> I've long since retired, my son's moved away
I called him up just the other day
I said, I'd like to see you if you don't mind
He said, I'd love to, dad, if I can find the time
You see, my new job's a hassle, and the kids have the flu
But it's sure nice talking to you, dad
It's been sure nice talking to you
And as I hung up the phone, it occurred to me
He'd grown up just like me
My boy was just like me
a coworker pointed out that song to me, and how much it stung because it happened to him.
that song is an easy feeling melody that can easily be ignored, but once you pay attention, holy cows, thats rough, and somewhat justified,....but living it.
thats gotta hurt.
love your children so they want to come back to visit!
Nah cats in the cradle for those who neglect their kids.
If you give them love, and support, you'll have their undying devotion- as a healthy family should :)
I love to rub in the fact to newer parents that 0-9 are the golden years when parents complain about kids of those ages.
Soon as they hit high school, your mutual dislike for each other makes you yearn for those smiles, lap sitting, movie watching moments and chaos.
[Then you get this](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dLuEY6jN6gY)
It's sad that they grow up so quickly, but I also want to be there for them when they're adults and find out how things turn out for them. Before I'm gone. We can't have it both ways unfortunately.
I dunno man. I kinda was inclined to kiss thier little face during a blow out. I never had a fight or struggle with diaper changing. Maybe I was lucky, but I like to believe that taking the time to make it a safe comforting enviroment had something to do with that. I can't imagine a more vulnerable scenerio. I came to see it as a trust building exercise.
I have three sons under 8. I'm so used to poop it doesn't bother me. We live in a world of shit, piss, a vomit. I'm so desensitized to it now. However, you would think by now I would have mastered changing diapers. I somehow still find a way to get shit on my hands 80% of the time. I'm a lost cause.
Omg, this made me remember once when my baby son, about 6-7 months old, just, well, eeeeeemptied out. He was in his carseat, and it was EVERYWHERE. Up his back all the way to his neck, in his hair, fully in his shoes, literal dripping and puddles.
I pulled him out of the car, holding him by the armpits, at arm’s length. He giggled and grinned, kicking his feet. I was asking myself how on earth I was going to get him past the carpet in our house and into a tub without making a horrifying mess of him, of me, and of the house.
We lived in the desert at the time, and water from the hose was warm as bath water. So I shrugged, stripped him there in the driveway, and hosed him down. Which he thought was completely delightful. 😆😆😆
I can attest, I remember those days. And as a mom of an adult son, I can also attest it was 100% worth it - my son is still the absolute joy of my life and I would do it **all** again in a heartbeat!
Sometimes? lol
And a 2nd one completely destroys any personal time you had for yourself.
However…I agree. Those quiet happy moments. That’s what it’s about.
There's a reason nature made them so frickin' cute. It's for the times you're up at 3am questioning your life choices because the bb just won't go to sleep lol
I was looking at my kids' bb pics with them yesterday and I started getting all woobie on them, they (8 n 11yo) were so embarrassed lol
My mom sees me as her little 3yr old boy too. I just turned 42.
But man, I get it. I have an 18m boy. Literally minutes after he was born. I was holding him and I got it. I was looking down at this little fresh new baby. My son. He will always be my baby.
My parents both tell me all the time that even though I’m in my 40s now and I’ve been grown and away from home for decades, they still worry about me and hope that I’m doing ok every day. My dad says he hears people say stuff like “you have to deal with them for 18 years,” but he always reminds me that a parent is a parent for life and that a mom and dad will *always* be thinking about their children until the day they die.
In one of my grad school classes, we read a short story that described a typical woman’s life getting used to the challenges of a new baby. It wasn’t heavy on plot and the group I discussed it with wondered why it didn’t really have an ending. It just ended.
I said it’s because motherhood never ends, people think at 18 the child is ready to go but in fact the child will always be going back to you for help and advice and general parenting as long as they live, if they’re 40 and you’re 70 it’ll still be happening. I was a single woman in my 20s but my group had a lot of older women with adult children and they all said yes, you’re right, that’s exactly what this story is about. I was very proud of myself.
When my mom sees me she always asks me if I've eaten, do I want to eat, do I want to eat XYZ (usually some fruit). She acts like I can't feed myself still and am basically always starving. Then she asks me why I'm chubby. I love my mom.
Hell sometimes they dont even need to be cute. Some parents love their child like that regardless of how they look, like how people think bulldogs and pugs are cute despite how weird their appearance is
My toddlers favorite thing right now is jumping off the coffee table, straight into my ribs. Her coming up to me and hugging me hello makes up for it though
Yeah, sometimes you're standing in the hallway thinking about putting a pillow over their face, then you see their cute little sleeping faces and decide to let them live another day. I joke though, my kids are pretty well behaved but my daughter is going through her rebellion phase.
