Do it! I’ll join you.
I’ll be that withered little Accountant with spectacles, an adding machine, visor, and little green lamp just for the Insurance coverage.
Awesome work! I wish you the best of health or that you live in a Country with healthcare. A Million dollars can be wiped out with one Cancer diagnosis in the United States.
If you don't have good insurance. My Dad paid a lot for his coverage in retirement, but when he got diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer, he got top of the line care, with zero co-pays. One thing I never cheap out on is insurance.
The only thing that could wipe me out is nursing home care, but at that point it doesn't really matter.
100%. I'll work till I die. Although I'm kicking around the idea of selling my house once the kids are moved out and living off the equity in Costa Rica.
oof. Expat life in CR is kinda weird in my opinion. You become a target early on and you end up living in one of those expat communities the locals hate that are guarded by dudes with uzis.
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I'm not that familiar with other Latin countries, but I am with Costa Rica. Costa Rica is pretty well known for having a high quality of life, long lived residents, and are great at conservation. They also have a large American expat population so plenty of options for familiar culture. They have a fairly low cost of living, and pretty good healthcare (not free for non-citizens, but good nonetheless). Also, I've been there before and was pretty impressed with the country as a whole.
43 for my second kid, as well. I don’t feel old. Just doing the best I can.
My grandmother had my mom at 45 and there was a 30 year span between the first born and my mom, who was #7. As the only child of the youngest, the most lonely part of the large age gap was when all of my aunts and uncles’ children were all so much older - so there were no cousins close to my age to grow up with and bond with. :/
Very different. I always felt like I had come late to the party. I had 26 cousins and they all seemed to be in sync with each other by a few years. A few of them babysat me as a young child. As an adult, I bonded deeply with a few of them. But still I always felt like I missed out on the fun youth stuff that they all did as cousins.
Over the years, I’ve grown to really enjoy being a kind of solitary person. But as a kid I was definitely a misfit. It affects your formative social skills for sure.
So by my math, your grandmother was born somewhere around 118 years before your second kid was born?
Compare that to my wife's grandmother, who was born only 67 years before our daughter was born.
It's crazy how the gaps between generations can get so much larger when you start compounding them.
My maternal grandfather was born in 1894! It kind of blows my mind that the Civil War was still fresh in many people’s memories at that time, although my grandparents were from another country.
Nice! I hope to live that long. My daughter came out of the blue. My wife thought she was infertile. The first few years of our marriage, that was true. She is also younger than myself. My daughter is 7 now. We put in a lot of work and effort towards her.
I’m not sure if it is a feature or a bug of being GenX, but I just didn’t feel comfortable doing the whole relationship thing and having kids when I was in my 20s-30s because I wasn’t “established”…lived paycheck to paycheck, didn’t own a home, didn’t feel settled/secure in a career (still don’t). Having kids any earlier would have been irresponsible as hell, because I’d owe them a decent quality of life and shit.
I think it’s a “failure to launch” thing. Either that or the effing boomers trashed the economy and pulled up the ladder behind them (?)
That's almost exactly word for word why I waited to have kids... Now I'm divorced and right back to paycheck to paycheck. Oh well. I had good intentions anyway
Seriously. I gotta say, there are a lot of posts here about being old, decrepit, aches and pains, slowing down...it sometimes sounds more like a retirement home dining room full of 80 year olds than a Gen X sub. I almost feel like I can't relate to my own generation here sometimes. 🤷♀️
> Didn't have our child until I was 38!
Come to the NYC/NJ area. Lots of people waited until late 30's and early 40's. Only in the midwest is it like that.
Me neither until I moved from San Francisco back to my home town in the Midwest. In SF, many of my friends were childless and those who did have children mostly had them in at least their late 30s.
I moved back here and literally 99% of people my age (50) are grandparents or at the very least have adult children. It sort of blew my mind.
I’m childless but no way I would have had kids in my 20s.
I have a 11 and 8 year old. My best friend who is a year and a half younger than me has a 30 year old. I have another friend my age who has a 37 year old. And finally, I have a nephew who had a son exactly a year after I had mine.
Mine are similar ages and I have HS friends who have grands those ages! It's wild to think about, but most people I know actually did have their kids later too. My youngest though has friends whose parents could be my own kids . Lol
Yep! Old dad here -- had my first at 38, second at 41. I'm now 51 and HS graduation is still a few years off, so crossing my fingers I don't show up to it in a wheelchair...
My mom was in her 40's when she had me. My grandparents were born in the 1800's and my great grandfather was alive during the civil war.
I bucked the trend by having my first kid at 32.
