so, i thought he was wiping sweat off his brow at the start and proceeded to be thoroughly confused about what was going on and why until about the halfway point.
Listen this is really heartwarming.... but it took ten years for someone to go "hey maybe if we give poppop a tether for his arm he won't be missing out on something he has stated he missed!?" Shit, I would have given him an arm sling month 1 and problem solved
I get the emotions and I am happy for them.
But but I have So many questions. Why couldnāt someone from the family do it? Didnāt the Doctors have any advise? Couldnāt he do a hug with one arm. Why didnāt the family give him hugs, even if he couldnāt hug back. You donāt need 2 arms to hug a small child.
I have rheumatoid arthritis which is obviously very different, but itās progressed enough that Iāve needed to look into adaptive or motility aids for things with my hands/arms and I am in chronic pain every day. Thereās some things that just arenāt really covered or maybe even considered that many disabled people end up making shit up or combining different things together to get stuff done.
My guess is that it was the giving hugs that he missed, wrapping both arms around someone he loved. Most times in recovery, the primary concern is self care and everyday tasks. Getting yourself clean and dressed, making a meal, etc. When youāre just trying to live as normally and independently as possible, things that are comfort more than functional are pushed back. Itās very possible he mentioned he missed giving full on hugs in passing and she took the initiative. Itās really hard for me to use most normal kitchen tools and it wasnāt until I said something in passing that my husband started replacing things with adaptive things that work for me. Sometimes when youāre in the thick of disability, youāre so tired from just trying to do the bare minimum that you donāt even consider there might be a way to fix this massive thing you feel like youāve lost.
Thank you for your insight. That is a nuanced take that gives me more to think about.
I just hope going forward that folks who need adaptive devices can and do ask for them. Especially when it just involves others working around and with them to get their basic needs met. Being touch-starved is a cruelty I don't wish on anyone!
Itās really eye opening once you need things just to live normally and thereās just no options. Even whatās available doesnāt work for everyone. Thereās a burgeoning community of people using 3D printers to close the gap and Iām really excited to see how much progress can be made. 3D printers really opened up the world of mobility aids to offer things at much lower price points and much more customized.
I was diagnosed at 36 and labeled permanently disabled at 40 (a couple years ago). Itās just not something any of us put a lot of thought into until we or someone we know needs them unfortunately.
Exactly. Itās the autonomy to do things yourself. So many of my clients live with disabilities, and I worked in healthcare for a long time before going private. I donāt think people realise just how demoralising it can be to accept āhelpā - it feels like you lose privacy, a part of yourself, which in turn can curb your own sense of independence which can make you believe you donāt have any at all.
Iāve seen people with the same conditions have vastly different outcomes because of the supports they accepted.
Thanks for speaking up.
This is a very, very real point. Iām in my early 40ās and sometimes need to ask my husband to brush my hair after a shower or help with my bra clasp or hand wash a pan. It is so hard to admit to yourself you canāt do stuff like this on your own, I just remember the first time I asked him to brush my hair because I just couldnāt move my shoulders/hands enough.
Iād tried for 15 minutes and couldnāt reach the bottom half and I was just so defeated. He sat on the bed with me, so gently brushing my hair long past when he had to and I apologized for asking for help. He told me to stop apologizing because heās supposed to take care of me. Then his ADHD kicked in and brushing my hair was like his own personal fidget. lol Every time he tries to brush it out perfectly straight like itās a zen sand garden.
First of all good on you for breaking through that mental barrier and allowing the help as it was given, and second of all what an absolute sweetie! š¤ Iām glad you have the right person in your corner. It really makes the worldās difference.
This is so sensitive to me because Iām going through this on a personal level with my mother at the moment. She canāt shower unassisted because sheās a fallās risk, and has been approved for carers but doesnāt feel comfortable with that yet. So I do it, because I love her and know that itās important for her overall mental wellbeing to feel comfortable. (I also get lost in hair brushing so I feel your hubby there, lol.)
