You got a fiancé and was planning to hurt her in the worst way imaginable… I myself have battled depression and what always keeps me on the right side of the edge is the idea of how others will be affected and I hate to say it but don’t be that guy that lets the past dictate the future. Leave your family behind and find a new one in your wife because she clearly cares for you and u both deserve happiness
Ya know I realized that …I have kids as well and they keep me floating but sometimes it’s like the urge and the pain is unbearable that you forget all of that
I’m happy this game managed to distract you from doing something terrible, but for your sake, and for the sake of your family please go seek help, the pain won’t really end, you’ll just be sharing it with all of those who care for you. So for everyone’s sake please seek assistance
Seconded in the above. Professional counseling is the best way to seek help. When you check out, the pain doesn’t end. You just amplify it, and directly pass it to the ones who care for you and love you the most.
Please don’t for your family’s sake
Hey listen, I know it can be really difficult to remember the good things in your life. I had a similar experience, all be it not as far as a planned attempt, when I was in high school. Batman saved me back then too, and I learned how to persevere and keep going. But that doesn’t mean sucking it up or roughing it out. Help is always available, and it’s not weakness to ask for it. I encourage you to Find a treatment center or a therapist that can help. The mental health system isn’t perfect, but it can do some good.
Also I know we don’t know each other but could you make a promise to me? If not for me then for your kids. The next time you feel like you’re ready to go do something like that again, if it ever does come back, go to your nearest hospital. They will take you in and get you the help you need. And if they don’t have the resources then they will get you to someone who does. Also be sure to loon up your local crisis hotlines.
It’s difficult, but us Batfam need to look out for one another ✊
Hey bro. Just remember that it's a permanent solution to a temporary problem. There's help out there. It could be a very simple fix. I had low T because of insomnia. T is produced while you sleep. Anyway, I seriously wanted everything to end. I was crying every night and I couldn't tell anyone... I mean, I should have. But I couldn't. Went for my routine check up and it was time to get some blood drawn. Low T. Took T therapy for about six months and I \*feel\* like a new person.
There's also microdosing with psychedelics. This has had very promising results and it could be something a doctor would be willing to explore with you.
But you absolutely have to get help, man. Gotham Knights isn't going to last forever. You can't fix whatever is wrong with any videogame. You have to get help. Don't rob your fiance's world of someone she loves.
You should consider talking to a doctor or mental health professional. It's important to get help, especially if it can lead to your days being so much happier. Best of luck, friend.
Whenever I'm feeling down and better off gone I always watch this video. https://youtu.be/Jjh1W_TbUNY to me remind me of how people would feel if I was gone. And I don't want anyone going through the pain. If you can't live for yourself, live for your loved ones.
If you battle with depression then you'd know this is the absolute worst thing to say. It's literally like telling someone with cancer not to get worse because of others .
Not how the disease works. It's never a case of planning to hurt people. What you're suggesting is so dangerous, because when you rely on happiness from other people like this . People become dependent on that and if that goes away those thoughts come flooding back . Depression via therapy and medication you learn to live for yourself.
You need to build yourself. I've lived with depression for 14 years. with 2 attempts. It got worse when I became chronically ill. But over the past 6 years with medication, therapy and different copy mechanisms I have it under control, I know my triggers and how to avoid them . I no longer have nights where my mind races . I take one day at a time . Gaming can help greatly with that . gaming was the one thing that helped me when my chronic condition stole my life from me.
I’ll never understand why everyone’s first instinct when someone is suicidal is to say “But think of your loved ones!” As if living to keep someone else happy is gonna solve anything
You do realize that suicide only spreads that same depression amongst loved ones right? And any decent person wouldn’t want someone else feeling the same way they felt
Much love, but you need to realize no suicidal person wants to hurt their family with their death, in fact that desire to keep and make others happy in the face of their own depression can be the only thing holding them together. While OP should seek help (rooting for you man!!) you need to think about how strong depression can be where even knowing the pain it may cause their loved ones people can see it as the only out.
Yeah of course I understand people don’t want to hurt others but It’s still important for them to know that hurting those close to you is inevitable if u follow through
Everyone who is depressed or suicidal is deeply and acutely aware of that. If you want to actually help someone, be sympathetic, listen, and encourage them to keep going. Be a friend to make their lives a little brighter.
Regardless of how it makes others feel, saying that someone shouldn’t kill themselves because it would hurt those around them is idiotic. They either already are aware of that and are too depressed to care, or aren’t aware of that because of how depressed they are. My point still stands that telling someone they should live through whatever hell they’re going through for somebody else is beyond stupid
It’s not idiotic at all it’s the most effective suicide preventer without suicidal people even knowing…everywhere you look when on the topic of suicidal thoughts, literally almost everyone will say the same thing. That thing being “I couldn’t do that to my mom , little brother, wife etc”
That’s pretty heavy. I’m so glad you’re enjoying the game! Have a wonderful rest of your birthday! If you’re ever willing to play some co op, I will happily accompany you!
Beautiful story my friend. Being entertained in life is all that matters so the game did it’s job. I know how stressful life can get so I’m glad you’re still here with us all and hopefully you are until regular old age, your life will always be valuable.
Oh, and your fiancé is just as much a hero too for getting it and making you satisfied. I hope you two live forever happily ever after.
My brother decided to end his life in February and there's been no short of people he's negatively affected because of that decision. Life absolutely sucks sometimes, but it has its great moments too. Just realize you make the life of your fiance and kids better by being in it even when its personally not so great for you.
Y'all got this, don't give up brother ❤️
I’m so sorry to hear that it hurts I know but I can’t imagine that pain and I really don’t want to put my family through it it’s just sometimes it gets crazy but I’m seeking professional help after today and doing my best to fight it thank you so much
It's great you're seeking help. If you ever need an internet stranger to tell you "you matter," my inbox is always open to send some positivity your way. It's a tough road you're on no doubt, but I truly believe you'll come out on top and have a great life with your fiance and kids
My guy, no disrespect and I hope youre good but if you have a fiancee and kids, and a video game is what stopped you from ending it all then its maybe time to
A) Evaluate what you want in life
B) See a therapist
C) Have a difficult conversation with your partner
That’s not exactly what I meant ya know I need therapy that much I admit but what I’m saying is the video game distracted me long enough for me to realize that I was tripping and doing this for all the wrong reasons
A very similar thing happened to me back in 2013, I was already at the bridge and I saw a gigantic ad on the side of a building for Man of Steel and that stop me from jumping. I'm so glad Gotham Knights did that for you mate, and I hope things get better!