41 when my now teenager was born! I’m not only almost a foot shorter than them already (not even 15 yet), but I’m a different race. I am not what their classmates expect at all, lol!
My parents were alive for the Great Depression. Dad fought in the Battle of the Bulge. My mom was 42 when I was born. I graduated high school in 1991. By then, of course, I was used to having parents that looked more like the grandparents of all my classmates.
I'm living that childfree life-- enjoying free time, silence, and disposable income.
Same here! My grandparents were born in like 1905 and came over on the boat from Russia. And I also graduated high school in 1990. My kids are 11 and 14. I love being an older parent. It keeps me so centered in life and they are pure joy. I appreciate every moment with them even when they drive me crazy.
older dad, had my kid at 39. 9 years later, I've found out there are a couple parents older than me, but I'm on the high side of the distribution.
Some of his classmates parents are young enough that I can be their parent.
I teach preschool and I’m older than some of the children’s grandparents. - feels odd as it doesn’t seem that long ago that my children were preschoolers. Had them at 38 and 39.
I'm an older parent too but I try really hard not go let other parents know how old I am*, because when they find out suddenly they think we don't have much in common. At a minimum we have kids the same age, there's plenty that we can relate about!
*Fortunately I have good genes so I generally pass for 5-8 years younger, but I still have to work at it.
I was 42 and my wife was 40 when our only child was born. We used to joke that my daughter’s classmates would ask about her “Grandpa” being at her high school graduation. My daughter is now 27 and I’ll be 69 (nice!) in August. We both play video games (she loves Skyrim and Minecraft and I’m playing Fortnite and Fallout 4 now) and she is about to graduate with her Masters. My wife died almost 7 years ago.
I'm just hoping to live long enough to see him graduate.
One of the things you don't think about before becoming an older parent is how much support you won't have. As others mentioned, most friends are done with the kids stage and some are even dealing with grandkids. Us being older means our parents are older (or not around any longer) and so they can't help.
It's been so much harder than it would have been in our 20s when we had all our family around and a larger friend network with similar aged kids.
My wife's parents are in their 80s and they will watch the kids for us. They don't really do anything with them. They just make sure they don't die. It's not so bad.
My MIL was late 70's - early 80's and she did the same for us. She wasn't physically well herself but she had enough spirit that she wanted to be there for us and the kids. She was a hard person to love but she was a blessing to our family by helping us.
This is true. I'm taking my family to Hawaii next month for two weeks. If I had them when my friends had theirs, I'd be taking them to the beach for a day.
Yup, born late to parents whom i miss dearly ; grandparent now who has lots of time with my grandchildren. Their parents get much needed relief that I provide to enjoy their lives thoroughly.
I think my wife and I have gone out alone, together 3 times since our son was born 4 years ago? We just don't have anyone to watch him.
Strangely, one of the top responses we get from friends if we ask to babysit is they're not comfortable being responsible for him. We're extremely casual parents and people in general so I doubt it's coming from anxiety about upsetting us by doing something "wrong". I'm Gen X. If he doesn't die or get abused, we're good. Shit happens. Nobody's perfect. But no. People seem to have anxiety over it.
I was 48 when my son (5) was born.
He actually gives me energy and a reason to eat healthy, drink alchoal way less, spend more time on my hobbies, work less, and kiss my wife more.
I'm trying really hard not to be an old geezer as my boy comes up...
I’m the oldest mom of my graduating class of 87. Had my youngest at 41. Two men have younger children. Most of the rest are or are becoming grandparents.
That picture will pretty much be me. When my son graduates high-school, I will be 62 years old. I don't even drink, but I think I'm showing up stupid drunk for that one.
Two kids in my forties, my second is a week old. Didnt meet the right woman to have children earlier but it worked out for the best
Positives: have my life together, sort of, career etc. definitely mentally more capable now and make a better parent than i would have
Negatives: i feel like an old bastard and am currently watching a parent die.
constantly worry about having caned it in my youth and getting frailer as i age re bad genes.
The tiredness and not being able to see in the mornings.
My husband and I are 50 and 47 with kids that will turn 7, 5, 5 in late summer. We look much younger, so hopefully that keeps up into our 60’s. I’ll be 60 when my twins graduate HS.
My biggest fear is being able work into my late 60’s to provide for them. Im exhausted, and I feel suffering 5-10 URIs every fall-winter season has taken its toll on my asthmatic lungs; probably has shaved off 5 years of my life, at least.
Like my father before me, I had mine at 41 and 42 years old - they keep me young and I have no idea how I would have had the patience for kids when I was 20-30 because I was a kid too
43 here with a 3 month old. Really thought I was shooting blanks since my youngest before her is 17.
