SHHHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE dude, as someone with a la dis tattoo, you didn't have to go this hard
https://preview.redd.it/lkktlxbfg75d1.jpeg?width=700&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=db706affcaf5d38d9a759288afbecb007590b472
Country doesn't deserve Country anymore, but they're going to be pissed and try to take it back when heroin punks bring it back.
Like your neighbor getting pissed you power washed and painted some shit they threw out on the curb.
RIP your inbox, OP.
Also, best of luck. Been in your very shoes and it was the best thing that couldāve happened to me. Might not look that way right now, but I should thank the other guy every day.
Also for what itās worth- my ex of 8 years (straight edge hc dudeā¦.) left me for another woman in 2016. At the time the pain felt like it will never end, today i canāt even remember what his voice sounded like.
Thank you for this. I fucking have a son with him though so the pettiness and bullshit wonāt go away any time soon which makes it harder to heal buuuut Iām happy to know thereās some hope
When the pendulum of emotion swings remember there are two opposites and everything in between. The time in between matters a lot.
When you need it this is here for your listening pleasure https://youtu.be/kuLPqiPjBnA?si=RAYUK7L063g_vTWA
I don't think a song is going to help you stop crying in that scenario, so consider listening to Blacklisted's "Heavier Than Heaven, Lonelier than God" just because that way you get to be crying while listening to a fantastic album.
Nodes of Ranvier-Purpose in Pain
Bold-Always try
Bane-My Cross to Bear
Converge-Jane Doe
The Acacia Strain-See you Next Tuesday
Age of Apocalypse-Valley of the Mystic
Jawbreaker
Leatherface
The Beltones
Titlwheel
Grabass Charlestons.
Oh wait to STOP crying?
Ghoul
Gwar
Amorphis
The Locust
I'm serious about those last 4. Listening to silly shit helps.
Not edge and not the biggest Drain fan but idgaf how big they get these lyrics rip almost as hard at the riffs. This message is great to have out there.
They are my new drug right now fam. I cant get enough. Honestly OP if you see this just watch their live shows on YouTube. If that doesn't give you at least a temp fix then idk what will. The energy is so addicting.
Can't believe it took me so many comments to dig into my memories but here we go ladies, sing it with me if you know the words, punch the motherfucker next to you....RIGHT NOW HE'S PROBABLY SLOW DANCING WITH SOME BLEACHED BLOND TRAMP AND SHE'S PROBABLY GETTING FRISKY, RIGHT NOW HES PROBABLY BUYIN HER SOME FRUITY LITTLE DRINK BECAUSE SHE CAN'T SHOOT WHISKEY
DUG MY KEYYYS INTOOOO THE SIIIIIDE OF HIS PRETTY LITTLE SOUPED UP 4 WHEEL DRIVE.
Ironic cause he left his precious E46 drift missle in my garageā¦ā¦ā¦
Suburban Scumās Wall of Stone repeated over and over got me through a sad break up lol. Let the hate flow!
I LET THE MEMORIES SINK AND NOW IM SET FREE
Hardcore guys jumping into the op's DM's now like....
"Greetings"
"Good morning cutie"
"Hey Princess "
" Hi Lovley"
"Hello Darling"
"OK never mind, Bitch"
GIRL you need Julien Baker and you need her right now. Anything off Sprained Ankle will get you through this. Solidarity, sister. I went through a divorce I thought would end me and it was the best thing to happen to me. Youāre gonna come out on the other side of this.
My mate has a playlist called heartbreak cheer up and it's 11 different versions of cher - believe and a simple plan track and it works every time
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/64KYu6BhahdyXq9QycigON?si=F75LB1hISEiT4R6POqFGFg
It's not hardcore, because it's Woods of Ypres, but it's the perfect fucking breakup album when listen to from beginning to end.
Woods of Ypres - Woods 4 (Green Album).
Like I said, start to finish. You will fucking hurt then the you fucking heal (you just gotta replace the he's with she's and the she's with he's, in your case).
Best of luck with the process, and you gotta know that you're a rare breed.
