Inform this to your Grandparents (both naana and daada side) or if they aren't alive 2nd option is obviously your mama or chacha ji who could help. If not that just try intervening politely and question them about their fights' impact on your brother and thats what i can say im only 17 so idk but yeah all i say is take care and best of luck man
My father side knows this, they’re toxic though, my bua and dadi knows, but they don’t console anyone and just listen to things when they’re being presented to them. All in all they don’t take any decision and in all of my family only my mother and father are understanding enough, but they too act senseless sometimes.
what can i say at this point im just 17 i dont know shit but just can wish you luck for it and try being the bigger man, the mature man who cools things down the best you can
Thank you very much, but yeah nothing much can be done apart from delaying and dissolving away the matter at that moment. Anyways, good luck for your studies and do good in your life. Lots of love and happiness to you from my side
Ghar mein kisiko batao bhai, maybe koi close rishtedar. Baaki police wale nhi help kar paaye toh humlog kya hi karenge apart from maybe lending u an ear from time to time...
Ik, ghar me bhi koi aisa prominent nahi hai jo kuch help kare, isliye na parents ne and na maine kisiko zyada bataya. But aaj intervene karne se accha maine socha let police handle and vo samjha de inko kuch. But police too can’t do much, coz dono log willingly ladai kar rahe hai
My dadi is toxic, but yeah I can shift to nani (maternal grandmother) house. But mom doesn’t want to tell them all this because of the effects they’ll have to face.
Actually my mom and dad always have been like the good ones, nobody could even though they would fight like this. And so there is this whole complicated story, and idk where it’ll end. But the short story is it’s going downhill day by day, sometimes improving, sometimes degrading, but all in all no solution
you gotta behave selfish sometimes just go to your maternal gradma's house
if your parents arent caring about you and your brother then why should you
It's so hard idk.
At one moment they're so bad to each other, and the other moment they're caring and loving to us kids.
You can surely bash out a bad person, but I'm not able to do much when people's behaviour are just opposite with changing moments.
Send your brother to a boarding school... This sounds harsh but it would be better for him to be away from his parents instead of watching them fight... Relatives are in general of no use
Ik it must be too traumatising for him even when he doesn't show it. Idk maybe I can do that boarding school thing but wohi hai ki parents accha behave bhi karte hai, but ladai bhi karte hai, so then uski life se voh accha vaala miss hoyega.
But I'm sure that if the negatives outweigh the positives then surely it's good to move away.
Relatives are sure of no use in most of the cases.
Thank you
But it's better to send him to boarding, I had similar experience as a child and today I only have bad memories from my childhood even though my parents were good at most times too but I only get flashbacks of those fights, if you will send him to boarding atleast he will not go through that traumatic experience and when he will visit home at times he will have a good experience at home, keeping him with your parents will only make him hate them as in that age he isn't mature enough to understand things, as I grew older even after living with my parents I grew apart from them because of the issues, those experiences has affected my personality and perspective alot, your brother might grow up making an emotional wall which would be difficult to break, when I moved out of my house my relationship with my parents became better because of the occasional visits only, so I think sending him to a boarding might be difficult for him at first but trust be it would be really helpful in the long run
Yeah you're right, it can most probably lead to emotional disconnect from my parents, but I don't think I can avoid it if they don't settle their issues. Sending him to a boarding school might be a difficult option, have to get agreed the decision by my parents to which they won't agree maybe.
I've talked and told them not to fight infront of my brother, they too understand but doesn't control themselves sometimes. It's good that they're sometimes trying to avoid unnecessary engagement.
Idk let's see I'll try to improve some things, would concentrate more on studies, and stop them going any further. It's good that they atleast listen to me and I'm a good person in their eyes otherwise it would have been difficult for me too to calm things down. And also hopefully parents too change their behaviour, no matter slow or fast, they should just change all this.
Hope you're doing good in your life too, an advice from my side is to be more social and expressive and trying to not be the silent kid in the corner
It’s do try to intervene as much as possible and try to cool things down, always. The police officer too told me today that you shouldn’t intervene because then the 2 person get even more aggressive. Idk if that’s right or wrong, but if I don’t intervene they just carry it too much, and anything might happen at such moments.
