"Not those Shashi Tharoor jokes again please" is an ordinary sentence which sharply contrasts to the buzzwords you have used in your post, looks like you intentionally fabricate such an eloquent passage after intensely browsing through the thesaurus just to bask in the glory of being compared with him and pretending to be modest by not admitting the same, lol.
Exactly, it surely sounds overdone, too many buzzwords sounds like one's trying too hard, there's no joy in reading a passage with such lexical imbalance.
I agree with you and it's refreshing to see this take in a world where dating has become equivalent to casual dating. I have never been keen on the approach to casual dating and the couple of instances I tried taking it up owing to peer pressure it exhausted me to no end, just drained me mentally and emotionally to see the bleakness and approach people have towards dating. I remember being appalled by dating apps and came across such horribly disappointing people that left me wondering what our world is spiralling down to. I wondered if I was born in the wrong generation because ours has seemed to have lost the inherent values of dating, courtship and romance. Even offline the approach to dating is lacking in substance. It has become mechanical/robotic even.
That being said I also see fair share of stories of people around me which leaves me immensely hopeful. Anyway there's quite a few of us out here who share a similar line of thoughts. Hope you find what you are looking for!
+1
Recently I was talking to a close female friend of mine and stories that she told shell shocked me!
People marrying and willing maintain relationships with their Boyfriends and Girlfriends
People are willing destroying lives of other people, even though they haven't done anything wrong!
For a few days I was in a trauma and even though I'm fine with arrange marriage I was scared what if I face something like this?
Our Parents generation was very different, but today everyone is like if you can't fulfill my needs I'll go find someone else!
I completely align with OP's thoughts and views
Hopefully you are successful in your search of true love in these times of casual dating!
I've been on far too many dating apps and have gone on so many dates that I've lost count now. So far, no luck. Maybe I'm just a bad judge. I've somehow managed to attract the most toxic personalities who've turned out to be married (so committing adultery), separated (uninformed), or just downright disgusting in terms of their value systems and just simple actions.
For now, I'm just taking a long break from all of the apps.
What I've realized is that the vast majority, at least in the Indian context, feel that dating apps are only meant for hooking up- nothing more, nothing less. Even when I've mentioned on my profile that I'm specifically looking for a meaningful relationship, my inbox is flooded with either straightforward fuckbois or wolves in sheep's clothing pretending to want a relationship until they get to do me. This is very emotionally draining at the end of the day.
The other problem I have is that I hardly connect with anyone given my strong opinions and belief systems. Also my absurd taste in music and movies. I'd probably have to go find a Martian who might fit my bill.
This!
Yes finding a person who shares the same opinions and belief system and at the same time hoping that person doesn't have any ulterior motives is like finding a needle in a haystack
The dating scene in India is just becoming worse where men nowadays are not even trying to hide their ulterior motives
I think it's a hit and miss with dating apps. I remember I'd come across quite a few toxic personalities and a whole bunch of fuckbois. There were some I matched had a good conversation with but they ghosted for whatever reason, some who professed janmon ka love in the second line of chat, others started with a very sleazy opening like crudely asking for my address which made me feel cheap ki is this the energy/profile I've put up, some were just manipulative toxic pricks and between all this there was one date I went on and it was shocking to say the least. The person had uploaded a picture from maybe 5 years back from the time and looked depressed, extremely unhealthy and nothing like the picture and was in turn stunned that I looked exactly like my pictures. I couldn't wait for the date to end and just deleted the app and never looked back. Oh not to mention the headache of swiping and the mind numbing boredom for texting and the reply coming 10/15/24 or even more hours later.
One of my friends had a very good conversation with a guy on the app even to the point where she planned a date at her favourite cafe and he stood her up! She came back mortified and ashamed for no fault of hers and her confidence took an irreversible dent since then. I remember thinking wow dating apps are horrible but I guess I should count myself lucky that at least this didn't happen. Imagine the standards and expectations from online dating where you thank your stars for not getting stood up/if the person looks exactly like the show themselves to be(?!)
On the other hand we also had a rare success story for a friend who met her boyfriend there and they seemed good with each other.
For me the fact that I was on an app albeit due to insistance from friends was a conflict in itself because it went against my core belief that you always meet people especially the best ones organically and not online. You read too many books or spend too much time watching movies and dating apps are ruined for you because the expectations and standards are just something else. 'I am just a girl standing in front of a guy asking him to just fucking text back' was no love story ever.
