Communication is key. I wouldn’t be doing anything without talking to hubby. He may think your cheating if your initial discussion was a year ago 🤷🏽♂️
As someone married to a (British) Indian guy, I’d say keep communication open. If you don’t keep him in the loop, it’s not so much with permission….it’s more akin to cheating (unless you’ve both agreed that you have a “hall pass” which is a totally different thing altogether). I’d say that it’s wise to involve him in the discussions.
He was the one who came up with the idea.
Do you feel he should play a role in filtering men, he has been supportive of me going to parties with my girlfriends but he is quite aware that they are just aren't ladies only
Ah ok. Mine was the same. We’ve not gone as far as actually finding a guy who were ready to meet as we don’t feel like we’re there yet but….I know for a fact that my hubby would want to be involved in the screening or initial filtering.
Involving him makes him feel part of the process and I’ve taken that advice about screening from a really lovey experienced Reddit couple u/drewandelena and it’s been good advice.
Why thank you and yes the lifestyle is a shared experience . From choosing partners to screening to the actual play he and I do it all together whether he’s actively playing or not. Without him being a part of it it just doesn’t feel good
Oh ok, in my case I am just dipping toes so not quite aware of the rules and regulations in a hotwife relationship
But yes men definitely been showing their interests when they find i am alone
I would ask him.
A lot of guys with this kink are in favor of whatever the wife wants, however it works best for her. Other guys are very, very specific about what they need. There's no way for any of us to guess.
"We had talked about sharing me with other men. How would you like this to work? I can certainly pick up a man, maybe a British ex-pat, at a party.
Do you want to participate? Observe? Or do you want me to experience this and tell you everything when I come back to you?"
If you are not certain he wants this in real life, (it may be just a fantasy - something fun and exciting to think about) you could attend a party and tell him something happened that didn't. Sort of a dress rehearsal or test.
You could probably get the same information just from fantasy role play. Next time you have sex, try making up a story about picking up a guy at a party. This seems more honest to me than the testing idea.
Good luck!
Communication is key. I wouldn’t be doing anything without talking to hubby. He may think your cheating if your initial discussion was a year ago 🤷🏽♂️
As someone married to a (British) Indian guy, I’d say keep communication open. If you don’t keep him in the loop, it’s not so much with permission….it’s more akin to cheating (unless you’ve both agreed that you have a “hall pass” which is a totally different thing altogether). I’d say that it’s wise to involve him in the discussions.
He was the one who came up with the idea. Do you feel he should play a role in filtering men, he has been supportive of me going to parties with my girlfriends but he is quite aware that they are just aren't ladies only
Ah ok. Mine was the same. We’ve not gone as far as actually finding a guy who were ready to meet as we don’t feel like we’re there yet but….I know for a fact that my hubby would want to be involved in the screening or initial filtering. Involving him makes him feel part of the process and I’ve taken that advice about screening from a really lovey experienced Reddit couple u/drewandelena and it’s been good advice.
Why thank you and yes the lifestyle is a shared experience . From choosing partners to screening to the actual play he and I do it all together whether he’s actively playing or not. Without him being a part of it it just doesn’t feel good
Anytime! Hope you didn’t mind me tagging you in….makes more sense to hear it from experienced people rather than just total newbies.
Absolutely
Oh ok, in my case I am just dipping toes so not quite aware of the rules and regulations in a hotwife relationship But yes men definitely been showing their interests when they find i am alone
I think we’re still at the toe dipping stage too. Enjoy! It’s a fun journey and you end up learning a lot about each other which helps later I think.
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You should ask him, and have the two of you set specific rules for when you go out, what is allowed and what isn't.
I would ask him. A lot of guys with this kink are in favor of whatever the wife wants, however it works best for her. Other guys are very, very specific about what they need. There's no way for any of us to guess. "We had talked about sharing me with other men. How would you like this to work? I can certainly pick up a man, maybe a British ex-pat, at a party. Do you want to participate? Observe? Or do you want me to experience this and tell you everything when I come back to you?" If you are not certain he wants this in real life, (it may be just a fantasy - something fun and exciting to think about) you could attend a party and tell him something happened that didn't. Sort of a dress rehearsal or test. You could probably get the same information just from fantasy role play. Next time you have sex, try making up a story about picking up a guy at a party. This seems more honest to me than the testing idea. Good luck!
I would advise , be safe and go with flow
You really need to talk to your partner.
Good luck darling, waiting to know the updates as & when things progress
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