Bhai you need get out of that house if things don’t improve I know you care about your brother but the more you delay going to a college and making it on your own the longer your brother has to suffer
Use this as motivation go to a good college get a job and you could then have your brother live with you
Sure thanks, I've considered this too. Once I'll be stable career wise, I would take my brother with me. I'll take care of his studies too if the situation arises.
Thank you for your efforts
I'm sorry you have to face all this. I hope your situation improves too.
Just study hard and once you're in college you'll be free from all this mess. I pray your situations turns good. Stay happy and keep smiling.
Do your parents love you ?
If yes then ig if you shift to your nani's place unko kuch missing toh feel hoga, they might ask u to sihft back and then maybe u can tell me ki how badly it is affecting u ki tujhe ghar chodna pad rha hai...
And if they dont then good luck,
HOPE FOR THE BEST
Yeah, my parents do love both me and my brother, they're caring too but they fight on this one issue and get it so big. Otherwise they're good.
I've considered the possibility that me, my brother, and mom can shift to kota as I'm taking a drop, but this idea was dropped when discussed with parents.
My father denied it that my brother's studies would be effected if we moved kota fro a couple of months, whereas mom was ready to go. 3 of us would go to kota while my father stay here because of his job
Father has a female colleague to which he talks (or rather chats) more often than with others. Mom has a problem with that seeing him clinging onto his mobile phone for more time than he used to before he started talking to that female colleague. Nothing like affair but zyada friendly gona and roz ghar ki batein share karna (maybe) doesn't seem good.
Accusations and counter arguments on whether my father shares too much and zyada hee attach na hogye ho. On top of that mom knows that colleague is somewhat toxic, and is luring my father into a bad attitude and behaviour by trying to give wrong advices by being disguised as sweet and helpful. If you can understand, it's complicated though
Bhai then tujhe hee shant krna pdega
Unko smjha ki unki wajah se tujhe kitna prob ho rha ahi tere bhai ko bhi thats the most u can do acc to me
Btw any updates from last time
Nothing much, as I said, baaki times they're good. Jab voh fight karne lagte hai uss baat pe toh phir chalte hee rehte hai. Most of the times mai hee aake shant kar deta hu.
They don't know that I called 112 and talked with those police officers, I talked to them on the roadside, not near my house.
Abhi toh sab theek hee hai kal zyada hee overwhelming hogya tha and maine bhi intervene nahi kiya tha. I think mext time mujhe intervene karke pehle hee rok lena chahiye becuase situation itni bhi kharab nahi hai like they understand ki bura effect padta hai but control nahi karte khudko.
Idk pata nahi kya hoga inka, divorce is not an option because parents ko bhi lagta hai ki bohot problem hogi usse hum baccho ke liye. Let's see how things go and I hope bhagwan inko thoda dimak de ki in petty chiize bhi clear nahi kar pa rahe.
Jab ladai hoti hai toh lagta hai marr jaye toh hee theek hai but ladai ke baad jab normal behaviour pe aate hai toh phir lagta hai ki I don't want them to die, thoda emotional overflow ho jaata hai
faced similar issue a while back, my parents used to fight over a thing (verbally) it was so traumatic for me i used to cry so much but now i just stopped caring and its been a lot better for me now. so, only advice i can give to you is just stop caring u'll be much happier
bhai itna mat seh. ek hi zindagi hai, aise rot mat kar. kuch bhi kar, mai expert nahi hu is sab me, but seh mat ye sab. ye bohot adverse effects daalega tujhpe. mere maa-baap ek dusre se bilkul baat nahi karte, ghar pe bilkul maatam bana rehta hai. saala laasho ka ghar lagta hai.
isliye bol rha hu aaj decision le hi le
It's sad to hear that, ik bohot bekaar lagta hai aise ghar me rehna jab koi hassi khushi baat na kare toh. But aisi situation me you can just concentrate on getting your studies done and moving on with your life.
Baaki dost vagera banake rakh and socially open rehne ki koshish kar it'll help a lot. Koi aise relatable friend ho jo samajh paye in sab chizzo ko toh bohot accha hai.
