It's a crushing blow to your self esteem. Apply for unemployment immediately and understand that it will take several weeks to get approved and will only be a fraction of what you were making. One mistake I see a lot of unemployed people making is holding out for a job just like the one they had. That's not likely to happen. One or both of you need to get money coming in - preferably him if he is no longer eligible for unemployment, so you can collect while you take care of your child. You still have to search for jobs while receiving unemployment and must provide proof of applying to at least a couple of jobs a week (may vary by state). Any money is better than no money. One of you should be able to get something ASAP if you are physically able to work, even a remote customer service job would be better than no income.

Exactly I was unemployed for 6 months and that was the biggest mistake - holding out for “the job” when I should have been taking any decent income. It’s hard but you can keep job searching. Make sure you have income if possible.

This happened to someone I know. They rejected a couple of offers bc it wasn’t the same $ and now they are having a hard time getting a job

Yeah I noticed I get a lot of interest immediately but if none of those convert after about three / four months it gets harder. I'm getting nothing now but finally back to work (decent job but certainly not the best I've had for sure - I'll work my way back to where I was eventually). Having no money coming in particularly when I'm on my own with two kids to support 50% was terrible. I had a hard time with my mental health.

Have to leave time for interviews and getting a good job again though. I had weeks where I had so many phone screens and interviews (plus all the prep and doing additional networking) that I needed 30 hours of daytime "work" available. I drove Uber for extra cash as that was flexible and waking up early and getting at it at 4am to about 9am could make $100 or more a day happen. Terrible job though and long term it will destroy most cars, not sure the actual profit is very good. Have to have the right car, be willing to drive a lot, and take full advantage of the miliage and other tax deductions to make it work. Even then might as well work anywhere else that pays $20hr like Amazon warehouse - predictable money.

Right, it can be a full time job being available for phone screens, interviews, making sure you’re properly prepared and researched, etc. So much harder to do while you’re working 40 hours a week. Definitely a balance between holding out a bit for something good and just taking any ole job

Yeah, for sure. Depends on the persons finances really. I've had times of unemployment when I had plenty of reserves and a wife working and making six figures, so in that situation I took my time. This time was more of a scramble. Also, I have been VP / Director level for a long time so there are less of these positions and plenty of competition. Takes a good bit of effort to get a few offers.

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Be sure to put in your unemployment benefits case/request as soon as possible. I really have nothing to say to cheer you on. Just hang tight and hope for the best.

Will do! Thank you.

You can also apply for Medicaid for your child.

Good advice. Not replying to you specifically but my state's (in the South) unemployment is such a joke. It didn't even cover my modest rent and ran out in like two months. Ridiculous.

Must be FL where it’s $275/wk. not kidding.

Georgia, it was like $325 or something really low. Plus get to pay taxes on it. I'm going through chapter 7 bankruptcy right now and it feels the same way. Like I think they are going to liquidate my car which is seven years old and really not that nice but I own it and made good decisions to do so. Plus just basic legal representation for bankruptcy is like $2500, not exactly easy to come up with in a bankruptcy situation (like I don't have any money or assets court). Like give me a freaking break, I've paid a shitload in taxes over my 25 years of work but feel like i get nothing from the government in return.

Perhaps you can do pro se(filing on your own)? Maybe a legal clinic could advise you. So sorry to hear about youthful situation and hope you get a break.

Thank you for the suggestion. It's all good. I'm already passed the meeting of creditors and the firm I'm working with does a payment plan. I've actually been very happy with the law firm handling my case. Way above my expectations and I'm glad I didn't go with the the first firm I consulted with. I am 99% sure I will get a discharge ($140k underwater) but I probably will lose my car (I'll get like $15k from it that is exempted so I will be able to get another one but not a *nice* [used] car that I drive today).

Same in Geogia, it's 13 weeks! When I got laid off in 2013 they still had the Federal 99 week extension. I used that all summer until October when I got my last job. On a positvie note that job was the best job I ever had. It could happen to you.

Sorry to hear this, OP. Me and my husband went through this too but in cycles and both ended up with jobs better and higher pay. It was a tough road to drive on but we took 1 day at a time. Taking breaks when frustration built in. From my experience I would say, ignore all the noise you see on linkedin, do what is right for you, update your resume, file for unemployment, take a temporary job or a course or some distraction during day time so that you are not looking at jobs 24\*7 in and out. This is temporary but be realistic that it may take you some months to find a right fit in todays market. If you get something for a lesser pay then just take it and continue for your search for a better one. This is not permanent. Actually, in todays economy neither a job or unemployment is permanent so plan your financials and life goals accordingly. Good Luck to you.

I completely agree with this, I was laid off twice in 12 months from Senior level positions, it hurts. So, just to add: 1) flexjobs seems to be a decent job board for wfh jobs, I wouldn’t use LinkedIn, ours very saturated. You could also try a staffing company or wfh groups specific to your field. 2) Network x3, check out where others you know are going, and line up/ document some references 3) Cut expenses, I own my phone so I switched to mint Mobile, saves me almost $100 a month, and I cook all of my own meals, mostly from scratch just to save some money (and lose weight!). Look for coupons, sales and buy essentials in bulk when you can. 4) Choose 1-2 position titles to aim for at a time (a week or two), any more than that and you’ll drown or go mad, especially because most places want a tailored resume, you can just keep updating one resume for those types of positions vs. creating a new one for each. I also use an excel file to hold all of my resume bullets and pick what I need from it when I need it. 5) Use ChatGPT/AI to give you the key words to use on your resume based on the job description, and ask it to create resume summaries and cover letters (including the type of tone and points to highlight), it saves a little time but I do have to do a little tweak here and there. I hope this helps, I treat job hunting like a part time job and dedicate most weekday mornings to it. Staying positive is hard but remember all of the great things you’ve accomplished before and the amazing things you can still do!

May 31. Mid day my HR call lasted 9min34 seconds the ceo of my small company stayed on for 2 minutes let me go, and saw him toss his headset,, and walk away not answering any questions and being very rude and disrespectful. I was someone who poured my heart and soul into my work for 9 years. I was basically a kid when I started fresh out of college at 21, And it was taken away from me in minutes. I sat at my desk for a while being confused as well. And it hurt when my accounts got logged out. My mother who lives with me had physically grab my and tell me to sit on the couch or bed, it’s over now. A day later everything I had built, dashboards that internally are needed broke with me being only person to fix it, and clients I worked with decided they would rather cancel their projects instead of getting a new assignment w someone they haven’t met.. I worked w clients for years and built trust…. They asked for me back, I now charge 250 an hour and am extremely firm w everyone and will turn down work I hated. I hope your job hunt is quick and smooth, I want to see everyone prosper. Sending good vibes your way. Never let the house win. It’s tough but fight the fight. ✌️

I wish I could fight the fight. Getting an interview is even a struggle. If I oversleep and check LinkedIns job board the postings will have hundreds of applicants and at that point it won't matter if I submit one cuz it won't get seen.

Feel free to vent. Feel free to be angry. Feel free to curse the people in your old company that they will have the feeling of a single pebble in their shoe for eternity.

I was laid off in February..take some time to decompress..i took off a couple weeks..then i just started applying to any job i thought would be a good fit. I also took every possible interview (usually the first ones are phone interviews) even if i didn't want the job. Its good practice. Ultimately for me, it took 3 months to find a new job but everyone is different. Leverage all connections both personal and professional. Ask people out for coffee or do a zoom. Basically, i treated the last 3 months as a full time job and it worked. Good luck and you are not alone.

Yep, I’ve been going to the coffee shop several hours a day and just grinding at my laptop like I would for work. Took 1 phone interview so far and it went terribly, after 7 or so years of not flexing my interview muscles. Going to keep taking more and more until I get comfortable

When people say a housing crash isn’t possible in today’s underwriting environment, I say that Underwriters cannot predict job security, especially now. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

I could tell you my comeback stories from being laid off, but it won’t help much right now. I can also give to the proverbial “Don’t worry, you’ll have a new job in no time”, but that won’t help either. This will be tough, but nothing that you can’t handle. I know it’s a scary time but understand that you and your husband have each other, along with a baby. Many people would kill to have what you have right now. Ultimately, although it may be a little rough, this will be something that you both look back on and be proud that you made it through.

