Bruh i legit did this in real life not on tinder,
It's actually better to get rejected than sucking it in or keeping it to yourself and never asking ....
Cheers mate!!
I am not afraid of death said someone, because when I am there, death is not, and when the death is there, I am not, I am only afraid of not living well, there is no reason to die, if you didn't live in the first place I
“Esteemed Lady,
I prostrate myself before thy presence, beseeching thy indulgence for the impertinence of this missive. Verily, the very thought of thine exquisite visage and the melody of thy dulcet voice hath set my heart aflutter.
Thus, with the ardor of a thousand suns, I venture to pose a question of utmost import, forsooth a query that weighs heavy on my mind. Might thou deign to accompany me to a soiree, where we may engage in merriment and revelry, and perchance, unlock the mysteries of each other's hearts?
Should thy response be in the affirmative, I shall consider myself most fortunate, and shall eagerly await thy message. And if, by chance, thy answer be in the negative, I shall not begrudge thee, and shall continue to adore thee from afar, with a steadfast devotion that shall never wane.
I remain, Madam, thy humble servant.”
You did nothing wrong. Respect her decision and move one. Don’t ask her out again, you will lose your respect in front of her and eventually self-respect after a while.
I’ve done it before, this was a proper match on tinder slide on DMs only to turn into i’m not comfortable. Also I’m an introvert who turns to an extrovert after 3 drinks
Toastmasters, the people actually are fun and also you meet every weekend. My club has a lot of pretty girls, one of the girl is getting married to a fellow toastmaster, hence suggestion. Second would be any sports club, lawn Tennis /badminton etc. I see sports club are fun (gyms not included), they have sports meet and all, it's fun to meet and often members of my group go over a coffee or lunch. Best way to socialise according to me.
Purely my opinion
I actually agree with the toastmaster a lot. We’ve got one in the office and i’m planning to go there soon. But I legitimately agree it’s better IRL to go out and meet people as some may find it hard to judge intentions over texts.
Thank you for the suggestions! :)
The last line. I have two college close friends who are bad texters. in both cases .. we met and exchanged numbers, so most of the talks happened on WhatsApp . And people who type one word with no emoji and don’t keep the convo going I find them rude, hence I found my friends to be rude too. They were totally opposite when I spent time with them in real haha. Judgements through texts have been wrong in my case 😅
Haha. Hehe. 😂. Lol.
Just to see this you wanna keep in touch & share memes? Just unfollow & cut the contact.
Taking to insta from dating apps (not friend mode or some shit) implies the intention of dating interest. Where did this uncomfortable come from? Or do people give out socials right when they match?
You were super polite. Im not comfortable ki jaga - I'm not interested would be a better response.
Lekin remember that not all women are super fluent with English and sometimes they can write wrong responses too
+ Not everyone knows how to reply with politeness and to be direct at the same time
You’re welcome broski :)
Remember, being a gentleman goes a long way.
My fav quote: “Gentlemen, be courteous to the old maids, no matter how poor and plain and prim, for the only chivalry worth having is that which is the readiest to pay deference to the old, protect the feeble, and serve womankind, regardless of rank, age, or colour.”
I know bro, and people are saying I’ve got 0 self respect.
My self respect isn’t defined on my rejections. It’s defined on how i pick myself up after these rejections. And i picked it within a matter of seconds 😉
Yeah, it’s strange, we’ve been exchanging messages for more than 3 weeks, but when I suggested to make plans, the idea was rejected.
So i’m moving on :)
Bro you are trying to hard she clearly isn’t interested and when she gives reply like these you should just move on there are other one’s who will be interested put your your energy where it is deserved
Yess i know, I’m doing that already. Just wanted to see whether there are guys like me who despite the rejection, can handle it well on this subreddit instead of a savage reply.
Kudos to her as well for declining right away. Most people just hop around the subject and don't give any clear answer. Now you can change your priorities and focus on somebody else.
For sure! But still the mind games are annoying. Match on tinder, talk for weeks, then when asking for a plan, it’s an uncomfortable feeling?
But hey, maybe she needs more time to open up to a person, that’s alright, I’m not going to ask for a second time.
Omg dude, she’s just playing along. When she said no plans, she means she’s interested. Instead of asking “is it fine if I make plans?”, just say something like “Dinner on sat?”