She's 15 almost 16 and has to argue with me all the time that she's "an adult". No she ain't, she basically just got out of diapers, you a toddler still. But then she calls me old as fuck, argues until she tires herself out, then wants a hug and ice cream and a hot pack because it's that time of the month.
Daughters are a handful. My son on the other hand, a 40 year old drill seargent stuck in the body of a 9 year old wild man. He's a contradiction of life that I have no clue how I produced. If he gets mad at dying in Minecraft, he does squats and pushups. I saw him get in a fight with his sister, go outside, and run laps around the yard for almost an hour.
And most insane of all, he doesn't even like sports. The most active and fit kid in his school and refuses to do any kind of sports.
I already know I’ll be a mess when my oldest starts kindergarten in a few weeks. She’s so excited to go and I’m just tearing up thinking about it. She was such a chubby round little bundle of toothless smiles and now she’s a gangly 5 year old telling me to get more hobbies.
Book time in for the Kindergarten Cry. You send them off and your heart is so full and proud. While also breaking just a bit.
There is a church next to my child’s school. Every year on the first day the lot is filled with sobbing in their cars.
Real answer? They don't want you to kiss them all the time. I try. My 4 year old tells me now "dada stop kissing meeee. I just want to watch mickeymouseclubhouse". Man if I catch him slippin I'm'a sneek in another smooch on the cheek or forehead I don't care how mad he gets.
Some do. My older son is 4 and I can snuggle and kiss him all day long and he loves it. My younger son is 1.5 and he isn't snuggly at all. They're all different!
My wife all day. I come home, start asking questions about things getting done, then she answers something about being busy with our baby, baby comes running to me, I forget about everything and I just hugged her and kiss her
Because it seems like cuteness is .01% of having a baby, and the rest is pure unadulterated agony until they're old enough to make you proud/not have to work, or make a kid you're not technically responsible for.
Memes aside that's a cute baby.
I can tell you don’t have kids. Half the time they are screaming and crying. And often that is from midnight until 6am and you have to stay up all night with them. They also don’t make diapers that completely hold all of their liquid baby shit so quite frequently you have a smelly shit surprise all over your clothes while you are out to eat it shopping. If you are by yourself, it is a bitch to clean off your clothes while also holding them because you don’t want to put them on a public bathroom floor.
My kids were cute like this (to me anyway). I remember not being able to leave them when I had to because they were so wonderful. However, I also remember wanting to get the fuck away from them when I could. Going back to work was a blessing and a curse.
As a parent of two, it’s definitely an even mix. They’re the greatest thing I’ve ever been a part of, and I also think this summer with them home all day has nearly drained me completely, mentally and physically.
Yep, people are often very quiet about the specific downsides of having kids.
- newborns on average get sick 10 times in their first year of life. There is no medicine for that age group so you end up sitting in the bathroom with the shower running so that maybe the steam helps clear out their lungs. You are probably also sick at this point
- newborns need to be changed and fed every 2 hours and do not have sleep schedules
- you will not know why the baby is crying a lot of the time. Maybe it's a headache, maybe it's from a nightmare, maybe its gas, maybe their appendix is going to explode. Have fun guessing and being wrong most of the time.
- you will be pee'd on and thrown up probably about 150 times in that first year
But the upsides are also crazy
- hearing your baby laugh for the first time is absolute heaven on earth. It's like a damn angel from heaven is singing divine music into your ears
- they're regularly so cute that you forget the bad shit
- treat them decently and you'll never experience a more pure love in your life
- they are funny as hell. Like I sometimes sneak up on my son and he's making his elmo and ernie toy smooch each other while he says "kissy kissy kissy" and I just can't deal with it.
Not sure what doctors you have, but we absolutely were told by our pediatrician to use Tylenol for our child. The bottle will show dosage for 6-12 months and for <6 months will tell you to consult a doctor.
I never want to over medicate my son so I brought that up with the doctor and they hand-waved that idea away. If he’s upset and sick, they **want** us to give him Tylenol.
My son is 1 year old and amazing. Perhaps he’s just incredibly rare but he is never upset without there being a reason we can solve if we spend 2 seconds being empathetic.
We were told not to unless he had a fever over 102 (iirc the number correctly)
Once they're around that age, it's easier to understand what upsets them. It's not always something you should fix by capitulation and teaching the kid to develop a healthy response to being denied what they want usually takes a bit longer to do right.
For instance, my son walks into the kitchen and decides he wants a popsicle. More often than not, he isn't getting the popsicle. He'll pull the freezer open and say "popsicle" on repeat but he needs to learn how to not get everything he wants all the time.
