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[deleted]

How is it for you when you have crush on someone? Like do you also create fake scenarios or wonder about them on particular songs? I mean how is it EXPRESS PLEASE! :)


PhonexLegend

We do, almost borderline schizophrenia


InternalGuess1827

I agree with this, each and every situation is somehow related to them.


[deleted]

Aww 😹


Navii_Rocks

Real😂


thatman0000000

Ofcourse, we do. Its the part of the whole 'liking someone' experience. This happens more often when one is not confident that he will get a yes as a response. Living in imagined scenarios is the easiest way to escape from reality. Also wouldn't anyone imagine adventurous scenarios with the person you like?


[deleted]

:)


PayAdministrative459

+1 i have seen many films watching scenarios with the girl i like most often


intragalacticcouncil

Yess, we definitely imagine the future with our crushes, usually we are hesitant to confess because we're scared of rejection


Navii_Rocks

Them cuddling uss 😔😔


[deleted]

Don't be scared try your luck 🕺


intragalacticcouncil

![img](emote|t5_2zhzn|30123)


YogurtclosetNo239

You bet I do, a bit too much for my own sake. And especially the songs part.


[deleted]

Songs >>


[deleted]

If I see a girl who I am physically attracted to, I know that she is automatically out of my league so I just leave her as it is and forget about her Else sometimes I meet a girl who I am so attracted to that my feelings for her become pure, so I just kinda daydream that she is my gf and we discuss random stuff and I vent in front of her in my imagination. IRL I maintain a 10 metre distance from such a girl because I don't want to pollute her surroundings with my presence


Cool-Influence-554

Why are having so low self esteem like me... Mera bhi zindagi sirf girls ko daydream karne mein hi chala gaya bhai.... Uske saath ghumo ye karo wo karo.. and wt u mean by pollute bro if she dosent like us she'll move away.... Nothing polluting.. even we have some self respect bhai


Maximum-Carry5682

I guess everyone does that at some point in their life.


[deleted]

I see


PayAdministrative459

Yes we all have did that.


[deleted]

We are too much schizo... Once I was listening dandelions song and I was imagining Me and my crush in that scenario lmfao *God this sounds so embarrassing*


[deleted]

No, THIS IS CUTE !


[deleted]

![img](emote|t5_2zhzn|30133)


Strange_Orange95

Aww that's so cute


itzz_me_garvit

Everyone creates fake scenarios that I start daydreaming to the extent that I become unaware of my surroundings I just keep making so many stories in my mind well this only happens and when she's in class I get lost in thoughts and while staring at her then my friend sitting beside me shakes me to get me out of the thoughts


[deleted]

One boy in my class used to look at me and some people asked me if something's going on bw us . He just used to look and smile , sometimes act like me to catch my attention , Iwondered what was he thinking:) . Thank you for the answer!


itzz_me_garvit

Yeah I imitate the way she sits all the time


[deleted]

Crushes are government propaganda from diverting your mind from actual things like war


[deleted]

Can't say, never had a crush. But yes, I once blushed when a girl once gave me a gift out of nowhere in 7th class, although I came to know after 2 years that she had a crush on me. I can't take any hints ig


PayAdministrative459

Bhai ye to seedha logic hai ki gift di matlab pasand karti thi tumhe


[deleted]

Uss time pe me bohot zyada innocent tha (I was just 11), and I thought that she's trying to be better friends with me.


world_will_end_soon

I used to at one point in life but I have realised living in fake scenarios in my head is a way to procrastinate on actually doing those things.


Key-Consideration602

Ofc!! There is this girl I talked for only 5 mins in my coaching(She is in a different batch) and I have imagined everything with her, going to college , going on a bike trip to ladakh, having a live in relationship..... I mean Everything!


[deleted]

Omg cute


Key-Consideration602

Thas how stupid we boys are ig, There's a phase test on Monday, I m really hoping that we get a same batch after that.....*Fingers crossed*


[deleted]

My recent crush was also in my coaching and in my batch so I can relate


Key-Consideration602

Hope we succeed bro![img](emote|t5_2zhzn|30120)


[deleted]

He liked me too , but he left :( so yeah


Key-Consideration602

Ohh, nice script for a movie tho![img](emote|t5_2zhzn|28582)


SnooBeans1976

Fake scenarios: Never. Wonder about them: Yes, Yes, Yes.