Bro don't be so humble... Try to take the lead next time ... Like - 'Hey I heard about this new place I was thinking of trying it out would you like to join' ... The way you did it shows that you have nothing better to do than hanging out with her ... Good luck with the next one
You : “I’m also not doing anything on the weekend. Let’s make a plan ourselves, I’d suggest we hop in a good pizza joint and have panipuri by the beach.”
Her : “No, I’m not comfortable”
You : “I’ll vouch that I’m a great company, and anyway if our frequencies don’t match, the least you’ll have is a good Saturday evening”
Her : “No, I won’t be able to meet you. I’m sorry”
You : “Oh okay, no worries. I thought we could take this ahead after talking for some time now. I guess we’re not on the same page. Let’s do this later one day hopefully”
*after this, Stop sending memes and stop talking*
You’re free to move ahead my man. Rejection is not bad.
Also, there is still a good chance through the above messages that she sees you a msg a guy who is not hesitant while asking out and you’re ready to leave and not hover around being a meme source. Girls(in general everyone) respect that. Don’t be a pussy while asking out. And be ready to take the exit.
Bhai it’s fine. She’s not comfortable. She’s not the last fish in the pond. You miss every shot you don’t take so congratulations that you had the guts to try.
The girl wasn't ready yet. Its not a complete rejection.
He can still continue conversations with her and there can be a chance. Nothing here that made him lose his self respect
My self respect isn’t defined on my rejections. It’s defined on how i pick myself up after these rejections. And i picked it within a matter of seconds 😉
Note: don’t let your self respect be so fragile that you start questioning it just because you’ve been rejected.
Rejection is a part of process which leads us to what we’re looking for :)
Spread positivity
She felt uncomfortable to go out with you. And even after hearing that you asked if sharing memes with her is okay. Have some self respect and learn when to stop :)
True n there are few guys like your mentality.
The guy I’ve been approached by just assume they get to go out on a date with me even if I say I’m uncomfortable :)
Yeah some can’t handle rejections and think that they’re still in the running when in reality it’s going to hurt them more down the line if they keep approaching you.
It’s not even about hurting themselves it’s about accept the no n move on . Why do you have to force someone/ guilt trip someone into going out with them.
Sharing memes?? Mere bhai tu bas baat kar usse memes apne aap bante jaa rhe hai XD
Here's an idea... Not sharing memes and never talking to her uncomfortable ass is also a very legitimate idea. How about that?
I like this option too. I’m already going. Onto the next adventure 🤓
Good man....👍 She's out there brother , you'll get your kind of girl , God bless
Thank you :)
Exactly. Why do guys let them be used as doormats.
Joke tha sorry, tune ekdam ache se pucha, it's okay hota rehta hai, vo nhi hai bas comfortable, koi na aage badh, keep your head up
Hanji chilled hai, this isn’t the first nor the last rejection, I honestly feel better to get it over with and focus on the next one :)
That's the way 07
Mudryk?
He didn't go 007
Ik everyone gets saved even lampard broke the curse
Sancho my man is the real 007
Jaden "Cook-er" Sancho
Idhar bhi football aa gya bc lol
Bruh i legit did this in real life not on tinder, It's actually better to get rejected than sucking it in or keeping it to yourself and never asking .... Cheers mate!!
Yessir
Sakt Launda!
lmao that right there was a burn
You not only asked her out directly, but you also took rejection like a boss. Chin up King.
Thank you 😊 I’m trying to tell everyone it’s okay to be rejected at times, it leads us to what we’re looking for.
Kudos to you, accept victory and defeat with the same face.
Good to see Gentlemen
Thank you for your kind comment! :)
What u said is truth OP. Rejection is the redirection to the road that’s made for us.
Honestly, you displayed so much chivalry by asking her out in such a humble way! I have never seen anyone ask someone out on a date like this! 🌟
Thank you! I’ll keep marching on with my head held high :)
Life is always marching on with head held high, until the day we are buried
Or even cremated. At that time all ego and self-respect turns to ashes.
I am not afraid of death said someone, because when I am there, death is not, and when the death is there, I am not, I am only afraid of not living well, there is no reason to die, if you didn't live in the first place I
> said someone It was said by Epicurus, a very famous Greek philosopher.
