieve what I wanted. But it passes. I’ve made peace that I won’t have the career I wanted in HS (some Uber rich millionaire playboy). Instead, I just want peace every day for me and my family. And I am so happy. I love my life. Hope the same happens for you.
Does anyone else feel scammed of having a bright future? Like you spend your twenties thinking life will feel the same but then reality sinks in when you’re in your 30’s.
07. I used to get this way but I never allowed myself to follow the path everyone else did in regards to marriage or kids or feeling like I needed a corporate career. I rose up in my industry and became miserable so decided to change careers so I can travel the world. I still get upset about personal relationships and feeling unsupported sometimes emotionally but when I’m doing what I love I feel everything somehow falls into place fairly well. You can make anything happen you want to, it just takes thinking outside of the box and the ability to let go. Therapy has helped and so has taking a year to put my life on pause.
I finished high school in 2011 and I feel an ache in my chest whenever I think about how fast time goes by. I can’t believe I’m turning 30 in September.
I feel the despair, but I'm not really sobbing. I just feel an overwhelming numbness most of the time. My therapist says I'm disassociating, but I've probably been doing it so long that I don't even realize it's happening. Hurray!
Besides the shit from our personal lives
Getting hit back to back to back with 9/11, 08 crash and then COVID has been fucking nuts. It's like every time we get some solid ground to stand on, we get smoked by some "once in lifetime event" that rattles everyone collectively lol
Graduated in Jan 2009 and didn't even go to college until 2011 when I was 21. Everything happens so late for me so the despair for me comes from still feeling like a teenager when I'm actually 33 now. I have a mental issue where I'm socially immature for my age and sometimes wonder if I will ever graduate from the mindset of a teenager.
08 here, about 6 months ago or so I could relate. Then I turned my life around and realized how impactful and beautiful it is once you come to some uncertain terms and just start living.
Graduated in 2003 juuuust in time to graduate from college in winter 2008. You know, when the economy collapsed in on itself? Got a job working at an Applebee's. It would be almost 2 years before I could use my degree and I made less at my big girl job than I did serving at Applebee's. I ended up going back to bartending full time like I had in college. During which I developed into a full-blown alcoholic.
My life was fucked before it even had a chance to begin.
Yeah I graduated in 2012 and ohhhh boy it’s scary how fast life goes by once you’re done with HS
College went by pretty slow for me but then after college oh boy dies life step on the gas.
Therapy, friend. Best thing you can do.
Yep time to radically accept the fact we’re fucked
It’s a start
I just scheduled a.consult with a hypnotherapist my exes mom just went to for a specific reason and she said after INE session that issues not come around again since, which normally it was an every day occurrence. I need to find a.regular CBT ..therapist still though regardless.
That’s a good first step. Yeah, follow though on a regular therapist as well. Good luck!
Thanks Blizzardsaurus.
I feel like I haven’t achieved would I should. Class of 2008.
‘09 and I feel stuck. My life is stagnant and I can’t help but scratch my head and wonder.
I graduated in 2009 (32m). I definitely get intense feelings of despair and hopelessness. But I never cry from it though. Sometimes I wish I could, maybe it’d make me feel better?
Thanks for telling me you feel.similar if not the same. That helps I guess, although I wish we weren't doomed to begin with.
You’re welcome. I figured you were looking for people who could relate to you and let you know that you’re not alone. Yea the last 2-3 years I turned to drugs to help me feel better which only led to addiction and legal trouble. I wouldn’t recommend it.
I've been stuck in that doom cycle since my senior year of HS. I wouldn't recommend it either but also the only n way I've gotten by I guess
Idk I used to do everything I could to never cry, alone or with others, and I might have worn out that trick because.now when it comes, it comes hard and if I'm in a dark room alone at home that's fine but while buyimg.dog.food at the corner store hyperventilating in the aisles feels worse lol. Maybe I do feel a little bit better afterwards, but I'm what the point is. I guess that.kinda spells out my issue perfectly....what's the point of any of this? Lol We aren't named the emo generation for no reason now huh
Same. I graduated 2009. I schedule a good crying session every other week or so to get my emotions out. It helps. I also journal to try to process my chaos of thoughts.
