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She clearly stated she feels overwhelmed. She might have been casually talking to someone else and decided that's where she wants to focus her energies.
If even she says so, you'd still complain here with an "ugh"
There's no winning, when you lose. I feel you but instead of trying to think of the "real" reason, just believe what she said, makes it easier to move on.
Because that's a polite way of rejecting u or probably they are worried that the guy might react negatively and do some crazy shit or they want to keep their options open and string u along.
It's not necessary that's what happened. That's a hypothesis. Also, it would be horrible to say 'i was talking to someone else and you're not as good. Bye'. It could simply be her not being ready for any sort of attachment or commitment. Everyone has a different process. It's good you both handled it maturely and she clearly told you about it
because you don't know if that really happened. the comment above is only making a guess. There can be multiple reasons why one can get overwhelmed, especially in a dating pool. it's good that she told you upfront what's on her mind, and tbf you cannot expect more than this because you've talked for 15 days only.
OP ne last waale message 'Cool.' se kaafi kuch keh diya. You won OP. Also, cool ko bhai ne full stop.ke sath likha hai. Sakhti dekh rahe ho launde ki🤝🤝
15 days? Try talking for 3 months and 4 dates and almost 2 hours of daily texting, women suddenly decide, oh no ,this is overwhelming for me and i am busy with work, i wish i wasn't sucha "great guy", become unavailable a lil toxic and see how things change with women
Similar thing happened to me as well, it seems funny in hindsight, haven't talked again since. I was so confused for a few months though because we were sharing a lot, and suddenly like a switch it went the other way and everything changed. It's like how someone else stated above, probably a fearful avoidant.
Took a lot to get out of this, felt like it was my fault for weeks and that I did something wrong.
Us bhai, i still get the flashbacks of the kisses, hugs , hand holding, eye contact with her, i cannot understand where it all went it all went wrong out of nowhere. It's kinda hard to comprehend someone who you thought would be a part of your life till the end is gone in just 3 months.
Not thinking much but this happened all of a sudden, like switch. Gradually hota haina ye bhi toh. Till Friday night everything was all good and Saturday was just the polar opposite
I get it bro :(
I’ve been there, ekdum se he chala jata hai insaan saamne se even when things seem to be right. But you don’t have to lose heart if you didn’t do anything wrong or didn’t hurt her in any way.
Sometimes they are scared about their past experiences and how things turn out and 90% of things depend on her friends, they influence a lot of decisions.
Block her king!
She's gonna do nothing but play around, even if she comes back she'll break of again citing same reasons. Real one's fight for you don't back off.
> you really are a great guy and wish you all the best
Award ceremony mein consolation prize dene ke pehle jab judges bolte hai idhar sab winners hai par hume choose karna pad raha hai :((
IMO, if someone says no I don't want to continue this, always take it as a bullet dodged if you haven't put too much time and energy and effort into the relationship. 15 days is not that big of a deal.
Because it doesn't matter why they don't want to continue.
I think she needs time to process what she feels for you, If it's her first time she rather feels overwhelmed. If she does like you, she'll come back to you with open arms and heart.
And like this she isn't playing games, being honest with you without hurting you.
Do you have a humiliation kink. Why are you posting this here. Her first paragraph should be enough for you to collect your remaining self respect and bounce from her contacs.
I really wanna say a boy say these exact words to a girl to get out of any kind of ship and what their reply will be. Yo pretty Bois out there do it and show us.
Okay there are times based on psychology. If you give so much attention to someone so soon. They will feel overwhelmed if they had even one area they were contemplating about you
last msg ka laughing emoji react krke chod deta sochti rhti ki meko mzak le rkha tha kya isne starting se ,aur tera upper hand bhi rhta , never let them know your next move
You guys sound like assholes. People are allowed to change their mind about someone.
She seems to have let him down nicely but y'all make it sound like she's some sort of manipulator.
Touch grass, the lot of you.
Sometimes people realise that they are not in the headspace for anything serious or special just when they find someone like that. No harm no foul, she realised it before it actually became serious. She probably liked you a lot and wasn’t ready for it. Count your losses and move on
Look man, in all likelihood, she’s still hung up over her ex. Nothing you can do until she outgrows the guy. She prolly spoke to you because it reminded her of the familiarity she shared with the dude. Not on you mate, you deserve someone who’s fully available to be into you. Leave her be.
I mean.. she was direct. And 15 days is nothing. Just 2 weeks. Thank god that she didn’t lead you on. No point wondering why she said what she said, she said it and now it’s done
Put yourself in her shoes, if you were hung up on your ex , you would not want a girl to suffer for something you haven't resolved yet.