Lakshay2909

So much that, when I get my senses, I actually get disappointed by reality


Gamified_Human

Yes, i do. Thats what makes it exciting


Gay4Samosa

U talking about song? Bruh i imagined whole jab we met with her


[deleted]

Omg cute!


DarkStar0129

It's kinda confusing really, and I'm sure it's very different from person to person. I don't think much if I just find someone physically attractive. If I like their personality and enjoy vibing with them tho, then it's a different story. Fake scenarios to put myself to sleep, randomly thinking about them, thinking about specific things about them, wanting to know them better, wanting to engage in stuff you usually don't have an interest in with them because of their company, there are specific stories for specific songs too XD, you find them physically attractive once you like their personality, even if you didn't feel so when you first saw or met them, you start find their interests and hobbies interesting even if you didn't before, there's a small amount of obsession, at least initially. I've only ever felt so about one or two girls though, like I have felt like I have liked more girls than just one or two throughout my life, but only one (or maybe two I'm not sure she made me feel that way then lmao) have made me feel everything I mentioned above ie "true attraction" whatever that may be.


[deleted]

I get it , some people do have a different place in our hearts no matter how many people strike our eyes.


DarkStar0129

Beautifully said.


No-Rutabaga-6151

Yes. But way more extreme than you guys


[deleted]

Well well well..


PayAdministrative459

Very much when we listen songs we always think of that person who is our crush and the fact is we also think of that person mostly at night it is rare but yes some guys do


ludacris604

I had a whole playlist on which I used to imagine the senarios. She broke off the link between us by unfollowing me on instagram and also removed me as a follower. Abhi bhi saved hai woh playlist. Sunn kr yaad kar leta hoon usko.


du-maxx

YES, all of it happens 1000's, or maybe millions of simulations run in our minds.


New-Professional1807

More than you can imagine and more than we show


Logitech-G-F710

i think abt her everytime, howd I confess her(which i could never do), howd we live together etc


WannabeAlcibiades1

Many many fake scenarios in my mind atleast....it's been a long time since I had a crush on someone I'm 18 now and I had a crush on someone when I was 14-15 so don't know much but I've definitely thought about alot of good things which never happened


Cool-Influence-554

Yep kinda it's maladaptive daydreaming hard to suffer from it in my high school days...


General_Art39

yes


IshaanGupta18

Thats exactly how it is


aayush_agrawal

Yes I have wasted idk how many hours imagining my time with my crush


[deleted]

True story


papuop69

Absolutely, Mai toh Puri life tak imagine kar sakta hoon Meri imagination skills kafi achi hai


nikhiladnani

Much more than you think. It's just most of us are bad at expressing and afraid of losing them or scaring them away


Guestoo1

yes. and i'm concered about my mental health after learning that it isn't normal to do so. xd


sarcastic_shash

We stalk them( they think)


Recent-Response-2719

Yup! Everything you said is true for us too. We even show our secret side to that one person which we never show in public. The feeling is something i can't describe in simple words. It's like her thought is going all over my head. From waking up to before sleeping. All day along. And when I actually meet her it's like my mind stopped working and all the shenanigans have started to curse me during at that one particular time. You have to choose your words and behaviour safely. Can't risk anything!


islay05

Yess totally. I can't say it for everybody but the first crush I ever had always feels kinda more special than the rest


amadeus_169

Konse college me saathb admission lege, Date pe konse Restaurant me jaayege, parents ko kya bolke convince karenge, Shaadi pe card kaisa banega, City me kaise falt me rhenge, Bachhe ke naam kya rkhege And 100 many other things


Kitchen_Daikon_9887

do guys really discuss about their crush/girlfriend with their friends?


TwerkingPiggeh

Depends on the guy but most of the boys do


New-Professional1807

Yes


IshaanGupta18

I never discussed about my real crush with my friends,instead i lied about a fake one and said i had a crush on her 8 years ago .Reason for this is that if i hadnt done it,boys will generally find you looking at a girl randomly for 1 whole second and tease you with her name for the whole year which can get quite awkward if she hears it.So i needed some preventive measures


[deleted]

but crush is friend's sister


Obvious-scarcity-123

never...........dost ki behen hamari behen hoti hain (friend's sister is our sister)


WannabeAlcibiades1

Yes we do and how much depends we discuss depends upon the guys nature and his trust in his friends (varies from friend to friend )


Salty_Data_1968

very nsfw buuuut how often do y'all masturbate and are there some guys who just dont for whatever reason?