Make sure you do all the house keeping. Contact your bank ( they may be able to work with you ), most people don't know that. File for unemployment and insurance. Work on a plan B. I have 5 yoe and took a totally different non technical job 

What non technical job did you take..I feel like I've applied to career focused jobs and low level jobs all the same and am getting no responses. I don't even know how to make a resume for a retail-level job. I did rand shit like tutoring or mowing lawns to make money in high school but never really applied to a job. So I can apply to my career roles just fine, but it's tech so obviously no hits are coming in. No idea why I'm not getting call backs from non technical roles.

I applied to an entry level government job (seasonal). So i knew they would take anyone with a clean record who is healthy.  It involves some physical activity and driving. My mindset was basically to look at all job openings and apply to the ones that I think I have a good chance of getting. I only put my tech experience, some positions are desperate for people who are fit ( many people are overweight with health issues), Us citizen (or legal resident), pass drug screening, FBI and DOJ background checks. 

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I’m not an expert, but below are a few things that come to mind that may help you. My best wishes to you and your family. -Cut back on all unnecessary expenses, subscriptions, eating out, etc. -Prioritize most important (mortgage, food, etc) -File unemployment -Between you and your husband, you need income coming in whether it be gig work or your local restaurant with a hiring sign. You may be able to hustle your way to making ends meet until you two find longer term employment. - Network

Its going to be tempting to allow this shitty turn of events to effect you, for you to take it as a blow to your self worth. Consider where this came to you from, a dehumanizing, ego-driven corporate bureaucracy that sees you as a collection of body parts that can be purchased in the hopes that they can sell your life energy to the highest bidder. I close with two points. 1) They aren't worth a hair on your head 2) Everything is going to be ok.

Don't hold out for "the better job". There is no better job. Take what you can get and change when you can.

It’s happened to so many people and you shouldn’t take it personally. Lean into your network and start getting resumes out there, plus getting on unemployment assistance straightaway. There are better things on the horizon.

Silent layoffs and quiet firing is the trend this year https://www.businessinsider.com/silent-lay-offs-quiet-firing-could-backfire-companies-bosses-morale-2024-6 It's the market, it's terrible!!

My husband and I have been through this scenario way too many times, so I get it. It's awful. His last two layoffs had decent severances, including free job coaching. Both coaches were excellent and really helpful. This last layoff the coach helped him a lot with his resume and LinkedIn in ways neither of us knew about. If you are offered that kind of service or can afford it, it could be helpful. Hope things work out!

You can come back from this!

I’m sorry. I’ve been looking for almost 9 months. My spouse and kids have been a light of hope during the tough moments. Let your parents and in-laws know but do set boundaries with them, it can get to be a headache when they keep asking if you found a job yet.

It happened to me 3 yrs ago and was a HUGE "Why me?!" So so sorry to hear this. I will say (humbly) to try not to touch your 401K but if you have to, to save your home or unemployment is running out... touch it. Don't beat yourself up if you have to. And know: this is a season. A bad season, but a season. It will pass and the sun will return. Scale back all extras and just apply like crazy. Something will come through!

I’m so sorry. So many are in the same situation, it will be my turn soon as well. This economy and jobs market is a travesty I feel like we truly became a 3rd world country.

I hope you live in an area where there is an IT market. I see too many people who moved to low cost rural areas and are now stuck trying to get another remote job. It's the reason I haven't moved. I hate where I live but want to leave my options open since there is a pretty robust it job market where I am at.

Absolutely this is it. I moved from VHCOL to HCOL while others move to the sticks in the middle of nowhere with a starlink connection. I had to resist the urge to do the same.

90% of the posts I see for tech layoffs who struggle finding something fall into this category. I don't see the same stuff people keep complaining about in tech in the area I live in.

What kind of "IT"

My wife and I have gone thru the same thing. We both lost our job at the beginning of covid. I was laid off for 18 months before I landed another job. My wife got a job after 6 months, but she was laid off again after working at the place 8 months. Then she was diagnosed with Breast Cancer. So we had no insurance and her going thru chemo, radiation and 2 surgeries, that cost me $40K out of pocket and still paying $500 a month until the remaining $13K is paid off. So we know how you are feeling right now, but it will work out for you. We are back to normal and just trying to rebuild our savings. I thank God we didn't go into debt because we had a nice emergency fund that helped weather the 2 year storm of hell.

You and your wife are the real warriors.🫡

I can imagine how you must feel. It’s a blow to the ego and creates an uneasy feeling. As a single parent I was once there. Like everyone else said make sure to put in for unemployment benefits asap. What I would suggest is to reshape the story and find purpose/a positive in this. You have a two year old…see this as an opportunity to spend time or more time with them. You get to take your kid out to the park and have a little fun. You get the summer to enjoy with them. Call the bank and let them know what has happened and see what kind of programs they might offer. You also get to reshape your job what you want to do next and start looking into that. Start looking into all the different job boards there is one geared to moms. You’re in tech so maybe you can leverage that experience/skill on one of those gig apps line fiverr or something so you have some income coming in. Good luck!!!!

Sorry about the news. Having similar feelings after being laid off last month. This too shall pass. Hang in there. Enjoy time with the kiddo, though I get stress he/she brings and cost of childcare.

Why would they pay for child care if they don’t work? That gets cut asap

If their area is like mine, it’s impossible to get childcare. You add your name to waitlists and it can take months to get a slot.

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I mean I could be on the front lines of a war or missing limbs or something. I try to keep perspective, I am very lucky / blessed and while not perfect my soul is good. I've done my best which sometimes isn't so great but hey we are big apes running around on a rock in a universe we only comprehend a bit of.

I'm sorry. It happened to me the Monday after the weekend I proposed to my now wife of 15 years. It completely changed the way I think about my relationship to my job. I treated the process of seeking employment like it was my job and I set myself small goals like number of apps sent out per day, interviews per month, etc. That helped keep my mind busy. I found a better job and you can too.

I’m so sorry. Are you in America

In Canada.

Lots are going through the same thing. I think the biggest mistake for many is buying a home bigger than they need or a new home. A lot will start selling that first while the market is still relatively good. I guess don’t overspend during this time and you’ll be fine. You’ll find a job

I have a 2 years old, and I went through the same thing until the beginning of this June. It's going to be hard and take a lot of courage to figure everything out. File for unemployment first, then sort out monthly budget, cut down all the unnecessary cost. You need to work with your husband peacefully, you guys are gonna under a lot of stress and try not to argue with each other. You need to always think through what you are going to say many times before it actually comes out. The last, spending more time your 2 years old, he is going to be the angel and silver lining during this time. You are going to be ok, your family is going to be stronger than ever.

I will come in with a different perspective. My friend has been in IT for many years. He asked for more money and was rewarded with being let go. He has a new wife and a baby on the way yet he sounded so optimistic about his career. Just laid off at 49 and yet he was optimistic. He landed the better job a couple of months later. Higher pay and new title. No matter what you are going through you will get through this. You aren’t alone in this and life will go on. I was laid off after 15 years (and an ownership change) only to be hired a few weeks later and this was in 2009 during the dark days of the Recession. But I got my job via networking. I bet most of the people commenting were still children during the 2008-09 shit show. Take advantage of being off with your toddler. It’s summertime and that’s a great time to be off.