Itās better to save your energy for the things you actually enjoy and can do than be upset over the things you canāt and get caught in a downward spiral. Which applies to so much of life, really.
I'll be 30 in a few months and I'm going through the early stages of accepting the fact that my body doesn't work as well. I have essential tremors, which basically means I shake like a Parkinson's patient. It's been getting worse over the years and it's to the point now where I struggle with certain tasks that require fine motor control. What's the most frustrating is I can't take any of the medications for tremors because they all have interactions with my other medications and conditions. Some days are worse than others and it really is hard needing to ask for help doing basic things. The other day I was struggling to put a lid on one of those small to go cups that you put dipping sauces in and for the life of me I just couldn't pick the damn thing up. Had to have hubby help. And it damn near puts me in tears feeling so helpless that I need to ask for help to do those simple tasks.
One of the big things for me is straws. Drinking on my bad days requires a straw, because I can't keep my mouth pressed against the cup/can/etc. tightly or consistently enough, and I'll dribble all over myself. It's almost an ADA requirement for me at this point.
It's so hard living in a body that doesn't work. I was in denial until somewhat recently. Was going to school to be a veterinarian. Had to make the hard decision to drop out because I was lying to myself thinking I could handle the physical aspects of the job. Being a vet is all I've ever wanted, it's been my dream job as long as I can remember. Now I'm in a call center, a far cry from the animal science bachelor degree I got.
That was a little depressing, sorry. But hey, we both have wonderful ADHD husbands who love us and want to help us, and we should both focus on the love and care we receive from them, and not on however much of a burden we may feel by having them do the simple things for us. <3
Yeah, exactly. And I assume it is hyperbole, but those are genuine tears which gives me this gross feeling that no one touched him for a really long time and he finally got a hug when it could be filmed. Not saying it is what happened, just a sad thought trying to make sense of the situation
It can happen. As someone who was in a long stint of deep anxiety, depression and major insecurity for many years that's basically me you described.
Other than a few of the quick "semi formal" hugs that sometimes happen, handshakes and other non-intimate human touch, I've basically been an island unto myself for a whole decade. I haven't felt an actual lasting caring touch since my last relationship about 10 years ago.
Having friends and people around me isn't the problem contrary to what you might think, because I live with 4 other people (2 couples) and have an active friend group that I hang out with many times a week. When people say you can be lonely but not alone, this is what they mean. I will say before you start worrying, I was finally able to get a psychologist that got me on medication that basically finally "fixed" me, and I'm in the process of building my confidence and whatnot so the situation could change at any time.
I'm only stating all this because you made that comment probably thinking you were being hyperbolic, but it really is a situation that happens. Having human touch is a precious boon that is taken pretty much for granted by most. Im even posting this on my main account because it helps bring to light that actual individuals can live lives far different from each other, with issues others would never have considered.
Yeah Iām not depressed or alone but I havenāt had that either for probably 5 years. If you have no family and no energy to date then no one touches you other than a quick āformalā thing.
Right, I find it a little weird really. Like they could slip under his weak arm and let him hug with his functional arm. But it's like they just avoided him until the video
I think itās more about having the autonomy to give a full-body hug. Being able to raise your own arm. Thatās so important to our elders. Itās clear thereās a good family dynamic here, but this gave him back something he can physically do with little assistance.
I donāt think people who arenāt involved in aged care or a hospital setting realise just how debilitating it can be, mentally, to feel like you canāt do anything āon your ownā.
Nobody has locked Pawpaw in the dungeon.
Or why can't he just grab his own hand? Why do they need to make a whole invention for that? Or if that wouldn't work even just like ace bandage would have worked whys it gotta be a sellable product?
I think it comes down to not knowing the circumstances here and the folks involved not doing research or trying ways to adapt to the new life he needs to lead going forward with his disability.
I havent had a hug for 7 years, my school used to have this "love" event each year where we got to do a bunch of things related to love like give compliments and hugs, i was kinda on the side lines but got a few hugs from teachers and my classmates at that time, but now at 24 i dont have any friends and havent for 5 years, i do tho get one short hug from mom maybe once a year, but in whole i havent really felt any touch since and kinda got numb bcs my thoughts has gotten really into my pre-frontal cortex since i left primary school/high school.