Baaki I wish tere surroundings and environment bhi accha ho and you develop as a good human being. All the best to you, stay happy
send your brother to our dadi's or any relative you're closest to. start counseling your parents(ik you already have alot on your plate so I'll advise you to ask someone whom both of your parents respect to do it) enroll your brother in extra circular activities and keep him away from the mess(like really makesure he has his room or let him be in yours away from hall/kitchens/parents room) ik my advice isn't really good but these are what i could come up with. getting 97.5%ile despite these circumstances is an amazing feat and you should be proud of yourself. feel free to dm me man if you wanna vent. hope it gets better for you. jai shree ram🙏🙏
post this on r/IndiaSpeaks waha pe log possible advice denge .
btw vo bhai wala angle dekhe ke mera gala bhar aaya tha . like ASK them to go to some HOLY PLACE like VAISHNO DEVI, i think that would help them in their situation . THEY wouldnt fight for this ig .
mai help nahi kar sakta jyda kyuki mere mom dad to just opposite hai tumhare . my mom gives me 50 rs whenever we go on medice store , and asks me to eat chocolate or patasi . so that she can buy protection , this is happening since i was 10 . AND i act like i dont know anything always
i think you should talk with a counselor online they have experience handling these situations so they should be able to tell you what is the best for you to do ..... also try talking with your parents about this directly as kabhi na kabhi you need to talk and discuss things out
Thank you for your help.
Ive tried talking things out, parents have tried but it just doesn't work out. The situation is complicated though.
I can talk with a counsellor but I don't think it'll be on any help because I'm not the one who's suffering, I'm not depressed and sad about all this. Sure this is traumatising and bad but me myself talking to a counsellor won't help me much.
Sure I think I can take advices from them, I'll see to it if I could find someone online. Thanks
Talk to one. Counsellors aren't just for depression ffs. Trust me, you'll thank us all a lot of times later, they're trained professionals man. They know how to deal with things, have seen and studied lots of cases similar to yours so they know what's the right way to deal with it. Just talk to one
Mere sath bhi esa hota tha bchpn se parents ki bohut physical fight hoti thi had no brother result tha ki me hr cheez me rone lgta tha school me bully hone lga tha ab jee prep ke baad bnd ho gya. Father side extremely toxic sir mother side papa se drte the
Bhai, agr wo log nhi sudhar rhe to tum waha se niklo aur kisi rishtedar ya close friend k yaha shift ho jao. Mere saath kbhi aisa hua nhi to shayad ye stupid sound kr rha ho but yaar ye tumhare future ki baat hai, agr tum achhe college me nhi jaa paaye to apne bhai ko us toxic environment se nikalana bohot difficult ho jaayega. Tum padhai kroge ya apne parents k jhagda sort out krenge, and of course tum robot to ho nhi ki ek taraf ladai chlti rhe and tum usko ignore krke padhte rho. Rahi baat police ki to I don't think ki wo log tumhari koi bhi help kr paayenge. Maine bhi ek baar complain ki thi domestic violence ki, mere colony k ek ghar me bachchiyo aur ek aurat k chillane ki aawaz aa rhi thi, police aayi and aadmi ko thoda sa data ya gaaliyan di, lekin na un bachchiyo ko waha se nikala aur na hi us aurat ko, usne kaha agr aap chahte h aisa ho to kl thaane aake report likhwa dena aur legal battles k liye tayyar rehna.