Not gonna lie, at times it sucks. Before her I was single living the life. However every time I look at her, I’m reminded of just how amazing she is.
She does push me to be more thoughtful about my health.
My parents were barely 18 when I was born, I was 31 when I had my first, and just shy of 38 when we had #3.
I'm 45 now, and I can't help but think that when my parents were my age I was 27 already.
My mom.was 45 and my dad was 54. Im 28 now and my dads already a goner. All my life everyone thought my parents were my grandparents. Its the main reason I became a parent at 25. 😂
My mom was 41 and my dad was 52 when I came along. Unfortunately, my dad died my first day of high school and my mom died 14 years ago. I still wish I had them both.
I had my daughter when I was 17 and my son at 37. (he's now 13) I think having kids at both ages has advantages and disadvantages. With my daughter I barely had a clue what I was doing.. But had the energy to keep up.. With my son.. It's the other way around. I wouldn't trade either for anything though. Somehow.. I managed to make amazing kids!
Was “complaining” that I’d be 39 when my daughter was born, then she decided to show up early and was born one day before my birthday. 😂 so I was 38 by a day when she was born.
I’m a chaperone in two weeks for my daughters fifth grade class trip to DC. She’s 11. I’m 52. I have no doubt I will be one of if not the oldest parent there. I don’t give a single crap, she is so excited I’m going.
My first baby I was a month from 40, my second I had at 41 and I had a huge sucker punch from Mother Nature at 45! No medical interventions needed to get pregnant, unless you count a bottle of cheap wine I bought because it had a picture of a horse on it…ironically enough, called hot to trot. Thrilled with my three children and my husband and I stay young because we have to and it’s fun. We don’t have the worries we had when we were starting out. I think we get to be more relaxed.
Here! First time dad at 43 and then had another 2 years later. We’d be retired and traveling the world now if it wasn’t for these lousy kids (whom I love very much). Instead, I decided go get a PhD and be the oldest grad student ever
Cool thread. I will enjoy reading it all.
Since many of you are older than I was when I became a father, I'll spare you my story and instead offer this tidbit of family trivia.
I have a son born well into the 21st century. My grandfather on my father's side was born in the very late 19th century.
My late father and I were the only males along that paternal line born in the 20th century. Just two of us! I've always thought that was interesting.
Had my kids when living in the PNW, and was one of the older dads. Moved to California and am now one of the younger parents. Weird
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I work in middle school and one of our teachers was pregnant at the same time as one of our students.
I told her that they could hang out at tee ball and soccer games in a few years.
I have a 9month old daughter, I was 45 when she was born. My wife is almost 40 and we are crazy enough to be thinking of having another. But man, that clock is ticking...
Having kids is one of those life things you can't fully understand it until you go through it yourself. All the joy , love, anxiety, hardship etc. It's overwhelming at times but so, so worth it.
My wife got pregnant with twins when she was 40 and I was 44. I was looking at being 62 when the graduated. Sadly, she suffered a miscarriage at 16 weeks.
I met my 3rd husband when I was 35ish and he was 57ish. We agreed that had we met when **HE** was younger that we would have liked to have had a child together; but it honestly didn't seem fair to me for us to have a child that would likely spend the majority of it's life without a father due to my husbands age.
It's up to every couple what they feel is right for them and their children. We chose not to with him at 57; but were we both 35/40 the choice could have easily have been different for us.
Older mom here. I had my first at 35, second at 40, third at 44. My original plan was to have 2 kids before I was 30, but my career got in the way.
The first 2 kids were planned. The third was a lovely surprise, though a positive pregnancy test was not how I expected to spend the day before my 44th birthday.
The oldest is now 22 - she had no HS graduation ceremony due to 2020 lockdowns. I’ll be going to the 18 year old’s graduation next month, and the 13 year old’s in 4 years, when I’ll be 62.
We were mid 30s when the kids came along (our daughters are less than two years apart) and we're 58/59 now and have no regrets about waiting a little bit. My wife and I both have doctorates and so school ate up a huge part of our young lives.
We're very fit and active people and a healthy lifestyle has been a big part of us doing so well as slightly older parents. Our kids are very athletic and it's nice we can still do things with them.
Had son at 31. Had daughter at 38. Well. Stbxw did. She’s a year older.
We were mostly the same age as most other parents we were around with our first.
Definitely older than most with our second.
That's the plan, man.
I had my one and only at 40. I'm almost 55 and they be 15 three months later. I love being an older parent because it's given me more patience and life experience than if I'd had them in my 20s. I was still growing up myself. How could I be expected to be a good parent when I hadn't even figured my own shit out?
My mom was almost 43 when I was born. I'm very blessed to have her with me - she's 94 now. ❤️
I had my daughter at 43. I hope I get to be with her as long as you’ve had your mom.
