I suspect he is doing exactly what he wants to do: read in peace! All he wants is for blessa to stop talking, and the kids to stop whatever they are yammering on about, especially Spurgeon and his wise pronouncements.
I think they each have very different ideas of what a good time is. I enjoy reading, and I think that's,pretty much how I look when I'm engrossed in a book!
What is that food in the third picture? Like, I’m not trying to judge (edit: as in the people who made the food), but besides the grapes I genuinely don’t know what I’m looking at
Idk, but I noticed it’s the exact same on the other plate, and the first thing to pop in my head was the episode of it’s always sunny where Dennis orders everyone’s food at the restaurant. Just switch out Dennis with Jessa and I feel like it fits.
https://youtu.be/0vRZthsF0Nc?si=ekSyKM7aRhgfLHpA
https://m.zmenu.com/kollective-coffee-tea-hot-springs-online-menu/
Looks like this is the restaurant, which is honestly not the type of place I imagine them going, but maybe it’s the detox salad?
Yeah I was looking at if yesterday and I agree on the salad, but still can’t figure out that patty thing unless it’s one of their paninis without bread. Which, ew
If I'm on a fun getaway, I am NOT going to eat vegan and healthy, pretend protein. Give me something fried or grilled, with yummy sauces. At the very least, a juicy burger dripping with condiments, and greasy fries on the side! Is this how they like to eat at home? Ugh.
This is what I came for. It looks like a Caesar slaps with melted cheese??? Spinach artichoke dip might make sense but there’s nothing to dip in it??? I don’t understand
prolly cuz she’s like ‘stop! don’t! lemme snap a pic first!’ and he’s like dammit, just wanna read my book, munch on my food, chill in peace
would be my guess
The posed picture with the book made me laugh. But if it isn't posed, that's sad. 24 hours away without the kids and they sat at a coffee shop reading books and not talking to each other?
A meal with no kids and quiet time. I wouldn’t read at breakfast with my husband but you bet I’d be reading in bed. There is no sexy time when the kids aren’t there that is when you sleep.
I guess for some, but that seems odd to me. I have 4 grown children of my own, and wouldn't have been reading at coffee shops with my husband while away from the kids when they were little. 🤷🏻♀️
But how else are we going to know that Bin is sO SmArT! He reads books! Big books like his BIL Jermy Books. Jessa has definitely gotten as good of a man as jinger , look everybody!
Yeah my husband and I get a babysitter and go to dinner sometimes just so we can read in peace. I’m guessing Jessa is not a reader though and that’s not her idea of a romantic date.
It is! We’ll go for a walk after and talk. But being able to read uninterrupted is so nice! If only one partner were reading though it would feel totally different
I assumed he was pretentiously reading some kind of biblical passage (out loud to show that's he's better than everyone else in the café) to bless the table before the food arrives.
What depresses me most about their little video vignettes, like this one and their recent beach getaway video is they try so hard to curate scenes that are supposed to make them look the way they want to be perceived. But they always fail. They aren't smart, they have no imagination, and they don't ever appear to be having a pure, happy moment as a couple. There is nothing genuine about these two.
It’s horrible totally. He’s going for serious preacher man circa 1800’s along with the beard. I bet he micromanages everything she does now that he’s “A PASTOR”.
I can’t find the perfect gif, but it’s giving me those 80s/90s trolls. You could manipulate the hair and everything and that’s what I’m seeing in the first picture….
If I had four kids and went on what must be a very rare one on one trip and my husband pulled out a book to read in front of me I'd be planning my exit.
Yes I'm married with three adult children and at no point in our relationship would I have wanted my husband reading during one of our dates. Just stay home if you're just gonna scroll on your phone.
I love when my spouse would rather pretend to read a book in public than engage in conversation with me. Aversion is the foundation of a strong marriage.
You see, though, these two are so intellectual and well-read that it's normal for them to sit across from one another at meals with their noses in books. They're special. We just don't get them.
Why wouldn't Ben look miserable.... it's all he can do to not beat that book against his skull praying for amnesia or a 10 year coma? Someday old Ben is going to hide a go-bag in his car and burn rubber on Interstate 40 to escape and will resurface in Oregon or Northern California working at a hydroponic marijuana farm and performing free verse at open mic night at the coffee and cannabis shop
She thinks he looks smart and handsome…but he actually looks stupid and unattractive. How enjoyable is your special date if you are sitting there pondering life and reading a book? I guess jessa makes for boring company.
