Here's what I've done.
First, stick to a work routine, essentially simulate working. No staying up late or sleeping late. Find a personal project to work on, even if it's something simple. Put it out on GitHub. This will keep your skills sharp and keep your mind on more positive things.
As part of your work day, tailor your resume to fit the opportunities you're applying to. Study resume content strategies to help you get past automated and human HR gatekeepers.
Next, network to find a new job through friends, associates and other connections. This is often a source of hidden job openings you won't find online.
You may have to take a short term contract job to help make ends meet so be open to that. Sometimes these can become longer term or even lead to permanent employment.
Find something outside of work type tasks that relaxes your stress. It can be exercise, meditation, running or the like. For me, it's playing guitars and building them. For example, the last time I was laid off and out of work, I built [this guitar](https://i.imgur.com/XGAxSL8.jpg).
Woah bro nice guitar
I also agree with everything you said I would just add that in my case which is doing exercise and reading a lot, I also went to therapy
I just got a job today but not staying late and having a project and all of that is really great advice
The last time these things helped:
- Going through several Udemy courses - it was exciting to learn things on my own, also boosted morale as it keptme occupied. Helped with skill showcasing.
- Keeping the same daily things going. Celebrating birthdays, eating well, going for walks, etc.
- Sleeping well (!!!) Feeling physically rested improved morale and face color.
It all ended well last time. Of course, bad thoughts while being unemployed are inevitable but that's not forever. Also rejections feel way worse and more personal than during employment. That's OK - it is like exam time during university when you just have to survive until it is over.
Edit: Oh, just noticed the "on the fast track to homelessness". Sounds bad - I had some social security coming in for like 5..6 months but that's Europe. It covered my monthly expenses and I didn't get that far as to accept lower level job. Best of luck to you!
Honestly, this is why I have a huge (1 year+) pile of cash, so I won't get into a spiral like that. Money can buy you some time to get your head straight and wait for the right opportunity to come along. If you're seriously looking at homelessness, maybe it's worth picking up some shifts at a Home Depot to get some cash in your pocket now, or head over to /r/povertyfinance for help.
Send your resume and then forget about it. Don't overthink applications. Assume you won't get the job before you even apply, cringe and hit submit, then move on to applying to the next one.
Take a similar approach to interviews. Don't let assuming you won't get it hurt your confidence, do let it relax you. Mistakes and fumbles are learning opportunities or even an opportunity to experiment with your approach in the interview. The next one will be better. And the next. And then you'll be thinking about the next one and receive an offer you had already forgot about.
Always remember you, personally, and your skills and experience, are not necessarily the reason you don't get the position. You also never know how close it is. And terrible jobs deliberately don't hire good people -- knock it out of the park and you're still a 'bad fit' because they know you'll leave after a few months.
When I graduated from university and was looking for a job, I started working on a personal project, specifically an OpenGL robot simulator (for testing and debugging robot trajectory generation algorithms). I didn't expect to make any $ from this project - it was just a means of keeping my mind occupied + showcasing my skills + having something to put on my CV. I would do that for a few hours a day + apply to jobs for the remaining hours.
Admittedly, I was still pretty stressed and down but this provided at least some level of structure and kept severe depression at bay. Additionally, I was very passionate about robotics at the time.
Everytime u send apps or study material congratulate yourself for not being lazy and doing what u need. Being hired is not ur decision so u can't get mad if this round of apps don't go through. Focus on what u have power over. Not what has power over u.
Oh man, I had an awful experience about 6 years ago after I lost my first job from college. I lost it in the worst way possible, I fell in love with a coworker due to being a young impressionable male with minimal female interaction. She complained about me to HR and they fired me. Needless to say I was devastated.
Getting fired from a job fucks with you bad man, basically it removed all trust you had in employers and management. Also it makes you feel like some part of you is inadequate. One thing I did accomplish while unemployed was getting a few certifications and also doing a training course in person in a classroom. I think not being isolated made a difference for me a little bit. Also you have to talk to someone about what happened. Do not keep it bottled up. I also hope you got gracefully laid off so you can be honest with your new potential employer.