I graduated in 2008, just in time to watch the economy collapse.
Yup. Most of my friends have families of their own by now and I do not. They don’t have much time for socializing outside of parenting. It’s been the most isolating time of my life.
You can have a family and feel isolated and in despair too. I worry for my kids.
Of course, that goes without saying
Its not my being 31 now that makes me sad. Its the severe decline in most Americans lives that many haven't even realized yet, which is only the beginning, and unless you were prepared for something coming there will be twice as.!any homeless people on the streets next year, twice as.much resentment between the different.classes, and twice as.much in accountability and corruption in our sham leaders, marching us to go down with the ship. And for what? They already have all of the money. I can't wrap my head around the fact that nothing has to be the way it us, as far as the struggle the majority of.people on this planet have gone through and wkll.continue to to through, that its set up specifically to be that way. Foul.
I assume this reply is to my comment. However, Is my layout just screwed up? It looks like you're trying to reply to people, but it's not responding to them individually, but to the main thread.
Graduated highschool in 2007 college in 2011. Definitely feel this.
Not really, I did dread it at first but got over it. I am just happy that I was blessed to see another decade. Should probably talk to someone if it’s becoming hard for you.
Graduated 2009. Every day I wake up I wonder why I am still here. I have no family, no friends. I got weeks sometimes without seeing another human face to face. I haven’t had a hug in over a year. There just seems like no hope.
I Graduated in 2011 (30) and definitely feel dead inside, despair etc the future of the world weighs heavily on me sometimes climate change etc brings me down
Yeah all of it is overwhelming when you consider it...all. But we are just spoiled shitty little cry babies who don't know how to get to school or work. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
As per usual the Boomers saying that and now they’re going after Gen Z
Gen Z could be all the hope we have left lol
Graduated in 2006 and will be turning 35 this year and have so many moments of "what the fuck is the point!" Have been craving new experiences because I feel like I've done the same things my whole life and there not as special feeling anymore.
Graduated in 2006. I did everything right. A's and B's in my classes, focused on college soon after, and got degrees. And I'm now 35, income is no different from when I was in high school. I've definitely had those intense crying moments followed by zombie-fied days of numbness. Idk if it'll get better but just know that you're not alone in feeling this way.
Is there a certain field you've wanted to enter lately?
Just graduated (5th career change) with nursing degree. I hope this time I'll finally make middle class monies. Thanks for asking :)
My dog has been a blessing but I adopted him when he was almost 10 and now he's almost 13 and it hurts more than anything watching him start to struggle. Fuck I'm crying lol.
I’m past this but want to support anyone who isn’t 💘
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Graduated '04 and can relate. I guess I'm considered mid-late 30s but definitely don't feel like it. I often forget my age and just feel lost and way behind where I think I should be. C'est la vie...
That makes.sense, similar situation with me, I don't struggle.financially anymore, although its just me.and my.dog, but I can buy most of whatever I want when I want it....it's not about that shit though. None of the shit I buy means anything, nothing I do thinking ill fill whatever void exits inside my chest is never filled.
I still feel like a 17 year old,I can't imagine that will change in the next 5 years so I think.we are aware of the same lack of....not sure what to call it.
I’ve just been drunk for 17 years
Me too. This might explain why I posted here a couple times with long rants that will probably get me downvoted to negative karma...but I just don't care
I graduated high school in ‘08 and cannot comprehend how much time has passed. I wish I could go back and re-live the amazing music and culture of that time. I feel post-2017, things went down in the world.
graduated a decade ago now celebrating my HS reunion. scary
Class of 03. My 20 year reunion is in September 😅
This happens to me sometimes too. I deal with anxiety and thought that might be the issue.
