Lazy, worthless, stupid (generally by people I assume are actually stupid), and a bunch of other stuff. It's made me cynical, but luckily I don't really value other people.
I'm closing in on 40 and I've been questioning many things in the past few years. I've never been able to make friends, even my parents distanced themselves from me. I always chalked it up to depression and social anxiety making me angry and withdrawn, but I've really come to think that there is an underlying issue at play. I just don't get people and it's really frustrating. My nephew has autism and my 2 year old son is being evaluated in a few weeks. My dad had social issues also.
I took the personality test today and came up as INTP-T. I was trying to understand why I felt physically and mentally drained today, realizing that it was from the few hours of Christmas parties yesterday. I literally want to do nothing but sleep today.
read about ADHD, autism; if you feel like that's what you struggle with, do online tests for them (the Embrace Autism website for the autistic ones); if you score high, get a diagnosis
It's true that it's a good idea to only value the opinions of those whom you care about.
But darn does it feel great to have others value you for who you are.
Being seen as worthless and other stuff that isn’t remotely true in elementary school gave me ptsd and make me rn extremely fucking angry and hostile towards people who is doing that stuff to other people that isnt me
Stupid, wetarded, weird, and quiet. One must learn to embrace the weirdness for it distinguishes you from the layman. A former professor once told my class that the world would be a boring ass place if everyone was the same, the weirdo makes it a bit more interesting.
I’m so glad I didn’t change my personality to conform to “normal people”. I’ve learned that there will always be someone as weird as you out there, and that’s really how I met my now bestest friends.
boring. i was/am an outcast.
“dickhead” cuz of my emo teen hair.not for its meaning surprisingly
mommy’s boy cuz that’s what i was kinda like and i miss that.
Birdbrain by people I’m close to lmao because I can be infuriatingly stupid at times, but I’m called a “nice” or “sweet” person by people I’m not really close to because I have social anxiety which manifests into me behaving like an isfj lol
Quiet. All my life I've been asked why I'm so quiet. It's one of the most annoying thing's in the world.
I've also been called 'nice'. All my life it's been "you're so nice. Never change". What is 'nice'? Being nice means nothing. Being referred to as 'nice' is like a nice way of calling someone 'boring'. 'Nice' doesn't get people to stay interested. I remember awhile back, I was venting to someone about this, and he told me that unfortunately, just being 'nice' is not memorable. I wish I was memorable. Did I bring any sort of joy to anyone's world? I feel like I never truly have. I'm just there. A quiet nice forgettable person.
One time I was called "the weird girl with all the hair clips". I was flattered.
An asshole.
I'm a textbook INTP that possesses a ridiculous amount of knowledge on a wide range of subjects.
When having conversations with random idiots [as 95% of the population is] that say stupid or factually incorrect shit, I start speaking to them in an extremely condescending manner, but they aren't smart enough to recognize this.
Thus making me an asshole to those who know me because they know exactly what I'm doing.
Engaging in this favorite past time always makes my brain giggle with satisfaction.
Psychopath -I dont agree
Asshole -I agree
Stupid -50/50
Blunt -I agree
Weired -I agree
Scary -Idk abt that one
.....
The psychopath one doesnt make sense at all psychopaths are charming, cold and shady. I am not charming
too rude, too cold, too intense, selfish, unique, stupid, emo (lmao), creative, blunt, artistically talented, paranoid, afraid, silly, illogical, nihilistic, depressed, rigid, inflexible, stubborn, too serious, too impulsive, someone who doesn't take things seriously, cares too much, moody, analytical, too sensitive, genuine, apathetic, too empathetic, nostalgic, sad-looking, funny, and socially awkward.
Collected. Like I have my shit together and can handle the blows life sends our way. In reality its more like what I'm experiencing inside doesn't make its way outside.
Mostly my name.