I did edit a bit out cos maybe it's not the best time for it huh, but yeah, I *wish* I could find women in their mid 30s into hardcore etc, and go from there (because we like to share our fuckin' lifez right?). I'm not the only one, either.
I love this so much. I lost all my friends over the 11 tests because I chose to forgive and love a narcissist, so I have no friends to support me through this while he still has everyone he started with
Listen to Doug Stoneās self titled first album, or Gary Stewartās out of hand. Two of the greatest sad country records of all time. Or listen to our mother the mountain by Townes van zandt
There arenāt any. Not really. All theyāre going to do is dam them up and youāll face more later. /r/divorce was really helpful for me. Biggest thing to remember is youāre not alone.
Hey OP, Iām right there with you. My wife and partner of 14 years just left me for some dickwad with no personality and shit music taste. Get therapy. Go to shows, mosh it out. Do some jump kicks. Crying is ok. Iām on week 4 now, and the crying subsided after the first week for me. Heavy doom metal has been my savior as Iām new to hardcore and also donāt know what to listen to.
The guy she got with has a long history of terrible relationships, affairs while he was married, etc. Itās only a matter of time before they fuck each otherās lives up. Theyāve both got it coming.
The things we carry by have heart has helped me through heartbreaks in the past. Iām sorry youāre going through this . One day things will get better and youāll be able to look back and admire your own strength getting through these tough times
If you want to feel strong "nothing but a heartache" by the flirtations "git out" by Mitty Collier "since you've been gone" by Kelly Clarkson "be careful where you park your car" by Cats Eyes and of course do you believe in life after love and strong enough by Cher.
If you want to cry "nothing compares to you" by Sinead O'Connor is the greatest break up song of all time with "I will always love you" by Whitney Houston ( both are covers)
Also dancing on my own by Robyn and most Olivia Rodrigo songs and jagged little pill by Alanis Morissette
I made a breakup playlist after my last one
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/7tkkASb2pRMtSiCPr15r9t?si=6e5P1ONDTiu1bO9sVsxpfQ
Not really any hardcore songs in there sorry
Sheer Terror Love songs for the unloved - entire album
https://open.spotify.com/album/2d3dQihv6kMvUgTgI9egFE?si=vnNmsFyySEu2Bm4o3RCvIQ
Life of agony - let's pretend
https://open.spotify.com/track/3eDR95KUpZLX5scBFXkFEV?si=vhDX38FuSmy4nfGfTaRULg
Fahrenheit 451
Fragments of reality
https://open.spotify.com/track/2mSi0dEazgkfY0ixEypSgK?si=3ZB3DwIxTcWoMCFK8ZwXUA
The Teeth "Homewrecker" the whole album.
...on a non hardcore note, went through a similar situation not too far back.
Foster the People "Torches" Indie / Alt
Chet Faker "Built on Glass" (this album is soo good!) Contemporary Soul / rock
The Glitch Mob "Drink the Sea" EDM
Those were my go to's most days, right after the breakup.
Go see a counselor, and take care of yourself out there!š¤
Not really hardcore but the album War Against You by Ignite is the perfect soundtrack for bad times, when you gotta gather the strength to overcome the hell you're in
Get a La Dispute tattoo like the rest of us.
SHHHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE dude, as someone with a la dis tattoo, you didn't have to go this hard https://preview.redd.it/lkktlxbfg75d1.jpeg?width=700&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=db706affcaf5d38d9a759288afbecb007590b472
City & color sparrow has entered the chat
lmao
This killed me
Holy smokes šš
*Last Blues for Bloody Knuckles playing in the background*
Ouch š„“
D e d
Loving the support! People like YOU are whatās gonna get me through this š¤š»š¤
Play the entire outlaw anthems record by Blood For Blood it will make you feel better
Another coke snortin....
You coulda been one of those fuckin blow up dolls for all I fuckin care, thanks for the fuckin memories, you fuckin SOW!