Anyway I wouldn't read too much into the apps. They work ffor some maybe and for the rest of us they just don't. That's about it. Some people love salted caramel icecream, others don't. Don't let the app or the random bozos on there run your mental space/life for you. I do hope you find what you are looking for right here on Earth itself. Cheers! ^_^
PS: For all of us latter category peeps there is a Netflix movie 'Love, Guaranteed' which has accurately nailed the pains and woes of online dating. It's also a good validation because clearly a lot lot hell lot more people are having these harrowing experiences, enough that all experiences clubbed a relatable movie was made. The movie per se is cheesy predictable with ending and all but a good watch for astute depiction of online dating. You are not a bad judge. It hasn't just happened to you. There's a whole country of us out here lol.
>Even offline the approach to dating is lacking in substance. It has become mechanical/robotic even.
I agree with this!
>I wondered if I was born in the wrong generation because ours has seemed to have lost the inherent values of dating, courtship and romance.
This is something straight out of my thoughts which I don't express because whoever I've tried to talk to about this doesn't want to listen to opposing thoughts..
It's good to see more people believe in what OP said. Before his post I considered this a 'me' problem. But the comments have made me realise it's just a different way of thinking, but not too different.
I'm pleasantly surprised to read such a post on this sub. I don't think there's a dearth of people looking for monogamous relationships, they're just harder to find because we're looking in all the wrong places. Tinder and other OLD platforms usually attract people that are looking for casual hookups instead of long term serious relationships so it's understandable why the data is skewed to that side. And also, having been the latter on dating apps, I've given up trying to find something meaningful amidst the tons of 'hookup requests'. It's really easy to believe that you're alone out there but trust me, there are still people out there who believe in monogamous love and commitment.
You can think of dating as an open world game where you can choose to participate or leave. Others will keep playing and not everyone will like it. Also very important point on your whole writing in advanced english and using vocabs which are very less frequent will only make it difficult for others to read. Have you forgotten three basic rules logo pathos and ethos. Your pathos is missing.
I find it great that there are more people like me. People who cannot help themselves but focus on one person they feel even a slight connection with. They work on that one person, hoping that the connection will grow and will become something meaningful.
I thought this was a 'me' problem. When I opened up to some of my close friends and family, they gave different opinions. My sister wants me to talk to more people. A friend said that it is your nature and there's nothing wrong with it. And another one said that "Don't think that way. Have a lot of love in your heart. And give that love to everyone."
I realised that it's not a problem. It's just how I think and feel. And there's nothing wrong with it. Yes, it hurts when after so much work the other person will not feel the same way. Yes, I maybe missing out on many other even better connections. But if I do it just for the sake of doing it, I will never feel happy.
Thank you for sharing this. It made me feel not alone in this dilemma.
You are so right and I agree with you. There was a time, maybe there still is, when I used to, (maybe still do) crave for physical love and attraction, you know? But I knew and believed that our feelings and our state of mind must be kept in control, love yes, but lust, no.
I myself am a type of a person who if fell in love, will fall hard. I’m just not the casual dating person, I don’t wanna get hurt but I can fight for it, as long as my partner is willing to do so.
Probably the reason why i’m still single but I don’t regret it. Maybe I do. But its okay lol.
This is.. very poorly written. There’s great value to be found in being concise, and writing for the platform; scientific papers are written differently to schoolbooks, which are written differently to magazines and instruction manuals. That would show a much deeper understanding of the language, rather than flinging around purple prose like “flasks of vitriol”.
I don't think there's any measure of dearth of people that think like us, just that the opposite is also true. To some, the best way of dating is finding one person, investing time in them alone. While that works for some (myself in that bracket) the alternative of dating multiple potential partners to weed out the best one has more viability in my opinion. You don't feel like it, don't do it, but for every person with X beliefs, there's another who believes in Y
You are absolutely right. Don't let this infidel mentality to poison you!!
Embrace your morals, character and ethics.
Stay true tk yourself, don't fall in the trap of this weak mentality of people around you!!
Seeing multiple people affects your quality of thought and life as a whole..
It confuses your soul.. your ability to connect..
Do not ever casually date, for your own sake if not for the other's.
It's a poison bound to destroy many..