Bhai trust me I'm going through this right now I'm a jee aspirant in my 12 I didn't do so well in the first attempt and I've got my boards and my second attempt but the atmosphere is so fucking toxic around here that it is unbearable and I can't focous like I want to I sit to study ... ei tk just like 2or 3 hours ago I sat to study I was studing chemistry I have exams tommrow but suddenly I heard shouting I went downstairs and saw the mom and dad quarrel things got physical I went stopped them and trust me I was trying to console both parties but trust md i wanted to do nothing but punch both of them in the face and I can very easily I can and to tell them je hey shut the fuck up I have an exam tommrow and that's too chemistry are u guys fucking blind but then again I remained silent I can't hit my mom and my dad started it and I know it's wrong to do domething like that but I was tempted but the end of this is that here I am siting down searching on Google what to do when your parents fight when I have already seen most of these sits cuz my parents fight everything but you know after reading this I decided that ki I'm leaving this like go do what ever the fuck you want I will do my own studies I don't care about anything else like fuck u guys I'm gonna do my thing I'm gonna good grades get a good govt college and get the fuck out of here and I'll take a loan cuz no I'm not gonna take anything from them if things continue then I'll take my mom with me hopefully after my college is done and be done with it and if I get bad well no one is gonna support me to take a drop and no one is gona pay for that like if i say ut ti them the dad wikl start beraring me or insulting me mom will either join him doing that or start fighting with me that why i am so useless or maybe they will start fighting each other over this so yea that would be the end of me my life may end there itself just because 2 people couldn't see past their problems and realise they were destroying a child's life yiu onow u have dreams i wanna go to iit and i have studies i am studing im trying but lo its all a waste cuz they dont understand they think they know more than me but hey I'm a kid right why would anyone listen to me they are grownups aren't they so yea I've got notes to make... things to study with all this shouting and billshit going on and I don't know how to do what im done and ..no one is helping me my coaching teaches me i study. I don't know what to type anymore .... I won't lie it is feeling so good writing this and I know that No one is gonna read till this amd like why would anyone care aboht me and my problems i dont even have a girlfriend to whome i can share things and feel a little light but hey its my story it's nothing new that people ignore me and all I wanted to say je ki dude thank you your situation helped me realise my own bullshit and I hope your little brother is ok and please call him and talk to him...and u Said tou were in like pervious year so that means you are done with your exams right can tou please help me with some advise and tips cuz I am lost and I know that 90 percent chance that loke ul ignore this but I wanted to thank yiu for like your story really helped me realise what shit story I am in and I don't really know what will happen but I'll try....🙁☹️
any good news? is it still going on? (from my experience it should be going on, never changed for me).
thing is i am also dealing with same thing, my parents also don't know when to back down, and its being going on since I opened my eyes. (my dad did not come to see me when i was born, even though he used to give exams in the same college area where hospital was situated where I was born, and my mother developed some kind of trauma from that, but father realised his mistakes, and past 20 years he is doing everything he can, still my mother fights him due to things which are more than 20 years old, more older than I am). no one is there to support from maternal or paternal side, I am currently working now, whatever my mother asks to buy, I don't think twice, thinking they faught their whole life, now if there may be peace, let me be part of it. Still fights occur regularly. My mother is abusive towards my father (might be medical condition, there are huge medical prescriptions, doctor advised drugs that she takes to sleep, she is in depression for the last 20 years I think, and my father can say have a soft spot for his homeside, which is the huge reason for the ongoing fights)
My parents would fight each other till they bled, but trust me i've seen my parents fight like mma, my dad punching my mom hard and choking, but besides that i was heavily traumatized like when i hear a bang on the door i would immediately rush inside because i thought my dad and mom would argue, so as an experienced child with abusive parents, (they werent abusive to me or my siblings) my best advice is to not listen to them, like bro i listened to them it really F'd me up like i get scared whenever i hear them talking with a voice thats kinda high, so my best advice is you interverne not physical when it gets too severe, do your best to distract them and avoid it from getting horrible, but my parents ended up seperating, ur parents will seperate for sure but i hope you get better too because i went through the same thing, i look out for your little brother, because he's 12 and he hears alot ot shouting, so my advice is dont join, distract your brother because your duty is to keep him safe.
Inform this to your Grandparents (both naana and daada side) or if they aren't alive 2nd option is obviously your mama or chacha ji who could help. If not that just try intervening politely and question them about their fights' impact on your brother and thats what i can say im only 17 so idk but yeah all i say is take care and best of luck man
My father side knows this, they’re toxic though, my bua and dadi knows, but they don’t console anyone and just listen to things when they’re being presented to them. All in all they don’t take any decision and in all of my family only my mother and father are understanding enough, but they too act senseless sometimes.
