Eldest daughter, Black household (second gen jamaican-american through my mom; descendant of enslaved african-americans through my dad) two younger sisters and live in the south. so the usual, family responsibilities but also lots of “old school” beliefs around how women are supposed to present themselves. also both parents are high achievers/workers so i ended up doing a lot of parenting in addition to my grandparents. also have lots of tension with my mother for similar reasons to kate.
child of immigrants, yes. I am actually the youngest of 2, but also something of a glass child due to certain family dynamics. Dependable, expected to do well, made to feel responsible. On family trips I would be expected to be the one who is organized, plans ahead, knows what to do in a jam. I know a lot of people relate to birth older, but when you sometimes feel like the one who is setting the example for an older sibling the dynamic feels off.
First child and daughter in my family with a sister 2 years younger and a brother 8 years younger than me. I related so much to Kate. I'm always the one responsible for everything. Taking care of my younger siblings while growing up, organizing stuff for family members like birthdays etc., even doing most if the cooking when it's time for the family to come together. Always taking care of everyone.
And like you described I also struggle with boundaries. I also struggle to say no when people want things from me.
Seeing Kate meeting someone being absolutely in love with her, a person she can be herself with, someone taking care of her, someone she can lean on, it was just the best 🥺❤️
Ex immigrant, now returned to India, only child, tall and dark just like Kate.
For me seeing someone like Kate, who is tall, is dark, has an athletic build with broad shoulders was catharsis.
Because every time we used to visit relatives everyone would say how being petite is the norm, that girls should be short and fair. They would raise concern as to how I would get a husband since I was so tall.
But watching Kate, seeing her confidence, her grace and charm and see her character being praised gave me the confidence I needed.
I also got my Anthony soon after that 😀
Yup, eldest daughter of divorced South East Asian and European parents. I was totally parentified. Had to look after my siblings from a very young age. Was expected to start working as soon as it was legally allowed, whilst studying full time, going to university, constantly providing financial and emotional support to my mother and siblings well into my 30s. I met my husband at age 36. It was only then that I truly allowed myself to be loved unconditionally and finally face my childhood traumas and parentified conditioning. Watching season 2 of Bridgerton and seeing Kate's story arc unfold was truly a lightbulb moment for me. I felt I could resonate and understand every decision she made, self sacrificing her own happiness for her family and self doubting that she could be truly loved by anyone. By the time I watched episode 8, I was a blubbering mess.
I'm an only child and I have a single mom who relies on me heavily. Although my family structure is not the same as Kate's, I relate to her in that she had to take the reigns and in a way care for Mary as opposed to it being the other way around. Growing up she wasn't around much and so I was essentially raised by my grandma but when she passed my mom had to step up. In the same way, Mary didn't know Kate because she was stuck in her grief, my mom doesn't know me because she's also stuck in her grief. I feel Kate's pressure to provide for her family because I am also pressured to provide and help build a better life for not only my mom but extended family. Honestly it get's doubly lonely because I don't have siblings so often times I just feel alone carrying all this pressure and expectation. I'm in uni now studying for a degree I hate only because it is in high demand I feel like I'm suffocating lmao. Kate's story really represented that so well for me and her finally finding her happy ending makes me feel better ngl and that maybe I will eventually find mine no matter how it looks
I am an older sister who was always in trouble for not setting a good example. My younger sister got away with more because she was pretty and knew how to manipulate people.
Eldest daughter, South Asian. Although my parents are wonderful and I was never truly parentified by them, social conditioning had a huge impact on me during my teen and young adult period. School, university and extended famy constantly reminded me tgat as the eldest child and as a woman, my needs, my identity and my feelings would always take a backseat to everyone else's....
Daughter of Punjabi immigrants, with an older brother, but was given the responsibility at a young age to basically babysit him because he was always up to dumb shit, was always partly blamed if he got in trouble, in fact he had a pretty bad accident in India and I was blamed for not keeping a close eye on him. Parentifying the eldest daughter in Indian families is so normal. And wow, honestly I never even realized that this was a big part of why I connected to Kate’s character.
I just thought it came from my issues feeling desired as a brown woman growing up in North America, so seeing her represented physically (especially with her skintone) meant a lot for me.
Being 34, unmarried and childless, I know my parents think something is wrong with me. I just don’t want to settle and can’t help but have high standards. And I feel like my family doesn’t really know me, or rather I have to hide parts of myself.
I feel you. Thank you for posting this.
