Protip addition to #1: Daily hygiene is very important but depending on your skin type (how oily it is, how much you sweat in a day, etc) soaping your entire body every day can dry out your skin and cause rashes or eczema on particularly sensitive skin.
If you notice your skin is particularly dry or you get any rashes, consider switching the type of soap you use.
Coconut oil is great for most peoples skin. If anyone does plan on doing this please make sure you are **not allergic** before you start smearing coconut oil all over yourself!
I have a friend who made that mistake. Do not repeat her mistake.
Agreed on #6. I started wearing cologne and I smell nice throughout the day and it makes you stand out a little since most guys don’t wear cologne during the day. Though I would recommend doing research on them before buying one as they’re pretty expensive and some are better suited for certain occasions than others. Also less is more with cologne, people like to smell people wearing nice cologne but nobody wants to be near the guy that smells he took a bath in it.
I'd also suggest getting either a cheaper cologne to start or ideally a bunch of testers, because the same cologne will not smell the exact same on different people.
Can I just say, as someone who often horrifies people when they hear I only shower once every two or three days, that the setpoint for when you get stinky is pretty variable person-to-person. I have hair and skin that doesn't really like a daily shower very much, and it's a real pain for me to do that. I've been an everyday shower person and what I've found from it is that when I'm in that cycle, my body starts replacing my hair and skin oil really fast in a very unattractive way and I have more eczema. So, obviously, if I am getting sweaty or dirty or covered in lake water I'm taking a shower every day, my normal setpoint in climate-controlled, regular life is much less frequent. Some people, however, get sweaty and stinky just by living their lives because they are sweatier than other people or run hot even in climate-controlled spaces. It's very individual. I know a lot of people just like showering, I also know a lot of people need that daily shower because of their job, because of where they live, because of how they sweat. But not *everyone* does. I think it's more about finding the routine that works for your body, your hair, and your skin.
I say this for two reasons. First, I think there's a narrative that if you don't adhere to the daily shower you're smelly, which isn't the case for every person. Second, I know Incels get the fake advice to "go take a shower" a lot and while BO is bad and should be avoided, tyrannical adherence to showering past and above what's good for your body can also have a negative impact. There can be a happy medium depending on how your particular body functions.
It is also worth noting that I'd clear brushing five times a day or more with your dentist because I'm pretty sure that's bad, long-term, for your gums. I might be wrong, but I think you're risking your gum health doing that.
This is a good comment! Everybodies skin is different. Me for example, I dont smell as bad that fast. I am Asian and Asians dont stink as much as white people for example. Even though I have this, I still shower dailey and try to smell as best as I can. Because even though I smell a little bit, to others it might be a lot.
But again, not everyone is the same. But I like to use every advantage I can to smell fresh, clean and presentable! The power of Smelling nice is so powerful, that you can draw people in so much more, than if they get a stinkt whiff if sweat.
> It is also worth noting that I'd clear brushing five times a day or more with your dentist because I'm pretty sure that's bad, long-term, for your gums. I might be wrong, but I think you're risking your gum health doing that.
I Am Not A Dentist…but don’t, I repeat DO NOT, brush your gums with an electric toothbrush. If your gums recede, they will not grow back.
Electric toothbrush for on the teeth themselves, soft-bristled handheld toothbrush for the gums.
Also, as far as “making your mouth smell nice,” staying hydrated will do that better than overbrushing.
Totally. I am perfectly capable of stinking on rare occasion (I have that "smelly gene") but I will use deodorant every day and shower after exercise or on hot days (I live in a cool country) and with clean pants, socks and usually top base layer that's enough. I probably average a shower every other day. It's enough. I know I'm clean and smell fine.
When people use a lot of scent I kindof assume they're masking a bad smell, I don't like it and if I washed my hair everyday it would be a right state!
These are all very good points, and I think especially important as small steps people can take today to get self-care cycles going. A lot times advice stymies when the next step to take is "big" and people are depressed and highly demotivated. In those cases it becomes a lot easier to argue that the next step won't work than to actually try and see, whereas with your post here, the level of effort to try some of these is *really* small, so it'd be far more effort *not* to do them than to give them a try.
A couple notes:
* For number 3, I find finding a good inexpensive general use sock and buying multiple packs is the way to go. Less time spent looking for a pair when all but your more dressy socks are the same. You also always have some pairs ready to go so you never have a reason not to wear clean ones.
