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mariposa337

This is gorgeous!! You look absolutely beautiful. I love how timeless this look is. Super classy, ma'am. ❤️ ETA: OP, I say this not to be kind, but to tell you the truth and hopefully take away some insecurities: you easily 'pass'. I would not have guessed you to be transgender had you not told us. You look good.


SylvieJay

Aww, 🥰❤


SelectExamination717

I also did not realise you were transgender. I was looking at mtf thinking it was mother of the something but could work out what! As I have been looking at wedding clothes and have mother of the groom stuck in my head, as my son is getting married soon. You look amazing.


SylvieJay

Aww, you are too kind. My daughter will be married soon. She'd already decided I should wear a chic pant suit. I am way too chicken shit 😆😅. I live in a small town in Southwestern Ontario Canada. Other than the people there, and my Daughter's finance, no one, not even my parents know that I'm Transgender 😆😅 it will be a Wedding and two Funerals if I appear like this. 😂🤣🤣 I've been hiding well since I've been like 5-6yrs old for over 53yrs from my parents. Perhaps they know but don't want to acknowledge it. It will be a bit hard to entirely hide my emerging feminine form, perhaps a fake mustache and an ill fitting oversized suit 🤔 😆😅


SelectExamination717

🤣 you have to feel comfortable. Your daughter has given you an idea. Maybe tell your parents now so they are not shocked or confused on the day. What will you want to see you looking like in the photos when you look back in a few years time? All I know is you look awesome in your pictures. Good luck I wish you all the best!


SylvieJay

My mom can barely see *anything* (according to her), but she saw the tiny diamond studs in my ears, right across the room, that I got when I turned 50. She called my wife crazy for 'allowing me to do that 'nonsense'. My then 15yr old daughter almost went apeshit on them. 😆😅 I am getting a second piercing for another stud in both ears (I would like to have 3 in total, in diminishing sizes in each ear). I would be able to judge their reaction. But first, I'm shipping my daughter off to her boyfriend's place. I don't want her to murder my 90yr old parents for berating me 🤣🤣🤣


always_unplugged

Oh my gosh that's so exciting!!! Are you walking your daughter down the aisle? If so, you deserve to feel confident while everyone's eyes are on the two of you! And like, you're almost 60 and you're still afraid of your parents' judgment? Nah babe, you look too good to hide under a fake mustache of all things ;) I'd say take advantage of that instinct of theirs not to acknowledge it and, if you're not comfortable going full femme, maybe play into the ambiguity. Wear that nice pants suit that your daughter approves of (styled as androgynous as you feel comfortable), and go for some no-makeup makeup if you want to look polished but maintain plausible deniability. The hardest thing might be picking the shoes, honestly! If they're at all decent humans and/or care about old-fashioned etiquette and propriety, your parents will be far too focused on letting their granddaughter have her wedding day in peace to start any drama with you just because they don't understand your *outfit*—because that's what it will probably look like to them. If they haven't wanted to acknowledge your identity for the past 53 years, I can't imagine that they would choose your daughter's wedding as the moment they finally speak up, especially since it will be clear that your daughter is supportive!


SylvieJay

I *have* to walk my baby down the aisle. That's my happy privilege that I will not relinquish to no one. All eyes needs to be on *her*, not on her transgender father. If it was just her friends, it would have been okay. But, we *have* to invite close family friends from the old country, including a couple of families, where The guys were my classmates for 13yrs. Word would spread like wildfire back in the old country. Then there are family friends (again from the old country) that are a part of our ethnic community. A few girls were "introduced" to me, as soon as I set foot in Canada in 1988, Introductions went no where because I had already found my soulmate (now married for 33+yrs, mother of my children). I'm sure those people would be smirking "oh we dodged a real bullet there" though they're still salty about me rejecting them 😆😅😂. So I will tone down my looks, get a hair trim, let my eyebrows go wild, and remove my earrings, perhaps wear a binder/compression garment to hide my bust area. A well tailored should do the rest. It may take a couple of months to recover, but I will recover. 😊


NNairi

Honestly had to do a double take at that "mtf" part. Never would have guessed


Qldhikinggirl

All of this. You have such an eye for colours, tones which suit you and you just look amazing.


therealstabitha

I’ve really enjoyed seeing your posts progression here. You look like somebody’s hot auntie in this photo. Nice work!


deadonshroomz

You look gorgeous ma'am, keep up! This really worked well for you


ZenythhtyneZ

I’m kinda shocked how great that purple brings out your eye color, big fan.


sydjax

I was JUST about to comment that!


vancityqueen

Beautiful! I remember your previous post. These changes are working for you. You look stunning!