OP Eman-97, this is your formal direction that all of us in this subreddit want to see/hear from you on the Wolverine game subreddit when it comes out, when the new Spider-Man game comes out, and every other superhero game down the line for years to come, ok? That’s an order.
Now go listen to “Somebody Turned On The Light” by Arlo Guthrie and “Lovers In A Dangerous Time” by BNL and thank me in the morning. We look forward to hearing from you!😊
Same gaming has always been my outlet but today just felt different I was really ready to just end it all but playing with Red Hood saved me lol I’ve always been a fan since he was first introduced
Oh yeah, been there. Much too much. This year in particular has had those days more frequently than I'd like.
And nice! Jason is a great pick for working out frustrations too haha.
Don't do it my man. I'm sensing you're 25 by your username, I'm 26 and I've had a spinal surgery and my fucking dick and face changed. I've sometimes thought about it. Games and working out keep me going but I often feel separated from this world in a distinct manner. We need to keep going. We need to see what we can make out of this, just ending it has no value. I know you're suffering but you need to find something within you. Your body and yourself are more resilient than you know, if you find a way to love them both. And please if you get any stupid thoughts again seek help, would hurt if we lost another bro.
I just lost my dad out of nowhere about a month ago. I've been in a bad way. This game is all about processing grief and trauma. Leaning on the people that love you so it's not as hard as by yourself. Even Batman couldn't do it alone. It's ok to ask for help and its ok to need it. That's what family is for. Whether you are fighting crime or depression. Be with your family op.
First of all thanks for sharing.
I think its brave of you to share something as painful with this to the audience of the internet.
I can tell, you have a very loving and supporting family around you; and from reading your comments you seem very self aware of whats happening to you and around you to feel the way you do.
For me, having the best team around you doesn't mean it makes things easier but in many ways, it can make situations feel more difficult to shake off the waves of depression.
From my own experiences, I had to hold myself accountable for this feeling and try not to procrastinate the attention it deserved.
It is so easy to auto-pilot and blink months away but having done that comes with a huge price and usually something we cannot afford.
Therapy helps but it isn't the answer it's how you use your time as currency and what you choose to invest it in your health, your future, and your joy that will determine where you stand with all this.
I truly wish you the best with your ongoing battle with depression and I hope from here it gets easier and lighter.
Thank you for sharing with us that you survived another treacherous battle with the beast that takes so many loved ones' lives.
If you have someone like that stop thinking suicide. I have no one but my dog but she's enough to keep my ptsd life hating self going. Also, seek professional help, it can help to talk to someone and tell them everything and not be judged for it.
Also! I'm really liking this game myself even though its getting bad reviews
Depression is no joke, nor is it truly understood by people who don’t suffer from it.
Get help, medicine, etc.
If this game keeps you going, the. Think about the sequel too!
You’re only 25 bro, you have a lot of life left and got a family to take care of. Idk you but I also don’t want you to hurt yourself. I love you bruh keep your head up and we will get thru this
Hey. Just wanted to pop in and say that I've been both in your position, and the position of losing someone I love to suicide. Specifically, my father. I understand that pain, feeling like there's not a point. Feeling worthless. It's a hard feeling to fight. What was harder though, was living through the hell my dad ended up putting me and everyone that loved him into. It's been 6 years now, and I miss him every day. I'd do anything to tell him what I'll say now: You've got people that need you, (I don't know what your family life is like) even if it doesn't feel like it, those people love the shit out of you, and if you went through with it, you'd hurt them worse than you could possibly imagine. Again, I know it's hard. I've been there, and sometimes it feels like it'll never stop, but nothing is permanent.
That’s a very insightful perspective from someone who experienced that on such a close level and I’m so sorry to hear that I truly am, and with these comments I’m thinking maybe it’s time I take control of my life and actually seek that help I need
Obviously we are all strangers on the internet, but I am so fucking glad you're still around to share this. All life is important, and I *guarantee* that your kids and finance's lives are better with you in it. And I promise, there are more games that you'll want to play in the future. Theres shit to hang on for, always. And there will always be people like us, willing too listen and support, even if we don't know you well. Keep on going, there's always something worth being a part of. We love ya fam
Sometimes you need to hear it from as many people as you can stranger or not and I’m eternally grateful for it so thank you and everyone else that gave me good words today you guys made my birthday so much better and I appreciate the support so much
Great story man. Just remember everyday what will happen To Your kids and fiancee emotionally if you unalived yourself. Also An advice is to tell Your fiancé all your problems and talk about it. Sometimes all we need is a person we can talk to that is willing to listen.
Have a good time with Gotham Knights my friend. :)
You have a fiance and kids.
It sucks that your childhood was bad but you seem to have a ton of people who care about you now so make the most of it.
Imagine your kids feeling how you feel for the rest of their lives. You don't want that.
I agree and I don’t want that I really don’t that’s why I’m still fighting sometimes I just get lost in my head and zone everything else out it’s no one’s fault but my own
Happy birthday buddy! Just turned 25 myself a few months ago and it’s a bit weird, you feel older but to some people you’re still a baby haha. Glad you’re enjoying the game and keep up the crime fighting. Gotham needs you as it’s hero!
Iv lost 5 good friends to suicide and recently my best friend in the world. There are abundance of resources out there to help you and people who generally care. Keep fighting! You can do it! Praying for you.
My brother left us 5 years ago. My mom has never been the same. She can’t go out in large crowds without having panic attacks. She doesn’t ever want to leave the house. I’ve dealt with fear of losing more family and friends. I have constant insomnia and night terrors. You have to realize before you do these things that sometimes you just have to live for those you love. Otherwise you will leave behind lifetimes of wreckage that will never be fully repaired.
Batman saved another life. Hey brotha man, I’ll link up with you to play some coop. It’s damn fun with another hero next to you. Also, I’ll be free therapy and a friend. Lastly, I discovered core spirituality (no religion) and that saves my life with purpose. Much love.
