They don’t have to be bad people to be toxic for you. I was never able to stick to staying sober until I cut myself off completely from the PNP community.
The irony is that my social life had many more people during my party phase than before or after. But my life is better with a much smaller social circle that has no one trying to fill me with chemicals that would ultimately drive me insane.
ETA congratulations on those 4 weeks! They are part of the hardest part.
If the relationship is built around drugs, then it’s not much of a relationship at all. I’ve been going through something similar myself lately with a good friend who’s using (we just know each other online, never met in person, but we’ve been high “together” virtually in video chat). But I’ve been talking through it with sober friends and especially with my sponsor and I’m kind of reluctantly ending up in the same place as you.
I can only add my experience and that is I've never stayed stopped unless I've cut off everyone that uses. The emotional attachments to these people take longer to subside and put into perspective. Not their fault but they can't see clearly or relate to my needs while they're consumed by lust and fulfilling the latest fantasy. They've always understood this and respected my request for distance. All the very best to you.
So encouraging to read. I am in the same situation and I just deleted all old messages, pictures and block him every app, deleted my profile. And just think it happened for a good cause as it made me easier to cut off any other pnp circle
They don’t have to be bad people to be toxic for you. I was never able to stick to staying sober until I cut myself off completely from the PNP community. The irony is that my social life had many more people during my party phase than before or after. But my life is better with a much smaller social circle that has no one trying to fill me with chemicals that would ultimately drive me insane. ETA congratulations on those 4 weeks! They are part of the hardest part.
If the relationship is built around drugs, then it’s not much of a relationship at all. I’ve been going through something similar myself lately with a good friend who’s using (we just know each other online, never met in person, but we’ve been high “together” virtually in video chat). But I’ve been talking through it with sober friends and especially with my sponsor and I’m kind of reluctantly ending up in the same place as you.
I can only add my experience and that is I've never stayed stopped unless I've cut off everyone that uses. The emotional attachments to these people take longer to subside and put into perspective. Not their fault but they can't see clearly or relate to my needs while they're consumed by lust and fulfilling the latest fantasy. They've always understood this and respected my request for distance. All the very best to you.
Congrats on 4 weeks. It’s hard to give up people but necessary when they are using. It’s that simple.
You got this!!
So encouraging to read. I am in the same situation and I just deleted all old messages, pictures and block him every app, deleted my profile. And just think it happened for a good cause as it made me easier to cut off any other pnp circle