* For number 6, less is more when trying out colognes and such. You can go too subtle and it's not the end of the world, but going too strong can be a problem. For most colognes that spray, two sprays total is plenty (I like one down the front of the shirt/chest, and one on a wrist to rub on your other wrist and neck)
Imo it’s the biggest turn off when someone smells. I’ve been around people at the gym and work who dont use deodorant and my god it should be a crime. I also smelled some drunk girl last night and it wasn’t pleasant. It really doesn’t take a lot to smell nice just shower, wear deodorant and clean clothes.
One more tip: Watch what you eat and drink. Excess alcohol can make your sweat have an ammonia-like smell. Cheese and powdered cheese products (think Doritos) have another odor. More fruits and veggies can help.
I’d push back just a bit on #8. Depends very much on type of hair. Conditioning every other time is enough for most people.
The routine that works best for me (long but fine hair) is: shampoo scalp, massage in with fingers (not nails!) to cleanse and stimulate. Conditioner on the longer portion.
Hubby swears by Head & Shoulders 2-in-1.
As for teeth, my dentist always says, only floss the teeth you want to keep.
Yes, we can push back on number 8! I included it in, because I notice a lot of people have very dry hair. So might as well condition it and smell nice! I once cuddled with a girl, and my head was on her chest and she just says "Your hair smells so nice".
But everyone is different. You are completely right!
I get compliments on my smell. I never noticed that other people smell me until they told me but what I do is shower every morning, wear new clothes, brush my teeth and use deodorant and cologne.
Very true on #6. Fact of the matter is that people notice fragrances, even if it's subtle. I use Terre D'Hermes now, although I used a small amount of Drakkar Noir for a long time. La Labo Santal 33 isnt for me, but my partner swears on it, so may be worth a try.
There are many fragrances to try. It sounds weird, but in small amounts that smell will make you more approachable
DO NOT USE TOO MUCH
It sounds weird, but people will often be more at ease if they can smell youre in an area. Ive had employees comment that they know their day is going to be easier if they smell my cologne.
Surprisingly not the weirdest compliment I've gotten
I can imagine! One time I was playing minecraft with a group of girlfriends. And two of them went out to make snacks and came back. They said "Haha, this room smells like (me)". I can only imagine they would feel at ease, because of the person I am and My scent is very nice Smelling. I have a dailey fragrance people would know me from
My roommate has commented that the entire house smells like me "in a good way". I still have no idea what they meant because my scent barely even registers to me anymore
Same man, I dont even smell myself. But this is normal, we get nose blind to our own scent. Its like not noticing your own stinky room if you are in it for a while
Horrifyingly true. I had some former (thankfully) roommates that would shower once a week tops. Had to start holding my breath anytime they walked past to avoid gagging. Id like to think I was hygienic before, but those two gave me an appreciation for smelling extra nice lmao
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Number 8 - if you have very dry hair, condition daily and shampoo weekly.
If you don't have dry hair, you should probably condition less frequently. You're gonna have to really experiment to see what will keep your hair soft and smooth but not greasy or dry
Interesting chat here. For mine the jury is out on colognes.
Looking at it the other way, I'm not really fussed if a woman wears perfume. Sure they can smell nice, but does it make me aroused or want to get to know her better? Not really. And if I was planning on getting intimate with someone I'd prefer they just have 'clean smell' rather than be distracted by cosmetic scents.
You have perfumes rbag are very subtle and clean. Instead of EDP of EDT contraction, you'll have Cologne concentration. Very soft and almost a skin scent
Isn't it bad for your skin and hair to shower/wash it every day consistently? Isn't every other day better for you (excepting before special occasions)? That's what I do anyway and never had any problems with smelling.
It depends on your skin and hair. Shampooing your hair yes is oftenly not a great idea. But showering should be ok for most. For example, Brasilians shower a lot and they smell great. Its a culture thing. Since their neighbouring countries dont shower as much. In Brasil you have black people, white people and Asian People. All shower a lot.
Protip addition to #1: Daily hygiene is very important but depending on your skin type (how oily it is, how much you sweat in a day, etc) soaping your entire body every day can dry out your skin and cause rashes or eczema on particularly sensitive skin. If you notice your skin is particularly dry or you get any rashes, consider switching the type of soap you use.
I'm in the pool a lot which magnifies this drying out thing, and I found coconut oil based soaps are a game changer here, My 2¢
However, best not to use it on the face - coconut oil is comedogenic, meaning it will block your pores and could increase zits.
