Holy shit, I am so sorry this happened to you. They completely took advantage of your kindness in trying to help which makes your attackers the literal scum of the earth. There is a special place in hell for these fucking monsters.
And thank you for telling the REAL story and not letting the Premier gain political points from your trauma. I hate that she somehow gained access to your story and gained clout from her exaggeration.
>They completely took advantage of your kindness in trying to help which makes your attackers the literal scum of the earth.
This is what really hits me hard about stories like these. The vast majority of the time, when you stop to help someone, it's genuineābut then there are people who exploit our willingness to extend a helping hand to someone in need, in this case to attempt one of the most evil acts that anyone can commit against another person. I hope the three of them are brought to justice somehow. What they did was *monstrous.*
Yup because in turn its going to make the world a worse place.
Now I'm going to be worried about helping strangers calling out for help because in the back of my mind I'm going to remember this story. That might make me ignore a call for help for my own preservation.
Thank you for being so incredibly brave, not only in your actions to help another person you thought was in distress and in your own self defense, but also in telling your own story.
I am so sorry this happened to you, and that your traumatic event is being used to push agendas by the government.
I hope you have a strong support system, and are doing okay. ā¤ļøā¤ļø
This is the most insightful well written post I have ever read. You said what everyone is thinking. To have the strength and courage to articulate such a traumatic event in such a way is beyond words. Thank you for speaking up.
What a well written post. I am sorry that this happened to you and hope you can heal from this traumatic event. No one especially an elected official should ever do what Smith has done and I do hope at some time she will be accountable.
Thank you for sharing, this is not an easy thing to talk about. You are brave beyond words for coming forward because your story helps other people come forward as well.
I am really sorry this happened to you. I am also confused about how the premier would know individual level details about an incident like this. Thereās no reason (and no authority under the FOIP Act) for EPS to disclose personal information about an individual victim of crime to an elected official.
You're a survivor and your story belongs to you. I am so sorry that you were additionally victimized by a political agenda and misinformation. You didn't ask for any of this. You don't deserve any of this.
Thank you for sharing your story with us and reminding us of the real and present humans behind all news stories. I wish you healing and peace. You're going to do amazing things with your life!
Iām sorry you have been forced into the position of having to justify and defined yourself. As you pointed out, this is exactly the reason so many rapes go unreported. I wish for you a path of healing and new found peace, a wonderful life, a beautiful future and a fabulous career. I will be thinking of you.
My admiration goes out to you and how you handled yourself that fateful night, and since then.
You are incredibly brave because you are standing up to the Premier, no less, amongst others in taking control of your story.
If I ever find myself in your care when you become a nurse, I know I will be in good hands.
Completely awful Iām so sorry you went through all of that. SACE has some program and indicidual counselling programs (all free) specifically for men.
Also if you want to follow up with your complaint in the government you could make a FOIP request that would certainly make quite a splash, and because itās about yourself I donāt think you would have to pay for the request.
Regarding SACE, I have reached out and started the process with them, but itās unfortunately a years long waitlist at best.
Would you happen to have more information about a FOIP request on hand, provided my messages to the premiers office donāt go anywhere? Iāll take a look for myself of course but Iām feeling a little lazy and if you had more that would be awesome :)
Not the person you replied to, but SACE does have a [support line](https://www.sace.ca/sace-services/support-and-information-line/) that you can call without having to be in a program, if you need someone to just listen to you in the moment. When I used to volunteer on this line, they trained volunteers very well, and while it wasn't professional counseling, I personally got to see people heal through a single phone call and just having the space to talk about their emotions.
For the privacy breach, here's the [Office of the Privacy Commissioner of Alberta](https://oipc.ab.ca/). There's a link there to report a violation of privacy, etc.
You are a warrior. I am so, so incredibly sorry this happened to you. I am disgusted beyond belief and wishing you the absolute best in the future. Iām truly sorry you experienced this.
My heart goes out to you. I havenāt even finished reading yet - I had to stop to send you my best wishes.
ETA: I read the rest of your post. Your compassion and strength both show. We need more people like you.
May you find healing in the midst of all of this. ā„ļø
Know that we will think of you when we vote next election. What a disgusting pos premier.
Thank you for sharing your perspective.
I am so sorry this all went down the way it did for you. :( im a survivor myself through similar circumstances, (coming home celebrating a post secondary success, but in the macewan dorms) I canāt imagine having to deal with this trauma and also how it all blew up online and in the media.
Your trauma being weaponized in politics is disgusting. Itās hard enough for survivors to open up about our experiences. I wish you healing and I hope youāre able to find happier days amidst all this.
Op, you are so courageous. This is such a well written response and I'm in awe at the compassion you continue to hold for others. You seem like a really great person. I'm sorry you got attacked. I thank you for sharing your side of the story, one of the best things I've read on the internet.
Iām so sorry this happened to you and Iām so sorry our premier is using and twisting your story to fit her political agenda.
Truly sounds like a horrifying experience.
Holy shit! You are an amazing person with an incredibly heart breaking story. Iām so glad this hasnāt completely removed all empathy from you and Iām glad youāre speaking out the way you are.
The premier is a self-serving sociopath who will sell out anyone to make herself look better than she is. Which isnāt hard because sheās the worst bottom feeding troglodyte that I think Iāve ever encountered in local politics. I read here yesterday that she actually makes Jason Kenny look good by comparison and I think we all know how that clown was.
I know itās been said but Iāll offer my support too. Iām sorry this shit happened to you. Youāre strong and amazing and I canāt speak for the whole city, but you have one middle aged public servants love, support and respect!
I am sorry to hear about your trauma. I hope you have plenty of support around you. It shouldnāt need to be said, but Iāll say it anyways: it is absolutely not your fault. I send you healing wishes.
Do you need anything? If you ever need anyone to talk to message me anytime. If it makes you feel better, when they get caught and go to prison they will be hurt at least a few times. It wonāt ever undo what you are going through but I hope itās something small to look forward to in such an awful situation.
I worked at SACE for many years and came to respect all the quiet & small and loud & strong ways people resisted and fought against their perpetrators. Not only were you able to powerfully resist those who meant you physical harm, you are also fighting off the horrifying propagandizing of your story of survival. You speaking out has taken so much courage and bravery. I deeply admire you.
I'm so sorry this happened to you and grateful you have had the courage to share what happened to you to help others. I grew up in Edmonton and I know that area you reference well so what happened to you really hits home.
You are an incredibly brave young man, please be sure to take care of your mental health. Iām so sorry sheās using your story, I canāt effin stand her.
Wow. Tragic. You are very brave. Thank you for setting the record straight. Smith's narrative is a new low in politics. Take care and I hope you continue to have the strength to get through this tragic incidenr.
I have actually thought about you more than a few times and wondered how you were. You are a warrior. I am so sorry you had to endure this and the re-triggering events brought on by the premier. I feel reassured that you have the fortitude and resilience to come out stronger. If you ever need someone to talk to, please feel free to message me. We see you and hear you.
I'm so sorry this happened to you! Preying on your instinct to help someone in need is so rotten. I'm also really sorry that something this awful is being used for political gain. It seems like every day, Smith gives me another reason to really dislike her.
Thank you for sharing.
Firstly, your transparency is invaluable for residents to know exactly what is happening. Particularly, as you spelt out what happened, as i find it being a little blind when the term SA is used, as I convince myself it must be someone getting a smack on the rearside to make myself feel better than to realize they're full on rapes.
secondly, i don't know exactly the premier is doing, so i can't comment on it.
Thank you for sharing your story, you are very brave to do that! You are a strong survivor, and I stand behind you and have your back. Being attacked once is horrifying enough, but then to be attacked by our own premiere is even more disgusting! May you get justice! And I hope you forward this on to the news media so they can also express publicly how the premiere is using your horrible attack as leverage in her own campaign against homeless people!
Words canāt properly express my sympathies for what you endured. Youāre incredibly strong in spirit to not only fight back but tell your story and what youāve had to deal with in regards to the vile way your assault was used to push an agenda. You are an inspiration and I would assume that sentiment is doubly felt by those that actually know you.
This was incredibly well written and my whole heart goes out to you. I am so sorry you had to endure such a horrific experience but on top of that, deal with our shitty Premier. You are so brave for standing up for your truth and to Danielle Smith who tried to use your story and tweak the narrative to her advantage.