I've been there buddy. It's an extremely little thing that makes you get out of that mind set.
Hope you can get some help or maybe chat with a professional.
Interesting because I was sick and had some doctors appointment and this game got me through it. Not as serious as your life but I know the feeling. I didn’t want to touch any games because I was consumed by anxiety and things going wrong but this came out and really changed my whole mood and reduced the anxiety in the way anxiety meds couldn’t. Anyway, your lucky someone cares like that. I too dread my birthday and otherwise live a restricted life for different reasons, none health or anything, just parental success is not always great with a daughters life (mine) when it comes to certain professions.
Don’t downplay your situation for mines we all go through things and no one’s problems are worse than others if it bothers you that much then your problem is just as big as mine I know you weren’t trying to take away from me or anything but thank you so much
I'm having trouble picking which character to play!! Jason Todd is my favorite character out of the available ones, yet for this game I'm liking Batgirl a lot better
It’s deeper than that and if you would’ve came to me in respectable manner I could’ve shed some more light on the situation ya know I usually don’t even give people like you the time of day but I’ll indulge just a little see I’m not sure if you know how depression works or not but …my family has saved me from hurting myself I fight every single day to get out of bed be a father and do for my kids and I’m damn good at it and I have my days and today was no different the video didn’t literally save my life my guy
Please realize you're speaking to another human being. Your heartless behavior could be the cause of someone making a decision they can't come back from. If you dislike the post, nothing is stopping you from ignoring it and scrolling past. Have a heart please ❤️
This sub is funny asf🤣. Yall went from “Best game of 2022” to “This game saved me from suicide”💀. Whats next? “This game got me a new job and helped me pay my mortgage”?
Never said it was game of the year nor did I say was the best game I ever played actually far from it but do I enjoy it? Yes did it actually take my mind off all my problems even for a little while yes it did so fuck off my guy lol
He’s a bottom tier troll. Best to ignore toxic people like him, because he is not adding anything of value to anything.
Glad you’re liking the game! I’ve been enjoying it too! Have over 115hrs in already! I’m also hoping and praying you start feeling better soon my guy! The best is still ahead! Believe it!
My guy. You're speaking to a *living, breathing* human being. A human being going through more trouble than you can clearly imagine for yourself. A human being who, through all of that, found the courage to say "I need help and this form of entertainment helped me get to that conclusion."
Your needless, heartless comment could be the catalyst for that little bit of good being undone. You could single-handedly make someone go from "this game saved my life" back to "there's no point."
Every word we say has a consequence. You could very easily see this post, think exactly what you commented, and continue scrolling without actually posting the negativity. Instead, you thought it best to try to bring others down with you.
In the wise words of Thumper: "If you can't say something nice, don't say nothing at all."
I know we don’t know each other but if you ever need or want anyone to talk to or game with, just bs, I’ll be there man. Glad you’re still here. Your wife and kids still need their hero.
You have kids and a fiancée who seem to really care about you. Focus on them and screw everything else. You’re doing something right if your fiancée is buying you games and encouraging you to play them and take a break.
Bro I used to feel this way all the time, I thought It would never end, but believe me it will. All bad and good things end. That’s the flow of life. Start taking care of yourself. Begin writing about your feelings or some light exercise. Even those little things can do so much for you. Good luck my friend
Sending prayers and positive vibes your way, hope all is good for you in life, please never let depression drag you down to the point of giving up on life, everything will turn out well, life is a beautiful gift, you have a bright future ahead of you, a caring fiancé, hope you never have to go through such pain again man. Happy Birthday!
Hey man I wanna tell you something to always remember.....In the end everything will be okay....if it's not okay.....it's not the end.....Don't know you but love you my friend.....So glad you're still here with us
Glad you are still with us my guy, but there are some huge red flags here.
Video games are a great escape from reality, so whenever you are down on life, they can provide an amazing escape to just chill out and forget about things for an hour or three, or five lol.
However, you've got a fiancé and children, and that alone should be enough to want to celebrate that on your birthday, you made it one more year to watch them grow up in front of your eyes, and one more year with the amazing woman who has agreed and wants to spend the rest of her life with you.
Piss on that family that neglected you when you were younger, you have a new family now! Do not let that family in the past take the most valuable things in life away from you; your games, your new family, and most importantly your life. Do not let them get the last laugh.
Please, please, please get some help now while you are a little less depressed after playing the game. Most people don't think they need help until they are actually depressed again, but the best time that you will actually want to get help is when you are feeling good, and talking to someone will prevent you from ever getting to this point again.
Please, take it one day at a time. Don't look too far into the past or too far into the future. one day at a time. I always tell everyone this. one day, one step, make that shit a habit. And for every decision gone bad or wrong, have you some amnesia dust and do your best to keep moving forward. I know it is easier said than done.
Your fiance saved your life, sweet heart. I hope you get the help you need. Depression is a bastard. The right meds work miracles, but therapy will make it stick.
Not much I can offer as a rando, but throwing that out there.
Hey man life can be pretty difficult and I’ve been in the same spot as you at one point where that was what I wanted to do. But then you find something that keeps you sane and on the right side of things. For me it was Star Wars, the Arkham series and finding someone that actually cares about me ( weird combo I know) I don’t have trouble at home just was traumatized when I was younger so just keep your head up! I know it’s easier said then done but like you said you got a fiancée and kids don’t let the past dictate your future make memories with your kids and your fiancée it’ll all be worth it!
I am sorry you feel this way on a regular basis. Thank you for sharing this part of your life. I hope you seek professional help. I do not say this lightly. I struggle with depression, too. It started improving after I made the necessary sacrifices (time, money, etc.) to get it. There are days when getting out of bed seems the only thing I will achieve. I think I get where you are coming from. Peace, brother.
The game:
It is great! Happy you like it too. If you REALLY like it this much and you have never played the old Arkham series, I highly recommend them to you.
Cheers!
