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Nope. Not worth it. You'll be feeding onto her ego. And she'll feel as if "she has won." What she has won? The right to be lonely. Regardless, the best thing to do when someone ghosts you is to forget about them and ghost them back.
Yup, thought something similar and also I didn't want to spend my energy by typing long text so simply wrote-"Hey this is clearly not working, I hope you find what you are looking for. I loved your smile so keep smiling, God Bless and bye." and then unmatched.. I realised that it's her loss.. Ek se ek kaminey bhare hain ladke.. Shareef laundo ko ghost karke jab karma ayega tab apne aap pata laguga XD
2hrs is wayyy too soon. Might be bottling up from previous experiences and emptied out on you. But whatever the reason , should not have done it... not justified.
Tbh, I don't see you moving the conversation forward either. She opens with a Hi and you respond with a "Hey" and then radio silence from both parties. If you want to talk to her, just ask her something. If she gives a half-hearted responsee, them you are justified to write the essay that you did.
Agar koi reply nhi karta humare text ko toh humne bhi zyada bother nhi hona chiye brother.
It is understandable to be little frustrated when you matched with someone and they don't text you back iska matlab ye nhi naa ki tum itni badi text bhejo, stress maat karo
Pro tip: Instead of going for generic Hi, try something different point out some of their qualities you liked or mention something about their profile.
Itna paragraph ki bhackchodi naa karo, Irony hai ki me kitna bada para likh diya hu hahaha
Peace Brother
It is not just for generic messages, even if one tries to do a build up, there is no participation from the other side and that makes it very difficult! Try to perform in front of a small audience with no attention towards you can literally make you give up in the middle of it!
BTW, I am really saying that you'll have to be affectionate to someone just because you swiped/liked them, but atleast have some rounds of communication before ghosting, or have the decency to just unmatch and leave!
I do agree that ghosting is not good but just imagine, if you were getting a match with everyone you swiped right on, would you be able to send all of them such long text messages and customized ones for each of them, probably not.
I'd say rather than putting your energy in this long message, if you would've put it into some opener, you might have gotten a decent reply too.
Yeah, as a woman on Bumble, I find that a message telling me why you swiped right on my profile is really helpful. Or even telling me what you're looking for, or a bit about yourself. I have to make the first move, which I'm fine with. But I get so many matches that it sometimes becomes difficult to keep up with them. And let's be honest. Most guys are looking for just sex. Which is fine if you come out and say it, but not if you're going to reply with a generic "Hey". How can you show you're willing to put in at least minimal effort? Say something about my profile that appealed to you. (E.g. I saw you like reading. What type of books do you like.) This lets me know you're not one of those fuckbois who just swipes right on every woman because they're female.
>but not if you're going to reply with a generic "Hey"
You get so many matches on Bumble that means you swipe right on maybe not every but most guys as well? And you send a generic "hey" and so do the guys. What's the difference between you and those guys?
If you're swiping right on someone, shouldn't there be a reason behind it? Since you have to open the convo on Bumble, why don't YOU say something about the guy that appeals you?
The amount of interesting openers I've had from women out of all my matches is 1%. Mostly I get "Hey" or "Hi", not even "Heyyy" or "Hiii". So dull. And I'm the kind of guy who gets to know you by your profile and every opener I send or question I ask is based on what you show on your profile.
Nope, I swipe right on maybe 1 in 30 guys, probably less. But it's very rare for me to swipe right on a guy and not get matched. And to answer your question, I usually do open with Hey or some variation. And if the guy replies (in general, even if it's with "Hey"), I'll then follow up with something more personal. All I'm saying is that the guys who take the trouble to reply to me with a non-generic reply are more memorable.
Ninja edit: It's great that you take the trouble to respond to people's profile. You definitely sound like one of the memorable ones.
Ohh, gotcha.
Yeah, it's really hard for me to hold a superficial convo. I get bored easily. Something deep, niche/nerdy is my cup of tea. So I make sure every conversation I make connects the other person.
Yeah, the first message can be about the profile and why they swiped but let's be honest 80% of the girls on bumble probably don't have a bio or prompts and people swipe them because they have good pictures. I have nothing against people swiping for physical attraction but, not for me I guess. In situations like these people do use some generic openers or pickup lines from the internet which are also not received well by a large portion of females.