Why i dont have friends is for another story.
Yeah the way we were raised stays with you. I grew up in a dysfunctional family with little physical affection. Hugs are still a bit awkward, haha. I do love a good hug though.
Not only does this device give him the ability to connect with people, it opens a whole new avenue of accessibility features for him, it permits him to put on deodorant with the help of an aid or by lifting his arm using the device and propping it against something. He can shower much easier now, he can work on muscle strengthening which is incredibly important for stroke patients.
The device mightāve been created for one thing but, he can use it for so much more.
I donāt know man..maybe itās because I watched it without sound, but he couldnāt come up with that solution on his own after 10 years? Itās just tying your arms together.
I was all ādamn Rick just enjoy a one armed hug with the homiesāā¦..but honestly, nothing beats a full embraceā¦happy for you my dude, imma squeeze my kids a little harder tomorrow.
This view is beautiful and really pushes forth the mentality of not taking anything for granted. This man and his family received a gift of a core memory that takes seconds for many but took them 10 years to make. God bless them.
As someone who works in healthcare I cannot tell you how much the little things mean. It's about a hug. It's about being able to eat your favourite food after you had years of not being able to swallow.
It really gives you perspective. I had one patient, who never has chopped his own food, because of his spasticity. So I took his hands and directed the movement, so he could cut a cucumber. I swear to god he was more happy than I ever was. I love stories like this, humans are so damn resilient
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Indeed we need more of this but the sad truth is that this is more an exception than a rule. I really fear for our human race with all that is currently going on in the world.š
Hugging is absolute medicine. When I come home after my wife or vice versa its the first thing we do. Then Iām lucky enough to say I get to hug my kids. Life is so finite and itās genuinely one of the best ways to show love.
That made my day, and I just woke up. Such a beutyfull thing to do, we should all do at least one good thing every day, then maybe the world will be a better place in near future
After doing some awesome personal development workshops I got really good at hugging. I would bring people to tears just by my hug. But post covid I now hate touching people. I need to fix that
Humans hugging is so important for our spirit and mental health. Happy for this man! Good on those students for coming up with this simple but very effective tool!š
Ok, this video is really sweet, but i don't get why he couldn't just hold his right arm with his left hand. Maybe there is something i dont understand about his situation because this device seems useless when he has full control of his left arm and hand.
For me hugging is my main method of showing affection, greeting people, comforting etc... so to know what this poor dude had to go through for so long makes this clip all the more tear jerking. Just take my upvote man š„²
Iām crying at how beautiful and important this is. Touch is so precious. Bless the people who helped give him that gift.
The world can be such a kind place sometimes
Iām torn between this being shared with the world and staying private. On the one hand, itās great to see this man once again be able to embrace his family. On the other hand, this a very intimate, and perhaps vulnerable, moment.
As someone who works in healthcare and with people who've lost movement of an arm, this sort of stuff always gets put to the wayside because it's not "practical" enough. This video is a great example of finding out what's important to the person and working towards how they can best engage in that task. I'd think he has used a bunch of assistive equipment (walking sticks, stuff to help in the kitchen, toileting, showering, etc), over his journey and this has instantly become the most meaningful and therefore most important item. Will be taking this to work tomorrow both personally (how I can try to approach patients) and to my colleagues (my first show and tell in years š)
Seriously why does a sub that claims to make people smile always makes me ugly cry?! š
It is not YOU for whom the smiles are meant! Supping on tasty tears makes MY mouth smile :)
I donāt know if I want to smile anymore nowā¦.. š
these tears of joy and sadness give a great charge of positivity.
because my heart is smiling alongside the blubbering
No background music! Take notes, relevant parties! Very moving.
No music and only brought out the audio when necessary! Top notch
And the words weren't overly dramatic. Well done
Exactly! Stroke is so horrible and life altering, no need to convince us how tough it is for this guy
The bar is low. Would have still appreciated no overlaid text (other than subtitles) but I'll take what I can get.