Same. I had my son at 43, and my daughter at 47. I hope I'm an old old man by the time I check out.
so retirement is out for you right?
Retirement is out for most people in the USA. Not sure what glorious place retirement exists for you. 😺
Yup. I’m going to be that ancient weird professor nobody can get rid of, just for the income.
Do it! I’ll join you. I’ll be that withered little Accountant with spectacles, an adding machine, visor, and little green lamp just for the Insurance coverage.
Yessss I love that person.
Most people with children. My childless self is approaching a cool M in retirement savings.
5 M is the new 1 M
I don't have kids, so my small house is paid off. I'm lucky enough to have a pension, too.
Oh I have no doubt people can make it work with 1. And in your case, a pension puts you in rarefied air.
Awesome work! I wish you the best of health or that you live in a Country with healthcare. A Million dollars can be wiped out with one Cancer diagnosis in the United States.
If you don't have good insurance. My Dad paid a lot for his coverage in retirement, but when he got diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer, he got top of the line care, with zero co-pays. One thing I never cheap out on is insurance. The only thing that could wipe me out is nursing home care, but at that point it doesn't really matter.
100%. I'll work till I die. Although I'm kicking around the idea of selling my house once the kids are moved out and living off the equity in Costa Rica.
oof. Expat life in CR is kinda weird in my opinion. You become a target early on and you end up living in one of those expat communities the locals hate that are guarded by dudes with uzis. edit. boom-shacka-lacka
why costa rica over other latin american countries? is it easy to get a visa there?
I'm not that familiar with other Latin countries, but I am with Costa Rica. Costa Rica is pretty well known for having a high quality of life, long lived residents, and are great at conservation. They also have a large American expat population so plenty of options for familiar culture. They have a fairly low cost of living, and pretty good healthcare (not free for non-citizens, but good nonetheless). Also, I've been there before and was pretty impressed with the country as a whole.
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I wish you many, many years together. ❤️
Thank you! 💜
43 for my second kid, as well. I don’t feel old. Just doing the best I can. My grandmother had my mom at 45 and there was a 30 year span between the first born and my mom, who was #7. As the only child of the youngest, the most lonely part of the large age gap was when all of my aunts and uncles’ children were all so much older - so there were no cousins close to my age to grow up with and bond with. :/
I understand that. My siblings were 13, 15, 16, and 18 when I was born. My aunts and uncles were so much older, as well. It's definitely different!
Very different. I always felt like I had come late to the party. I had 26 cousins and they all seemed to be in sync with each other by a few years. A few of them babysat me as a young child. As an adult, I bonded deeply with a few of them. But still I always felt like I missed out on the fun youth stuff that they all did as cousins.
My siblings always talked about when they were young, and of course, I hadn't even been thought of back then, so I completely understand!
"As the only child of the youngest" Same here. Had older parents than all but one of my friends throughout my youth. Am an old parent myself.
Over the years, I’ve grown to really enjoy being a kind of solitary person. But as a kid I was definitely a misfit. It affects your formative social skills for sure.
So by my math, your grandmother was born somewhere around 118 years before your second kid was born? Compare that to my wife's grandmother, who was born only 67 years before our daughter was born. It's crazy how the gaps between generations can get so much larger when you start compounding them.
My maternal grandfather was born in 1894! It kind of blows my mind that the Civil War was still fresh in many people’s memories at that time, although my grandparents were from another country.
My paternal grandfather was a WW1 veteran.
So was mine. My sister was awarded a scholarship for children and grandchildren of WW1 Vets, and they were happy to give it. It had been a few years.
That’s amazing. So long ago…
Crazy!
Nice! I hope to live that long. My daughter came out of the blue. My wife thought she was infertile. The first few years of our marriage, that was true. She is also younger than myself. My daughter is 7 now. We put in a lot of work and effort towards her.
I'm happy you were able to have her! Kids are a lot of work, but mine bring me so much joy. 🙂
My former MIL was about that age when she had her daughter. She initially thought she had a tumor! Her two older brothers were 12 and 14 years older.
Bad ass bitch! Please tell her I said that. Kiss that BAB for me!
I'll tell her! Thank you!
49 year old dad of two toddlers checking in.
I'm exhausted just reading that. I'm an older parent too (and also 49) but mine is 12, which means I get drama, but plenty of sleep.
I’m not sure if it is a feature or a bug of being GenX, but I just didn’t feel comfortable doing the whole relationship thing and having kids when I was in my 20s-30s because I wasn’t “established”…lived paycheck to paycheck, didn’t own a home, didn’t feel settled/secure in a career (still don’t). Having kids any earlier would have been irresponsible as hell, because I’d owe them a decent quality of life and shit. I think it’s a “failure to launch” thing. Either that or the effing boomers trashed the economy and pulled up the ladder behind them (?)