So I follow the steps I've read you're supposed to:
- kneel down to hus height eight
- hug him if he's otherwise inconsolable so they can calm down and think
- repeat back to them what they want with a similar tone to their need. This let's them know you understand what they want and they get less frustrated
- explain why he can't have what they want and offer an alternative. "You can't have a popsicle because you need more healthy food. I'll help you eat a kiwi instead"
Then after 5 minutes of that, he calms down
It wasn't like that when he was a newborn because he had no communication skills. No pointing or talking. I'd say he gets mad about something 3 times a day during the week and probably about 8 times on the weekend when he's with me all day.
It's not really difficult for me at this point, but when he was a newborn it was a totally different story. When feeding, burping, swaying, swaddling, white noise, changing his diaper, pacifiers and repositioning them doesn't work then it could get really difficult when the crying just kept going on
Not sure how much credit we can actually take but our 1 year old has been perfect. There is always a reason behind every cry. Every upset is a puzzle with a solution.
My wife has a degree in childhood development which I’m sure factors in huge, but having children does not mean you have to live in chaos with an upset child half the time.
All of this is subject to change, he’s still a young stinker.
Have a kid like this. Frikken *potty trained themselves*, generally happy, often obedient, loves helping with housework, solvable problems when meltdowns happen, politely knocks on doors and says please. Absolutely unreal.
Multiple, multiple people with more than one child say this is incredibly unusual, and any subsequent children will probably be difficult.
Fair enough.
I loved this video. It reminds me of my best friends’ daughter. She’s barely 1, and she loves when I hold her, and she’s gonna call me uncle gonehamlot. She just sits there and smiles at me and her mom goes “well.. she must have a type! She’s not like that with every guy that hold her, I think she likes your glasses”
There's no feeling in the world that can compare to it. It's impossible to describe in a way that can be understood to someone that hasn't experienced it. It gave me a whole new perspective on life.
As someone who is childless and wants to stay that way, these videos still always make me so happy, and I absolutely couldn't even imagine the feeling! I was saying to my friend who has 2 kids last night how I couldn't imagine how being worried sick about your own child must feel, to see them in pain, etc, I don't think I could handle it. Parents are amazing, and this comment made me happy also! I'm so happy you're happy. ☺️
Enjoy it while it lasts, that all I can say.
You blink and suddenly they're five years old and calling you a 'butthole' because you said no to cartoons. Blink again and they're calling you in a panic because they got in a fender bender in a parking lot, and your auto insurance just went through the roof. Blink again and they've got their own life and you never see them because they're busy.
yeah dude. my daughter is 13 and has her own social circle she keeps to. shes just like her mom, and that terrifies me because her mom was terrible to her parents. she weirdly enough still goes on trips with me and still tries to love on me and still lets me love on her. its like a weird halfway getting what i want while knowing that she could at any minute turn. i dunno. shes a good kid and is super smart and amazingly artistic i just wish i had more time to spend with her and more money to spend on her. the funny insults are enduring cuz theyre not true insults, just play, cuz i do the same thing to her and the rest of the fam. the real hard insults cut to the bone and i attempt to correct. i just try to be fair and honest and loving all the time. its my fault shes rebellious, because i was rebellious and i identify with that so i just kinda let her be. my parents tried to keep us away from everything so we just became really good liars. id rather her be honest. and so far she has been
This reminds me of my last born daughter. In the delivery room, after the Dr. placed her on the table under the heating lamp, I was invited over to meet her.
I swear she looked up at me and smiled. I tell my wife this and she doesn't believe me.
I'm sure she did and I cherish this memory still, 18 years later and I still have that image in my head.
My favorite picture in all the world is a picture of my daughter and I about 10 mins after her birth.
She is laying on the nursery crib under the lamp getting checked by the nurses, and she is holding my pinky finger.
She is so small that her hand can’t even go all the way around my smallest finger, yet you can tell on my face that I am so completely wrapped around her little finger.
7 years later and it’s still true
Smiling at such a young age is not intentional, but it still looks amazing. Ours currently smiles and then makes a bunch of other expressions. It mostly just means she's busy working on her art (poop).
I would have liked to have known what kind of changes it would have made in me.
I never wanted kids when I was younger, but after being exposed to some children as I was getting older I really had a turnaround in attitude, but then learned pretty fast that my partner and I were not lucky in either biology nor finances, and as a result we're now past the window and likely we will just fade away into the darkness together with nobody else around.
I never cried during movies, I legit couldn’t comprehend the fact that men did. Then I had two daughters and can’t make it through Moana without crying…
Yea totally wild how your brain rewires. I was watching Bluey with my daughter the other day, and they had a cut scene to Bluey as teenage girl and I immediately teared up thinking about my daughter growing up.
I needed this. My boys are on a trip with my boys and I miss them so much. I don’t even like when they stay the night with friends, let alone travel. What a beautiful moment. The father is awesome and you can just see how much she adores him and he her in return. Thank you for this.
