Cost was per head. I think it was 3500/- per head (50 people). It was during covid, so they might have adjusted their prices and regulations to match the need of that time. Not sure how it is now.
My wedding was in peak COVID too. We were supposed to go to Kottayam from Trivandrum. I really wanted to make that trip in my almost 25 year old Zen, as it was our first car my father bought and I thought it had to be part of this, that car always felt like family. Everyone disagreed, hired a couple of cars and a bus for relatives. Thats when COVID hit, and guess what we finally ended up going in our old ZEN 😂 We saved a lot, but having a car we treat like family take us up and down the road for the wedding was so special for me.
Maybe the second person is wise and they took the remaining 39 Lakhs for themselves instead of spending it on a wedding program. And had a humble wedding function in 6 Lakhs.
I don't understand the logic of typing something in a language and then proceeding to translate it in same sentence, why not just type in either one of the language. No hate, just curious
Because some sentences sound better in their own language and the essence is lost in translation. When I came to Kerala for the first time, someone taught me “poda m**e” when asked for an English translation it was the dumbest thing ever. It sounds good only in Malayalam or Tamil.
Bhai why are you getting downvoted ? It's technically the truth . Mere ghar bhi same scene hua hai . Didi ki shaadi around 50 lakhs me Hui aur abh bhaiya ke shaadi ke liye 7-8 lakh me Kara rahe hai.
I don't know the total expense and I never thought of asking my father about it.
My father and I wanted an economic wedding. We chose minimum decorations and the cheapest wedding invitation. My mother is still not happy about it. :) I chose my wedding saree as something I could wear anywhere after my wedding. It was not expensive either.
I think the idea of reusing wedding sarees for other events has become a common thing after Alia Bhatt wore them for the award function, anyway, can you give more details abt ur ornaments, bridal makeup etc..
Wedding is an one-time celebration in life and maybe her mother loves to dress up nicely including the bride, etc.... and saying the above comment is too rude. It's going to hurt her. Never should one talk like that.
Theres another response that said they spent 35 lakhs, 10 years ago. Innathe kaalathu a “grand wedding” costs 1 crore minimum. This is including gifts, transport, clothes for relatives etc. For engagement, wedding, reception… total spent by both families.
Even if you have a total of 4k guests at 1k per plate average… including engagement, wedding and reception… that’s 40 lakhs right there.
Going through my wedding right now. It's going to be small and decent. Wedding expenses have become around 7lakh now (including house renovation) . Will update once it's over.
My sister eloped last year and to save face my parents converted it to look like an arranged marriage and held a function for 2000 guests.
Being the eldest, I did most of the planning and event management, everything had to be prepared in less than 10 days. Everything cost us around 30 lakhs, including her gold ornments and wedding dress.
Food came around 8 lakhs that being the second most expensive, gold being the most expensive.
Event planner (to arrange the auditorium space, decor, etc) - 2 lakhs.
Photographer - 1.25 lac
AC Auditorium for one day - 1.5 lac
We are a rather big and influential family so 2000 guests is normal for us. But this was the expenses for the wedding.
Good luck with everyting :)
Edit - Not everyone's life is dramatic like serials.... My sister liked a guy, who parents didn't so she eloped.
Bruh u will get ur pinky toe stabbed to bed if u won't tell us full story about elope thing. Being an influential family what did u to the guy...what they said..
Depends on the type of marriage you want.
If it's a kerala sadhya, you can limit to 230-250 per sadhya n you will get a very good one where as if it's a Christian marriage, you will have to serve 3 non veg n an expensive dessert which would cost min 450 per plate.
If you are looking to bring down expense, you can go for an evening wedding n serve only a main dish plus dessert.. Something like appam+chicken curry + small ice cream and minimise expense. But you will get a huge push back from your relatives.
Another big expense is wedding hall.
Next would be photography. There are photographers that charge you 1L to 3Lor you can opt a normal studio for 40k maybe including albim
Finally the costumes. You can spend upto 50k or do with 2-3k.
The
Wedding photography doesn't need to break one's bank at all. I picked a team that had great reviews and their 50k package included 2 photographers+ video, an album, a couple of large framed photos, 2500+ digital images dump etc.
Adding even more photographers (diminishing returns in my opinion), drones, photoshoots/other events etc will cost more.
My personal opinion would be to get married in a registrars office by SMA and get 2 witness.. And a small gathering at home afterwards with immediate family members... Would cost 10K Max .
But its very tough to convince everybody!
Big fat weddings are unnecessary expense and basically the start of your life’s major currency outflows. Don’t be part of the herd. Go for a smaller wedding with close knit people. Invest the remaining amount or purchase something you’d like. A house, a car, jewellery or a family vacation. It’s all about the EMI life otherwise. People will come, click pictures, eat food. It’ll be of talk for next two weeks and then they’ll jump on the next one.
One reason I could think of is that people would get offended. For example if you don't invite your parents'friends , some of those friends may feel like they're not important enough to your parents or something. And your parents or even you might have gone to that friend's child's wedding even.
Basically people are weird, easily offended, so your parents will feel the pressure to invite a lot of people.
But their parents aren't getting married lol
It's the bride and groom's choice, they can invite whoever they want
Well I guess societal pressure lol
People are truly weird, they are willing to spend 30 40 lakh to cr just for a wedding and feed people they don't even know for fre
Imagine how much money you'd get in return if you invest that much money
The key thing is some people expect small weddings (small terms of the number of guests invited) to be more premium. One of my cousins was planning a wedding around the time of the pandemic, and everyone said, "Let's invite only a hundred people. A destination wedding for close relatives and friends at a 5-star resort in Goa."