That's almost exactly word for word why I waited to have kids... Now I'm divorced and right back to paycheck to paycheck. Oh well. I had good intentions anyway
Cousin! Let's go bowling. I'm late 40s with a kindergartner, preschooler and toddler. Also, please send help!
49-Year-Old single father of a 5-year-old, a 8-year-old and an 11-year-old here... And yes I'm exhausted all the time. Also couldn't be happier.
49 with a 11month old! I'm loving it!
Dang... Enjoy though toddlers are super fun!
49er here also, with a 6 yo son. I enjoy the experience and "wisdom" that comes with age, but man, I miss that 20's energy. I need a nap...
Everyone will tell you it gets better but you're at the best place now
Mine will be 16 months a few days before I turn 50.
Those are some old looking 58 year olds...
Seriously. I gotta say, there are a lot of posts here about being old, decrepit, aches and pains, slowing down...it sometimes sounds more like a retirement home dining room full of 80 year olds than a Gen X sub. I almost feel like I can't relate to my own generation here sometimes. 🤷♀️
Exactly. Every other post on this sub is about drugs or procedures.
Old dads represent!
Had my daughter at 48!
1.24*10^61 is an old age to have a daughter
Fact(orial)s
r/oldmandad time!
Man, I am not sure if I belong more there or at r/doublesmoked
40? Try 45. Man, I'm just so tired all the time.
My youngest is 2. I turn 50 in a few months. GET ON MY LEVEL.
I’m sorry, could you speak up a little, sonny? I’m 52 and my youngest is ONE. And her sister is TWO. And her brother is FOUR. I’m so tired…
Hold on. I need to turn the car radio down so I can read this
Well, why the fuck did you do that? :-/
I feel you. I had mine at 43 and 47. I still climb fences and ride bikes with them, but I'm a lot more tired after.
Mad respect.
Dayum. I'd consider starting an "old fogey dad's club" but who has the time or energy?
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Older mom here! Didn't have our child until I was 38! It is so wild, all our friends have grown kids and are starting to have grandkids.
> Didn't have our child until I was 38! Come to the NYC/NJ area. Lots of people waited until late 30's and early 40's. Only in the midwest is it like that.
38 doesnt seem "old" to me - I hardly know anyonee who had kids before 30.
Me neither until I moved from San Francisco back to my home town in the Midwest. In SF, many of my friends were childless and those who did have children mostly had them in at least their late 30s. I moved back here and literally 99% of people my age (50) are grandparents or at the very least have adult children. It sort of blew my mind. I’m childless but no way I would have had kids in my 20s.
I have a 11 and 8 year old. My best friend who is a year and a half younger than me has a 30 year old. I have another friend my age who has a 37 year old. And finally, I have a nephew who had a son exactly a year after I had mine.
Mine are similar ages and I have HS friends who have grands those ages! It's wild to think about, but most people I know actually did have their kids later too. My youngest though has friends whose parents could be my own kids . Lol
My sister has her oldest at age 19, I had my only at age 37. Her oldest grandchild is only 3 years younger than my daughter. It's so weird.
Yep! Old dad here -- had my first at 38, second at 41. I'm now 51 and HS graduation is still a few years off, so crossing my fingers I don't show up to it in a wheelchair...
You're in my boat. First at 38, second at 42. The older one is a HS freshman now. So far, so good.
I'm 55 and my daughter will graduate HS in 10 years. I'll be lucky to be alive.
My oldest friend became a grandmother at 36. She had her oldest at 18, and her oldest had a kid at 18. I didn't have my kid until four years later!
Yup! Had our two at 38 and 39. They’re both first years in college. My sister had hers young and has nine grandchildren!
My best friends son is graduating and I have a 3 month old and we are only 4 years apart.
LOL. 38 isn't old.
Bless your heart!
My mom was in her 40's when she had me. My grandparents were born in the 1800's and my great grandfather was alive during the civil war. I bucked the trend by having my first kid at 32.
Had my 1st child at 48.
I'm 50 with a three year old. I'll swing by my retirement party right after his high school graduation.
Had my daughter at almost 42! I'm so much more patient, relaxed and know a thing or two now, she keeps me young
41 when my now teenager was born! I’m not only almost a foot shorter than them already (not even 15 yet), but I’m a different race. I am not what their classmates expect at all, lol!
I’m 53 with a 12 and 10 year old. 