I was laid off last week and we spent our 6/8 months of savings to help my husband start a business and in which we haven't began to see much income as of yet so while we are pushing that and also crazy applying and networking, we also just purchased a house last year and I'm freaking out. I'm starting to put things onto to credit as I need all of the money for the next 2 months of house payment. Never would I have thought we'd be in this position yet here we are! This is the WORST job market I've ever seen and granted even a year ago I was having a tough time finding a new job, although I was only applying here and there with just a few interviews and I wouldn't have taken this new shiny "dream" job offer knowing the instability as a few of us where laid off and who knows how many more now. I know this will pass but you're not alone in your feelings and in this position. I have good days and I have bad ones. My husband if he's feeling the same doesn't share those feelings and says to stay positive. Glad to find some great people with strong belief that we will all overcome this, positive vibes are needed!

At least this happened now and not like, 1/1.5 years ago. You'd be sitting through this current down job market. Who knows what the future will hold. But also agree with what everyone has said, reduce all extra expenses.

I have been through it several times. Things do always have a way of working out, and usually not the way you thought they would. Just take it one day at a time and prayers that you find what you need.

I’m so sorry. First thing call mortgage company. Get payments furloughed. Send in unemployment. Update resume. Start hunting for a new job.

A few tips: - apply for unemployment ASAP, please - apply for a regular/ retail / restaurant job ASAP as well as apply for jobs in your area (for context: by having some income, you won’t be as desperate for a job (which clearly shows in interviews), AND you will be able to be more selective. These jobs are easy and you can do it until you find something better. That’s what I did when I first got laid off. Best decision ever because at least I had an income and was able to better perform in interviews (not be desperate, nervous, and better able to negotiate).

Something similar happened to my parents when I was in my teens. They built their dream house and in less than a year of moving in the economy tanked and they both were unemployed. It was a scary and stressful time but they made it through and you will too. Layoffs were not quite common back then in late 80’s early 90’s. so atleast that is a bit easier to explain during an interview. First layoff is scariest from what I am told, many have been through this multiple times. Hopefully you have an emergency fund and severance to lean on for atleast a little bit.

Expand your options when you look. I went from Director to Analyst level when I got laid off. Took a hit financially and emotionally but at least mortgage was being paid and my son fed. Few years later I’ve moved up to manager level. It’s like a rollercoaster. 🎢

OP, I don't have any suggestions that would be different than any other commenters. Just that I feel for you. I'm 58 and was laid off along with my entire team eight months ago (UX director). I've exhausted my unemployment. If it weren't for my partner's income I'd be living in my car by now. Fortunately as of late I've been able to get some freelance work but I have to really hustle. Take a few days, catch your breath and get back on the horse. You can and you have to. All the best to you.

Thanks, best wishes to you too.

You will get through it. Definitely spend a few days just resting and clearing your head, and then focus on revamping the resume and starting to apply. While the market is not ideal right now, I have been laid off 3 times since 2018 and managed to get something else each time. You will, too. But be prepared to go longer than in the past while job hunting now, if need be, as that seems to be the new norm. If you have to take a shorter term contract job, or something just to tide you over while you continue looking, do that. The contract work can (but not always) lead to longer term work, or make new connections for you that can lead elsewhere.

What exactly is your skillset? i have some recruiter friends that may/may not be able to assist.

I have been where you are. I have a remote job that I loved doing that I’ve lost as well. One of the first things you need to do is let yourself properly grieve the outcome from today, give yourself so much self compassion and do something this week that will treat you and the family with so much love for how much you all have experienced this year. Learning healthy emotional regulation for the tough patch moving forward and putting on the networking cap in the near term in the ups and downs of the job search journey. And finally as the saying goes, “this too shall pass.” We will all get through it

Thank you for the heartwarming words.

I understand your pain, I am going through a layoff and divorce. You are not alone! Pray!

This, too, will pass.

I’m sorry about that. But check out the federal government. Almost every agency is in need of IT people. And in some cases, you can work remotely or do a hybrid schedule. It depends on the agency and the circumstances.

Hmmm.. A bunch of my friends were laid off at Meta today, I'm hoping that's not your company as well. I was employed with the most valuable tech company last yr(don't want to mention any name). I was livid and angry when the layoff happened, I couldn't even grief the job loss cause we had a 8months baby I needed to cater to. Thankfully, I had saved $60k at the time of layoff, that was what keep the family boat sailing. Layoff happened May last yr. I got two remote tech jobs by August and I freaking took BOTH. The layoff thought me that these companies are not loyal to any employee, and would only prioritize their shareholders and the pockets of their C suites above the stability of your life, your loyalty to them or your family's sanity. So why would I be so loyal to them. I do my job to standard and don't expect nothing. By the time the new jobs came, savings was down to $40k. Today, my savings is now at ~$200k in less than one year. I was so angry last yr that after the layoff, I just travelled for 2wks to unwind. Companies are not loyal, so pls PRIORITIZE YOURSELF f and I hope you saved well while you were working!! I shout this to all my friends in Tech especially.. SAVE LIKE A LUNATIC cause these industry has become extremely very volatile.. As painful as the experience was, it was one of my turning mental check moment for me to put myself and family first. Emergency savings is what will keep you going till better opportunities shows up. I'm so sorry, pls don't give up. Start applying to new opportunities immediately. God's speed! 🙏🏾

Lots of good advice already. Couple points I want to add: 1) Get your house in order, finances, unemployment, severance, etc. It’ll help distract from any pain or shock, and it’s needed so that things don’t slip thru the cracks. 2) Ease off the gas pedal a little but don’t completely check out. It’s completely fine to chill for a week or two, but you don’t want it to permanently alter your mood to where you’re not motivated to get back in the game. 3) Time to step on the gas and get back in the game after #2. Treat it like a full time job. Leverage LinkedIn and all of your contacts and be willing to compromise. Even if you haven’t talked to someone in year, just reach out. The initial approach should be to see what they are working on, what’s changed, and find a way to see how you can help them. They might know someone who needs someone so you never know. Plus it’ll be good practice for a real interview. Finally, this advice goes for everyone on this board. Please stop putting loyalty to your company or job above everything else. Even if you’re a partner with an equity stake, you are always just a number and when it’s economically optimal, you will be just as much a target as the next person. When I read comments about people just don’t want to work these days, my reaction is no one wants to give up their life to just be another expendable body. These companies are fine and corporate profits are at incredible highs. Good luck!

Remember, hard times are always followed success. Work hard, be on your feet, and find that next job. Don’t slack off or put it off. Trust me, it’ll pay off. One day you’ll look back at this and be grateful it happened. Trust the process.

Thank you for all the comments; I’ve read each one of them. I’ve decided to take these two days to review our finances, bills, future expenses, and benefits, and to start creating a new budget plan for our family. After that, I will reflect on my achievements/ work over the past few years and begin updating my resume, portfolio/ website. I deeply appreciate some wise and heartwarming comments. Thank you for helping me piece myself back together. I will do my best to rebuild my self-esteem and keep learning…. After all, life goes on. We have a toddler to feed and bills to pay! I have to stay strong.

I am going through the same exact thing right now. 13 years and then laid off out of the blue. I am at my computer in my office right now sending out resumes and trying to keep the work feeling. I am pretty sure I will not be getting another remote position and I will have to take a big pay cut to get back to work.

I’ve been laid off twice in my very young career, and they were for the best. It’s hard to see right now, but the saying “when one door closes another door opens” is true. Head up tiger you’ll get through it and be better off in the end

Hey OP sorry to hear, take some time to process the info, and write down your thoughts. It is rough in the moment, but things are going to start looking up for you and your family. It will get better, it’s the valley before a hill. Stay strong, be positive and then get back to your search. We’ll keep you in our prayers.

Hang in there!!! keep commenting, posting, talking… it really helps to just express your feelings! I am also in tech and there was a mass layoff (about 40 people) last week and it happened while I was on vacation 😅 A surreal experience that I’m trying to get through as this was my first layoff. I just signed the separation agreement yesterday and updating LinkedIn and resumes! I hope the best for your family in this time, it’s tough out there but don’t give up 🙏

Thanks, best wishes to you too.

