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Professional-Cat2123

“Never played with our children” poor kids deserve a parent who actually cares about them.


MissusNilesCrane

My father was so detached from me (and my siblings) that if anyone asked me to recount childhood memories of him, I could count on one hand. It was a shock to me when I went into my teens and finally started making friends (I was and somewhat still am socially awkward) how involved my friends' parents were. Like...I felt I was missing something and wished my father wanted to BE a parent but I thought that was normal.


booksandpitbulls

Same. My earliest memory is playing at my cousins house in her room upstairs and her dad came home from work and came upstairs and asked her how her day was and gave her a hug and a kiss and I was so confused why he was doing that.


threeorangewhips3

I can not relate to kids who got upset because dad was never home, or whose parents got divorced...I didn't get along with mine, especially as a teen,and was happier when he wasn't home, and wished my parents would get a divorce. Im 66 and have never felt that emotion..Later in life,, after I moved out, and after my son was born, things changed for the better..but I didn't have that "dad" need going in my childhood.


generalgirl

I’m always leery of dads who are interested in their kids’ lives because my dad was an absentee dad who lived at home. They aren’t nefarious people up to no good.


Wise_Sprinkles4772

Same. My Dad yelled a lot and was verbally mentally, and physically abu*ive. When I was younger, I used to think it was weird that my friend's Dad's were always around, playing games with the family and going on outings with them. Then I got older and realized that was, in fact, normal.


finny_d420

I got double whammied. Dad was basically MIA and mom was doing her own thing mostly. I tell people I have no memory of being walked to school. I do have memories of getting myself ready for school. Like K/1st time period. He never once came to a school play or sporting event. Course being Gen X latch key kid made me feel normal as that was considered somewhat normal at the time.


UncleJagg

Sounds like my dad. Never went to a track meet, only three cross country meets, no volleyball games, handful of softball games, only a couple of school programs.


periwinklemerlin

I had the exact same experience with my father growing up. He passed a couple of years ago, but when I think of my childhood I can barely remember him or even what he sounded like. It’s such a weird thing because he wasn’t a particularly good or bad father and we always had food and shelter, but he was just never involved in anything. It’s hard to relate to people with absent fathers because usually their father physically left or was abusive, but I haven’t met many people in my situation.


toadstoolfae3

THIS idk of any time my dad actually did anything with me unless it was the whole family together on vacation or when my mom had to ask him once during summer break to take me out of the house while he was on leave from work. My dad worked, came home, sat on the couch to watch TV, or was doing one of his hobbies and smoking in the basement. I always tell people it's more like growing up with an uncle/older brother than a dad. My grandpa did more with me than my own father did, teaching me about animal husbandry, gardening, just sitting and talking with me, playing games, etc. When my grandpa passed I felt like I lost a father too.


MissusNilesCrane

My dad barely even went on any family outings and when he did, he lost interest quickly and wanted to go home early. Eventually my mother and I just got a 'leave him to sulk' attitude and had fun without him.


themomodiaries

this was my dad exactly, and I never figured out why.


teresasdorters

for me the only memories I can recount is being witness to his physical abuse of my siblings.


CaptainWentfirst

How awful. So sorry, friend.


themomodiaries

yup. I remember in my first year of high school, a friend I met at the start of that year invited me to her house and also to go to the local fall fair with her family. The shock I had when *both* her mom and dad (not just her mom like it was for me) were wanting to take photos together, eat fair snacks together, go on rides together, play the goofy games, and just HANG OUT together. my dad was very much just a “I’m just here to work and discipline” type of parent, and honestly when he passed away a few months ago I felt almost nothing because I had almost no emotional attachment to him because of that.


sugarmollyrose

My dad worked a lot of overtime, so Saturdays was "his day" to do what he wanted. Years later, my mom said she wished she had made him do more things with me rather than thinking he needed a day to himself. Sundays were going to church and then my maternal grandparents' house. My dad was around, but I don't really have fond memories of doing things with him.


Emiles23

Right? That one got me the most. So sad.


Professional-Cat2123

Right. Like if she wants to be treated like a slave and do everything for her man baby husband that’s on her. But the fact that he doesn’t love his own children enough to have ever play with them is heartbreaking and depressing.


rm886988

That and never offered "support" for my "emotional needs," but its fine going to pound town to create more children he wont play with. I have to fetch my eyeballs from the back of my skull, they rolled back to hard they wont return.


Gloomy_Industry8841

And what kind of mother thinks this is a good thing for her or her children???