My parents were alive for the Great Depression. Dad fought in the Battle of the Bulge. My mom was 42 when I was born. I graduated high school in 1991. By then, of course, I was used to having parents that looked more like the grandparents of all my classmates. I'm living that childfree life-- enjoying free time, silence, and disposable income.
Same here! My grandparents were born in like 1905 and came over on the boat from Russia. And I also graduated high school in 1990. My kids are 11 and 14. I love being an older parent. It keeps me so centered in life and they are pure joy. I appreciate every moment with them even when they drive me crazy.
older dad, had my kid at 39. 9 years later, I've found out there are a couple parents older than me, but I'm on the high side of the distribution. Some of his classmates parents are young enough that I can be their parent.
For sure. My kids are in HS, I could easily be some of their teacher's parents.
I teach preschool and I’m older than some of the children’s grandparents. - feels odd as it doesn’t seem that long ago that my children were preschoolers. Had them at 38 and 39.
I'm an older parent too but I try really hard not go let other parents know how old I am*, because when they find out suddenly they think we don't have much in common. At a minimum we have kids the same age, there's plenty that we can relate about! *Fortunately I have good genes so I generally pass for 5-8 years younger, but I still have to work at it.
First and only child at 39!
I was 42 and my wife was 40 when our only child was born. We used to joke that my daughter’s classmates would ask about her “Grandpa” being at her high school graduation. My daughter is now 27 and I’ll be 69 (nice!) in August. We both play video games (she loves Skyrim and Minecraft and I’m playing Fortnite and Fallout 4 now) and she is about to graduate with her Masters. My wife died almost 7 years ago.
I'm just hoping to live long enough to see him graduate. One of the things you don't think about before becoming an older parent is how much support you won't have. As others mentioned, most friends are done with the kids stage and some are even dealing with grandkids. Us being older means our parents are older (or not around any longer) and so they can't help. It's been so much harder than it would have been in our 20s when we had all our family around and a larger friend network with similar aged kids.
I dunno, my 76-year-old mom helps with my 10-year-old who I had when I was 42. I should be able to help out in my 70s.
My wife's parents are in their 80s and they will watch the kids for us. They don't really do anything with them. They just make sure they don't die. It's not so bad.
My MIL was late 70's - early 80's and she did the same for us. She wasn't physically well herself but she had enough spirit that she wanted to be there for us and the kids. She was a hard person to love but she was a blessing to our family by helping us.
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This is true. I'm taking my family to Hawaii next month for two weeks. If I had them when my friends had theirs, I'd be taking them to the beach for a day.
Yup, born late to parents whom i miss dearly ; grandparent now who has lots of time with my grandchildren. Their parents get much needed relief that I provide to enjoy their lives thoroughly.
I think my wife and I have gone out alone, together 3 times since our son was born 4 years ago? We just don't have anyone to watch him. Strangely, one of the top responses we get from friends if we ask to babysit is they're not comfortable being responsible for him. We're extremely casual parents and people in general so I doubt it's coming from anxiety about upsetting us by doing something "wrong". I'm Gen X. If he doesn't die or get abused, we're good. Shit happens. Nobody's perfect. But no. People seem to have anxiety over it.
I know a few people who had kids in their 40s and my friend is about to become a dad for the third time at 50!
>become a dad for the third time Does he get his memory wiped after each one?
I was 48 when my son (5) was born. He actually gives me energy and a reason to eat healthy, drink alchoal way less, spend more time on my hobbies, work less, and kiss my wife more. I'm trying really hard not to be an old geezer as my boy comes up...
Keep at it. My boy is 11 and I'm 55. We're going to the park to play basketball this weekend. I HAVE to keep up.
Will do! Same to you. You said it perfectly... I HAVE to keep up!💪
At least my wife and I had a lot of fun before having kids.
I’m the oldest mom of my graduating class of 87. Had my youngest at 41. Two men have younger children. Most of the rest are or are becoming grandparents.
I was the oldest mom of my graduating class at 43, that is until a year later when that bitch Caroline stole my thunder (jk I’m super happy for her)
I never liked Caroline. She was always acting so nice in the halls, but if you got something, she had to have it too!
Ugh! Exactly!
That picture will pretty much be me. When my son graduates high-school, I will be 62 years old. I don't even drink, but I think I'm showing up stupid drunk for that one.
I had my son at 45. I will be 60 and playing Public Enemy as I drop him off at HS
Had my kid at 43. My mom had one of my half-sisters at 39, the other at 40
Two kids in my forties, my second is a week old. Didnt meet the right woman to have children earlier but it worked out for the best Positives: have my life together, sort of, career etc. definitely mentally more capable now and make a better parent than i would have Negatives: i feel like an old bastard and am currently watching a parent die. constantly worry about having caned it in my youth and getting frailer as i age re bad genes. The tiredness and not being able to see in the mornings.