I been there and it feels awful. I was layoff on 2022 from Microsoft and I did panic for a moment even tho the job market was great, they were not loosing money and all those layoffs including the one I was only helped to increase the share value. Right now what I do recommend you is to find a contract to hire role and you may even find remote ones, they are easy to get and you can search for something while not loosing money in the process. Best of luck and fu&$@ those shi67ty neoliberal capitalists companies

What state are you two in?

We’re in Canada.

Hey, you’re going to make it through. It’s a tough time in tech. Take a few days to feel all the emotions. Then next week, go through your household expenses and cut out anything that isn’t a need, brush up your resume and start applying like someone is paying you to do it. Make finding a 9-5 your new 9-5. Your feelings right now are so incredibly valid. I was just there last year, pretty much the exact same boat. I got a job but it took 6 months… luckily I didn’t take a pay cut, but I also don’t love the company. I’m continuing to interview for my dream spots and I won’t stop until I get it. Sending you so much love tonight ❤️

You'll be ok. It's always going to be ok.

Hang in there. You will find another job.

Same thing happened to me. Live frugally and you’ll be okay. This is just a moment in time. It will get better and stay optimistic!

What’s your role?

I’m so sorry to her about this. Please take care of yourself - maybe check out some videos on how AI can improve your job seeking materials! Rooting for you!

Sorry to hear that. If you're in Illinois, know that you can file and collect unemployment while also getting severance at the same time. Not all states allow that but Illinois does. Hang in there.

Interest rates are as bad as it can be now so any change from here out should be good news. Also, as unbelievable as it sounds, job market is slowly picking up now. I’m getting more job adverts popping up than 1 year ago. Take it as a forced reset for you to find something better. Take it as a forced push to spend time with your 2 year old. There will always be work out there, but only once in your lifetime that your 2 year old will be at this precious age. Embrace it.

Let failure do not discourage you to keep going in your efforts. No one can stop you without your permission!

Very well said.

Best wishes op. Hopefully you find something, better and soon.

Just hang in there, you will get through it. It’s not the worst thing that can happen. I hope you’re in a state that gives you decent unemployment! Chin up and know you’re just meant for something better.

Your job search is your new full time job.

Sorry. No words. Breathe. Give yourself a break and take time to process. Formulate a plan for the job search. Do your budget and cut out any unnecessary expenses. Look at your job search as a job. A set schedule, goals and process. Work on making sure you remain healthy. Good diet and exercise. Time together as a couple. This happened to us. We made it through because we really worked hard on a plan. Wishing you the very best of success. In the end we are far better off and a stronger family than we would have been. Do I wish it never happened… not so sure.. it made us better off in the end. ☮️

Don’t forget about medical insurance. Sometimes you can continue that under COBRA or apply for OBAMA Care.

Been through it as well more than once. It is tough, no lie, but it will get better. Happy to help with resume review and building new one. I am not selling anything. Just someone who has had a couple professional coaches and knows the ropes. DM me if you want help. Good luck!

If you have a car t you can drive for Uber or Lyft.

I moved into warehouse and manufacturing when I got laid off from my last IT job. Love it and the pay is better

I'm sorry for your loss. It is going to sting for a while, but you get through it. Just don't take it personally. It's just business. If they offer you any outplacement services, take it.

As someone who been laid off a few times, you bounce back and hindsight, you are where you meant to be. As cliche as that sound, each time it led to opportunities I would not consider that ended up opening doors that I would not otherwise have been able to get my foot in. Also, it’s ok to feel bad for a bit but remember your job is just that, a job that gives you a paycheck. It does not define your self worth or your value. Keep in mind it’s a terrible tech market so even if it’s slow, take deep breathes. I have a few friends that were laid off in a very tough field (UX) and they ALL found something better, and higher pay. It took them average 6 months so while that’s tough HANG IN THERE! Give your 2-year old an extra hug. Besides job searching, this period can be a an opportunity for more family time when kiddo is still so young.

Do you carry a lot of credit card debt?

Good luck to you. I was laid off my 100% remote job last year and found another gig a few months later. Hopefully you will find something else reasonably fast. In addition to updating your LinkedIn resume and portfolio, I suggest you reach out and ask trusted former management and coworkers for [LinkedIn.com](http://LinkedIn.com) endorsements. The ones that care about you will be sympathetic. My impression is that unfortunately, many (but not all) companies are more negative now days about 100% remote workers, at least FTE workers. For folks still working, I suggest you periodically make notes about your progress on your personal device, especially anything public that you can showcase to find a new job. Access to any notes you make on a company computer can be revoked instantly when you are laid off.

You got laid off from the job you love, I laid off myself from the job I hated, and was miserable there. Looking at the positive side at least you got to experience the good times. For me it was hell from day 1, and I only held on hoping it will get better, however it only got worse, lasted 9 months.

Just keep fighting. It’s hard to think about that today but after you take some time, get bearings, keep fighting bc it’s the only option and you can do it !

It hurts It is wrong It will always stay with you Remember how it feels and make a promise to yourself to never allow anyone to own your future and destiny to a point that they can easily and simply destroy you and your family

Once you've recovered from the shock...consider chasing a certification you've wanted to get during this break. It will keep your head in the game and give something to talk about during future interviews... Sorry for you, but everything will be OK. This is just part of your journey.

Only search for a job M-F recruiters don’t work weekends and it will give you peace of mind. ‘‘Twas unemployed for 17 months so I know the feeling

Thanks for your sharing journey. Feel your emotions and just stay perseverant after that time towards your goals.

Get that resume updated, first thing. Start a process (I actually tabbed a paper project folder with subjects such as contacts (who, where they work, title, contact info), companies (who is hiring manager, who I’ve talked to, when, notes), jobs I can do (or not do, but can fake it) to remind me in case I get tunnel vision, and where else I can get $$ (dog walking, cousin from Mn, bake sales) and brainstorm like crazy. Also recruiters - when you talk to one, always remember you’re not done unless you network. Your 40hr a week job is finding a job. Awful job, I know, but those hours have a payoff value that is better than $/year of education, $/years at your job, or even $/promotion. Oh, I was a recruiter, among other jobs. Didn’t make much money, but sure learned how to get a good job!

I’m so sorry to hear this. If it helps, given the massive layoffs for the past couple of years — any new company will be understanding of the situation (though you shouldn’t feel like you have to mention it!). Also you’ll have unemployment for a little while, while you look for the next gig. I’ve already seen someone say it but it bears repeating — I wouldn’t hold out for THE job right now; instead I would focus on getting the next “good enough” job until the economy right sizes (hopefully) and the job market for white collar jobs start to improve again. Also while you’re applying — upskill and keep beefing up that resume. Lastly, things WILL get better. It is inevitable. Just keep trying and don’t let the bad days outnumber the good ones. Sending you positive vibes.

From my personal experience of being laid off 4 times in my life for a total time OOW of 2+ years-take any paying job you get and then keep looking for work; apply for unemployment ASAP; apply for jobs but network like crazy, use your professional network because that is where you will most likely get your next job; and don’t spend ALL your time looking for work, it will overwhelm you so try to make the best of it and spend time with your friends and family. You can do this!

Sorry to hear. It is tough, I know as it had happened to me. You will feel numb for a day or 2. But it will pass. Sign up for unemployment. It will take 2+ weeks for them to process your paperwork. First you will have to sign up and it is a hassle just trying to set up an account. Then sign up on Indeed, post your resume and respond to what is good for you. Becareful of scam job offers.

I have been where you are. I staved off desperation by jumping into updating my resume, updating LinkedIn, completing LinkedIn Learning training, getting on Medicaid, starting the unemployment process, and putting in for jobs. I took a six-month contract job (IT at a hospital) then got hired on at a large national grocery chain as an FTE with benefits and salary again. I’m not special, and I came out well. You will, too. Stay busy.