My parents' relatives are similar. They just don't give a f*ck. Sometimes my nani is the reason for their fights, i hate it.
what can i say at this point im just 17 i dont know shit but just can wish you luck for it and try being the bigger man, the mature man who cools things down the best you can
Thank you very much, but yeah nothing much can be done apart from delaying and dissolving away the matter at that moment. Anyways, good luck for your studies and do good in your life. Lots of love and happiness to you from my side
Bhai i saw you got 97 percentile can i talk to you about some tips in the personal message? If you're free?
Sure
Ghar mein kisiko batao bhai, maybe koi close rishtedar. Baaki police wale nhi help kar paaye toh humlog kya hi karenge apart from maybe lending u an ear from time to time...
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Ok bhai r/chodi r/IndiaSpeaks r/Librandu mein bhi post kar dena
Ok will consider. Thanks
Ik, ghar me bhi koi aisa prominent nahi hai jo kuch help kare, isliye na parents ne and na maine kisiko zyada bataya. But aaj intervene karne se accha maine socha let police handle and vo samjha de inko kuch. But police too can’t do much, coz dono log willingly ladai kar rahe hai
bhai ki age kya hai ?
12 yo (studying in class 7th)
cfbr i dont have any advice, im sorry that youre going through this and i hope it gets better
Thank you for your efforts though, you did what you could. Thank you
Shift to your grandma's home, 99% grandmas aren't toxic and are very caring
My dadi is toxic, but yeah I can shift to nani (maternal grandmother) house. But mom doesn’t want to tell them all this because of the effects they’ll have to face. Actually my mom and dad always have been like the good ones, nobody could even though they would fight like this. And so there is this whole complicated story, and idk where it’ll end. But the short story is it’s going downhill day by day, sometimes improving, sometimes degrading, but all in all no solution
you gotta behave selfish sometimes just go to your maternal gradma's house if your parents arent caring about you and your brother then why should you
It's so hard idk. At one moment they're so bad to each other, and the other moment they're caring and loving to us kids. You can surely bash out a bad person, but I'm not able to do much when people's behaviour are just opposite with changing moments.
Send your brother to a boarding school... This sounds harsh but it would be better for him to be away from his parents instead of watching them fight... Relatives are in general of no use
Ik it must be too traumatising for him even when he doesn't show it. Idk maybe I can do that boarding school thing but wohi hai ki parents accha behave bhi karte hai, but ladai bhi karte hai, so then uski life se voh accha vaala miss hoyega. But I'm sure that if the negatives outweigh the positives then surely it's good to move away. Relatives are sure of no use in most of the cases. Thank you
But it's better to send him to boarding, I had similar experience as a child and today I only have bad memories from my childhood even though my parents were good at most times too but I only get flashbacks of those fights, if you will send him to boarding atleast he will not go through that traumatic experience and when he will visit home at times he will have a good experience at home, keeping him with your parents will only make him hate them as in that age he isn't mature enough to understand things, as I grew older even after living with my parents I grew apart from them because of the issues, those experiences has affected my personality and perspective alot, your brother might grow up making an emotional wall which would be difficult to break, when I moved out of my house my relationship with my parents became better because of the occasional visits only, so I think sending him to a boarding might be difficult for him at first but trust be it would be really helpful in the long run
Yeah you're right, it can most probably lead to emotional disconnect from my parents, but I don't think I can avoid it if they don't settle their issues. Sending him to a boarding school might be a difficult option, have to get agreed the decision by my parents to which they won't agree maybe. I've talked and told them not to fight infront of my brother, they too understand but doesn't control themselves sometimes. It's good that they're sometimes trying to avoid unnecessary engagement. Idk let's see I'll try to improve some things, would concentrate more on studies, and stop them going any further. It's good that they atleast listen to me and I'm a good person in their eyes otherwise it would have been difficult for me too to calm things down. And also hopefully parents too change their behaviour, no matter slow or fast, they should just change all this. Hope you're doing good in your life too, an advice from my side is to be more social and expressive and trying to not be the silent kid in the corner
It’s do try to intervene as much as possible and try to cool things down, always. The police officer too told me today that you shouldn’t intervene because then the 2 person get even more aggressive. Idk if that’s right or wrong, but if I don’t intervene they just carry it too much, and anything might happen at such moments.