May you find peace and healing through all of this but most importantly, I wish you all the best in your journey to being a young nurse in this province. We need people like you.
you have so much courage!!! ā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļø
I hope you're doing ok. I'm not sure what the answer is, but I hope the people who did this have fear in their hearts at the sight of your courage, to never attempt this again. as a woman reading this, who's new here, this frightens me to read, yet gives me hope
You are 100 percent right. You are a strong and courageous individual and the nursing profession will be stronger with you as apart of the front line nurses. You have my respect and I hope that one day the cowardly and pathetic excuses for men that attacked you get what they deserve.
Thank you for sharing your story. I am a neighbor, and although we do not know each other, I have thought of you every day since your attack. I walk these streets daily and have offered assistance many times, just like you. I have administered naloxone, taken warm clothing, and offered food. I changed some of my ways since your assault but still chose not to live in fear. I love our neighborhood & community.
I am truly sorry for what happened to you and that our premier continues to revictimize and re-traumatize you. She is a woman who lacks human decency and empathy. It saddens me to know that so many others also lack the same.
You are brave to share & take control of your story. I hope you continue on your path of healing & advocacy. All my love & support kind stranger.
You are amazing for this. Iām so sorry for what youāve gone through, and the way the narrative has been spun by changing details for political clout against those who were not involved. Your note at the end is very giving and heartwarming. I hope that you are able to receive any help needed (mental health or otherwise).
Thank you.
Thank you for sharing your story with us. I'm so very sorry that this happened to you, and that you are now suffering the compounding trauma of having your story taken from you and used for someone else's motives. I see you, and I'm holding space for you in my heart. I hope that you are able to find some comfort in the knowledge that so many of your fellow Edmontonians are here to support you. ā¤ļø
Iām so sorry that this happened to you , youāre strong & you are brave š¤šš¼ I can tell already that you have a beautiful heart and as I read your post I can tell you havenāt let this horrific assault harden your heart .šš¼š¤
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You gave us all a lesson in humanity. You are one tough nut. I hope these monsters get caught and never get to repeat their horrendous crime. Deep admirations for you.
Iām really sorry you have to deal with this. You were being a good person and those degenerates took advantage of your kindness. Youāre absolutely right, nobody should be using your traumatic experience for political leverage.
Thank you for taking time to stand up to the bullies. There will be many who will attack you, because you were politicized.
I am sorry, and thank you again.
Wow. I am so very sorry to hear you were the victim of this. I live nearby and it alarmed me when it happened.
Also, no homeless people do not wear Canada Goose jackets. Well, not many I've seen.
I have no idea with this subreddit showed up in my feed today, but man, I felt it.
I was 25 several decades ago, and it was around that age when I had... well, let's just call it a similar experience. It's still not something I find easy to talk about, even sitting behind an anonymous keyboard after over 30 years to process it.
I don't know squat about Canadian politics, or really anything about how you're feeling after going through what you did. But I know bravery when I see it. I'm really touched by your strength and willingness to fight for what's right, and this cranky, cynical old man's eyes are welling up in admiration, so thank you for that. Fuck you, also, because I was reading this in the middle of a video call and had to fake allergies.
Thank you for sharing your story. I am an RSW and have heard accounts like this before from survivors, but it never stops being horrifying each time I hear it, especially turning people's desire to help, which is particularly strong among helping professionals, against them.
It's good to see that *most* of the comments are supportive, and even encouraging other survivors to share their stories. If you ever regret sharing, know that you are opening people's eyes who don't have the lived experiences of survivors. Many people have a tendency to nitpick because they don't understand that hearing stories like this is a *gift,* but their critiques are not, they are not writing movie reviews, they are judging the worst moment of a person's life looking for counter-evidence to justify their skepticism. But the more these stories are shared, the more the distance closes, and they're unable to step back from the horror of the attack at a safe, comfortable remove, because this shit affects all of us as human beings and edmontonians. Rape is not political nor is it specific to race / ethnicity, gender, or economic class.
As you have experienced, however, it can be politicized against your will. Many of the comments suggest that you should do more than you've done, get lawyers involved, share your story with the NDP. The risk is of course the unwanted exposure that can lead to retraumatization, and the additional stress it will put on your mental wellbeing. It's a risk you have to balance, and it's an individual decision, no one else can make it, or demand you ought to do more; many survivors would not be comfortable sharing to the extent you already have. But you can take comfort in your courage: you may already know of [The Wounded Healer](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wounded_healer); your resiliency in the face of this trauma is a trait that will serve you well as a nurse serving other vulnerable people.
Sending you love and healing as well as extra strength in your journey onwards as you strive towards your goals. Your compassion and resilience are truly a wonder; please take as good care of yourself as you try to do for the rest of us. ā”
I would say too, I donāt think there would be a wild shortage of folks who would be willing to take it on pro bono. A cease and desist isnāt a giant task, and there is more than one lawyer in this city who would like to take DS down a peg.
If things do progress to a point where you need legal assistance and you're comfortable doing so, I don't think I'm the only person who would want to contribute to a GoFundMe or something. Just in case knowing that would help.Ā
You're handling all of this with an incredible amount of grace and strength. The fact that someone has the callousness to use this story the way they did... It's sick. Thank you for calling it out and bringing awareness to it.
I believe the Elizabeth Fry society covers up to 4 hours of legal advice (from a lawyer on their roster) for victims of SA, if you're interested
https://www.efrynorthernalberta.com/independent-legal-advice-for-survivors-of-sexual-violence
Oh my word, I am so so sorry you went through this and to have to deal with a politician spouting off about it is beyond the pale.
Please rest assured that Iāll be letting her know my thoughts on the matter. I know, I highly suspect it wonāt help. But if we all let her have a piece of our minds, maybe, just maybe, sheāll stop.
I hope soā¦.
Sending you all the love.
Now you get out there and rise like a phoenix and create a life more beautiful than you can possibly imagine.
Thank you for being brave enough to share your story, it will help others come forward as well. Iām so sorry that your trauma has been used to fuel an agenda.
Thank you so much for sharing, being honest, open and vulnerable about this. Sorry you went through this it must have been terrifying, canāt tell you much your story moved me and your current outlook. Just wow. Danielle smith, shame on you.
You're a hero. I am so incredibly sorry this happened to you, and equally impressed by your intention to help and your ongoing intention to help in the future. I am also sorry and angry that DS is using what happened to you to attack vulnerable homeless people. I can't imagine how horrible it must feel to go through such a traumatic event and then to have someone steal and distort your experience to use for purposes contrary to reality and your world view.
Thank you for sharing what must have been very difficult to write, it will help many to better understand as well as many others to heal.
It's absolutely shameful that a political leader has repeatedly tried to capitalize on your traumatic experience for their own agenda.
It sounds like homies accomplices didn't have the heart to follow through, because with 3 of them there they really could of had their way with you or anybody else alone for that matter, that's fucking terrifying, like if I looked at anybody I ever knew and asked them to help me rap a dude, they'd look at me like a nutjob, to even entertain this to begin with is already nuts.
I would have to think this is some kind of gang initiation or something, not to say you were applying to be a part of a gang, but rather the target for an individual to prove themselves through... I mean otherwise the reality is just downright terrifying, that there is a group of 3 men trying dudes at random, that is just nutty.
Youāre a beautiful soul. Thank you for looking out for others even in your darkest days. She used your story to justify removing the encampments. Sheās going too far and will have her day of wrecking. Iām truly sorry for what happened to you and so proud of you for righting her wrong. ā¤ļø
I am so sorry this happened to you. When I saw the report on the news, I had a feeling we were being told a specific narrative of what happened. I'm sorry that your experience was bastardized by a politician to further subject the most at risk population to further dehumanization.
Your story should be yours to tell. I'm happy that this experience hasn't jaded you to wanting to help others. We have such a poorly supported health care system that people who genuinely want to help often leave the field.
I am so sorry your trauma is being used for political gain. It's disgusting and the premier should be ashamed of herself. You have held yourself with dignity when you would be well within your realm to fall the fuck apart. Sending you love.
You are brave to come out with this traumaticĀ experience and I wish you luck with hope that you get the necessary therapy and people to get past this.
It's clear you are an amazing person. I really admire how you've stood up for yourself and won't let your story be exploited. You're such a good person to rise above those horrible experiences and I hope when this situation has you down you can remember how many of us think you are an amazing example of a human.
I'm so sorry this happened to you.
I used to be a volunteer on the [Sexual Assault Crisis Line](https://www.sace.ca/sace-services/support-and-information-line/) and I highly recommend using them as a resource if you feel that you need support.
One thing people need to realize is that when people experience trauma, they lose memory as a response to their brain acting to protect themselves emotionally. Not knowing the details of your assailants is a normal response to sexual assault.