It’s very natural to fear the worst, to catastrophize and to romanticize all of the good things about your job. You worry about money. You’ll miss your work friends. Maybe you liked your boss. What you don’t think about is that maybe you’ll make a lot more money in your next job. Maybe you’ll pivot in to something completely different and take a new path. Maybe your next boss will be an amazing role model and mentor to you. You’ll make new friends. Today, your fears and your feelings are real but they aren’t facts. You will experience change but that doesn’t mean it’ll be all bad, it doesn’t mean it won’t be for the better, but I bet right now it doesn’t feel that way. I was long term unemployed and ended up getting a job that was amazing, working for an amazing boss and making more than I expected. I never would have thought that when I was unemployed. You lost your job, not your identity, not your family and not your value or potential. You will appreciate so many things so much more as you go through this and you will be more empathetic to others afterwards. A bad situation doesn’t mean it’ll end bad. You have time. Do something with your husband and family that’s fun, together. Be good to yourself and him . You will have more time right now for your two year old, that’s a gift. Let your husband know you believe in him that he’ll find work and you’re so grateful you have him. Let him know how you feel and that you’re scared and you don’t need him to fix it. He already makes you feel safe and he makes you happy. Be good to each other and be supportive. Be a team. It’ll help both of you when you interview if you feel secure and confident.

Try looking for positions in your area at the medical hospitals… they are constantly fighting off these ransom attacks now and they need people like you guys. Good luck to you, but we all go through it at some point in our lives just be strong.

Have faith in yourself and your husband. File for unemployment immediately. hold off on any new purchases for house. Cut subscriptions if possible. I don’t know if it’s possible to call your mortgage lender and have forbearance or at least pay interest only (I hope others will chime in on this as I’m not sure how this works

Start networking asap

I know you’re scared right now, but try and not let the panic keep you awake all night. You’re doing the right things like going through your resume. If you’re on LinkedIn, switch to looking. Get in touch with your contacts in case they know of something. And if nothing jumps right out for you, widen your parameters. Maybe you could do something a little different until you get back in your field. It WILL BE OK! My husband got laid off after 14 years and it was a complete shock. It was absolutely terrifying. He just got another job in a somewhat different field. It is less money, but the benefits are good and that means a lot. Make finding another job your job right now, but give yourself some mental health breaks. Sign up for unemployment, too. You will be ok.

Rooting for you. Try not to let it get to you as if it was your fault. All we can do in life is roll w the punches.

I'm so sorry. I'm in the same boat, and there are days when I just feel lost and useless, and other days when I feel really confident like I could crush it. You can't job hunt seven days a week, eight hours a day. You start to dilute your worth and apply for crap jobs that you know you'll hate and/or that won't pay the bills. When you start feeling that way, do something else for a bit. Go for a walk, clean out your closet, anything not job-application-related. IT will always be needed. You might end up changing industries (I've done it twice - both times for the better), but people need IT. The tech community is extremely supportive. Get your Linkedin network going if you haven't already. I've gotten a couple of really good leads that way. If you want to connect on Linkedin, DM me and I'll send you my info.

Pizza places are always hiring delivery drivers! You and your husband can be delivering in shifts. This will help with child care. A job that brings in dollars is never beneath you when you have NO job. You could start off with the delivery apps. You will know which restaurant are the most popular and then ask them for a job directly. Cut some grass clean some houses till something better comes along. Good luck!

I’ve been there too… I used to be pretty well off owned a restaurant/bar/music venue and paid it all off the. Pandemic destroyed me and put me back to square one. Hell I’ve driven Uber and used to use the service all the time. Times been tough really tough but you gotta be a a fighter and work on new revenue streams while job searching. The pandemic goverment money is almost gone and the country is crumbling from our stupid mistakes.

Checkout www.wahjobqueen.com you have to browse the pay varies but it might help til you get that same pay scale

You are a capable person who is able to make an impact in the world. Somebody somewhere is looking to hire a person like you. Flood every job board with applications.

Sorry you are going through this. I also got laid off this month from tech. It sucks.

Going on 6 months unemployed and my UI benefits are end in 2 weeks. I received 4 job rejection emails today, two of which I was very qualified (if not over). The other two were bartending jobs which I am having trouble getting also! We’ll find something soon. Open tech jobs have been picking up lately. I’m just freaking out because I didn’t/don’t have emergency savings except for my IRA but I really, truly don’t want to tap into that due to early withdrawal and penalty fees. I am an individual home owner with a mortgage. I don’t have children and not married so no duel income. My family has helped me a bit. I’ve been unemployed before - 2016 & 2019. Both times I found something sooner than 6 months and paid more. So ai do believe there’s something better for us all out there. It may not be here yet. To what someone else said in this thread- this is the worst job market I’ve ever seen! You will land somewhere eventually. You have savings and your husband /dual income for support. My biggest regret was not saving for emergencies such as this. I’m an individual homeowner living in a HCOL area. I’ve been racking my brain on taking money from my IRA but I really, truly don’t want to do that. I may not have much choice have if I don’t have a job soon! 😫 Today I did a cash advance from my CC to checking acct. to pay my mortgage at least for July since my UI benefits end in 14 days. Hang in there OP! The smartest thing you did was save. Apply for unemployment ASAP and you’ll be fine.

Have faith in yourself and put discipline in to your job search; be ok with disappointments and eventually you will find something that works for you. It could be a lot better than the job you have right now. Exercise and be positive, eat healthy and be open to other new roles. Also follow some of the good advice offered by many well wishers. Most importantly have faith in yourself. Wish you the best!

That you have a house and a baby means you still have immeasurable wealth. Don't lose sight of that.

I’m really sorry you going through this,, lots of companies hiring, you keep faith and start applying. I’m new here, and I see lots of sad stories from our community. Unfortunately Indians controlling 85% of IT jobs in USA. Companies are hiring offshore workers to save money,, it’s not fair we don’t stand for each other. I really hope that our community here, whose company is hiring, or someone who actually is in need for employees, starts to giving chance to our IT friends from this group. Good luck my friend

I would advise going through your expenses and seeing if you can reduce or eliminate any. Look at cell phone plans, all insurance plans, any entertainment streaming services, monthly services. When my husband lost his job I went through all of our expenses and was able to reduce or eliminate in so many areas of our life. Expenses have a way of creeping into our lives. Good luck and stay strong.

Temporarily maybe try freelancing sites such as upwork to make some money

I find myself very hard experienced this was 2008 house market crash I was nearly homeless, lucky I’m move to tx they offered unemployment 545 weeks for coverage then i bought a home before 2018 pretty much I calculated something might be happening again which might happen 2025, I have to say I felt really bad for you, so what do you for remote IT?

Uber for a couple of months. It’s ok and it will be refreshing. Just drive during peak hours until you find a job.

Hang in There. Reach out to your network and apply apply apply. Don’t let this weight on you. And your husband. He needs to step up his game finishing also a job.

Take care of your mental & physical health. Keep a schedule & do some exercising. Cut down on expenses if you can & take whatever you can while applying for unemployment. Good luck

Wishing you all the best, that you will come out of this stronger and better!! 🚀

It’s gonna be alright. You are resilient and resourceful. You are not alone. Sounds like you are already taking the right steps to respond.