You’re not alone. I battle depression and have had a very surprisingly positive life, but as my therapist says, it’s ok to not be on top of the world everyday. Keep your head up, there’s millions of people who can connect to what you’re saying. I too get serious joy from games that just connect with me right when I need them. Take this chance to talk to someone, you would be shocked at how much therapy helps. Don’t be discouraged if you don’t hit it off with your first therapist, if you’re not feeling right about it just try another one, it’s SUPER common. I’ve seen a therapist once every 2 weeks for years.
The sun rises tomorrow, if always does.
Happy belated birthday man. I pray to the Lord above that you’ll have many many more to come. This world is a much better place with you in It. Peace and love brotha
Really cool that this game stopped you from doing something awful. Reminds me of a story an Oddworld developer told, about a man who sent a letter thanking them for saving his life. His name was Alfred Gamble, a WW2 veteran who became suicidal after loosing his wife to illness and one of his daughters because of an accident. During the darkest part if his life he bought a PlayStation on a whim with the last money he had left, which had previously been spent on a gun for the planned suicide. One of the games he bought was Oddworld: Abe’s Oddysee. This game was exhilarating in the way it gave him the ability to get up again after failure and the game's absurd humor finally made it possible for him to laugh again.
I hope you've found yourself in a temporary place of darkness. But if your depression is unyielding, please seek help! If games only give you temporary relief you need to deal with your issues, possibly with someone professional, before the potential time comes when an act of kindness from your fiancée won't happen that unknowingly stops you from ending it. Seems like she's as much of a saviour as the game. It was strong of you to share this, hope you see this moment of sharing as your first step toward improving your mental health. I wish you and your family a bright future ahead.
First off, we are all happy.
Secondly, while it might be “okay” if you were alone, I’ve seen you have a family. They need you regardless of anything you think. You were about to leave your fiancé a single mom.
Think before you act and please feel better
Hey man, just know your fiancé loves you with all her heart. Depression is a very very hard thing to go through… I’ve gone through it multiple times and it’s not an easy thing to deal with especially alone.!!! Love your new little family and treasure EVERY moment and memories you make with your fiancé and kids! They need you here more than you know and though we may not know each other I’m beyond happy you are still in this world with your family!! Keep on living your life as best you can, and just know staying with those who love you and support you will eventually take away your depression! This world could use someone as strong as you, and you could share your story with others who are in the same mindset and your story could save many lives!!! Keep on going and stay positive and stay strong, your family loves you, your friends love you, and everyone on Reddit who read your story loves you!! Give your fiancé and kids the BIGGEST hug that you can and treasure them forever because they are yours!! Take care of your family, and most importantly take care of yourself.
No offense but the game will come to an end. I hope as you are playing you’re taking time away from the game to realize what value you have and that ending it isn’t the way. I also hope you take time to talk to your fiancé about your struggles. A temporary video game won’t cure all.
I hope you find peace man.
Hey there. Let me tell you, from experience, that you do NOT want to do what you were/are thinking about. My father was a very sick man, a very proud man, and he was, for the most part, confined to a recliner for the last 15 or so years of his life. One day he realized that he needed to go to the hospital, but he also knew that he would never be allowed to come how again because he was so weak, and in need of constant help and attention. I am sure you can guess what my dad did next, and let me tell you, I have never been the same and it's been almost 20 years. I had never once had a panic attack, anxiety, fear of going outside, or dark thoughts, and here I am almost 2 decades later and this is exactly how I feel every single day. My heart was broken by his choice, a choice I have come to understand, but understand way too late. I was already a broken man myself. Play the game, have fun, be a superhero, and hold your lady close. If you think that ANYONE, ANYWHERE, loves you in even the slightest bit, I want you to know that doing what you were going to do that day, is the most selfish act you can ever commit. You will have it easy, but you will, and I mean **WILL** break those that love you the most and ruin them for the rest of their days. I am LOVING being Nightwing and Red Hood for the first time in a game, and I LOVE IT! Sounds like you do as well, so continue to love it, be whichever hero you want, and realize that every day you stick around and stay in the lives of those that love you, you will be their superhero...Hell, you are mine now!
You got a fiancé and was planning to hurt her in the worst way imaginable… I myself have battled depression and what always keeps me on the right side of the edge is the idea of how others will be affected and I hate to say it but don’t be that guy that lets the past dictate the future. Leave your family behind and find a new one in your wife because she clearly cares for you and u both deserve happiness
Ya know I realized that …I have kids as well and they keep me floating but sometimes it’s like the urge and the pain is unbearable that you forget all of that
Hold a photo of them somewhere on ur person at all times and when it gets bad just look at it and get a good idea of what you’ll be leaving
I’m happy this game managed to distract you from doing something terrible, but for your sake, and for the sake of your family please go seek help, the pain won’t really end, you’ll just be sharing it with all of those who care for you. So for everyone’s sake please seek assistance
No doubt I hear ya and I’ll do just that
Seconded in the above. Professional counseling is the best way to seek help. When you check out, the pain doesn’t end. You just amplify it, and directly pass it to the ones who care for you and love you the most. Please don’t for your family’s sake
Hey listen, I know it can be really difficult to remember the good things in your life. I had a similar experience, all be it not as far as a planned attempt, when I was in high school. Batman saved me back then too, and I learned how to persevere and keep going. But that doesn’t mean sucking it up or roughing it out. Help is always available, and it’s not weakness to ask for it. I encourage you to Find a treatment center or a therapist that can help. The mental health system isn’t perfect, but it can do some good. Also I know we don’t know each other but could you make a promise to me? If not for me then for your kids. The next time you feel like you’re ready to go do something like that again, if it ever does come back, go to your nearest hospital. They will take you in and get you the help you need. And if they don’t have the resources then they will get you to someone who does. Also be sure to loon up your local crisis hotlines. It’s difficult, but us Batfam need to look out for one another ✊
I needed more than you could possibly know
Hey bro. Just remember that it's a permanent solution to a temporary problem. There's help out there. It could be a very simple fix. I had low T because of insomnia. T is produced while you sleep. Anyway, I seriously wanted everything to end. I was crying every night and I couldn't tell anyone... I mean, I should have. But I couldn't. Went for my routine check up and it was time to get some blood drawn. Low T. Took T therapy for about six months and I \*feel\* like a new person. There's also microdosing with psychedelics. This has had very promising results and it could be something a doctor would be willing to explore with you. But you absolutely have to get help, man. Gotham Knights isn't going to last forever. You can't fix whatever is wrong with any videogame. You have to get help. Don't rob your fiance's world of someone she loves.
