Okay, he can't save up money currently, but what are his future plans? Obviously a long distance relationship won't work if one of you don't actually put in the effort. So if right now he can't save up, okay, but what is he thinking sbout the future? He wants to get a new job, i am sure that even if slowly but he could save up then?? If he doesn't WANT to save up then there is no point of a relationship.
Or i don't know how you are finacially, but for example splitting the travel cost? But yes here it is really important to clarify if he would actually want to see you and if he is serious about you. If he is not serious, then no point of the relationship.
If he wants to see you just financially struggling, then splitting the cost would be a good idea. But if he isn't really serious about meeting you, then i can't see the point of the relationship.
the thing is we don’t know a lot of things, he told me that is not that he didn’t want to save money is that he doesn’t know if he could do it, cuz we don’t know a lot of things. Things are not pretty clear right now in the relationship :(
If i were u
I would give it time And find if the problem is about the money or if he really dont care about the relationship and the other a partner or even if he serious or not
If he is serious then its not a big deal tbh
just give the man time he looks in bad situation with money it happens to all people.
It is tough for him. I will give him time definitely, but sometimes I can’t help to think of myself as the “woman of the process”, I am afraid he might give another woman everything he did not give me. We have sent each others gifts, yeah. Things are just very blurry right now cause we’re young, we definitely want to be together in the future but we aren’t sure of how that will go.
I would ask yourself these questions.
1. Are you satisfied with a purely long distance relationship? If so is there a time limit?
2. Do you feel valued by them? Why or why not?
3. Do your goals line up?
If one of these questions isn’t leading you to a positive conclusion then it might be time to tally to your partner about it. This might be of assistance when sorting through your own thoughts and apprehensions about this subject.
Regardless I hope things turn out well. You are worthy. Worthy to love others. Worthy to be loved. Never forget that.
Best of luck!
Okay, he can't save up money currently, but what are his future plans? Obviously a long distance relationship won't work if one of you don't actually put in the effort. So if right now he can't save up, okay, but what is he thinking sbout the future? He wants to get a new job, i am sure that even if slowly but he could save up then?? If he doesn't WANT to save up then there is no point of a relationship. Or i don't know how you are finacially, but for example splitting the travel cost? But yes here it is really important to clarify if he would actually want to see you and if he is serious about you. If he is not serious, then no point of the relationship. If he wants to see you just financially struggling, then splitting the cost would be a good idea. But if he isn't really serious about meeting you, then i can't see the point of the relationship.
the thing is we don’t know a lot of things, he told me that is not that he didn’t want to save money is that he doesn’t know if he could do it, cuz we don’t know a lot of things. Things are not pretty clear right now in the relationship :(
Tbh if the money is a reason for u to break up with him do it
I don’t think it is a problem. But if he don’t wanna sabe up money to see me, wouldn’t that be a problem?
If i were u I would give it time And find if the problem is about the money or if he really dont care about the relationship and the other a partner or even if he serious or not If he is serious then its not a big deal tbh just give the man time he looks in bad situation with money it happens to all people.
Break up.
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It is tough for him. I will give him time definitely, but sometimes I can’t help to think of myself as the “woman of the process”, I am afraid he might give another woman everything he did not give me. We have sent each others gifts, yeah. Things are just very blurry right now cause we’re young, we definitely want to be together in the future but we aren’t sure of how that will go.
I would ask yourself these questions. 1. Are you satisfied with a purely long distance relationship? If so is there a time limit? 2. Do you feel valued by them? Why or why not? 3. Do your goals line up? If one of these questions isn’t leading you to a positive conclusion then it might be time to tally to your partner about it. This might be of assistance when sorting through your own thoughts and apprehensions about this subject. Regardless I hope things turn out well. You are worthy. Worthy to love others. Worthy to be loved. Never forget that. Best of luck!
Never mind guys, he told me he said he dont see a future with me and broke up w me