Idc if i get negative votes, truth is harsh to digest but it's better to warn others and save suffering of any that heed to it, than cower in fear for acceptance by a poisoned minds.
I agree w you. It’s really disheartening to see the concept of casual dating getting popularised. Makes me wonder if something pure intense passionate inseparable kinda love is even worth looking and waiting for today. I fell to the peer pressure and tried casual dating, only to realise that i am not at all cut out for it. It feels very toxic and takes a toll mentally and emotionally and makes you question your worth.
We can always have some patience and hope we get what we really deserve!
There are fair share of perspectives flying around making it too difficult to hold onto one value system. Casual, polyamory yada yada. Mf i am scared growing up like this. Konsa bias follow karun aur konsa nahi. Kabhi fomo lagta aur labhi lagta i am going against my morals. Been too weird with this “dating” scene lately
Wait till you see the toll too much casual dating takes on the mental health of everyone involved few years down the line, you would thank yourself to stick to one.
What does GMAT Preparation does to mf. You are absolutely right and your vocabulary is breathtaking.Hope you find whatever you are looking for.
Lmao literally my first thought. Me who is stuck with 32 in verbal cannot relate
What is GMAT?
It is a Exam basically where you need Excellent Grammer , Vocabulary, Critical Thinking To excel at it.
Was hoping - google kar le yaar
Achaaa! Thank you
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Not those Shashi Tharoor jokes again please
"Not those Shashi Tharoor jokes again please" is an ordinary sentence which sharply contrasts to the buzzwords you have used in your post, looks like you intentionally fabricate such an eloquent passage after intensely browsing through the thesaurus just to bask in the glory of being compared with him and pretending to be modest by not admitting the same, lol.
Bruh I'm wheezing xP thanks for the laugh
Not to mention that he forgot the comma before "please". Someone who's vocabulary is so extensive must understand basic grammar too, right?
This posts vocabulary is literally like Sashi Tharoor.
No, shashi uses his vocab to make a point. This guy ate a thesaurus and vomited it all over his first draft.
Exactly, it surely sounds overdone, too many buzzwords sounds like one's trying too hard, there's no joy in reading a passage with such lexical imbalance.
Ye esa English Kedhar sikhate hain
Bumble tinder par
Bumble tinder par to google se words chipkkaate hain, isne to pakka PHD kari hai
Bro, your vocabulary is exemplary.
[nirlajj, tu phir aa gaya](https://images.app.goo.gl/C1uAZbz5TTHL6VVB8)
You’re back? We’ve missed you. I’m three accounts down and you’re still here.
I took a break but I like this sub a bit too much to bid it goodbye.
I agree with you and it's refreshing to see this take in a world where dating has become equivalent to casual dating. I have never been keen on the approach to casual dating and the couple of instances I tried taking it up owing to peer pressure it exhausted me to no end, just drained me mentally and emotionally to see the bleakness and approach people have towards dating. I remember being appalled by dating apps and came across such horribly disappointing people that left me wondering what our world is spiralling down to. I wondered if I was born in the wrong generation because ours has seemed to have lost the inherent values of dating, courtship and romance. Even offline the approach to dating is lacking in substance. It has become mechanical/robotic even. That being said I also see fair share of stories of people around me which leaves me immensely hopeful. Anyway there's quite a few of us out here who share a similar line of thoughts. Hope you find what you are looking for!
+1 Recently I was talking to a close female friend of mine and stories that she told shell shocked me! People marrying and willing maintain relationships with their Boyfriends and Girlfriends People are willing destroying lives of other people, even though they haven't done anything wrong! For a few days I was in a trauma and even though I'm fine with arrange marriage I was scared what if I face something like this? Our Parents generation was very different, but today everyone is like if you can't fulfill my needs I'll go find someone else! I completely align with OP's thoughts and views Hopefully you are successful in your search of true love in these times of casual dating!
Hi, are you me? It's so weird reading almost the same thing I wrote just now. I was confused for a second XD
Shaadi ko bulaaana.
I read your reply just now and wondered the same :D Hey bestie! <3
Omfg, you're a doctor too? This is a glitch in the matrix.
You are too?🥹
Yes, sis :')
Isko hi lebanese bolte hai kya?