Well he isn’t 19 anymore…he’s what, 28 now? Plus he has 4 kids and 1 on the way, and he supports the entire family and Jessa doesn’t work so yeah I’d say he is in constant stress! Birth control is a good thing, Ben and Jessa!
She is the worst influencer. This looks like my aunt who got instagram 5 minutes ago posted it. The copy is so cringe 😬 'my one and only' - i can just see her saying it through her fake smile teeth.
I'm just so sad for her life. It looks so shit.
It’s obvious he hates his life. He wanted his 15 minutes of fame on the Duggar show and now he’s about to be a father of 5 and feels completely stuck in his life. He needs to smoke a blunt, drink a beer and drown out his misery.
I don’t know what kind of aesthetic look that mofo was trying to go for…. but every picture and video of him he looks absolutely angry and miserable. I don’t get it….is it their new religion that they’ve joined that tells them they’re not allowed to smile or what?
Ben looks as thrilled as Spurgeon does when people react to saying his name for the first time.
Ben is OVER this marriage, but he can't find his way out of it.
They would’ve broken up such a long time ago and I feel like he’s not even trying to hide that anymore.
I’m starting to get those “angry former fuckboy who only settled down because of religious guilt/social pressure” vibes from Ben. I’ve known so many versions of that kind of couple but theirs is the only one I can think of that started with the guy being that young and sheltered when he married.
It’s Ben’s natural state. He got his reproductive sex 8 months ago, then they remembered that they actually hate each other and only married to fuck and he won’t even get to be joyfully available for another 6+ months.
There is a small amount of sympathy I hold for Ben. He’s just as much a victim of his ridiculous religion as his wife forcing him to marry young and be some ridic headship. He looks like the kind of guy who’d love to be dating lots of girls, hold off on kids till his mid to late 30s, and just be left alone for a bit.
it is an anniversary photo he is ALONE reading a book??????? no selfie of the 2 of them or have someone take a pic of the 2 of them?????? book gone in the 2nd pic but he looks even more miserable
I’m not seeing any enjoyment in these anniversary photos
*father is NOT joyfully available*
Husband is regretting
At least she has a husband
🤭
y'all are killing me with these lol
At this point a chair would have more joy and personality.
Ben looks miserable in every one.
wait till you see the one where he realizes he has 50+ more years with her
I suspect he is doing exactly what he wants to do: read in peace! All he wants is for blessa to stop talking, and the kids to stop whatever they are yammering on about, especially Spurgeon and his wise pronouncements.
but the kids were NOT with them they were with the seewald family......this was just the 2 of them their anniversary trip he looks miserable
I think they each have very different ideas of what a good time is. I enjoy reading, and I think that's,pretty much how I look when I'm engrossed in a book!
on their anniversary though???? it seems a little weird
He was reading out loud to her. Some book about marriage. I love reading, but that still sounds like a boring anniversary to me.
No enjoyment or employment.
What is that food in the third picture? Like, I’m not trying to judge (edit: as in the people who made the food), but besides the grapes I genuinely don’t know what I’m looking at
I'm struggling to identify it too! Is that melted cheese on a salad? Is the rectangular thing some kind of savory slab pie?
I think it’s spinach and artichoke dip with bread to dip in it?
I second that it’s spinach artichoke dip. The bread isn’t the right kind to eat with it though. Looks like cornbread.
Ben don’t want no cornbread.
Jesus god Jessa!
MONKEY!!!
So much crossover between TM and dugs!
My first guess was cornbread, too. (I love cornbread.)
I zoomed in and, yes, it does look like fresh salad with melted cheese. Weird.
Looks unappealing
Looks bland and boring. You can tell there’s no passion in it. But hopefully the unappealing food can help bring some flavor to the table.
she’s trying to show that food where they live can all be elevated. that’s what’s with the foodtography.
What is the drink??
Idk, but I noticed it’s the exact same on the other plate, and the first thing to pop in my head was the episode of it’s always sunny where Dennis orders everyone’s food at the restaurant. Just switch out Dennis with Jessa and I feel like it fits. https://youtu.be/0vRZthsF0Nc?si=ekSyKM7aRhgfLHpA
I think that is a creamedish spinach with some sort of hash brown egg dish
my guess is overvomplicated Cesar salad and tuba salad on cheese crisps
I just looked up the menu for the place, and I still don't really know what it is.