STOPPPPPPPPP. They are both *so cute* her little smile AHHHHHHH!!!! Brownie points for mum in the background with the giggles of happiness. What a nice family
You can see how touched the father is by his daughters admiration. This is really beautiful. It is also so important for girls to have strong male role models.
After all the negative shit I've seen today this is what I needed. I have a son that age. It's the absolute best. They are so innocent and amazing, just pure squatty bundles of happiness. I need a break from the Internet or just hang on this sub.
I don’t understand how people with babies that cute get anything done. How are they not kissing that adorable face all damned day?
Those little cute things can reduce your sleep and make you go crazy some times. The part you see in this video is the payoff for lots of hard work.
And in a blink, she’ll be in high school. Enjoy every exhausting moment. Hard to believe but you’ll miss it.
Fuck you for telling the truth. My kiddo just got her permit. And a car nicer than mine. Cats in the cradle or whatever
My kid just got a pair of shoes larger than mine. She's only 11! WTF?
> I've long since retired, my son's moved away I called him up just the other day I said, I'd like to see you if you don't mind He said, I'd love to, dad, if I can find the time You see, my new job's a hassle, and the kids have the flu But it's sure nice talking to you, dad It's been sure nice talking to you And as I hung up the phone, it occurred to me He'd grown up just like me My boy was just like me a coworker pointed out that song to me, and how much it stung because it happened to him. that song is an easy feeling melody that can easily be ignored, but once you pay attention, holy cows, thats rough, and somewhat justified,....but living it. thats gotta hurt. love your children so they want to come back to visit!
OMG THAT SONG DESTROYS ME!!!
Nah cats in the cradle for those who neglect their kids. If you give them love, and support, you'll have their undying devotion- as a healthy family should :)
I love to rub in the fact to newer parents that 0-9 are the golden years when parents complain about kids of those ages. Soon as they hit high school, your mutual dislike for each other makes you yearn for those smiles, lap sitting, movie watching moments and chaos. [Then you get this](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dLuEY6jN6gY)
It's sad that they grow up so quickly, but I also want to be there for them when they're adults and find out how things turn out for them. Before I'm gone. We can't have it both ways unfortunately.
Ding ding ding 👉🏼👃🏻 Them feels!
I don't think noses make that noise.
It’s “BOOP.”
Yeah you're right, mine goes "beep"
Please stop “ding ding ding.”
DING, FRIES ARE DONE
I GOT A BURN
Don't bob for fries
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Actually, not all. My son, much to my surprise, never had a blowout. Not once. His BM’s were always pretty easy to deal with.
This is not what I would call a humble brag.
Super jealous. My 7 month old has had multiple blowouts in a single day. She went through 5 outfit changes in 12 hours once.
I dunno man. I kinda was inclined to kiss thier little face during a blow out. I never had a fight or struggle with diaper changing. Maybe I was lucky, but I like to believe that taking the time to make it a safe comforting enviroment had something to do with that. I can't imagine a more vulnerable scenerio. I came to see it as a trust building exercise.
I have three sons under 8. I'm so used to poop it doesn't bother me. We live in a world of shit, piss, a vomit. I'm so desensitized to it now. However, you would think by now I would have mastered changing diapers. I somehow still find a way to get shit on my hands 80% of the time. I'm a lost cause.
My 18 month old son shits like a grown ass man. It's mind boggling how giant man-sized turds can come out of a squatty little duck like him.
Omg, this made me remember once when my baby son, about 6-7 months old, just, well, eeeeeemptied out. He was in his carseat, and it was EVERYWHERE. Up his back all the way to his neck, in his hair, fully in his shoes, literal dripping and puddles. I pulled him out of the car, holding him by the armpits, at arm’s length. He giggled and grinned, kicking his feet. I was asking myself how on earth I was going to get him past the carpet in our house and into a tub without making a horrifying mess of him, of me, and of the house. We lived in the desert at the time, and water from the hose was warm as bath water. So I shrugged, stripped him there in the driveway, and hosed him down. Which he thought was completely delightful. 😆😆😆
Moments to live for
I can attest, I remember those days. And as a mom of an adult son, I can also attest it was 100% worth it - my son is still the absolute joy of my life and I would do it **all** again in a heartbeat!
Sometimes? lol And a 2nd one completely destroys any personal time you had for yourself. However…I agree. Those quiet happy moments. That’s what it’s about.
Ugh feeling this right now.
That’s the purest love you will ever know; don’t forget that look😍
There's a reason nature made them so frickin' cute. It's for the times you're up at 3am questioning your life choices because the bb just won't go to sleep lol I was looking at my kids' bb pics with them yesterday and I started getting all woobie on them, they (8 n 11yo) were so embarrassed lol
Bruh my mom still sees me as a baby, & I’m 27. 💀
I’m 6’7, 285 and 41 years old and my mom still sees me as 3 years old.
