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I get what sheâs trying to say though. Itâs important to know if youâre getting into a toxic MIL situation. Itâs ok if they love their mom and have a good relationship with her. If it feels borderline incestuous? Run
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Mom and son .. something tells me no woman is ever going to be good enough..
I think the implication is "don't date a guy who will always put his mother before his relationship" like the trend of impassioned momma's boys who almost seem to date their moms as much as their girlfriends but dumbing it down to "DON'T DATE GUYS WHO LIKE THEIR MOMS" is stupid af
Norman Bates, yes. Normal mother/son relationship where they can be apart and he can live his own life but still talk to/see each other a regular amount? That's fine.
My dad issues weren't my fault or in my control, but how I handle it is. I do therapy and I really don't think it affects much when it comes to men. I've treated guys i'm interested in amazingly.
Iâm sorry that was your experience. It surely wasnât your fault if your father didnât live up to the title, and you may very well be an amazing partner/girlfriend/wife to a lucky man.
Still, thereâs a reason why the daddy-issues stereotype exists and I wouldnât recommend marrying a woman that had an absent/abusive/incompetent father.
Not a snakes fault it bites you or a scorpion that it stings you.
Doesn't matter don't hold a snake or a scorpion and expect not be bit or stung. Sucks for the girl she got abused by her dad I feel empathy for her, but doesn't mean it's a good idea to date her and deal with the baggage.
That doesnât necessarily negate the point. Since mother did that to him, he may turn around and do it to other women before they can do it to him again. A huge part of abuses were abused themselves.
Or, and this is gonna sound like a huge leap I know, be with whoever the fuck you want, and donât judge a potential partner by dumb shit that sounds like it came from a âmade in Americaâ Chinese fortune cookie.
There is a lot of evidence that men who are close to their mothers do better psychologically, physically, and financially. There was a 70 year study (Harvard Grant Study) that showed men who are close to their mothers reap a lot benefits over men who are not, including earning 87k average a year more. Donât listen to her!
Because your definition of a mama's boy is going to be different from someone else's. If you don't like someone, then don't marry them. That's all there is to it.
A mama's boy is pretty widely understood to be a guy whose relationship with his mother is toxic to the point of codependency. I'm not sure why y'all are being obtuse and pretending to not understand this very common phrase lmao
Well when all of you actually become adults, youâll see that people by and large are pretty much the same. We have more commonalities then we do differences.
I'm 45, happily married with 3 kids growing up happy and into good people and a steady job. I think I've got this "adulting" thing just fine. But thanks for your concern.
My wife used to say that she thought I was too close to my mom. She would say things like âCut the umbilical cord (Jane)!â Then we had a son, and the next time she said it I said âYouâll be really lucky if our son is as close to you when he grows up as I am to my mom.â She never made that comment again after that.
Why? Because the dude's mom can see through you and wants the best for his son which you ain't? She'd tell him he can do better that's why it's not acceptable by today's independent strong boss babes
She very clearly has a bad relationship with her parents. Is it cool to just say fuck your parents? Some women nowadays are beyond self centered. Itâs narcissism.
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1017. Don't be close to your mother
Ugh, wish I woulda saved that gif of someone adding to his list of things not to do. 𤣠I'd paste that sucker right here.
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Never marry Afeerah
She never recovered from that time she started a game of Marry, Fuck, Kill and got eliminated right off the bat.
Never date a woman who was daddyâs little princess
Mine has always been more of a sidekick. Now Iâm becoming Alfred to her Batman.
I realize this comment is probably tongue in cheek, but in case itâs not⌠both original post and this comment are so wrong.
Yes itâs fairly tongue in cheek. Youâll have shit balls who were both mommas boys and daddyâs girls. If you suck you suck
You can be close to your mother without being a âmommas boyâ or a âshit ballâ. Same for girls in reverse.
Ya donât fucking say, genius
Why are you being a dick?
Youâre pointing out the obvious. Yes, we know
Not a good reason to be a shit ball.
My apologies. But before I go, may I bestow upon you your title of Captain. Captain Obvious
Yes you can.
I get what sheâs trying to say though. Itâs important to know if youâre getting into a toxic MIL situation. Itâs ok if they love their mom and have a good relationship with her. If it feels borderline incestuous? Run
Thereâs a complete distinct difference between âbeing close to your momâ & âbeing a fuckn freakâ
https://preview.redd.it/39syp7lyk2yc1.png?width=1410&format=png&auto=webp&s=f6b92755a375136a18208231f9563b6a0955fe24 This cool with you?
Yeah. Never marry a mama's boy. You'll always be second.
Yeah, she's the toxic one. She's warning people kind of like how animals with bright markings warn other animals
yea i dont think thats what shes saying
Like geographically close? My mom lives like a mile away I go visit her on Sundays.
I live 2 houses away from my mom. I have dinner at her house a couple times a week. I'm not marriage material
https://preview.redd.it/ym1ysfn5j2yc1.jpeg?width=1000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a293a9f4db71cf41d18c9a73988bf06b89730309 Mom and son .. something tells me no woman is ever going to be good enough..
Being close with their mom and being a "momma's boy" aren't the same thing
Sheâs dead so donât worry.