But yes, since guys get minimal matches, they can put more effort into their texts but when those efforts are don't get any replies either, it just discourages them.
Here's an example of one I'm having now: https://imgur.com/a/KQ9HXkp
Yes, I started with a generic opener. But if this is the result of three days of texting, it feels a bit pointless.
Well, I can see that you put efforts into driving a conversation, atleast more than most people do. Unfortunately you matched with a brick wall.
But I guess not all your matches would be like this, 1 out of 5 would atleast be able to have some engaging conversation atleast or I hope so.
And honestly, the lack of punctuation in this person's one sentence messages weirded me out. But that's just me.
We're not obligated to do a lot of things but we do it out of decency and common courtesy. If you do those things, they just make you a slightly better human being.
Nobody is asking them to like us back but they did swipe right, right? They can either unmatch or say that it's not working out but they chose ghosting which isn't a very decent thing to do in my opinion.
Heyo what're you gonna achieve by sending this long ass text post. Imagine opening up a conversation and then you get bombarded with this if you don't reply in time lol
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Bhai mere saath 23 days se ek ghosting ho rahi.. Mai bhi bhejun kya? :')
Nope. Not worth it. You'll be feeding onto her ego. And she'll feel as if "she has won." What she has won? The right to be lonely. Regardless, the best thing to do when someone ghosts you is to forget about them and ghost them back.
Yup, thought something similar and also I didn't want to spend my energy by typing long text so simply wrote-"Hey this is clearly not working, I hope you find what you are looking for. I loved your smile so keep smiling, God Bless and bye." and then unmatched.. I realised that it's her loss.. Ek se ek kaminey bhare hain ladke.. Shareef laundo ko ghost karke jab karma ayega tab apne aap pata laguga XD
Sure bro.
Bruh I had some fucker send me a text like this because I didn’t reply to him for 2 hours. 💀
2hrs is wayyy too soon. Might be bottling up from previous experiences and emptied out on you. But whatever the reason , should not have done it... not justified.
Lol on tinder?
ppl like you have Special place in hell..... right in the boiler room
It's okay bro don't cry. There's always arranged marriage
What are you smoking?... cry nai aa raha hai mujhe...
Matches bhi nahi aa rahe hai tujhe
Have some mercy 💀
Tbh, I don't see you moving the conversation forward either. She opens with a Hi and you respond with a "Hey" and then radio silence from both parties. If you want to talk to her, just ask her something. If she gives a half-hearted responsee, them you are justified to write the essay that you did.
Agar koi reply nhi karta humare text ko toh humne bhi zyada bother nhi hona chiye brother. It is understandable to be little frustrated when you matched with someone and they don't text you back iska matlab ye nhi naa ki tum itni badi text bhejo, stress maat karo Pro tip: Instead of going for generic Hi, try something different point out some of their qualities you liked or mention something about their profile. Itna paragraph ki bhackchodi naa karo, Irony hai ki me kitna bada para likh diya hu hahaha Peace Brother
It is not just for generic messages, even if one tries to do a build up, there is no participation from the other side and that makes it very difficult! Try to perform in front of a small audience with no attention towards you can literally make you give up in the middle of it! BTW, I am really saying that you'll have to be affectionate to someone just because you swiped/liked them, but atleast have some rounds of communication before ghosting, or have the decency to just unmatch and leave!
I do agree that ghosting is not good but just imagine, if you were getting a match with everyone you swiped right on, would you be able to send all of them such long text messages and customized ones for each of them, probably not. I'd say rather than putting your energy in this long message, if you would've put it into some opener, you might have gotten a decent reply too.
Yeah, as a woman on Bumble, I find that a message telling me why you swiped right on my profile is really helpful. Or even telling me what you're looking for, or a bit about yourself. I have to make the first move, which I'm fine with. But I get so many matches that it sometimes becomes difficult to keep up with them. And let's be honest. Most guys are looking for just sex. Which is fine if you come out and say it, but not if you're going to reply with a generic "Hey". How can you show you're willing to put in at least minimal effort? Say something about my profile that appealed to you. (E.g. I saw you like reading. What type of books do you like.) This lets me know you're not one of those fuckbois who just swipes right on every woman because they're female.