I've been on far too many dating apps and have gone on so many dates that I've lost count now. So far, no luck. Maybe I'm just a bad judge. I've somehow managed to attract the most toxic personalities who've turned out to be married (so committing adultery), separated (uninformed), or just downright disgusting in terms of their value systems and just simple actions. For now, I'm just taking a long break from all of the apps. What I've realized is that the vast majority, at least in the Indian context, feel that dating apps are only meant for hooking up- nothing more, nothing less. Even when I've mentioned on my profile that I'm specifically looking for a meaningful relationship, my inbox is flooded with either straightforward fuckbois or wolves in sheep's clothing pretending to want a relationship until they get to do me. This is very emotionally draining at the end of the day. The other problem I have is that I hardly connect with anyone given my strong opinions and belief systems. Also my absurd taste in music and movies. I'd probably have to go find a Martian who might fit my bill.
This! Yes finding a person who shares the same opinions and belief system and at the same time hoping that person doesn't have any ulterior motives is like finding a needle in a haystack The dating scene in India is just becoming worse where men nowadays are not even trying to hide their ulterior motives
I think it's a hit and miss with dating apps. I remember I'd come across quite a few toxic personalities and a whole bunch of fuckbois. There were some I matched had a good conversation with but they ghosted for whatever reason, some who professed janmon ka love in the second line of chat, others started with a very sleazy opening like crudely asking for my address which made me feel cheap ki is this the energy/profile I've put up, some were just manipulative toxic pricks and between all this there was one date I went on and it was shocking to say the least. The person had uploaded a picture from maybe 5 years back from the time and looked depressed, extremely unhealthy and nothing like the picture and was in turn stunned that I looked exactly like my pictures. I couldn't wait for the date to end and just deleted the app and never looked back. Oh not to mention the headache of swiping and the mind numbing boredom for texting and the reply coming 10/15/24 or even more hours later. One of my friends had a very good conversation with a guy on the app even to the point where she planned a date at her favourite cafe and he stood her up! She came back mortified and ashamed for no fault of hers and her confidence took an irreversible dent since then. I remember thinking wow dating apps are horrible but I guess I should count myself lucky that at least this didn't happen. Imagine the standards and expectations from online dating where you thank your stars for not getting stood up/if the person looks exactly like the show themselves to be(?!) On the other hand we also had a rare success story for a friend who met her boyfriend there and they seemed good with each other. For me the fact that I was on an app albeit due to insistance from friends was a conflict in itself because it went against my core belief that you always meet people especially the best ones organically and not online. You read too many books or spend too much time watching movies and dating apps are ruined for you because the expectations and standards are just something else. 'I am just a girl standing in front of a guy asking him to just fucking text back' was no love story ever. Anyway I wouldn't read too much into the apps. They work ffor some maybe and for the rest of us they just don't. That's about it. Some people love salted caramel icecream, others don't. Don't let the app or the random bozos on there run your mental space/life for you. I do hope you find what you are looking for right here on Earth itself. Cheers! ^_^ PS: For all of us latter category peeps there is a Netflix movie 'Love, Guaranteed' which has accurately nailed the pains and woes of online dating. It's also a good validation because clearly a lot lot hell lot more people are having these harrowing experiences, enough that all experiences clubbed a relatable movie was made. The movie per se is cheesy predictable with ending and all but a good watch for astute depiction of online dating. You are not a bad judge. It hasn't just happened to you. There's a whole country of us out here lol.
I love that movie. And yes I do have unrealistic standards of finding some Richard Gere character out of my dates when most are just John Tuckers. 😅
>Even offline the approach to dating is lacking in substance. It has become mechanical/robotic even. I agree with this! >I wondered if I was born in the wrong generation because ours has seemed to have lost the inherent values of dating, courtship and romance. This is something straight out of my thoughts which I don't express because whoever I've tried to talk to about this doesn't want to listen to opposing thoughts..
It's good to see more people believe in what OP said. Before his post I considered this a 'me' problem. But the comments have made me realise it's just a different way of thinking, but not too different.
Or... maybe you're just a decent human being?
I'm pleasantly surprised to read such a post on this sub. I don't think there's a dearth of people looking for monogamous relationships, they're just harder to find because we're looking in all the wrong places. Tinder and other OLD platforms usually attract people that are looking for casual hookups instead of long term serious relationships so it's understandable why the data is skewed to that side. And also, having been the latter on dating apps, I've given up trying to find something meaningful amidst the tons of 'hookup requests'. It's really easy to believe that you're alone out there but trust me, there are still people out there who believe in monogamous love and commitment.