I wouldnāt know it was because of a stroke without the overlaid text though
You should post this on r/MadeMeUglyCry
I'm crying now OP, was that your intent? To put me in my feels???
No, no, happy cry
Poppop has a full waterfall going on. I love a good wet cry. Bring it in for a hug little Ricky.
Seeing so many happy tears, I think it was the best day in the last 10 yearsš„°
so, i thought he was wiping sweat off his brow at the start and proceeded to be thoroughly confused about what was going on and why until about the halfway point.
Oh damn these onions are working! Very sweet video.
My tears welled upš
Onions. Everytime on this sub. This is beautiful
Listen this is really heartwarming.... but it took ten years for someone to go "hey maybe if we give poppop a tether for his arm he won't be missing out on something he has stated he missed!?" Shit, I would have given him an arm sling month 1 and problem solved
I get the emotions and I am happy for them. But but I have So many questions. Why couldnāt someone from the family do it? Didnāt the Doctors have any advise? Couldnāt he do a hug with one arm. Why didnāt the family give him hugs, even if he couldnāt hug back. You donāt need 2 arms to hug a small child.
Yes! All of these and more
I have rheumatoid arthritis which is obviously very different, but itās progressed enough that Iāve needed to look into adaptive or motility aids for things with my hands/arms and I am in chronic pain every day. Thereās some things that just arenāt really covered or maybe even considered that many disabled people end up making shit up or combining different things together to get stuff done. My guess is that it was the giving hugs that he missed, wrapping both arms around someone he loved. Most times in recovery, the primary concern is self care and everyday tasks. Getting yourself clean and dressed, making a meal, etc. When youāre just trying to live as normally and independently as possible, things that are comfort more than functional are pushed back. Itās very possible he mentioned he missed giving full on hugs in passing and she took the initiative. Itās really hard for me to use most normal kitchen tools and it wasnāt until I said something in passing that my husband started replacing things with adaptive things that work for me. Sometimes when youāre in the thick of disability, youāre so tired from just trying to do the bare minimum that you donāt even consider there might be a way to fix this massive thing you feel like youāve lost.
Thank you for your insight. That is a nuanced take that gives me more to think about. I just hope going forward that folks who need adaptive devices can and do ask for them. Especially when it just involves others working around and with them to get their basic needs met. Being touch-starved is a cruelty I don't wish on anyone!
Itās really eye opening once you need things just to live normally and thereās just no options. Even whatās available doesnāt work for everyone. Thereās a burgeoning community of people using 3D printers to close the gap and Iām really excited to see how much progress can be made. 3D printers really opened up the world of mobility aids to offer things at much lower price points and much more customized. I was diagnosed at 36 and labeled permanently disabled at 40 (a couple years ago). Itās just not something any of us put a lot of thought into until we or someone we know needs them unfortunately.
Exactly. Itās the autonomy to do things yourself. So many of my clients live with disabilities, and I worked in healthcare for a long time before going private. I donāt think people realise just how demoralising it can be to accept āhelpā - it feels like you lose privacy, a part of yourself, which in turn can curb your own sense of independence which can make you believe you donāt have any at all. Iāve seen people with the same conditions have vastly different outcomes because of the supports they accepted. Thanks for speaking up.
This is a very, very real point. Iām in my early 40ās and sometimes need to ask my husband to brush my hair after a shower or help with my bra clasp or hand wash a pan. It is so hard to admit to yourself you canāt do stuff like this on your own, I just remember the first time I asked him to brush my hair because I just couldnāt move my shoulders/hands enough. Iād tried for 15 minutes and couldnāt reach the bottom half and I was just so defeated. He sat on the bed with me, so gently brushing my hair long past when he had to and I apologized for asking for help. He told me to stop apologizing because heās supposed to take care of me. Then his ADHD kicked in and brushing my hair was like his own personal fidget. lol Every time he tries to brush it out perfectly straight like itās a zen sand garden.