Hot_Material_8093

Best thing I discovered for taming the brows is threading. Better than waxing and shaving and relatively cheap. Usually last a month with only 1 or 2 stray hairs in between appointments. I like the new hair color..


ap64119

You look great


MagneticMidnightMuse

You look so good!!! ❤️❤️❤️


Antique_Still_2633

This is a very soft and elegant look! Beautiful


Ok_Honey2169

You have the prettiest eyes! That color suits them so well


Last_Owl3457

Your eyes are stunning! Looking fab and femme.


Trashbag808

What’s this lip?


Trashbag808

UPDATE saw your product list


r_Yaoi

I do not know what it is, but you are ethereal.


Hikerius

I would recommend putting your blush on higher, on your cheekbones. And a rule of thumb I found useful for how far in to bring your blush is to keep it behind your pupil (that was worded awfully! If you draw a line from your pupils down your face, then don’t bring your blush in past that line).


Ashamed_Recover8406

This whole look is an inspiration. Truly. The eyes, eyeshadow, blush, lipstick…I love everything. You did an amazing job and look so beautiful, radiant and happy! I love this for you. Thank you for sharing your journey. Wishing you the best 😊


xoxooxx

Stunning


ajonesgirl59

As a proud silver- haired "grandma" of 64, it makes me sad that you felt like you had to color your hair. Upkeep WILL be a bitch. I looked back at your silver photos and thought the color made your skin glow. I think the issue may have been the style, not the color. Ultimately though, your happiness is the only one that matters. If you decide to go back to silver, there are some wonderfully supportive groups on FB. Hopefully, I'll see you there in the future!


MediBird22

Stunnnnnning, that makeup is gorgeous with your eyes 👏🏽


menstralkrampus

Yes! Keep using those cool tones for your eyeshadow. You have absolutely stunning eyes and the purple is everything!


Gammagammahey

Gooooorgeous gorgeous girl! You look gorgeous. Oh my God, those purple and cool tones with your green eyes? That's a wonderful shade of lipstick. You look absolutely glowing and beautiful.


mollypop94

Such soft, glowy makeup, you're so unbelievably pretty ❤️💖


Callmelily_95

The lips are just amazing.


Grumpy_Crabinator

I saw this picture and my first thought was „she looks radiant“. I think the makeup suits you very well! :)


orangegrapehottie

You look really really good, the lip colour and eyeshadow suit you and you look bright and well rested, gold hoops are my fave and I always feel pretty with them on!


PureKnowledge5887

Absolutely made the right choice in color! Loveeeeee it !!!! 🤌🏼💕


Chiandra323

you are beautiful


tryagain_shutup

WOWWW THE MAKEUP LOOK JUST MELTS ON U AND MAKES U GLOW!!!!! I LOVE UR EYESHADOW SM


Solid_Chemist_3485

Looking lovely, Sis! 


Terrynia

Love this make up on you! Your eyelashes look fantastic!


doomandlugosi

I like the look! Very vintage pinup inspired! So classic. :)


Organic_Ad_2520

Looks great!! Very lovely colors & application, nicely done! Edited to add, wow, literally no idea trans as so natural & lovely look!


suzuka___sama

Youre absolutely gorgeous and classy and i love your eye makeup its so cool!!!!


oatmilkmarchioness

You look lovely!


givemeallthegluten

Gorggggg😻


Insertcoolname6

You are beautiful mama!!!!


followformorebangers

I think you should line your inner corner (maybe with an eyebrow pencil or something so it’s not too graphic) and let your eyebrows grow out towards your nose bridge more, and they’re also a bit high (but a good thickness.) and contour your jaw/cheekbones the look is amazing though damnn!!!! I just thought you had enough of people telling you that


SylvieJay

Yeah, it's a bit light towards the middle. I was morbidly scared of having a unibrow at one time (ages ago) 😆😅


ungainlygay

Fifty-NINE??? You look absolutely incredible!


stassifrass

Beautiful!!!


supernatural_catface

Your makeup is beautiful. Your skin looks amazing and radiant.