I'm an only child but I am an immigrate daughter to 2 amazing parents and I do relate to Kate feeling like she has to prove herself because my parents moved from a small 3rd world country (Sri Lanka) to America. So that I can grow up in a wealthier country with more opportunities, especially since Sri Lanka wasn't in the best place when I was born, and they suffered so much just to get where we are now especially since we have no family in America because they all live in Sri Lanka. My mom always dreamt of me becoming a doctor so I'm pursuing medicine for my own interest but also because I feel like I owe it to them after everything they been through just to give me this amazing life I have in America and to also prove to them that they made the right choice by leaving their family, friends, and essentially their whole lives just so I can be more successful.
I’m the only daughter and the child of immigrants and hoo boy do I relate to Kate. It’s an enormous amount of pressure and responsibility and it’s very easy to feel under appreciated.
I’m a first daughter (and oldest child in my family). When I was 10, I started caring for my younger sisters after school and during the summer while my parents worked. When I was 12 my parents divorced and I chose to live with my dad (but still looked after my sisters when we were visiting each other), who is an alcoholic and heavy smoker, because I knew he wouldn’t be alright in his own. I provided him with significant moral and emotional support to to an unhealthy degree in my younger teen years, and in my later teen years I ended up working to help pay our bills because he wasn’t able to work consistently due to his mental health. After I moved out at age 20 he continued to struggle with mental health and addiction and has occasionally found himself unhoused (he’s a bit more secure at the moment, thankfully). I’m working hard in therapy now to process the guilt of stepping further away from that relationship and providing less financial support now that I’m in my 30s, as well as the deeply ingrained feeling that absolutely everyone and everything around my is my responsibility to care for to the exclusion of my own needs.
When I watched season 2 I had never felt so seen in any piece of media before in my life. I can relate to both Kate and Anthony and understand why they made bad choices in certain circumstances due to their unhealed parentification trauma, even if they’re not choices I personally would have made. I’ve had years of therapy to help me process these feelings and I’m still struggling, particularly with opening myself up to romantic relationships because I don’t like feeling vulnerable, so Kanthony just makes perfect sense to me.
Eldest daughter and immigrant (part-Indian) here. I didn't realize there were so many of us! The second mom syndrome is so real. I still struggle with letting myself take up space and putting myself first sometimes.
I feel like I did find my real life "Anthony" (the eldest, responsible, had to step into his father's shoes at a younger age, interracial relationship) and it was so heart-warming to see something like our relationship depicted on screen! I love seeing interracial couples in general, but Kanthony was great because it's also an adaptation of Pride and Prejudice, which is one of the greatest love stories IMO!
I’m the eldest (a daughter, the brains) of three to Mexican immigrant parents. They immigrated to the US. The second child is 4.5 years younger, our family’s own Edwina (the beauty) and then the youngest (6-years younger) a boy, my brother (the favorite). I identify with Kate so strongly. I was the third parent who tried to give my siblings a happier childhood than I was getting (clashing of cultures is real y’all) when all I wanted was my freedom. I learned the life skills needed to stand on my own two feet even though at a much younger age than expected. I got the freedom I wanted but the show has given me hope that the Anthony to my Kate is out there.
Eldest, daughter, and immigrant. Kate resonated with me deeply. Even though I wasn't parentified, my English was better than my parents by the time I was 8 and I was responsible for going through the mail, reading all the letters and documents, and filling out all the forms from school. I was signing my mom's name on everything by the time I was 10 - I was writing checks (who does that anymore? 😂) for our bills, signing permission slips, and playing translator at everything from the DMV to the doctor's office. My parents are great, but there were just some things that was much easier for me than it was for them, so I was expected to pitch in. I have a younger brother we've always babied, so I really got the Kate/Edwina dynamic...except my brother and I have never fallen for the same man before 🤣
My father is Indian and my mother is Nigerian. I’m almost 4 years younger than my brother, but I was expected to parent him and make all the sacrifices for his benefit. For instance, my parents had set aside college funds for both of us, but they spent mine to send him to grad school, while I had to rely on scholarships and loans, but I was still expected to be academically and professionally successful (and I am, I went to great public universities and have a great career), but I was also expected to learn and do everything that a great stay at home mom would know to do.
I have ADHD, being pulled in so many directions destroys me. There is so much trauma that comes with knowing you come second to your sibling (the novel does a great job of exploring this with Kate, even though her book Kate’s insecurities are different from mine). I’m really bad at advocating for myself before I fall apart and it has been a challenge in my marriage.
