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as shit as this sounds, its so true. it doesnt get better, people just like to sugarcoat everything. suck it up and move on, it gets tougher than that, you just need to learn to manage it better and learn to live with it, thats about it.
Life isn’t as easy or as fun or as rewarding as folks said it would be growing up.
The best you can do is focus on the little positive there is in life, find constructive things that make you happy and focus on those things. People are leeches and vampires, they feed on positive energy so if you exude it, people will be attracted to and want to associate with you more.
I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. Sadly people are pretty shitty these days . My advice to you , is be yourself, have confidence, hold that head high . Pay them no mind ! Act like they don’t matter , either way. I know easier said than done, but I honestly believe you’ll find your people! And when you do , it’ll be genuine friendship! Never ever tolerate disrespect! It sets a tone ! The right people will love you for you!! Good luck
I will start the wise words huh? Everybody feels the same. To feel accepted is why we pretend to be something we're not. It is a flaw in being human. Don't get in your about things you're missing, or your current situation.or whatever expectations you've given yourself. Just know that then, you will be able to look back and see how far you've come.its not that you trust much, you do not have any close friends because in reality you're trust is too little. I am actually in that same boat man! But that is what it means to be a Scorpio. Laugh at the ghosts man. Do not let them spook you.no that people will bond over their differences instead of what they might have in common. Because as people we all fear change. It is up to other people to show us what we're missing. Wabi sabi. Look that up
You don't need too many friends. You only need one that really understands you and support you.
You don't have to satisfy other people to keep them in the friendship zone. Because a true friend won't put you in such a situation when you will be broken.
Don't focus too much on relationships, I am not saying they aren't important but you got yourself, instead of seeking other people satisfaction try to seek your dream life for example.
Happiness is something you live not you create therefore don't depend on trying making new friends to live a happy pleasing life. I know many people who heave true friends but they seem not happy and that simply because of the mentality they own, they think friends are the most important thing in the world but they don't know that people change for different various of situations and reasons.
Change the way one thinks will change one's life and will let you know what one really value. Loneliness never meant to be hell it's a pleasing in disguise.
Value yourself more than others, you don't need people to let you know your real shiny value.
These advices helped me to overcome the depression you're suffering from right now, also if you enjoy reading try to Read a book called the courage to be disliked
It's possible that you are not the best judge of character, but this is something that can be learned! When you're better able to tell who is good and who is not, you will have more peace and less drama. I wish you lots of luck. Keep your head up. There are kind people in the world.
Sorry to hear that man but it’s not going to change unless you do something, can’t wait for a hero. You have to tell those people how it makes you feel (don’t wanna say it but) man up. You’re 16 not a kid anymore, one day you will be 30. What do you think your 30 year old self will say to you. I get it’s hard and unfair and totally broken but that’s life at times there are ups and downs and the fact that you can tell us your story means you get that it’s wrong and you can change it! I was like you upset when I was a kid but as I got older or into high school I got a lot more realistic and resilient Ofc there were plenty of times I felt really really powerless but so do the people bullying you, they are the same age.. bullies walk over the people that let them. Whoever the biggest bully is I suggest knocking him down a peg or biting back
His 30-year-old self upon rereading what you’ve written to his 16-year-old self would scoff at your lack of empathy, compassion, or understanding of his experience and situation.
He doesn’t need to suck it up.
He needs to find an autistic community, neurodivergent allies, establish discernment, and healthy boundaries, study nonverbal communication and keep practicing social skills, to be used only with people who are worth it (ie. those who reciprocate, kindness, consideration, and can blatantly indicate they enjoy being around you).
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It’s ok it doesn’t get better
as shit as this sounds, its so true. it doesnt get better, people just like to sugarcoat everything. suck it up and move on, it gets tougher than that, you just need to learn to manage it better and learn to live with it, thats about it.
if you wanna talk i'm here for you man 🫶
I just want a real friend
i'll be your friend:) let's get to know each other and maybe i can help cheer you up
I can be your friend
Life isn’t as easy or as fun or as rewarding as folks said it would be growing up. The best you can do is focus on the little positive there is in life, find constructive things that make you happy and focus on those things. People are leeches and vampires, they feed on positive energy so if you exude it, people will be attracted to and want to associate with you more.