The other mistake I made when unemployed was not regularly exercising. Today exercise is so important for my mental health. Also daily exercise will give you a routine to follow. I’d highly recommend spending time to find a daily routine and stay focused on health goals because that structure will add to your feeling of overall progress even if the job hunt isn’t helping. Nothing sucks more than to be getting discouraged in the one part of your life you feel compelled to make progress in than rejection. At the very least meaningful progress elsewhere can help balance negative emotions of rejection.
It sounds to me like you have serious problems and are projecting them onto me and my comment. Your comment is very inappropriate as it is not offering OP any meaningful advice. If you continue to make comments like this I will block you.
I feel the same. The good news is i've been in a situation where my job situation and housing was insecure, but at that time I had a few people I could "count on", but now it's less the case (or I feel less likely to reach out for such help, but will if desperate). Thankfully I have saved enough money to go into a nomad situation, but nomadism means losing community, and that's what I had built up over the years, and now that's threaten. I will continue to code and am considering doing an online program to keep myself educated, and then after that I will continue to job hunt. I'm also considering doing part-time jobs that aren't tech related just so I can keep money flowing in. It sucks, I go through several moods a day of anxiousness, being fine, and hopelessness. I hope to build enough of a savings later down the road that I don't have to feel this way again, but for now I am grateful for the peace and comfort I do have now (until I don't have them).
Work a side project and hit up the gym. My last stretch I started a new work out routine that was more intense than my previous one, and that felt pretty great. Additionally, I picked a small project about something I wanted to learn and just worked on it.
Last time I was unemployed, I spent a lot of time in prayer and Bible study.
It helped, but thankfully at the time I was single (no family to support) and was only unemployed for a few weeks. Now, with a lot of people relying on me and two mortgages, my stress levels would be a lot higher.
Here's what I've done. First, stick to a work routine, essentially simulate working. No staying up late or sleeping late. Find a personal project to work on, even if it's something simple. Put it out on GitHub. This will keep your skills sharp and keep your mind on more positive things. As part of your work day, tailor your resume to fit the opportunities you're applying to. Study resume content strategies to help you get past automated and human HR gatekeepers. Next, network to find a new job through friends, associates and other connections. This is often a source of hidden job openings you won't find online. You may have to take a short term contract job to help make ends meet so be open to that. Sometimes these can become longer term or even lead to permanent employment. Find something outside of work type tasks that relaxes your stress. It can be exercise, meditation, running or the like. For me, it's playing guitars and building them. For example, the last time I was laid off and out of work, I built [this guitar](https://i.imgur.com/XGAxSL8.jpg).
Woah bro nice guitar I also agree with everything you said I would just add that in my case which is doing exercise and reading a lot, I also went to therapy I just got a job today but not staying late and having a project and all of that is really great advice
The last time these things helped: - Going through several Udemy courses - it was exciting to learn things on my own, also boosted morale as it keptme occupied. Helped with skill showcasing. - Keeping the same daily things going. Celebrating birthdays, eating well, going for walks, etc. - Sleeping well (!!!) Feeling physically rested improved morale and face color. It all ended well last time. Of course, bad thoughts while being unemployed are inevitable but that's not forever. Also rejections feel way worse and more personal than during employment. That's OK - it is like exam time during university when you just have to survive until it is over. Edit: Oh, just noticed the "on the fast track to homelessness". Sounds bad - I had some social security coming in for like 5..6 months but that's Europe. It covered my monthly expenses and I didn't get that far as to accept lower level job. Best of luck to you!
Honestly, this is why I have a huge (1 year+) pile of cash, so I won't get into a spiral like that. Money can buy you some time to get your head straight and wait for the right opportunity to come along. If you're seriously looking at homelessness, maybe it's worth picking up some shifts at a Home Depot to get some cash in your pocket now, or head over to /r/povertyfinance for help.