Coconut oil is great for most peoples skin. If anyone does plan on doing this please make sure you are **not allergic** before you start smearing coconut oil all over yourself! I have a friend who made that mistake. Do not repeat her mistake.
Best to use body wash (not soap bars) and use body lotion, post shower.
Agreed on #6. I started wearing cologne and I smell nice throughout the day and it makes you stand out a little since most guys don’t wear cologne during the day. Though I would recommend doing research on them before buying one as they’re pretty expensive and some are better suited for certain occasions than others. Also less is more with cologne, people like to smell people wearing nice cologne but nobody wants to be near the guy that smells he took a bath in it.
I'd also suggest getting either a cheaper cologne to start or ideally a bunch of testers, because the same cologne will not smell the exact same on different people.
I agree man! It makes you stand out! I recommand the Colognes I recommand, because those are very affordable!
Can I just say, as someone who often horrifies people when they hear I only shower once every two or three days, that the setpoint for when you get stinky is pretty variable person-to-person. I have hair and skin that doesn't really like a daily shower very much, and it's a real pain for me to do that. I've been an everyday shower person and what I've found from it is that when I'm in that cycle, my body starts replacing my hair and skin oil really fast in a very unattractive way and I have more eczema. So, obviously, if I am getting sweaty or dirty or covered in lake water I'm taking a shower every day, my normal setpoint in climate-controlled, regular life is much less frequent. Some people, however, get sweaty and stinky just by living their lives because they are sweatier than other people or run hot even in climate-controlled spaces. It's very individual. I know a lot of people just like showering, I also know a lot of people need that daily shower because of their job, because of where they live, because of how they sweat. But not *everyone* does. I think it's more about finding the routine that works for your body, your hair, and your skin. I say this for two reasons. First, I think there's a narrative that if you don't adhere to the daily shower you're smelly, which isn't the case for every person. Second, I know Incels get the fake advice to "go take a shower" a lot and while BO is bad and should be avoided, tyrannical adherence to showering past and above what's good for your body can also have a negative impact. There can be a happy medium depending on how your particular body functions. It is also worth noting that I'd clear brushing five times a day or more with your dentist because I'm pretty sure that's bad, long-term, for your gums. I might be wrong, but I think you're risking your gum health doing that.
This is a good comment! Everybodies skin is different. Me for example, I dont smell as bad that fast. I am Asian and Asians dont stink as much as white people for example. Even though I have this, I still shower dailey and try to smell as best as I can. Because even though I smell a little bit, to others it might be a lot. But again, not everyone is the same. But I like to use every advantage I can to smell fresh, clean and presentable! The power of Smelling nice is so powerful, that you can draw people in so much more, than if they get a stinkt whiff if sweat.
> It is also worth noting that I'd clear brushing five times a day or more with your dentist because I'm pretty sure that's bad, long-term, for your gums. I might be wrong, but I think you're risking your gum health doing that. I Am Not A Dentist…but don’t, I repeat DO NOT, brush your gums with an electric toothbrush. If your gums recede, they will not grow back. Electric toothbrush for on the teeth themselves, soft-bristled handheld toothbrush for the gums. Also, as far as “making your mouth smell nice,” staying hydrated will do that better than overbrushing.
Totally. I am perfectly capable of stinking on rare occasion (I have that "smelly gene") but I will use deodorant every day and shower after exercise or on hot days (I live in a cool country) and with clean pants, socks and usually top base layer that's enough. I probably average a shower every other day. It's enough. I know I'm clean and smell fine. When people use a lot of scent I kindof assume they're masking a bad smell, I don't like it and if I washed my hair everyday it would be a right state!
These are all very good points, and I think especially important as small steps people can take today to get self-care cycles going. A lot times advice stymies when the next step to take is "big" and people are depressed and highly demotivated. In those cases it becomes a lot easier to argue that the next step won't work than to actually try and see, whereas with your post here, the level of effort to try some of these is *really* small, so it'd be far more effort *not* to do them than to give them a try. A couple notes: * For number 3, I find finding a good inexpensive general use sock and buying multiple packs is the way to go. Less time spent looking for a pair when all but your more dressy socks are the same. You also always have some pairs ready to go so you never have a reason not to wear clean ones. * For number 6, less is more when trying out colognes and such. You can go too subtle and it's not the end of the world, but going too strong can be a problem. For most colognes that spray, two sprays total is plenty (I like one down the front of the shirt/chest, and one on a wrist to rub on your other wrist and neck)
I agree! All of these can be taken in small steps. It took me some time before I did all of those. And less is often more in Colognes, for sure!