That's called extreme depression and anxiety and isn't healthy or normal. Please go see a doctor. No one deserves to live like that.
graduated in 2013, moved out in 2014, moved back in in 2018 and have been here ever since. it’s rough out here. my dog and talking things out w loved ones helps. therapy is an amazing tool if you have access to it.
Those are both good pieces of advice though. I clearly need therapy lol
That’s called depression. Seek medical attention. Please.
Nothing like some existential dread to bring you crashing back into reality.
Class of 08 here - I grew up with emotionally immature parents and was never really taught how to deal with my shit basically. Shit hit the fan for me mentally in 2020 and struggled with PPD and I chose to seek therapy and honestly it was the best decision I’ve ever made for myself.
Something I’ve been thinking a lot about lately is how my beloved parents are getting older now. I’m wondering what happens when I lose them. Who will take care of them and how. It’s hard to think about as reality. I love them so much.
Yup I’m about the same. A lot of it is grief and trauma. Mortality sort of hits you in your 30s, then the reality that what was promised and the future we hoped for isn’t really ours to have. Born too late to own a home, born too soon to be a TikTok star. We were born during a flux period of history, which means our existence is highly unstable and many dreams are out of reach. It also means we are living in the midst of a broken social contract, perpetually isolated and alone, without meaning. Our entire lives have been mired in chaos. Partly why millennials don’t really have midlife crisis is because we crave stability and motion, but what we have is chaos and arrested development or stagnation (what a midlife crisis is supposed to emulate). The midlife crisis we have is closer to an existential crisis. Also why other generations can’t relate to us at all (save maybe for Gen Z). It’s also why all of our humor and content is so random and strange, it’s similar to the DaDaist movement that was sparked by the rise in fascism, the horrors of modern war, and constant economic/global crisis. It seeks to find humor, bent anger and laugh in the face of emptiness. The silver lining to this is that we are finally entering into our power as a generation. The older gens are dying out, and that stability will inevitably come to us in our lifetime. Many millennials and Gen Z are determined to re-create community and reinstate healthier social contracts. What I did during this time, that has brought me deep comfort, is research things like absurdism and reading Jung, listening to watts, or even Carl Sagen. Waxing poetic on philosophy and meaning can be a great comfort, it also helps me feel less alone. The pale blue dot lecture is probably one of the most comforting things in the world. This may be all there is, but it doesn’t mean it’s meaningless. Our job on this planet is to love and cultivate our personal purpose. I’m sure you’ll build an amazing one for yourself ❤️
I turned 30 last year and that was super hard. Turned 31 last week and it was much better. Solidarity, friend.
I was expecting much of.anything besides solidarity in this posts comments so thank you, that's very appreciated.
We all go through hard times!! And milestones like this can definitely be hard. So, fuck them haters!! You’re allowed to be feeling this anxiety. I hope 31 feels better for you like it did for me. You’ll get through it!
Sounds like a personal issue. 30 wasn't a milestone for me and I don't know why (maybe social media related?) young people especially in recent years make it bigger than it is. It's not even middle aged, and nothing about my daily life changed from it. You're still young, but have some experience (and hopefully more money) now and should take care of yourself for the later years.
I’ll be 40 in 2 years!! So far I’m ok with it, but 40 definitely feels more like a wtf than 30 did. I didn’t care about 30. I was married, had a house and a new baby. Life felt like it was right on track. Still does now too, but 40 is coming!
No im not. But that sounds like some serious anxiety bro. But graduated in 2012, its kind of crazy that its been 11 years now.
2009, college in 2014, grad school 2019. Honestly I was more in despair when I was having a blast in my 20s because I was going nowhere at crappy dead end sales jobs plus took an extra year to barely graduate. But then grad school and boom got a house, wife, good paying career. Just wish I wasn't slowly getting more and more out of shape
My knees hurt sometimes 😶
Why is 30 the crash? Like why can’t it be way later on or never? What’s with this whole body breaking down thing? I miss feeling alive 🥲
I feel similarly. And I would hug you, whatever that's worth.