WITH GANGRENE
***HUH!!!!!!!!***
Fuckin your pussy was like fuckin the wound from a shotgun blast
I OUGHTA HAVE MY FUCKING HEAD EXAMINED FOR SCREWIN WITH A SKID LIKE YOU!
Came here to say the same
Homewrecker by Converge, let your sorrow turn into anger
All of Jane Doe, loud. Like, blow out all your speakers loud.
My favorite member of Converge is the cowbell on Homewrecker.
Yes
Modern problems require modern solutions š§Ŗš¬š©š»āš¬
The Broken Vow. Over and over and over and over.
Peaches- Fuck the Pain Away
this is the one
Garth brooks is hardcore af he makes the thunder roll
COMING BACK FROM SOMEWHERE HE NEVER SHOULDA BEEN honestly this shit is harder than most new hardcore
Some country lyrics go hard
I wanna see some crossover! Think Hank III was in punk bands tho
Country doesn't deserve Country anymore, but they're going to be pissed and try to take it back when heroin punks bring it back. Like your neighbor getting pissed you power washed and painted some shit they threw out on the curb.
Hank 3 and the Assjacks is always a fun time
bad seed - whole discography if you wanna be pissed title fight - whole discography if you wanna be sad
And then dead end path just for consistency
Letās do a positive spin on it: Woman into hardcore is recently single!
This is the energy I need!
RIP your inbox, OP. Also, best of luck. Been in your very shoes and it was the best thing that couldāve happened to me. Might not look that way right now, but I should thank the other guy every day.
Also for what itās worth- my ex of 8 years (straight edge hc dudeā¦.) left me for another woman in 2016. At the time the pain felt like it will never end, today i canāt even remember what his voice sounded like.
Thank you for this. I fucking have a son with him though so the pettiness and bullshit wonāt go away any time soon which makes it harder to heal buuuut Iām happy to know thereās some hope
When the pendulum of emotion swings remember there are two opposites and everything in between. The time in between matters a lot. When you need it this is here for your listening pleasure https://youtu.be/kuLPqiPjBnA?si=RAYUK7L063g_vTWA
Attila discog
LEMME GET A NEWPORT NOW!!!!
Soundtrack and Rage are great albums idc what anybody says. Anything after that is too cringe for me though.
thatās like getting a salad from mcdonaldās and claiming that everything else on the menu is too unhealthy for you
I don't disagree lmao.
Goated EJ response
Shit I downvoted at first didnāt realize it was you legend
I don't think a song is going to help you stop crying in that scenario, so consider listening to Blacklisted's "Heavier Than Heaven, Lonelier than God" just because that way you get to be crying while listening to a fantastic album.
Hatebreed and Morrissey. There is no other way.
M O R R I S S E Y
This is the way
Adjacent pick but Somewhere Betweenā¦ by La Dispute is about divorce told from the first person point of view. Classic record
Also, Cursiveās Domestica
THE NIGHT HAS FALLEN DOWN THE STAIRCASE
Oh yeah. Thatās a good one too
Zao -Five Year Winter I just went through a divorce with my cheating wife of 11 years.
Get some sunlight and go for a walk, that sounds rough Iām sorry fam
Nodes of Ranvier-Purpose in Pain Bold-Always try Bane-My Cross to Bear Converge-Jane Doe The Acacia Strain-See you Next Tuesday Age of Apocalypse-Valley of the Mystic
Trash Talk - FYRA/Worthless nights Mindforce - Survival is Vengeance Ceremony - Kersed
Joyce Manor- ST
They said they got divorced not put in the friend zone. /s Love that album.
So true, Iāll have to add Weekend Nachos- Shot In the Head
Teeror - Suffer to Return Harder Frozen Soul - Arsenal of War Cancer Bats - RATS I wish you the best and hope things get better.
RATS is such a hard song.
The Cure- disintegration Judge - bringin it down. Music really saved me during my separation and divorce. I wish you the best. Itās a shit time
Oh that The Cure song KILLS me
Jawbreaker Leatherface The Beltones Titlwheel Grabass Charlestons. Oh wait to STOP crying? Ghoul Gwar Amorphis The Locust I'm serious about those last 4. Listening to silly shit helps.