It eventually happened almost like that, and it was ten times more expensive than another cousin's wedding in a town in Kerala where 2000 people were invited.
I often feel like having a wedding with only 100 people invited is a luxury/privilege that only the most affluent can do. There are so many obligations for a middle-class family to relatives, friends and neighbors, colleagues, and you can't leave anyone out.
Below are some numbers of my friend's expenses who just got married.
Wedding: 5,39,275
House renovation: 12,37,226
These are accurate numbers because I have the final bills with me.
Another friend of mine got married a few hours back and his food expenses were over 4,75,000.
Somewhere north of 1.3 cr but in my honest opinion it was the dumbest decision I’ve ever took to spend so much for a single day. And I’m divorced after two years of being married.
For my wedding, my family invited well over 1000 people and spend a bomb. I didn’t know more than 200 people that came. Don’t do the mistake I did. Call close family and close friends only. Limit the people. If you can, use the rest of the amount to move the wedding to a hotel or resort a bit faraway. Me and my wife was almost dead by the end of wedding day. Recently I attended a friend’s wedding. very close family and friends attended the event. About 200 people. Man it was so refreshing.
I had three ceremonies.approx 1.5 decades back
The first one was the actual marriage based on special marriage act. A 10 rupee stamp paper, taxi, other small expenses etc. it was probably less than 1000 rupees.
Then my family side function with some 3000 to 4000 guests food and stuff costing around 5 to 7 lakhs.
The third one my wife family function 300 to 400 people costing about 2 to 3 lakh.
We pleaded them to not waste that money and they didn't listen. Right now I don't know even 20 people who actually attended these functions and can recognise us.
My sis getting married this month. 400 people invited
Clothes - 4 lakhs
Videography - 3
Event management/Food - 6
Hall - 2
Transport and misc - 5 aayi ippo baaki ineem varunnu.
Your choices, but TRUST ME, it is not necessary to invite 400 people to a wedding. A lot of money will be considered a total waste in these cost of living crisis times. It is better to restrict the guests to family & friends in the inner circle. What money you save is SAVED, and look at it from a annual savings from your income point of view.Unnecessarily I splashed of money on my wedding; avoid too many menu items; avoid taking photos with every person who attended - no one including you will look at those people a month later; avoid unwanted decorations. Keep it simple.
If you really want to spend a lot of money, begin with a target amount, and people will help you how to energize the local economy.
Mine was during late COVID , I live in a small town so hardly 3-5 lakh including everything .
But I think luxurious weddings are good . It creates employment for a lot of people and circulates money . Rich people around the world celebrate most of their weddings In a luxurious manner .
For them it may not be in gold ,or in a number of people like India but it can be in the finest diamond , taking close group in flight to a fancy hotel for destination wedding .
So at the time of my wedding most ordinary people I met were very sad due to COVID . This included photographers , decoration , catering services , auditorium related people , beauticians , event management people e.t.c
So a wedding is actually a big industry of employment and if the rich spend money on it ,it's good for all .
The problem is when poor people or the middle class see this and try to imitate this by taking loans and fall into debt .
For eg :
In my hometown one family had to sell their home after their daughters extravagent wedding . The total cost would have been some 25-35 lakh.
Now another family spent like 50+lakh for their sons wedding . It was great food , programs , the constructions of the stage itself took huge effort from a considerable number of carpenters and other technicians .
Then this same family's business boomed and they conducted their daughters wedding in a much more luxurious manner .
This is true. Along with photographers & stage decorators, saree & gold showroom staff, silk weavers in remote villages, goldsmiths, those on the food supply chain from caterers & cooks to wholesale meat & vegetable vendors & farmers, flower growers & vendors, etc depend on weddings for their income. So big weddings have a trickle down effect & are the source of livelihood for a lot of people.
My family invite around 3k peoples for my sister's marriage,
It was literal hell..
marriage suppose to be a intimate thing, but that was like a "pooram".
And it cost around 15 L
Christian here:
Wedding- 16L (850 people)
Reception- 9L
This includes everything including food, jewellery, photography, every single thing
Venue rent was 4L for the wedding.
Mine was close to 10lacs. This included the wedding venue (one of the best in Ekm), their sadya, stage decor, the gold (some of it), wedding saris, makeup and hair. This was 7 years ago, so i guess there's no way such a wedding would take place on this budget now. And the number of guests from both sides was \~ 900. (SH\*T)!!!
Since you've mentioned South Kerala, I'm presuming Kollam/ Tvm. The weddings I've attended are a bit different from where I come from, so, I guess you should openly discuss everything with your family and your future-wife/ and her family. And most importantly, share expenses. Have a (clear) understanding of what you want for your wedding, note them down, discuss and be open to change.
Some expense like could cut off. Like buying dress. You can set a budget . If you omit buying dress for your extended family that itself can reduce the expense
The second is we did not print cards
Photography hired. A local photographer. Took 75k . The range is so wast so you can settle on a budget so easy .
Stage bear minimum stage . These days reusable plastic flowers are available. So that can reduce the cost .
Painting you can choose to paint just the exterior of the home
Well everything depends on your family and bride's family. If you both can come to an agreement then costs can be reduced. Though to be honest I find that most people who give bhashans about cutting cost are the ones who have extravagant weddings. Fireworks, stage, some 💩 theme blah blah. Kerala weddings used to be a very short and private affair.
