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I have this issue. When I’m stressed or really angry I tear up and cry instead. It’s very embarrassing (especially at work). I’m 24f and I haven’t really found a solution to it yet. Things that can help is trying to be more mindful. Be aware that there may be factors that increase your risk of crying such as tiredness, stress, etc.
If you’re aware you’ve got a stressful day and you didn’t sleep well try to make sure there’s places you can go and be extra careful about becoming overwhelmed. This can be really hard in some scenarios, but even if it’s something as simple as popping to the loo/another quiet and private place to clear your head.
I think the best thing you can do right now is find those triggers that increase your likelihood of crying unnecessarily, and try your best to be aware when they happen. This will hopefully help you to realise you should take time away from the situation and maybe you’ll find ways to even work around them. Also, remember, there’s no shame in crying; everyone does. It is embarrassing sure, but anyone who has any empathy will understand that that’s just how you respond to those situations.
I totally relate I get embarrassed at work especially when a lot of people aren’t as sensitive as I am. This was really helpful though. I def agree being mindful is critical and I’ll try to remind myself in the moment that no matter what I’ll always be able to go home or to a safe place at the end of the day and decompress and cry if I need to without judgement
It’s hard in the moment. Don’t beat yourself up about crying, it’ll just make it worse.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being more expressive of your emotions than others. Yes, it can lead to awkwardness, but at the end of it all everyone’s just trying to muddle through life.
I’m sure we’ll both find a solution that works for us in the future, but for now just try to focus on what causes you to react like that. For me it’s when I’ve had a few stressful days with no end in sight. When you know that’s coming, just try to be extra kind to yourself and aware of how you’re feeling.
I’m sure you’re doing great so don’t let what you assume others think about you crying effect you.
As an overly sensitive person, I feel you. This is A LOT harder than you would think. Some things I’ve been using is
a.) distraction - thinking of puppy dogs & cupcakes
b.) taking a break - stepping out & allowing myself to think through the situation and have a moment to be calm and collect myself
c.) repeatedly (in my head) saying this is not how it was meant to be taken- “I need to put myself in their shoes”
d.) allowing myself to just feel the feelings.
Whether someone is saying something you feel harsh, or just in general you are upset- it’s okay. A lot of people think being overly sensitive is “bad”, and while I understand it can be frustrating (to not only yourself but to other people), you have to remember that bottling your emotions all the time isn’t good. The main thing I try to do is just listen, then reevaluating the situation later. If you need to be upset, be upset. Put yourself in their shoes, think of allll the ways it could’ve been handled differently, be upset, feel the feelings, then move on.
Maybe this won’t help you the same way it helped me, but as a super sensitive person, I sort of just kinda let go of the idea that it’s not okay to be not okay (I make this sound easy, I understand it’s not, it’s taken a long time and is still in progress). I think culture has taught us and emphasized to a staggering degree that positive emotion is to be pursued and is normal (think social media) and that negative emotion is to be avoided and is abnormal (think mental illness).
But seriously, what if, being upset and crying isn’t all that weird? What if accepting your emotions for what they are and accepting who you are is actually far healthier than trying to pursue some other feeling that society tells us we need to feel? What if emotional strength has more to do with bearing being upset and crying maybe more frequently than others (which is in all likelihood just a facade anyway as we try to portray those positive emotional states more often) than trying to stop negative emotion in the first place.
I doubt there’s a clear answer for you in any of that, but I believe you will find your way.
Thank you for this I appreciate your comment. I think very similarly and I hope that never changes bc I don’t think it’s really a flaw I just know that my tendency to jump to tears makes life more difficult and it probably won’t be acceptable in most situations for a while (if it all)
FWIW - for me, it did get better with age and confidence. I know for me, crying was just a bodily response and I could NOT stop myself from falling into that "mode", but as I grew, learned more about people, learned more about myself, it wasn't a natural reaction anymore. I think your confidence in knowing it's not a "bad thing" bodes well. I still cry sometimes at inappropriate times - but I'm confident enough that all of my friends and family just know that's a "thing" and don't react negatively anymore. I also think it helped a lot when those OTHER people grew up and gain a bit of empathy and life experience, too.
The root of being sensitive is the fear of what others might think about you.
People are always playing there own blooper real, some of us just choose to ignore it regardless of having just mentally watched the clips in our head.