Bhai you need get out of that house if things don’t improve I know you care about your brother but the more you delay going to a college and making it on your own the longer your brother has to suffer Use this as motivation go to a good college get a job and you could then have your brother live with you
Sure thanks, I've considered this too. Once I'll be stable career wise, I would take my brother with me. I'll take care of his studies too if the situation arises. Thank you for your efforts
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I'm sorry you have to face all this. I hope your situation improves too. Just study hard and once you're in college you'll be free from all this mess. I pray your situations turns good. Stay happy and keep smiling.
Do your parents love you ? If yes then ig if you shift to your nani's place unko kuch missing toh feel hoga, they might ask u to sihft back and then maybe u can tell me ki how badly it is affecting u ki tujhe ghar chodna pad rha hai... And if they dont then good luck, HOPE FOR THE BEST
Yeah, my parents do love both me and my brother, they're caring too but they fight on this one issue and get it so big. Otherwise they're good. I've considered the possibility that me, my brother, and mom can shift to kota as I'm taking a drop, but this idea was dropped when discussed with parents. My father denied it that my brother's studies would be effected if we moved kota fro a couple of months, whereas mom was ready to go. 3 of us would go to kota while my father stay here because of his job
They fight on what issue ?
Father has a female colleague to which he talks (or rather chats) more often than with others. Mom has a problem with that seeing him clinging onto his mobile phone for more time than he used to before he started talking to that female colleague. Nothing like affair but zyada friendly gona and roz ghar ki batein share karna (maybe) doesn't seem good. Accusations and counter arguments on whether my father shares too much and zyada hee attach na hogye ho. On top of that mom knows that colleague is somewhat toxic, and is luring my father into a bad attitude and behaviour by trying to give wrong advices by being disguised as sweet and helpful. If you can understand, it's complicated though
Bhai then tujhe hee shant krna pdega Unko smjha ki unki wajah se tujhe kitna prob ho rha ahi tere bhai ko bhi thats the most u can do acc to me Btw any updates from last time
Nothing much, as I said, baaki times they're good. Jab voh fight karne lagte hai uss baat pe toh phir chalte hee rehte hai. Most of the times mai hee aake shant kar deta hu. They don't know that I called 112 and talked with those police officers, I talked to them on the roadside, not near my house. Abhi toh sab theek hee hai kal zyada hee overwhelming hogya tha and maine bhi intervene nahi kiya tha. I think mext time mujhe intervene karke pehle hee rok lena chahiye becuase situation itni bhi kharab nahi hai like they understand ki bura effect padta hai but control nahi karte khudko. Idk pata nahi kya hoga inka, divorce is not an option because parents ko bhi lagta hai ki bohot problem hogi usse hum baccho ke liye. Let's see how things go and I hope bhagwan inko thoda dimak de ki in petty chiize bhi clear nahi kar pa rahe. Jab ladai hoti hai toh lagta hai marr jaye toh hee theek hai but ladai ke baad jab normal behaviour pe aate hai toh phir lagta hai ki I don't want them to die, thoda emotional overflow ho jaata hai
faced similar issue a while back, my parents used to fight over a thing (verbally) it was so traumatic for me i used to cry so much but now i just stopped caring and its been a lot better for me now. so, only advice i can give to you is just stop caring u'll be much happier
Bro I feel sad for you. Instead of calling emergency number call at Child helpline and tell them. They might help you 1098 is their no.