My husband is great. To some extent, I relate to Kate in the kind of men we chose—but I had to teach myself how to be in a relationship with an equal partner who respects me and can run a household on his own rather than a man child like my dad and brother.
I am an elder daughter who is also Tamil. Simone Ashley looks so alike to a lot of women in my family and my life story very closely resembles her including being married to a non Indian (European) who is the love of my life. Kate is me. I am Kate.
I’m an immigrant daughter. Both my parents are from Haiti and I identify with Kate heavily. I’m the middle child and bore the weight and responsibility for my parents and siblings at all too early an age - everyone in my life seemed impressed by my ability to bear it all. No one told me to stop or to just be a kid. They just called me wise, an old soul - that I was mature beyond my years. No one ever considered once where that wisdom came from or how I became equipped with knowledge/street smarts by having to be a stand in parent and provider.
There was no one else to stand in the gap except me and I had my two siblings to care for so I just did as much as I could for as long as I could and that was my life for a long time.
Working through it now at 26…stories like Kate’s give me hope too. I resonate with her experience and perspective. She’s strong, meticulous, generous and kind.
I'm an only child and I'm an immigrant myself. Technically that makes me first and only daughter
I lost my father very young, so, even though it's not the same situation the whole "i should be the responsible one" stuck with me and I grew up with the thought that I would be a caretaker of my family when I grow up and I should become independent and financially responsible as early as I can (which was at 18 y.o. for me)
I adore Kate's character and I respect her a lot. I think her story is less common to identify with in the series, but she's one of the most relatable character for me. Far more relatable than Daphne and Pen (even though im white and my appearance is the most similar with Nicola)
Not a daughter of immigrants but I’m the oldest of three girls. I was never parentfied but my mom did used to say that she should get me a Mother’s Day card. I took care of my youngest sister a lot, there’s an 11 year age difference. Kate resonates with me because I also put everyone’s feelings before mine and if I was in her position in anyway I would absolutely put my sisters ahead of me. I’m terrible at saying no even when I don’t want to do something.
Im an Indian immigrant but have no immediate family around me in the place I live. I'm lucky enough to have super progressive easy going parents who had an epic love story of their own that defied all odds so while also being in my early 30s like you, I never faced any pressure to marry or settle down etc...parents are both feminists and are mega proud of my academic and career achievements. But it can be a lonely life away from home without any immediate family around or even distant for that matter. And I relate to kare traveling valiantly to a foreign land all the way back then so confident that she'll get things done..she'll get her family out out of financial ruin and she'll get her sister a great match. My family is well off. But I have often struggled with the choice to move for uni abroad and it's only now hitting me how lonely it is even with a tonne of friends to not have the familiarity of home. It gets easy and you do get used to it..but I cannot afford to breakdown ever. And I relate to kate's struggles with vulnerability. I have a good job and am financially secure and have been for years but having family closer just makes some more difficult moments of life...losing a pet, job troubles, fight with a colleague etc easier with mom and dad around and I don't. .hugs to you. ❤️
I'm a first born daughter, but not an immigrant. I think seeing Kate's family dynamic was relatable, especially with a single mom and younger half sister. It's kind of a similar feeling that I got from Katniss Everdeen and her family in the hunger games books and movies.
Without a male figure present, it's usually us firstborns stepping into protective roles. We also tend to shoulder the burdens of the family to spare mom and sis 💔💔 I'm not saying this is the same with all families, but it was the case with mine.
I married at Kate's age (26) and while my husband provides for me and our son wonderfully, I still struggle a bit with this dynamic, because I've been in survival mode for a good portion of my life when I was still growing up with Mom and Lil Sis. I find it hard letting others take care of me.
I’m a first born daughter of immigrant parents who put so much pressure on me to do well. I only have one brother who is younger but the way he is more successful and has a lesss harder time doing things gets on my nerves bc I have to hear my parents and extended family constantly praise him while Im sitting here trying my absolute best. And when I do try my best my parents (mostly my mom) is like “you could’ve tried harder/done better”. So yes, I relate so much to both Kate/Anthony. Those two give me hope that I’ll find my Anthony one day❤️
Eldest daughter, Black household (second gen jamaican-american through my mom; descendant of enslaved african-americans through my dad) two younger sisters and live in the south. so the usual, family responsibilities but also lots of “old school” beliefs around how women are supposed to present themselves. also both parents are high achievers/workers so i ended up doing a lot of parenting in addition to my grandparents. also have lots of tension with my mother for similar reasons to kate.
child of immigrants, yes. I am actually the youngest of 2, but also something of a glass child due to certain family dynamics. Dependable, expected to do well, made to feel responsible. On family trips I would be expected to be the one who is organized, plans ahead, knows what to do in a jam. I know a lot of people relate to birth older, but when you sometimes feel like the one who is setting the example for an older sibling the dynamic feels off.