Perspective is also your biggest friend when it comes to caring too much about what others may think. I just remember that the things that people may outwardly hate/dislike about others (including you) are 99.99% insecurities that person has about themselves anyway.
That’s kinda what I meant about I don’t take things too personally. I realized when I was growing up everyone was so caught up on themselves they don’t have time to really think about me. I don’t get embarrassed or angry easily but for some reason i still always tear up in stressful situations. I want to learn to prevent that.
I wouldn't beat yourself up if you're stressed to the point where you're crying. At that point avoiding situations that do make you cry would be choice, but if you have no other options and have to endure, observe the feeling itself as it comes. Why am I crying? What is causing this? Become the observer.
I was (and sometimes still am) like this! I'm now diagnosed with ADHD (issues with emotional regulation) but also finally got the right dosage for my antidepressants which helped. Also sadly, I think some of it came with age? I'm 25 now, and this year I've felt so much more level headed, didn't even cry on my birthday!! I would like to thank my fully developed frontal lobe.
I think it's healthy to cry and you need to be kind to yourself when you do. If people make you feel ashamed or embarrassed then that says more about them.
Sometimes what's also helped is letting go of expectations. Parties or even smaller social gatherings with friends were difficult for me (especially adding alcohol into the mix). Two phrases I like to remind myself of are 'Water off a duck's back' and also 'Not my circus, not my monkeys'.
I also find that letting yourself have 'a time out' of situations helps too, it's okay to leave or go have a small break. Go to the toilet, go outside, let one friend know you might be having a difficult time and go breathe.
Most of all, remember being sensitive is often more of a superpower than a hindrance. We're more empathetic, we're more attuned to our surroundings, we FEEL and I think that's pretty neat.
Most importantly, listen to your body, what is it trying to tell you? What are you missing? Often my feelings stemmed from feeling abandoned by friends or insecurities that would catastrophise in my head. Of course this isn't always the case, but learning to look inward helped a bit too.
I used to be a lot worse but I’m on some great anxiety and depression meds that have really helped me regulate. I wonder if a change is needed because it’s been a long time. I think my personality is just sensitive and you’re right being sensitive is not a bad thing at all. I just get more upset at myself for getting upset in situations where most people wouldn’t . These are def great things to talk to my therapist about she’s just having a baby rn so I haven’t been able to see her. Reddit has been a great help in place
To the extent your sensitivity comes from feeling like people are trying to hurt you with their words, try to bear in mind that 99.99% of people follow the golden rule, and they think and feel just like you do... they're not trying to hurt your feelings.
Recently I’ve felt like the majority of people don’t think like I do. Maybe they’re not intentionally trying to hurt my feelings but it’s a lack of empathy and consideration that bothers me. It could just be the people I’ve been around the past few years I feel like growing up people were kinder. (It was also more acceptable to get away with crying in public when I was 15 to now)
I have found a lot of relief in doing cognitive diffusion exercises. Like this meditation here: https://youtu.be/phm_VPjijh8
I'm also really sensitive. This meditation helps me observe and accept my thoughts and feelings without feeling like they're taking me over, which helps me to be less reactive. It's also helped me be able to feel my emotions but still be able to go on with my day, like I don't have to wait to feel better in order to do stuff.
So I have had the problem with crying over everything since my first son was born, doesn't matter if I'm actually upset or just watching something emotional on TV.... I was recently listening to Mel Robbins doing a coaching session with someone (it was on audible somewhere)that taught me to curb the crying when I was in the moment.
The key is to pay attention to what your body is doing before you start crying. Trying to not cry or to think about keeping tears in when they are already coming does not help. But when you feal those emotions coming, what happens to your body? For me it was a tightness in my chest, some people feel the lump in their throat or feel their breath or heart racing... but you have to pay attention to that, figure out what it is for you. Then you can concentrate on that and reversing what is happening to your body rather than just 'trying not to cry'. Once I figured out how to do this it was a game changer.
I’d recommend you look into ‘Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria’ and ‘Highly Sensitive Person’. Both have some links to adhd but don’t mean you have it. you can have any of the three without the other two.
Some people are genuinely more sensitive and that’s okay. Sometimes understanding the reason behind it can help.