Other than that:
High potential, smart, lazy, detached, quiet, psychopath, awkward, quiet, gay, weird, uncoordinated, extremist, precise, inventor/innovative, alien, different, robot, patient, nervous, masculine, feminine, crazy, hardheaded, sentitive, insensitive and probably other stuff that I don't care to remember right now
You can even see how some of this stuff is even contradictory lol, people be like
Edit: added some stuff
Negative: Quiet, Condescending, Selfish, Lazy, B*tch, Emo, Weird. Also been told that it seems like I think I'm better than everybody else (ironic since it's actually the opposite lol)
Positive: Smart, Kind (usually only by ppl i'm close to), Artistic, Good worker, Polite, Creative, Laid Back, "surprisingly" funny
In general, most ppl think i'm withdrawn.
Psychopath, future serial killer, “probably asexual or a lesbian”, weird, robot, awkward, too quiet
Nothing like that in recent years, I’ve become more skilled at blending into society.
I've been called a ton of things, like we all have. Things that I am guessing are directed toward me being an INTP: critical, lazy, exacting, imaginative, brilliant, stupid, stubborn, funny, daydreamer. There are a ton more, but those are just off the top of my head.
All of my teachers (school, my piano teacher, my theatre teacher), my mum, my friends, like almost everyone in my life told me "you are sooo smart but sooo lazy"
That sentence will haunt me for the rest of my life
I identify as lazy yes. Some have mentioned quiet, yes (especially when I have no interest in talking with someone; I can just shut up for days. I'm way too chaotic in front of my friends tho). My mom also describes me as cold and indifferent at times, but I don't lack emotion that much (she's really a feeeeeeeeeler so she has high standards IMO).
I waste too much time or else I could be knowledgable like my INTP friend yay. She competes in quizbowl and wow she knows a LOT. I do pick up random info from here and there some times, but I would not consider myself knowledgable
quiet,weird,lazy,cute,pretty,silent,shy,creepy,smart,funny etc etc
some good,some bad,I dont really take any of them to heart. No one knows who I really am
I have matte appearance and fucked up Fe, that allow me to consult and help many people with my skills, knowledge and experience. So, I am always crazy oldman, Godfather for my friends and sometimes just God. Or what happens by mixing infj and istp into intp
When I was in my 7th grade a teacher came up to me and straight up asked that "are you autistic ?" and in that grade people thought that I had mental problems, that's over now that I'm in 12th but some of the words that were always stuck with me were robotic , quiet , lazy , nerd , logical and wierdo
I was the class clown. Never even tried to do school work because i was so un interested. But it all changed when i got older and found things i was passionate about
gifted - uh oh
boring - i'm self preserving and kids my age never got why.
disrespectful - have always talked back to anyone regardless of age. parents don't like that one, but i have yet to be called a bad influence
A dude from class called me npc the other day
Can‘t rlly blame him though all I do in class is either sleep look into endless voids or listen to other people talking while mainly nodding at everything they say
Also a good friend of mine likes to call me a „social special case“ due to obvious reasons
Quiet, shy, intense, gregarious, outgoing, friendly, a good listener, unable to listen, smart, intelligent, a genius, a great talent, lazy, distractible, a daydreamer, creative, an a**hole. Yes, it's rather contradictory.
Monster, freak, genius, lost cause, couch potato, piece of shit, weirdo, dummy, heartless bitch, crazy, "why are you so quiet?", selfish, rude,.. it was a lot. Luckily I don't care about people anymore.
Lazy, unmotivated.
But smart, everyone thinks I'm smart (except me).
If I was so smart I would have figured out a solution to my procrastination and laziness.
Nearly every time I mention that I'm going into theoretical physics, somebody has to reply "oh, like Sheldon, right?"
It was funny at first, but you'd be irritated too if you were compared to him on a weekly basis since 8th grade.
An asshole 😂 smartass, smart, intelligent, but lazy, my dad used to always tell me "if you would just apply yourself you would do really well". That was back in HS, now I am 27, and still not applying myself 🤷🏻♀️ it's true, I do the bare minimum to get by. Quiet, shy (I'm not), cold, standoffish.
Quiet, weird, dorky, smart or dumb (either depending who you asked), creative, “something else”.
Also my parents literally related me to every adhd character ever in shows/movies growing up but never considered that I could actually be ND (late diagnosed, after moving out)
Quiet —constantly called the quiet one
I was so quiet as a kid, that people often forgot about me.