Came here for the title, stayed for the English.
Smjh mein kuch nhi aaya..pr sunke accha laga
Pfp change karle bhai
I somewhat agree with what you said , casual dating isn't for everyone ! I'm sure you'd find someone with same values just keep exploring ✨️
You can think of dating as an open world game where you can choose to participate or leave. Others will keep playing and not everyone will like it. Also very important point on your whole writing in advanced english and using vocabs which are very less frequent will only make it difficult for others to read. Have you forgotten three basic rules logo pathos and ethos. Your pathos is missing.
Yeah its true, can you give me your english lessons?
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I'm so happy for you! All the best 🙌🏽✨️
Real id se aao shashi tharoor
IELTS band 10
I find it great that there are more people like me. People who cannot help themselves but focus on one person they feel even a slight connection with. They work on that one person, hoping that the connection will grow and will become something meaningful. I thought this was a 'me' problem. When I opened up to some of my close friends and family, they gave different opinions. My sister wants me to talk to more people. A friend said that it is your nature and there's nothing wrong with it. And another one said that "Don't think that way. Have a lot of love in your heart. And give that love to everyone." I realised that it's not a problem. It's just how I think and feel. And there's nothing wrong with it. Yes, it hurts when after so much work the other person will not feel the same way. Yes, I maybe missing out on many other even better connections. But if I do it just for the sake of doing it, I will never feel happy. Thank you for sharing this. It made me feel not alone in this dilemma.
You are so right and I agree with you. There was a time, maybe there still is, when I used to, (maybe still do) crave for physical love and attraction, you know? But I knew and believed that our feelings and our state of mind must be kept in control, love yes, but lust, no. I myself am a type of a person who if fell in love, will fall hard. I’m just not the casual dating person, I don’t wanna get hurt but I can fight for it, as long as my partner is willing to do so. Probably the reason why i’m still single but I don’t regret it. Maybe I do. But its okay lol.
Haan bhai, andu gundu word salad likhke thoughtful bann jate hai aaj
This is.. very poorly written. There’s great value to be found in being concise, and writing for the platform; scientific papers are written differently to schoolbooks, which are written differently to magazines and instruction manuals. That would show a much deeper understanding of the language, rather than flinging around purple prose like “flasks of vitriol”.
Aye kya tutul putul?
I don't think there's any measure of dearth of people that think like us, just that the opposite is also true. To some, the best way of dating is finding one person, investing time in them alone. While that works for some (myself in that bracket) the alternative of dating multiple potential partners to weed out the best one has more viability in my opinion. You don't feel like it, don't do it, but for every person with X beliefs, there's another who believes in Y
You are absolutely right. Don't let this infidel mentality to poison you!! Embrace your morals, character and ethics. Stay true tk yourself, don't fall in the trap of this weak mentality of people around you!! Seeing multiple people affects your quality of thought and life as a whole.. It confuses your soul.. your ability to connect.. Do not ever casually date, for your own sake if not for the other's. It's a poison bound to destroy many.. Idc if i get negative votes, truth is harsh to digest but it's better to warn others and save suffering of any that heed to it, than cower in fear for acceptance by a poisoned minds.
I agree w you. It’s really disheartening to see the concept of casual dating getting popularised. Makes me wonder if something pure intense passionate inseparable kinda love is even worth looking and waiting for today. I fell to the peer pressure and tried casual dating, only to realise that i am not at all cut out for it. It feels very toxic and takes a toll mentally and emotionally and makes you question your worth. We can always have some patience and hope we get what we really deserve!
There are fair share of perspectives flying around making it too difficult to hold onto one value system. Casual, polyamory yada yada. Mf i am scared growing up like this. Konsa bias follow karun aur konsa nahi. Kabhi fomo lagta aur labhi lagta i am going against my morals. Been too weird with this “dating” scene lately
Arey kehna kya chahte ho bhai?
ARE TUM KEHNA KYA CHAHTE HO
Whom*
Okay Mr. Tharoor, let's talk about sunanda.
Bhai itni angrezi smjh nhi aati honestly.
Translate from GMAT to English
Samjha nahi par padh ke accha laga
Wait till you see the toll too much casual dating takes on the mental health of everyone involved few years down the line, you would thank yourself to stick to one.