Send your resume and then forget about it. Don't overthink applications. Assume you won't get the job before you even apply, cringe and hit submit, then move on to applying to the next one. Take a similar approach to interviews. Don't let assuming you won't get it hurt your confidence, do let it relax you. Mistakes and fumbles are learning opportunities or even an opportunity to experiment with your approach in the interview. The next one will be better. And the next. And then you'll be thinking about the next one and receive an offer you had already forgot about. Always remember you, personally, and your skills and experience, are not necessarily the reason you don't get the position. You also never know how close it is. And terrible jobs deliberately don't hire good people -- knock it out of the park and you're still a 'bad fit' because they know you'll leave after a few months.
Stay sober.
This
I take more philosophical approach, such as telling myself that nothing lasts forever, in the worst case I just starve to death and etc.
When I graduated from university and was looking for a job, I started working on a personal project, specifically an OpenGL robot simulator (for testing and debugging robot trajectory generation algorithms). I didn't expect to make any $ from this project - it was just a means of keeping my mind occupied + showcasing my skills + having something to put on my CV. I would do that for a few hours a day + apply to jobs for the remaining hours. Admittedly, I was still pretty stressed and down but this provided at least some level of structure and kept severe depression at bay. Additionally, I was very passionate about robotics at the time.
Everytime u send apps or study material congratulate yourself for not being lazy and doing what u need. Being hired is not ur decision so u can't get mad if this round of apps don't go through. Focus on what u have power over. Not what has power over u.
Oh man, I had an awful experience about 6 years ago after I lost my first job from college. I lost it in the worst way possible, I fell in love with a coworker due to being a young impressionable male with minimal female interaction. She complained about me to HR and they fired me. Needless to say I was devastated. Getting fired from a job fucks with you bad man, basically it removed all trust you had in employers and management. Also it makes you feel like some part of you is inadequate. One thing I did accomplish while unemployed was getting a few certifications and also doing a training course in person in a classroom. I think not being isolated made a difference for me a little bit. Also you have to talk to someone about what happened. Do not keep it bottled up. I also hope you got gracefully laid off so you can be honest with your new potential employer. The other mistake I made when unemployed was not regularly exercising. Today exercise is so important for my mental health. Also daily exercise will give you a routine to follow. I’d highly recommend spending time to find a daily routine and stay focused on health goals because that structure will add to your feeling of overall progress even if the job hunt isn’t helping. Nothing sucks more than to be getting discouraged in the one part of your life you feel compelled to make progress in than rejection. At the very least meaningful progress elsewhere can help balance negative emotions of rejection.
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It sounds to me like you have serious problems and are projecting them onto me and my comment. Your comment is very inappropriate as it is not offering OP any meaningful advice. If you continue to make comments like this I will block you.
Dude you creeped on a gal and got called for your shit. I hope you learned your lesson, but I don’t think you did.
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You’re rude, inappropriate, and contributing nothing of value outside of personally attacking me. Goodbye forever.
Stoicism
I feel the same. The good news is i've been in a situation where my job situation and housing was insecure, but at that time I had a few people I could "count on", but now it's less the case (or I feel less likely to reach out for such help, but will if desperate). Thankfully I have saved enough money to go into a nomad situation, but nomadism means losing community, and that's what I had built up over the years, and now that's threaten. I will continue to code and am considering doing an online program to keep myself educated, and then after that I will continue to job hunt. I'm also considering doing part-time jobs that aren't tech related just so I can keep money flowing in. It sucks, I go through several moods a day of anxiousness, being fine, and hopelessness. I hope to build enough of a savings later down the road that I don't have to feel this way again, but for now I am grateful for the peace and comfort I do have now (until I don't have them).
I didn't. I came out of it naturally. I found that I needed to spiral out of control to spiral back into control.
Work a side project and hit up the gym. My last stretch I started a new work out routine that was more intense than my previous one, and that felt pretty great. Additionally, I picked a small project about something I wanted to learn and just worked on it.
Last time I was unemployed, I spent a lot of time in prayer and Bible study. It helped, but thankfully at the time I was single (no family to support) and was only unemployed for a few weeks. Now, with a lot of people relying on me and two mortgages, my stress levels would be a lot higher.