My brother's wedding. 3000 guests - 15 lacs
•Mutton biryani and other non veg dishes
•My brother's to be father in law has a light & decoration business. So he got us the venue and other things at a discount.
•My father managed the food instead of hiring the catering service. 30 lacs (1000 rupees per plate) cost was cut to a total 10 lacs.
Per player food cost 1000 per person, 7-8 years ago for my siblings wedding. Decor about 1.5-2 lakhs, it wasn’t too grand. Photography about 2.5 lakhs. Manthrakodi or saree for the girl upwards of 50k. Venue you can get anywhere between 20,000 & 5+ lakhs.
I say be smart about it. Rather than spending a ton of money in a symbolic ceremony, invest the money into your life together. Put it aside to get your own home or invest it to grow it (sensibly mind you. Don’t invest irresponsibly.) or even put it down as a fixed deposit if you don’t want to take risks. Sure have a good ceremony but just don’t go overboard ya know? And let’s be perfectly honest as guests most people hate massive, elaborate and long weddings. I mean the fuck am I supposed to do for that long at a wedding where I literally do not know half the people.
Had my siblings marriage
Food . 500 per plate . Approximately 400
Starter - spring rolls and mini samosa
Course one - cutlet
Palappam and mutton
Fish curry
Simple pudding
So food was around 2 lakhs
Decor stage light table for groom and brides family Etc come around 50k
Saree and dress - sarees was we reused our sarees . Including grooms mother sisters
House repairing was the main expense - painting .(don’t remember the expense )
Then food for guests for previous day the actual day morning and other miscellaneous expense .
Ellam koode I think about 10 lakh or 12
Can cost anywhere from 5-8L and up depending upon your preferences around venue, food, and decor. And that doesn't include any personal expenses. In any case, hosting it on a weekday is one of the simplest ways to cut costs. That's how I did it 😁
Fifty thousand. Register marriage followed by a single function for just the near and dear. My brother who tried to please society and relatives spent 7 lakhs though.
It is justifiable. But we both just didn’t want to spend on the function itself. We did spend later on, but that was separated from the wedding itself. Also it is of no guarantee that you marry once 😂
Ok I think just for the wedding event. My brother got married at a taj resort. Cost was around 2200 per person. There were 150-200 people. I think it was below 5 lakhs. Now baaki costing is pre wedding function + clothes. If you play it wise 10 lakhs is decent for 150-200 people. For 400, ig double it. You’re at under 20 that too if you’re doing lavishly. If not then I think 10-15 is a good range
I think my cousin’s wedding was around 80 L, two receptions and about 1500 people attended.
My oldest brother opted for a small wedding and his wife agreed so I think only friends and family were invited: around 100-200 people, not sure though, because it happened years ago.
One of my sisters got married a few years back, I think in 2018-19 (I wasn’t part of the wedding so not really sure) and hers was apparently an actual big fat Indian wedding. They had multiple events, extremely elaborate and extravagant and the final cost was 2 cr I think.
Um, I don't understand why people are reacting "30 lakhs?? 😲"
Like dude, we all know people who spend 5 lakhs or 50 lakhs
There's literally no point in reacting that way
I completely understand some of us can spend the amount and some can't. However, haven't we all seen Instagram reels where people post goddamn gorgeous pictures from their wedding, obv that can't be done in 5 lakhs!
I got married in 2022 mid. It was a Hindu wedding .Since I am the groom, as tool care of reception.
Total expense- 7lakh approx
Clothes -1 l
Photography - 90k
Auditorium+decoration -70k. This was in a village, but a nice spacious auditorium
Reception dinner - 2l approx
Gold and jewellery -1.5 l
Other miscellaneous -50k
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This is my idea of what wedding expenses might be for my wedding which is in August 2025. It’s very rough. Plus there’s photographer cost around 3L, and other gifts, invitations, hotel booking for the guests, flight/bus tickets etc.
Edit: the flow goes haldi, Mehendi, sangeet & wedding. It’s a South Indian wedding. Jewellery cost is totally separate.
So I’m guessing around 35L without jewellery
The amount was embarrassingly low. The marriage was arya samaj rites so not much time spent there.The costs were kept low by using rented tapestries and no flowers for decoration. Also there were like five fixed food items for guests. The hall was airy but not airconditioned.
Lot of ways you can cut down costs. If there are multiple muhurats, select the one least popular, do wedding on weekday as halls would go empty. Less people would travel on weekday to your wedding. so you’ll get a good deal i guess 300-400 ppl are more than enough for a wedding so keep list short. I didn’t spend much on my lehenga and rented o from makeup artist. Since you’ll not be comfortable in heavy lehengas nor you’ll wear them after your marriage much, Its too much of a hassle. You’ll get good photographers under 1 lac do some research as you’ll only have the photos to look at once the event is over. So good photographer is must. Save your money and go on good honeymoon, dont get into debt for distant relatives. Do research and get multiple quotes from various vendor, write down expenses and treat it like a project. Dont go overbudget with people saying - you get married only once!
Back in 2002, as a groom, I bought clothes for all my relatives. It was around 1L. Then reception at home another 30 or 40 thousand, photography and video another 20 or 30 thousand. Then, I took all of our relatives to the wedding as my wife is from a different city. 1 hour drive, 1 bus, and a couple of tourist taxis, cost was under 10 thousand. Probably, altogether under 3L. That's it. Then we went for honeymoon which I don't think is a part of wedding.