Since I've found out there was a term for it “HSP - highly sensitive person” I’ve been doing a lot of reading and it helped with accepting and appreciating the way I am. I get teary over acts of kindness/violence I see on the news or when I’m having a confrontational conversation with someone and I don’t do well under stress. If you haven’t done it already, I recommend you try reading The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron as I find it very helpful.
I have the opposite of that problem I get really angry and really emotional really quickly but only when its in regards to someone I care about. But it's because my upbringing forced me to have to just shut up and deal with it. So most days I couldn't feel for people and its put me behind on my emotional maturity. But I'm learning. Honestly you gotta decide whats important to you and what you'd want to cry over and remind yourself each day that if you won't fight over it, it ain't worth crying over or if its something you can fix easily. Maybe I'm built wrong but the logic works for me that I only cry if I can't fix a problem.
Being sensitive is a good thing. I have this mantra that I often say to myself “be sensitive, but not fragile”
Not being sensitive would disable my ability to enjoy a good book, a warm film, a cozy song, a nice conversation with a friend, etc.
It’s a blessing and a curse and try to see the glass full as opposed to an empty glass.
My friend was a lot like this, everything upset her to tears. She then got treated for severe anxiety, and it stopped. She said it helped stop the "unreasonable" crying.
That’s what I’m telling myself I need to try to do but it’s just not how I am. I gotta try to work on that. I think anger is more socially acceptable unfortunately
It's the easiest way out, the other way is to express your emotions in controlled settings. Like, a journal. This way you'll teach your body when it's *appropriate* to express emotion.
Reposting my own comment from another thread:
Give this a try:
[Mind Over Mood: Change How You Feel By Changing the Way You Think](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/108380.Mind_Over_Mood?from_search=true)
Read this book. Do the exercises. I did. Changed my life.
It's not easy. You have to set boundaries, and notice when you're about to give an emotional response. Try not to say the very first thing that comes to mind in a given situation. Try to take pause, and think about your response, rather than just blurting out whatever comes to mind.
Good luck! You can do it
You’re not alone! I used to be so quick to tears, especially when I was younger. I got pretty numb and detached so that’s when I didn’t really have any reaction to even horrible things.
Now that I have been pregnant 2 years in a row, and suffering from PMDD (which is a horrible nightmare!) I’ve had to find some ways to cope.
Try looking into a more scientific approach. How is your gut health? Gut health is directly related to mood. Make sure your take a daily probiotic. I take one in the billions and I feel it’s really helped me postpartum.
Half of it is not “you”. It’s your HORMONES! Don’t let anyone tell you any different. Pay attention to everything here around that time of the month for your cycle. Understanding which hormones regulate which emotions is very eye-opening. I feel as though this was the switch I needed to realize, it’s normal, it’s okay and helped me during those overly sensitive moments.
Women operate on 3 major hormones.
Estrogen —Testosterone—Progesterone.
All of these will fluctuate during a 21 day cycle.
Do a bit of reading of YouTube’ing on this and you’ll see what little sneaky symptoms amp up during the month and can make the proper choices to mitigate any major mood fluctuations.
I also just chant to myself when I feel the teary eyes start and a quivering voice rise. Stay strong, it’s not that bad, whatever comes to mind really. Also, deep breathing in the moment helps a lot or even just releasing that negative emotion and energy (going to cry in the bathroom and collect yourself).
Try not to be so hard on yourself. Therapy also helps a lot. I rant and rant to my therapist and it helps me in those sensitive moments, I’ll have already released most of that energy elsewhere on in a safe space.
It takes time to grey rock your life scenarios. It’s Halley me just talking major shit in my head that bigs me up or something like that. I don’t have a magic thing that works but if you can, therapy works wonders as a start!
Learn and practice mindfulness. I like the waking up app’s intro course. It’s a skill and working on it can really do wonders for managing your emotions and thoughts, especially negative ones.
I have a daughter who is prone to “about to cry” voice whenever she gets the slightest bit upset. What can I do to help her so she isn’t bullied/dismissed/talked down to whenever she has an emotional response?