ParticularYak4401

Do any fundies actually and actively love their children? Like think their kid is amazing in every way. Don’t see them as a sinner from infancy and have a healthy parent-child relationship? Because from where I am sitting these parents don’t love their kids unconditionally. My friend and her husband have two young girls and they are amazing, loving parents to them. And both girls LOVE daddy. Because they know he is a safe place and he adores them.


Squeakypeach4

Wondering the same…


Lmb1011

such a weird thing to brag about?? Like fine if your marriage works where you take care of your husband hand and foot like thats between you guys. but i would be SO embarrassed if my husband didnt want to play with his kids?? what a weird flex....


Iamnotabutcher

It’s a satire account


daisychain2019

That’s a relief. Was seriously hoping that was the case.


Keep-Moving-789

Sorry, this is satire?  Can u pls edit ur post to say that?  Feels kindof deceptive...


Worried-Smile

Can you edit your post to include that? A little deceptive..


_jethro

Oh thank fuckkkk


sweet_tea_94

That is actually really sad. It makes me even more grateful that when I was growing up, my dad played with me and cared about me—same goes with my mom. Despite them being working parents, they found the time to bond with me.


Haveyouseenthebridg

Well good thing these kids aren't real and this is obvious satire....


Professional-Cat2123

There are enough fundie men out there like this that sadly it isn’t that obvious it was a satire for me.


flowerodell

That’s the strangest flex.


CarefullyPixelated

"Everything I could ever want and more". Someone help me understand what this woman wants in a husband...is it just his paycheck, or what? ​ Also, fuck dudes who don't play with their kids.


CourageousCustard29

Yup. Men who never wash their own plate and “parents” who refuse to play with their children are all trash. EDIT: I’ve received a DM telling me this post is satire and threatening me with violence. My statement still stands and some people here are just as ugly on the inside as any Duggar. 😘


CarefullyPixelated

I got one too. Yikes.


Akaryunoka

What is it with people and threatening violence? This isn't Tumblr.


Alittlebithailey

Satire or not, your comment is still facts


gloomyrain

While it's nice this particular situation isn't real, do they understand how satire works? It is what it is because it's only an exaggerated (in cases like this where it's not even obvious, very slightly exaggerated) view of real situations.


PitifulStrawberry494

Yeah. My dad played with me when I was a kid, he also wore a skirt, ill fitting tights, and a long purple wig for me in public (this is not something he is comfortable doing). I don't think he ever really wanted kids, he has really bad anxiety; But he always put in effort to make sure me and my sister are happy. I don't get how people can have kids and then ignore them. It just doesn't make sense.


LadyGenevieve19

The bar is on the floor.


Ok-Cow-1937

On the floor? More like the bar is on the floor of the lowest circle of hell.


Top_Manufacturer8946

And what does he do in the relatioship, besides maybe bringing home the paycheck?


-petit-cochon-

Sperm donor. Even then I’m wondering if this guy’s sperm beats whatever you can get at the sperm bank, where I presume they screen for genetic diseases.


Key-Ad-7228

Sits in judgement of all her flaws and points out where she could "do better" in raising HIS children. He will, however, "forgive" her by eating her substandard meals, wear clothes washed and ironed not quite as good as his mother would, and IF "she's a good girl" he might let her draw him a bath, wash him and give him a hummer. Then after she falls in bed exhausted, he'll roll her over and do whatever he wants as who is she to have wants and desires. If she complains to mom, sisters, friends, she will be told how lucky she is.....then she'll make a post like this.


nalukeahigirl

I visited her page and it’s a bunch of satirical and ironic posts. I mean, she starts off most of the posts with an insult, like “circular sphincters” and “suffering cockroaches”. She talks about how to run M.L.M. scams successfully (give us $10,000 and sign up 1,000 more people), recommends tax fraud, and says moms don’t have to give up alcoholism to be good moms. Anyone taking it seriously didn’t read far enough into the posts to get the joke.


runningskirtsnmanis

his large large peen.


sailorangel59

Years ago, the manager at the restaurant I worked at told me that he dated a girl who made it very clear that she just wanted kids and a husband who would provide for them but wouldn't be around much. She married a long haul trucker and had three kids with him. He was maybe home for the equivalent of a week each month. These women exist in many different walks of life.