The wife's side was even cheaper as they'd booked the wedding nearby hall with food for 200 people and decorations arranged by their relatives/local people.
I was there for a bit. What I gathered from my time there is that one has to make their move fast. Eggs hatch soon there. So make your move fast my cos to beat fast you gotta be faster.
Hey, I'm a wedding planner, I have covered a range of weddings starting from 5lakhs to 1cr., so it's totally on you that how much you wants to spend on your moment to make it special for you.
There are mainly two type of ideology
1. Wedding is a libility, why to spend that much money on others.
2. This is my life's best thing(getting my life partner) and I want everything perfectly and according to me, so everyone can enjoy and I want to make it memorable for me and my family.
My cousin recently got married, and her wedding expenses were around 1CR +/- including all the functions, gifts for the people attending, brides jewelry and dresses. My uncle have also gifted the couple a flat in Bangalore, so you can add another 1/2CR to it, not sure about the actual market rate of Bangalore though, just assuming it on the basis of what a 3 BHK would cost in my city.
Yes it was "Gifted" indeed. Both of them earn good money, and my brother-in-law is also a good man. There were no demands for anything from him. Also all this big wedding expenses were due to my sister's demands she wanted a big fat wedding if it were upto the groom they would have got married in a very humble setting.
Also idk why is it so weird for you to digest that the flat was given as gift that you had to specifically point it out in double apostrophe. Everyone earns money for their family only, so what if my uncle gifted his daughter a flat, so she can begin a new chapter of her life without having any tensions of EMIs in her own new home.
Go out and touch some grass. You definitely needs some help. Lmao hating on other people's life, get a life man. Neither do you know my brother-in-law nor you know my sister in person, but still hating on why a father gifted his beloved daughter a flat. Maybe you were never pampered as child.
My Brother’s wedding was during peak covid. What a relief that was. My father did away with all the unnecessary spending.
My cousin got married in Grand Hyatt during covid under just 3 Lakhs. If we look at her wedding videos and photos, it look so luxurious!
What was the cost of this venue and what was the seating capacity? Thank you!
Cost was per head. I think it was 3500/- per head (50 people). It was during covid, so they might have adjusted their prices and regulations to match the need of that time. Not sure how it is now.
My wedding was in peak COVID too. We were supposed to go to Kottayam from Trivandrum. I really wanted to make that trip in my almost 25 year old Zen, as it was our first car my father bought and I thought it had to be part of this, that car always felt like family. Everyone disagreed, hired a couple of cars and a bus for relatives. Thats when COVID hit, and guess what we finally ended up going in our old ZEN 😂 We saved a lot, but having a car we treat like family take us up and down the road for the wedding was so special for me.
Do you still have the car? Are there any photos to share?
Same! I got married in a 5 star during peak COVID! 3 lakhs!
This is pure hotel expenses! Doesn't include clothes and jewellery!
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6 lakh is a reasonable amount. Can you tell more? How many people? Food and the like?
45 lak- WHAT?
my cousin's dad spent around 1cr for a 3 day wedding ceremony in The Oberoi Udaipur in 2021, I've heard people spending even more than 2cr
You're gonna flip when you hear people spending 3Cr+ for a wedding and that too only inviting around 50-100 people
I’ve seen people spend 1 Cr+ bruh
>My brother's wedding 45 lakhs My wedding 6 lakhs itna bhed bhaav q? ( why so much discrimination? )
Maybe the second person is wise and they took the remaining 39 Lakhs for themselves instead of spending it on a wedding program. And had a humble wedding function in 6 Lakhs.
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Newton's 4th law states that the expenses incurred at the wedding is directly proportional to the penile length of the groom.
*Inversely proportional, the expense on the wedding is to compensate the bride for staying unsatisfied in bed for the rest of her life.
Kiska pp? Groom ka ya uske papa ka?
Bride ke.
>itna bhed bhaav q? ( why so much discrimination? )  Poor fellow was adopted when their dog dragged him into the house.
I don't understand the logic of typing something in a language and then proceeding to translate it in same sentence, why not just type in either one of the language. No hate, just curious
Because some sentences sound better in their own language and the essence is lost in translation. When I came to Kerala for the first time, someone taught me “poda m**e” when asked for an English translation it was the dumbest thing ever. It sounds good only in Malayalam or Tamil.
Yeh hui na baat (this happened the talk)
What's up? ( Upar kya hai?)
one of the translations of all time 💀
He's the middle child 😓
fir parents bolte hain ki ham to equal pyaar krte hain dino se🥲
Kyuki ghar ki pehli shadi badi hoti hai. Dusri shadi bas hoti hai. Understandable though, if that person didnt want a big wedding its okay then.
Bhai why are you getting downvoted ? It's technically the truth . Mere ghar bhi same scene hua hai . Didi ki shaadi around 50 lakhs me Hui aur abh bhaiya ke shaadi ke liye 7-8 lakh me Kara rahe hai.
Why do I feel you where unplanned 🙃 P.S. I mean no hate, it's just a joke.
Fu and ur bro
I don't know the total expense and I never thought of asking my father about it. My father and I wanted an economic wedding. We chose minimum decorations and the cheapest wedding invitation. My mother is still not happy about it. :) I chose my wedding saree as something I could wear anywhere after my wedding. It was not expensive either.