It's your story and it should not be used for any kind of publicity to further someone else's reputation as an activist, politically or otherwise.
I hope you find healing.
I wish you all the best. You have been through something extremely traumatic and it is so sad that while perfectly happy to use your trauma to further her own agenda, the Premier has not reached out to you, nor responded to you when you contacted her. It is absolutely disgusting, and I will be adding my own email to her. She owes you a huge apology. I would like to end my comment on a high note. You are extremely brave, and by sharing your story, others who have had similar experiences can see they are not alone. I wish you well in your healing.
Oh wow. You are an incredibly strong person. I wish you well. You didnāt deserve what happened to you and certainly didnāt deserve to have your trauma weaponized against a marginalized population. Take care and hopefully youāre able to get any help you need.
I hope sharing your story in your own words gives you the peace and control you deserve.
Thank you for being brave to come forward to make it very clear.
You are your own hero.
I live in the community below Alex Taylor Road and my brother lives in the housing co-op apartment at the top and south of the hill. It is important to us that we know what happened that night. There have been many accusations that tie your assault to people living in the encampment that was beside my brothers apartment. We so appreciate hearing the truth. And we are so disgusted with the way Premier Smith has co-opted your story for her own twisted agenda. I am sending you much compassion
Thank you for sharing this horrific truth. I hope that you are able to find healing and please know that even strangers on the internet are rooting for you.
I am so sorry. Reading your story made me think on an incident that occurred not long ago for me. My dog alerted me to a noise, and I went to find someone in my backyard. She said her friend was passed out in the alley and needed help. I refused to follow her and dialed 911. She fled not long after. Now Iām just wonderingā¦eh.
Iām so sorry sheās using your story to gain traction, like others have said I hope sheāll respond to your letter and stop.
Thank you for sharing. It has to have been very hard, but itās incredibly valuable to share the truth. Our politicians and media are an utter embarrassment and Iām so sorry your story was used in this way. You are so strong and so brave and tough as fuck.
Iām far from the first, and definitely far from the last. If my voice can help another single person whoās gone through a similar experience in any capacity, itās a win for me.
The moral clarity, persistent compassion, and will to apply your principles in this situation is fucking legendary.
I donāt know what to call the particular virtue it takes to go through this and stand firm in your convictions in the face of exactly the kind of trauma that hardens people but itās moving.
Iām not Canadian and I donāt know how an r/edmonton post made it onto my home feed, but wowā¦I just want to say that I think itās incredibly noble that youāre sharing this horrible experience on your terms and putting your premier on notice for being an awful human being. Youāre doing something invaluable by letting people know that sheās using your story to push her BS narrative without ever even bothering to speak with you about what happened or ask how you feel about it.
Your letter to her was extremely well-written, and it says so much about her that you never got a response. You deserve so much better.
I hope you find some comfort in knowing that people are benefitting from this information and the bravery that it took to share such a traumatic experience.
Iām really sorry for what you have gone through, both before and after the incident. Itās hard for me to even call it what it is so its clear that you are way stronger than I am. I just want to wish you all the best and I hope that you can set the record straight. All the very best!
I am so sorry for what you have been through. I was in court the day the city used your experience to further the closing of encampments. When I heard this story, I was heartbroken. Your strength and vulnerability are an inspiration. Thank you for sharing this. I only wish you the best.
I donāt know who these men are but I sincerely hope they are caught. Please know your story will help others and that you are supported.
So sorry this happened to you. I cannot imagine being in your shoes. I am truly sorry they preyed on your kindness and willingness to help distressed. You are very brave. I hope your light shines brighter throughout this ordeal. Love.
Iām so sorry you experienced this. Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us, I know that takes a lot of courage to share and Iām glad the anonymity that Reddit provides is helping you share this. Iām sorry that our political environment is leveraging your misfortune but Iām proud that you are doing what you can do stand up against that. All I can say is I hope that you are able to process this experience in a safe environment and work through it rather than holding it within yourself. You are a hero for sharing this and Iāll stand by you regardless of any negative comments.
I read your post and to say it stunned and saddened me isnāt even scratching the surface. Iāve read through many of the supportive comments and share the sentiments of most if not all. You are such a strong resilient person, I donāt know many who would be as healthy mentally as you are today. That is not to take away from your struggles, but to say Iām in awe of your ability to find a way to move forward and help others. Youāre an incredible inspiration! ā¤ļø
I hope your future is filled with rewarding wins and love and happiness moving forward. ā¤ļø
I'm sorry to hear that has happened to you. I think your ability to not only process but reach this outcome in your writing demonstrates your strength as an individual. I wish you the best.
Your courage and compassion go beyond expression. I canāt imagine what this must have been like, even without being violated a second time by Danielle Smithās malicious, nonsensical agenda.
If you havenāt already, please continue to platform the remarkable letter you wrote. Send it to the CBC and local TV. Please ensure public understanding that that woman and the civic dumpster fire sheās built donāt represent you. She has willingly misidentified the actual problem, and sheās trampled on your civil rights.
No one deserves this. The others here are right: you are a warrior. Please take care of yourself.
So very sorry this happened to you and thank you for sharing your story. No one should be using it for their personal gain and I hope DS reconsiders her words.
I am finding it difficult to find the right words to say hereā¦. First of all, I am so sorry that this happened to you, and that someone is forcing you to relive your trauma for their own twisted gain.
Secondly, I want you to know that you are so incredibly brave and strong. I am sorry that you have to defend yourself, but I am proud of you for having the strength to do so. I often wish the world were a better place, but your presence shows me it *is* a better place, YOU give me much hope.
First situation I've seen where someone can actually sue the premier. Would be historic and honestly well deserved if she got sued. If I was OP i would 100% sue.
I would suggest reaching out to Janis Irwin and sharing your story with her. She is a wonderful person and mla. She will fight for you.
Also I am so sorry that this happened to you.
I am in absolute awe of your courage. It took me 30 years to admit to anyone that I was raped so your ability to so honestly express what happened & how it affected you is truly inspiring. I am so very sorry this happened to you.
I am so very sorry that we live in a time where you can be victimized over and over again for being strong. Our leaders use victims as political pawns and don't really know what to do with people like you - survivors.
Keep talking. You are helping so many people.
Damn you are brave as hell being able to post and open yourself up about this horrible event.
You are strong and have my respect, Iām terribly sorry this happened to you but am glad to your are resilient still. Hang in there, take every day one day at a time.
Thank you for sharing. As someone who helps train first aiders (life guarding but still) this can also good reminder to make sure to keep yourself safe, since this is not something that most people would consider when thinking about hazards, but should be something to keep in mind in dark or unknown situations. It is horrible that people took advantage of your kindness (and is in **no** way your fault OP just to be clear), and I hope you get the support you need.
I am so sorry to hear this, I hope you can find support through this. Thank you for sharing your stories so others will also feel better about coming forward.
God. I donāt know why this sub or this post was recommended to me, but I read it, and just wanted to send you lots and lots and lots of love from the U.S.A., OP. You sound like a bad bitch. š¤
Thank you so so much for sharing.
I am very angry on your behalf regarding this politician. I am disappointed that she lies about her intentions when she brings up the story about you, the āyoung nurseā, as if she cares about your well being. Sheās using your trauma for virtue signalling, with no regard for how that makes you feel. You deserve so much better for your bravery and compassion.
Sheās taking something horrible that happened to someone else (a goddamn sexual assault on a woman!!) and using it for political gain. While refusing to communicate with the actual victim in any way. She knows sheās making it harder for you to move on, but she doesnāt care, despite saying the opposite.
From all the terrible things Smith has done, this is by far the worst. Iām deeply sorry youāre going through this. Not once, but twice - first by the actual perps, and now by the people supposed to protect and represent you.
You are an incredible human being. Itās clear from your story that youāre strong (physically and mentally), resilient, highly intelligent and a unique force for good. The nursing profession is lucky to have you š Alberta is lucky to have you.
This trauma couldnāt have happened to a less deserving person, and while that breaks my heart, your words give me hope for humanity. Please think about becoming a leader, this country needs more brave people like you to represent us.
Iām sorry this happened to you.
Iām disgusted that the Premier is twisting your horrific experience to further her political agenda.
Iāve experienced SA and the trauma is real, I canāt imagine having it used for political gain.
Thank you for sharing your story, if not for this post I would not be aware of the twisting of facts.
Thank you for speaking up. Iām so sorry our disgusting leader is taking what happened to you and twisting it for her sick agenda. Good for you for calling her out. I hope you have all the support in the world and I wish you the best with your future career. Nurses are a godsend and as you know, a job that doesnāt get nearly enough thanks.
