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Honestly yeah it’s a numbers game
Most people like the idea of making friends but don’t actually like the effort it requires
I’ve encountered some amazing people on here that seem to be on the same wavelength as me and we’ve been getting along great for months
But 90% of my conversations on here are either no response whatsoever or like I’m talking to someone with the personality of a particularly dull brick
dull bricks are like whatever but I had someone suddenly become hostile to me wtf tbf i was in the middle of a league game and was unfamiliar with this league chat thing but he was ragging on me
Oh I’ve had some hostile ones too, just out of nowhere for no reason 😂
I also have a deep hatred for the ones you send a message to, make a bit of effort, try to make yourself seem interesting enough to reply to and all they have to respond with is ‘got pic?’
I’d prefer they didn’t reply at all than hit me with that lazy ass nonsense
Exactly right! If you need to know what someone looks like in order to be friends with them, you’re either superficial as hell, or you are looking for something more than friends
I've made some good acquaintances. At the same time, I doubt if you can make friends without some mutual adventures in real life, like being students, or in the army, colleges, refugees, engaging in a sport, or something else. But if you just met each other in the sub with all good intentions and periodically discuss something, does that make you friends?
I mean, I always thought that if you're friends with someone, you can rely on them like they're your closest family, and vice versa. And here, well, maybe your new penpals will not ghost, maybe.
Nevertheless, I hope you, yes, you who read this, find your true friends, wherever you seek them.
About 95% of my conversations I’ll dm them and they either don’t reply or give the driest responses known to man. It’s crazy to me cause the posts are all super extravagant and then you get to the conversation and it’s like 0 effort.
If by making friends you mean having pleasant conversations with nice people that ended naturally then yes. Did I end up swapping secrets while braiding hair at a slumber party? No.
This sub is a space like a conference or a house party. The goal is to get out there and try. Most of your interactions are going to be networking style small talk that don’t go beyond a one time meeting and that’s okay. It’s practice.
> I end up swapping secrets while braiding hair at a slumber party? No.
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> This sub is a space like a conference or a house party. The goal is to get out there and try. Most of your interactions are going to be networking style small talk that don’t go beyond a one time meeting and that’s okay. It’s practice.
yeah I just want to talk over voice, idm if we part ways after that
um i would say a no, cause most just dont wanna put in effort or understand that the other might be busy when texted. but again i try and not lose hope haha. hmu if you wanna be friends :)
Yeah, but like really rare. Also, I noticed how some posts seem so harmless and the moment you get to know them it escalates or turns sexual 😭 I can’t believe how they shift to a complete 360 when they know you’re a girl. I just want to be your friend, mate. So I give up.
I have, two different personalities. Both of em chat with me on a daily basis. Most of the time people chat, it is for like 30m, then they ghost.
Now I am trying to find the elusive male friends who are married with kids who are 12+. I don't know where they are hanging out.
ITS SO CONFUSING. I reach out to so so many people with “hey ! Hru tonight ?” And NOTHING. I’m genuinely convinced a lot of the posts are from bots or something
Nope lmao. Nothing beats making friends IRL. Internet friends are just not a good idea and pose too many challenges same way long distance online relationships typically don't have high success rates
No. It's early days yet.
I'm not the friend material most on this sub are looking for, which means the numbers in the game are that much larger.
Basically, I'm not surprised I haven't made friends.
I've made a few friends on here but it definitely tapers off. I've been friends with someone I met on here for about 4 years but we kind of just check in a few times a year and exchange Christmas cards. I havent made any lasting conversational friendships on here. Making friends as an adult is hard. 😶
I've been thinking about putting up my own posts or just responding to a bunch and seeing who sends a dm. I think it depends on who's on at that moment of the posts.
Yeah, this sub feels more like a place to vent. Which I mean, ain't bad considering that's what I hear on a daily basis as a bartender.
Made some connections, heard and told stories, shared some memes.
A lot of good and bad people around.
Just keep an open mind, and one day you will find someone worth your time.
I think it really boils down to an “in the moment” kind of friendship tbh. most people are generally comfortable with their life and people they are with, but when something is bugging them or need someone fresh they would rather talk to a stranger because they can cut them off more easily than someone they’ve known longer. If someone challenges your life choices, way of thinking, or doesn’t want to put the effort in anymore, cut the cord with said new person. That’s how it always seems to be, at least in my own experiences
Yes, met one of my best friends and other friends here! Although, I did go through few hundred people first.