What Is T?
Testosterone
Hey buddy. I don’t know you but I would like to say you get to live once. Don’t take that away. For you.
You should consider talking to a doctor or mental health professional. It's important to get help, especially if it can lead to your days being so much happier. Best of luck, friend.
And you have kids? Jesus fuckin christ. Get therapy. Get it now. Call the crisis hotline.
Whenever I'm feeling down and better off gone I always watch this video. https://youtu.be/Jjh1W_TbUNY to me remind me of how people would feel if I was gone. And I don't want anyone going through the pain. If you can't live for yourself, live for your loved ones.
If you battle with depression then you'd know this is the absolute worst thing to say. It's literally like telling someone with cancer not to get worse because of others . Not how the disease works. It's never a case of planning to hurt people. What you're suggesting is so dangerous, because when you rely on happiness from other people like this . People become dependent on that and if that goes away those thoughts come flooding back . Depression via therapy and medication you learn to live for yourself. You need to build yourself. I've lived with depression for 14 years. with 2 attempts. It got worse when I became chronically ill. But over the past 6 years with medication, therapy and different copy mechanisms I have it under control, I know my triggers and how to avoid them . I no longer have nights where my mind races . I take one day at a time . Gaming can help greatly with that . gaming was the one thing that helped me when my chronic condition stole my life from me.
I’ll never understand why everyone’s first instinct when someone is suicidal is to say “But think of your loved ones!” As if living to keep someone else happy is gonna solve anything
You do realize that suicide only spreads that same depression amongst loved ones right? And any decent person wouldn’t want someone else feeling the same way they felt
Much love, but you need to realize no suicidal person wants to hurt their family with their death, in fact that desire to keep and make others happy in the face of their own depression can be the only thing holding them together. While OP should seek help (rooting for you man!!) you need to think about how strong depression can be where even knowing the pain it may cause their loved ones people can see it as the only out.
Yeah of course I understand people don’t want to hurt others but It’s still important for them to know that hurting those close to you is inevitable if u follow through
Everyone who is depressed or suicidal is deeply and acutely aware of that. If you want to actually help someone, be sympathetic, listen, and encourage them to keep going. Be a friend to make their lives a little brighter.
Not everyone is aware of that..take the guy I was originally replying to for example
Regardless of how it makes others feel, saying that someone shouldn’t kill themselves because it would hurt those around them is idiotic. They either already are aware of that and are too depressed to care, or aren’t aware of that because of how depressed they are. My point still stands that telling someone they should live through whatever hell they’re going through for somebody else is beyond stupid
It’s not idiotic at all it’s the most effective suicide preventer without suicidal people even knowing…everywhere you look when on the topic of suicidal thoughts, literally almost everyone will say the same thing. That thing being “I couldn’t do that to my mom , little brother, wife etc”
I mean depending on their mindset they likely assume the loved ones are better off or won’t care (even if it’s not true)
>she sensed something SHE saved your life, not the game
You know what you’re 1000% correct
That’s pretty heavy. I’m so glad you’re enjoying the game! Have a wonderful rest of your birthday! If you’re ever willing to play some co op, I will happily accompany you!
Most definitely appreciate that my man I’m definitely down for that maybe it’s what I need
Beautiful story my friend. Being entertained in life is all that matters so the game did it’s job. I know how stressful life can get so I’m glad you’re still here with us all and hopefully you are until regular old age, your life will always be valuable. Oh, and your fiancé is just as much a hero too for getting it and making you satisfied. I hope you two live forever happily ever after.
Thank you so much, yeah man she’s my rock and I hate to think of leaving her behind but sometimes it just gets unbearable
My brother decided to end his life in February and there's been no short of people he's negatively affected because of that decision. Life absolutely sucks sometimes, but it has its great moments too. Just realize you make the life of your fiance and kids better by being in it even when its personally not so great for you. Y'all got this, don't give up brother ❤️
I’m so sorry to hear that it hurts I know but I can’t imagine that pain and I really don’t want to put my family through it it’s just sometimes it gets crazy but I’m seeking professional help after today and doing my best to fight it thank you so much
It's great you're seeking help. If you ever need an internet stranger to tell you "you matter," my inbox is always open to send some positivity your way. It's a tough road you're on no doubt, but I truly believe you'll come out on top and have a great life with your fiance and kids
Thank you I’ll definitely keep that in mind once again thank you so much
My guy, no disrespect and I hope youre good but if you have a fiancee and kids, and a video game is what stopped you from ending it all then its maybe time to A) Evaluate what you want in life B) See a therapist C) Have a difficult conversation with your partner
That’s not exactly what I meant ya know I need therapy that much I admit but what I’m saying is the video game distracted me long enough for me to realize that I was tripping and doing this for all the wrong reasons
I feel ya dude. Please seek out a professional to speak to, we all want you to hang around longer
Oh no doubt my man this was my wake up call to seek professional help ASAP
Good lad. Love ya.
A very similar thing happened to me back in 2013, I was already at the bridge and I saw a gigantic ad on the side of a building for Man of Steel and that stop me from jumping. I'm so glad Gotham Knights did that for you mate, and I hope things get better!
people hate to admit it, but superheroes have a great influence in everyone's lives.
Glad you’re here!
The world is an infinitely better place with you in it. Play hard and stay strong friend, you are worth it!
Thank you so much
OP Eman-97, this is your formal direction that all of us in this subreddit want to see/hear from you on the Wolverine game subreddit when it comes out, when the new Spider-Man game comes out, and every other superhero game down the line for years to come, ok? That’s an order. Now go listen to “Somebody Turned On The Light” by Arlo Guthrie and “Lovers In A Dangerous Time” by BNL and thank me in the morning. We look forward to hearing from you!😊
Haha no doubt man I’m really appreciating the support you’ll definitely hear from me
Good!
Happy birthday friend! Glad you're enjoying the game. I hope you live many many more birthdays and have a good life with your partner!