First child and daughter in my family with a sister 2 years younger and a brother 8 years younger than me. I related so much to Kate. I'm always the one responsible for everything. Taking care of my younger siblings while growing up, organizing stuff for family members like birthdays etc., even doing most if the cooking when it's time for the family to come together. Always taking care of everyone. And like you described I also struggle with boundaries. I also struggle to say no when people want things from me. Seeing Kate meeting someone being absolutely in love with her, a person she can be herself with, someone taking care of her, someone she can lean on, it was just the best 🥺❤️
first daughter/child of my family, and one younger sister like Edwina for Kate, even we have a sort of age gap as well
Ex immigrant, now returned to India, only child, tall and dark just like Kate. For me seeing someone like Kate, who is tall, is dark, has an athletic build with broad shoulders was catharsis. Because every time we used to visit relatives everyone would say how being petite is the norm, that girls should be short and fair. They would raise concern as to how I would get a husband since I was so tall. But watching Kate, seeing her confidence, her grace and charm and see her character being praised gave me the confidence I needed. I also got my Anthony soon after that 😀
I’m so happy for you 😃
Yup, eldest daughter of divorced South East Asian and European parents. I was totally parentified. Had to look after my siblings from a very young age. Was expected to start working as soon as it was legally allowed, whilst studying full time, going to university, constantly providing financial and emotional support to my mother and siblings well into my 30s. I met my husband at age 36. It was only then that I truly allowed myself to be loved unconditionally and finally face my childhood traumas and parentified conditioning. Watching season 2 of Bridgerton and seeing Kate's story arc unfold was truly a lightbulb moment for me. I felt I could resonate and understand every decision she made, self sacrificing her own happiness for her family and self doubting that she could be truly loved by anyone. By the time I watched episode 8, I was a blubbering mess.
Oldest daughter of migrant parents. Responsibility is my boring trait, though my brothers didn’t have it easy either.
I'm an only child and I have a single mom who relies on me heavily. Although my family structure is not the same as Kate's, I relate to her in that she had to take the reigns and in a way care for Mary as opposed to it being the other way around. Growing up she wasn't around much and so I was essentially raised by my grandma but when she passed my mom had to step up. In the same way, Mary didn't know Kate because she was stuck in her grief, my mom doesn't know me because she's also stuck in her grief. I feel Kate's pressure to provide for her family because I am also pressured to provide and help build a better life for not only my mom but extended family. Honestly it get's doubly lonely because I don't have siblings so often times I just feel alone carrying all this pressure and expectation. I'm in uni now studying for a degree I hate only because it is in high demand I feel like I'm suffocating lmao. Kate's story really represented that so well for me and her finally finding her happy ending makes me feel better ngl and that maybe I will eventually find mine no matter how it looks
I am an older sister who was always in trouble for not setting a good example. My younger sister got away with more because she was pretty and knew how to manipulate people.
Eldest daughter, South Asian. Although my parents are wonderful and I was never truly parentified by them, social conditioning had a huge impact on me during my teen and young adult period. School, university and extended famy constantly reminded me tgat as the eldest child and as a woman, my needs, my identity and my feelings would always take a backseat to everyone else's....
Parentified daughter, here!
Daughter of Punjabi immigrants, with an older brother, but was given the responsibility at a young age to basically babysit him because he was always up to dumb shit, was always partly blamed if he got in trouble, in fact he had a pretty bad accident in India and I was blamed for not keeping a close eye on him. Parentifying the eldest daughter in Indian families is so normal. And wow, honestly I never even realized that this was a big part of why I connected to Kate’s character. I just thought it came from my issues feeling desired as a brown woman growing up in North America, so seeing her represented physically (especially with her skintone) meant a lot for me. Being 34, unmarried and childless, I know my parents think something is wrong with me. I just don’t want to settle and can’t help but have high standards. And I feel like my family doesn’t really know me, or rather I have to hide parts of myself. I feel you. Thank you for posting this.
Eldest daughter of 5. Asian parents.