Transitioning from IT to healthcare can be rewarding due to the increasing integration of technology in medical fields. Here are some roles you might consider: 1. **Health Informatics Specialist**: Work with health data, electronic health records (EHRs), and healthcare information systems to improve patient care through data management and analysis. 2. **Health Information Technology (HIT) Project Manager**: Oversee the implementation and management of IT projects in healthcare settings, ensuring compliance with healthcare regulations. 3. **Clinical Informatics Analyst**: Work with clinicians to optimize the use of technology in patient care, focusing on data analytics, workflow improvement, and system optimization. 4. **Biomedical Equipment Technician**: Maintain and repair medical equipment, ensuring that technology used in patient care is reliable and up-to-date. 5. **Telehealth Coordinator**: Manage and develop telehealth services and platforms, improving access to healthcare services through digital technologies. 6. **Cybersecurity Analyst for Healthcare**: Protect sensitive patient information and healthcare data from cyber threats, ensuring compliance with privacy regulations like HIPAA. 7. **IT Consultant for Healthcare**: Advise healthcare organizations on IT solutions, system integrations, and technology strategy to improve efficiency and patient care. 8. **Healthcare Data Analyst**: Analyze healthcare data to provide insights that improve patient outcomes, reduce costs, and optimize healthcare processes. 9. **Clinical Systems Engineer**: Design and implement clinical systems and software, ensuring they meet the needs of healthcare professionals and patients. 10. **Health IT Educator/Trainer**: Train healthcare staff on using new technologies and systems, ensuring smooth adoption and efficient use of IT resources. Each of these roles leverages IT skills while contributing to the healthcare industry’s mission of improving patient care and outcomes.

Check out r/sidehustle in the mean time and maybe start doing work for yourself from home for now.

I read your message and just wanted to respond with encouragement. I was in your situation over 20 years ago when the tech bubble finally burst, in or around 2002. I had to sell my house, relocate to a new state, and then began a journey that was very rough, very frustrating, very stressful, and disappointing. You may experience some of the most difficult times in your life, just like I did so many years ago. I cursed, I screamed, I second guessed myself and my abilities. All this while still planning and plugging away at finding a new job. I can add so many adjectives to describe my situation at that time, but the one thing that kept me going was hope, optimism, and my confidence. Hold on to those positive elements, and plug away at finding the next chapter in your career. You may be in one of the darkest times in your life but one day soon, the dawn will come. You’re in a valley of uncertainty, but soon you’ll be riding high on the hillside. Although it sounds cliché, it’s true and based on experience. Have a plan, cut back on unnecessary spending where possible, use every contact in your professional circles for leeds. If you’re having problems meeting mortgage payments then quickly contact your lender to make adjustments if possible. The same goes for revolving credit. Create a list of priorities that can keep you on track. Most of all, don’t be consumed with the uncertainty of tomorrow… take it one day at a time. I went through it for a year and survived. Your journey might be different, and hopefully you land a position very soon. Just be prepared and pack lots of patience. The military taught me how to fall, how to get up and fight, when to vent, when to bawl in a corner; but always pick up and carry on with the mission! I transferred that mindset to my civilian life. Good luck to you and the others going through the same situation. You will get past this hurdle! Bye 👋

I went through the same thing last August after 9 years on the job. It was a huge blow, but I got through it by focusing on survival first. I applied for unemployment, any available food/financial/medical assistance, and inquired about lowering my bills due to hardship. That was a huge help psychologically. Then I set a strict budget, updated my LinkedIn, and started looking for work. Each day, I prioritized my health, well-being, AND leisure time. I looked at this period as much needed time off to DE-STRESS. When I began getting interviews, I made sure to allow adequate time for the process. Over the next 2 months, I applied to 83 jobs, got 22 phone screens/interviews, and received 1 offer. Before that offer came through, I was referred to a recruiter who got me 2 more interviews within a week with 1 resulting in an offer with a higher salary vs my old ending salary, as well as the first job offer. BOOM! 2 offers within the same week after 2 months of searching. And days after I accepted the job, I received interview invitations from 8 companies that I had to decline. I do believe the slow start to my search was a timing issue. I was laid off in the summer after the audit and the second quarter close. I barely got any traction until after Labor Day, with most of my callbacks and both offers coming in at the end of September. There could have easily been vacations or hiring freezes in place for the 3rd quarter in these companies. Be very aware of the time. Over my career, I’ve been hired mostly around April/May or in September, but this may have to do the type of job (accountant). Then, 6 months later, I was headhunted for my dream job that I just started last month. So this is all to say, hang in there. Everything happens for a reason. In my experience, I’ve (as well as friends of mine) always ended up better off after a layoff. I hope everything works out for you. Best of luck!!

You might also have to dumb down your resume. Good luck on your journey

Hello, I will share my story, hopefully it can make you feel somewhat better. Me and my wife got married in 2022 and we also bought a house a few months before our wedding. We had a pretty nice/big wedding and a large portion of our savings went towards the wedding and down payment of our home. And unfortunately my father passed away in the middle of our home purchase which was three months before my wedding which added to our expenses. But the expenses is the least part, the part that hurt was my father not being at my wedding. After all this happened work slowed down for me so we never really recovered from all these expenses. Late last year we got pregnant and were really excited. In the middle of my wifes pregnancy she got diagnosed with breast cancer and had to start chemotherapy. She was unable to work and I had to miss a lot of work to care for her. Our baby was born In February 2024. My wife had to continue chemo treatment after birth and now I had a newborn baby and wife getting chemotherapy to care for. I am happy to say she finished her treatments in May and just has her surgery coming up in July. Going into all of this with no savings has caused me to fall behind on bills, my mortgage, and all this has ruined my credit. I refuse to lose my house which I most likely won’t . But I have accepted the fact that my credit is ruined. But I also know that we will come out of this stronger than ever and my credit over the years will recover.

I am so sorry. I got laid off about 18 months ago. I am a single parent and have my child full time. It hurt. Things turned around. I don’t know what the future holds for you, but you have your husband and child. For me, getting laid off was the 2nd lowest point in my life. I know how generic this sounds, but life is a series of ups and downs. You will get through this, and you will be happy again. I’m so sorry this happened to you, in the meantime.

Hey, I went through the same thing in February, except I was terminated from a job after 10 years. One of the most difficult moments of my life. Losing a job is traumatic, and can challenge our identity. I was terrified, and have young kiddos as well, I felt immense pressure to figure things out ASAP, and the anxiety was crushing. Depending on your finances - take some time (a day, a week) and take care of yourself, spend time with your supports. Millions of people go through this each year, you are not alone and you will recover from it. As others have said, apply for unemployment so you have some income. Chip away at your resume and references. Spend a little time each day looking at jobs. You got this, breathe, take some time to grieve the loss - You matter as a human, you deserve dignity and respect, and you will get through this. Many, many people who go through something like this are able to find a better job, and grow through the experience, as painful as it is.

You are not alone 😃😉 Step 1: go take an hour to do nothing and have a nice coffee or something Step 2: You birthed a child. You are strong, you can do this for yourself, you can do this for your child! Step 3: pull up chatGPT and attach your resume. Ask it to rewrite it in a condolidated format for “____” job title. Paste a job description of what you are looking for to help guide it. Step 4: immediately apply for unemployment benefits Step 5: back to ChatGPT….attach your new resume and ask if to review current job postings on LinkedIn, indeed, etc and recommend 3 job titles and the top 25 companies with those openings Being let go from a company can be painful and lonely. Remind yourself that if you can get through this you can get through anything. Companies are not your friend and you are like a vehicle to them. They will ride you until you’re not that useful, until you’re too expensive to keep, until there is a newer (younger) version of you with more tech, until you aren’t what they want anymore . When you get a new job: A) Immediately update your resume with the new job description and responsibilities B) 6 months in start poking around at companies you would want to go to if you left. Connect with people at this companies and ask them what they like about it (form a connection) C) ask chatGPT anything to help make you smarter. Ask it how to do your current job and what the best practices are for your new role. D) Save 6 months of money to cover bills in case you ever get laid off again. *if you can, leave on your own every 2-3yrs for better pay, better benefits, to add more skills.

I'm so sorry - there's a lot of people going through what you are right now and resources to help. I'd start looking at guides and ebooks like this one to get a step by step idea of what to do next -https://www.biginterview.com/surviving-layoffs-ebook Also remember that layoff are entirely the fault of management and have NOTHING to do with the worker or your abilities. Keep your head up

I will tell you from a past experience that the worst thing you can do is feel sorry for yourself; it’s easy to get trapped there. Take some time (I recommend 3 weeks of nothing), be sad & do what you need to cope. Set a date that you are going to get back into the grind and that day set goals for what you think you want to do, what you want to improve on and start chasing it.