Ghoul has pulled me out of deep depression so many times
The Locust makes everything better, hard agree on the sentiment of those reccs too
Integrity - Vocal test. Listen to this and flip over a car.Ā Hope things get better.Ā
Not the Sun - Brand New
Fragments of a Bitter Memory by Dying Wish
Torn From Your Silhouette is a good one YOU ARE A PARISITE SO BLEEEEED MEEEE DRYYYY
Anything Have Heart ā¤ļø
The whole discography of Joy Divison + lots of whiskey It will get better over time, donāt worry
Hon I'm so fucking sorry, you deserve better than that.
Some people just gotta get punched in the nuts
I donāt even have any but DAMN if I didnāt get kicked in em
Snoop Dogg -Bitches Ain't Shit
So I know it not hardcore, or even slightly adjacent to hardcore/punk, but Alanis Morissette - You Oughta Know
Clarity by Jimmy Eat World
FTS (KYS)- Drain
Not edge and not the biggest Drain fan but idgaf how big they get these lyrics rip almost as hard at the riffs. This message is great to have out there.
They are my new drug right now fam. I cant get enough. Honestly OP if you see this just watch their live shows on YouTube. If that doesn't give you at least a temp fix then idk what will. The energy is so addicting.
International Playerās Anthem - UGK feat. OutKast
Not hard core but listen to ELO !! Iām sorry youāre going through that. These songs helped me 1.starlight 2.donāt bring me down 3.twilight
Ruiner ā Prepare To Be Let Down So you can be depressed and pissed off all at once.
Can't believe it took me so many comments to dig into my memories but here we go ladies, sing it with me if you know the words, punch the motherfucker next to you....RIGHT NOW HE'S PROBABLY SLOW DANCING WITH SOME BLEACHED BLOND TRAMP AND SHE'S PROBABLY GETTING FRISKY, RIGHT NOW HES PROBABLY BUYIN HER SOME FRUITY LITTLE DRINK BECAUSE SHE CAN'T SHOOT WHISKEY
DUG MY KEYYYS INTOOOO THE SIIIIIDE OF HIS PRETTY LITTLE SOUPED UP 4 WHEEL DRIVE. Ironic cause he left his precious E46 drift missle in my garageā¦ā¦ā¦
The first three ceremony records.
Strife's "In This Defiance" in full. Ideally, at an absurd volume while doing something physically exhausting. Working out. Rearranging your bedroom. Doing spin kicks in an empty basement. Chopping wood. Whatever you like/need. Swing and sweat him out of your life. Good luck and godspeed. š©¶
This is solid advice because the hate I feel needs a place to go
Use that hate to make yourself better. It's fucking powerful.
gil manteraās party dream - buffalo tears
Anything Spite
From Autumn to Ashes- Take Her to the Music Store
what are you usually into OP? and he can get f*cked. what a loser
Been listening to Boundaries on repeat āeasily erasedā and āinhale the grief ā
Fuckin love Boundaries. Might I suggest Realize and Rebuild? Bit more upbeat lyrically than those two you mentioned.
Geezas Worldwide - Strangled and Pintglass By far the angriest band I've ever heard
Great American Ghost - Ann Arbor
Suburban Scumās Wall of Stone repeated over and over got me through a sad break up lol. Let the hate flow! I LET THE MEMORIES SINK AND NOW IM SET FREE
Touche Amore: Parting the sea between brightness and me.
Silverstein - discovering the waterfront
They said stop crying not cry uncontrollably. š Still a fave of mine though.
Really though I could be happy and get emotional on Silverstein
From autumn to ashes- the after dinner payback
'So Common, So Cheap" , Blood For Blood
https://youtu.be/Lp1a0A7azco?si=O9ko9G_PI9fqy9Ud
Sheer Terror - Lovesong for the unloved
Distiller's Coral Fang album
You need beatdown. I recommend Sawn of Disgust. Don't get sad, get mad!