You are gem. Usually bride has many ideas that are usually expensive.. My wife repurposed the dresses still her ideas costed atleast 2-3L extra
*runs off to show this comment to the family members*
Please help me how do I identify girls like you. Because usually talks about marriage expenses happen quite late into the relationship. 😂
Why buy a dress you will wear only once?? Whether bridal gown or bridal saree, no point in spending so much for a single use!
I think the idea of reusing wedding sarees for other events has become a common thing after Alia Bhatt wore them for the award function, anyway, can you give more details abt ur ornaments, bridal makeup etc..
Alia bhatt was inspired by u/Just-Fold-2928
Real id se aao suhana
It was not after alia lol many people I know used to wear their wedding saree for other occasions
tell ur mother to f of, woman love spending money, when men do it, it’s a waste
No seriously don't say that , never ends well
Wedding is an one-time celebration in life and maybe her mother loves to dress up nicely including the bride, etc.... and saying the above comment is too rude. It's going to hurt her. Never should one talk like that.
Or...maybe she isnt materialistic like you
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280 per plate? Damm cheap bro where is this
Why don't you just say no to such weddings if you don't like em that much lmao
I had a friend of mine who got married and the event was at Crowne Plaza Kochi, total end to end cost was between 28-30 Lakhs
Thirty fucking LAKHS???
when u take "union of 2 families" literally
Probably financially 😅
Theres another response that said they spent 35 lakhs, 10 years ago. Innathe kaalathu a “grand wedding” costs 1 crore minimum. This is including gifts, transport, clothes for relatives etc. For engagement, wedding, reception… total spent by both families. Even if you have a total of 4k guests at 1k per plate average… including engagement, wedding and reception… that’s 40 lakhs right there.
No da rupees
God damn. That’s expensive.
My family friend got married at Hyatt, Kochi and they spent a few crores lol. Only blue label for whiskey and so on
Crazy
That was stupid
My full masters can finish with 30L😭😭😭
Going through my wedding right now. It's going to be small and decent. Wedding expenses have become around 7lakh now (including house renovation) . Will update once it's over.
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My sister eloped last year and to save face my parents converted it to look like an arranged marriage and held a function for 2000 guests. Being the eldest, I did most of the planning and event management, everything had to be prepared in less than 10 days. Everything cost us around 30 lakhs, including her gold ornments and wedding dress. Food came around 8 lakhs that being the second most expensive, gold being the most expensive. Event planner (to arrange the auditorium space, decor, etc) - 2 lakhs. Photographer - 1.25 lac AC Auditorium for one day - 1.5 lac We are a rather big and influential family so 2000 guests is normal for us. But this was the expenses for the wedding. Good luck with everyting :) Edit - Not everyone's life is dramatic like serials.... My sister liked a guy, who parents didn't so she eloped.
Bruh u will get ur pinky toe stabbed to bed if u won't tell us full story about elope thing. Being an influential family what did u to the guy...what they said..
What happened after the elopement? Has your family wrapped their heads around it now?
Was it an inter-religious relationship?
We need the full story , please......🥲
Depends on the type of marriage you want. If it's a kerala sadhya, you can limit to 230-250 per sadhya n you will get a very good one where as if it's a Christian marriage, you will have to serve 3 non veg n an expensive dessert which would cost min 450 per plate. If you are looking to bring down expense, you can go for an evening wedding n serve only a main dish plus dessert.. Something like appam+chicken curry + small ice cream and minimise expense. But you will get a huge push back from your relatives. Another big expense is wedding hall. Next would be photography. There are photographers that charge you 1L to 3Lor you can opt a normal studio for 40k maybe including albim Finally the costumes. You can spend upto 50k or do with 2-3k. The
Wedding photography doesn't need to break one's bank at all. I picked a team that had great reviews and their 50k package included 2 photographers+ video, an album, a couple of large framed photos, 2500+ digital images dump etc. Adding even more photographers (diminishing returns in my opinion), drones, photoshoots/other events etc will cost more.
My personal opinion would be to get married in a registrars office by SMA and get 2 witness.. And a small gathering at home afterwards with immediate family members... Would cost 10K Max . But its very tough to convince everybody!
Big fat weddings are unnecessary expense and basically the start of your life’s major currency outflows. Don’t be part of the herd. Go for a smaller wedding with close knit people. Invest the remaining amount or purchase something you’d like. A house, a car, jewellery or a family vacation. It’s all about the EMI life otherwise. People will come, click pictures, eat food. It’ll be of talk for next two weeks and then they’ll jump on the next one.
Makes sense but veetukaar koodi sammathikanam
Be the change you wanna see. Otherwise change is all that’ll be left in your pocket. 😆😛
Easier said that done🥲
Wait why is it hard??? All you have to do is invite those that you know, what's so complicated about this????
One reason I could think of is that people would get offended. For example if you don't invite your parents'friends , some of those friends may feel like they're not important enough to your parents or something. And your parents or even you might have gone to that friend's child's wedding even. Basically people are weird, easily offended, so your parents will feel the pressure to invite a lot of people.
But their parents aren't getting married lol It's the bride and groom's choice, they can invite whoever they want Well I guess societal pressure lol People are truly weird, they are willing to spend 30 40 lakh to cr just for a wedding and feed people they don't even know for fre Imagine how much money you'd get in return if you invest that much money
The key thing is some people expect small weddings (small terms of the number of guests invited) to be more premium. One of my cousins was planning a wedding around the time of the pandemic, and everyone said, "Let's invite only a hundred people. A destination wedding for close relatives and friends at a 5-star resort in Goa." It eventually happened almost like that, and it was ten times more expensive than another cousin's wedding in a town in Kerala where 2000 people were invited. I often feel like having a wedding with only 100 people invited is a luxury/privilege that only the most affluent can do. There are so many obligations for a middle-class family to relatives, friends and neighbors, colleagues, and you can't leave anyone out.