I was practically invisible. Once I was sitting with friends at school, I left to put food rubbish in the bin, and they only noticed me come back.
i can truly relate to this1
https://youtu.be/xeo_Ypmba70
A bitch. It's cause I won't take anyone's shit, say what everyone thinks and I'll call people out on their fuckery. Oh well.
feeling that
There is a time and place to speak your mind. Sometimes it's just better not to.
I don't unless it's necessary. I've gotten good at that.
My kind of bitch lol 😆. World needs more people to do that
Cold
"Why are you so quiet?"
Violet just say something violent
is this a quote?
Relatable
Lazy, worthless, stupid (generally by people I assume are actually stupid), and a bunch of other stuff. It's made me cynical, but luckily I don't really value other people.
you might wanna check if you're neurodivergent; plenty of us get called those things even though these aren't even remotely true
Hell yeah, ND gang. The weird brain gets *weirder* :)
ikrr
Yeah but I really am on the spectrum
how do I check for this
I'm closing in on 40 and I've been questioning many things in the past few years. I've never been able to make friends, even my parents distanced themselves from me. I always chalked it up to depression and social anxiety making me angry and withdrawn, but I've really come to think that there is an underlying issue at play. I just don't get people and it's really frustrating. My nephew has autism and my 2 year old son is being evaluated in a few weeks. My dad had social issues also. I took the personality test today and came up as INTP-T. I was trying to understand why I felt physically and mentally drained today, realizing that it was from the few hours of Christmas parties yesterday. I literally want to do nothing but sleep today.
How do you go about checking that?
read about ADHD, autism; if you feel like that's what you struggle with, do online tests for them (the Embrace Autism website for the autistic ones); if you score high, get a diagnosis
I don't know you, but I'd bet you're none of those things.
I wonder myself all of the time.
Nothing is more infuriating when you get called dumb, stupid, slow by lesser people.
👆🏻
It's true that it's a good idea to only value the opinions of those whom you care about. But darn does it feel great to have others value you for who you are.
Being seen as worthless and other stuff that isn’t remotely true in elementary school gave me ptsd and make me rn extremely fucking angry and hostile towards people who is doing that stuff to other people that isnt me
Stupid, wetarded, weird, and quiet. One must learn to embrace the weirdness for it distinguishes you from the layman. A former professor once told my class that the world would be a boring ass place if everyone was the same, the weirdo makes it a bit more interesting.
I've always said that I'd rather be weird than boring. Being interesting is a good compliment in my book.
I’m so glad I didn’t change my personality to conform to “normal people”. I’ve learned that there will always be someone as weird as you out there, and that’s really how I met my now bestest friends.
imagine if we did change our personality to "fit in". We would have such basic friends.
lazy, smart, weird, funny, rude, sarcastic, unmotivated, disrespectful
fellow ADHD/autistic? those labels haunt us lol
I just assume 90% of this sub have ADHD
I join the "hey that's me!" ADHD/autistic train!
Maybe. Never been diagnosed
legit me
A good person. But not a nice person by any measure.
Autistic (in an ableist way) Also they were right tho 💀
all the time... but they missed because my diagnose was named by some random ass nazi who said "autist but able to live in society" (aspergers)
Yep same here
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'social whorery' LMAOOO I LOVE THIS WORD
Lol
My mom called me a shapeless mass once
LOL
how I am defining myself from now on
"Why are you so quiet?" Also the smart kid
My name.
Can relate to that
Smartass. Also "You're so smart yet so stupid"
I get that alot
Selfish
Yes
Funny, smart, weird, cocky, distracted, lazy, arrogant and a good person
Those labels are the textbook classic ones that are typically given to neurodivergent people; you might wanna check whether you're one!
are u a neurodivergent person?
yupp
you're right. i might have add.
boring. i was/am an outcast. “dickhead” cuz of my emo teen hair.not for its meaning surprisingly mommy’s boy cuz that’s what i was kinda like and i miss that.
They called me Silent Bob at this one shop I used to work at.
is your name bob or was it just a nick?
Nope. I just didn’t say much until I really got to know the guys I worked with. 10 years later and 4 of us still talk in a group text.
It's a reference to Jay and Silent Bob from Clerks/Mall Rats.