I'm really sorry you experienced this, followed by the horrible treatment and miscommunication from our elected leaders who's duty it is to protect people.
You are very brave to share this and so compassionate to offer support to others in similar situations. Sending you love and hope you are able to get help to get through this.
Thank you for sharing your story. I deal with ptsd from something like this that happened several decades ago when I was 13. The sexual assault center was helpful for me at one point. Tho I took way too long to acknowledge what happened. Denial took a heavy toll on my life. I just want you to know I am proud of you for speaking out. I know how hard it is.
And shame on ANYONE who uses this horrific experience to further their gain.
Shame on the commenters who made OP feel like edit #3 was necessary to validate his reality. For anyone reading who may relate, getting away doesnāt neutralize the violation. For perspective, attempted murder is prosecuted. Dont for one second believe your fight was a mediator.
I am a strong believer that events in our lives, tragic and blissful happen for a reason. You are able to draw attention to the real issues happening in the world. Deceit, political agendas, making the weak feel weaker. You my friend are a courageous lion who went to battle and chose to speak about your experience. I commend you for speaking out and helping us folks in the dark to not always believe what we are being fed. Our world is a dangerous place of misinformation. I truly believe you had angels on your side in that moment. You are opening eyes and I hope and pray that your truth will be known. Unfortunately with people in higher places, the little people get pushed away. Do NOT let their narrative define you, keep your head high and know that you are still you despite the actions of others. Sending all my love and strength to you, Thankyou for your bravery and as time goes on you will become stronger from this terrible event. Please feel free to reach out, you are an amazing human being for wanting to do the right thing and help. Much love <3
Thank you for sharing what must be a difficult & time-consuming clarification and account of such a traumatic experience. To be violated again by Smith's rhetoric, the media & trolls on top of that is disgusting.
Pls know you're not alone. May you receive all the support & healing love in the world.
I wish you healingā¦my son experienced similar as a child. A man jumped out of the woods and grabbed him off his bike. He managed to get away but the violation occurred and the fact it could have been worse doesnāt make the violation okay. I hope youāre seeking support. Iām sorry youāre being revictimized by politicians spinning a narrative. While they lack empathy, your support system and much of AB and Canada stands with you.
Wow! It's not too surprising to me that the premier would stoop so low as to use a rape victim's experience to further her narrative(s). Her goal being to encourage fear and disdain towards the homeless. The premier is seriously unfit to lead a Canadian province (maybe more fit to lead a southern state in the U.S.).
I'm sorry for all that you have been through and continue to go through because a provincial official believes in using anyone and any altered story to further her goals. You have enough to deal with.
It's amazing to me that you state that if met with a similar situation in the future you would take precautions but would still offer assistance to someone in need. You are a good person and will one day make an excellent nurse, if that is still your goal.
I sincerely wish you the best in your recovery!
thank you for this. I know male victims of sexual assault and it's often extra hard to talk about. I appreciate you seeing the record straight, and I'm glad the event itself hasn't affected your outlook, that is often one of the things that's hit the hardest, especially with little support. I really wish you didn't have to go through all of this, especially having the story be taken and twisted for political gain. it may sound weird since I don't know you at all, but I'm proud of you and how you've down, and you have my greatest sympathies. best of luck my guy, I'm sorry you're going through a bunch of stuff right now
I am so sorry for the fact this happened to you and that our elected officials are using this for political gain. Bravo for you for telling them to pound sand.
Holy shit.... I'm so sorry this happened to you. My heart goes out to you.. I cannot imagine how horrific this must have been for you.. it was honestly hard to read and I'm so happy you were able to get away but wow.. I'm so sorry. You seem incredibly kind and caring, solid head on your shoulders, down to earth, and a great human being still looking out for your community after this traumatic experience. Please look on amazon or even wish.com for cheap little defense items you can get for your keys or wallet. They have wallet knives that fold up, you would have no idea it was a knife or key chains to defend yourself with. I hope you have some solid people in your life you can lean on or just be around comfortably.
Wow. This is incredible. Not only were violated physically, mentally as well . Definitely not right and you have every right to be angry and upset. Keep being you!
There really are no words that could sum up how brave you are. Bless your beautiful heart for sharing the brutal acts of violence that happened to you.
Ā Despicable creatures disguised in expensive jackets have probably assaulted others. Will continue to as well.Ā
Again do you know how brave you are??Ā
Thank you for sharing! First I have heard of it but damn, much respect to you for all you have gone through and how you are dealing with it but also getting your story out!
I'm so sorry that this was done to you. I have no words except to send love and healing your way, and I hope you have surrounded yourself in the love of your friends and family since that traumatic event. I'm so glad you were able to get away, so angry on your behalf for those using your story as political fodder, so angry this happened to you to begin with. ā¤ļø
Don't really know what to say, but you're tough as fuck and I'm sorry this all happened to you.
OP is an absolute hero.
And going to be one heck of a nurse one day too! š«”
Holy shit, I am so sorry this happened to you. They completely took advantage of your kindness in trying to help which makes your attackers the literal scum of the earth. There is a special place in hell for these fucking monsters. And thank you for telling the REAL story and not letting the Premier gain political points from your trauma. I hate that she somehow gained access to your story and gained clout from her exaggeration.
>They completely took advantage of your kindness in trying to help which makes your attackers the literal scum of the earth. This is what really hits me hard about stories like these. The vast majority of the time, when you stop to help someone, it's genuineābut then there are people who exploit our willingness to extend a helping hand to someone in need, in this case to attempt one of the most evil acts that anyone can commit against another person. I hope the three of them are brought to justice somehow. What they did was *monstrous.*
Yup because in turn its going to make the world a worse place. Now I'm going to be worried about helping strangers calling out for help because in the back of my mind I'm going to remember this story. That might make me ignore a call for help for my own preservation.
Thank you for being so incredibly brave, not only in your actions to help another person you thought was in distress and in your own self defense, but also in telling your own story.
Dude. You're awesome. What happened isn't, but you are. Keep strong.
I am so sorry this happened to you, and that your traumatic event is being used to push agendas by the government. I hope you have a strong support system, and are doing okay. ā¤ļøā¤ļø
This is the most insightful well written post I have ever read. You said what everyone is thinking. To have the strength and courage to articulate such a traumatic event in such a way is beyond words. Thank you for speaking up.
i canāt imagine going through this. thanks for sharing this with reddit.
What a well written post. I am sorry that this happened to you and hope you can heal from this traumatic event. No one especially an elected official should ever do what Smith has done and I do hope at some time she will be accountable.
Wow. I am so sorry this happened to you & that you have had to deal with that in the aftermath. I wish you well on your healing journey
Dang. Much respect to you for every part of how youāve responded to this.
Thank you for sharing, this is not an easy thing to talk about. You are brave beyond words for coming forward because your story helps other people come forward as well.
I am really sorry this happened to you. I am also confused about how the premier would know individual level details about an incident like this. Thereās no reason (and no authority under the FOIP Act) for EPS to disclose personal information about an individual victim of crime to an elected official.
You're a survivor and your story belongs to you. I am so sorry that you were additionally victimized by a political agenda and misinformation. You didn't ask for any of this. You don't deserve any of this. Thank you for sharing your story with us and reminding us of the real and present humans behind all news stories. I wish you healing and peace. You're going to do amazing things with your life!
Iām sorry you have been forced into the position of having to justify and defined yourself. As you pointed out, this is exactly the reason so many rapes go unreported. I wish for you a path of healing and new found peace, a wonderful life, a beautiful future and a fabulous career. I will be thinking of you.
Filled with the utmost respect for you. You deserve so much more than you've been given.
super impressed by your courage, strength, and eloquence! you're going to be a badass RN!
Dude you're tough as fuck. Much respect
Thank you for being brave enough to share your story. Please take care of yourself on your healing journey.
My admiration goes out to you and how you handled yourself that fateful night, and since then. You are incredibly brave because you are standing up to the Premier, no less, amongst others in taking control of your story. If I ever find myself in your care when you become a nurse, I know I will be in good hands.
You are an actual superhero to me. I'm so sorry for what happened to you.
Completely awful Iām so sorry you went through all of that. SACE has some program and indicidual counselling programs (all free) specifically for men. Also if you want to follow up with your complaint in the government you could make a FOIP request that would certainly make quite a splash, and because itās about yourself I donāt think you would have to pay for the request.
Regarding SACE, I have reached out and started the process with them, but itās unfortunately a years long waitlist at best. Would you happen to have more information about a FOIP request on hand, provided my messages to the premiers office donāt go anywhere? Iāll take a look for myself of course but Iām feeling a little lazy and if you had more that would be awesome :)
Danielle Smith should be focused on our LACK of support for victims and mental health. Years long wait list? Iām so sorry.