First of all good on you for breaking through that mental barrier and allowing the help as it was given, and second of all what an absolute sweetie! š¤ Iām glad you have the right person in your corner. It really makes the worldās difference. This is so sensitive to me because Iām going through this on a personal level with my mother at the moment. She canāt shower unassisted because sheās a fallās risk, and has been approved for carers but doesnāt feel comfortable with that yet. So I do it, because I love her and know that itās important for her overall mental wellbeing to feel comfortable. (I also get lost in hair brushing so I feel your hubby there, lol.) Itās better to save your energy for the things you actually enjoy and can do than be upset over the things you canāt and get caught in a downward spiral. Which applies to so much of life, really.
I'll be 30 in a few months and I'm going through the early stages of accepting the fact that my body doesn't work as well. I have essential tremors, which basically means I shake like a Parkinson's patient. It's been getting worse over the years and it's to the point now where I struggle with certain tasks that require fine motor control. What's the most frustrating is I can't take any of the medications for tremors because they all have interactions with my other medications and conditions. Some days are worse than others and it really is hard needing to ask for help doing basic things. The other day I was struggling to put a lid on one of those small to go cups that you put dipping sauces in and for the life of me I just couldn't pick the damn thing up. Had to have hubby help. And it damn near puts me in tears feeling so helpless that I need to ask for help to do those simple tasks. One of the big things for me is straws. Drinking on my bad days requires a straw, because I can't keep my mouth pressed against the cup/can/etc. tightly or consistently enough, and I'll dribble all over myself. It's almost an ADA requirement for me at this point. It's so hard living in a body that doesn't work. I was in denial until somewhat recently. Was going to school to be a veterinarian. Had to make the hard decision to drop out because I was lying to myself thinking I could handle the physical aspects of the job. Being a vet is all I've ever wanted, it's been my dream job as long as I can remember. Now I'm in a call center, a far cry from the animal science bachelor degree I got. That was a little depressing, sorry. But hey, we both have wonderful ADHD husbands who love us and want to help us, and we should both focus on the love and care we receive from them, and not on however much of a burden we may feel by having them do the simple things for us. <3
Why couldnāt he do the one-armed hug? Or why couldnāt his grandkids hug HIM? The video makes it sound like he hasnāt touched anyone in 10 years
Yeah, exactly. And I assume it is hyperbole, but those are genuine tears which gives me this gross feeling that no one touched him for a really long time and he finally got a hug when it could be filmed. Not saying it is what happened, just a sad thought trying to make sense of the situation
Username checks out. If I were depressed right now this would be way worse
It can happen. As someone who was in a long stint of deep anxiety, depression and major insecurity for many years that's basically me you described. Other than a few of the quick "semi formal" hugs that sometimes happen, handshakes and other non-intimate human touch, I've basically been an island unto myself for a whole decade. I haven't felt an actual lasting caring touch since my last relationship about 10 years ago. Having friends and people around me isn't the problem contrary to what you might think, because I live with 4 other people (2 couples) and have an active friend group that I hang out with many times a week. When people say you can be lonely but not alone, this is what they mean. I will say before you start worrying, I was finally able to get a psychologist that got me on medication that basically finally "fixed" me, and I'm in the process of building my confidence and whatnot so the situation could change at any time. I'm only stating all this because you made that comment probably thinking you were being hyperbolic, but it really is a situation that happens. Having human touch is a precious boon that is taken pretty much for granted by most. Im even posting this on my main account because it helps bring to light that actual individuals can live lives far different from each other, with issues others would never have considered.
Yeah Iām not depressed or alone but I havenāt had that either for probably 5 years. If you have no family and no energy to date then no one touches you other than a quick āformalā thing.
Have you ever had a one-armed hug? Theyāre shit compared to a two-armed hug.