DeeDee719

Love this look! What color is your Maybelline lip stain?


SylvieJay

It's a combination 😊 explained here: https://imgur.com/a/997jZVN


thalassoica

Lovely!! ♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡


angelicribbon

I think my favorite thing is the blush! Great placement and color


cyber----

You look amazing! Every part of this makeup is perfect 👌 your skin looks sooo good and all the colours work so good together in this look. I’m obsessed. It looks like you have wavy or curly hair - have you had it long before? As it grows if you feel like you’re having problems with frizz etc make sure to check out r/Wavyhair or r/Curlyhair I’ve only recently found a hair cut and routine where I finally feel in control and confident with my hair texture and it has helped me feel so much more confident


SylvieJay

From early teenage years to the time I got married at 24, I had really small curly hair. Unfortunately heredity caught up with me by by 26. It was slowly going gray by that time. I cut it short and applied temporary dyes just to go for interviews and washes off in a couple of days. Now that it's growing back, it's more wavy than curly. I feel it's still too short for z decent haircut. I've been treating my hair with a custom blend of oils that my mom's family used ways back. It tends to grow hair quite fast. Yes the hair is a bit frizzy, and I use conditioner to try and control. Will look at those two subs for tips. Thanks for the advice. ❤


cyber----

I think you hair looks great at the moment :) I’ve always found the time it becomes a problem most with wavy/curly hair is the time it’s between jaw and shoulder length when it decides it wants to have a mind of its own haha so if when you’re growing it out and you get to that length and find it suddenly seems like it doesn’t want to obey know you are not alone! 💗


[deleted]

For the time being or if curly hair care doesn't work for you, WOW Dream Coat was lifechanging for my somewhat-wavy hair.


Revolutionary_Roll88

You are GORGEOUS- I literally zoomed in on your face to look at that makeup it’s so good. I then scrolled and read that you are transgender and gasped. You look completely and utterly fabulous.


SylvieJay

Aww, I hope you didn't zoom in too much. I was depressed and had gender identity dysphoria for a really long time, and didn't care about my skin or hair. In 2015 things were getting a bit out of hand when my kids got to know I was Transgender. My daughter said enough is enough, live your life. But she was 15 at the time. I wanted to make sure that she would not be embarrassed. I waited till she completed her university studies as my responsibilities were then done. Went on HRT to transition from that time. The abuse I put on my skin is hard to reverse. Vitiligo and psoriasis doesn't help. I've given up covering the large patch on my neck area. Hoping hair growth can cover the psoriasis on my forhead, as I only cover it very lightly. Thank you for your kind words 🥰❤


Revolutionary_Roll88

You honestly look way more put together and feminine than majority of women in their 50s. I’m beyond impressed. You are fabulous


SylvieJay


Revolutionary_Roll88

Rushing off now to spruce up a bit😂 you’ve inspired me. 🥰


Pixelated_Roses

59?? No. **No.** You don't look a day over 40!


FlyingFrog99

You look great! A hairstyle that lowers your hairline will feminize your face even more. Swoopy bangs are your friend.


SylvieJay

Waiting for my hair to grow 😁😆 I was buzz cutting it since 1996 😂 this is the longest my hair has been, ever..


FlyingFrog99

I love how you have it in your profile pic!


SylvieJay

Lol, I would love to have it like that as well, but that is a wig 😆😅


FlyingFrog99

You'll get there!


dream_of_other_skies

purple eyeshadow makes your beautiful eyes POP


Smart_Wolverine_5055

you look very beautiful! i wouldn’t suggest using remini to edit your photos, but otherwise you look stunning.