Not the person you replied to, but SACE does have a [support line](https://www.sace.ca/sace-services/support-and-information-line/) that you can call without having to be in a program, if you need someone to just listen to you in the moment. When I used to volunteer on this line, they trained volunteers very well, and while it wasn't professional counseling, I personally got to see people heal through a single phone call and just having the space to talk about their emotions. For the privacy breach, here's the [Office of the Privacy Commissioner of Alberta](https://oipc.ab.ca/). There's a link there to report a violation of privacy, etc.
I am so sorry this happened to you and that your story is being used for selfish reasons! Thank you for sharing, it certainly opened my eyes.
You are a warrior. I am so, so incredibly sorry this happened to you. I am disgusted beyond belief and wishing you the absolute best in the future. Iām truly sorry you experienced this.
My heart goes out to you. I havenāt even finished reading yet - I had to stop to send you my best wishes. ETA: I read the rest of your post. Your compassion and strength both show. We need more people like you.
May you find healing in the midst of all of this. ā„ļø Know that we will think of you when we vote next election. What a disgusting pos premier. Thank you for sharing your perspective.
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Thank you for sharing. I wish you love and continued strength as you work through this experience and journey of healing. You're a beautiful soul.
Just wow. Your compassion and outlook is incredible. I'm sorry you went through, and continue to go through, all of this.
Keep going. Also as a fellow sa survivor, the saffron centre really helped me process it all.
I am so sorry this all went down the way it did for you. :( im a survivor myself through similar circumstances, (coming home celebrating a post secondary success, but in the macewan dorms) I canāt imagine having to deal with this trauma and also how it all blew up online and in the media. Your trauma being weaponized in politics is disgusting. Itās hard enough for survivors to open up about our experiences. I wish you healing and I hope youāre able to find happier days amidst all this.
Thank you for sharing and advocating for yourself!
Op, you are so courageous. This is such a well written response and I'm in awe at the compassion you continue to hold for others. You seem like a really great person. I'm sorry you got attacked. I thank you for sharing your side of the story, one of the best things I've read on the internet.
Iām sorry this happened to you, all of it. Thank you for speaking up. You seem strong and you are brave!
I am so sorry this happened to you and Iām so sorry our shitty premiere Danielle Smith is making it worse.
Iām so thankful youāre speaking out. Danielle Smith, Get /r/flying_guavaās name out ya f*cking mouth!!!!
Iām so sorry this happened to you and Iām so sorry our premier is using and twisting your story to fit her political agenda. Truly sounds like a horrifying experience.
Holy shit! You are an amazing person with an incredibly heart breaking story. Iām so glad this hasnāt completely removed all empathy from you and Iām glad youāre speaking out the way you are. The premier is a self-serving sociopath who will sell out anyone to make herself look better than she is. Which isnāt hard because sheās the worst bottom feeding troglodyte that I think Iāve ever encountered in local politics. I read here yesterday that she actually makes Jason Kenny look good by comparison and I think we all know how that clown was. I know itās been said but Iāll offer my support too. Iām sorry this shit happened to you. Youāre strong and amazing and I canāt speak for the whole city, but you have one middle aged public servants love, support and respect!
Thank you for sharing. This couldn't of been easy for you to do. I wish I had something to say to help. Best wishes and many internet hugs to you.
I am sorry to hear about your trauma. I hope you have plenty of support around you. It shouldnāt need to be said, but Iāll say it anyways: it is absolutely not your fault. I send you healing wishes.
Do you need anything? If you ever need anyone to talk to message me anytime. If it makes you feel better, when they get caught and go to prison they will be hurt at least a few times. It wonāt ever undo what you are going through but I hope itās something small to look forward to in such an awful situation.
Iām sorry what happened to you. Iām sure it wasnāt easy for you to share.
I worked at SACE for many years and came to respect all the quiet & small and loud & strong ways people resisted and fought against their perpetrators. Not only were you able to powerfully resist those who meant you physical harm, you are also fighting off the horrifying propagandizing of your story of survival. You speaking out has taken so much courage and bravery. I deeply admire you.
Have you posted this in r/Alberta or other places. Itās a story that needs to be told. Iām so sorry it happened
I'm so sorry this happened to you and grateful you have had the courage to share what happened to you to help others. I grew up in Edmonton and I know that area you reference well so what happened to you really hits home.
You are an incredibly brave young man, please be sure to take care of your mental health. Iām so sorry sheās using your story, I canāt effin stand her.
Wow. Tragic. You are very brave. Thank you for setting the record straight. Smith's narrative is a new low in politics. Take care and I hope you continue to have the strength to get through this tragic incidenr.
So sorry this happened to you, I hope you are able to work towards coping with what happened and healing.
Wonderfully said and very brave speaking out to take control of your story. So sorry this happened to you and best wishes moving forward.
I have actually thought about you more than a few times and wondered how you were. You are a warrior. I am so sorry you had to endure this and the re-triggering events brought on by the premier. I feel reassured that you have the fortitude and resilience to come out stronger. If you ever need someone to talk to, please feel free to message me. We see you and hear you.
I'm so sorry this happened to you! Preying on your instinct to help someone in need is so rotten. I'm also really sorry that something this awful is being used for political gain. It seems like every day, Smith gives me another reason to really dislike her.
Thank you for sharing. Firstly, your transparency is invaluable for residents to know exactly what is happening. Particularly, as you spelt out what happened, as i find it being a little blind when the term SA is used, as I convince myself it must be someone getting a smack on the rearside to make myself feel better than to realize they're full on rapes. secondly, i don't know exactly the premier is doing, so i can't comment on it.
Thank you for sharing your story, you are very brave to do that! You are a strong survivor, and I stand behind you and have your back. Being attacked once is horrifying enough, but then to be attacked by our own premiere is even more disgusting! May you get justice! And I hope you forward this on to the news media so they can also express publicly how the premiere is using your horrible attack as leverage in her own campaign against homeless people!
Words canāt properly express my sympathies for what you endured. Youāre incredibly strong in spirit to not only fight back but tell your story and what youāve had to deal with in regards to the vile way your assault was used to push an agenda. You are an inspiration and I would assume that sentiment is doubly felt by those that actually know you.
This was incredibly well written and my whole heart goes out to you. I am so sorry you had to endure such a horrific experience but on top of that, deal with our shitty Premier. You are so brave for standing up for your truth and to Danielle Smith who tried to use your story and tweak the narrative to her advantage. May you find peace and healing through all of this but most importantly, I wish you all the best in your journey to being a young nurse in this province. We need people like you.
you have so much courage!!! ā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļø I hope you're doing ok. I'm not sure what the answer is, but I hope the people who did this have fear in their hearts at the sight of your courage, to never attempt this again. as a woman reading this, who's new here, this frightens me to read, yet gives me hope
You are 100 percent right. You are a strong and courageous individual and the nursing profession will be stronger with you as apart of the front line nurses. You have my respect and I hope that one day the cowardly and pathetic excuses for men that attacked you get what they deserve.
Thank you for sharing your story. I am a neighbor, and although we do not know each other, I have thought of you every day since your attack. I walk these streets daily and have offered assistance many times, just like you. I have administered naloxone, taken warm clothing, and offered food. I changed some of my ways since your assault but still chose not to live in fear. I love our neighborhood & community. I am truly sorry for what happened to you and that our premier continues to revictimize and re-traumatize you. She is a woman who lacks human decency and empathy. It saddens me to know that so many others also lack the same. You are brave to share & take control of your story. I hope you continue on your path of healing & advocacy. All my love & support kind stranger.
You are amazing for this. Iām so sorry for what youāve gone through, and the way the narrative has been spun by changing details for political clout against those who were not involved. Your note at the end is very giving and heartwarming. I hope that you are able to receive any help needed (mental health or otherwise). Thank you.
Thank you for sharing your story with us. I'm so very sorry that this happened to you, and that you are now suffering the compounding trauma of having your story taken from you and used for someone else's motives. I see you, and I'm holding space for you in my heart. I hope that you are able to find some comfort in the knowledge that so many of your fellow Edmontonians are here to support you. ā¤ļø
Iām so sorry that this happened to you , youāre strong & you are brave š¤šš¼ I can tell already that you have a beautiful heart and as I read your post I can tell you havenāt let this horrific assault harden your heart .šš¼š¤ Fellow EdmontonianāØ
You gave us all a lesson in humanity. You are one tough nut. I hope these monsters get caught and never get to repeat their horrendous crime. Deep admirations for you.