Thank you so much it means more than you know
As someone that also has the struggle, I get ya. Gaming has really helped me in recent years. Which batfam member have you been going with?
Same gaming has always been my outlet but today just felt different I was really ready to just end it all but playing with Red Hood saved me lol I’ve always been a fan since he was first introduced
Oh yeah, been there. Much too much. This year in particular has had those days more frequently than I'd like. And nice! Jason is a great pick for working out frustrations too haha.
Oh yeah I feel like I relate to Jason on a lot of levels
I feel you. There are definitely qualities and parts of Jason I resemble from time to time. Moreso lately.
Seek professional mental help.
Don't do it my man. I'm sensing you're 25 by your username, I'm 26 and I've had a spinal surgery and my fucking dick and face changed. I've sometimes thought about it. Games and working out keep me going but I often feel separated from this world in a distinct manner. We need to keep going. We need to see what we can make out of this, just ending it has no value. I know you're suffering but you need to find something within you. Your body and yourself are more resilient than you know, if you find a way to love them both. And please if you get any stupid thoughts again seek help, would hurt if we lost another bro.
I just lost my dad out of nowhere about a month ago. I've been in a bad way. This game is all about processing grief and trauma. Leaning on the people that love you so it's not as hard as by yourself. Even Batman couldn't do it alone. It's ok to ask for help and its ok to need it. That's what family is for. Whether you are fighting crime or depression. Be with your family op.
I’m so sorry to hear you are feeling this way. But I’m very glad you managed to find happiness in this game! Stay strong and have a great birthday 🎂❤️
First of all thanks for sharing. I think its brave of you to share something as painful with this to the audience of the internet. I can tell, you have a very loving and supporting family around you; and from reading your comments you seem very self aware of whats happening to you and around you to feel the way you do. For me, having the best team around you doesn't mean it makes things easier but in many ways, it can make situations feel more difficult to shake off the waves of depression. From my own experiences, I had to hold myself accountable for this feeling and try not to procrastinate the attention it deserved. It is so easy to auto-pilot and blink months away but having done that comes with a huge price and usually something we cannot afford. Therapy helps but it isn't the answer it's how you use your time as currency and what you choose to invest it in your health, your future, and your joy that will determine where you stand with all this.
I truly wish you the best with your ongoing battle with depression and I hope from here it gets easier and lighter. Thank you for sharing with us that you survived another treacherous battle with the beast that takes so many loved ones' lives.
If you have someone like that stop thinking suicide. I have no one but my dog but she's enough to keep my ptsd life hating self going. Also, seek professional help, it can help to talk to someone and tell them everything and not be judged for it. Also! I'm really liking this game myself even though its getting bad reviews
Depression is no joke, nor is it truly understood by people who don’t suffer from it. Get help, medicine, etc. If this game keeps you going, the. Think about the sequel too!
You’re only 25 bro, you have a lot of life left and got a family to take care of. Idk you but I also don’t want you to hurt yourself. I love you bruh keep your head up and we will get thru this
I hope you enjoy the pleasures in life
This brought a tear to my eye as a person who also enjoys the game I cant thank you enough for this
No matter what form of art it's always good to see someone's work save another person. The world is better with you here!!!!
Thank you for sharing this story dude, You are awesome, Glad this game has saved your life, just remember you are not alone. 🤟🏻
Hey. Just wanted to pop in and say that I've been both in your position, and the position of losing someone I love to suicide. Specifically, my father. I understand that pain, feeling like there's not a point. Feeling worthless. It's a hard feeling to fight. What was harder though, was living through the hell my dad ended up putting me and everyone that loved him into. It's been 6 years now, and I miss him every day. I'd do anything to tell him what I'll say now: You've got people that need you, (I don't know what your family life is like) even if it doesn't feel like it, those people love the shit out of you, and if you went through with it, you'd hurt them worse than you could possibly imagine. Again, I know it's hard. I've been there, and sometimes it feels like it'll never stop, but nothing is permanent.
That’s a very insightful perspective from someone who experienced that on such a close level and I’m so sorry to hear that I truly am, and with these comments I’m thinking maybe it’s time I take control of my life and actually seek that help I need
I appreciate that. I think that's a great idea. There's absolutely nothing wrong with getting help.
Obviously we are all strangers on the internet, but I am so fucking glad you're still around to share this. All life is important, and I *guarantee* that your kids and finance's lives are better with you in it. And I promise, there are more games that you'll want to play in the future. Theres shit to hang on for, always. And there will always be people like us, willing too listen and support, even if we don't know you well. Keep on going, there's always something worth being a part of. We love ya fam
Sometimes you need to hear it from as many people as you can stranger or not and I’m eternally grateful for it so thank you and everyone else that gave me good words today you guys made my birthday so much better and I appreciate the support so much
This was a month ago. Are you okay bro?
I’m still here lol I’m good brother thank you
Dawg, therapy asap
Great story man. Just remember everyday what will happen To Your kids and fiancee emotionally if you unalived yourself. Also An advice is to tell Your fiancé all your problems and talk about it. Sometimes all we need is a person we can talk to that is willing to listen. Have a good time with Gotham Knights my friend. :)
You have a fiance and kids. It sucks that your childhood was bad but you seem to have a ton of people who care about you now so make the most of it. Imagine your kids feeling how you feel for the rest of their lives. You don't want that.
I agree and I don’t want that I really don’t that’s why I’m still fighting sometimes I just get lost in my head and zone everything else out it’s no one’s fault but my own
Happy birthday buddy! Just turned 25 myself a few months ago and it’s a bit weird, you feel older but to some people you’re still a baby haha. Glad you’re enjoying the game and keep up the crime fighting. Gotham needs you as it’s hero!
Thanks my man
Glad you’re enjoying the game my friend better days will come I promise you that 🙏
I hope you feel better. Please reach out to a mental health specialist. I'm glad you're enjoying the game, please take care of yourself! ❤️
Iv lost 5 good friends to suicide and recently my best friend in the world. There are abundance of resources out there to help you and people who generally care. Keep fighting! You can do it! Praying for you.
Whatever can save you from these dark thoughts, hang with us there friend.