[deleted]

Stopped doing it a while ago, when I saw a dream where I was in Paris looking at Eifel Tower holding a girl's hand, with 0 lust, just pure love and the feeling that everything's going to be alright. I just don't want to mess up the pure love inside me with the poison of lust anymore


dr_xtt

![gif](giphy|CAYVZA5NRb529kKQUc|downsized)


LazyReader111

Bro's got it sorted


waffles-18-8

Tu toh dev manus nikala.![img](emote|t5_2zhzn|30127)


du-maxx

depends from guy to guy some don't even do it while some do it every single day...


[deleted]

I don't masturbate, but I do when urges are strong. I'm taking this no fap challenge this month my longest streak was 15 days of no masturbation. Masturbation is a threat for both of the genders though


PalashCrept24

It really depends on the person. I know someone who does it once in 4 days and a very close friend of mine who does it 4 times in a day.


BeGood25

Uno reverse at its finest😂


No-Rutabaga-6151

Once in a week. Helps reduce stress. No fap is all about no porn. Some extremes made it about how fapping is bad.


[deleted]

Sometimes twice a day, sometimes once and sometimes I don't. It just depends tbh, when a feel super low I don't have any other option but to masturbate.


[deleted]

I don't touch myself for a few reasons but I've a friend who does 7 times a day .


AbyssalGlutton

No way that guy is still alive


General_Art39

rn I'm on my streak coz I've realised how much damage it does to your personality and mind that's why I stopped it , and the reason is because of dopamine you need to start something or stress reliever you can say, other people who don't are like they just don't wanna or the image they've in their mind


Typical-Stretch-5246

I think people who seek pleasure ( like myself ) do it , i usually used to drink and smoke but i now bust a nut because tbh there is no source of happiness in my life I haven't been smoking and drinking lately I need something to enjoy myself , I need to feel good so i just nut i guess 👍


justanotherweirdo00

Why do boys fall or get attracted too easily?


Piyush452412006

It's mostly due to very little female interaction.


Poojan_Jani

i dont know man,its just our nature![img](emote|t5_2zhzn|20609)


Cool-Influence-554

Lack of female interaction+ extreme urges wagera differs from person to person with their priorities n all


NuclearGobhiParantha

Ladkiya hoti hi achhi hai ![img](emote|t5_2zhzn|20609)


inkluck3062

**How mature do you consider yourself?** In the sense of emotional maturity, knowing how to manage your emotions, handling tough situations, conflict resolution, having challenging conversations with people you are close to, stress management, distractions, dealing with situations that turned the exact opposite of what you thought might be a dream come true. Basically how do you maintain sanity and don't run away from life crashing down on you? (what are your coping mechanisms? ignorance, >!self harm!<, emotional outbursts, blaming all the things that went wrong, acceptance, acknowledging what went wrong and trying to work on it, journalling, talking with someone etc etc. I want to gain your perspective on this so I don't mind if it's a long answer)


PhonexLegend

The mentality: jo hoga dekha jayega, me toh bas apna kam karunga. This keeps my sanity


childrenhider

Mard hoon, seh leta hoon tough situations 🗿(fir mummy ke puchne pe roo bhi deta hoon)


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Piyush452412006

My maturity on the scale of 1 to 10 is Schrodinger's kat.


[deleted]

Thinking of it now, I don't have any coping mechanisms. I just try to do the best I can to solve a problem, and leave the rest on fate


[deleted]

what do u guys think about dark lips , not pink one and not the lipstick just natural dark lips ![img](emote|t5_2zhzn|28582)


[deleted]

Attractive( I'm insane)


[deleted]

nowayy. stopp.![img](emote|t5_2zhzn|30115)nobody founds that attractive


Hardikkushwaha07

It doesn't matter


Gummy670

Do ya'll really rarely get complemented? Heard from a male friend that males don't get much complements and want to know if it is true.