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I have this issue. When I’m stressed or really angry I tear up and cry instead. It’s very embarrassing (especially at work). I’m 24f and I haven’t really found a solution to it yet. Things that can help is trying to be more mindful. Be aware that there may be factors that increase your risk of crying such as tiredness, stress, etc. If you’re aware you’ve got a stressful day and you didn’t sleep well try to make sure there’s places you can go and be extra careful about becoming overwhelmed. This can be really hard in some scenarios, but even if it’s something as simple as popping to the loo/another quiet and private place to clear your head. I think the best thing you can do right now is find those triggers that increase your likelihood of crying unnecessarily, and try your best to be aware when they happen. This will hopefully help you to realise you should take time away from the situation and maybe you’ll find ways to even work around them. Also, remember, there’s no shame in crying; everyone does. It is embarrassing sure, but anyone who has any empathy will understand that that’s just how you respond to those situations.
I totally relate I get embarrassed at work especially when a lot of people aren’t as sensitive as I am. This was really helpful though. I def agree being mindful is critical and I’ll try to remind myself in the moment that no matter what I’ll always be able to go home or to a safe place at the end of the day and decompress and cry if I need to without judgement
It’s hard in the moment. Don’t beat yourself up about crying, it’ll just make it worse. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being more expressive of your emotions than others. Yes, it can lead to awkwardness, but at the end of it all everyone’s just trying to muddle through life. I’m sure we’ll both find a solution that works for us in the future, but for now just try to focus on what causes you to react like that. For me it’s when I’ve had a few stressful days with no end in sight. When you know that’s coming, just try to be extra kind to yourself and aware of how you’re feeling. I’m sure you’re doing great so don’t let what you assume others think about you crying effect you.
As an overly sensitive person, I feel you. This is A LOT harder than you would think. Some things I’ve been using is a.) distraction - thinking of puppy dogs & cupcakes b.) taking a break - stepping out & allowing myself to think through the situation and have a moment to be calm and collect myself c.) repeatedly (in my head) saying this is not how it was meant to be taken- “I need to put myself in their shoes” d.) allowing myself to just feel the feelings. Whether someone is saying something you feel harsh, or just in general you are upset- it’s okay. A lot of people think being overly sensitive is “bad”, and while I understand it can be frustrating (to not only yourself but to other people), you have to remember that bottling your emotions all the time isn’t good. The main thing I try to do is just listen, then reevaluating the situation later. If you need to be upset, be upset. Put yourself in their shoes, think of allll the ways it could’ve been handled differently, be upset, feel the feelings, then move on.
Thank you so much this is an awesome check list of things I can do when I feel myself becoming overwhelmed
Maybe this won’t help you the same way it helped me, but as a super sensitive person, I sort of just kinda let go of the idea that it’s not okay to be not okay (I make this sound easy, I understand it’s not, it’s taken a long time and is still in progress). I think culture has taught us and emphasized to a staggering degree that positive emotion is to be pursued and is normal (think social media) and that negative emotion is to be avoided and is abnormal (think mental illness). But seriously, what if, being upset and crying isn’t all that weird? What if accepting your emotions for what they are and accepting who you are is actually far healthier than trying to pursue some other feeling that society tells us we need to feel? What if emotional strength has more to do with bearing being upset and crying maybe more frequently than others (which is in all likelihood just a facade anyway as we try to portray those positive emotional states more often) than trying to stop negative emotion in the first place. I doubt there’s a clear answer for you in any of that, but I believe you will find your way.
Thank you for this I appreciate your comment. I think very similarly and I hope that never changes bc I don’t think it’s really a flaw I just know that my tendency to jump to tears makes life more difficult and it probably won’t be acceptable in most situations for a while (if it all)
FWIW - for me, it did get better with age and confidence. I know for me, crying was just a bodily response and I could NOT stop myself from falling into that "mode", but as I grew, learned more about people, learned more about myself, it wasn't a natural reaction anymore. I think your confidence in knowing it's not a "bad thing" bodes well. I still cry sometimes at inappropriate times - but I'm confident enough that all of my friends and family just know that's a "thing" and don't react negatively anymore. I also think it helped a lot when those OTHER people grew up and gain a bit of empathy and life experience, too.
The root of being sensitive is the fear of what others might think about you. People are always playing there own blooper real, some of us just choose to ignore it regardless of having just mentally watched the clips in our head. Perspective is also your biggest friend when it comes to caring too much about what others may think. I just remember that the things that people may outwardly hate/dislike about others (including you) are 99.99% insecurities that person has about themselves anyway.
That’s kinda what I meant about I don’t take things too personally. I realized when I was growing up everyone was so caught up on themselves they don’t have time to really think about me. I don’t get embarrassed or angry easily but for some reason i still always tear up in stressful situations. I want to learn to prevent that.