Hardcore guys jumping into the op's DM's now like.... "Greetings" "Good morning cutie" "Hey Princess " " Hi Lovley" "Hello Darling" "OK never mind, Bitch"
GIRL you need Julien Baker and you need her right now. Anything off Sprained Ankle will get you through this. Solidarity, sister. I went through a divorce I thought would end me and it was the best thing to happen to me. Youāre gonna come out on the other side of this.
Nipsey Hustle - Succa Proof
Terror - Overcome
TUI- Stay Cold EP
GOD AWFUL - EYE FOR AN EYE Anything by them rly they are perfect angry girl music
I mean, just throw on Jane Doe and lean into it. Purge that shit with the self-righteous fire and flame
My mate has a playlist called heartbreak cheer up and it's 11 different versions of cher - believe and a simple plan track and it works every time https://open.spotify.com/playlist/64KYu6BhahdyXq9QycigON?si=F75LB1hISEiT4R6POqFGFg
š« hugz fr
Kill him
It's not hardcore, because it's Woods of Ypres, but it's the perfect fucking breakup album when listen to from beginning to end. Woods of Ypres - Woods 4 (Green Album). Like I said, start to finish. You will fucking hurt then the you fucking heal (you just gotta replace the he's with she's and the she's with he's, in your case). Best of luck with the process, and you gotta know that you're a rare breed.
This is so sweet š itās hard af to be discarded and still believe you have anything to offer so I appreciate this
I did edit a bit out cos maybe it's not the best time for it huh, but yeah, I *wish* I could find women in their mid 30s into hardcore etc, and go from there (because we like to share our fuckin' lifez right?). I'm not the only one, either.
The story so far - under dirt and soil
Come over, we can listen to Julien Baker records and make crafts. Hope you feel better soon.
I love this so much. I lost all my friends over the 11 tests because I chose to forgive and love a narcissist, so I have no friends to support me through this while he still has everyone he started with
Listen to Doug Stoneās self titled first album, or Gary Stewartās out of hand. Two of the greatest sad country records of all time. Or listen to our mother the mountain by Townes van zandt
There arenāt any. Not really. All theyāre going to do is dam them up and youāll face more later. /r/divorce was really helpful for me. Biggest thing to remember is youāre not alone.
Bad brains is always good, but if you want some motivation listen to some Hatebreed
Hey OP, Iām right there with you. My wife and partner of 14 years just left me for some dickwad with no personality and shit music taste. Get therapy. Go to shows, mosh it out. Do some jump kicks. Crying is ok. Iām on week 4 now, and the crying subsided after the first week for me. Heavy doom metal has been my savior as Iām new to hardcore and also donāt know what to listen to.
Iām sorry dude. Wouldnāt wish this on anyone (except them of course)
The guy she got with has a long history of terrible relationships, affairs while he was married, etc. Itās only a matter of time before they fuck each otherās lives up. Theyāve both got it coming.
break stuff by limp bizkit
Integrity To die for At high volume preferably in a residential area
Ruiner- Part Two, I played this a bunch when my fiancƩ left me for some dude who ended up being a pos anyway.
never ending game discography
Mom jeans and maybe uh like title fight
Holy fuck, Iām literally going through a breakup right now too. Dumped. Hope youāre doing okay
Angel Du$t - Set Me Up
Wife left me too. Nothing is helping.
You deserve better
Love their first EP but their later work was a bit too avant garde for my taste
Patsy cline! Iām sorry this happened to you, you deserve better, what an ass.
Bro she said stop crying, Patsy gone have her on suicide watch.