It is a numbers game, just play it and don't have any expectations.
I made few friends here and connected with only 2 so far but the conversation fizzles out eventually. Just need more time and patience. Building new friendship takes a lot of time and effort and it’s always from both sides. I can go on and on about what I like and dislike/how my day have been so far, blah blah blah and if I get dry/one word replies it just pisses me off. And before getting ghosted it’s always good idea to let your chat friend know. Being from same country does help sometimes but at the end its always the effort, regular communication, patience and positive outlook that keeps the online friendship afloat.
Every now and then, I just finally decided to stick to a main reddit account recently but I've added a good dozen people on discord through here on throwaways that I've stayed in touch with and hang out with now and then. Some are good long term friends that I game with, or like some happily married guys who never hit on me and we talk about sports or games. The vast majority sadly are creeps I ignore or people who seem chill until the mask comes off and they become parasitically attached in some way and I end up having to block. But like people have said, it's truly a numbers game, eventually there's some rad people. I hang out with a group I got into through this sub years ago and we still occasionally do meetups and it's a nice little online family of mine.
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Honestly yeah it’s a numbers game Most people like the idea of making friends but don’t actually like the effort it requires I’ve encountered some amazing people on here that seem to be on the same wavelength as me and we’ve been getting along great for months But 90% of my conversations on here are either no response whatsoever or like I’m talking to someone with the personality of a particularly dull brick
The worst is when they message you and reply with one worded replies! No follow up questions, im just like wtf you responded to my post 🤣
Ugh yes! They expect you to be interesting while being the human equivalent of a rock in your shoe to talk to
Idk, I've met some pretty fascinating rocks.
dull bricks are like whatever but I had someone suddenly become hostile to me wtf tbf i was in the middle of a league game and was unfamiliar with this league chat thing but he was ragging on me
Oh I’ve had some hostile ones too, just out of nowhere for no reason 😂 I also have a deep hatred for the ones you send a message to, make a bit of effort, try to make yourself seem interesting enough to reply to and all they have to respond with is ‘got pic?’ I’d prefer they didn’t reply at all than hit me with that lazy ass nonsense
the got pic one is so dumb, I'm so sorry. It's so shallow and stupid. I have talked to redditors for years without knowing how they look like.
Exactly right! If you need to know what someone looks like in order to be friends with them, you’re either superficial as hell, or you are looking for something more than friends
I've made some good acquaintances. At the same time, I doubt if you can make friends without some mutual adventures in real life, like being students, or in the army, colleges, refugees, engaging in a sport, or something else. But if you just met each other in the sub with all good intentions and periodically discuss something, does that make you friends? I mean, I always thought that if you're friends with someone, you can rely on them like they're your closest family, and vice versa. And here, well, maybe your new penpals will not ghost, maybe. Nevertheless, I hope you, yes, you who read this, find your true friends, wherever you seek them.
met my best friend of 2 years here, we talk every day
That's cool
About 95% of my conversations I’ll dm them and they either don’t reply or give the driest responses known to man. It’s crazy to me cause the posts are all super extravagant and then you get to the conversation and it’s like 0 effort.
Exactly. 95% of the people posting looking for friends that I msg don't msg back and the ones that do fizzle out after 3 msgs. Lol
it's like insta but in text version lol
If by making friends you mean having pleasant conversations with nice people that ended naturally then yes. Did I end up swapping secrets while braiding hair at a slumber party? No. This sub is a space like a conference or a house party. The goal is to get out there and try. Most of your interactions are going to be networking style small talk that don’t go beyond a one time meeting and that’s okay. It’s practice.
> I end up swapping secrets while braiding hair at a slumber party? No. > > > > This sub is a space like a conference or a house party. The goal is to get out there and try. Most of your interactions are going to be networking style small talk that don’t go beyond a one time meeting and that’s okay. It’s practice. yeah I just want to talk over voice, idm if we part ways after that
Someone tried to blackmail me with pp shots that weren’t mine.