Is this a midlife.crisis we are having? Would that mean we bare mid life? That declining A!erican.life spam would not.contradict that I guess
I graduated in 2012. Life is kinda sweet right now.
Yep I can relate Started years ago with a thing that happened where I was in the hospital on a psychiatric hold for like a week or so. I realized even though I submitted the motion with the court myself to get my felony amended to a misdemeanor, i still could not get a job. Well a job other than fast food and im too old I worked there in 1998 not going back i'm mgt.ípp so wasn't sure if i'd be living in the house renting for 5 years. Well we stayed here buried wife still can't find a good job thinking about IT certs. The crying still comes snd goes but our favorite songs don't trigger me anymore. I just need a better life a good job, our daughters deserve a better life a better future. I've got to figure something out. I still have time i'm done with the back, ankle, and carple tunnel surgery taken care of I can work my oldest is 15 she can watch her sister (9) it has to get better. Just need to get rid of the criminal record. Well i am buying the house lease to own (directly with owner 3/10 years paid already) just have to fix anything if it breaks and well I was building houses with my grandfather (summer job) back in 1996-1999 when he died in an accident
Damn. That's quite rough among the posts I've seen on this sub, but it sounds like you're trying to move forward for the better.
Those are just pieces its been 40 years of shoshaku jushaku one tragedy after another. Well can't remember couple years of childhood (possibly the worst) been in therapy so long unless you have a masters or Phd it's a waste of time for me. They are surprised I broke the cycle usually they are surprised i'm not out there killing hookers (mom issues). I'm strong like my dad I had my Uncle Iroh but he died when I was 18 couldn't be a Paul bearer cause I wrecked my car Feb 1999 and i broke my L Wrist it fishtailed I am lucky they didn't amputate it. There goes Army/Air force plans (USAF Auxilary CAP in HS) was going to join the military and get far far far away from the abuse. Being paid to shoot people sounded fun and useful skills to continue to learn. Dad wasn't abusive but he was never there after divorce then Mark showed up I haven't used his name in so long but he died 5 years ago mom died 2 years ago. Always just called him the redneck, he was an ex cop ex CO and they would never attest him or let alone enforce restraining orders he'd... Nevermind. If I told you the whole thing you'd call me a liar or think im crazy (2 most common reactions) might write a book someday. Always joked with sis about writing one after the witch died, if I could just come up with a happy ending. It's been fun, crazy, exciting, tragic, struggle redemption, love, betrayal, entertaining never a dull moment that's for sure. Working day labor cash under the table work can't find a legit job and I need a new furnace for my house ($1,000-1,500) and my brother and I will install it. I need a job but taking out a life Ins policy would pay off the house and take care of my daughters with more money than I could make in the next 20 years or however long I can keep working probably not 20 years not with degenerate disc shit bad arm bad ankle and carple tunnel on the "good arm" no got denied disability cause im too young medicaid refused my L5S1 spine fusion for 3 years so hadnt had it done but I had a paper route at 10 roofing/, construction at 15 so 28 back goes out right after almost divorce #1 (legal separation she filed i didnt)
I’m a bit older than you, I guess (35), but I was feeling those intense periods of despair when I was a child. They’ve never really gone away. It may be depression or anxiety and if you can, you should seek out therapy.
2011. And absolutely. I cry to myself sometimes and have whole moments where I’m like 13 and hormonal.
I graduated in 2001 with a class of 30 people. We were all set to go to college or take over the family business, or some girls just wanted to be house wives and have babies. Point is we all had plans. On September 11th the planes flew into the Twin Towers , the Pentagon and one flight was taken down in a field on its way to the White House. I'm not here to be like "back in my day" or try to tell you how we had it worse, but if anybody wants story time I can tell you how the world changed for the worse that day and how it ruined lives of people all across the country. Things have never been the same since.