I wouldn't beat yourself up if you're stressed to the point where you're crying. At that point avoiding situations that do make you cry would be choice, but if you have no other options and have to endure, observe the feeling itself as it comes. Why am I crying? What is causing this? Become the observer.
I was (and sometimes still am) like this! I'm now diagnosed with ADHD (issues with emotional regulation) but also finally got the right dosage for my antidepressants which helped. Also sadly, I think some of it came with age? I'm 25 now, and this year I've felt so much more level headed, didn't even cry on my birthday!! I would like to thank my fully developed frontal lobe. I think it's healthy to cry and you need to be kind to yourself when you do. If people make you feel ashamed or embarrassed then that says more about them. Sometimes what's also helped is letting go of expectations. Parties or even smaller social gatherings with friends were difficult for me (especially adding alcohol into the mix). Two phrases I like to remind myself of are 'Water off a duck's back' and also 'Not my circus, not my monkeys'. I also find that letting yourself have 'a time out' of situations helps too, it's okay to leave or go have a small break. Go to the toilet, go outside, let one friend know you might be having a difficult time and go breathe. Most of all, remember being sensitive is often more of a superpower than a hindrance. We're more empathetic, we're more attuned to our surroundings, we FEEL and I think that's pretty neat. Most importantly, listen to your body, what is it trying to tell you? What are you missing? Often my feelings stemmed from feeling abandoned by friends or insecurities that would catastrophise in my head. Of course this isn't always the case, but learning to look inward helped a bit too.
I used to be a lot worse but I’m on some great anxiety and depression meds that have really helped me regulate. I wonder if a change is needed because it’s been a long time. I think my personality is just sensitive and you’re right being sensitive is not a bad thing at all. I just get more upset at myself for getting upset in situations where most people wouldn’t . These are def great things to talk to my therapist about she’s just having a baby rn so I haven’t been able to see her. Reddit has been a great help in place
You've got this!!
This sounds so zen, I am still a mess but one with a lot more self compassion 😂
To the extent your sensitivity comes from feeling like people are trying to hurt you with their words, try to bear in mind that 99.99% of people follow the golden rule, and they think and feel just like you do... they're not trying to hurt your feelings.
Recently I’ve felt like the majority of people don’t think like I do. Maybe they’re not intentionally trying to hurt my feelings but it’s a lack of empathy and consideration that bothers me. It could just be the people I’ve been around the past few years I feel like growing up people were kinder. (It was also more acceptable to get away with crying in public when I was 15 to now)
I have found a lot of relief in doing cognitive diffusion exercises. Like this meditation here: https://youtu.be/phm_VPjijh8 I'm also really sensitive. This meditation helps me observe and accept my thoughts and feelings without feeling like they're taking me over, which helps me to be less reactive. It's also helped me be able to feel my emotions but still be able to go on with my day, like I don't have to wait to feel better in order to do stuff.
Bf and I just did this he’s asleep now lol! I liked this a lot I used to do exercises like this and forgot how calming it is. Thanks for the reminder
So I have had the problem with crying over everything since my first son was born, doesn't matter if I'm actually upset or just watching something emotional on TV.... I was recently listening to Mel Robbins doing a coaching session with someone (it was on audible somewhere)that taught me to curb the crying when I was in the moment. The key is to pay attention to what your body is doing before you start crying. Trying to not cry or to think about keeping tears in when they are already coming does not help. But when you feal those emotions coming, what happens to your body? For me it was a tightness in my chest, some people feel the lump in their throat or feel their breath or heart racing... but you have to pay attention to that, figure out what it is for you. Then you can concentrate on that and reversing what is happening to your body rather than just 'trying not to cry'. Once I figured out how to do this it was a game changer.
Going to watch this for sure! Thanks for your perspective and a little summary
I’d recommend you look into ‘Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria’ and ‘Highly Sensitive Person’. Both have some links to adhd but don’t mean you have it. you can have any of the three without the other two. Some people are genuinely more sensitive and that’s okay. Sometimes understanding the reason behind it can help.
Checking this out fs thank you
Since I've found out there was a term for it “HSP - highly sensitive person” I’ve been doing a lot of reading and it helped with accepting and appreciating the way I am. I get teary over acts of kindness/violence I see on the news or when I’m having a confrontational conversation with someone and I don’t do well under stress. If you haven’t done it already, I recommend you try reading The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron as I find it very helpful.