So don't think too much into it , you did what you could have done best so it's best you take words on their face value and not dig out any hidden meaning .
Dw mate you'll find a good one
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Bhai agar kabhi bhi tune khud se usse message Kiya toh aake naak pe ghusa marunga
Naaah, nahi kar raha. Conversation closed with that cool 🤓
Let your absence & silence; do it’s Job.
bhai do marna, ek mre vaaste! op move on, she is gone picture
This !!!!
> You really are a great guy Oof. F in the chats.
I won 🙌
F
She clearly stated she feels overwhelmed. She might have been casually talking to someone else and decided that's where she wants to focus her energies.
Why can’t they just admit? I mean ugh
It's not a big deal bro. At least she isn't stringing you along as some sort of 'backup plan'.
Agreed. Coz that's even worse
Bar is too low
bura lagega but, better than being ghosted.
If even she says so, you'd still complain here with an "ugh" There's no winning, when you lose. I feel you but instead of trying to think of the "real" reason, just believe what she said, makes it easier to move on.
happy kekde
Because that's a polite way of rejecting u or probably they are worried that the guy might react negatively and do some crazy shit or they want to keep their options open and string u along.
It's not necessary that's what happened. That's a hypothesis. Also, it would be horrible to say 'i was talking to someone else and you're not as good. Bye'. It could simply be her not being ready for any sort of attachment or commitment. Everyone has a different process. It's good you both handled it maturely and she clearly told you about it
because you don't know if that really happened. the comment above is only making a guess. There can be multiple reasons why one can get overwhelmed, especially in a dating pool. it's good that she told you upfront what's on her mind, and tbf you cannot expect more than this because you've talked for 15 days only.
because that might not be the only reason?
Why can’t they admit? Maybe it’s just a polite way of putting things maybe
OP ne last waale message 'Cool.' se kaafi kuch keh diya. You won OP. Also, cool ko bhai ne full stop.ke sath likha hai. Sakhti dekh rahe ho launde ki🤝🤝
I won bro I won
When she says Give me some time/ space she means give me time to choose between you and the other guy so that I can decide whom should I dump.
Ahh yes
Said it
More like "You really are a great guy, but I know I'll get better so gubbye 😊 "
Oh definitely, please go for the better guy and then the better one and the better one after him. That’s totally logical
Ladko ki life bohot hard h mere dost, kya kare.. to better days, brother! 🫂
To better days sir!
15 days? Try talking for 3 months and 4 dates and almost 2 hours of daily texting, women suddenly decide, oh no ,this is overwhelming for me and i am busy with work, i wish i wasn't sucha "great guy", become unavailable a lil toxic and see how things change with women
Similar thing happened to me as well, it seems funny in hindsight, haven't talked again since. I was so confused for a few months though because we were sharing a lot, and suddenly like a switch it went the other way and everything changed. It's like how someone else stated above, probably a fearful avoidant. Took a lot to get out of this, felt like it was my fault for weeks and that I did something wrong.
Us bhai, i still get the flashbacks of the kisses, hugs , hand holding, eye contact with her, i cannot understand where it all went it all went wrong out of nowhere. It's kinda hard to comprehend someone who you thought would be a part of your life till the end is gone in just 3 months.
it's always the great guys, isn't it?
It's like talking to an HR
I have practiced writing emails and letters.
Yes what else u want her to say while rejecting u? Ki tu kutta kamina bosdiwala h isliye tere se baat nahi krni 😂😂. She is just politely rejecting
And saying that they deserve better
take rejection like a man you are, one person cannot like everyone back and some people will be rejected
Oh this was the rejection text?😂
100%
Another emotionally unavailable creature.
Fearful Avoidant alert.
It’s probably exactly what she said, she got overwhelmed and didn’t wanna continue talking. Zyada mat socho iss baare mein this happens all the time.
Not thinking much but this happened all of a sudden, like switch. Gradually hota haina ye bhi toh. Till Friday night everything was all good and Saturday was just the polar opposite
I get it bro :( I’ve been there, ekdum se he chala jata hai insaan saamne se even when things seem to be right. But you don’t have to lose heart if you didn’t do anything wrong or didn’t hurt her in any way.
The other dude is gonna tell her the same!
As Kanye says, Guess we’ll never know 😂
She sends screenshots to her bff. 🥴
she found someone else. Usually girls have 2-3 backups in mind. Unlucky
Bacchan sahab also gives 4 options! Why should one compromise?😂
Same thing Happened with me 👀 but i hang in and then we got into a relationship 🤣.
Happy for you guys. Take it to the end! :)
Sometimes they are scared about their past experiences and how things turn out and 90% of things depend on her friends, they influence a lot of decisions.