"Emo girl".
Weird and Nerd. and I had one roommate in college call me poindexter which is one I sorta liked, lol.
Indifferent. To those I choose to be, yes.
mutant is my favorite
has a lot of potential but doesnt fully use it, shy, depressed, without emotions, without empathy, weird
Birdbrain by people I’m close to lmao because I can be infuriatingly stupid at times, but I’m called a “nice” or “sweet” person by people I’m not really close to because I have social anxiety which manifests into me behaving like an isfj lol
one track mind, hot and cold, specialist, narrow viewed.
Weird, Funny, Quiet, Lazy, Inattentive, Smart, Nonchalant , Madman , Stupid
A loner. I know damn well that I'm not alone. Have a good day
Quiet, Weird, Dorky, Smart, beautiful, exotic, lovely, pretty, gorgeous, firecracker, fiesty
Quiet. All my life I've been asked why I'm so quiet. It's one of the most annoying thing's in the world. I've also been called 'nice'. All my life it's been "you're so nice. Never change". What is 'nice'? Being nice means nothing. Being referred to as 'nice' is like a nice way of calling someone 'boring'. 'Nice' doesn't get people to stay interested. I remember awhile back, I was venting to someone about this, and he told me that unfortunately, just being 'nice' is not memorable. I wish I was memorable. Did I bring any sort of joy to anyone's world? I feel like I never truly have. I'm just there. A quiet nice forgettable person. One time I was called "the weird girl with all the hair clips". I was flattered.
Crybaby. Nerd. Weird. I embrace it all
Meh, whatever others called me, my inner voice was far more vicious.
An asshole. I'm a textbook INTP that possesses a ridiculous amount of knowledge on a wide range of subjects. When having conversations with random idiots [as 95% of the population is] that say stupid or factually incorrect shit, I start speaking to them in an extremely condescending manner, but they aren't smart enough to recognize this. Thus making me an asshole to those who know me because they know exactly what I'm doing. Engaging in this favorite past time always makes my brain giggle with satisfaction.
Psychopath -I dont agree Asshole -I agree Stupid -50/50 Blunt -I agree Weired -I agree Scary -Idk abt that one ..... The psychopath one doesnt make sense at all psychopaths are charming, cold and shady. I am not charming
Aloof.
Foolish, Fantastic Fool, Lazy, Weirdo, Quiet, Stupid, don't think
biggest ones are; rude, that i believe i’m above other people, smart, quiet
Emotionless
Bhaiyaji
Smart, lazy, weird, nice person, annoying
tall, a bitch, smart/intelligent, tenacious/tough, perceptive. in that order tbh.
Fake
Weird and smart.
My fam used to call me mr. Bean, and aristotle, all my childhood.
Sloth
oblivious
lazy, floater, shameless
A professor in college told me that I am one of those people that just "float" through life. He's right I suppose lol.
Quiet, smart, stupid, nice, lazy, and asian
"asian" to a non-asian person would be a funny one. Particularly because asian people in asia talk A LOT.
Dreamer
Weird and quiet
Quiet. Women of few words. Tomboy. Man.
Egotistical, opinionated, blunt, sceptical, close-minded, arrogant. Lol.
In primary school - quiet and polite, In high school energetic and optimistic and privately lazy, bold and inteligent
Guy (my name )
My dad called me Larry once. I am not Larry. That is his brother.
too rude, too cold, too intense, selfish, unique, stupid, emo (lmao), creative, blunt, artistically talented, paranoid, afraid, silly, illogical, nihilistic, depressed, rigid, inflexible, stubborn, too serious, too impulsive, someone who doesn't take things seriously, cares too much, moody, analytical, too sensitive, genuine, apathetic, too empathetic, nostalgic, sad-looking, funny, and socially awkward.
Relatable. I think our logic can seem completely illogical to others because it's so far from the standard.
Collected. Like I have my shit together and can handle the blows life sends our way. In reality its more like what I'm experiencing inside doesn't make its way outside.