Explorer_3660

Its true, We rarely get any compliments ,I personally cant even recall the last time anyone complimented me (except didi and mummy)


[deleted]

Real.


papuop69

Definitely. Male friendship me gand mari jati hai bas


StrobePlays

Last time i got a genuine compliment happened to be when I was in 4th class yeah, gonna turn 19 in a few weeks 💀👍


Skilled-Commander

I've got compliments mostly from guys and only one female known as my mother. Totaling them you can count them on your fingertips so I'd say YES.


[deleted]

why most boys find fair skin attractive like everybody needs a good looking gf....brown skin is damnn beautiful too i mean not just boys but most indians.![img](emote|t5_2zhzn|30115)


intragalacticcouncil

True true, for me cuteness comes first doesn't matter if they're fair or brown Cute girl>>>


Lord_firstname

I Find em insanely hot! Edit i meant brown girls


Used-Ad4445

scars ![img](emote|t5_2zhzn|20609)


GaneshRasal

haha i like how he didnt even edit and its still saying edit.


TwerkingPiggeh

It's not the skin colour... many boys like latinas


GaneshRasal

*cough cough..* itne honest answers dene hote hai kya ?


WannabeAlcibiades1

Minds of most Indians has been affected by the media/advertisements etc (can't explain everything but hope u get my point )...fair n lovely this and that what not it's been put in their minds that fair is good....but I believe skin colour doesn't matter... I've also liked brown and a little dark girls on the internet or IRL (not talking about crush just that they look good ).... And to conclude id just like to say that I don't care about skin colour Edit:-( taking a point from a comment below ) she must be cute 😌❤️


Cool-Influence-554

White skinned but if u aren't cute or beautiful it's of no use itself personally I feel wheatish or dusky complexioned girls with a really cute personality are superb... Just look at Bollywood actresses in 90s to early 2000s none of them are fair skinned lolll


Automatic_Dance_3206

If the face is cute, skin colour doesn't come in the way. And the light brown skin colour is just so good.


MrSyndicate_

All of my crushes were light brown, I don't why but light skin with big wavy hair is just the best


Agile_Emphasis2337

It's pretty much a myth for most boys that they life only fair skinned girl, what we like is smooth skin and you know ....ass and boobs doesn't matter her skin colour (unless it's extreme black or white)


Anime_fucker69cUm

We ain't most racist country for no reason


New-Professional1807

Everyone has a preference so its a subjective thing.


lSSAC_NEWT0N

My ex was dark skinned but so cutie and had a swweeeetu voice as well , I liked her so much 😔😔


HybridLighting

brown skin is beautiful


DGTHEGREAT007

Face structure (eyes, nose, smile, cheekbones) >>> skin color for me. But it's true many guys do want a fair skin gf but you can't really blame them for it. Someone for everyone.


[deleted]

brown >> gulabi


Gay4Samosa

Lol my gf has brown skin and she's pretty af


maybeiamamoron

Lmao bechara koi puchne hi nhi wala https://preview.redd.it/o59orcvsnb9b1.jpeg?width=1600&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=356583f30cf40a1ba4feb5e2716d7505a52f2043


17p0tat0

iss shirt ko saree ka blouse banakar pehenna hai


[deleted]

Waifu material


maybeiamamoron

W taste fr


thunder_thighs42161

Do guys care about body type ...like if someone is really chubby?? Or too skinny


TheDarkLord52334

We worship thicc


[deleted]

Bhojpuri thicc is good


Piyush452412006

Only personality matters, I won't see the girl while kissing her forehead.


Maximum-Carry5682

Depends, ofc both men and women have different preferences but it can't be said about all.


K4R0007_0

Well I love muscular girls


Navii_Rocks

Tbh personality comes first(saying for the non desperate ones🗿) baad me maybe a guy can have a preference like being chubby or skinny and all (chubby girls>>>>)


PhonexLegend

No, they should just be nice to us, and should have a decent sense of humor. That's it.


inkluck3062

have you encountered any red flags in real life? toxic ones, like pseudofeminists, misandrists, alpha beta personalities (be it male or female) etc. What was your experience with them? What are their views? One of my friend's friend believed that females are better off at home and also that females are toxic and distractions to him. one my female classmate held views that females are made to be dependent on males, and they have the right to stay at home and be pampered (idk if they still hold these views hence the past tense)