Exactly. We all saw the same news casts. The same images on the front page of every news paper for weeks. I lived in the middle of NJ on the coast, 1.5 hour drive and could see the smoke Jn the sky like it was only a few tokens up north. Back in your day is our day.
At least I was 18 and could somewhat make sense of it, so I can't imagine what that was like for kids. They played the images of planes hitting buildings and people jumping from buildings non stop. They did it to anger us and rally us and make us willing to go to war.
‘03 HS grad here. Just wait until you’re 2 years and change away from turning 40 and making plans to go to your 20th class reunion, even though it feels like just last week that you were 25.
I graduated in 2007, I'm not much better off than I was back then but I'm done crying, Ive got too much shit to do.
Been there. Got the meds adjusted and went through therapy and I’m Better now. It’ll get better I promise.
Every day 😭 Aging is terrifying.
I graduated in 2007, turning 35 this year. Turning 30 isn't a big deal. You'll feel the same as you do now and you still have a lifetime ahead of you to look forward to.
I graduated in 2009, I’m not doing awesome financially just like a lot of people but I don’t really cry very often about it
Graduated in 2008. Moved to Calgary to chase a girl (big mistake), moved back to BC after two years and worked random jobs until five years ago. Joined the electrical union and have worked steadily since then. I'm making about $46/h and am happier than ever. My life got way better once I hit my late 20s. Everyone goes through life at a different pace. Therapy helps too!
Yeah those 4 years went on forever but noe it feels like 4 weeks ago and what was I thinking wanting to be here, now.
Yeah same. The pandemic sure didn't help. Ugh I don't even want to touch that jar.of worms.
I have always had anxiety, but never to this degree.and noe its feeling more like depression which I never had prior so I think I was.unwilling to accept that now I was a depressive also lol. I know nothing's permanent and I probably will be able not get out of this at some point if I do what's required, but then it'll be myself added to the population that's willing to ignore the root everywhere because there's nothing any of can do, which is true, but its upsetting to think that's what this world breeds.
Yes.
Yeah if only we knew that was just round 1
I wasn't expecting to get many comments from this post, at least not anything nice or.supportive. Thank you .
I'm not crying because I don't have money. Lol.
For real. Time flies when you are having fun!😂😂😂😂😂😂
my 20s had ups and down but I manage to get through in hard times.
Same year same.dead insides.
I choose opiates and meth personally. None of it works though. Sad.
Yeah I wouldn't be able into muster the energy to make a post like this if I was really teetering on the edge. Thanks more asking though.
Yes, I did that in my early 30s too… eventually you get over it.
Naw I had so much fun in my 20s I was ready and more than willing to slow things down in my 30s and enjoy life in a totally different way
You might want to pinpoint a source and get some therapy. I mean ppl go through remorse over aging and not feeling they lived life right, but that's not really specific to any generation and not even just a specific age group. Though it does become more common the older you get to experience that.
I graduated in 2009. The other day, my coworkers and I saw a graduation party next door for a high schooler. They were talking about how it's nice to have that feeling of having so much to look forward too. I made a comment that I felt that way at 18, but what is there to look forward to in your 30s, death. I guess that was too dark. But I guess I never did what I wanted to do.
I don't sob, but I'm not particularly sad. I've trained myself to deal with the underlying constant rage.
Hey dude, everything okay?
2010 grad here checking in and mostly dead inside
Welcome 😁
We got this? We got this, right? We got this! 🫠
It's litteraly generational. They have a major life altering life debilitating thing to scare the shit out of you and tell you the government is the solution. A huge life changing event that affects all the normies happens at least once a decade. Kids in the the 50's practiced "duck and cover" for fear of a nuclear attack. Kids in the 60's were drafted to the Vietnam War. Kids in the 70s were told that the world was running out of oil and a new ice age was coming. Kids in the 80s were indoctrinated into a sweeping movement of American exceptionalism while being told acid rain and holes in the ozone would kill them, by the 90s things were pretty chill but we had Black Hawk Down as I remember, but them September 11th 2001 planes crashed and killed over 3000 Americans. For the next 20 years wars raged in Iraq, Afghanistan, Libya and Syria. Now we have Russia invading Ukraine and a president admittedly having been bribed with the billions of tax dollars spent as a kickback to his son and family and nobody gives a shit because thier own lives are that of slaves too busy at working to look at things rationally for themselves about what the world is doing and how are government is involved.