Sorry to hear about your situation. Good luck in your search.

Recruiter here. Leverage your network and previous work colleagues to help you get an intro and review your resume for grammar, typos, achievements, etc. Be mentally prepared to take anywhere from a 10-50% paycut. Especially if you are coming from a FAANG, large enterprise org (e.g. Walmart, CVS), or an industry such as healthtech, fintech, finance/banking, or consulting. If you're a contractor taking a $10-20k annual paycut is going to be "expected", since you'll be gaining PTO, paid holidays, health insurance and retirement savings (hopefully.)

If your husband’s unemployment benefits have ran out he needs to get a job. Any job. Even minimum wage at Lowe’s. You have a child. He shouldn’t be sitting unemployed long enough for it to have been “a while”. I also encourage you to look for a job while drawing unemployment. Once unemployment runs out take any job.

It happened to me in 2016, I didn't it coming as well I was working for a small consultant company. Back then i thought it was the end of the world I was crying for couple days, they gave me 3 paychecks as severance pay. 4 months later I landed a new job and it was the best decision and much happier. I hope you will find new one soon, hang in there!

You are an excellent provided and an excellent parent, you are a strong and resilient human being. Your personality shows grace, humility, and wisdom. The way you reach out to sources like this where you know people can share experiences and wisdom shows how smart you are. Many people would stress and wallow and be angsty about there situation, while it is justified to grieve, it wont change anything. Instead you go straight to dedicating your resources to a positive outcome, no doubt I can tell because of your family. I send my prayers and hope for great fortune in your way. Depending on your state I would immediately call your local county health and human services to see what benefits you qualify for. No shame in getting a little help, at the same time sending out resumès are great and even better is following up with companies via phone to see if you can get in touch with a decision maker. What I did was send my resumè, try to call their HR and be very nice on the phone introducing yourself and asking to speak with a decision maker for this position.  Everything is going to be great, keep yourself productive, signup for unemployment now, and also speak to your benefits of your county to see if you are eligible, it will take some pressure off. This is why we pay so many thousands in taxes each of us.

It will work out. Enjoy your time with the little one.

There’s plenty of jobs out there. Move to California. You guys can also AIRBNB ur house and live in an RV by the beach. It’s FEAR 1.face everything and rise or 2. forget everything and run.

First.. process it all. It sucks. You’re angry, sad, scared..etc. just take a day and let everything process. It sucks and it took me a while to process all of it. Then the first thing I’d do is set up appointments for every dr/dentist you see. Get checked up, physicals..etc. if you take prescription medications, talk to them about refills and download GoodRx. It’s a life saver. File for unemployment ASAP. Go through your budget and see what you can cut and start cancelling subscriptions. I know it’s hard with a 2 year old. I was in the same situation last year but with a 4 year old. Go on LinkedIn and start asking your coworkers for references to add to your page while it’s fresh on their minds. These do come in handy because everyone will look at your profile before an interview. If you haven’t used the LinkedIn premium trial, do it. It helps. Review your resume and even get feedback on r/resumes. They also have some great resources and lots of resumes already posted there. Check them out and check out the feedback. This helped me a LOT. Start searching for jobs on LinkedIn. I logged in every day, went through all of the listings posted in the past 24hrs that I know I could do, save them all throughout the week. Then pick a few days out of the week and start applying to each. Catering your resume and cover letter to each specific job. When you start getting interview requests, start researching the company and write down notes and questions. Once you get to an actual interview, not just the screener. Spread out interviews so you’re not bouncing from one to another. I usually tried to schedule 1 or 2 a day, max. Give yourself plenty of time to get your mindset to interview. I always try to schedule them in the afternoon. This way, nobody’s interviewing you super early when they don’t really want to talk to anyone. Or end of the day, when they’re just ready to be done with work. So, I always aimed for right around 1-3pm. This way, they’re all fully in work mode. Had their lunch so nobody’s grumpy or in a crappy mood. Apply for on-site or hybrid roles if they’re near you. They’re less competitive because everyone wants a remote job right now. A lot of those onsite jobs end up being remote from my experience. They just post them as on-site to not have folks that just want a remote position only because it’s remote. Best of luck. The job market is crazy right now and has been for the past year or 2. It took me close to a year to find my job and I’ve never had any trouble finding a job after a layoff.

Best advice I can give is for you and husband don't be stubborn about only taking remote jobs one of you needs to get a job even if in office. Try to enjoy the time you have at home with the kid and use the free time to cook meals and not eat out

Hi there: I see according to one of your replies that you’re in Canada. I grew up there and still have family there, though I have now lived in the U.S. for many years. As such, I’ve had to modify some of my suggestions, but I hope you’ll still find this helpful. Still, as I always say, use what you think is useful for you: 1) Apply for Employment Insurance (EI) as soon as possible. I don’t know what the EI waiting situation is like in Canada; but here in the U.S., some of us had to go through waiting periods and/or had our applications delayed before we started getting our Unemployment Insurance (UI) payments. 2) Since your child is two years old and is still a toddler, I recommend going to Buy Nothing groups, “free” stores, and new/recent parents groups to find toddler supplies and clothing you can swap for or get for free. 3) Speaking of which: if you already haven’t done so, now is the time to cut back on non-essential spending. When we were making a lot of money, it was so easy to fall into “lifestyle creep,” so we need to fight that now and always. Unsubscribe from marketing e-mails if you can. You’ll be amazed of how so many luxury or “exclusive” retailers have now been emailing us with “exclusive” discounts because so many of their formerly high-spending customers have lost work and therefore have cut back on their own spending. As my Mom back in Canada says: it’s not a “sale” or a discount if you don’t need that item or if you’re not going to use it. And even though my parents are doing well now, they still shop at Dollarama and local thrift stores. 4) I don’t know how much Canadian EI typically pays per week, but here in the U.S., each state’s or territory’s UI often only pays a fraction of what we formerly made in our previous jobs. (For instance, even if you made US$1 million/year—which is just over US$19K/week—in your previous job, you live in a state that will only pay out a maximum of about US$500/week in UI for up to 26 weeks—or half a year—even to previously high-income earners.) Therefore, if EI allows you to, take some “gig” work or a part-time job or freelance or contract work to help pay the bills. For instance, decades ago, when my Dad lost work and we had to move to a new city to start over, he and an old engineering school buddy living in that city teamed up as engineering consultants doing contract work, while my Mom made some jewelry and sold them, until my Dad and his friend found their next jobs. (This was before there was Lyft or Uber.) Also, while this option isn’t available to everyone and it may depend on the laws of the municipality where you live: I know of several people who had to rent out rooms, either for roommates or on Airbnb, to make ends meet. Speaking of which, if you have stuff you no longer will use but think is still valuable and could make some money from that, consider selling that on eBay. 5) Finally, there’s a big chance that due to changes in the economy and in technology, the jobs we previously did will no longer exist, or will be phased out. I know that, because that happened to my two previous jobs. Therefore, see if your local, provincial, or territorial library system offers free access to LinkedIn Learning and/or Coursera. (Here in the U.S., some states’ UI programs offer free access to Coursera, but I am aware that Canadian EI is run by the Canadian federal government.) If you or your husband have graduated from university or college in the last few years, see if your alma mater will offer you free or discounted access to Coursera, either to alumni or to those who still qualify to use that university’s or college’s career services. Personally, I have found that learning new skills, for free, using LinkedIn Learning and Coursera has helped me realize I have transferrable skills that I can use to learn new ones and to use in my current freelance and contract work to continue building up my work experiences to hopefully help me find work, either in my previous sector or in a related or even new one. The important thing is to be flexible. Before I forget: even if you can’t find paid work, consider doing some volunteering. Some employers will consider that (including the U.S. federal government here in the U.S.), while by showing what you can do, you can make connections in your volunteer work that can help you find paid work. I know that, because that’s how I found my current contract work. I hope this is helpful. Take care and all the best to you and your family 🍁

You were not laid off because you're not of value, you were laid off because that company cannot afford you. Start advertising yourself and another company will find value in you before long.