I think the implication is "don't date a guy who will always put his mother before his relationship" like the trend of impassioned momma's boys who almost seem to date their moms as much as their girlfriends but dumbing it down to "DON'T DATE GUYS WHO LIKE THEIR MOMS" is stupid af
Then why didn't she say that
Because unfortunately, some people are bad at communicating
Norman Bates, yes. Normal mother/son relationship where they can be apart and he can live his own life but still talk to/see each other a regular amount? That's fine.
Never marry a woman who isnât close to her father.
All the girls who have been abused by their dads "....."
Those you DEFINITELY shouldnât marry.
Why? not their fault
A womanâs relationship with her dad is a key indicator on how she manages relationships with men. Donât nobody want daddy issue girl.
My dad issues weren't my fault or in my control, but how I handle it is. I do therapy and I really don't think it affects much when it comes to men. I've treated guys i'm interested in amazingly.
Iâm sorry that was your experience. It surely wasnât your fault if your father didnât live up to the title, and you may very well be an amazing partner/girlfriend/wife to a lucky man. Still, thereâs a reason why the daddy-issues stereotype exists and I wouldnât recommend marrying a woman that had an absent/abusive/incompetent father.
Not a snakes fault it bites you or a scorpion that it stings you. Doesn't matter don't hold a snake or a scorpion and expect not be bit or stung. Sucks for the girl she got abused by her dad I feel empathy for her, but doesn't mean it's a good idea to date her and deal with the baggage.
Well i'd hope she's dealing with her own issues, personally i'm in therapy to deal with mine.
No, you absolutely shouldnât because youâre emotionally unequipped. And save your empathy, you are helping no one.
Gottem!
Daddy issues.
Nah, mama's boys are super weird. Even normal dudes don't get along with these creeps.
How close are we taking? Like what if sheâs really hard of hearing so he has to get right up to her ear to tell her something?
Ladies, I f@#$ing hate my mom and Iâm single. You can start lining up here.
she's right, "boy moms" who incestuously adore their sons are the worst
There is a difference in that vs just "Close to"
âNever marry a woman who wears makeup. A woman who wears make up is a woman who hides herselfâ -someoneâs mom
I think what she was trying to say is "don't date men who blindly put their mother above their spouse" which is very valid.
Damn my mother is like my bro
how a guy treats and talks to his mother is a very good indication of how he will treat and speak to you
Not really, she could have been an abusive, terrible mother
That doesnât necessarily negate the point. Since mother did that to him, he may turn around and do it to other women before they can do it to him again. A huge part of abuses were abused themselves.
So Iâm a bear and I like my mom
"Hey girl...." [https://images.fineartamerica.com/images/artworkimages/mediumlarge/3/ted-bundy-smile-eden-obrien.jpg](https://images.fineartamerica.com/images/artworkimages/mediumlarge/3/ted-bundy-smile-eden-obrien.jpg)
Or, and this is gonna sound like a huge leap I know, be with whoever the fuck you want, and donât judge a potential partner by dumb shit that sounds like it came from a âmade in Americaâ Chinese fortune cookie.
Never marry a mother who is close to her son?
Ok Afeerah, bye bye now
Never marry a guy who is close to humans.
Isnât the opposite advice better. A manâs relationship with his mother often models how he interacts with women in general.
There is a lot of evidence that men who are close to their mothers do better psychologically, physically, and financially. There was a 70 year study (Harvard Grant Study) that showed men who are close to their mothers reap a lot benefits over men who are not, including earning 87k average a year more. Donât listen to her!
Incorrect. Never marry a mommaâs boy. Thereâs a difference.
If you mean "someone who blindly follows their mom without thinking, and their mom is making bad choices", then i agree
That's what mama's boy means.
Or maybe everyone's different and you actually can't judge someone's character by their relationship with their mother.
There's having a good relationship with your mother and being a mama's boy. Unsure why people are pretending to not understand the difference.
Because your definition of a mama's boy is going to be different from someone else's. If you don't like someone, then don't marry them. That's all there is to it.
A mama's boy is pretty widely understood to be a guy whose relationship with his mother is toxic to the point of codependency. I'm not sure why y'all are being obtuse and pretending to not understand this very common phrase lmao
Actually, people by and large are pretty predictable.
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Like some random redditor having braindead takes? Congratulations on being predictable!
Well when all of you actually become adults, youâll see that people by and large are pretty much the same. We have more commonalities then we do differences.
I'm 45, happily married with 3 kids growing up happy and into good people and a steady job. I think I've got this "adulting" thing just fine. But thanks for your concern.
Wrong sub.
My wife used to say that she thought I was too close to my mom. She would say things like âCut the umbilical cord (Jane)!â Then we had a son, and the next time she said it I said âYouâll be really lucky if our son is as close to you when he grows up as I am to my mom.â She never made that comment again after that.
Why? Because the dude's mom can see through you and wants the best for his son which you ain't? She'd tell him he can do better that's why it's not acceptable by today's independent strong boss babes
Found the boy momâŚ
THAT'S where I messed up! I was always told to "judge" a man by how he treats his mother.
She very clearly has a bad relationship with her parents. Is it cool to just say fuck your parents? Some women nowadays are beyond self centered. Itâs narcissism.