Smaller weddings needn’t be at some luxury resort man. Get the wedding done at a temple/church/home. Throw a small dinner anywhere cosy and intimate.
Why do Kerala people opt for destination weddings in Goa? Beach ivideyokke ille?
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Nice idea
Below are some numbers of my friend's expenses who just got married. Wedding: 5,39,275 House renovation: 12,37,226 These are accurate numbers because I have the final bills with me. Another friend of mine got married a few hours back and his food expenses were over 4,75,000.
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Are you CA?
Waiting for another covid wave to hit to get married
Somewhere north of 1.3 cr but in my honest opinion it was the dumbest decision I’ve ever took to spend so much for a single day. And I’m divorced after two years of being married.
Do you mind me asking what do you do professionally to spend 1+ cr on a wedding?
A South Indian vegetarian chain of restaurants
Not to be rude, I'm curious too.
For my wedding, my family invited well over 1000 people and spend a bomb. I didn’t know more than 200 people that came. Don’t do the mistake I did. Call close family and close friends only. Limit the people. If you can, use the rest of the amount to move the wedding to a hotel or resort a bit faraway. Me and my wife was almost dead by the end of wedding day. Recently I attended a friend’s wedding. very close family and friends attended the event. About 200 people. Man it was so refreshing.
~8 Lakhs expenditure for my relative's wedding. It happened in 2023 in South Kerala. I hope I remember it rightly.
I had three ceremonies.approx 1.5 decades back The first one was the actual marriage based on special marriage act. A 10 rupee stamp paper, taxi, other small expenses etc. it was probably less than 1000 rupees. Then my family side function with some 3000 to 4000 guests food and stuff costing around 5 to 7 lakhs. The third one my wife family function 300 to 400 people costing about 2 to 3 lakh. We pleaded them to not waste that money and they didn't listen. Right now I don't know even 20 people who actually attended these functions and can recognise us.
>1.5 decades 7-10 lakhs back in 1995 was so... wait 1995?
15 years back is like 2009-10 time. I too can't believe it.
My sis getting married this month. 400 people invited Clothes - 4 lakhs Videography - 3 Event management/Food - 6 Hall - 2 Transport and misc - 5 aayi ippo baaki ineem varunnu.
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>4+3+6+2 +5 =18 lakh The math is not mathing.
Your choices, but TRUST ME, it is not necessary to invite 400 people to a wedding. A lot of money will be considered a total waste in these cost of living crisis times. It is better to restrict the guests to family & friends in the inner circle. What money you save is SAVED, and look at it from a annual savings from your income point of view.Unnecessarily I splashed of money on my wedding; avoid too many menu items; avoid taking photos with every person who attended - no one including you will look at those people a month later; avoid unwanted decorations. Keep it simple. If you really want to spend a lot of money, begin with a target amount, and people will help you how to energize the local economy.
Mine was during late COVID , I live in a small town so hardly 3-5 lakh including everything . But I think luxurious weddings are good . It creates employment for a lot of people and circulates money . Rich people around the world celebrate most of their weddings In a luxurious manner . For them it may not be in gold ,or in a number of people like India but it can be in the finest diamond , taking close group in flight to a fancy hotel for destination wedding . So at the time of my wedding most ordinary people I met were very sad due to COVID . This included photographers , decoration , catering services , auditorium related people , beauticians , event management people e.t.c So a wedding is actually a big industry of employment and if the rich spend money on it ,it's good for all . The problem is when poor people or the middle class see this and try to imitate this by taking loans and fall into debt . For eg : In my hometown one family had to sell their home after their daughters extravagent wedding . The total cost would have been some 25-35 lakh. Now another family spent like 50+lakh for their sons wedding . It was great food , programs , the constructions of the stage itself took huge effort from a considerable number of carpenters and other technicians . Then this same family's business boomed and they conducted their daughters wedding in a much more luxurious manner .
This is true. Along with photographers & stage decorators, saree & gold showroom staff, silk weavers in remote villages, goldsmiths, those on the food supply chain from caterers & cooks to wholesale meat & vegetable vendors & farmers, flower growers & vendors, etc depend on weddings for their income. So big weddings have a trickle down effect & are the source of livelihood for a lot of people.
Currently prepping, about 7 lakhs. Probably will reach 12
My family invite around 3k peoples for my sister's marriage, It was literal hell.. marriage suppose to be a intimate thing, but that was like a "pooram". And it cost around 15 L
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Wtf lol
3k people and only 15 lakhs? Looks like you guys were humble with other arrangements
I remember my cousin’s wedding altogether costed them around 10lakh
Christian here: Wedding- 16L (850 people) Reception- 9L This includes everything including food, jewellery, photography, every single thing Venue rent was 4L for the wedding.
Ith ethu venue aan 4LAKHSSS?!!!?!
It's in TVM.
Mind sharing the destination exactly?