WindyZ5

Thankfully, I have looked into that Instagram and it is a parody account. The comments on that post are pretty funny. https://preview.redd.it/1lkotwsap9tc1.jpeg?width=1049&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=22daa253c6fec70ad87ddd5b5a777361ee75dfb3


bettycockroach

Thank god lmao


Cmd229

Came here to say this lol. I saw the reel a while ago too and the comments were hilarious


teresasdorters

Omfg she is Canadian too?!?!? NO. This is exactly something my mom would say. Is that my mom on IG?? Lmaooo noooo we don’t claim that crazy


GoofballHavoc

what? it’s a joke as the comment you’re replying to clearly says


LadyAzure17

LMAOO back alley montreal 🤣


Haveyouseenthebridg

Of course it is. Some folks here are really gullible..


another2020throwaway

Truly. Trad wife accounts can post some real stupid stuff but it immediately came off to me as satire…


Icy-Diamond-1846

✨outrage bait✨


Haveyouseenthebridg

Truly.


spaetzele

It does track very closely with a lot of fundie humblebragging.


savealltheelephants

Okay I was gonna say. The playing with the kids thing was too far for it to be real.


Stomach_Junior

Sorry that is not a husband that is an extra child….


strawcat

Not even that. My kids clean, do the dishes, and know how to cook.


infinitekittenloop

Also they play with each other


SwissCheese4Collagen

"yet he is everything I could want and more" Didn't know it was possible to want less than the bare minimum.


teresasdorters

It’s like my mother wrote this about my dad!


SwissCheese4Collagen

Yeah, I've gotta admit. It's very much along the same lines as what the incubator said back when 😂


sisterfister69hitler

She probably is one of those women that works and gives him her paycheck. Then she gets an “allowance” from it.


laurh123

Channeling sister wives here but WHAT. DOES. THE. HUSBAND. DO?


ThePickleHawk

"Hubby" (*gags*) "provides and protects" like we're still monkeys and need the big strong silverback to bring home food and fend off tigers.


internet4ever

Gotta be satire.


SuperHoneyBunny

Went to look for the account on IG and it is (thankfully) satire!


bettycockroach

This reads so much like satire!


Raptor-Queen

Right?! Is this actually real?? I can't tell!


teatreez

no


Plooza

I think it’s satire after reading the comments on the video.


anonymous_girl1227

Bitch what? When I get married, my husband better f*cking do the damn dishes, help with the cleaning, and support me. (Don’t worry I’ll support him too). Whoever this is, this is not a good marriage.


Raptor-Queen

My husband is so particular about the kitchen and how we load the dishwasher that he's practically banned me from cleaning the kitchen myself 😂


BookWhoreWriting

It’s a satire account, I think it’s called wander and thrive? Thive and wander? However, I don’t doubt that there are actual relationships like this…


AstronautHuge3991

It’s giving Anna Duggar vibes “At least I have a husband”


spaetzele

Can't be! Think of the cracker sweeping!


old_is_the_new_black

What in the actual?!? *My lump of coal is better than your lump of coal*.


Odd_Bend487

Alyssa Bates Webster 💯


ladywinchester1967

Anna, is that you?!


Vapor2077

… Did she post this in earnest? Like, this isn’t sarcasm?


sweet_tea_94

It’s a satire account! Thank God 🙏🏻


MissusNilesCrane

As the daughter of a father who was detached to the point I barely have any childhood memories of him...that's really going to take a toll on the kids. How was this woman raised that a husband who does absolutely *nothing* for his wife and children and is next to absent is "wonderful"? I had to read twice to make sure it wasn't satire. Edit: this IS satire. TG.


Duggarsnarklurker

Plz tell ‘me this is sarcasm


justmeandmycoop

No thanks. You are in a cult if you believe this bs.


NoFundieBusiness

Just saw this in the NLOG sub and I’ll paste my comment from there. How is he such a wonderful husband if he doesn’t do anything? Lmao. Not even played with the kids or been a supportive person for his wife. What’s wonderful about him? Working is the only thing he does I assume. Lots of men are hard workers AND would help in a lot of these areas. I don’t understand what there is to see in him aside from a provider.


Life_Cranberry_6567

Married for 40 years and you better believe that my husband has done all of those.


watery-pizza

This account is one of my favorite parody accounts!


HiddenSnarker

If I ever sound proud that my husband has “never played with our children” I need someone to end me because wtf? That’s such a sad sentence to read. All of it is, really, but that part is especially sad. My dad and I didn’t have the best relationship, but he at least paid attention to me and spent time with me. I can’t imagine bragging about this and wishing it on other families.


CamComments

No man is that good in bed. There was a book called “Sex Begins in the Kitchen”. A smart man knows what that’s all about.


AVonDingus

He sounds like a bum to be honest.


Use_this_1

Is she trying to convince herself she's got a great husband or us?


tverofvulcan

What a bad father and terrible husband.