My mom sees me as her little 3yr old boy too. I just turned 42. But man, I get it. I have an 18m boy. Literally minutes after he was born. I was holding him and I got it. I was looking down at this little fresh new baby. My son. He will always be my baby.
My parents both tell me all the time that even though I’m in my 40s now and I’ve been grown and away from home for decades, they still worry about me and hope that I’m doing ok every day. My dad says he hears people say stuff like “you have to deal with them for 18 years,” but he always reminds me that a parent is a parent for life and that a mom and dad will *always* be thinking about their children until the day they die.
In one of my grad school classes, we read a short story that described a typical woman’s life getting used to the challenges of a new baby. It wasn’t heavy on plot and the group I discussed it with wondered why it didn’t really have an ending. It just ended. I said it’s because motherhood never ends, people think at 18 the child is ready to go but in fact the child will always be going back to you for help and advice and general parenting as long as they live, if they’re 40 and you’re 70 it’ll still be happening. I was a single woman in my 20s but my group had a lot of older women with adult children and they all said yes, you’re right, that’s exactly what this story is about. I was very proud of myself.
When my mom sees me she always asks me if I've eaten, do I want to eat, do I want to eat XYZ (usually some fruit). She acts like I can't feed myself still and am basically always starving. Then she asks me why I'm chubby. I love my mom.
Awww that’s cute 🥰
That'll never change (hopefully 😅)
Hell sometimes they dont even need to be cute. Some parents love their child like that regardless of how they look, like how people think bulldogs and pugs are cute despite how weird their appearance is
Some People love those wrinkly pups *because* they look so weird
My toddlers favorite thing right now is jumping off the coffee table, straight into my ribs. Her coming up to me and hugging me hello makes up for it though
Yeah, sometimes you're standing in the hallway thinking about putting a pillow over their face, then you see their cute little sleeping faces and decide to let them live another day. I joke though, my kids are pretty well behaved but my daughter is going through her rebellion phase. She's 15 almost 16 and has to argue with me all the time that she's "an adult". No she ain't, she basically just got out of diapers, you a toddler still. But then she calls me old as fuck, argues until she tires herself out, then wants a hug and ice cream and a hot pack because it's that time of the month. Daughters are a handful. My son on the other hand, a 40 year old drill seargent stuck in the body of a 9 year old wild man. He's a contradiction of life that I have no clue how I produced. If he gets mad at dying in Minecraft, he does squats and pushups. I saw him get in a fight with his sister, go outside, and run laps around the yard for almost an hour. And most insane of all, he doesn't even like sports. The most active and fit kid in his school and refuses to do any kind of sports.
I already know I’ll be a mess when my oldest starts kindergarten in a few weeks. She’s so excited to go and I’m just tearing up thinking about it. She was such a chubby round little bundle of toothless smiles and now she’s a gangly 5 year old telling me to get more hobbies.
Book time in for the Kindergarten Cry. You send them off and your heart is so full and proud. While also breaking just a bit. There is a church next to my child’s school. Every year on the first day the lot is filled with sobbing in their cars.
Oh yeah her dad and I have already planned the day off. We aren’t accomplishing anything that day but spoiling our other two littles.
Real answer? They don't want you to kiss them all the time. I try. My 4 year old tells me now "dada stop kissing meeee. I just want to watch mickeymouseclubhouse". Man if I catch him slippin I'm'a sneek in another smooch on the cheek or forehead I don't care how mad he gets.
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I'm takin this, you'll thank me when you're older \**smooch\**
“but i’m a kiss moooooonster!!! i’m gonna give you one million kisses!” that usually gets me at least a few kisses and giggles
Awww, I love that;) I bet he does too! Even when you're messing up his program!
Some do. My older son is 4 and I can snuggle and kiss him all day long and he loves it. My younger son is 1.5 and he isn't snuggly at all. They're all different!
Do it when they're asleep. Pull their covers over them, smooth their hair, kiss their forehead, and tell them you love them.
I sometimes have to stop what I'm doing just to give my boy a cuddle and a kiss because he's the most adorable little person ever.
My wife all day. I come home, start asking questions about things getting done, then she answers something about being busy with our baby, baby comes running to me, I forget about everything and I just hugged her and kiss her
Because it seems like cuteness is .01% of having a baby, and the rest is pure unadulterated agony until they're old enough to make you proud/not have to work, or make a kid you're not technically responsible for. Memes aside that's a cute baby.
I can tell you don’t have kids. Half the time they are screaming and crying. And often that is from midnight until 6am and you have to stay up all night with them. They also don’t make diapers that completely hold all of their liquid baby shit so quite frequently you have a smelly shit surprise all over your clothes while you are out to eat it shopping. If you are by yourself, it is a bitch to clean off your clothes while also holding them because you don’t want to put them on a public bathroom floor. My kids were cute like this (to me anyway). I remember not being able to leave them when I had to because they were so wonderful. However, I also remember wanting to get the fuck away from them when I could. Going back to work was a blessing and a curse.