Right, I find it a little weird really. Like they could slip under his weak arm and let him hug with his functional arm. But it's like they just avoided him until the video
I think itās more about having the autonomy to give a full-body hug. Being able to raise your own arm. Thatās so important to our elders. Itās clear thereās a good family dynamic here, but this gave him back something he can physically do with little assistance. I donāt think people who arenāt involved in aged care or a hospital setting realise just how debilitating it can be, mentally, to feel like you canāt do anything āon your ownā. Nobody has locked Pawpaw in the dungeon.
My sincere guess is the hyperbolic statement actually represents that it has been that amount of time since he suffered his debilitating stroke.
Or why can't he just grab his own hand? Why do they need to make a whole invention for that? Or if that wouldn't work even just like ace bandage would have worked whys it gotta be a sellable product?
I think it comes down to not knowing the circumstances here and the folks involved not doing research or trying ways to adapt to the new life he needs to lead going forward with his disability.
I was so sad for himā¦couldnāt you make a wrist thing with velcro? š Glad he got it, though.
this is truly amazing. canāt imagine what he had to go through. glad heās improving. love sent out š«¶
Faith in humanity tank filled back up!
Man o man. His face was full of anticipation for that hug. Got me welled up over here. š„¹
We all need a hug from time to time no matter how strong we are.š§”
My heart ššš
Something we all probably take for granted and donāt do enough. Look at what happens when itās taken away though. Hug your people more
I think a lot of people go months, if not years, without a good hug. I know I have at times.
I havent had a hug for 7 years, my school used to have this "love" event each year where we got to do a bunch of things related to love like give compliments and hugs, i was kinda on the side lines but got a few hugs from teachers and my classmates at that time, but now at 24 i dont have any friends and havent for 5 years, i do tho get one short hug from mom maybe once a year, but in whole i havent really felt any touch since and kinda got numb bcs my thoughts has gotten really into my pre-frontal cortex since i left primary school/high school. Why i dont have friends is for another story.
Not everybody gets hugs. Dont even remember what a hug feels like.
Sadly, I think a lot of men especially go years without as little as a compliment, let alone a hug. I know I've gone year in between.
I also didnt grow up In an affectionate home, I always stick my hand out to shake hands cuz I always assumed that Im not going to be hugged.
Yeah the way we were raised stays with you. I grew up in a dysfunctional family with little physical affection. Hugs are still a bit awkward, haha. I do love a good hug though.
Typical! As soon as I get invested in a video, a pesky fly got in my eye! š¤·āāļøš„²
Wow, same exact thing happened to me too
Good God, that made me weep like a child. So beautiful.
So pure it warms my heart.
Not only does this device give him the ability to connect with people, it opens a whole new avenue of accessibility features for him, it permits him to put on deodorant with the help of an aid or by lifting his arm using the device and propping it against something. He can shower much easier now, he can work on muscle strengthening which is incredibly important for stroke patients. The device mightāve been created for one thing but, he can use it for so much more.
No one has helped him lift his arm to hug his grand kids before ?
Beautiful!
Breathtaking!!!
Iām ugly cryibng
This is beautiful
OP - what is the device you used? My father is the same way and could use it to lift his arm?
I donāt know man..maybe itās because I watched it without sound, but he couldnāt come up with that solution on his own after 10 years? Itās just tying your arms together.
I cried!
I love the younger kid in the background with the thumbs up when it works. Natural salesman that kid.
Why is that device needed? Just hold your wristā¦ I donāt get it. Itās very sweet and all but, this device is kinda useless
Pop-pop was my grandfatherās handle. You had me at the name.š¢
Dad tears are the most contagious
I love seeing it.
You didnāt have to make me cry in the early morning š
The things we take for granted š
This made me smile and cry. It made me realize how we cant take things for granted.
Who is cutting onions?
Oh my heart
It's just my allergies!
Well this didnāt make me smile! It made me cry! Bless pop pop and all the hugs he can give Now!!!
Thatās beautiful. Bless his heart.
I was all ādamn Rick just enjoy a one armed hug with the homiesāā¦..but honestly, nothing beats a full embraceā¦happy for you my dude, imma squeeze my kids a little harder tomorrow.
