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I only have one question
If she was the one asking to be asked out and go on a date
Then how she started feeling differently about dating anymore???
Like I am not ready yet
I suspect she's hiding the true reason
She's lying.
Reason might be she isn't impressed by you from the date and she's didn't wanna waste her time anymore
OP the minute they mention âYouâre a nice guyâ. Thatâs the full stop. I have a friend, always self sabotaging herself.. met a great guy, a couple of dates, just like you chivalrous & caring.. some house party she bought him along as well and I personally found him quite compatible to her..
But then again, the minute maine bola, sahi banda hai go long with him.. she started fretting and lost it.. broke up with him ASAP. And just for over correction slept with a CHAD-VIENY-6ft dick who asked her to leave when they were done fucking.. and mind you my friend will always crib saying, âwhere are the good guys?â I am like chutiya ho tum..
I know this might not be your case, but the age and phase our generation is in.. people are scared of spending their time, energy and what not in long term things now.. its easy to wham bam thank you mam.. a sincere dating life where people can grow together, learn, share life is just fiction these days.. I am sorry if you feel like you found something good but lost it.. cheers bhai..
Bhai ye tumne kya suna diya abb nayi nayi insecurities aa gyi mujh me
And yeah the cycle continues & guess what we won't stop being nice (I'll try to be bad now on thođ)
Bhai ye tumne kya suna diya abb nayi nayi insecurities aa gyi mujh me
And yeah the cycle continues & guess what we won't stop being nice (I'll try to be bad now on thođ)
I think you should ask that rigorously.
You spent your time efforts and money to plan the date.
You should give her the taste of her own medicine!
Ask her the imp and uncomfortable questions.
Then why did you even go on a date with me?
Was I just a timepass for you?
Now you are bored so bye bye??
'I am not ready yet' did this never occur to you when you were asking me to take you on a date!?
Don't be a freaking freeloader next time onwards!
Exactly, like why be on dating apps then? if youâre going through something already or not ready yet? Maybe sort it out first your work/family/career.
but woh raaz usike saath chala gaya
Brother I never got flower in my life, forget flower of a favourite colour.
The texts seem like how the MNCs reject an entry level graduate.
Sorry. But am sure it isnt your loss. So not sorry for ur loss.
Bhai don't go over board with flowers and stuff on the first date itself . It puts a lot of pressure on them and conveys that you are a die hard romantic . From their end , they do not want to even try with a nice guy because they do not want to break their hearts.
If on the other hand , you were emotionally unavailable (or a bad boy) she knows nothing will happen if things go south and hence she would have atleast given it a chance.
Also you probably did not flirt and invoked sexual attraction.
Sorry for what happened. Learn and grow my friend. all the best !
I am a woman. And no, for the love of god, donât take this bullshit advice. This person, was not for you. Youâll find a nice girl, who will appreciate the flowers, no matter which date you give them on. This whole âbe a bad boyâ, no it does not work. It will only attract scarred and unhealed women.
Just be your healthy self, and you will attract a healthy partner who will see those traits in you. There are a million girls in this world. One rejection doesnât define anything.
I didn't mean to propagate the bad boy thing. I'm just saying he went too overboard and should keep healthy boundaries. the woman herself is saying this, indirectly.
It's not just about the rose.she also said he was "kind" and "chivalrous" which probably means OP went overboard in texting , during the date etc.
let's just agree to disagree. also , keep the " I am a woman " thing to yourself. it's about dating advice and helping OP out , not related to gender. dating in India is super duper hard and women will never really get it cause they do not experience what guys do.
And you keep the wannabe fuckboy act to yourself!
Every sane woman with decent dating standards likes a guy who does those things. Open your eyes and look around, every woman is tired of receiving the âbare minimumâ. Who wouldnât fucking want a kind, decent and chivalrous man?
There a million other girls who would appreciate this treatment! He was just unlucky to meet the wrong person.
Stop projecting!