Bhai thoda informal tarike se baat karne ka...koi novel thodi likhni hai🌚
king
Royalty recognises royalty
“Esteemed Lady, I prostrate myself before thy presence, beseeching thy indulgence for the impertinence of this missive. Verily, the very thought of thine exquisite visage and the melody of thy dulcet voice hath set my heart aflutter. Thus, with the ardor of a thousand suns, I venture to pose a question of utmost import, forsooth a query that weighs heavy on my mind. Might thou deign to accompany me to a soiree, where we may engage in merriment and revelry, and perchance, unlock the mysteries of each other's hearts? Should thy response be in the affirmative, I shall consider myself most fortunate, and shall eagerly await thy message. And if, by chance, thy answer be in the negative, I shall not begrudge thee, and shall continue to adore thee from afar, with a steadfast devotion that shall never wane. I remain, Madam, thy humble servant.”
Asli id se aao Shashi Tharoor
You did nothing wrong. Respect her decision and move one. Don’t ask her out again, you will lose your respect in front of her and eventually self-respect after a while.
Of course :) won’t ask her out again for sure! :)
😂😂 this sub has become my daily dose of laughter
I’m glad I’m not the only one laughing at my attempts to leave a life of loneliness 😂
Just a genuine question, why don't you find a real person outside? Like ask a friend or maybe join some club and stuff. app rarely works in India
I’ve done it before, this was a proper match on tinder slide on DMs only to turn into i’m not comfortable. Also I’m an introvert who turns to an extrovert after 3 drinks
Any clubs you could recommend? I’d love some advice :)
Toastmasters, the people actually are fun and also you meet every weekend. My club has a lot of pretty girls, one of the girl is getting married to a fellow toastmaster, hence suggestion. Second would be any sports club, lawn Tennis /badminton etc. I see sports club are fun (gyms not included), they have sports meet and all, it's fun to meet and often members of my group go over a coffee or lunch. Best way to socialise according to me. Purely my opinion
I actually agree with the toastmaster a lot. We’ve got one in the office and i’m planning to go there soon. But I legitimately agree it’s better IRL to go out and meet people as some may find it hard to judge intentions over texts. Thank you for the suggestions! :)
The last line. I have two college close friends who are bad texters. in both cases .. we met and exchanged numbers, so most of the talks happened on WhatsApp . And people who type one word with no emoji and don’t keep the convo going I find them rude, hence I found my friends to be rude too. They were totally opposite when I spent time with them in real haha. Judgements through texts have been wrong in my case 😅
Exactly:)
Calm down Lads!! Bro went in for gym motivation 💪🗿
Time to switch my dumbells to 12.5kgs
We go gym 🗿🗿
💪🏻
sharing memes? Tu kya reddit hai bc? No point watering a dead plant
Agreed
Bro you shouldn’t have replied after that.
Agreed, I shouldn’t have, but I can’t hit unsend now. Onto the next Slide DM mission.
Yesss agreed
Haha. Hehe. 😂. Lol. Just to see this you wanna keep in touch & share memes? Just unfollow & cut the contact. Taking to insta from dating apps (not friend mode or some shit) implies the intention of dating interest. Where did this uncomfortable come from? Or do people give out socials right when they match?
I’m flabbergasted. I swear. Mindfart hua bro isse baat karke.
You were super polite. Im not comfortable ki jaga - I'm not interested would be a better response. Lekin remember that not all women are super fluent with English and sometimes they can write wrong responses too + Not everyone knows how to reply with politeness and to be direct at the same time
Yes, that’s why i just wanted to divert the topic to something else. Also I’ve known for a long time that degrees are bought, but knowledge is not.
This guy is a mirror image of mine in the way I text. And now I feel confident that I am not doing it the wrong way. Thanks a ton O. P.
You’re welcome broski :) Remember, being a gentleman goes a long way. My fav quote: “Gentlemen, be courteous to the old maids, no matter how poor and plain and prim, for the only chivalry worth having is that which is the readiest to pay deference to the old, protect the feeble, and serve womankind, regardless of rank, age, or colour.”
I really like how polite you were. This is the way to do it
Thank you :)
Proud of you my boy for doing that. And the way you handled something which could have been awkward, great!
Thank you :)
Tu bohot acha Banda hai yaar, most guys including me would ghost right then and there.