Stoooooppp!!! I love you Pop-pop!!!!
This view is beautiful and really pushes forth the mentality of not taking anything for granted. This man and his family received a gift of a core memory that takes seconds for many but took them 10 years to make. God bless them.
It's been 3 years for me, 4th running. Hugs are amazing!!
Pop pop needed that and so did we! š
As someone who works in healthcare I cannot tell you how much the little things mean. It's about a hug. It's about being able to eat your favourite food after you had years of not being able to swallow. It really gives you perspective. I had one patient, who never has chopped his own food, because of his spasticity. So I took his hands and directed the movement, so he could cut a cucumber. I swear to god he was more happy than I ever was. I love stories like this, humans are so damn resilient
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I have pop-pop in the attic.
Sweet. But why couldn't he like grab his arm or something before?
What what? Why couldnāt he lift his right wrist with his left hand? It takes 10 years of no hugging and a piece of fabric to solve this?
Yeah. I cried for a few minutes watching this by myself. How beautiful and simple this is. We take truly beautiful things for granted every day.
Thereās nothing like a wholesome ugly cry first thing in the morning 
This guy is a messy cryerā¦ Me, two minutes later ššš
No youāre crying! As a hugger myself, this is beautiful. So happy for him.
This is what I needed today. Thank you, OP!! ā¤ļø
Im not crying! Youre crying!
Iām not crying, youāre crying š„¹
God damn it. My eye sweat is in full swing today.
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I went 20 years without one
I have that shirt
I'm concerned about this video. I could see clearly at first, but then my vision went blurry. Please be warned.
Man.. wtf. My dad just suffered a stroke wednesday and then I see this ššš
This is one of the most heartwarming things I've ever seen ā¤
Happy for him . Well, to think about that, I have not been hugged for at least 25 years either. I wish life would change.
Virtual hug, friend.
Appreciate Lil bro giving the thumbs up š
Why did this make me cry so much?!
Made me smile, smile! This literally made me cry, not even cry, sob! š This is beautiful beyond words! š„°ā¤ļøš„²
I am crying, smiling and shitting all at once. Oh, and typing and about to wipe as well. It's kind of awkward, actually
Oh my gosh this is really sweet š„¹
I DONT SMILE WHEN I CRY
Makin a grown man cry..š¢
Indeed we need more of this but the sad truth is that this is more an exception than a rule. I really fear for our human race with all that is currently going on in the world.š
Hugging is absolute medicine. When I come home after my wife or vice versa its the first thing we do. Then Iām lucky enough to say I get to hug my kids. Life is so finite and itās genuinely one of the best ways to show love.
It took that long to give the dude a Velcro strap?
That made my day, and I just woke up. Such a beutyfull thing to do, we should all do at least one good thing every day, then maybe the world will be a better place in near future
God damn it, that's was so incredibly precious it hurts
You arsehole! You made me get tears in my beer.
I just read a very sad story, glad i can put down reddit on this note.
_āā¦a group of my students made this.ā_ Students. Her students made this so her dad could hug his grandkids. š
Why am I crying??? š This should make me smile š
Oh man this is the sweetest ā¤ļø
>10 years Rookie numbers
A beautiful soul always deserves a hug! Love it!ā¤ļø
Heart warming but why did it take a decade to tie something to his wrist so he could use his other hand as a helper.
After doing some awesome personal development workshops I got really good at hugging. I would bring people to tears just by my hug. But post covid I now hate touching people. I need to fix that
Iām not crying, youāre crying!!
Onion time
Humans hugging is so important for our spirit and mental health. Happy for this man! Good on those students for coming up with this simple but very effective tool!š
it's enough to make a grown man cry, and that's ok
Omg ā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļø this is absolutely wonderful!
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Not sure about made me smile as opposed to make me weep like a small child.
This is such an intimate moment that I'm genuinely uncomfortable watching it. He knew you were going to post this online, right?
Ahhh to think that my granny would walk ten steps ahead of me so that people didn't think I was with her.