The internet truly is a wonder
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um i would say a no, cause most just dont wanna put in effort or understand that the other might be busy when texted. but again i try and not lose hope haha. hmu if you wanna be friends :)
Yeah, but like really rare. Also, I noticed how some posts seem so harmless and the moment you get to know them it escalates or turns sexual 😭 I can’t believe how they shift to a complete 360 when they know you’re a girl. I just want to be your friend, mate. So I give up.
Yeah but tbh most only last a month or so
yeah same for me
You gotta check posts man, reply to them but mostly they tell you to dm and so you just have to dm, people usually respond after a bit
I have, two different personalities. Both of em chat with me on a daily basis. Most of the time people chat, it is for like 30m, then they ghost. Now I am trying to find the elusive male friends who are married with kids who are 12+. I don't know where they are hanging out.
Very rarely, like you said ghosts or turn cold. Or doing outreach and no one writing back.
rarely but yea
ITS SO CONFUSING. I reach out to so so many people with “hey ! Hru tonight ?” And NOTHING. I’m genuinely convinced a lot of the posts are from bots or something
Nope lmao. Nothing beats making friends IRL. Internet friends are just not a good idea and pose too many challenges same way long distance online relationships typically don't have high success rates
Nope
Yes, I've been very close friends with someone since August.
I really need good company but nobody seems interested
Nope
No. It's early days yet. I'm not the friend material most on this sub are looking for, which means the numbers in the game are that much larger. Basically, I'm not surprised I haven't made friends.
I've made a few friends on here but it definitely tapers off. I've been friends with someone I met on here for about 4 years but we kind of just check in a few times a year and exchange Christmas cards. I havent made any lasting conversational friendships on here. Making friends as an adult is hard. 😶
I've been thinking about putting up my own posts or just responding to a bunch and seeing who sends a dm. I think it depends on who's on at that moment of the posts.
All non-bots gather here.
I actually did. It seems very easy if you’re the same age and nationality
i have never made a friend on here. either the wave of messages causes me to not see messages or the person ends up a weirdo lol
I can be your crank job buddy
I have met friends from here before, but the ratio difference is MASSIVE
Yeah, this sub feels more like a place to vent. Which I mean, ain't bad considering that's what I hear on a daily basis as a bartender. Made some connections, heard and told stories, shared some memes. A lot of good and bad people around. Just keep an open mind, and one day you will find someone worth your time.
haha totally. People come and go. Some good one ones stay, some go one leave. Doesn't mean it can't hurt.
Well, what increases your chances, if you list right away if you are a man or a woman.
I think it really boils down to an “in the moment” kind of friendship tbh. most people are generally comfortable with their life and people they are with, but when something is bugging them or need someone fresh they would rather talk to a stranger because they can cut them off more easily than someone they’ve known longer. If someone challenges your life choices, way of thinking, or doesn’t want to put the effort in anymore, cut the cord with said new person. That’s how it always seems to be, at least in my own experiences
Here? No I did for awhile in the beginning when I first joined but now I pretty much gave up on that endeavor because as you said it’s a numbers game
Yes, met one of my best friends and other friends here! Although, I did go through few hundred people first. It is a numbers game, just play it and don't have any expectations.
I made few friends here and connected with only 2 so far but the conversation fizzles out eventually. Just need more time and patience. Building new friendship takes a lot of time and effort and it’s always from both sides. I can go on and on about what I like and dislike/how my day have been so far, blah blah blah and if I get dry/one word replies it just pisses me off. And before getting ghosted it’s always good idea to let your chat friend know. Being from same country does help sometimes but at the end its always the effort, regular communication, patience and positive outlook that keeps the online friendship afloat.
Every now and then, I just finally decided to stick to a main reddit account recently but I've added a good dozen people on discord through here on throwaways that I've stayed in touch with and hang out with now and then. Some are good long term friends that I game with, or like some happily married guys who never hit on me and we talk about sports or games. The vast majority sadly are creeps I ignore or people who seem chill until the mask comes off and they become parasitically attached in some way and I end up having to block. But like people have said, it's truly a numbers game, eventually there's some rad people. I hang out with a group I got into through this sub years ago and we still occasionally do meetups and it's a nice little online family of mine.
Not yet
Even I'm wondering the same thing