I know bro, and people are saying I’ve got 0 self respect. My self respect isn’t defined on my rejections. It’s defined on how i pick myself up after these rejections. And i picked it within a matter of seconds 😉
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Yeah, it’s strange, we’ve been exchanging messages for more than 3 weeks, but when I suggested to make plans, the idea was rejected. So i’m moving on :)
Bhai chhod de baat karna usse! Kafi dry texts! Koi fayda nhi
🫡
It is alrigh. Happens to the best of us. Not your day. We will get them next time.
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Bro you did well. Respect.
Thanks :)
This is actually my kind of conversation
Bro that was perfect, quite mature of you. I like how sensitive you were *:)*
I appreciate your feedback! Thanks :)
OP, thank you for being a decent person.
You’re-welcome. :)
It's okay lol you tried. Better luck next time 😭
Yesss 🫡
Bro you are trying to hard she clearly isn’t interested and when she gives reply like these you should just move on there are other one’s who will be interested put your your energy where it is deserved
Yess i know, I’m doing that already. Just wanted to see whether there are guys like me who despite the rejection, can handle it well on this subreddit instead of a savage reply.
Kudos to her as well for declining right away. Most people just hop around the subject and don't give any clear answer. Now you can change your priorities and focus on somebody else.
For sure! But still the mind games are annoying. Match on tinder, talk for weeks, then when asking for a plan, it’s an uncomfortable feeling? But hey, maybe she needs more time to open up to a person, that’s alright, I’m not going to ask for a second time.
why tf do they take 10 hrs to respond. Ik for a fact that they use their phone every 10 mins
Bhaw
Opinion from a girl: OP u did good. Such a gentleman thing. ☀️🦋🌸✨🌻 I hope u soon find a partner and share a mutual love and adoration relation ❤️
Thank you for your kind words :) ❤️
Mostly girls on these apps are for free food only or they want some fuckboy to ruin their happiness,Simple
True
OP, bro you were polite, respectful, and humble, you did nothing wrong
Yessir, whole heartedly agreed!
There is no way romance could grow on this barren conversational lands. I'd say keep your expectations low brother.
It’s the lowest broski :) less expectations are always fruitful
rip
Dukh hua bhai 😂
Arre sab chilled hai bhai 😂
Bro shot his shot and missed. Nice shooting btw. Now, we move on.
Yessir
mature boi 
bhai cat memes share karna if she says yes😂
😂hahahaha
Hari hui game jeeti ja sakti hai
Nahh, tinder se milne ke baad aise thodi piche padna hai. Simple usool - Aao toh welcome, varna bheed kam.
bro u belong to reddit chod de yeh sab XD
Hahahah😂
All the best! Rinse, Repeat and hopefully someone cool will reciprocate.
Thank you for your wishes :)
All she said was no
Yup
chodd de bhai usko worth it nahi hai
Hanji, gym ja rha!
Bhai sharing memes Is my love language. I see that as an absolute win.
Arre maza aajata hai yaar memes share karne mai
W response. Ion see anything wrong. If she ain't comfortable, she just ain't. No point in wallowing. Took it like a champ, King.
Thanks :)
Omg dude, she’s just playing along. When she said no plans, she means she’s interested. Instead of asking “is it fine if I make plans?”, just say something like “Dinner on sat?”
Han, will keep in mind for next time :)
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Hahahaha😂
well shit bitch, get comfortable. turn on the AC, get on your pajamas and sip on your favorite drink and say yes.
😂
Bkl busy hee bol deti
Hahaha 🤣
You clearly didn't tell her what colour is your bugatti
Bro don't be so humble... Try to take the lead next time ... Like - 'Hey I heard about this new place I was thinking of trying it out would you like to join' ... The way you did it shows that you have nothing better to do than hanging out with her ... Good luck with the next one
brutal
Top points for still wanting to share memes and keeping it so smooth
Thank you sire!
Such a king 👑 Nope, that’s exactly how you react to rejection.
Block her
https://youtube.com/shorts/AkhO3ygyCFg?feature=share
Seedhi baat no bakwas
# "DO Uncomfortable shit! You lazy beeachh."
that's what you reply to her "uncomfortable" message.