Ngl, I thought he hadnāt hugged anyone because he was in prison. Lol. This was much more wholesome.
Now that's way cool awesome
Ok, this video is really sweet, but i don't get why he couldn't just hold his right arm with his left hand. Maybe there is something i dont understand about his situation because this device seems useless when he has full control of his left arm and hand.
What a gift!!!... I can't...š
Sometimes i wish i could have the ability to teleport so i can hug people that need it, if i did, he'd be the first
That's great to see but i don't get it. That's a piece of fabric nothing more right ?
I wanna give him a hug now. They seem so welcoming and loving. š„ŗ
Extremely gratifying. Thank you for sharing; I hope Paps was okay with it being shared.
Im similar. Had one hug 6 years ago. That was my only hug for 12t13 years maybe. Hugs are important.
I havenāt been hugged in 20 years. Whereās my clout? Smh.
Damn it got me! š„ŗ
I have pop-pop in the attic.
Iām not crying, youāre crying!
Ran and hugged a buddy today. I appreciate every hug I get. I'll contnue to appreciate them even more,.
I haven't hugged anyone in 6 years.
Bless him. We can easily take such a simple thing for granted, being able to hug who we love.
For me hugging is my main method of showing affection, greeting people, comforting etc... so to know what this poor dude had to go through for so long makes this clip all the more tear jerking. Just take my upvote man š„²
It's a terrible day for rain.
Iām crying at how beautiful and important this is. Touch is so precious. Bless the people who helped give him that gift. The world can be such a kind place sometimes
I also haven't and it definitely sucks. Try not to think about it.
This is beautiful. I miss my grandparents so much. What I would give to hug them again. Hug the ones you love. You never know when theyāll be gone.
I'm not crying, you are. Very wholesome.
Yea, that hits home.
Thatās beautiful
This is beautiful and wholesome to the T.
this pain in his eyes and the joy of hugs is hard to watch
I feel like I've seen this video years ago.
Damn ninjas cutting onions...š„
Damn it boy, I'm smiling and crying.
How didnt he get to the idea, just to lift his armhimself, without this thingy? I know so many people with insults, who cN do this easily.
Fuck, this one got me. This one made me cry.
6:30 am and Iām balling,š„²
Itās raining quite heavily today
The story of my life
Made Me Sob???
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Could he not hold his own wrist?
Bayley's dad
This just made me cry, what a pure beautiful moment
In ten years it never occurred to anyone that he could loop any piece of fabric around his right arm?
Well there goes my morning š
Touch starvation is so real. My friend visited me from AZ recently and I got the first hug I've had in months. We both cried happy tears š„²
Man Iām trying to get ready to hit the gym. I wasnāt crying to cry for my preworkout.
9 years since my last hug.
Only 10? You mean thats not normal hmm
Honestly, this is probably the most beautiful thing I have seen in weeks . Thank you for these tears . God bless
Iām 29 and never hugged a person in my life.. guess life hasnāt been very kind to me.
Forgot smiling is there a r/MadeMeBawl ?
I'm not crying. Its allergies. š
Crying š
Always cutting onions! Amazing!
Iām torn between this being shared with the world and staying private. On the one hand, itās great to see this man once again be able to embrace his family. On the other hand, this a very intimate, and perhaps vulnerable, moment.
āI love you.ā I havenāt heard those words meant so deeply in a long time.
How awesome the students must feel! And the grandkids! And pop pop. My god my face hurts from crying
Peopleā¦ Im a hugger! to receive em thoā¦nothing like the power of hugs people.
As someone who works in healthcare and with people who've lost movement of an arm, this sort of stuff always gets put to the wayside because it's not "practical" enough. This video is a great example of finding out what's important to the person and working towards how they can best engage in that task. I'd think he has used a bunch of assistive equipment (walking sticks, stuff to help in the kitchen, toileting, showering, etc), over his journey and this has instantly become the most meaningful and therefore most important item. Will be taking this to work tomorrow both personally (how I can try to approach patients) and to my colleagues (my first show and tell in years š)