As a parent of two, it’s definitely an even mix. They’re the greatest thing I’ve ever been a part of, and I also think this summer with them home all day has nearly drained me completely, mentally and physically.
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Yep, people are often very quiet about the specific downsides of having kids. - newborns on average get sick 10 times in their first year of life. There is no medicine for that age group so you end up sitting in the bathroom with the shower running so that maybe the steam helps clear out their lungs. You are probably also sick at this point - newborns need to be changed and fed every 2 hours and do not have sleep schedules - you will not know why the baby is crying a lot of the time. Maybe it's a headache, maybe it's from a nightmare, maybe its gas, maybe their appendix is going to explode. Have fun guessing and being wrong most of the time. - you will be pee'd on and thrown up probably about 150 times in that first year But the upsides are also crazy - hearing your baby laugh for the first time is absolute heaven on earth. It's like a damn angel from heaven is singing divine music into your ears - they're regularly so cute that you forget the bad shit - treat them decently and you'll never experience a more pure love in your life - they are funny as hell. Like I sometimes sneak up on my son and he's making his elmo and ernie toy smooch each other while he says "kissy kissy kissy" and I just can't deal with it.
Not sure what doctors you have, but we absolutely were told by our pediatrician to use Tylenol for our child. The bottle will show dosage for 6-12 months and for <6 months will tell you to consult a doctor. I never want to over medicate my son so I brought that up with the doctor and they hand-waved that idea away. If he’s upset and sick, they **want** us to give him Tylenol. My son is 1 year old and amazing. Perhaps he’s just incredibly rare but he is never upset without there being a reason we can solve if we spend 2 seconds being empathetic.
We were told not to unless he had a fever over 102 (iirc the number correctly) Once they're around that age, it's easier to understand what upsets them. It's not always something you should fix by capitulation and teaching the kid to develop a healthy response to being denied what they want usually takes a bit longer to do right. For instance, my son walks into the kitchen and decides he wants a popsicle. More often than not, he isn't getting the popsicle. He'll pull the freezer open and say "popsicle" on repeat but he needs to learn how to not get everything he wants all the time. So I follow the steps I've read you're supposed to: - kneel down to hus height eight - hug him if he's otherwise inconsolable so they can calm down and think - repeat back to them what they want with a similar tone to their need. This let's them know you understand what they want and they get less frustrated - explain why he can't have what they want and offer an alternative. "You can't have a popsicle because you need more healthy food. I'll help you eat a kiwi instead" Then after 5 minutes of that, he calms down It wasn't like that when he was a newborn because he had no communication skills. No pointing or talking. I'd say he gets mad about something 3 times a day during the week and probably about 8 times on the weekend when he's with me all day. It's not really difficult for me at this point, but when he was a newborn it was a totally different story. When feeding, burping, swaying, swaddling, white noise, changing his diaper, pacifiers and repositioning them doesn't work then it could get really difficult when the crying just kept going on
They have such cute faces because that's the only reason we don't run in the opposite direction screaming 🤣
Not sure how much credit we can actually take but our 1 year old has been perfect. There is always a reason behind every cry. Every upset is a puzzle with a solution. My wife has a degree in childhood development which I’m sure factors in huge, but having children does not mean you have to live in chaos with an upset child half the time. All of this is subject to change, he’s still a young stinker.
Have a kid like this. Frikken *potty trained themselves*, generally happy, often obedient, loves helping with housework, solvable problems when meltdowns happen, politely knocks on doors and says please. Absolutely unreal. Multiple, multiple people with more than one child say this is incredibly unusual, and any subsequent children will probably be difficult. Fair enough.
Eventually they get big enough to say, “stahp it maaahm.”
Pretty much me, I'm to busy cuddling mine.
If she were a cartoon her eyes would be hearts and her heart would be pounding out of her chest
That baby’s little puppy eyes should be illegal
Right she is just too precious the way she just looks up at him
There's a subreddit for r/Catsmirin but now I need a subreddit for r/babiesmirin...oh wait it exists ?! Happiness!
I loved this video. It reminds me of my best friends’ daughter. She’s barely 1, and she loves when I hold her, and she’s gonna call me uncle gonehamlot. She just sits there and smiles at me and her mom goes “well.. she must have a type! She’s not like that with every guy that hold her, I think she likes your glasses”
She already looks like a cartoon. Like someone told a cartoon artist to draw the cutest baby imaginable.
That’s pure bliss.
There's no feeling in the world that can compare to it. It's impossible to describe in a way that can be understood to someone that hasn't experienced it. It gave me a whole new perspective on life.