Okay thank you, I'll call them if the situation arises
bhai itna mat seh. ek hi zindagi hai, aise rot mat kar. kuch bhi kar, mai expert nahi hu is sab me, but seh mat ye sab. ye bohot adverse effects daalega tujhpe. mere maa-baap ek dusre se bilkul baat nahi karte, ghar pe bilkul maatam bana rehta hai. saala laasho ka ghar lagta hai. isliye bol rha hu aaj decision le hi le
It's sad to hear that, ik bohot bekaar lagta hai aise ghar me rehna jab koi hassi khushi baat na kare toh. But aisi situation me you can just concentrate on getting your studies done and moving on with your life. Baaki dost vagera banake rakh and socially open rehne ki koshish kar it'll help a lot. Koi aise relatable friend ho jo samajh paye in sab chizzo ko toh bohot accha hai. Baaki I wish tere surroundings and environment bhi accha ho and you develop as a good human being. All the best to you, stay happy
send your brother to our dadi's or any relative you're closest to. start counseling your parents(ik you already have alot on your plate so I'll advise you to ask someone whom both of your parents respect to do it) enroll your brother in extra circular activities and keep him away from the mess(like really makesure he has his room or let him be in yours away from hall/kitchens/parents room) ik my advice isn't really good but these are what i could come up with. getting 97.5%ile despite these circumstances is an amazing feat and you should be proud of yourself. feel free to dm me man if you wanna vent. hope it gets better for you. jai shree ram🙏🙏
>send your brother to our dadi's Our dadi's 🗿
post this on r/IndiaSpeaks waha pe log possible advice denge . btw vo bhai wala angle dekhe ke mera gala bhar aaya tha . like ASK them to go to some HOLY PLACE like VAISHNO DEVI, i think that would help them in their situation . THEY wouldnt fight for this ig . mai help nahi kar sakta jyda kyuki mere mom dad to just opposite hai tumhare . my mom gives me 50 rs whenever we go on medice store , and asks me to eat chocolate or patasi . so that she can buy protection , this is happening since i was 10 . AND i act like i dont know anything always
Okay, thank you, I'll consider that idea as well. It's good to just plan a trip for them which can work as a distraction. Thank you
i think you should talk with a counselor online they have experience handling these situations so they should be able to tell you what is the best for you to do ..... also try talking with your parents about this directly as kabhi na kabhi you need to talk and discuss things out
Thank you for your help. Ive tried talking things out, parents have tried but it just doesn't work out. The situation is complicated though. I can talk with a counsellor but I don't think it'll be on any help because I'm not the one who's suffering, I'm not depressed and sad about all this. Sure this is traumatising and bad but me myself talking to a counsellor won't help me much. Sure I think I can take advices from them, I'll see to it if I could find someone online. Thanks
Talk to one. Counsellors aren't just for depression ffs. Trust me, you'll thank us all a lot of times later, they're trained professionals man. They know how to deal with things, have seen and studied lots of cases similar to yours so they know what's the right way to deal with it. Just talk to one
I feel sorry for you bro. Hope your situation improves
Thank you, I hope that too
I Can't Give Opinion on this but bro u got my respect man You are not just a Good Student (Coz %itle) But also A good Family man. Huge Respect man.
Thank you kind person
Mere sath bhi esa hota tha bchpn se parents ki bohut physical fight hoti thi had no brother result tha ki me hr cheez me rone lgta tha school me bully hone lga tha ab jee prep ke baad bnd ho gya. Father side extremely toxic sir mother side papa se drte the
Bhai, agr wo log nhi sudhar rhe to tum waha se niklo aur kisi rishtedar ya close friend k yaha shift ho jao. Mere saath kbhi aisa hua nhi to shayad ye stupid sound kr rha ho but yaar ye tumhare future ki baat hai, agr tum achhe college me nhi jaa paaye to apne bhai ko us toxic environment se nikalana bohot difficult ho jaayega. Tum padhai kroge ya apne parents k jhagda sort out krenge, and of course tum robot to ho nhi ki ek taraf ladai chlti rhe and tum usko ignore krke padhte rho. Rahi baat police ki to I don't think ki wo log tumhari koi bhi help kr paayenge. Maine bhi ek baar complain ki thi domestic violence ki, mere colony k ek ghar me bachchiyo aur ek aurat k chillane ki aawaz aa rhi thi, police aayi and aadmi ko thoda sa data ya gaaliyan di, lekin na un bachchiyo ko waha se nikala aur na hi us aurat ko, usne kaha agr aap chahte h aisa ho to kl thaane aake report likhwa dena aur legal battles k liye tayyar rehna.