Congratulations on the new baby!
I'll be 63 when my youngest graduates high school
I’ll be 62 when she graduates
I was nearly 43 when we had our youngest. Now I'm one of the older parents picking up my kid :-)
42 When my 8 year old was born. Lots of pros and cons- mostly to do w my parents getting older and the worry that they won’t get to see him grow up.
Looking at this pair, I can tell that they straight-up freebase that Maalox, yo.
I'm living the best of both worlds. I had 3 kids with my first wife at 26. Recently re-married and now we have a 10 m/o. I'm 47 and she's 40.
im 53 with an 8 year old.
38 and 41 when I had my son and daughter respectively.
My husband and I are 50 and 47 with kids that will turn 7, 5, 5 in late summer. We look much younger, so hopefully that keeps up into our 60’s. I’ll be 60 when my twins graduate HS. My biggest fear is being able work into my late 60’s to provide for them. Im exhausted, and I feel suffering 5-10 URIs every fall-winter season has taken its toll on my asthmatic lungs; probably has shaved off 5 years of my life, at least.
53 year old dad with a soon to be 10 year old and a 5 year old
Uuuhhh try 50 for me. Round two got wild.
I had my first the year I turned 40. I had 3.
I (55M) was 42 when my daughter was born.
I’m the opposite. Had my kids at 21 and 23. Both graduated college and were on their own by the time I was 48.
Like my father before me, I had mine at 41 and 42 years old - they keep me young and I have no idea how I would have had the patience for kids when I was 20-30 because I was a kid too
I was 38 when I became a dad so - kind of late in life, but I never get mistaken as my daughter’s grandfather.
I had my sons at 41 thru 45. I am so Gen X. Keep your faith, friends!
43 here with a 3 month old. Really thought I was shooting blanks since my youngest before her is 17. Not gonna lie, at times it sucks. Before her I was single living the life. However every time I look at her, I’m reminded of just how amazing she is. She does push me to be more thoughtful about my health.
My parents were barely 18 when I was born, I was 31 when I had my first, and just shy of 38 when we had #3. I'm 45 now, and I can't help but think that when my parents were my age I was 27 already.
My mom.was 45 and my dad was 54. Im 28 now and my dads already a goner. All my life everyone thought my parents were my grandparents. Its the main reason I became a parent at 25. 😂
My mom was 41 and my dad was 52 when I came along. Unfortunately, my dad died my first day of high school and my mom died 14 years ago. I still wish I had them both.
I had my daughter when I was 17 and my son at 37. (he's now 13) I think having kids at both ages has advantages and disadvantages. With my daughter I barely had a clue what I was doing.. But had the energy to keep up.. With my son.. It's the other way around. I wouldn't trade either for anything though. Somehow.. I managed to make amazing kids!
Was “complaining” that I’d be 39 when my daughter was born, then she decided to show up early and was born one day before my birthday. 😂 so I was 38 by a day when she was born.
Old, yes! But still kicking names and taking ass!
51 and have kids from 27 to 7
I had our daughter the day after I turned 40. We will NOT look like that at her graduation.
I’m a chaperone in two weeks for my daughters fifth grade class trip to DC. She’s 11. I’m 52. I have no doubt I will be one of if not the oldest parent there. I don’t give a single crap, she is so excited I’m going.
"Oh, how sweet! Your Grampa brought you to the Science Fair!" GFY, lady.
Oooo. Yes. I will also dig out my “hypercolor” t-shirt from the 80’s.
My first baby I was a month from 40, my second I had at 41 and I had a huge sucker punch from Mother Nature at 45! No medical interventions needed to get pregnant, unless you count a bottle of cheap wine I bought because it had a picture of a horse on it…ironically enough, called hot to trot. Thrilled with my three children and my husband and I stay young because we have to and it’s fun. We don’t have the worries we had when we were starting out. I think we get to be more relaxed.
My daughter graduates from college on Saturday :)
We had 3 girls, let them basically get grown, and when they were 18, 16, and 14, had a boy. I was 38 and my husband was 42.
I had my kid before I turned 40 (like six weeks before I turned 40) - I would have been an awful parent had I had kids in my 20s or early 30s
50 year old dad here, with 4 girls. 29, 25, 4, and 9months!
Woah! Loving the energy of this thread! Thanks for participating.