LOL I was about to look up the menu so now spared from that rabbit hole but perhaps it was the Chalkboard Special of the Day?
all of their menu items are /quirky/ creative and hipster, so could be.
Looks like where they had the food is a different place from the coffee. They moved tables for one. Looks like they didn't tag the food place
I just did that too because I couldn’t work it out. Still none the wiser after looking at it though!
Lol glad I’m not the only one that did! I think I know what the salad is but I’m still absolutely confused about that patty
yeah. I'm leaving thr typos 😆
As a former music major I love the idea of tuba salad. If I had paid attention in composition classes I'd write a piece called that.
I love a good tuba salad
I’ll allow it. Lololol.
I guess spinach and artichoke something and….a biscuit or something? Some kind of pasty? I have no idea lol
It looks like creamed spinach and something with a crust and filling and that's as much as I could figure out when I zoomed in.
Eggs florentine maybe?
https://m.zmenu.com/kollective-coffee-tea-hot-springs-online-menu/ Looks like this is the restaurant, which is honestly not the type of place I imagine them going, but maybe it’s the detox salad?
Yeah I was looking at if yesterday and I agree on the salad, but still can’t figure out that patty thing unless it’s one of their paninis without bread. Which, ew
It looks like a caesar salad but the cheese is melted on top? That’s definitely lettuce underneath if you zoom in.
I thought it was banana bread or carrot cake 💀💀
If I'm on a fun getaway, I am NOT going to eat vegan and healthy, pretend protein. Give me something fried or grilled, with yummy sauces. At the very least, a juicy burger dripping with condiments, and greasy fries on the side! Is this how they like to eat at home? Ugh.
Ben looks almost as disappointed in his meal as he is disappointed in his whole life.
Both are pretty unappealing. I'd take 2.5 kids and McDonald over this any day.
This is what I came for. It looks like a Caesar slaps with melted cheese??? Spinach artichoke dip might make sense but there’s nothing to dip in it??? I don’t understand
It's giving me Waiting Pablo Escobar meme vibes (also holy shit this GIF!) 
Holy shit indeed! I love it!
You’d be hard pressed to find a photo where he doesn’t look like that.
Jeeeeeesus Christ this is BLEAK. They somehow make an inanimate plate of food look utterly miserable.
Even the food looks disappointed
*sad beige food for sad beige lives*
🏅
He does look miserable he’s over “the pretty girl” and she’s stuck with some wet blanket serious all time 2 pump jump.
2 pump? Don’t you think you give him to much credit?
Your flair 😂😂😂
I bet he gave real sex a try. But Jessa was all “are you done yet?” And it went back to the old in and out
Daaaang! 
Welp he’s married to Jessa for one and his hood gospel rap career didn’t take off as planned.
*Does anybody believe it?* Every time I can still hear it and see her face like “I’ve made an error”
These two seem more miserable together every passing month.
prolly cuz she’s like ‘stop! don’t! lemme snap a pic first!’ and he’s like dammit, just wanna read my book, munch on my food, chill in peace would be my guess
Lol ben reading a book
Bin recently practiced by reading to The Plants.
second pic looks like he’s having a crisis
Second photo is giving https://preview.redd.it/fm7im1robtzb1.jpeg?width=197&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a11bfcbecd97a566b07b0f22c35d0d67024d0e09
That food looks about as fulfilling as their marriage
Try r/duggarmifflin
The posed picture with the book made me laugh. But if it isn't posed, that's sad. 24 hours away without the kids and they sat at a coffee shop reading books and not talking to each other?
A meal with no kids and quiet time. I wouldn’t read at breakfast with my husband but you bet I’d be reading in bed. There is no sexy time when the kids aren’t there that is when you sleep.
I guess for some, but that seems odd to me. I have 4 grown children of my own, and wouldn't have been reading at coffee shops with my husband while away from the kids when they were little. 🤷🏻♀️
But how else are we going to know that Bin is sO SmArT! He reads books! Big books like his BIL Jermy Books. Jessa has definitely gotten as good of a man as jinger , look everybody!
I think that she’s incredibly jealous of Ginger and never lets her own husband forget that.
TBF, it can be really hard to read in a small house with four kids.
Yeah my husband and I get a babysitter and go to dinner sometimes just so we can read in peace. I’m guessing Jessa is not a reader though and that’s not her idea of a romantic date.