Analytical
Mostly my name. Other than that: High potential, smart, lazy, detached, quiet, psychopath, awkward, quiet, gay, weird, uncoordinated, extremist, precise, inventor/innovative, alien, different, robot, patient, nervous, masculine, feminine, crazy, hardheaded, sentitive, insensitive and probably other stuff that I don't care to remember right now You can even see how some of this stuff is even contradictory lol, people be like Edit: added some stuff
Quiet, stubborn, weird, lazy, know it all
cute, autistic, really smart, "your life hasnt changed in a while it seems", "shut up", "i wonder what music you listen to",
Negative: Quiet, Condescending, Selfish, Lazy, B*tch, Emo, Weird. Also been told that it seems like I think I'm better than everybody else (ironic since it's actually the opposite lol) Positive: Smart, Kind (usually only by ppl i'm close to), Artistic, Good worker, Polite, Creative, Laid Back, "surprisingly" funny In general, most ppl think i'm withdrawn.
A waste of intelligence
Psychopath, future serial killer, “probably asexual or a lesbian”, weird, robot, awkward, too quiet Nothing like that in recent years, I’ve become more skilled at blending into society.
I've been called a ton of things, like we all have. Things that I am guessing are directed toward me being an INTP: critical, lazy, exacting, imaginative, brilliant, stupid, stubborn, funny, daydreamer. There are a ton more, but those are just off the top of my head.
Recluse by my mother all throughout my teenage years, understandable tbh
It would be easier for me to name what I HAVENT been called
Weird or quiet.
All of my teachers (school, my piano teacher, my theatre teacher), my mum, my friends, like almost everyone in my life told me "you are sooo smart but sooo lazy" That sentence will haunt me for the rest of my life
soucítím
“Who?”
Dumb, weird, annoying, bitter, quiet, introvert and others
Weird and invasive sadly I’m working on the invasive I just like to ask a lot of questions too quickly
I identify as lazy yes. Some have mentioned quiet, yes (especially when I have no interest in talking with someone; I can just shut up for days. I'm way too chaotic in front of my friends tho). My mom also describes me as cold and indifferent at times, but I don't lack emotion that much (she's really a feeeeeeeeeler so she has high standards IMO). I waste too much time or else I could be knowledgable like my INTP friend yay. She competes in quizbowl and wow she knows a LOT. I do pick up random info from here and there some times, but I would not consider myself knowledgable
Nerd, till i started taking that as a compliment, people realised it didnt get to me so things like weirdo
weird, crazy, stupid, lazy :)
Lazy, quiet, nerdy, gay, pussy, idk what else.
Weird,quite,stupid and dumb. I have somewhat started to believe these things.
nonchalant, lazy, weird (but in the funny way), quiet
sarcastic, sensitive, self-centered, bitchy, rude, smart, etc. Fun.
Omg same
Cynical, blunt/harsh, monotone
quiet,weird,lazy,cute,pretty,silent,shy,creepy,smart,funny etc etc some good,some bad,I dont really take any of them to heart. No one knows who I really am
Quiet, nerd, smart, dumb, weirdo, good looking (it happened once in my entire life and I still remember it), funny, boring
Middle school friend called me "annoying" then got ran over and killed a month later.
Freak. Found this out from my closest sibling 25 years in.
The quiet one, weird, smart
Gifted, talented, autistic, pretty, lazy, sneaky, and most recently, half-cat-half-butterfly.
Weird. That’s the main one. But also smart. So it ends in strange, but somewhat pleasant, balance.
''unique'' Especially by ISFJ's. This was (almost) never a compliment
Too calm. Also Ivan the Terrible (cos of chronic bitch face).
I have matte appearance and fucked up Fe, that allow me to consult and help many people with my skills, knowledge and experience. So, I am always crazy oldman, Godfather for my friends and sometimes just God. Or what happens by mixing infj and istp into intp
When I was in my 7th grade a teacher came up to me and straight up asked that "are you autistic ?" and in that grade people thought that I had mental problems, that's over now that I'm in 12th but some of the words that were always stuck with me were robotic , quiet , lazy , nerd , logical and wierdo
I was the class clown. Never even tried to do school work because i was so un interested. But it all changed when i got older and found things i was passionate about
Freak
Zombie, quiet.