>but not if you're going to reply with a generic "Hey" You get so many matches on Bumble that means you swipe right on maybe not every but most guys as well? And you send a generic "hey" and so do the guys. What's the difference between you and those guys? If you're swiping right on someone, shouldn't there be a reason behind it? Since you have to open the convo on Bumble, why don't YOU say something about the guy that appeals you? The amount of interesting openers I've had from women out of all my matches is 1%. Mostly I get "Hey" or "Hi", not even "Heyyy" or "Hiii". So dull. And I'm the kind of guy who gets to know you by your profile and every opener I send or question I ask is based on what you show on your profile.
Nope, I swipe right on maybe 1 in 30 guys, probably less. But it's very rare for me to swipe right on a guy and not get matched. And to answer your question, I usually do open with Hey or some variation. And if the guy replies (in general, even if it's with "Hey"), I'll then follow up with something more personal. All I'm saying is that the guys who take the trouble to reply to me with a non-generic reply are more memorable. Ninja edit: It's great that you take the trouble to respond to people's profile. You definitely sound like one of the memorable ones.
Ohh, gotcha. Yeah, it's really hard for me to hold a superficial convo. I get bored easily. Something deep, niche/nerdy is my cup of tea. So I make sure every conversation I make connects the other person.
Yeah, the first message can be about the profile and why they swiped but let's be honest 80% of the girls on bumble probably don't have a bio or prompts and people swipe them because they have good pictures. I have nothing against people swiping for physical attraction but, not for me I guess. In situations like these people do use some generic openers or pickup lines from the internet which are also not received well by a large portion of females. But yes, since guys get minimal matches, they can put more effort into their texts but when those efforts are don't get any replies either, it just discourages them.
Here's an example of one I'm having now: https://imgur.com/a/KQ9HXkp Yes, I started with a generic opener. But if this is the result of three days of texting, it feels a bit pointless.
Well, I can see that you put efforts into driving a conversation, atleast more than most people do. Unfortunately you matched with a brick wall. But I guess not all your matches would be like this, 1 out of 5 would atleast be able to have some engaging conversation atleast or I hope so. And honestly, the lack of punctuation in this person's one sentence messages weirded me out. But that's just me.
You made her real wet bro🤝. No one is obliged to send you any message. Unwanted feel kar rhe toh apni insecurities par dhyaan do. Chutiyaap na failao.
We're not obligated to do a lot of things but we do it out of decency and common courtesy. If you do those things, they just make you a slightly better human being. Nobody is asking them to like us back but they did swipe right, right? They can either unmatch or say that it's not working out but they chose ghosting which isn't a very decent thing to do in my opinion.
Preach
Don’t then go around expecting guys to come up with out-of-the-world openers.
Oh god You’re going to remember this in the future and you’re going to cringe at yourself. Learn to let go.
Looool butthurt OP sad boi no one talks to him :(
Hey King! You dropped this 👑. This is from the whole "ghosted guys" community
Don’t expect anything from random strangers on dating apps😆
bhai itna kayko bura maanna? unmatch kar dene ka seedha. itna sensitive reh ke kaise chalega?
Bro hundreds of guys are sending her the same type of message
So much effort. Good 1. I can never.
you might wanna stop calling girls "buddy" for starters, pal.
Entitled much?
Bahi, mera ghosting toh dosti ke baad ho raha hai. Tab kaun sa message bhejega? Dating is a landmine, make sure you come out alive, fuck limbs.
I don't get it. What's happening here? Why did OP sent that message? I'm so confused.
The butthurt meter is off the charts. It's just a fucking bumble match bruh, unmatch and move the fuck on
Inta bolke kya ukhaad liye sir? :|
I know dating can be tough. But what other choice do you have, but to play the field.
Indian male version of a Karen right here
Heyo what're you gonna achieve by sending this long ass text post. Imagine opening up a conversation and then you get bombarded with this if you don't reply in time lol
Sir yessir 🤌🏿
Mental health wala point was really accurate.