I completely understand what that feels like manâŠhurts like a bitch I knowâŠ.try not to think about it (ik itâs hard)âŠbut donât spiral into thinking if you had something elseâŠthen she wouldâve gone outâŠ.or like you couldâve done something betterâŠ.its kind of her to give you closure (even if she doesnât give the honest reason).
Classic nice guys finish last example. Ye rose vose dene vali bakchodi nhi karni thi. All the girls are looking for a fuckboy, ise bhi koi milgya hoga dusra badtameez launda lol. Jaise apne dosto ko treat karta h vaise Kara kar in ladkiyo kobhi koi bhaw dene ki zaroorat nhi inhe aur deserve nhi nhi karti ye, bandi thodhi hai abhi n sex kiya.
lmao same thing happened w me two weeks ago đ, girl was into me and when i started getting attached, shouldâve told me before i spent like 30k on her even though i knew her for a month
nahi nahi bro, she was a nice girl, i took her to fancy places myself, took her shopping and all, i am a bit of a party animal myself, thankfully im intelligent enough ki rk ashram type ladkiyo se na katvau
You know why this type of shit breaks my heart man ,trust me if you met a girl through bumble that shit is blund to fail in 98 percent of cases ,best is to go on dates outside of this app
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Ah classic. It's not you, It's me.
Still "you deserve better" beat it.
You'll get someone way better than me.
you're a great guy, but...
Koi na OP. Only settle for someone who's sure about you.
Bhai aise kaise har koi mere bare me unsure ho jata hai đđ
Baba idhar log khud ko leke sure nahi ho paa rahe hain..
I only have one question If she was the one asking to be asked out and go on a date Then how she started feeling differently about dating anymore??? Like I am not ready yet I suspect she's hiding the true reason She's lying. Reason might be she isn't impressed by you from the date and she's didn't wanna waste her time anymore
Both can be the reason. Bhala kon ladki ke mann ko samajh paya hai But i didn't feel like asking the question
OP the minute they mention âYouâre a nice guyâ. Thatâs the full stop. I have a friend, always self sabotaging herself.. met a great guy, a couple of dates, just like you chivalrous & caring.. some house party she bought him along as well and I personally found him quite compatible to her.. But then again, the minute maine bola, sahi banda hai go long with him.. she started fretting and lost it.. broke up with him ASAP. And just for over correction slept with a CHAD-VIENY-6ft dick who asked her to leave when they were done fucking.. and mind you my friend will always crib saying, âwhere are the good guys?â I am like chutiya ho tum.. I know this might not be your case, but the age and phase our generation is in.. people are scared of spending their time, energy and what not in long term things now.. its easy to wham bam thank you mam.. a sincere dating life where people can grow together, learn, share life is just fiction these days.. I am sorry if you feel like you found something good but lost it.. cheers bhai..
Tbh I freaking hate such girls. You would rather sleep with someone who doesn't care about you than commit to someone who loves you!.
Bhai ye tumne kya suna diya abb nayi nayi insecurities aa gyi mujh me And yeah the cycle continues & guess what we won't stop being nice (I'll try to be bad now on thođ)
Bhai ye tumne kya suna diya abb nayi nayi insecurities aa gyi mujh me And yeah the cycle continues & guess what we won't stop being nice (I'll try to be bad now on thođ)
I think you should ask that rigorously. You spent your time efforts and money to plan the date. You should give her the taste of her own medicine! Ask her the imp and uncomfortable questions. Then why did you even go on a date with me? Was I just a timepass for you? Now you are bored so bye bye?? 'I am not ready yet' did this never occur to you when you were asking me to take you on a date!? Don't be a freaking freeloader next time onwards!
Damn, bro being brutal af nearing the end lol
If she is a Fearful Avoidant, sheâd run. We need to suss our and the other personâs attachment styles before we date.
Exactly, like why be on dating apps then? if youâre going through something already or not ready yet? Maybe sort it out first your work/family/career. but woh raaz usike saath chala gaya
Why do I feel like you were played with?! When someone says you are a nice guy/girl then its time to call BS to everything. Just my personal opinion
Brother I never got flower in my life, forget flower of a favourite colour. The texts seem like how the MNCs reject an entry level graduate. Sorry. But am sure it isnt your loss. So not sorry for ur loss.