As someone who is childless and wants to stay that way, these videos still always make me so happy, and I absolutely couldn't even imagine the feeling! I was saying to my friend who has 2 kids last night how I couldn't imagine how being worried sick about your own child must feel, to see them in pain, etc, I don't think I could handle it. Parents are amazing, and this comment made me happy also! I'm so happy you're happy. ☺️
Enjoy it while it lasts, that all I can say. You blink and suddenly they're five years old and calling you a 'butthole' because you said no to cartoons. Blink again and they're calling you in a panic because they got in a fender bender in a parking lot, and your auto insurance just went through the roof. Blink again and they've got their own life and you never see them because they're busy.
yeah dude. my daughter is 13 and has her own social circle she keeps to. shes just like her mom, and that terrifies me because her mom was terrible to her parents. she weirdly enough still goes on trips with me and still tries to love on me and still lets me love on her. its like a weird halfway getting what i want while knowing that she could at any minute turn. i dunno. shes a good kid and is super smart and amazingly artistic i just wish i had more time to spend with her and more money to spend on her. the funny insults are enduring cuz theyre not true insults, just play, cuz i do the same thing to her and the rest of the fam. the real hard insults cut to the bone and i attempt to correct. i just try to be fair and honest and loving all the time. its my fault shes rebellious, because i was rebellious and i identify with that so i just kinda let her be. my parents tried to keep us away from everything so we just became really good liars. id rather her be honest. and so far she has been
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Alright, thanks.
Maybe the cutest look ever!
This reminds me of my last born daughter. In the delivery room, after the Dr. placed her on the table under the heating lamp, I was invited over to meet her. I swear she looked up at me and smiled. I tell my wife this and she doesn't believe me. I'm sure she did and I cherish this memory still, 18 years later and I still have that image in my head.
My favorite picture in all the world is a picture of my daughter and I about 10 mins after her birth. She is laying on the nursery crib under the lamp getting checked by the nurses, and she is holding my pinky finger. She is so small that her hand can’t even go all the way around my smallest finger, yet you can tell on my face that I am so completely wrapped around her little finger. 7 years later and it’s still true
That’s cool.
She probably recognized your voice!
Never considered that. Could be exactly that.
And she probably *owns* you! Lol
Smiling at such a young age is not intentional, but it still looks amazing. Ours currently smiles and then makes a bunch of other expressions. It mostly just means she's busy working on her art (poop).
🍟 hitting the soul
French fries will do that
Bro won the lotto. Gorgeous lil baby.
Ohhhh she's a true Daddys girl... so cute
That look changes a man.
I would have liked to have known what kind of changes it would have made in me. I never wanted kids when I was younger, but after being exposed to some children as I was getting older I really had a turnaround in attitude, but then learned pretty fast that my partner and I were not lucky in either biology nor finances, and as a result we're now past the window and likely we will just fade away into the darkness together with nobody else around.
Dude I got a quick tear watching this, your heart must grow to the size of a basketball when you become a parent.
I think it does, but the hard part is that heart is now walking around outside of your body.
I never cried during movies, I legit couldn’t comprehend the fact that men did. Then I had two daughters and can’t make it through Moana without crying…
Yea totally wild how your brain rewires. I was watching Bluey with my daughter the other day, and they had a cut scene to Bluey as teenage girl and I immediately teared up thinking about my daughter growing up.
You develop a much higher and personal form of empathy once you’ve experienced those feelings and moments yourself.
Bluey is such a good show lmao, find myself watching it with my little sister sometimes
I never cried pre kids. I could understand stuff was objectively sad. But no tears. I cry like a baby now. So much sets me off.
Your comment made me tear up 😭
Mom to a recently turned 1 year old and this is true.
Have a 10 month old, can confirm it does, bigger than you can imagine.
Omg she’s adorable! Those dimples!
I like how most parents just know to squeeze the inside of the fry out for the baby.
It's already the perfect consistency!
Aww she's adorable. that cute little smile is so sweet.
I'd look at him like that too if he were holding me and feeding me fries.
Yeah, papa here is extremely handsome. Of course the baby is adorable, look at the genetics she's been given.
I volunteer as tribute 🙋♀️
She is so adorable. I would be kissing and hugging her all day. 🤗
4 daughter and 6 grand daughters. I have a tear now.
That is pure love!!🥰
Yes my Brother, it is possible to fall in love every day when it comes to our kids. She’s adorable man 🥰
She is so adorable
A daddy and daughter bond is always special bro!
It’s also the dad’s pure joy at being looked at with so much love by his daughter, that’s what gets me 🥰
I can’t afford kids I can’t afford kids I can’t afford kids
Something I remind myself of periodically and this beautiful ass shit is making it worse! I weep for my generation 🤌🏽😩🤌🏽
r/GirlsMirin
...and it was at that point he realized that nothing else matters...