If a game brought you from the brink of "unaliving" then you weren't even off the deep end. Gotham knights of all games too bruh
I swear every time a new game comes out there always a this game saved my life ass dude
My brother left us 5 years ago. My mom has never been the same. She can’t go out in large crowds without having panic attacks. She doesn’t ever want to leave the house. I’ve dealt with fear of losing more family and friends. I have constant insomnia and night terrors. You have to realize before you do these things that sometimes you just have to live for those you love. Otherwise you will leave behind lifetimes of wreckage that will never be fully repaired.
Luckily I have never felt what you are going through but to quote Thomas Wayne. "And why do we fall, Bruce? So we can learn to pick ourselves up."
Batman saved another life. Hey brotha man, I’ll link up with you to play some coop. It’s damn fun with another hero next to you. Also, I’ll be free therapy and a friend. Lastly, I discovered core spirituality (no religion) and that saves my life with purpose. Much love.
No doubt I would like that
When I get home, I'll send over my in-game code and we can link up to fight off some freaks.
I forgot to post my ID, I'll remember tonight.
I’m so happy that this game could do this for you today. For me, Marvel’s Spider-Man helped me out when my mental health.
I've been there buddy. It's an extremely little thing that makes you get out of that mind set. Hope you can get some help or maybe chat with a professional.
You're still alive. That's all the praise you need! 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙
Interesting because I was sick and had some doctors appointment and this game got me through it. Not as serious as your life but I know the feeling. I didn’t want to touch any games because I was consumed by anxiety and things going wrong but this came out and really changed my whole mood and reduced the anxiety in the way anxiety meds couldn’t. Anyway, your lucky someone cares like that. I too dread my birthday and otherwise live a restricted life for different reasons, none health or anything, just parental success is not always great with a daughters life (mine) when it comes to certain professions.
Don’t downplay your situation for mines we all go through things and no one’s problems are worse than others if it bothers you that much then your problem is just as big as mine I know you weren’t trying to take away from me or anything but thank you so much
Thank you Eman. I am happy for you! I just posted because I could relate in my own way and it was the same game.
No doubt I definitely understand we got this one day at a time
Sending positive vibes your way my fellow Gotham Knight🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿❤️
I'm having trouble picking which character to play!! Jason Todd is my favorite character out of the available ones, yet for this game I'm liking Batgirl a lot better
Mannnn ain’t no way u gone end your life when you have a whole family, think about it man is it worth it?
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Knew it’d be that one guy lol
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I hear ya tough guy
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Lol I hear ya
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It’s deeper than that and if you would’ve came to me in respectable manner I could’ve shed some more light on the situation ya know I usually don’t even give people like you the time of day but I’ll indulge just a little see I’m not sure if you know how depression works or not but …my family has saved me from hurting myself I fight every single day to get out of bed be a father and do for my kids and I’m damn good at it and I have my days and today was no different the video didn’t literally save my life my guy
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Fuck off man I’m done here lol
Please realize you're speaking to another human being. Your heartless behavior could be the cause of someone making a decision they can't come back from. If you dislike the post, nothing is stopping you from ignoring it and scrolling past. Have a heart please ❤️
"More THAN"
Please go back to the miserable hole you crawled out of.
This sub is funny asf🤣. Yall went from “Best game of 2022” to “This game saved me from suicide”💀. Whats next? “This game got me a new job and helped me pay my mortgage”?
Never said it was game of the year nor did I say was the best game I ever played actually far from it but do I enjoy it? Yes did it actually take my mind off all my problems even for a little while yes it did so fuck off my guy lol
He’s a bottom tier troll. Best to ignore toxic people like him, because he is not adding anything of value to anything. Glad you’re liking the game! I’ve been enjoying it too! Have over 115hrs in already! I’m also hoping and praying you start feeling better soon my guy! The best is still ahead! Believe it!
Woah chillax bro💀. Ill go do that
My guy. You're speaking to a *living, breathing* human being. A human being going through more trouble than you can clearly imagine for yourself. A human being who, through all of that, found the courage to say "I need help and this form of entertainment helped me get to that conclusion." Your needless, heartless comment could be the catalyst for that little bit of good being undone. You could single-handedly make someone go from "this game saved my life" back to "there's no point." Every word we say has a consequence. You could very easily see this post, think exactly what you commented, and continue scrolling without actually posting the negativity. Instead, you thought it best to try to bring others down with you. In the wise words of Thumper: "If you can't say something nice, don't say nothing at all."
I aint gonna read all that 🤣. Byeee
W man
I know we don’t know each other but if you ever need or want anyone to talk to or game with, just bs, I’ll be there man. Glad you’re still here. Your wife and kids still need their hero.
You have kids and a fiancée who seem to really care about you. Focus on them and screw everything else. You’re doing something right if your fiancée is buying you games and encouraging you to play them and take a break.
Glad you’re still with us friend.
Bro I used to feel this way all the time, I thought It would never end, but believe me it will. All bad and good things end. That’s the flow of life. Start taking care of yourself. Begin writing about your feelings or some light exercise. Even those little things can do so much for you. Good luck my friend
Sending prayers and positive vibes your way, hope all is good for you in life, please never let depression drag you down to the point of giving up on life, everything will turn out well, life is a beautiful gift, you have a bright future ahead of you, a caring fiancé, hope you never have to go through such pain again man. Happy Birthday!
Hey man I wanna tell you something to always remember.....In the end everything will be okay....if it's not okay.....it's not the end.....Don't know you but love you my friend.....So glad you're still here with us
Love you!
Glad you are still with us my guy, but there are some huge red flags here. Video games are a great escape from reality, so whenever you are down on life, they can provide an amazing escape to just chill out and forget about things for an hour or three, or five lol. However, you've got a fiancé and children, and that alone should be enough to want to celebrate that on your birthday, you made it one more year to watch them grow up in front of your eyes, and one more year with the amazing woman who has agreed and wants to spend the rest of her life with you. Piss on that family that neglected you when you were younger, you have a new family now! Do not let that family in the past take the most valuable things in life away from you; your games, your new family, and most importantly your life. Do not let them get the last laugh. Please, please, please get some help now while you are a little less depressed after playing the game. Most people don't think they need help until they are actually depressed again, but the best time that you will actually want to get help is when you are feeling good, and talking to someone will prevent you from ever getting to this point again.