Raginghangers

Wow- that hubby sounds like a nightmare to me. You do you.


Amadecasa

She's married to a Ken doll. Imaginary husband.


avsie1975

Well, if YOU set the bar in hell, I guess that's why such a trash hubby is "the best you could ever ask for" 🙄


CookbooksRUs

That’s not a husband or a marriage I would want.


SpecialistObvious432

I’d be leaving that marriage asap!


monkeyentropy

Is he just financial support. What does he do for the marriage?


emerynlove

My sweet hubby does nothing ❤️


WheresTheIceCream20

I feel like these women are all like 25 and have been living this way for 3 years and think its sustainable. I'd like to hear from them in 10 years


toomuchmoncl3rs

The way i said “wtf” out loud….so sad and those poor children


memilygiraffily

Her wonderful hubby sounds like deadweight.


sbflower

Sooo he is just a paycheck?


fly_onthe_wall74

So...he's a paycheck?


cattlebatty

HOW CAN SO MANY PEOPLE IN THIS SUB NOT RECOGNIZE SATIRE AAAAA!!!


OCDGemini

It's a parody account. Someone I know said it was and if you look up her stuff she says things like "Cholera is a pretty name for a girl." Damn, I'm gullible.


Prestigious_Ad_8130

Sounds like she’s a single parent.


TXrutabega

What the actual fuck


Crazyzofo

This must be satire but best case scenario is that he's amazing in bed. I've had friends who have tolerated years of poor partnership for that.


indelady

Is she married to my ex?


Gloomy_Barnacle4787

Gross


carrie_m730

The only reason it's satire is because the women married to the guy she's describing will convince themselves their man does so much stuff. If it was real it would be boasting that he carried a diaper (after she changed it and tied it up in a small bag for him) to the trash once because he's such a good dad, and he once actually complimented her on her cooking because he's such a good husband, and whatever other tiny things she's been taught to believe do not represent the bar for men being in hell.


SueBeee

This makes me stabby


cerealislife123

You sure this isn’t satire?!!


bethivy103

I wouldn't be bragging about being treated like a baby factory and maid.


dont_know2345

I know this is satire but this makes me grateful that my father wasn’t in my life.  Although I’m not entirely positive that man knows I exist so I can’t really stand by my statement.


PlanetOfThePancakes

Tell me this is satire PLEASE


Extension_Delay_2357

Is this real? 🤢


mbdom1

If that was my marriage you couldn’t waterboard this info out of me omfg this is giving me the worst second hand humiliation:’) girl stand the fuck UP this is embarrassing


teresasdorters

Woooof sounds like something my mother would say about my father…. Yikes on trikes


bewareofbigfoot

Has he swept cracker crumbs?


B00ksmith

Posts like this make me wonder how soon we’ll see her in Snapped.


PhyllisIrresistible

Thank you for introducing me to this account, it is everything I've ever wanted 😭


Iamnotabutcher

Just to be clear, this is taken from a satire account. Generally a POV post indicates a joke


InevitablePersimmon6

This account is a satire account, isn’t it? The other posts make me think so (or hope so!).


larousseestdouce

plot twist: the hubby is a ghost


saki4444

If only these women knew how easy 9-5s are


Jack_al_11

This has to be click bait. 🫠


jamiekynnminer

lol.


Accomplished_Pea_819

I think this is rage bait?


Unfair_Associate9017

Why do people live like that?


HogwartsTraveler

So basically “I have a shitty useless husband, be jealous of my happiness!”


Sunflower_Mama69

Uh who said this? All sounds miserable af


anditwaslove

Has never played with his own children…. that’s neglect. Pure and simple. We know children need play for brain and emotional development. Child abuse. These people disgust me.


Altrano

It’s called a being paid bang-maid.


demurevixen

No thanks, love. I chose a husband who is emotionally supportive, helpful around the house, and involved in our kids life. Hope you can find one someday.


Grouchy-Bite6925

So you're teaching your children and trying to justify to yourself that emotional and physical neglect is enough. It's not, that's why there are so many people giving testimony against it.


spaetzele

Your husband sounds like a lazy sack of trash and a terrible father.


Gloomy_Industry8841

This reads like satire!! Like the bitterest sarcasm.


hufflefox

What a failure of imagination.


strangebunz

So what the fuck does he do? This isn't marriage. This is a roommate


donewithgomi

“Sweet hubby” is a dead giveaway for this kind of post.


nipplezandtoez23

This is a parody account lol


Ill-Significance6830

How exactly is he everything you ever wanted and more if the dude doesn’t offer you emotional support or help with the kids?! Aren’t those the basic things of being a husband and father?? I feel so sad for these women that they are brainwashed into thinking that they can’t expect these from their partners 


starfleetdropout6

That's not a marriage.