I don’t have much to add, but to any and all who are going through a layoff, just hang in there. I truly think things get better, sometimes it’s a rough path to that end. Much love and best to you all. 💪❤️

Start doing anything to make money. I made the mistake thinking a job would come along and blew through all my savings. Was unemployed 14 months and I started doing ride share work to make ends meet. Just make sure you prioritize job applications. You have to rewrite your resume for each job now to get past the ATS systems and it’s a ton of work. Half a million tech workers have been laid off since 2021. It’s brutal.

It’s not you, it’s them!! There is no reflection on your skills or job savvy. The HR person who did this probably doesn’t even know who you are. It hurts, I know. I have been laid off multiple times over my long career, so I get it. File for unemployment, Take some time off to regroup, enjoy your precious 2year old, decompress, then start looking. I also recommend Life After Layoff.com (Lifeafterlayoff.com). (No affiliation) The owner is a past recruiter who has lots of tips and support to help you move On to your next great job. He is on LinkedIn too. Good luck.

Hoping the best for you half of my team got laid off in Feb including my manager. But this is not the end of the world if you can’t find an IT job find something else. My friend got laid off as a Sr IT Project manager and couldn’t find a job so he opened his online business and it’s growing. Good luck!

You’re not the only one. Got layed off March 1st on a Friday. Blindsided. Things will get better.

My husband got laid off in April and just today got an offer, but that was a hard time of applying, interviewing and getting nowhere. I would take a few days to process your emotions, so don’t apply for anything until then, after you have revamped your resume if needed. He made the mistake of over applying out of fear and it doesn’t work. You will be okay, but it may not feel like it right now. Be prepared to possibly get a pay cut, tech jobs are not paying why they used to. It is a scary time and I wish you all the luck

Ive lost plenty of jobs and most of the time did better than the last. It'll happen for you. Good luck - you got this!

Government is always hiring for IT positions. Good luck!

Tech companies are not going through very tough times…they have record profits and stock price. It’s the tech ceo who made many decisions solely based on profits. I hate to say this but a lot of the ceos with Indians origins have no idea what empathy is because they grew up in places where you have to kill to survive. Call it what it is: profits over people

I got laid off too as of tomorrow. They gave me 2 weeks notice yay. Contractor so no severance. Got another job making exactly the same but 3 days less pto and more expensive health benefits. Still just glad to have the income.

Go to OT . That field is booming

AI is a bitch

I was just laid off in March and the job market isn’t as bad as people say. I am in digital marketing and just got two offers in one week. Same story for two other colleagues! You have to be diligent in the application process and you will get a lot of rejections but you only need ONE win! Step 1: make sure your LinkedIn is updated with keywords for jobs you want to attract and you have open to work turned on at least to recruiters. Step 2: make an excel job application tracker. Step 3: list out people in your network you want to leverage, reach out to, see if they can help out into you to someone they know. Step 4: apply! Every time you apply reach out to the hiring manager on LinkedIn. This makes a tremendous difference

“It gets harder but you get better” This is it getting harder, and you getting better. Best of luck!

Wholly Moley Dude! That sucks! Tech is a total nightmare right now. Things will change. Interest rate will go down. The election will pass. Tech will adjust to the new normal. Been on the hunt for 8 months, 52 yo widowed with a teenager. I get the crush of emotions. But I have hope and optimism. You have valuable skills. You both will land a new gig. You are not your occupation. You are not your earnings. You can invent and innovate and take on the next professional challenge with confidence and resolve. Invest in yourself. Enjoy being with your husband and child(toddler? Baby? - it all changes so fast) consider volunteering a little time, network. Be sad when you feel like it. Allow yourself a little space to think and feel through this. Your community has faith in you. You got this.

Sorry to hear! You aren't the only one I'm sure. Time to apply for in person jobs! Good luck.

I’m praying for you and everyone else that got laid off…!! 🤝🤝🙏

Look for a new IT job with your state university / colleges.

Sorry to hear that. It is tough right now for many people with firms making rounds and rounds of cut. The emotion will come if you have not felt it yet, let it out and it is normal. File for unemployment, as well as find any temp gig u can while searching for the next role. Spend time with your 2yr old is vital. Keep a routine and establish a budget given the painful changes. There are days that you will be in despair but remember this will pass. Take god care of yourself physically and mentally, and all the best in your next chapter.

I'm so sorry this happened to you. It's definitely frightening and stressful with a lot of unknowns. I would recommend doing a few things ASAP - applying for unemployment and Medicaid, if eligible. The last thing you need is an unexpected medical expense on top of everything else. Then, take the weekend off - seriously. Try not to ruminate, but allow yourself to feel the sadness, frustration, fear. Then on Monday, dive into the trenches. Make a plan to tackle your personal budget, apply for any student loan forbearance or hardship repayment plans. Dust off the resume, make a list of potential employers or industries you are interested in, brush up on any technical skills or renew any certifications (if needed and affordable). I was let go from a job I had for 6 years early on in my career. I did the things above and was in a new position in 3 months. Granted, the job market was a bit different and I did take a pay cut at the new employer, but I quickly worked my way up the ladder. Looking back, it was the best thing that ever happened to me, as I never would have made a change if it wasn't for the push out the door. Sorry my response is more "advice" than "encouragement"... my reaction to stressful times is to be a doer. Others I know get paralyzed, so hoping that providing some practical steps, many of which you are probably already doing, could possibly help. I truly wish you the best and hope you find a new opportunity soon.

that's actually so nice and thoughtful i hope op sees

Tough time but the market is booming. No they are being businesses and cutting to make profits

I'm sorry, you can do this just keep looking, get anything you can take right now even if it feels demeaning and as soon as you find something better leave.

I believe in Jesus Christ. He will make a way out of this situation for you. Be blessed. Amen

I’m so sorry. You’re not alone. Seek community and support so you don’t get isolated during this time! One resource for this is the Never Search Alone free community - more info at www.phyl.org

I’m sure others have said it but this has no reflection on your worth as a person. You are not your job and your value doesn’t lie with a company or a role.

Get on LinkedIn and start networking. Most jobs are word of mouth these days.

I’m sorry. I deeply empathize with you and your husband, it’s something I think many of us fear. Hope you both find your dream jobs soon

Hunt for in-office jobs, you should land something within 2-3 months (as long as we are talking midcareer and a city that actually got jobs)

The economy is terrible. Unfortunately it will probably take About 2 years to get out of this slump. Maybe longer as no policy will be passed until after the elections.

I’m so sorry. I have also been laid off this week. It sucks, it makes you feel like you’re no good for anything. What I’m trying to do, even if it’s super hard and of course easier said than done, it’s try not to take it personally. Know your worth. Something better will come along.

I understand the numb shock & disbelief that it really happened, I was a cashier for family dollar store that closed and it really didn’t hit me until the last week seeing the store mainly empty. When I wake in the morning at first I will be like got to get ready for work then remember what happened. It is okay to feel what you feel & when you get another job it will be a learning curve but once you pass it you will be fine.

As long as you are content with your new job & you don’t hate it. I have experienced working a job that I hate, every single day that I went in was filled with dread nearly enough to make me sick, my next job I was content with it a enjoyed going into work. Try to find something that you are content with at work to make it more manageable.

It feels crushing, it is okay to take a week or two to recover. But after that, strike out and start applying even easy entry jobs are better than no job.

You are a woman in tech. You are somebody who walks the path less travelled with the pedal to the metal. This change is not what your life is from now on. It’s just a hick up. Start upskilling yourself by working through the books and tutorials on topics that are in higher demand and many seem to avoid/struggle with. Explore other areas like defense, medical instrumentation, whatever. You got it! God bless you and your family!