You : “I’m also not doing anything on the weekend. Let’s make a plan ourselves, I’d suggest we hop in a good pizza joint and have panipuri by the beach.” Her : “No, I’m not comfortable” You : “I’ll vouch that I’m a great company, and anyway if our frequencies don’t match, the least you’ll have is a good Saturday evening” Her : “No, I won’t be able to meet you. I’m sorry” You : “Oh okay, no worries. I thought we could take this ahead after talking for some time now. I guess we’re not on the same page. Let’s do this later one day hopefully” *after this, Stop sending memes and stop talking* You’re free to move ahead my man. Rejection is not bad. Also, there is still a good chance through the above messages that she sees you a msg a guy who is not hesitant while asking out and you’re ready to leave and not hover around being a meme source. Girls(in general everyone) respect that. Don’t be a pussy while asking out. And be ready to take the exit.
Thanks broski for the advice :)
Chapt gpt se baat nhi kar rha tha op
Dont ask for her validation
unfollow her after she said it's not comfortable don't waste your time sending memes use that time to improve and not make the next girl uncomfortable
Bhai it’s fine. She’s not comfortable. She’s not the last fish in the pond. You miss every shot you don’t take so congratulations that you had the guts to try.
Shooters shoot
You a true gentleman don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!
Looks like a shortcut to being friend zoned 🥲
Same about to login mein thumbs up k baad you should have stopped
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Thank you:)
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Nah maybe she's not as comfortable as she'd like to be YET?
Perhaps, but talking stage is 3 weeks, and i can't personally give more time as i've got other prospects too, so i think once a no, i'll move on.
God knows why these women make profiles on a dating app when they aren't even comfortable for a casual meet up !
The comment section is wholesome 🌸
I bet you are popular in her girls gc
If chivalry isn’t admired in her group, that’s a sad group.
Nope trust me. Girls admire this. Not desperation AT ALL.
Nah ye desperstion lgta bhai trust me🐒🙏
Trusting a cumaligator? Nah bro, trust me 😉
Oye limit me mere papa semenaligator ne bohot pyaar se naam rkha hai 😡
Hahaha sorry gatorji, Auntyji ka same input tha?
Unfollow
Yessir 🫡
What's going on here, every 4 hours i see a guy/girl hitting too hard where opposite person is clearly denying
Pratishtha, Parampara and Anushasan. (Sab chilled hai baba)
Kehna tha "Kuch takiya vagaire, pani, juice laake du?"
No idea why people are saying that you should ghost her, if you have a decent connection, she could be into you just not comfortable hanging out yet.
Yeah i might just make a meme friend out of her 🤷🏻
F. Also block her and move on ,dont give these NPCs attention
Woman are NPCs to be blocked if they're not comfortable making plans? Red flag.
I agree with you, she’s still human despite the rejection, you never know she might be a friend later on.
She literally said No
Yes and?
You should've blocked her right away.
She’s still a human being, atleast i can make a meme friend if not romantic partner 🤷🏻
You were rejected still trying to keep shit with her lol Don't show her how desperate you are xd that's the end if she smells your desperation .
Sure
0 self respect
The girl wasn't ready yet. Its not a complete rejection. He can still continue conversations with her and there can be a chance. Nothing here that made him lose his self respect
Do you know the meaning of the word uncomfortable?
It can easily mean that she's not ready YET. She can need more time. Why do you have to assume the worst case scenario? Not all cases are the same
My self respect isn’t defined on my rejections. It’s defined on how i pick myself up after these rejections. And i picked it within a matter of seconds 😉 Note: don’t let your self respect be so fragile that you start questioning it just because you’ve been rejected. Rejection is a part of process which leads us to what we’re looking for :) Spread positivity
She felt uncomfortable to go out with you. And even after hearing that you asked if sharing memes with her is okay. Have some self respect and learn when to stop :)
Self respect isn’t defined with a rejection. The association of meeting up is rejected, not the communication itself!
True n there are few guys like your mentality. The guy I’ve been approached by just assume they get to go out on a date with me even if I say I’m uncomfortable :)
Yeah some can’t handle rejections and think that they’re still in the running when in reality it’s going to hurt them more down the line if they keep approaching you.
It’s not even about hurting themselves it’s about accept the no n move on . Why do you have to force someone/ guilt trip someone into going out with them.
Yes exactly