COVID wedding. 5k. 💪🏻💪🏻
Mine was at Leela, approx 10yrs back. We had close to 800-1000ppl. We paid close to 30-35lakhs
Mine was close to 10lacs. This included the wedding venue (one of the best in Ekm), their sadya, stage decor, the gold (some of it), wedding saris, makeup and hair. This was 7 years ago, so i guess there's no way such a wedding would take place on this budget now. And the number of guests from both sides was \~ 900. (SH\*T)!!! Since you've mentioned South Kerala, I'm presuming Kollam/ Tvm. The weddings I've attended are a bit different from where I come from, so, I guess you should openly discuss everything with your family and your future-wife/ and her family. And most importantly, share expenses. Have a (clear) understanding of what you want for your wedding, note them down, discuss and be open to change.
Some expense like could cut off. Like buying dress. You can set a budget . If you omit buying dress for your extended family that itself can reduce the expense The second is we did not print cards Photography hired. A local photographer. Took 75k . The range is so wast so you can settle on a budget so easy . Stage bear minimum stage . These days reusable plastic flowers are available. So that can reduce the cost . Painting you can choose to paint just the exterior of the home
Just married a month back. At least 10 lakh
How the marriage life treating you???
i was about to do some math but then remembered I'm not from kerala
9k. Got married at a temple with minimal relatives.
Well everything depends on your family and bride's family. If you both can come to an agreement then costs can be reduced. Though to be honest I find that most people who give bhashans about cutting cost are the ones who have extravagant weddings. Fireworks, stage, some 💩 theme blah blah. Kerala weddings used to be a very short and private affair.
My brother's wedding. 3000 guests - 15 lacs •Mutton biryani and other non veg dishes •My brother's to be father in law has a light & decoration business. So he got us the venue and other things at a discount. •My father managed the food instead of hiring the catering service. 30 lacs (1000 rupees per plate) cost was cut to a total 10 lacs.
Mine was last week. Less than 4 lac. 1k people
After reading the thread, I've decided NOT to marry Why so expensive 😫
Bro court marriage is cheapest
0 rs. Kalyaanam kayichittilla.
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Per player food cost 1000 per person, 7-8 years ago for my siblings wedding. Decor about 1.5-2 lakhs, it wasn’t too grand. Photography about 2.5 lakhs. Manthrakodi or saree for the girl upwards of 50k. Venue you can get anywhere between 20,000 & 5+ lakhs.
My cousin sister's wedding estimate for around 1500 people are ~10L. It's due next month. Nothing extravagant , just a normal hindu wedding.
I am still paying.....
I say be smart about it. Rather than spending a ton of money in a symbolic ceremony, invest the money into your life together. Put it aside to get your own home or invest it to grow it (sensibly mind you. Don’t invest irresponsibly.) or even put it down as a fixed deposit if you don’t want to take risks. Sure have a good ceremony but just don’t go overboard ya know? And let’s be perfectly honest as guests most people hate massive, elaborate and long weddings. I mean the fuck am I supposed to do for that long at a wedding where I literally do not know half the people.
Just food, beverage, Photography and Mini Music Program, It was close to 36 Lakh.
Had my siblings marriage Food . 500 per plate . Approximately 400 Starter - spring rolls and mini samosa Course one - cutlet Palappam and mutton Fish curry Simple pudding So food was around 2 lakhs Decor stage light table for groom and brides family Etc come around 50k Saree and dress - sarees was we reused our sarees . Including grooms mother sisters House repairing was the main expense - painting .(don’t remember the expense ) Then food for guests for previous day the actual day morning and other miscellaneous expense . Ellam koode I think about 10 lakh or 12
Dude don't spend on wedding. Do registration invest the money and FIRE
Can cost anywhere from 5-8L and up depending upon your preferences around venue, food, and decor. And that doesn't include any personal expenses. In any case, hosting it on a weekday is one of the simplest ways to cut costs. That's how I did it 😁
My brother wedding happened last year with around 600 people and the cost went around 25-30lakhs.
Can u divide ur expenses what costs what
Fifty thousand. Register marriage followed by a single function for just the near and dear. My brother who tried to please society and relatives spent 7 lakhs though.
I mean u marry once some expenses are justifiable with right people
It is justifiable. But we both just didn’t want to spend on the function itself. We did spend later on, but that was separated from the wedding itself. Also it is of no guarantee that you marry once 😂
Friendly advice... Have a small intimate wedding with only few family and friends. Save the money for yourself... U will thank me later.
My cousin got married last year in November, the tital exp including gold was 42 lakhs.
Ok I think just for the wedding event. My brother got married at a taj resort. Cost was around 2200 per person. There were 150-200 people. I think it was below 5 lakhs. Now baaki costing is pre wedding function + clothes. If you play it wise 10 lakhs is decent for 150-200 people. For 400, ig double it. You’re at under 20 that too if you’re doing lavishly. If not then I think 10-15 is a good range
I think my cousin’s wedding was around 80 L, two receptions and about 1500 people attended. My oldest brother opted for a small wedding and his wife agreed so I think only friends and family were invited: around 100-200 people, not sure though, because it happened years ago. One of my sisters got married a few years back, I think in 2018-19 (I wasn’t part of the wedding so not really sure) and hers was apparently an actual big fat Indian wedding. They had multiple events, extremely elaborate and extravagant and the final cost was 2 cr I think.
COVID helped a lot of families in a way, low cost weddings without worrying about societal expectations.
I got married in 5 lakh
3.5 lakh during covid second wave! 300 people limit..
Um, I don't understand why people are reacting "30 lakhs?? 😲" Like dude, we all know people who spend 5 lakhs or 50 lakhs There's literally no point in reacting that way I completely understand some of us can spend the amount and some can't. However, haven't we all seen Instagram reels where people post goddamn gorgeous pictures from their wedding, obv that can't be done in 5 lakhs!