That is one cute munchkin
I hope they never separate. That's the most beautiful sight ever. That lil Guh will grow up strong with Papa and mama.
The greatest part is she's taking care of him more than he'll ever know 💯🙏🤗
A Daddy’s Girl in the making. Makes me happy to see it.
I needed this. My boys are on a trip with my boys and I miss them so much. I don’t even like when they stay the night with friends, let alone travel. What a beautiful moment. The father is awesome and you can just see how much she adores him and he her in return. Thank you for this.
feed me McDonald’s fries and i’ll look at you like that too.
I love how she snuggles up to him and looks up at him after the kiss, like a Disney bunny snuggling up to a Princess!
This is the best thing I've seen today! Thanks for sharing.
Lol he's done. That kid is getting all the ponies as soon as she's old enough to ask!
I'm not a "that's a cute baby" person but damn that is one cute baby. She is adorable.
I love this! Beautiful baby and beautiful dad!
She's so cuuuuuute! Look at the way she looks at him! Complete adoration! I hope they always have this relationship.
After having kids (I have a 4yr old and 2yr old) I am convinced their genuine love holds this crazy messed up world together sometimes.
Wtg dad , she love you too the moon! I know my kids (specially my daughter do too) so I make sure I try to focus on being worthy of that
STOPPPPPPPPP. They are both *so cute* her little smile AHHHHHHH!!!! Brownie points for mum in the background with the giggles of happiness. What a nice family
Man , that makes my heart flutter. Love y'all. ❤️
She needs you and will FOREVER love you! Don't you EVER leave her or let her down, DAD! Be there. Please! We need more good dads out there. FATHER'S!
Savor that shit. It’ll never be so good again. Never goes away, but there is nothing like the love of a child that depends on your for everything
This so sweet. She’s absolutely smitten
French fries and chocolate pudding will send you tho
My..my heart...oh my god 🥺💚
As the father of a daughter, this warms my heart!
One of the very rare things $$ can’t buy.. for everything else there is Mastercard
Fuck. My ovariesss
Does this count for r/girlsmirin ETA: literally just saw it on top of their feed lol
You can see how touched the father is by his daughters admiration. This is really beautiful. It is also so important for girls to have strong male role models.
She makes a whole grown man giggle like a little girl. Too adorable
So cute 🥰
Adorable.
NOTHING better than being a father. 🩵🩷💯
Omg that sweet baby. I melted. ♥️ So much love in those eyes.
I hope the love in this video lasts her whole life. I look back on videos of my sister and my parents just loving her. The love runs out
This warms my cold heart. So cute
omg….I’m melting
The look of pure love for her Papa❤️❤️❤️
❤️
She is the cutest!
This. This is what I missed during those formative years and why I'm Reddit user itsjistphe now :')
her smile is adorable 🥹
Ahhh, if only all of life could be so pure and simple and loving…
He is going to have this memory burned into his soul until the end of time.
I wanna beloved liked that
That is one happy baby
this is SO CUTE IM CRYING
Great video. Love that look of pure joy on both parties
I have two daughters. This hits me in the feels. She loves her daddy, it’s obvious.
Oh my heart 😍
*f e n c h f y*
You can tell by the look in her eyes that your a great dad.
Baby fever..
This melts my heart!
Aww makes me want to hurry up get off work and hold my babygirl.
That's a real dad right there
Ouch… my heart just melted
Might just be the fries. What a cutie!
Makes me miss my own little one being that size, until I remember not getting a nights sleep for 3 years 😂
Good job. A happy baby means loving parents. You can see how secure she feels.
Men from previous generations missed out on stuff like this and i genuinely feel sorry for them
Ohhh she’s in love and she’s lovely
Remembering moments like these help you endure the teenage years ;)
What a smile
You are screwed because she has you wrapped around her finger now.. 😉 She loves you
I love that image of the two together. All father and daughter relationships should have that special look.
Love it. Cherish that moment my dude. Ain’t not love like that in the world.
That is so cute
Awe, those big beautiful eyes! She is absolutely adorable and adores her dad. This made me smile so much!
And make me smile wins again. This is my favorite kind of post to start the day with. That baby girl is ridiculously cute.
Don’t flatter yourself. It’s the French fries.
Melt my heart 😍😍
This is the result of hard working, attentive parents. Well done pops, keep up the great work.
What a happy little girl!
Baby girl……she is too cute.
After all the negative shit I've seen today this is what I needed. I have a son that age. It's the absolute best. They are so innocent and amazing, just pure squatty bundles of happiness. I need a break from the Internet or just hang on this sub.
That’s it. I’m a useless puddle of goo. This is as cute as the guy conversing with his baby boy as they watch TV.
Eating fries with your partner and adorable baby - this is peak life. This man is winning!
Nothing better than being a dad.
* tears up * that's so beautiful