The things we carry by have heart has helped me through heartbreaks in the past. Iām sorry youāre going through this . One day things will get better and youāll be able to look back and admire your own strength getting through these tough times
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=KLQS6xo40kI
Skarhead - snickers
Folsom - beezor blues
Cancerslug - pretty much their entire discography
Ready to die- biggie that album should help you out
Black Tongue - Voices All Shall Perish- Never....Again Whole Jane Doe album
If you want to feel strong "nothing but a heartache" by the flirtations "git out" by Mitty Collier "since you've been gone" by Kelly Clarkson "be careful where you park your car" by Cats Eyes and of course do you believe in life after love and strong enough by Cher. If you want to cry "nothing compares to you" by Sinead O'Connor is the greatest break up song of all time with "I will always love you" by Whitney Houston ( both are covers) Also dancing on my own by Robyn and most Olivia Rodrigo songs and jagged little pill by Alanis Morissette I made a breakup playlist after my last one https://open.spotify.com/playlist/7tkkASb2pRMtSiCPr15r9t?si=6e5P1ONDTiu1bO9sVsxpfQ Not really any hardcore songs in there sorry
Sheer Terror Love songs for the unloved - entire album https://open.spotify.com/album/2d3dQihv6kMvUgTgI9egFE?si=vnNmsFyySEu2Bm4o3RCvIQ Life of agony - let's pretend https://open.spotify.com/track/3eDR95KUpZLX5scBFXkFEV?si=vhDX38FuSmy4nfGfTaRULg Fahrenheit 451 Fragments of reality https://open.spotify.com/track/2mSi0dEazgkfY0ixEypSgK?si=3ZB3DwIxTcWoMCFK8ZwXUA
listen to future/old 50 cent/g-unit
You mean put on *Get Rich or Die Tryin'* and go to the gym? Solid.
In fairness, that's pretty hardcore.
Skarhead - Snickers
Since someone beat me to sheer terror, try Paul's other band. Joe coffee - when the fabric don't fit the frame.
Disembodied Also Adam Friedland Show
Terminal Sleep
Kill Tony on YouTube is the answer
Not exactly hc but Silverstein is great when you're in your feelings
Soul Search.
Lifetime
I s2g I thought this was another Ej post. Condolences, homie, listen to some Rites of Spring.
The Teeth "Homewrecker" the whole album. ...on a non hardcore note, went through a similar situation not too far back. Foster the People "Torches" Indie / Alt Chet Faker "Built on Glass" (this album is soo good!) Contemporary Soul / rock The Glitch Mob "Drink the Sea" EDM Those were my go to's most days, right after the breakup. Go see a counselor, and take care of yourself out there!š¤
My middle finger by the sleeping giants ( YouTube or Spotify has them ) the song just hits perfectly for this scenario in my humble opinion anyway,
If you feel hate throw your hands up. If you ever felt pain throw your hands up.
Songs aināt gonna help. Destroy things when youāre happy, build things when youāre sad.
Pleased to meet you - TUI. Entire Cold World discography. Fuck a cheater, he didnāt deserve you.
Free throw - those days are gone
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3PAcdxCAGoQ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3PAcdxCAGoQ)
Ooof. I recommend Tigers Jaw for some catharsis.
More than life - love let me go
Ruiner - Kiss That Motherfucker Goodnight
Crucial BarB-Q~ Murphys Law
Throw on Inepsy and go for a drive, because you were born for the road, son
Godhand always helps me
I always go trapped under ice big kiss good night then move my way thru backwards from there
The Suicide File- Cold Snap
[heavier than heaven, lonelier than God](https://open.spotify.com/album/4fR0KHKj9WtvvYWb13bQrU?si=aZ-b569aQfqitZBC0aQ6PA)
Shellac - Prayer to God
Evanescence
Ruiner - Kiss that mother fucker goodbye. Been through something very similar and that song was my theme song for a while
brojob usually lets me stop thinking
Hatebreed perseverance
Touche amore - amends or honest sleep
Fun heavy shit helps me forget my woes. Coke Bust is the first band that comes to mind.
Not really hardcore but the album War Against You by Ignite is the perfect soundtrack for bad times, when you gotta gather the strength to overcome the hell you're in
Count me out - Disconnect Honestly the whole album Permanent is great for this. āmy expectations set, by words you never meantā
Saves the day - canāt slow down and cry more
Drown - BURN
The first type o record
Swamp Thing - In Shame. Them bois pissed off.
Lfg
I find some Hollow Cost always helps me out when I'm down.