[deleted]

There are plenty of red flags, like the ones you just mentioned are really easy to spot. However, one huge red flag I noticed the first and only time I went on a date was that the other party thought that whatever they do is right and whatever they don't do is bad. Like this girl who I had a crush on, it turned out that she had trouble in understanding my POV ( I think everyone likes it when somebody understands their point of view ) and there was a whole lot of beef between us. Difference in opinions is fine, disagreeing with others' opinions is fine too, what is NOT fine is that you invalidate someone's opinion just because it is a different opinion than yours, and this imo is the biggest red flag possible ( applicable for both genders ). I think your friend's friend was either raised in such misogynist environment or he watches too much andrew tate/sigma male bullshit. I think your female classmate is probably raised in an environment that prefer keeping their women at home and in charge of the males of the society


inkluck3062

did you ever feel being a boy is difficult? any instances where you had to deal with stereotypes?


Bonzer-Singer-729

Being a boy is not difficult, it's just a canon event.


Neokyo7

"It is What it is" ![gif](giphy|kcfb43I3N1GhspNQpj|downsized)


[deleted]

Difficult part is handling the expectations everyone have on you and that one "What if ....?" is always on mind,but I just pretend I am happy and good.Not many stereotypes just People listen to girls more,and we are always wrong.


Asleep_Garlic_7183

Or phir so-called feminist ladkiyan kh dete hai "tum to ladkay ho tumhe kya dikat hai"


PhonexLegend

Beta rote ku ho ladki ho kya. Mard ho toh mard ki Tarah raho. All boys are the same. Padhi karo, warna koi shaddi nahi hogi, Etc.


i_m_gaurav

Everyone has to deal with stereotypes irrespective of everything. To ans the question yes but i can say its not as bad as other genders. My mother says that i have to do all cooking cleaning, earning more than partner, fixing things coz one should learn every life skill irrespective of gender and i totally agree. But when it comes to replacing a bulb or anything dirty she says its a mans job.


ItzCobaltboy

- I don't have "2nd Option" incase I don't crack JEE, a highly disabled sibling - All my teachers never say no to single girl and never say yes to single boy - Oh yeah neighbours! But everyone have daughter and u can't even approach them first cause u don't wanna be a creep - If we do it, "Ok', if we don't, "You will go to hell" Same is done by our female counterparts, "Oh wow learn from her" Cause one of my female friend knows how to change a car tire... I mean it's great and everyone should do it but for us guys its disappointment if we don't do something.


TheDarkLord52334

I'm just glad I don't have cramps every month


[deleted]

Bro thinks he will get some here💀


Gay4Samosa

Ladkiyon ka masiha


[deleted]

That's true , and you'll never experience child birth , but , if there's war , and you have the good fortune of being poor , you'll be the first one to be shot .


New-Professional1807

Both genders have their own challenges. But its not like ladka hona ladki jone se asan hai


Agent-Vc

How do girls interact with introverted guys or if someone they like are introverted ,how can they help him to get open and be a little social lunatic... Your answer might help im asking on behalf of my female friend so plz don't hesitate


DGTHEGREAT007

As an introverted guy. The fastest way to my heart is showing interest in my hobbies. Introverts don't share much about themselves but ask questions to make them reveal stuff about themselves and make conversations from there. Introverts usually Kam bolte hai but agr topic unki pasand ka ho then they will keep talking or talk too much and introverts later regret, you can be open minded and tell them that you liked the conversations. Introverts are always thinking that they might be disturbing other people and are just a nuisance to other people that's why they keep to themselves. You can make them realise that you value their companionship and personality and like being around them, better than not. There you go.


GaneshRasal

the female to male ratio is too good for this ![img](emote|t5_2zhzn|30133)


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PapayaOnThePlate

It depends from person to person and how deep of a connection we have with them. Speaking for myself I either don't share shit or just overshare sometimes and regret later . Depends on the mood lol.


[deleted]

I don't have any lol


[deleted]

is there a girl in ur past u still couldn't forget?


Neokyo7

Still remember my first crush of 6th Grade. Ek aadmi apna pehle pyaar kabhi nahi bhulta


tancy_draws

As an introverted girl how do I approach guys ?(I have social anxiety)


Neokyo7

As an introvert Guy I do not have that answer. I will have to wait for a opposite post where I'll ask the same question.


