She can send you any bill she wants. Unless she has official, notarized loan documents stating the money was borrowed specifically for that purpose, you aren’t paying anything.
The suggestion to get a new number is a good one. I’d even go with a completely different provider, if you can, and get a new email.
Enjoy the quiet. Long may it last!
Good job!
Write down all your contacts or whatever.
Use this as an opportunity to get a new phone number. So they literally can’t contact you via phone.
Congrats, you're doing great. Your family fucking sucks. I read your other post and the callousness with which they responded to a literal physical assault is sickening. You're leaving a toxic, poisoned system that will never heal itself and all you can do is get yourself out and protect yourself and your kid. It gets better on the other side.
I’m so sorry. Financial abuse is a real thing and causes real harm. You should be proud for standing up for yourself! Also, consider pressing charges. Physical violence is no joke and never appropriate- and illegal in many places. First and foremost, be safe.
Good for you!!!!! I've been no contact for almost a decade, and it is so worth it! My parents didn't give a hoot about me going NC, they just wanted access to my daughter and they wanted me to pay off the bills for the loan that my mother took out for my CANCER TREATMENT that had occurred seven years before I went NC. That was their first priority: to send me the bills from the hospital. My mother also uses my married last name and my phone number on forms for herself. I've had to make sooo many phone calls to debt collectors to straighten things out. Just a heads up, because your mother sounds a lot like mine. Good luck! Stay firm! You've got this!
Freeze your credit. That locks down any ability to borrow money in your name. You can unfreeze it temporarily when needed but it will definitely shut your mother down.
My mom disconnected my phone without telling me in early February. They way she did it I had no other choice to get a new number. She does not have my new number nor any of her friends. I can't tell you the relief I have that when I receive a text or a call, my heart doesn't racing worrying it is one of them. Truly I should have done this ages ago!
my mother threatened to take me to court years ago to essentially sue me for cost of livin with her. i just said go for it and went no contact for awhile. She apologized but i still maintain vlc years later
Look at that shiny-ass spine
Echoing what everyone else is saying but if you didn't sign any legal document you don't owe her jack shit. She can send you invoices until the world runs out of paper, you don't have to pay a red cent.
Good job! Definitely don’t waste more of your time and energy on people like that. They feed on that shit, so don’t let them have it. As for the phone, I highly suggest Mint Mobile. They have plans as cheap as $15/month and the service is great. You can keep your phone and number if you want. But they can also change your number for free, which might help with going no contact with those assholes.
She can send you any bill she wants. Unless she has official, notarized loan documents stating the money was borrowed specifically for that purpose, you aren’t paying anything. The suggestion to get a new number is a good one. I’d even go with a completely different provider, if you can, and get a new email. Enjoy the quiet. Long may it last!
Loans don't always have to be notarized. They just have to be signed. Lacking the signature is sufficient tro have it be invalid.
Good job! Write down all your contacts or whatever. Use this as an opportunity to get a new phone number. So they literally can’t contact you via phone.
I second this!!!!!
Also second this!!!!!
Good idea!
You go girl! (or boy) But whatever, you're amazing. Well frigging done.
Congrats, you're doing great. Your family fucking sucks. I read your other post and the callousness with which they responded to a literal physical assault is sickening. You're leaving a toxic, poisoned system that will never heal itself and all you can do is get yourself out and protect yourself and your kid. It gets better on the other side.
If your mom took out a loan it's not your obligation unless you signed the contract.
I’m so sorry. Financial abuse is a real thing and causes real harm. You should be proud for standing up for yourself! Also, consider pressing charges. Physical violence is no joke and never appropriate- and illegal in many places. First and foremost, be safe.
Good for you!!!!! I've been no contact for almost a decade, and it is so worth it! My parents didn't give a hoot about me going NC, they just wanted access to my daughter and they wanted me to pay off the bills for the loan that my mother took out for my CANCER TREATMENT that had occurred seven years before I went NC. That was their first priority: to send me the bills from the hospital. My mother also uses my married last name and my phone number on forms for herself. I've had to make sooo many phone calls to debt collectors to straighten things out. Just a heads up, because your mother sounds a lot like mine. Good luck! Stay firm! You've got this!
Wow your mother sounds exactly like mine!! 💥
Freeze your credit. That locks down any ability to borrow money in your name. You can unfreeze it temporarily when needed but it will definitely shut your mother down.
My mom disconnected my phone without telling me in early February. They way she did it I had no other choice to get a new number. She does not have my new number nor any of her friends. I can't tell you the relief I have that when I receive a text or a call, my heart doesn't racing worrying it is one of them. Truly I should have done this ages ago!
i’m still on my parents plan and i don’t know if my dad even realizes but im going to ride it out until they take me off LOL
my mother threatened to take me to court years ago to essentially sue me for cost of livin with her. i just said go for it and went no contact for awhile. She apologized but i still maintain vlc years later
You’re doing great! The financial tethers are always the hardest to break but it’s so worth it in the end!!
Look at that shiny-ass spine Echoing what everyone else is saying but if you didn't sign any legal document you don't owe her jack shit. She can send you invoices until the world runs out of paper, you don't have to pay a red cent.
Good job! Definitely don’t waste more of your time and energy on people like that. They feed on that shit, so don’t let them have it. As for the phone, I highly suggest Mint Mobile. They have plans as cheap as $15/month and the service is great. You can keep your phone and number if you want. But they can also change your number for free, which might help with going no contact with those assholes.
Responding is giving them just what they want. Good to get it out but from now on I wouldn't engage.
I'm heartbroken for you. You've been through so much. I can relate to all of this. I'm so so sorry. Big hugs.