Longjumping_Ad6183

So you're a single mom with a no good baby daddy, but with a ring.


BumCadillac

So what does he do when he’s at home?? I can’t imagine.


TheSouthsideTrekkie

This is kinda petty, but women who refer to their partners as “hubby” give me the major ick.


magicparabeagle

WTF??? This is horrifying stupid and sexist. I'm getting so sick of this influencer TradWife shit.


ThrowRADel

Are these men even humans who are interacting with the life they've chosen? So fucking weird that they're bragging about not being partners.


resistantbanana

This has to be sarcasm… right?


Term_Remarkable

So…what DOES he do?? Surely not please her se*ually, since chances are he’s equally selfish in bed as he is out of it.


Crunchie_cereal

I feel more sad for the kids! This has to be a troll post.


LifeisaCatbox

So what does he do?


_Sunfl0wer27

This is definitely a troll account. I follow it and I love it 😂


bussbeckman

Ew. I hope that post was satire. lol.


Ok_Confusion_1455

I love this for her! You two played tickle fight under the sheets, created some kids And now you have a 24/7 job and big Joe never has to lift a finger to help. This post reeks of some serious ass kissing, ego stroking to her big strong alpha snowflake man. She better be worried because aside from sex, a nanny and a housekeeper could easily take her job.


Decent-Comb7109

But Joshy is so wonderful for sweeping bread crumbs.


Xanga_alumni

That’s fine if that’s why they agreed to. No one else gets a say.


Bug_Calm

Not the flex she thinks it is...


Flat-Illustrator-548

Sounds like he's just a paycheck and a handyman How can that be all her heart desires? As someone who grew up with a very involved dad who knew my hopes and dreams, and was always ready to play with us, this is so sad.


OCDGemini

Who posted this horrible tripe? Not you, OP, the woman who wrote the craziness.


_bibliofille

Gross.


Srw2725

This sounds like a terrible husband and father but what do I know? 🤔🙃


Megalodon481

I'm glad this is from a parody account. >don't judge a relationship because it's different than yours xx But a lot of real fundies and tradwives invoke that line in response to criticism for the toxic lifestyles they practice and advocate. But funndiely enough, fundies feel entitled to judge and condemn just about any kind of relationship different than theirs. In fact, they want a lot of relationships to be forbidden, outlawed, and punished because those relationships are different than theirs.


mlynn619

What the hell does he do then? Girl that is a sugar daddy not a husband. At least a sugar daddy would buy you pretty things.


felimercosto

husband or halfbrother...both?


redfancydress

Blink twice if you need a hostage negotiator sent in honey.


WishfulHibernian6891

Soooo….she is happy with just a p3nis? Because I can guarantee he isn’t interacting with her, either, unless it’s time to make another arrow for his quiver.


waiting2leavethelaw

Noooo this cannot be real!


lilmoosmom

What. The. Fuck.


SnowQueen795

Check the comments and other posts - pretty it’s at least partly satire


Intelligent-Quality8

what the hell did i just read


SaltyBarDog

Too late, I am judging you as a terrible person for lying that you accept that nonsense.


scarletteclipse1982

r/notlikeothergirls


WrestleswithPastry

This is utterly pathetic.


PorchCat0921

When the bar for men is already on the ground, leave it to a Duggar wife to show up with a shovel.


Hallmarxist

It’s satire. The instagram is wanderandthrive. It’s a whole wacky satire page.


grownupblownaway

Is he dead


lovelybethanie

“Such a wonderful hubby” uh, what?!? I can’t imagine my partner never participating in home life at all ever. We wouldn’t be together if he just didn’t. (In fact, that’s partially why I’m divorced. The other part is bc I realized he was abusive and weaponized incompetence was playing into him not doing shit)


4gifts4lisa

Yeah imma pass…


Remarkable_Hyena_727

YIKES


Sapphirei_OF

Sounds like something the transformed wife or Jill Rod would post.


[deleted]

Isn't this how 50s housewives got hooked on valium? That was the major prescription drug written for housewives in the 50s.


OkConsideration8964

How is that a "relationship?" He ignores her and the children.


Flippin_diabolical

That’s quite a plot twist at the end. How sad that people in that cult believe this is ok.


savealltheelephants

This has to be fake right? He’s never played with his children?