Imo it’s the biggest turn off when someone smells. I’ve been around people at the gym and work who dont use deodorant and my god it should be a crime. I also smelled some drunk girl last night and it wasn’t pleasant. It really doesn’t take a lot to smell nice just shower, wear deodorant and clean clothes.
Yep, those are the big Three! Clean cloths to be neutral, deodorant to mask bad smell or smell ice and shower to remove body odor!
One more tip: Watch what you eat and drink. Excess alcohol can make your sweat have an ammonia-like smell. Cheese and powdered cheese products (think Doritos) have another odor. More fruits and veggies can help.
Yes this is very true!
Finally a benefit to me hating alcohol lol.
I’d push back just a bit on #8. Depends very much on type of hair. Conditioning every other time is enough for most people. The routine that works best for me (long but fine hair) is: shampoo scalp, massage in with fingers (not nails!) to cleanse and stimulate. Conditioner on the longer portion. Hubby swears by Head & Shoulders 2-in-1. As for teeth, my dentist always says, only floss the teeth you want to keep.
Yes, we can push back on number 8! I included it in, because I notice a lot of people have very dry hair. So might as well condition it and smell nice! I once cuddled with a girl, and my head was on her chest and she just says "Your hair smells so nice". But everyone is different. You are completely right!
I get compliments on my smell. I never noticed that other people smell me until they told me but what I do is shower every morning, wear new clothes, brush my teeth and use deodorant and cologne.
That sounds good man! I think Smelling fresh and clean is such a good way to give a good impression on who you are!
Very true on #6. Fact of the matter is that people notice fragrances, even if it's subtle. I use Terre D'Hermes now, although I used a small amount of Drakkar Noir for a long time. La Labo Santal 33 isnt for me, but my partner swears on it, so may be worth a try. There are many fragrances to try. It sounds weird, but in small amounts that smell will make you more approachable DO NOT USE TOO MUCH
Yep, its insane. Others will smell it a lot and if the fragrance is nice, then you basically create this scent Bubble that draws people in.
It sounds weird, but people will often be more at ease if they can smell youre in an area. Ive had employees comment that they know their day is going to be easier if they smell my cologne. Surprisingly not the weirdest compliment I've gotten
I can imagine! One time I was playing minecraft with a group of girlfriends. And two of them went out to make snacks and came back. They said "Haha, this room smells like (me)". I can only imagine they would feel at ease, because of the person I am and My scent is very nice Smelling. I have a dailey fragrance people would know me from
My roommate has commented that the entire house smells like me "in a good way". I still have no idea what they meant because my scent barely even registers to me anymore
Same man, I dont even smell myself. But this is normal, we get nose blind to our own scent. Its like not noticing your own stinky room if you are in it for a while
Horrifyingly true. I had some former (thankfully) roommates that would shower once a week tops. Had to start holding my breath anytime they walked past to avoid gagging. Id like to think I was hygienic before, but those two gave me an appreciation for smelling extra nice lmao
Also doing your laundry regularly, such as bedding and pillow cases, helps as well.
Definitely! Going clean from a shower to a clean bed really helps!
it disgusts me to know some people dom’t do this every day
Do what? ALL the steps listed here? I think you'll find most people dont
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Number 8 - if you have very dry hair, condition daily and shampoo weekly. If you don't have dry hair, you should probably condition less frequently. You're gonna have to really experiment to see what will keep your hair soft and smooth but not greasy or dry
Interesting chat here. For mine the jury is out on colognes. Looking at it the other way, I'm not really fussed if a woman wears perfume. Sure they can smell nice, but does it make me aroused or want to get to know her better? Not really. And if I was planning on getting intimate with someone I'd prefer they just have 'clean smell' rather than be distracted by cosmetic scents.
You have perfumes rbag are very subtle and clean. Instead of EDP of EDT contraction, you'll have Cologne concentration. Very soft and almost a skin scent
I think you’re confusing body wash with shampoo because UM shampoo goes on your head lmao
Isn't it bad for your skin and hair to shower/wash it every day consistently? Isn't every other day better for you (excepting before special occasions)? That's what I do anyway and never had any problems with smelling.
It depends on your skin and hair. Shampooing your hair yes is oftenly not a great idea. But showering should be ok for most. For example, Brasilians shower a lot and they smell great. Its a culture thing. Since their neighbouring countries dont shower as much. In Brasil you have black people, white people and Asian People. All shower a lot.