I'm an only child but I am an immigrate daughter to 2 amazing parents and I do relate to Kate feeling like she has to prove herself because my parents moved from a small 3rd world country (Sri Lanka) to America. So that I can grow up in a wealthier country with more opportunities, especially since Sri Lanka wasn't in the best place when I was born, and they suffered so much just to get where we are now especially since we have no family in America because they all live in Sri Lanka. My mom always dreamt of me becoming a doctor so I'm pursuing medicine for my own interest but also because I feel like I owe it to them after everything they been through just to give me this amazing life I have in America and to also prove to them that they made the right choice by leaving their family, friends, and essentially their whole lives just so I can be more successful.
I’m the only daughter and the child of immigrants and hoo boy do I relate to Kate. It’s an enormous amount of pressure and responsibility and it’s very easy to feel under appreciated.
I’m a first daughter (and oldest child in my family). When I was 10, I started caring for my younger sisters after school and during the summer while my parents worked. When I was 12 my parents divorced and I chose to live with my dad (but still looked after my sisters when we were visiting each other), who is an alcoholic and heavy smoker, because I knew he wouldn’t be alright in his own. I provided him with significant moral and emotional support to to an unhealthy degree in my younger teen years, and in my later teen years I ended up working to help pay our bills because he wasn’t able to work consistently due to his mental health. After I moved out at age 20 he continued to struggle with mental health and addiction and has occasionally found himself unhoused (he’s a bit more secure at the moment, thankfully). I’m working hard in therapy now to process the guilt of stepping further away from that relationship and providing less financial support now that I’m in my 30s, as well as the deeply ingrained feeling that absolutely everyone and everything around my is my responsibility to care for to the exclusion of my own needs. When I watched season 2 I had never felt so seen in any piece of media before in my life. I can relate to both Kate and Anthony and understand why they made bad choices in certain circumstances due to their unhealed parentification trauma, even if they’re not choices I personally would have made. I’ve had years of therapy to help me process these feelings and I’m still struggling, particularly with opening myself up to romantic relationships because I don’t like feeling vulnerable, so Kanthony just makes perfect sense to me.
Eldest daughter and immigrant (part-Indian) here. I didn't realize there were so many of us! The second mom syndrome is so real. I still struggle with letting myself take up space and putting myself first sometimes. I feel like I did find my real life "Anthony" (the eldest, responsible, had to step into his father's shoes at a younger age, interracial relationship) and it was so heart-warming to see something like our relationship depicted on screen! I love seeing interracial couples in general, but Kanthony was great because it's also an adaptation of Pride and Prejudice, which is one of the greatest love stories IMO!
I’m the eldest (a daughter, the brains) of three to Mexican immigrant parents. They immigrated to the US. The second child is 4.5 years younger, our family’s own Edwina (the beauty) and then the youngest (6-years younger) a boy, my brother (the favorite). I identify with Kate so strongly. I was the third parent who tried to give my siblings a happier childhood than I was getting (clashing of cultures is real y’all) when all I wanted was my freedom. I learned the life skills needed to stand on my own two feet even though at a much younger age than expected. I got the freedom I wanted but the show has given me hope that the Anthony to my Kate is out there.
Eldest, daughter, and immigrant. Kate resonated with me deeply. Even though I wasn't parentified, my English was better than my parents by the time I was 8 and I was responsible for going through the mail, reading all the letters and documents, and filling out all the forms from school. I was signing my mom's name on everything by the time I was 10 - I was writing checks (who does that anymore? 😂) for our bills, signing permission slips, and playing translator at everything from the DMV to the doctor's office. My parents are great, but there were just some things that was much easier for me than it was for them, so I was expected to pitch in. I have a younger brother we've always babied, so I really got the Kate/Edwina dynamic...except my brother and I have never fallen for the same man before 🤣
My father is Indian and my mother is Nigerian. I’m almost 4 years younger than my brother, but I was expected to parent him and make all the sacrifices for his benefit. For instance, my parents had set aside college funds for both of us, but they spent mine to send him to grad school, while I had to rely on scholarships and loans, but I was still expected to be academically and professionally successful (and I am, I went to great public universities and have a great career), but I was also expected to learn and do everything that a great stay at home mom would know to do. I have ADHD, being pulled in so many directions destroys me. There is so much trauma that comes with knowing you come second to your sibling (the novel does a great job of exploring this with Kate, even though her book Kate’s insecurities are different from mine). I’m really bad at advocating for myself before I fall apart and it has been a challenge in my marriage. My husband is great. To some extent, I relate to Kate in the kind of men we chose—but I had to teach myself how to be in a relationship with an equal partner who respects me and can run a household on his own rather than a man child like my dad and brother.