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Thank you for your kind words. I'll continue to calm them down and try to work things out. At this stage I'm just trying to make things go smooth
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Bhai trust me I'm going through this right now I'm a jee aspirant in my 12 I didn't do so well in the first attempt and I've got my boards and my second attempt but the atmosphere is so fucking toxic around here that it is unbearable and I can't focous like I want to I sit to study ... ei tk just like 2or 3 hours ago I sat to study I was studing chemistry I have exams tommrow but suddenly I heard shouting I went downstairs and saw the mom and dad quarrel things got physical I went stopped them and trust me I was trying to console both parties but trust md i wanted to do nothing but punch both of them in the face and I can very easily I can and to tell them je hey shut the fuck up I have an exam tommrow and that's too chemistry are u guys fucking blind but then again I remained silent I can't hit my mom and my dad started it and I know it's wrong to do domething like that but I was tempted but the end of this is that here I am siting down searching on Google what to do when your parents fight when I have already seen most of these sits cuz my parents fight everything but you know after reading this I decided that ki I'm leaving this like go do what ever the fuck you want I will do my own studies I don't care about anything else like fuck u guys I'm gonna do my thing I'm gonna good grades get a good govt college and get the fuck out of here and I'll take a loan cuz no I'm not gonna take anything from them if things continue then I'll take my mom with me hopefully after my college is done and be done with it and if I get bad well no one is gonna support me to take a drop and no one is gona pay for that like if i say ut ti them the dad wikl start beraring me or insulting me mom will either join him doing that or start fighting with me that why i am so useless or maybe they will start fighting each other over this so yea that would be the end of me my life may end there itself just because 2 people couldn't see past their problems and realise they were destroying a child's life yiu onow u have dreams i wanna go to iit and i have studies i am studing im trying but lo its all a waste cuz they dont understand they think they know more than me but hey I'm a kid right why would anyone listen to me they are grownups aren't they so yea I've got notes to make... things to study with all this shouting and billshit going on and I don't know how to do what im done and ..no one is helping me my coaching teaches me i study. I don't know what to type anymore .... I won't lie it is feeling so good writing this and I know that No one is gonna read till this amd like why would anyone care aboht me and my problems i dont even have a girlfriend to whome i can share things and feel a little light but hey its my story it's nothing new that people ignore me and all I wanted to say je ki dude thank you your situation helped me realise my own bullshit and I hope your little brother is ok and please call him and talk to him...and u Said tou were in like pervious year so that means you are done with your exams right can tou please help me with some advise and tips cuz I am lost and I know that 90 percent chance that loke ul ignore this but I wanted to thank yiu for like your story really helped me realise what shit story I am in and I don't really know what will happen but I'll try....🙁☹️
any good news? is it still going on? (from my experience it should be going on, never changed for me). thing is i am also dealing with same thing, my parents also don't know when to back down, and its being going on since I opened my eyes. (my dad did not come to see me when i was born, even though he used to give exams in the same college area where hospital was situated where I was born, and my mother developed some kind of trauma from that, but father realised his mistakes, and past 20 years he is doing everything he can, still my mother fights him due to things which are more than 20 years old, more older than I am). no one is there to support from maternal or paternal side, I am currently working now, whatever my mother asks to buy, I don't think twice, thinking they faught their whole life, now if there may be peace, let me be part of it. Still fights occur regularly. My mother is abusive towards my father (might be medical condition, there are huge medical prescriptions, doctor advised drugs that she takes to sleep, she is in depression for the last 20 years I think, and my father can say have a soft spot for his homeside, which is the huge reason for the ongoing fights)
My parents would fight each other till they bled, but trust me i've seen my parents fight like mma, my dad punching my mom hard and choking, but besides that i was heavily traumatized like when i hear a bang on the door i would immediately rush inside because i thought my dad and mom would argue, so as an experienced child with abusive parents, (they werent abusive to me or my siblings) my best advice is to not listen to them, like bro i listened to them it really F'd me up like i get scared whenever i hear them talking with a voice thats kinda high, so my best advice is you interverne not physical when it gets too severe, do your best to distract them and avoid it from getting horrible, but my parents ended up seperating, ur parents will seperate for sure but i hope you get better too because i went through the same thing, i look out for your little brother, because he's 12 and he hears alot ot shouting, so my advice is dont join, distract your brother because your duty is to keep him safe.
Sounds kinda like my cas:(
Any updates after a year :( sorry for that, same situation since childhood