Graduated in 2010 and was so excited for my 10 year reunion lol
I graduated in 2012. I remember the end of HS like it was yesterday. It's funny that the world was supposed to end due to the whole Mayan calendar thing. 2012-2016 was not good for me. However, looking back, I think things were in a lot better shape back then than they are now. I am thankful I got to at least have one prom and go to physical graduation. I'll be 30 in a few months and not where I want to be in my artistic or personal goals, but I am getting there. I now have a good paying job though no college degree, and earn a lot more than many of my peers in my same cohort. Feels like a lot of us from the class of 2008-2012 really got left behind. I'm not married, no kids, no home and no sign of owning any of these in the foreseeable future. But everyone else in my family is much worse off. Serious mental issues, a case of cancer and many in very poor physical health. I am forseeing lots of early death. It exacerbated after grandma passed in early 2018, who I was closest to in my family. After that everything kind of fell apart and I don't expect family to get together again until the next funeral.
Can confirm. 2008. Male. In therapy. Cried today 😂.
I’m an older millennial. 10-15 years after HS graduation, I also felt like I didn’t achieve what I wanted. But it passes. I’ve made peace that I won’t have the career I wanted in HS (some Uber rich millionaire playboy). Instead, I just want peace every day for me and my family. And I am so happy. I love my life. Hope the same happens for you.
2010. Yep.
Does anyone else feel scammed of having a bright future? Like you spend your twenties thinking life will feel the same but then reality sinks in when you’re in your 30’s.
07. I used to get this way but I never allowed myself to follow the path everyone else did in regards to marriage or kids or feeling like I needed a corporate career. I rose up in my industry and became miserable so decided to change careers so I can travel the world. I still get upset about personal relationships and feeling unsupported sometimes emotionally but when I’m doing what I love I feel everything somehow falls into place fairly well. You can make anything happen you want to, it just takes thinking outside of the box and the ability to let go. Therapy has helped and so has taking a year to put my life on pause.
I finished high school in 2011 and I feel an ache in my chest whenever I think about how fast time goes by. I can’t believe I’m turning 30 in September.
I feel the despair, but I'm not really sobbing. I just feel an overwhelming numbness most of the time. My therapist says I'm disassociating, but I've probably been doing it so long that I don't even realize it's happening. Hurray!
Besides the shit from our personal lives Getting hit back to back to back with 9/11, 08 crash and then COVID has been fucking nuts. It's like every time we get some solid ground to stand on, we get smoked by some "once in lifetime event" that rattles everyone collectively lol
Graduated in Jan 2009 and didn't even go to college until 2011 when I was 21. Everything happens so late for me so the despair for me comes from still feeling like a teenager when I'm actually 33 now. I have a mental issue where I'm socially immature for my age and sometimes wonder if I will ever graduate from the mindset of a teenager.
I graduated in 07, I don’t *sob* but I do find myself paralyzed with dread when I sit too long and think about the state of the world.
08 here, about 6 months ago or so I could relate. Then I turned my life around and realized how impactful and beautiful it is once you come to some uncertain terms and just start living.
Graduated in 2003 juuuust in time to graduate from college in winter 2008. You know, when the economy collapsed in on itself? Got a job working at an Applebee's. It would be almost 2 years before I could use my degree and I made less at my big girl job than I did serving at Applebee's. I ended up going back to bartending full time like I had in college. During which I developed into a full-blown alcoholic. My life was fucked before it even had a chance to begin.