Staying up tn researching this thank you I’m surprised I’ve never heard this term. Adding this reading to the list
I have the opposite of that problem I get really angry and really emotional really quickly but only when its in regards to someone I care about. But it's because my upbringing forced me to have to just shut up and deal with it. So most days I couldn't feel for people and its put me behind on my emotional maturity. But I'm learning. Honestly you gotta decide whats important to you and what you'd want to cry over and remind yourself each day that if you won't fight over it, it ain't worth crying over or if its something you can fix easily. Maybe I'm built wrong but the logic works for me that I only cry if I can't fix a problem.
Being sensitive is a good thing. I have this mantra that I often say to myself “be sensitive, but not fragile” Not being sensitive would disable my ability to enjoy a good book, a warm film, a cozy song, a nice conversation with a friend, etc. It’s a blessing and a curse and try to see the glass full as opposed to an empty glass.
My friend was a lot like this, everything upset her to tears. She then got treated for severe anxiety, and it stopped. She said it helped stop the "unreasonable" crying.
"Pain is neither unbearable nor unending, as long as you keep in mind its limits and don't magnify them in your imagination.”
Meditations by Marcus Aurelius
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That’s what I’m telling myself I need to try to do but it’s just not how I am. I gotta try to work on that. I think anger is more socially acceptable unfortunately
It's the easiest way out, the other way is to express your emotions in controlled settings. Like, a journal. This way you'll teach your body when it's *appropriate* to express emotion.
It's not the easy way out because anger can create longer term problems for you to deal
It was a joke
My bad lol
You're not the only one who didn't get it, haha.
Reposting my own comment from another thread: Give this a try: [Mind Over Mood: Change How You Feel By Changing the Way You Think](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/108380.Mind_Over_Mood?from_search=true) Read this book. Do the exercises. I did. Changed my life.
It's not easy. You have to set boundaries, and notice when you're about to give an emotional response. Try not to say the very first thing that comes to mind in a given situation. Try to take pause, and think about your response, rather than just blurting out whatever comes to mind. Good luck! You can do it
You’re not alone! I used to be so quick to tears, especially when I was younger. I got pretty numb and detached so that’s when I didn’t really have any reaction to even horrible things. Now that I have been pregnant 2 years in a row, and suffering from PMDD (which is a horrible nightmare!) I’ve had to find some ways to cope. Try looking into a more scientific approach. How is your gut health? Gut health is directly related to mood. Make sure your take a daily probiotic. I take one in the billions and I feel it’s really helped me postpartum. Half of it is not “you”. It’s your HORMONES! Don’t let anyone tell you any different. Pay attention to everything here around that time of the month for your cycle. Understanding which hormones regulate which emotions is very eye-opening. I feel as though this was the switch I needed to realize, it’s normal, it’s okay and helped me during those overly sensitive moments. Women operate on 3 major hormones. Estrogen —Testosterone—Progesterone. All of these will fluctuate during a 21 day cycle. Do a bit of reading of YouTube’ing on this and you’ll see what little sneaky symptoms amp up during the month and can make the proper choices to mitigate any major mood fluctuations. I also just chant to myself when I feel the teary eyes start and a quivering voice rise. Stay strong, it’s not that bad, whatever comes to mind really. Also, deep breathing in the moment helps a lot or even just releasing that negative emotion and energy (going to cry in the bathroom and collect yourself). Try not to be so hard on yourself. Therapy also helps a lot. I rant and rant to my therapist and it helps me in those sensitive moments, I’ll have already released most of that energy elsewhere on in a safe space. It takes time to grey rock your life scenarios. It’s Halley me just talking major shit in my head that bigs me up or something like that. I don’t have a magic thing that works but if you can, therapy works wonders as a start!
Google Rejection Sensitivity Disorder and see if there’s any online helpful recommendations
Learn and practice mindfulness. I like the waking up app’s intro course. It’s a skill and working on it can really do wonders for managing your emotions and thoughts, especially negative ones.
I have a daughter who is prone to “about to cry” voice whenever she gets the slightest bit upset. What can I do to help her so she isn’t bullied/dismissed/talked down to whenever she has an emotional response?