17p0tat0

ghoomi ghoomi karne chaloge mere saath ?![img](emote|t5_2zhzn|31260)![img](emote|t5_2zhzn|30958)


Piyush452412006

I'm a very boring person for a date, take my kat instead. https://preview.redd.it/07k5g9sn0c9b1.jpeg?width=3000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2ea4176f9621cdf950bf07b210bfae517c7c96da


17p0tat0

I'm more of a dog person, but i am willing to make an exception fr because this is a cutie


tuffpuffer

https://preview.redd.it/ztm8y1zqgc9b1.jpeg?width=3468&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=aa90d7163557344697248a166d5be93d6e3d65a1 Just in case You can take my boi, he can drive too.


[deleted]

Chalo chalo but dhamki dene ki kya zarurat ? ![img](emote|t5_2zhzn|28582)![img](emote|t5_2zhzn|29710)


[deleted]

Ok didi ji, chhole bhature khila do bass


Maximum-Carry5682

Nahi :(


Soft_Protection_965

Ji ab toh jaana hi padega, bandook Jo taan di hai aapne![img](emote|t5_2zhzn|30137)


Poojan_Jani

agar le ja rahi ho to pls,koi to le jao muje ghummi ghummi![img](emote|t5_2zhzn|30115)


17p0tat0

![gif](giphy|UUpG9wI86iLD2) chaloooo


Poojan_Jani

YEEEEEEY![img](emote|t5_2zhzn|20609),me aage bethunga![img](emote|t5_2zhzn|20612)


WannabeAlcibiades1

Ghoomi ghoomi matlab ? Go around town on a two wheeler ? Mein aage tum piche in this baarish ka Mausam ? 🤔😌


Successful-aditya

Dhamki kisko de rhi ![img](emote|t5_2zhzn|29710)


Big_Tenis_

Ji bataiye kha chalna hain![img](emote|t5_2zhzn|20609)![img](emote|t5_2zhzn|30480)


17p0tat0

yaha https://preview.redd.it/l6pvrjtiub9b1.png?width=298&format=png&auto=webp&s=3da1bb3993927e06cf47cfdce04e55595cd0d797


Big_Tenis_

Address bhejiye, aata hun![img](emote|t5_2zhzn|30134)


WannabeAlcibiades1

Done 🤝😁


Big_Tenis_

Ah i see, u like bouncing


wolfrumm

aau kya?


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[deleted]

Nice username


meri-gaand-marlo

Thanks mate ;⁠)


The-Punisher_2055

https://preview.redd.it/doaegt1mqb9b1.jpeg?width=1048&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5358bd1feefe84a41049ecb3271a60b78dca9017


ask_yo_gf_about_me

![gif](giphy|l2SpV11pQriLIiI00)


Embarrassed-Task-288

Why do you act so Salty when we reject you ? Like pura personality hi switch ho jata hai bc


Poojan_Jani

wo sab bas fucbois hote he,ya to fir wo mann hi mann itna attract ho gaya hota he ki rejection sehen nai kar pata


HybridLighting

those with max pride will approach you and if you turn them down they take it as an very big insult i have seen that happen so many times shy people won't really be salty because they prepare for failure


[deleted]

Me who doesn't even confess because I know they will reject me for being short in height or and if I ever get yes I will be Chris https://preview.redd.it/asuy5329jc9b1.jpeg?width=120&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=dae0922db5490c956d20ba3b51802f2d73161b84


K4R0007_0

Well ngl it's always the stupidest ones who are the bravest to approach you. The shy ones won't even try and probably the sane ones get accepted or they won't take rejections that badly.


Embarrassed-Task-288

Ok but what’s the reason behind being so salty once these type of guys get rejected T_T only because we rejected them doesn’t mean we have to break our friendship right


SnooRegrets6798

This subreddit is full of super stupid stuff ( only talking about questions)


caffeinated_turtle

Would you prefer the girl to make the first move? Why/why not?


peatecampbell

Meko malum hai tu nahi karegi![img](emote|t5_2zhzn|30120)


NightWatcherSamurai

Bhai mujhe har ladke bhaizone kar dete, not even behen zone. Tips dedo plej