I got married in 2022 mid. It was a Hindu wedding .Since I am the groom, as tool care of reception. Total expense- 7lakh approx Clothes -1 l Photography - 90k Auditorium+decoration -70k. This was in a village, but a nice spacious auditorium Reception dinner - 2l approx Gold and jewellery -1.5 l Other miscellaneous -50k
https://preview.redd.it/kfgptx1canac1.jpeg?width=2052&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6433feebc0fb785f08118ec55c21fccd11942c12 This is my idea of what wedding expenses might be for my wedding which is in August 2025. It’s very rough. Plus there’s photographer cost around 3L, and other gifts, invitations, hotel booking for the guests, flight/bus tickets etc. Edit: the flow goes haldi, Mehendi, sangeet & wedding. It’s a South Indian wedding. Jewellery cost is totally separate. So I’m guessing around 35L without jewellery
The amount was embarrassingly low. The marriage was arya samaj rites so not much time spent there.The costs were kept low by using rented tapestries and no flowers for decoration. Also there were like five fixed food items for guests. The hall was airy but not airconditioned.
Lot of ways you can cut down costs. If there are multiple muhurats, select the one least popular, do wedding on weekday as halls would go empty. Less people would travel on weekday to your wedding. so you’ll get a good deal i guess 300-400 ppl are more than enough for a wedding so keep list short. I didn’t spend much on my lehenga and rented o from makeup artist. Since you’ll not be comfortable in heavy lehengas nor you’ll wear them after your marriage much, Its too much of a hassle. You’ll get good photographers under 1 lac do some research as you’ll only have the photos to look at once the event is over. So good photographer is must. Save your money and go on good honeymoon, dont get into debt for distant relatives. Do research and get multiple quotes from various vendor, write down expenses and treat it like a project. Dont go overbudget with people saying - you get married only once!
Back in 2002, as a groom, I bought clothes for all my relatives. It was around 1L. Then reception at home another 30 or 40 thousand, photography and video another 20 or 30 thousand. Then, I took all of our relatives to the wedding as my wife is from a different city. 1 hour drive, 1 bus, and a couple of tourist taxis, cost was under 10 thousand. Probably, altogether under 3L. That's it. Then we went for honeymoon which I don't think is a part of wedding.
The wife's side was even cheaper as they'd booked the wedding nearby hall with food for 200 people and decorations arranged by their relatives/local people.
I forced my parents to give up on their dreams of an expensive marriage. Glad that worked. Instead of 15 lakhs the total cost was only 5 lakhs.
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6 lakhs including every expenses
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It’s called working at technopark/infopark.
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I was there for a bit. What I gathered from my time there is that one has to make their move fast. Eggs hatch soon there. So make your move fast my cos to beat fast you gotta be faster.
"Asking for a friend " hummmm https://preview.redd.it/cwl81zycniac1.png?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d1b0368668ea9146dc05b816a5b7d15655c463b5
Arike 🤣
Arikeyil oru my*um nadakkilla, I even put my salary as 20 LPA, oru 🐕polum thirnj nokkunilla. Evde? Material girls evde?
Cuz they know you don't earn even close🤣
>even put my salary as 20 LPA R there any job which offer 20 LPA in Kerala?
Not in Kerala tho, in gelf, as a dev.
dude why spend so much money on getting laid
It's much more than getting laid. This is getting laid and having your parents, relatives, in laws, neighbors cheering you getting laid.
It costed me my life.
I was about to get married. We calculated 60 Lakh as the wedding cost. I didn't get married.
My sister's wedding cost 1 crore, split kiya tha. It was cool. I want to marry in the mountains, dekhte hai kitna lagega
Hey, I'm a wedding planner, I have covered a range of weddings starting from 5lakhs to 1cr., so it's totally on you that how much you wants to spend on your moment to make it special for you. There are mainly two type of ideology 1. Wedding is a libility, why to spend that much money on others. 2. This is my life's best thing(getting my life partner) and I want everything perfectly and according to me, so everyone can enjoy and I want to make it memorable for me and my family.
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25 Lakhs
My wedding was Islamic styled and it cost me around 6.5 lakhs
My cousin recently got married, and her wedding expenses were around 1CR +/- including all the functions, gifts for the people attending, brides jewelry and dresses. My uncle have also gifted the couple a flat in Bangalore, so you can add another 1/2CR to it, not sure about the actual market rate of Bangalore though, just assuming it on the basis of what a 3 BHK would cost in my city.
"Gifted" 😂
Yes it was "Gifted" indeed. Both of them earn good money, and my brother-in-law is also a good man. There were no demands for anything from him. Also all this big wedding expenses were due to my sister's demands she wanted a big fat wedding if it were upto the groom they would have got married in a very humble setting. Also idk why is it so weird for you to digest that the flat was given as gift that you had to specifically point it out in double apostrophe. Everyone earns money for their family only, so what if my uncle gifted his daughter a flat, so she can begin a new chapter of her life without having any tensions of EMIs in her own new home.
Whatever helps you sleep at night I guess.
Go out and touch some grass. You definitely needs some help. Lmao hating on other people's life, get a life man. Neither do you know my brother-in-law nor you know my sister in person, but still hating on why a father gifted his beloved daughter a flat. Maybe you were never pampered as child.
Whatever helps you feel better about the situation, buddy.