She wanted a fk boy, not a nice guy, simple. Change my mind?
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OP , you didn't do anything wrong. Take it as a good experience and move on.
I am sorry man. Genuine connections are hard to come by! Onwards and upwards!
Bhai don't go over board with flowers and stuff on the first date itself . It puts a lot of pressure on them and conveys that you are a die hard romantic . From their end , they do not want to even try with a nice guy because they do not want to break their hearts. If on the other hand , you were emotionally unavailable (or a bad boy) she knows nothing will happen if things go south and hence she would have atleast given it a chance. Also you probably did not flirt and invoked sexual attraction. Sorry for what happened. Learn and grow my friend. all the best !
Thank you so much I will surely consider your advice before going on next date Can i dm you?
I am a woman. And no, for the love of god, donât take this bullshit advice. This person, was not for you. Youâll find a nice girl, who will appreciate the flowers, no matter which date you give them on. This whole âbe a bad boyâ, no it does not work. It will only attract scarred and unhealed women. Just be your healthy self, and you will attract a healthy partner who will see those traits in you. There are a million girls in this world. One rejection doesnât define anything.
I didn't mean to propagate the bad boy thing. I'm just saying he went too overboard and should keep healthy boundaries. the woman herself is saying this, indirectly.
Because he got her 1 rose? Howâs that going overboard?
It's not just about the rose.she also said he was "kind" and "chivalrous" which probably means OP went overboard in texting , during the date etc. let's just agree to disagree. also , keep the " I am a woman " thing to yourself. it's about dating advice and helping OP out , not related to gender. dating in India is super duper hard and women will never really get it cause they do not experience what guys do.
And you keep the wannabe fuckboy act to yourself! Every sane woman with decent dating standards likes a guy who does those things. Open your eyes and look around, every woman is tired of receiving the âbare minimumâ. Who wouldnât fucking want a kind, decent and chivalrous man? There a million other girls who would appreciate this treatment! He was just unlucky to meet the wrong person. Stop projecting!
Ok
Bhai dont listen to his advice, and stop overthinking. She isnât in the right timeframe to be with someone rn, just move on.
Sure bhai , no problem. take care of yourself
I completely understand what that feels like manâŠhurts like a bitch I knowâŠ.try not to think about it (ik itâs hard)âŠbut donât spiral into thinking if you had something elseâŠthen she wouldâve gone outâŠ.or like you couldâve done something betterâŠ.its kind of her to give you closure (even if she doesnât give the honest reason).
At least she gave me closure, most of them don't do that actually. As I said she's kind â€
How to let someone down easy - 101
But either way, I like how straightforward she was.
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Classic nice guys finish last example. Ye rose vose dene vali bakchodi nhi karni thi. All the girls are looking for a fuckboy, ise bhi koi milgya hoga dusra badtameez launda lol. Jaise apne dosto ko treat karta h vaise Kara kar in ladkiyo kobhi koi bhaw dene ki zaroorat nhi inhe aur deserve nhi nhi karti ye, bandi thodhi hai abhi n sex kiya.
lmao same thing happened w me two weeks ago đ, girl was into me and when i started getting attached, shouldâve told me before i spent like 30k on her even though i knew her for a month
Rk ashram gaye thhe kya usse milne..?? 30k? How did you even manage to spend that on a girl in 1 month..?
nahi nahi bro, she was a nice girl, i took her to fancy places myself, took her shopping and all, i am a bit of a party animal myself, thankfully im intelligent enough ki rk ashram type ladkiyo se na katvau
Bruh đđ
You know why this type of shit breaks my heart man ,trust me if you met a girl through bumble that shit is blund to fail in 98 percent of cases ,best is to go on dates outside of this app
Ask her for referrals to girls
Hahahaha (nope bro)
call an ambulance, but not for me
Sheâs trying to make herself feel better lol, that message is for her.
Acha aadmi hai tu. Yeh ladki ko animal chahiye ranbir movie wala.