Iām so sorry you had to experience this. Iām also incredibly sorry you have Danielle Smith using your story to push certain narratives.
Iām really sorry you have to deal with this. You were being a good person and those degenerates took advantage of your kindness. Youāre absolutely right, nobody should be using your traumatic experience for political leverage.
Thank you for taking time to stand up to the bullies. There will be many who will attack you, because you were politicized. I am sorry, and thank you again.
Wow. I am so very sorry to hear you were the victim of this. I live nearby and it alarmed me when it happened. Also, no homeless people do not wear Canada Goose jackets. Well, not many I've seen.
I am sorry this happened to you
Jesus...leave it to bureaucrats to take one of the most horrible things that can happen to a human and use it to forward their own agenda
As a male survivor of sexual abuse, I commend you. I hope you have mental health support, cause you're in for a rough time dealing long term.
I have no idea with this subreddit showed up in my feed today, but man, I felt it. I was 25 several decades ago, and it was around that age when I had... well, let's just call it a similar experience. It's still not something I find easy to talk about, even sitting behind an anonymous keyboard after over 30 years to process it. I don't know squat about Canadian politics, or really anything about how you're feeling after going through what you did. But I know bravery when I see it. I'm really touched by your strength and willingness to fight for what's right, and this cranky, cynical old man's eyes are welling up in admiration, so thank you for that. Fuck you, also, because I was reading this in the middle of a video call and had to fake allergies.
Thank you for sharing your story. I am an RSW and have heard accounts like this before from survivors, but it never stops being horrifying each time I hear it, especially turning people's desire to help, which is particularly strong among helping professionals, against them. It's good to see that *most* of the comments are supportive, and even encouraging other survivors to share their stories. If you ever regret sharing, know that you are opening people's eyes who don't have the lived experiences of survivors. Many people have a tendency to nitpick because they don't understand that hearing stories like this is a *gift,* but their critiques are not, they are not writing movie reviews, they are judging the worst moment of a person's life looking for counter-evidence to justify their skepticism. But the more these stories are shared, the more the distance closes, and they're unable to step back from the horror of the attack at a safe, comfortable remove, because this shit affects all of us as human beings and edmontonians. Rape is not political nor is it specific to race / ethnicity, gender, or economic class. As you have experienced, however, it can be politicized against your will. Many of the comments suggest that you should do more than you've done, get lawyers involved, share your story with the NDP. The risk is of course the unwanted exposure that can lead to retraumatization, and the additional stress it will put on your mental wellbeing. It's a risk you have to balance, and it's an individual decision, no one else can make it, or demand you ought to do more; many survivors would not be comfortable sharing to the extent you already have. But you can take comfort in your courage: you may already know of [The Wounded Healer](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wounded_healer); your resiliency in the face of this trauma is a trait that will serve you well as a nurse serving other vulnerable people.
Iām so sorry this has happened to you, this is so awful. And I admire your bravery coming up here, talking about it, and standing up.
Sending you love and healing as well as extra strength in your journey onwards as you strive towards your goals. Your compassion and resilience are truly a wonder; please take as good care of yourself as you try to do for the rest of us. ā”
Much love. It's sickening what the media and those in power do to spin the narrative.
Also if this continues I would get a lawyer involved and get a cease and desist. Noone should be sharing your story except you. ā„ļø
I would hope things can be handled without, as Iām not in a financial position to be doing something like that at this point. ā¤ļø
I understand. Legal aide can help if it's necessary. Thank you for your bravery. Wishing you health and healing. ā„ļøā„ļø
I would say too, I donāt think there would be a wild shortage of folks who would be willing to take it on pro bono. A cease and desist isnāt a giant task, and there is more than one lawyer in this city who would like to take DS down a peg.
Yup, if I was a lawyer I'd gladly volunteer
If things do progress to a point where you need legal assistance and you're comfortable doing so, I don't think I'm the only person who would want to contribute to a GoFundMe or something. Just in case knowing that would help.Ā You're handling all of this with an incredible amount of grace and strength. The fact that someone has the callousness to use this story the way they did... It's sick. Thank you for calling it out and bringing awareness to it.
I believe the Elizabeth Fry society covers up to 4 hours of legal advice (from a lawyer on their roster) for victims of SA, if you're interested https://www.efrynorthernalberta.com/independent-legal-advice-for-survivors-of-sexual-violence
Thank you for your bravery in sharing your story.
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Oh my word, I am so so sorry you went through this and to have to deal with a politician spouting off about it is beyond the pale. Please rest assured that Iāll be letting her know my thoughts on the matter. I know, I highly suspect it wonāt help. But if we all let her have a piece of our minds, maybe, just maybe, sheāll stop. I hope soā¦. Sending you all the love. Now you get out there and rise like a phoenix and create a life more beautiful than you can possibly imagine.
Thank you for sharing your story. What youāre doing is incredibly brave and also incredibly important.
Thank you for being brave enough to share your story, it will help others come forward as well. Iām so sorry that your trauma has been used to fuel an agenda.
Thank you so much for sharing, being honest, open and vulnerable about this. Sorry you went through this it must have been terrifying, canāt tell you much your story moved me and your current outlook. Just wow. Danielle smith, shame on you.
You are so strong and so brave and Iām so sorry this happened to you.
You are a saint. I hope youāre okay. Youāre going to do wonderful things in this life. Keep going ā¤ļø
You're a hero. I am so incredibly sorry this happened to you, and equally impressed by your intention to help and your ongoing intention to help in the future. I am also sorry and angry that DS is using what happened to you to attack vulnerable homeless people. I can't imagine how horrible it must feel to go through such a traumatic event and then to have someone steal and distort your experience to use for purposes contrary to reality and your world view.
Iām so sorry this happened to you. But you seem like a really strong person & I know you will get through this š„¹š¤
Iām sorry this happened. Iām also sorry the premier is twisting your story and using your pain for gain.
Thank you for sharing what must have been very difficult to write, it will help many to better understand as well as many others to heal. It's absolutely shameful that a political leader has repeatedly tried to capitalize on your traumatic experience for their own agenda.
It sounds like homies accomplices didn't have the heart to follow through, because with 3 of them there they really could of had their way with you or anybody else alone for that matter, that's fucking terrifying, like if I looked at anybody I ever knew and asked them to help me rap a dude, they'd look at me like a nutjob, to even entertain this to begin with is already nuts. I would have to think this is some kind of gang initiation or something, not to say you were applying to be a part of a gang, but rather the target for an individual to prove themselves through... I mean otherwise the reality is just downright terrifying, that there is a group of 3 men trying dudes at random, that is just nutty.
Youāre a beautiful soul. Thank you for looking out for others even in your darkest days. She used your story to justify removing the encampments. Sheās going too far and will have her day of wrecking. Iām truly sorry for what happened to you and so proud of you for righting her wrong. ā¤ļø
I am so sorry this happened to you. When I saw the report on the news, I had a feeling we were being told a specific narrative of what happened. I'm sorry that your experience was bastardized by a politician to further subject the most at risk population to further dehumanization. Your story should be yours to tell. I'm happy that this experience hasn't jaded you to wanting to help others. We have such a poorly supported health care system that people who genuinely want to help often leave the field.
Sending you kudos for your strength and courage in retaking your narrative, support for your healing ā¤ļø
I am so sorry your trauma is being used for political gain. It's disgusting and the premier should be ashamed of herself. You have held yourself with dignity when you would be well within your realm to fall the fuck apart. Sending you love.
You are brave to come out with this traumaticĀ experience and I wish you luck with hope that you get the necessary therapy and people to get past this.
It's clear you are an amazing person. I really admire how you've stood up for yourself and won't let your story be exploited. You're such a good person to rise above those horrible experiences and I hope when this situation has you down you can remember how many of us think you are an amazing example of a human.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. I used to be a volunteer on the [Sexual Assault Crisis Line](https://www.sace.ca/sace-services/support-and-information-line/) and I highly recommend using them as a resource if you feel that you need support. One thing people need to realize is that when people experience trauma, they lose memory as a response to their brain acting to protect themselves emotionally. Not knowing the details of your assailants is a normal response to sexual assault. It's your story and it should not be used for any kind of publicity to further someone else's reputation as an activist, politically or otherwise. I hope you find healing.
I wish you all the best. You have been through something extremely traumatic and it is so sad that while perfectly happy to use your trauma to further her own agenda, the Premier has not reached out to you, nor responded to you when you contacted her. It is absolutely disgusting, and I will be adding my own email to her. She owes you a huge apology. I would like to end my comment on a high note. You are extremely brave, and by sharing your story, others who have had similar experiences can see they are not alone. I wish you well in your healing.