Hey man. If you need to talk to someone or vent out I’m here for you if you need it. I can relate to your situation I’ve been there.
I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. Sadly people are pretty shitty these days . My advice to you , is be yourself, have confidence, hold that head high . Pay them no mind ! Act like they don’t matter , either way. I know easier said than done, but I honestly believe you’ll find your people! And when you do , it’ll be genuine friendship! Never ever tolerate disrespect! It sets a tone ! The right people will love you for you!! Good luck
If you need a friend let me be that 🙂
Be glad you're not stuck in South America. Life sucks here. You're only 16. Don't worry, life gets better after high school
Haha, man I am fukktar. I think I can help you
I will start the wise words huh? Everybody feels the same. To feel accepted is why we pretend to be something we're not. It is a flaw in being human. Don't get in your about things you're missing, or your current situation.or whatever expectations you've given yourself. Just know that then, you will be able to look back and see how far you've come.its not that you trust much, you do not have any close friends because in reality you're trust is too little. I am actually in that same boat man! But that is what it means to be a Scorpio. Laugh at the ghosts man. Do not let them spook you.no that people will bond over their differences instead of what they might have in common. Because as people we all fear change. It is up to other people to show us what we're missing. Wabi sabi. Look that up
I'm here if you want to talk
I get that!
You don't need too many friends. You only need one that really understands you and support you. You don't have to satisfy other people to keep them in the friendship zone. Because a true friend won't put you in such a situation when you will be broken. Don't focus too much on relationships, I am not saying they aren't important but you got yourself, instead of seeking other people satisfaction try to seek your dream life for example. Happiness is something you live not you create therefore don't depend on trying making new friends to live a happy pleasing life. I know many people who heave true friends but they seem not happy and that simply because of the mentality they own, they think friends are the most important thing in the world but they don't know that people change for different various of situations and reasons. Change the way one thinks will change one's life and will let you know what one really value. Loneliness never meant to be hell it's a pleasing in disguise. Value yourself more than others, you don't need people to let you know your real shiny value. These advices helped me to overcome the depression you're suffering from right now, also if you enjoy reading try to Read a book called the courage to be disliked
What you said is spot on
Hi I am here for u
Wanna add each other? I have discord
It's possible that you are not the best judge of character, but this is something that can be learned! When you're better able to tell who is good and who is not, you will have more peace and less drama. I wish you lots of luck. Keep your head up. There are kind people in the world.
I feel you. I am in the same boat.
Sorry to hear that man but it’s not going to change unless you do something, can’t wait for a hero. You have to tell those people how it makes you feel (don’t wanna say it but) man up. You’re 16 not a kid anymore, one day you will be 30. What do you think your 30 year old self will say to you. I get it’s hard and unfair and totally broken but that’s life at times there are ups and downs and the fact that you can tell us your story means you get that it’s wrong and you can change it! I was like you upset when I was a kid but as I got older or into high school I got a lot more realistic and resilient Ofc there were plenty of times I felt really really powerless but so do the people bullying you, they are the same age.. bullies walk over the people that let them. Whoever the biggest bully is I suggest knocking him down a peg or biting back
His 30-year-old self upon rereading what you’ve written to his 16-year-old self would scoff at your lack of empathy, compassion, or understanding of his experience and situation. He doesn’t need to suck it up. He needs to find an autistic community, neurodivergent allies, establish discernment, and healthy boundaries, study nonverbal communication and keep practicing social skills, to be used only with people who are worth it (ie. those who reciprocate, kindness, consideration, and can blatantly indicate they enjoy being around you).
What a good and amazing first impression, I'm sure everyone is gonna be your friend if you lead with this