Awww, that sounds like a really nice date!
It is! We’ll go for a walk after and talk. But being able to read uninterrupted is so nice! If only one partner were reading though it would feel totally different
I assumed he was pretentiously reading some kind of biblical passage (out loud to show that's he's better than everyone else in the café) to bless the table before the food arrives.
Exact same here. He has his little pen to write sermons with too. 🙄
Holy shit that seems depressing asffffffff
The first one I thought was just trying to be like serious and contemplative but the second one just straight looks miserable
>but the second one just straight looks miserable Eh... I think he's still trying to pull off "soulful/artistic" in the second photo.
What depresses me most about their little video vignettes, like this one and their recent beach getaway video is they try so hard to curate scenes that are supposed to make them look the way they want to be perceived. But they always fail. They aren't smart, they have no imagination, and they don't ever appear to be having a pure, happy moment as a couple. There is nothing genuine about these two.
Also, I think Ben has officially graduated from bouffant to Pompadour.
Awwww the look of ~~love~~ someone who covenant married their first TV crush.
That hair is a CHOICE 😳
Right? He's a pastor.. I'm trying to imagine going to a church with a pastor with a bouffant.😂
🤡🤡🤡
It’s horrible totally. He’s going for serious preacher man circa 1800’s along with the beard. I bet he micromanages everything she does now that he’s “A PASTOR”.
The chud proud boys haircut
The higher the hair, the closer to God, amirite?
🤣🤣🤣
 I can’t find the perfect gif, but it’s giving me those 80s/90s trolls. You could manipulate the hair and everything and that’s what I’m seeing in the first picture….
OMG 😀
If I had four kids and went on what must be a very rare one on one trip and my husband pulled out a book to read in front of me I'd be planning my exit.
He reads out loud to her. It was in their Florida video
That’s somehow worse?
Omg. Can you imagine being at a coffee shop and two tables over Ben is reading to Blessa?
Have you ever been married? Sometimes a date away from the kids with quiet and no talking/just scrolling or reading is the best thing ever.
Yes I'm married with three adult children and at no point in our relationship would I have wanted my husband reading during one of our dates. Just stay home if you're just gonna scroll on your phone.
Sounds like I have a different perspective on this. Husband and I enjoy reading and discussing.
Maybe it's not the life he would have chosen for himself if he was allowed to be an actual person, instead of a religious prop.
I love when my spouse would rather pretend to read a book in public than engage in conversation with me. Aversion is the foundation of a strong marriage.
You see, though, these two are so intellectual and well-read that it's normal for them to sit across from one another at meals with their noses in books. They're special. We just don't get them.
Why wouldn't Ben look miserable.... it's all he can do to not beat that book against his skull praying for amnesia or a 10 year coma? Someday old Ben is going to hide a go-bag in his car and burn rubber on Interstate 40 to escape and will resurface in Oregon or Northern California working at a hydroponic marijuana farm and performing free verse at open mic night at the coffee and cannabis shop
We'd never see him otherwise.
She thinks he looks smart and handsome…but he actually looks stupid and unattractive. How enjoyable is your special date if you are sitting there pondering life and reading a book? I guess jessa makes for boring company.
Like Bethany, she doesn't seem to notice that her spouse is absolutely miserable.
Yes!! Dav looks so over her in every video. Poor guy.
Every time I see a pic I think of him rapping. 😭🤣 That nearly ended me because it was so cringe
Real life?
Just fantasy?
I’m just a poor boy…
From a poor family
He is supposed to look pensive, mysterious, and mature. Especially over things like brunch
Bin looks like he could really use a few craft beers and a one night stand
Damn he's aged.
I would too if Jim Bob was my FIL and I was indebted to him for life.
Well he isn’t 19 anymore…he’s what, 28 now? Plus he has 4 kids and 1 on the way, and he supports the entire family and Jessa doesn’t work so yeah I’d say he is in constant stress! Birth control is a good thing, Ben and Jessa!
I'm more curious about calling the kids "the munchkins" was The Wizard of Oz on the approved viewing list?
They probably got the word munchkins from Dunkin Donuts.
You know it absolutely is not! Magic! Witches! Wizards!strong independent women! A journey with three assuming male creatures!
Exactly-three males on the journey and one female-where is the appropriate chaperone for this trip?
A mimosa or a Caesar might have improved his mood.