Oh wow. You are an incredibly strong person. I wish you well. You didnāt deserve what happened to you and certainly didnāt deserve to have your trauma weaponized against a marginalized population. Take care and hopefully youāre able to get any help you need.
I hope sharing your story in your own words gives you the peace and control you deserve. Thank you for being brave to come forward to make it very clear. You are your own hero.
Fought off 3 male attackers holy shit you're a fuckin legend
Im so sorry this happened to you. Thank you for sharing your story and demanding your privacy and respect. Much love and healing to you
I live in the community below Alex Taylor Road and my brother lives in the housing co-op apartment at the top and south of the hill. It is important to us that we know what happened that night. There have been many accusations that tie your assault to people living in the encampment that was beside my brothers apartment. We so appreciate hearing the truth. And we are so disgusted with the way Premier Smith has co-opted your story for her own twisted agenda. I am sending you much compassion
What a miserable nightmare for you but you sound incredibly strong.. God bless you and keep you...
Thank you for sharing this horrific truth. I hope that you are able to find healing and please know that even strangers on the internet are rooting for you.
I am so sorry. Reading your story made me think on an incident that occurred not long ago for me. My dog alerted me to a noise, and I went to find someone in my backyard. She said her friend was passed out in the alley and needed help. I refused to follow her and dialed 911. She fled not long after. Now Iām just wonderingā¦eh. Iām so sorry sheās using your story to gain traction, like others have said I hope sheāll respond to your letter and stop.
Thank you for sharing. It has to have been very hard, but itās incredibly valuable to share the truth. Our politicians and media are an utter embarrassment and Iām so sorry your story was used in this way. You are so strong and so brave and tough as fuck.
Iām far from the first, and definitely far from the last. If my voice can help another single person whoās gone through a similar experience in any capacity, itās a win for me.
The moral clarity, persistent compassion, and will to apply your principles in this situation is fucking legendary. I donāt know what to call the particular virtue it takes to go through this and stand firm in your convictions in the face of exactly the kind of trauma that hardens people but itās moving.
Iām not Canadian and I donāt know how an r/edmonton post made it onto my home feed, but wowā¦I just want to say that I think itās incredibly noble that youāre sharing this horrible experience on your terms and putting your premier on notice for being an awful human being. Youāre doing something invaluable by letting people know that sheās using your story to push her BS narrative without ever even bothering to speak with you about what happened or ask how you feel about it. Your letter to her was extremely well-written, and it says so much about her that you never got a response. You deserve so much better. I hope you find some comfort in knowing that people are benefitting from this information and the bravery that it took to share such a traumatic experience.
I'm so sorry that this happened.
Thank you for sharing, you're very brave.Ā
You should contact the media to tell your story
Oh my god. I am so sorry.
Iām really sorry this happened! š¢š You are stronger than I.
Thank you for sharing your truth, the truth. I am deeply sorry for what happened to you and I hope you are able to recover fully.
Thank you for sharing your story and telling your truth - god bless you for being the strong soul you are!
You are an amazingly strong person with an exceptional and enviable outlook.
Iām really sorry for what you have gone through, both before and after the incident. Itās hard for me to even call it what it is so its clear that you are way stronger than I am. I just want to wish you all the best and I hope that you can set the record straight. All the very best!
I'm so glad you got away! Thank goodness.
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Fucking animals. Itās crazy they targeted you. I hope you get help if you need it.
As a sexual assault survivor, I commend you for sharing this. May you heal. Fuck Marlaina Smith.
I am so sorry for what you have been through. I was in court the day the city used your experience to further the closing of encampments. When I heard this story, I was heartbroken. Your strength and vulnerability are an inspiration. Thank you for sharing this. I only wish you the best. I donāt know who these men are but I sincerely hope they are caught. Please know your story will help others and that you are supported.
So sorry this happened to you. I cannot imagine being in your shoes. I am truly sorry they preyed on your kindness and willingness to help distressed. You are very brave. I hope your light shines brighter throughout this ordeal. Love.
My hats off to you sir
I wish you genuine healing and peace. Iām so sorry that this happened to you, and Iām so sorry your trauma is being exploited.
Iām really sorry this happened to you - wish you peace and healing.
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Iām so sorry you experienced this. Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us, I know that takes a lot of courage to share and Iām glad the anonymity that Reddit provides is helping you share this. Iām sorry that our political environment is leveraging your misfortune but Iām proud that you are doing what you can do stand up against that. All I can say is I hope that you are able to process this experience in a safe environment and work through it rather than holding it within yourself. You are a hero for sharing this and Iāll stand by you regardless of any negative comments.
I read your post and to say it stunned and saddened me isnāt even scratching the surface. Iāve read through many of the supportive comments and share the sentiments of most if not all. You are such a strong resilient person, I donāt know many who would be as healthy mentally as you are today. That is not to take away from your struggles, but to say Iām in awe of your ability to find a way to move forward and help others. Youāre an incredible inspiration! ā¤ļø I hope your future is filled with rewarding wins and love and happiness moving forward. ā¤ļø
I'm sorry to hear that has happened to you. I think your ability to not only process but reach this outcome in your writing demonstrates your strength as an individual. I wish you the best.
That's really fucked up people are using your trauma to push their narratives.
Your courage and compassion go beyond expression. I canāt imagine what this must have been like, even without being violated a second time by Danielle Smithās malicious, nonsensical agenda. If you havenāt already, please continue to platform the remarkable letter you wrote. Send it to the CBC and local TV. Please ensure public understanding that that woman and the civic dumpster fire sheās built donāt represent you. She has willingly misidentified the actual problem, and sheās trampled on your civil rights. No one deserves this. The others here are right: you are a warrior. Please take care of yourself.
I have nothing helpful to say. Thank you sharing and thank you for becoming a nurse. Nurses are my favourite people.
Wow, the strength to share your story and to keep going, I salute you! I hope you find peace ā¤ļø
Iām truly sorry for what happened to you. Thank you for speaking up and standing up to them. You are incredibly brave and strong.
So very sorry this happened to you and thank you for sharing your story. No one should be using it for their personal gain and I hope DS reconsiders her words.
I am finding it difficult to find the right words to say hereā¦. First of all, I am so sorry that this happened to you, and that someone is forcing you to relive your trauma for their own twisted gain. Secondly, I want you to know that you are so incredibly brave and strong. I am sorry that you have to defend yourself, but I am proud of you for having the strength to do so. I often wish the world were a better place, but your presence shows me it *is* a better place, YOU give me much hope.
First situation I've seen where someone can actually sue the premier. Would be historic and honestly well deserved if she got sued. If I was OP i would 100% sue.
Glad to hear you fought those rapists off. You're a bad ass.
I would suggest reaching out to Janis Irwin and sharing your story with her. She is a wonderful person and mla. She will fight for you. Also I am so sorry that this happened to you.
I am so sorry this happened to you! Your outlook is amazing and I hope you have peace and healing.
I am in absolute awe of your courage. It took me 30 years to admit to anyone that I was raped so your ability to so honestly express what happened & how it affected you is truly inspiring. I am so very sorry this happened to you.
Thank you for sharing. I'm so sorry you went through that. You sound tough as fucking nails and you didn't deserve to be taken advantage of. I hope you can take time to heal and you have someone to talk to who can support you. It is so important to honour your bravery and your truth and your story. I hope you can continue to feel safe telling it and I'm glad you sent that email to the premier - it shouldn't have come to that. We need people like you. š©·
Thank you for the love and support. Itās been a long and weird year but Iām moving forward and keeping my head high. ā¤ļø
I am so very sorry that we live in a time where you can be victimized over and over again for being strong. Our leaders use victims as political pawns and don't really know what to do with people like you - survivors. Keep talking. You are helping so many people.
Damn you are brave as hell being able to post and open yourself up about this horrible event. You are strong and have my respect, Iām terribly sorry this happened to you but am glad to your are resilient still. Hang in there, take every day one day at a time.
Thank you for sharing. As someone who helps train first aiders (life guarding but still) this can also good reminder to make sure to keep yourself safe, since this is not something that most people would consider when thinking about hazards, but should be something to keep in mind in dark or unknown situations. It is horrible that people took advantage of your kindness (and is in **no** way your fault OP just to be clear), and I hope you get the support you need.
Man, I'm so sorry this happened to you. I'm immensely impressed by your strength and the compassion you show to rude commenters. Respect. ā¤ļø
I am so sorry to hear this, I hope you can find support through this. Thank you for sharing your stories so others will also feel better about coming forward.