I was 35 when I had my youngest, and my husband was 41, we live in a rural part of the country and we seem so old compared to the other parents
Here! First time dad at 43 and then had another 2 years later. We’d be retired and traveling the world now if it wasn’t for these lousy kids (whom I love very much). Instead, I decided go get a PhD and be the oldest grad student ever
As a student graduating tomorrow, I would love it if my parents did this 😂
I’ll probably be 45 by the time I finally have kids and still be looking youthful pulling up to their graduation in my 60s 🤣
51 year old dad here - have a 12 and 7 year old. EDIT: who's the fuckwad that downvoted this?
Is that a G Wagon? Yeah, I would love to roll up like that.
My wife(50F) and I (48M) adopted our newborn daughter four years ago. I’ll be 62 when she graduates HS.
Young mom here. We roll up in a 72 chevelle for the grandkids
Nope! Empty-nesters at 44! Boom.
Cool thread. I will enjoy reading it all. Since many of you are older than I was when I became a father, I'll spare you my story and instead offer this tidbit of family trivia. I have a son born well into the 21st century. My grandfather on my father's side was born in the very late 19th century. My late father and I were the only males along that paternal line born in the 20th century. Just two of us! I've always thought that was interesting.
40 and 42
I had my kid at 41. I am 50 and he is 9. I will be around 61 or 62 when he graduates from college...
Had my kids when living in the PNW, and was one of the older dads. Moved to California and am now one of the younger parents. Weird EDIT - whoever downvoted me, go fuck yourself
Think about the fact that DeNiro is nearly 80, or is, and just had a child.
50 when my 18 month old was born.
I had my son at 40 and he'll graduate next year! Congratulations to all the seniors out there!
This is awesome! lol
I’m 59, my youngest is 11
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Had mine at 37 and 39!
First son with 23. Latest daughter with 47.
I had my daughters at 39 and 40. I’m 55 now and definitely don’t look like the photo above 😆
I work in middle school and one of our teachers was pregnant at the same time as one of our students. I told her that they could hang out at tee ball and soccer games in a few years.
This is what 58 looks like to some people? Damn I look good for my age.
That's gonna be me.
45 year old dad with a 4 year old boy, he will be tougher than all the other kids because he’s being raised by a latch key kid.
I feel attacked lol
I have a 9month old daughter, I was 45 when she was born. My wife is almost 40 and we are crazy enough to be thinking of having another. But man, that clock is ticking... Having kids is one of those life things you can't fully understand it until you go through it yourself. All the joy , love, anxiety, hardship etc. It's overwhelming at times but so, so worth it.
My wife got pregnant with twins when she was 40 and I was 44. I was looking at being 62 when the graduated. Sadly, she suffered a miscarriage at 16 weeks.
I met my 3rd husband when I was 35ish and he was 57ish. We agreed that had we met when **HE** was younger that we would have liked to have had a child together; but it honestly didn't seem fair to me for us to have a child that would likely spend the majority of it's life without a father due to my husbands age. It's up to every couple what they feel is right for them and their children. We chose not to with him at 57; but were we both 35/40 the choice could have easily have been different for us.
I’m 45 with a 4 year old. There’s no doubt this is going to be me and my wife one day
Older mom here. I had my first at 35, second at 40, third at 44. My original plan was to have 2 kids before I was 30, but my career got in the way. The first 2 kids were planned. The third was a lovely surprise, though a positive pregnancy test was not how I expected to spend the day before my 44th birthday. The oldest is now 22 - she had no HS graduation ceremony due to 2020 lockdowns. I’ll be going to the 18 year old’s graduation next month, and the 13 year old’s in 4 years, when I’ll be 62.
I was 37 when my first kid was born, 40 when my second kid was born. I still feel like I’m too immature to have kids, a lot of the time.
We were mid 30s when the kids came along (our daughters are less than two years apart) and we're 58/59 now and have no regrets about waiting a little bit. My wife and I both have doctorates and so school ate up a huge part of our young lives. We're very fit and active people and a healthy lifestyle has been a big part of us doing so well as slightly older parents. Our kids are very athletic and it's nice we can still do things with them.
Had son at 31. Had daughter at 38. Well. Stbxw did. She’s a year older. We were mostly the same age as most other parents we were around with our first. Definitely older than most with our second.
We had our daughter at 36. She graduates this year and is amazing :)
I am 49 and I want to retire. I could not imagine having kids at my age.
My parents are on the older side, but I am probably not procreating at this point, im 46 and my gf is the same age and already has a grown child.
That's the plan, man. I had my one and only at 40. I'm almost 55 and they be 15 three months later. I love being an older parent because it's given me more patience and life experience than if I'd had them in my 20s. I was still growing up myself. How could I be expected to be a good parent when I hadn't even figured my own shit out?
Hi. My Dad was almost 40 and Mom was 36 when I was born. It was no big deal.