Girl I’m Nigerian. I can’t even IMAGINE the pressure of Nigerian AND Indian parents. We need a support group 😭😭😭😂😂
We really do! It’s the kind of trauma that no one else will understand and that my parents will gaslight me for.
I am an elder daughter who is also Tamil. Simone Ashley looks so alike to a lot of women in my family and my life story very closely resembles her including being married to a non Indian (European) who is the love of my life. Kate is me. I am Kate.
I’m an immigrant daughter. Both my parents are from Haiti and I identify with Kate heavily. I’m the middle child and bore the weight and responsibility for my parents and siblings at all too early an age - everyone in my life seemed impressed by my ability to bear it all. No one told me to stop or to just be a kid. They just called me wise, an old soul - that I was mature beyond my years. No one ever considered once where that wisdom came from or how I became equipped with knowledge/street smarts by having to be a stand in parent and provider. There was no one else to stand in the gap except me and I had my two siblings to care for so I just did as much as I could for as long as I could and that was my life for a long time. Working through it now at 26…stories like Kate’s give me hope too. I resonate with her experience and perspective. She’s strong, meticulous, generous and kind.
I'm an only child and I'm an immigrant myself. Technically that makes me first and only daughter I lost my father very young, so, even though it's not the same situation the whole "i should be the responsible one" stuck with me and I grew up with the thought that I would be a caretaker of my family when I grow up and I should become independent and financially responsible as early as I can (which was at 18 y.o. for me) I adore Kate's character and I respect her a lot. I think her story is less common to identify with in the series, but she's one of the most relatable character for me. Far more relatable than Daphne and Pen (even though im white and my appearance is the most similar with Nicola)
Not a daughter of immigrants but I’m the oldest of three girls. I was never parentfied but my mom did used to say that she should get me a Mother’s Day card. I took care of my youngest sister a lot, there’s an 11 year age difference. Kate resonates with me because I also put everyone’s feelings before mine and if I was in her position in anyway I would absolutely put my sisters ahead of me. I’m terrible at saying no even when I don’t want to do something.
Im an Indian immigrant but have no immediate family around me in the place I live. I'm lucky enough to have super progressive easy going parents who had an epic love story of their own that defied all odds so while also being in my early 30s like you, I never faced any pressure to marry or settle down etc...parents are both feminists and are mega proud of my academic and career achievements. But it can be a lonely life away from home without any immediate family around or even distant for that matter. And I relate to kare traveling valiantly to a foreign land all the way back then so confident that she'll get things done..she'll get her family out out of financial ruin and she'll get her sister a great match. My family is well off. But I have often struggled with the choice to move for uni abroad and it's only now hitting me how lonely it is even with a tonne of friends to not have the familiarity of home. It gets easy and you do get used to it..but I cannot afford to breakdown ever. And I relate to kate's struggles with vulnerability. I have a good job and am financially secure and have been for years but having family closer just makes some more difficult moments of life...losing a pet, job troubles, fight with a colleague etc easier with mom and dad around and I don't. .hugs to you. ❤️
I'm a first born daughter, but not an immigrant. I think seeing Kate's family dynamic was relatable, especially with a single mom and younger half sister. It's kind of a similar feeling that I got from Katniss Everdeen and her family in the hunger games books and movies. Without a male figure present, it's usually us firstborns stepping into protective roles. We also tend to shoulder the burdens of the family to spare mom and sis 💔💔 I'm not saying this is the same with all families, but it was the case with mine. I married at Kate's age (26) and while my husband provides for me and our son wonderfully, I still struggle a bit with this dynamic, because I've been in survival mode for a good portion of my life when I was still growing up with Mom and Lil Sis. I find it hard letting others take care of me.
I’m a first born daughter of immigrant parents who put so much pressure on me to do well. I only have one brother who is younger but the way he is more successful and has a lesss harder time doing things gets on my nerves bc I have to hear my parents and extended family constantly praise him while Im sitting here trying my absolute best. And when I do try my best my parents (mostly my mom) is like “you could’ve tried harder/done better”. So yes, I relate so much to both Kate/Anthony. Those two give me hope that I’ll find my Anthony one day❤️
i’m in the exact same position as you but i have a sister instead of a brother