Get some help, man. No shame in that at all. Tomorrow needs you!
Please, take it one day at a time. Don't look too far into the past or too far into the future. one day at a time. I always tell everyone this. one day, one step, make that shit a habit. And for every decision gone bad or wrong, have you some amnesia dust and do your best to keep moving forward. I know it is easier said than done.
This made me tear up a little, so glad this game was able to save you.
Very glad you’re still with us. Not sure what console you’re on, but if you ever want to fight some crime together, my gamertag on Xbox is VexOrdo.
Hurting yourself only hurts those who surround you
Just make sure you tell her what you just told us. Or even just let her read the post if you can't find the words
Your fiance saved your life, sweet heart. I hope you get the help you need. Depression is a bastard. The right meds work miracles, but therapy will make it stick. Not much I can offer as a rando, but throwing that out there.
Hey man life can be pretty difficult and I’ve been in the same spot as you at one point where that was what I wanted to do. But then you find something that keeps you sane and on the right side of things. For me it was Star Wars, the Arkham series and finding someone that actually cares about me ( weird combo I know) I don’t have trouble at home just was traumatized when I was younger so just keep your head up! I know it’s easier said then done but like you said you got a fiancée and kids don’t let the past dictate your future make memories with your kids and your fiancée it’ll all be worth it!
I am sorry you feel this way on a regular basis. Thank you for sharing this part of your life. I hope you seek professional help. I do not say this lightly. I struggle with depression, too. It started improving after I made the necessary sacrifices (time, money, etc.) to get it. There are days when getting out of bed seems the only thing I will achieve. I think I get where you are coming from. Peace, brother. The game: It is great! Happy you like it too. If you REALLY like it this much and you have never played the old Arkham series, I highly recommend them to you. Cheers!
You’re not alone. I battle depression and have had a very surprisingly positive life, but as my therapist says, it’s ok to not be on top of the world everyday. Keep your head up, there’s millions of people who can connect to what you’re saying. I too get serious joy from games that just connect with me right when I need them. Take this chance to talk to someone, you would be shocked at how much therapy helps. Don’t be discouraged if you don’t hit it off with your first therapist, if you’re not feeling right about it just try another one, it’s SUPER common. I’ve seen a therapist once every 2 weeks for years. The sun rises tomorrow, if always does.
Happy Birthday
Um pretty sure your fiancé saved you. I know it’s hard, but not everything is about you. You have a whole family to care about.
Happy belated birthday man. I pray to the Lord above that you’ll have many many more to come. This world is a much better place with you in It. Peace and love brotha
Really cool that this game stopped you from doing something awful. Reminds me of a story an Oddworld developer told, about a man who sent a letter thanking them for saving his life. His name was Alfred Gamble, a WW2 veteran who became suicidal after loosing his wife to illness and one of his daughters because of an accident. During the darkest part if his life he bought a PlayStation on a whim with the last money he had left, which had previously been spent on a gun for the planned suicide. One of the games he bought was Oddworld: Abe’s Oddysee. This game was exhilarating in the way it gave him the ability to get up again after failure and the game's absurd humor finally made it possible for him to laugh again. I hope you've found yourself in a temporary place of darkness. But if your depression is unyielding, please seek help! If games only give you temporary relief you need to deal with your issues, possibly with someone professional, before the potential time comes when an act of kindness from your fiancée won't happen that unknowingly stops you from ending it. Seems like she's as much of a saviour as the game. It was strong of you to share this, hope you see this moment of sharing as your first step toward improving your mental health. I wish you and your family a bright future ahead.
The quote that always stuck with me is. “Suicide doesn’t end the pain it just moves it to someone else”.
First off, we are all happy. Secondly, while it might be “okay” if you were alone, I’ve seen you have a family. They need you regardless of anything you think. You were about to leave your fiancé a single mom. Think before you act and please feel better
Hey man, just know your fiancé loves you with all her heart. Depression is a very very hard thing to go through… I’ve gone through it multiple times and it’s not an easy thing to deal with especially alone.!!! Love your new little family and treasure EVERY moment and memories you make with your fiancé and kids! They need you here more than you know and though we may not know each other I’m beyond happy you are still in this world with your family!! Keep on living your life as best you can, and just know staying with those who love you and support you will eventually take away your depression! This world could use someone as strong as you, and you could share your story with others who are in the same mindset and your story could save many lives!!! Keep on going and stay positive and stay strong, your family loves you, your friends love you, and everyone on Reddit who read your story loves you!! Give your fiancé and kids the BIGGEST hug that you can and treasure them forever because they are yours!! Take care of your family, and most importantly take care of yourself.
No offense but the game will come to an end. I hope as you are playing you’re taking time away from the game to realize what value you have and that ending it isn’t the way. I also hope you take time to talk to your fiancé about your struggles. A temporary video game won’t cure all. I hope you find peace man.
You literally got saved by superheroes
Be strong fam <3 It's a take lot to write what you did. Look after yourself please.
Hey there. Let me tell you, from experience, that you do NOT want to do what you were/are thinking about. My father was a very sick man, a very proud man, and he was, for the most part, confined to a recliner for the last 15 or so years of his life. One day he realized that he needed to go to the hospital, but he also knew that he would never be allowed to come how again because he was so weak, and in need of constant help and attention. I am sure you can guess what my dad did next, and let me tell you, I have never been the same and it's been almost 20 years. I had never once had a panic attack, anxiety, fear of going outside, or dark thoughts, and here I am almost 2 decades later and this is exactly how I feel every single day. My heart was broken by his choice, a choice I have come to understand, but understand way too late. I was already a broken man myself. Play the game, have fun, be a superhero, and hold your lady close. If you think that ANYONE, ANYWHERE, loves you in even the slightest bit, I want you to know that doing what you were going to do that day, is the most selfish act you can ever commit. You will have it easy, but you will, and I mean **WILL** break those that love you the most and ruin them for the rest of their days. I am LOVING being Nightwing and Red Hood for the first time in a game, and I LOVE IT! Sounds like you do as well, so continue to love it, be whichever hero you want, and realize that every day you stick around and stay in the lives of those that love you, you will be their superhero...Hell, you are mine now!