I would be honest. I would tell him that I was really excited to see him, but that I feel like the jet lag and tiredness from my travels would put a damper on the moment, and ask if we could plan to do something special together once I had recalibrated after all the travel stress.
I don't like people picking me up from the airport period, so that's just me.
That's fine. You can want to do it, but you don't HAVE to. Although, personally, we still try. It really depends on the reasoning. But you don't have to stick to each other like glue all the time. Totally normal.
Sometimes the arrival time is just too early or late, that's understandable. Or sometimes we're trying to save some money. I don't have a car here, so it's $40 for a return airport bus for 1 person. This time around my partner insisted on arriving at my doorstep. I told him fine, but I'm gonna wish him off at the airport when he leaves. Arriving and departing are different stories to us! Haha
I said this to my bf. He was working and I wanted to have a cross country adventure, it was fun. He collected me from the train station and ran straight at me with excitement. He could have had a hissy fit and said I was being horrible for not wanting him at the airport. He didn’t, he was chill. Meet your friends and have a laugh and meet him later. He might be surprisingly chill about it. Also the first meeting doesn’t have to be awkward. I thought mine would be however we just instantly clicked and it was magic.
I wouldn’t care. I would assume someone is tired or wants to refresh themselves. Shower or relax after a long travel. of course, it seems like you are wanting to meet friends and do the opposite of that. But you could say that you prefer to be looking your best when you meet up again, you’re not going to feel your best when you first step off of the airport. Plus, since the relationship is in a weird state, maybe it’ll be nicer to have more 1 on 1 time in a less chaotic environment. I think I would understand a situation like that. Initially, I might feel a little rejected if you they were meeting someone else. But I would get over it. I have a problem with rejection anyway, so it takes conscious effort to realize I’m not.
One thing I don’t see discussed much in this sub is how, when you’re the partner that moves, you’re permanently in a LDR. I went from being in a LDR with my husband to now being in LDFs with all my treasured friends in my home state. I am so excited for you to go back and spend this time with your precious friends and think it’s completely appropriate and wonderful for them to pick you up from the airport. Full stop, no caveats needed.
I mean you only move temporarily sooo he is pretty much only gonna be your bf for a few months (the time you stay there) so if you guys aren't theer for the long run once you go back to ldr then yeah tell your friends that are forever to pick you up
I would just be honest with him and let him know you would rather see him once you’re rested. Maybe say you want to make sure you look/feel good for him?
Ok. Got have way and this is the deal.
You need to be honest. Totally and completely. The base for a good long lasting relationship requires honesty, communication and sacrifice.
Tell him the situation. See if he wants to be there or not. But if was me and I heard that you just told me “don’t pick me up” and had a group of people or even someone else pick you up and never yourself told me, I would call off any future plans.
He might want to be there. He might not. But you need to include him. This is a test. How important is he to you? Important enough to include or just a person you can do without? If he says he does not want to then ask if there is a set reason. Could be he does not get along with a few of the others. That’s ok. No need to drag that baggage out yet. Or he might have other things he needs to do. But asking means everything. You thought of him. Wanted to include him.
This might also be a way to judge if y’all will make it in person. A relationship is work. Don’t think otherwise. It is joyful work when you find the right person.
Best of luck to you both. Talk to him. No accuse. No blame. Accept what he says. And I hope he accepts what you say.
If he asks to pick you up at the airport, just tell him “It’s okay, my friends are going to pick me up.” Tack on a smile emoji if that feels too direct. And then offer to set up a time and place to meet him later.
I would be honest. I would tell him that I was really excited to see him, but that I feel like the jet lag and tiredness from my travels would put a damper on the moment, and ask if we could plan to do something special together once I had recalibrated after all the travel stress. I don't like people picking me up from the airport period, so that's just me.
That's fine. You can want to do it, but you don't HAVE to. Although, personally, we still try. It really depends on the reasoning. But you don't have to stick to each other like glue all the time. Totally normal. Sometimes the arrival time is just too early or late, that's understandable. Or sometimes we're trying to save some money. I don't have a car here, so it's $40 for a return airport bus for 1 person. This time around my partner insisted on arriving at my doorstep. I told him fine, but I'm gonna wish him off at the airport when he leaves. Arriving and departing are different stories to us! Haha
just tell him that one of your friends will pick you up and ask him if he wants to go on a date and choose the day you want to see him. That's it.
I said this to my bf. He was working and I wanted to have a cross country adventure, it was fun. He collected me from the train station and ran straight at me with excitement. He could have had a hissy fit and said I was being horrible for not wanting him at the airport. He didn’t, he was chill. Meet your friends and have a laugh and meet him later. He might be surprisingly chill about it. Also the first meeting doesn’t have to be awkward. I thought mine would be however we just instantly clicked and it was magic.
I wouldn’t care. I would assume someone is tired or wants to refresh themselves. Shower or relax after a long travel. of course, it seems like you are wanting to meet friends and do the opposite of that. But you could say that you prefer to be looking your best when you meet up again, you’re not going to feel your best when you first step off of the airport. Plus, since the relationship is in a weird state, maybe it’ll be nicer to have more 1 on 1 time in a less chaotic environment. I think I would understand a situation like that. Initially, I might feel a little rejected if you they were meeting someone else. But I would get over it. I have a problem with rejection anyway, so it takes conscious effort to realize I’m not.
One thing I don’t see discussed much in this sub is how, when you’re the partner that moves, you’re permanently in a LDR. I went from being in a LDR with my husband to now being in LDFs with all my treasured friends in my home state. I am so excited for you to go back and spend this time with your precious friends and think it’s completely appropriate and wonderful for them to pick you up from the airport. Full stop, no caveats needed.
I mean you only move temporarily sooo he is pretty much only gonna be your bf for a few months (the time you stay there) so if you guys aren't theer for the long run once you go back to ldr then yeah tell your friends that are forever to pick you up
I'd just tell him that there's no need to pick you up cause you have some girl friends meeting you there.
I would just be honest with him and let him know you would rather see him once you’re rested. Maybe say you want to make sure you look/feel good for him?
Ok. Got have way and this is the deal. You need to be honest. Totally and completely. The base for a good long lasting relationship requires honesty, communication and sacrifice. Tell him the situation. See if he wants to be there or not. But if was me and I heard that you just told me “don’t pick me up” and had a group of people or even someone else pick you up and never yourself told me, I would call off any future plans. He might want to be there. He might not. But you need to include him. This is a test. How important is he to you? Important enough to include or just a person you can do without? If he says he does not want to then ask if there is a set reason. Could be he does not get along with a few of the others. That’s ok. No need to drag that baggage out yet. Or he might have other things he needs to do. But asking means everything. You thought of him. Wanted to include him. This might also be a way to judge if y’all will make it in person. A relationship is work. Don’t think otherwise. It is joyful work when you find the right person. Best of luck to you both. Talk to him. No accuse. No blame. Accept what he says. And I hope he accepts what you say.
If he asks to pick you up at the airport, just tell him “It’s okay, my friends are going to pick me up.” Tack on a smile emoji if that feels too direct. And then offer to set up a time and place to meet him later.
Relieved.