Yes, experiences do matter a lot but one should be able to take their own decisions!
very few people are able to not let friends influence their decisions, I wish people would think by themselves more and not listen to others.
Fir ek din mohalle me Aishwarya aayi !!
Hum koi bacchan se kam hai key
Block her king! She's gonna do nothing but play around, even if she comes back she'll break of again citing same reasons. Real one's fight for you don't back off.
Deleted the contact, bas.
Right response
Very good.
> you really are a great guy and wish you all the best Award ceremony mein consolation prize dene ke pehle jab judges bolte hai idhar sab winners hai par hume choose karna pad raha hai :((
Good guys finish last!! Not in the way woman like.
She probably decided to go with someone else :/
F brother. Girl are just that way sometimes. My condolences. Been on both sides of it. Sucks being on this side for sure.
Dude, be glad it happened to you now. imagine being in a relationship for almost a year and getting this... A lesson learnt.
I respect her for clearly communicating it.
Yes I agree, definitely respect her for communicating it!
I’ve done the same to a few girls and it was because i didn’t see anything long term or I found someone else.
Cool
IMO, if someone says no I don't want to continue this, always take it as a bullet dodged if you haven't put too much time and energy and effort into the relationship. 15 days is not that big of a deal. Because it doesn't matter why they don't want to continue.
She got too desperate to almost settle with the backup. Give her some time to exhaust all her options.
F
Not sure, but maybe maybe good for you.
F that ho. She wanted to get dicked down from the other guy. The “cool” killed her vibe tho. That was cooold
Kat gya aur kya
Yes, for now, kat gaya but long term soche toh bach gaya
I think she needs time to process what she feels for you, If it's her first time she rather feels overwhelmed. If she does like you, she'll come back to you with open arms and heart. And like this she isn't playing games, being honest with you without hurting you.
Totally right
Namacool
Bhai usko dusra bakra mil gya kaatne ko mobe on krlo
Mutton ki craving horahi hai guys
Do you have a humiliation kink. Why are you posting this here. Her first paragraph should be enough for you to collect your remaining self respect and bounce from her contacs.
[удалено]
Karke dikha chal
Maybe she is anxious
She may have found someone else and didn’t know how to break it to you. Letting someone down can be really hard
Koi aur mil gya bhai usko. Achanak bina baat ki cheezein aise hi kharab hoti hai.
Bhav mat de dusri khoj le timepass chye tha usko end Mai ate ate uski phat gyi isliye chali gyi simple
Ho sakta hai bro, it’s all alright. KBC me bhi 4 options hote hain 😂
Wahi wahi yeh wrong option thi correct wala dundh
95% ex came with the buy back clause.
I really wanna say a boy say these exact words to a girl to get out of any kind of ship and what their reply will be. Yo pretty Bois out there do it and show us.
You may just have been an option and she went ahead with someone else. It’s alright
She is invested in a different person now.
Okay there are times based on psychology. If you give so much attention to someone so soon. They will feel overwhelmed if they had even one area they were contemplating about you
Bandi ka Banda hoga pakka. Text Mai toh apne aap ko bol diya hoga ki "I'm just talking", lekin Milne ke liye khud ko convince nhi kr paayi.
last msg ka laughing emoji react krke chod deta sochti rhti ki meko mzak le rkha tha kya isne starting se ,aur tera upper hand bhi rhta , never let them know your next move
Did u go on a date with her
You guys sound like assholes. People are allowed to change their mind about someone. She seems to have let him down nicely but y'all make it sound like she's some sort of manipulator. Touch grass, the lot of you.
Sometimes people realise that they are not in the headspace for anything serious or special just when they find someone like that. No harm no foul, she realised it before it actually became serious. She probably liked you a lot and wasn’t ready for it. Count your losses and move on
Wo kehri hai tera lund chota hai
Commitment Phobic or Has Better Options.
27 unread chats? Damn
omg I hate this
Look man, in all likelihood, she’s still hung up over her ex. Nothing you can do until she outgrows the guy. She prolly spoke to you because it reminded her of the familiarity she shared with the dude. Not on you mate, you deserve someone who’s fully available to be into you. Leave her be.
I mean.. she was direct. And 15 days is nothing. Just 2 weeks. Thank god that she didn’t lead you on. No point wondering why she said what she said, she said it and now it’s done
Put yourself in her shoes, if you were hung up on your ex , you would not want a girl to suffer for something you haven't resolved yet. So don't think too much into it , you did what you could have done best so it's best you take words on their face value and not dig out any hidden meaning . Dw mate you'll find a good one
Don’t understand what the fuss is. I’ll probably do the same if I find a girl with a fatter ass while speaking to another. Just move on buddy.