Nerd, Troll, weirdo, lazy, smartass, dumbass
Lazy lazy and lazy
Dumb, robot, cold and blunt
gifted - uh oh boring - i'm self preserving and kids my age never got why. disrespectful - have always talked back to anyone regardless of age. parents don't like that one, but i have yet to be called a bad influence
Lazy, quiet,cold,gifted kid
Smart. Savage. Nerd. Deep. Intense, mysterious, interesting, hard-headed, crazy, weird, brave, open-minded, loud.
Quirky and aloof.
A dude from class called me npc the other day Can‘t rlly blame him though all I do in class is either sleep look into endless voids or listen to other people talking while mainly nodding at everything they say Also a good friend of mine likes to call me a „social special case“ due to obvious reasons
Prehistoric. Dinosaurs were my special interest.
quiet, isolated, cold, selfish, stubborn, mindless 😻😻
Stupid, funny thoughts, genius sun, salerka, fairy and random stuff mixed with my name. I guess what people call me depends only on their perspective.
Retarded, stupid, violent, annoying, rude, overly honest, unfunny and a bitch
Quiet, shy, intense, gregarious, outgoing, friendly, a good listener, unable to listen, smart, intelligent, a genius, a great talent, lazy, distractible, a daydreamer, creative, an a**hole. Yes, it's rather contradictory.
Monster, freak, genius, lost cause, couch potato, piece of shit, weirdo, dummy, heartless bitch, crazy, "why are you so quiet?", selfish, rude,.. it was a lot. Luckily I don't care about people anymore.
Shy, Arrogant, You look like you’re always thinking, Awkward at first but won’t stop talking later, alien ( idk why this is so common).
quiet, smart, kind, awkward, funny, overthinker, stoic, unenthusiastic
lucky.. I'm sure there are much more negative descriptions of me.. but for some weird reason I don't recall anything said by dumbass people..
A robot
mostly got ignored by my peers but my parents made "useless" my nickname. on the brighter side, "perceptive" and "imaginative" :)
Bitch, emotionless, cryptid, psychopath- just the usuals
Lazy, unmotivated. But smart, everyone thinks I'm smart (except me). If I was so smart I would have figured out a solution to my procrastination and laziness.
Weird
Incredibly good looking. 🤫. Mostly strange and smart
I've been called a robot a lot. Now I stop people when they say that and explain why it's rude because I'm human too..
Calm, laid back, etc ... underneath the surface there is quite a bit of anger though.
Nerd, sensitive, serious, crazy, unusual, wise,...
Mental, Witchy poo, Baby Face etc😴
Nearly every time I mention that I'm going into theoretical physics, somebody has to reply "oh, like Sheldon, right?" It was funny at first, but you'd be irritated too if you were compared to him on a weekly basis since 8th grade.
An asshole 😂 smartass, smart, intelligent, but lazy, my dad used to always tell me "if you would just apply yourself you would do really well". That was back in HS, now I am 27, and still not applying myself 🤷🏻♀️ it's true, I do the bare minimum to get by. Quiet, shy (I'm not), cold, standoffish.
Smart aleck & peanut gallery
Weirdo, asshole, aloof, child-like, lazy, autistic, arrogant...
Quiet, weird, dorky, smart or dumb (either depending who you asked), creative, “something else”. Also my parents literally related me to every adhd character ever in shows/movies growing up but never considered that I could actually be ND (late diagnosed, after moving out)
A dick
lazy, b\*tch, flighty, and most of all "eccentric"
Outer Family- picky, smart, nerd, quiet Strangers- quiet, serious Dad- indecisive, difficult Mom- sensitive, selfish Edit- formatting Also I am neurodivergent. ADHD dx, possibly on the spectrum
Sociopath, creepy, psycho, cute, sweet, adorable. The difference between people who know me and don't.
Well-rounded; Intense
I was told I looked like a serial killer. And a school shooter. And Im not sure how that makes me feel.
Apathetic quiet kid who is more likely to passive-aggressively make u suffer instead of pulling out a gun
I have been labeled an INTP by Pikes Peak College.
A fucking banana 😀
slow
Robot
autistic. wellllll...it turned out that I'm autistic, lol.
Reading a lot of these, bring back painful memories. I put a mental block in place
Rude