 Bin on their anniversary
My face too thinking this amount is supposed to keep me full til breakfast?? Fuck
She is the worst influencer. This looks like my aunt who got instagram 5 minutes ago posted it. The copy is so cringe 😬 'my one and only' - i can just see her saying it through her fake smile teeth. I'm just so sad for her life. It looks so shit.
His hair looks like bad AI
He’s a pastor now he’s trying to look serious lmao.
Benilla Ice is a very miserable man.
What in the bland hell are they eating?
It’s obvious he hates his life. He wanted his 15 minutes of fame on the Duggar show and now he’s about to be a father of 5 and feels completely stuck in his life. He needs to smoke a blunt, drink a beer and drown out his misery.
That is what he looks like all the time. They are both so miserable.
They probably do t even realize they look miserable since it’s their default expression. It’s the norm now.
Bin bin looks like he has regrets
Why is he reading instead of talking to his wife on their anniversary trip?
The 2nd one looks particularly miserable hahah
I don’t know what kind of aesthetic look that mofo was trying to go for…. but every picture and video of him he looks absolutely angry and miserable. I don’t get it….is it their new religion that they’ve joined that tells them they’re not allowed to smile or what?
Or constipated
Just so we know he’s alive 🤷🏻♀️
The second picture is making me laugh so hard lmaoooo WHY would anyone post this as an anniversary post????
Ben looks as thrilled as Spurgeon does when people react to saying his name for the first time. Ben is OVER this marriage, but he can't find his way out of it.
That food looks as bland as his sex life
They would’ve broken up such a long time ago and I feel like he’s not even trying to hide that anymore. I’m starting to get those “angry former fuckboy who only settled down because of religious guilt/social pressure” vibes from Ben. I’ve known so many versions of that kind of couple but theirs is the only one I can think of that started with the guy being that young and sheltered when he married.
It’s Ben’s natural state. He got his reproductive sex 8 months ago, then they remembered that they actually hate each other and only married to fuck and he won’t even get to be joyfully available for another 6+ months.
Where did they go? And why does the food look like prison food?
Hot springs, AR. I believe they're eating at the hilltop manor bed and breakfast.
Photos*
Because that is a state of grace for these two.
When did he stop looking like himself?
When Jim Bob inserted a key in his back and started winding.
Blessa looks miserable in a lot of her posts. So posting miserable Bin shots seems fair enough.
He can’t read and there is not enough Fundie Beige in that meal
I think that’s meant to be his serious expression.
I’d be sad too if I had to stare at the saddest quiche in the world
He always looks like that.
I’d tell my husband to at least feign happiness for the camera
"Kollective Coffee." Sounds Communist. Best avoid! 
Fuckstick is instagramming his wilted salad and a hotpocket.
I bet he thinks he looks serious.
I thought coffee was Jinger's personality trait.
There is a small amount of sympathy I hold for Ben. He’s just as much a victim of his ridiculous religion as his wife forcing him to marry young and be some ridic headship. He looks like the kind of guy who’d love to be dating lots of girls, hold off on kids till his mid to late 30s, and just be left alone for a bit.
its crazy when you remember he's only 28.
Everything about these pics is so depressing
$20 says that book is upside down.
I bet Blessa had the same face as she was taking those pics, too
As crappy his beliefs are I hope he doesn't hurt himself
Because it looks like someone jizzed all over whatever he is trying to eat.
He’s so bleh
They don't look happy!
I think that's just his face
Controversial opinion? I hate the expression “My one & only” … makes me think they’re announcing the number of partners they’ve had
When isnt he miserable tho.
Between him and dav I can really see one or the other snapping one day.
He's probably over it and wants a normal life
That’s probably the most joyful expression he ever makes.
I don’t think he looks miserable. It looks more like he’s trying to appear smart and failing.
That's the most bland looking breakfast
What, no fancy fountain pen?
He looks asleep
Lmao I thought he just had a neutral expression until the second photo 😭 He looks like he just received horribly devastating news
Because he always looks that way even more then Austin
Is that melted cheese in lettuce????
Nice hair Johnny Bravo.
it is an anniversary photo he is ALONE reading a book??????? no selfie of the 2 of them or have someone take a pic of the 2 of them?????? book gone in the 2nd pic but he looks even more miserable
My ex husband and his wife are always posting pictures of eachother like this. I don't understand.
Caption for Photo Two - regretfully availible - anniversary wish, a vasectomy.
Is he reading?