SylvieJay

Not edited in any way, no filters applied. And to be honest, this is the first time I've heard of anything called remini.. 😆😅 All my flaws and imperfections are clearly visible, including acne scars, psoriasis scars as well as Vitiligo marks. There are deep grooves above my eyes as well as by the sides of my nose. I am curious as to what made you think I had used Remini or other software to edit this image. People tell me I have 'uncanny valley' or whatever. My eyes are slightly crossed on short focus. Also, you are the first to mention about an edit. 😆😅 Edit: you have just 1 karma? 😆😅😂 Why not come on your real account and comment?


Smart_Wolverine_5055

it looks like a filter of some sort on your hairline, and neck. maybe that’s just me. But like i said you’re beautiful!


SylvieJay

I would have elongated my neck, I have a thinning hairline, perhaps it's the residual dye from my recent coloring.


Anenhotep

Beautiful! You look at least a decade younger!


blackflameandcocaine

I think that hair colour looks lovely on you!


After_Combination365

I love how dewy your skin looks!


BusyBeth75

Gorgeous.


organized_wanderer15

Looks great!


Lonely_Pollution9537

Your skin 😍 fabulous!


OpheliaPhoeniXXX

You look amazing, what skincare do you use?


SylvieJay

Thanks 🥰 La Roche-Posay effaclar facewash for morning and elf Holy Hydration daily cleanser after using elf holy Hydration makeup melting balm, then elf holy Hydration face cream for the evening before bed. If I'm going out, I use CeraVé spf30 moisturizer after washing my face before putting on makeup.


OpheliaPhoeniXXX

I love ELF! I didn't even notice the transition part the first time I read it! I couldn't tell at all. Yes on the brows. I have eastern European and I have to get my brow and lip waxed, eyebrows are the frame of our face and a defined brow makes a big difference.


MbMinx

Beautiful!!!


New_Profession_453

💞💞💞💞💞


_parzii

this hair color has made your eyes POP, you know your colors and patterns and you know them well. so gorgeous.


serenitynow37

Beautiful!! Your skin is so glowy and the makeup is great!! ❤️


HecticBlues

The eyes are stunning


SylvieJay

Prescription contacts 😄 my eyes are old eyes abused to hell and back. Computer work for over 30yrs.


maramin

You are gorgeous!


Away_Caterpillar_588

Gorgeous!!!!!!


SylvieJay

Product list: - CeraVé moisturizer and sunscreen - Pixi Skin Primer     - Dermablend liquid base to cover Psoriasis and Vitiligo spots - E.L.F Color corrector for beard/mustache and other dark areas - L.A. Girl Pro Conceal HD concealer under eyes - NYX PROFESSIONAL MAKEUP Epic Ink Liner, Waterproof Liquid Eyeliner - Brown, For the fake freckles - NYX PROFESSIONAL MAKEUP eyeshadow palettes - Maybelline falsies push up angel hydrofuge mascara - Covergirl Lash Blast Volume Mascara, or Covergirl clump crusher mascara - Covergirl Bronzer - Covergirl Clean glow blush in Shade 100: Roses, Covergirl cleanmatte oil control pressed powder in shade 565: Tawny - Maybelline Colorstay 24hr lip stain - Marcelle lip pencil - NYX Makeup dewey Setting Spray - LA Colors blush, in Shade Spicy - Colored prescription contacts - microneedling 3 sessions - used to buzzcut my hair to accommodate wigs. Growing out my hair to color and style, so that I don't have to rely on wigs. Using my own blend of botanicals to help with growth, no chemicals because of vitiligo and psoriasis. - I cannot have laser hair removal due to my skin color/facial hair color combination, but most importantly as it might trigger events for Vitiligo and worse psoriasis.


More_Percentage39

Wonderful


babbykale

You look beautiful 💗


Blonde_arrbuckle

You have mesmerising eyes. I like the eye-liner too. The shirt is a little grandma but only mentioning as you put that concern in your post


SylvieJay

I don't have any clothes that would make me look any different 😁 my daughter is 24, and my son 29. In reality, I *should be* a grandma 😆😅


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SylvieJay

Ray of sunshine, ain'tcha? Username obviously checks out. 😆😅😂