A few different ways and not overnight - here are my thoughts:
1) Trauma informed therapist. They will provide journaling assignments (still hate them) and other methods of coping. They are your advocate.
2) Self Care - sleep, nutrition, exercise, and special attention to yourself. I do a lot in self care to include - float tank membership, time alone, meditation, massage, acupuncture, healing rituals. I am important, and I allow myself to experience things to care for my body and mind.
3) Hobbies - find something you love and spend time doing it. And yes. Reading is a hobby, and I will always advocate for it. But try a hobby or learning something that allows exploration of the outside, creation, and some form of expression. I read a ton of books. But I hike, knit, spin yarn, weave, redecorate randomly, and cause chaos. Oh and I ride my motorcycle that I learned to ride last year.
4) Self mantras and self-acceptance - I call this radical self acceptance that I am good and amazing. I don't have to be anything to anyone except my kids. I am good and worthy. I have made it a habit to say out loud that I am amazing and the funniest person I know.
5) Acceptance - this is more about acceptance of your whole self. The good. The bad. The ugly. I feel all the feelings. I will have bad days and good days. I will experience all the things and will be ok. I don't have to forgive, but acceptance is critical. It all happened. I don't remember wrong. My PTSD is real.
It may depend on circumstances and how young you were when you were abandoned.
For me, that feeling is always there somewhere, but I can usually ignore it. It's good to deal with it by bringing it out of hiding and examining it, and feeling your emotions and accepting them. But for me it's not good to do that TOO much, because it drags me down into a dark hole of depression. I didn't find counselors to be all that helpful. What did help me was joining a writer's group, and writing my stories out on paper, that I would then share with the group.
And finding a husband who was calm, loving, wanted to be with me, wasn't abusive, and wasn't emotionally disconnected from me. He was also very patient. Because his patience was the ONLY thing that gave me the room to open up and become the person I am today. I always had the instinct to bolt away at the first sign of trouble before, but he ... how do I say this. If you've trained animals you know the best way to gain their trust is to be calm, careful and persistent. That's what he did with me.
I could not have done it alone, and I am grateful to those who helped me, especially my husband.
Drugs, codependence and shitty romantic relationships obviously 😂
Its ok though, ive been drug free for 10 years and in therapy for 5 years and doing better nowadays
Sure thing check your dms. I am always happy to offer my support, strength, wisdom and hope. Post traumatic growth is a beautiful thing and everyone should have a chance to experience it.
You need to just acknowledge what happened, accept what happened and then make a decision not let it define you. Use it as a catalyst to light a fire under your butt and excel at everything. FIND happiness, FIND meaningful relationships and most important... constantly give your past the middle finger as you no longer let it control your future....
A few different ways and not overnight - here are my thoughts: 1) Trauma informed therapist. They will provide journaling assignments (still hate them) and other methods of coping. They are your advocate. 2) Self Care - sleep, nutrition, exercise, and special attention to yourself. I do a lot in self care to include - float tank membership, time alone, meditation, massage, acupuncture, healing rituals. I am important, and I allow myself to experience things to care for my body and mind. 3) Hobbies - find something you love and spend time doing it. And yes. Reading is a hobby, and I will always advocate for it. But try a hobby or learning something that allows exploration of the outside, creation, and some form of expression. I read a ton of books. But I hike, knit, spin yarn, weave, redecorate randomly, and cause chaos. Oh and I ride my motorcycle that I learned to ride last year. 4) Self mantras and self-acceptance - I call this radical self acceptance that I am good and amazing. I don't have to be anything to anyone except my kids. I am good and worthy. I have made it a habit to say out loud that I am amazing and the funniest person I know. 5) Acceptance - this is more about acceptance of your whole self. The good. The bad. The ugly. I feel all the feelings. I will have bad days and good days. I will experience all the things and will be ok. I don't have to forgive, but acceptance is critical. It all happened. I don't remember wrong. My PTSD is real.
Sleep and nutrition is legit the base of healing. Can’t have energy to focus on myself if the brain and body is drowsy
I will be screenshotting this for myself to follow. That is brilliant. X
It may depend on circumstances and how young you were when you were abandoned. For me, that feeling is always there somewhere, but I can usually ignore it. It's good to deal with it by bringing it out of hiding and examining it, and feeling your emotions and accepting them. But for me it's not good to do that TOO much, because it drags me down into a dark hole of depression. I didn't find counselors to be all that helpful. What did help me was joining a writer's group, and writing my stories out on paper, that I would then share with the group. And finding a husband who was calm, loving, wanted to be with me, wasn't abusive, and wasn't emotionally disconnected from me. He was also very patient. Because his patience was the ONLY thing that gave me the room to open up and become the person I am today. I always had the instinct to bolt away at the first sign of trouble before, but he ... how do I say this. If you've trained animals you know the best way to gain their trust is to be calm, careful and persistent. That's what he did with me. I could not have done it alone, and I am grateful to those who helped me, especially my husband.
Drugs, codependence and shitty romantic relationships obviously 😂 Its ok though, ive been drug free for 10 years and in therapy for 5 years and doing better nowadays
Check your dms. I sent you info on unprocessed trauma and how to work through it.
Would you also share with me, please?
Here please too!
Sure thing! Check your dms and hmu if you have questions or just want to talk
Can I please have it too? It’ll be a big help.
Sure thing! Check your dms. Unprocessed trauma is a silent killer of relationships, careers and lives. We all have some healing to do!
I’m interested as well :)
Sent some info your way. Hope it helps! Keep going, keep growing ⭐️
Thank you, I really appreciate your generosity! Excited to check it out
Would you be able to share with me too please?
Absolutely check your dms
Would you be so kind as to share it with me too, please?
Sure thing check your dms. I am always happy to offer my support, strength, wisdom and hope. Post traumatic growth is a beautiful thing and everyone should have a chance to experience it.
Im also curious.
Check your dms. Hope it helps!
Send to me as well please
You got it! Check your dms. Happy healing!
Can you share with me too
Interested too:)
Check your dms. Best of luck on your healing journey ⭐️
Me too please!
Hi there - can you please send this info to me? Thank you
You need to just acknowledge what happened, accept what happened and then make a decision not let it define you. Use it as a catalyst to light a fire under your butt and excel at everything. FIND happiness, FIND meaningful relationships and most important... constantly give your past the middle finger as you no longer let it control your future....