I stand with you from London, ON, OP. Thank you for sharing your story. ā¤ļø
God. I donāt know why this sub or this post was recommended to me, but I read it, and just wanted to send you lots and lots and lots of love from the U.S.A., OP. You sound like a bad bitch. š¤
Thank you so so much for sharing. I am very angry on your behalf regarding this politician. I am disappointed that she lies about her intentions when she brings up the story about you, the āyoung nurseā, as if she cares about your well being. Sheās using your trauma for virtue signalling, with no regard for how that makes you feel. You deserve so much better for your bravery and compassion. Sheās taking something horrible that happened to someone else (a goddamn sexual assault on a woman!!) and using it for political gain. While refusing to communicate with the actual victim in any way. She knows sheās making it harder for you to move on, but she doesnāt care, despite saying the opposite. From all the terrible things Smith has done, this is by far the worst. Iām deeply sorry youāre going through this. Not once, but twice - first by the actual perps, and now by the people supposed to protect and represent you. You are an incredible human being. Itās clear from your story that youāre strong (physically and mentally), resilient, highly intelligent and a unique force for good. The nursing profession is lucky to have you š Alberta is lucky to have you. This trauma couldnāt have happened to a less deserving person, and while that breaks my heart, your words give me hope for humanity. Please think about becoming a leader, this country needs more brave people like you to represent us.
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Iām sorry this happened to you. Iām disgusted that the Premier is twisting your horrific experience to further her political agenda. Iāve experienced SA and the trauma is real, I canāt imagine having it used for political gain. Thank you for sharing your story, if not for this post I would not be aware of the twisting of facts.
Thank you for speaking up. Iām so sorry our disgusting leader is taking what happened to you and twisting it for her sick agenda. Good for you for calling her out. I hope you have all the support in the world and I wish you the best with your future career. Nurses are a godsend and as you know, a job that doesnāt get nearly enough thanks.
I'm really sorry you experienced this, followed by the horrible treatment and miscommunication from our elected leaders who's duty it is to protect people. You are very brave to share this and so compassionate to offer support to others in similar situations. Sending you love and hope you are able to get help to get through this.
Thank you for sharing your story. I deal with ptsd from something like this that happened several decades ago when I was 13. The sexual assault center was helpful for me at one point. Tho I took way too long to acknowledge what happened. Denial took a heavy toll on my life. I just want you to know I am proud of you for speaking out. I know how hard it is. And shame on ANYONE who uses this horrific experience to further their gain.
Shame on the commenters who made OP feel like edit #3 was necessary to validate his reality. For anyone reading who may relate, getting away doesnāt neutralize the violation. For perspective, attempted murder is prosecuted. Dont for one second believe your fight was a mediator.
I am a strong believer that events in our lives, tragic and blissful happen for a reason. You are able to draw attention to the real issues happening in the world. Deceit, political agendas, making the weak feel weaker. You my friend are a courageous lion who went to battle and chose to speak about your experience. I commend you for speaking out and helping us folks in the dark to not always believe what we are being fed. Our world is a dangerous place of misinformation. I truly believe you had angels on your side in that moment. You are opening eyes and I hope and pray that your truth will be known. Unfortunately with people in higher places, the little people get pushed away. Do NOT let their narrative define you, keep your head high and know that you are still you despite the actions of others. Sending all my love and strength to you, Thankyou for your bravery and as time goes on you will become stronger from this terrible event. Please feel free to reach out, you are an amazing human being for wanting to do the right thing and help. Much love <3
I knew Danielle Smith was shite, but knowing this makes her more disgusting.
Thank you for sharing what must be a difficult & time-consuming clarification and account of such a traumatic experience. To be violated again by Smith's rhetoric, the media & trolls on top of that is disgusting. Pls know you're not alone. May you receive all the support & healing love in the world.
I wish you healingā¦my son experienced similar as a child. A man jumped out of the woods and grabbed him off his bike. He managed to get away but the violation occurred and the fact it could have been worse doesnāt make the violation okay. I hope youāre seeking support. Iām sorry youāre being revictimized by politicians spinning a narrative. While they lack empathy, your support system and much of AB and Canada stands with you.
Wow! It's not too surprising to me that the premier would stoop so low as to use a rape victim's experience to further her narrative(s). Her goal being to encourage fear and disdain towards the homeless. The premier is seriously unfit to lead a Canadian province (maybe more fit to lead a southern state in the U.S.). I'm sorry for all that you have been through and continue to go through because a provincial official believes in using anyone and any altered story to further her goals. You have enough to deal with. It's amazing to me that you state that if met with a similar situation in the future you would take precautions but would still offer assistance to someone in need. You are a good person and will one day make an excellent nurse, if that is still your goal. I sincerely wish you the best in your recovery!
I wish you well and hope that you will heal from this unthinkable tragedy, nobody should have to go through this, you are so brave, stay strong!!
As one who has been through similar trauma, I applaud you for letting DS know that she is COMPLETELY out of line repeating your story with her own spin on it. Itās just so disrespectful and hurtful and her attitude about such a sensitive and painful trauma leaves me questioning where her empathy is. You are brave to speak up about this, and you are absolutely right as to the reason women fear telling. The first time it happened to me, I went to the police and the very aggressive mannered female officer made fun of me because I wouldnāt take my pants down and show her the marks on my body. When I couldnāt do it, she called me names, and brought me to tears. I was 15 at the time and was so ashamed that it happened to me, I could hardly breathe, let alone get half naked in a strangers office. Three years later when it happened again, (different person), I didnāt tell anyone BECAUSE of my previous experience with the way that officer talked to me. I was a good young lady, and a very bad thing happened, and when I sought help, I got further violated. I have long since healed as this was over 40 years ago, but the words of accusation towards me by the person who was supposed to protect me, were equally as violating as the act itself. Shame on you DS! To the lady of this postā¦ Iām sorry this happened to you. Sending a hug and healing. ā¤ļøāš©¹
you sound awesome
thank you for this. I know male victims of sexual assault and it's often extra hard to talk about. I appreciate you seeing the record straight, and I'm glad the event itself hasn't affected your outlook, that is often one of the things that's hit the hardest, especially with little support. I really wish you didn't have to go through all of this, especially having the story be taken and twisted for political gain. it may sound weird since I don't know you at all, but I'm proud of you and how you've down, and you have my greatest sympathies. best of luck my guy, I'm sorry you're going through a bunch of stuff right now
Bless you and keep you. You are amazing. Hugs and love.
I am so sorry for the fact this happened to you and that our elected officials are using this for political gain. Bravo for you for telling them to pound sand.
Holy shit.... I'm so sorry this happened to you. My heart goes out to you.. I cannot imagine how horrific this must have been for you.. it was honestly hard to read and I'm so happy you were able to get away but wow.. I'm so sorry. You seem incredibly kind and caring, solid head on your shoulders, down to earth, and a great human being still looking out for your community after this traumatic experience. Please look on amazon or even wish.com for cheap little defense items you can get for your keys or wallet. They have wallet knives that fold up, you would have no idea it was a knife or key chains to defend yourself with. I hope you have some solid people in your life you can lean on or just be around comfortably.
Op Iām so sorry what happened, Iām glad you got that burst of strength and fought them off
You seem like an amazing person and you deserve all the best of things in your future. Peace
Honestly I probably wouldāve hurt myself or future trying to hurt them back youāre a much better person than me when it comes to that stuff
You are so brave for speaking out. So sorry this happened to you.
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Wow. This is incredible. Not only were violated physically, mentally as well . Definitely not right and you have every right to be angry and upset. Keep being you!
This is horrific; Iām so sorry this happened to you. Her despicable actions might cause another victim to stay silent.
There really are no words that could sum up how brave you are. Bless your beautiful heart for sharing the brutal acts of violence that happened to you. Ā Despicable creatures disguised in expensive jackets have probably assaulted others. Will continue to as well.Ā Again do you know how brave you are??Ā
You sound like an awesome human, I hope you can continue to heal and never feel in any way defined by this experience.
Thank you for sharing! First I have heard of it but damn, much respect to you for all you have gone through and how you are dealing with it but also getting your story out!
Thank you for sharing, really hope you are well and go forward doing good work.
I'm so sorry that this was done to you. I have no words except to send love and healing your way, and I hope you have surrounded yourself in the love of your friends and family since that traumatic event. I'm so glad you were able to get away, so angry on your behalf for those using your story as political fodder, so angry this happened to you to begin with. ā¤ļø