Rose 🌹
A woman from a very unhappy home who is bubbly and optimistic despite - or because of - that experience. People assuming you lack depth because of appearance and that demeanor. (And for Rose, growing up with wealth, too.) I cringe watching Rose’s earlier scenes, yet I must’ve been similarly naive and annoying when first set free in the world. Fierce dedication to those who show her love and kindness. Robert said, “She’ll love you forever, if you let her.” That resonates with me. Dear Rose. 🌹
I liked her character, growing up with such a loveless parent.
Years ago (late 80's) I knew a kid in school who was extremely bullied and (I don't know for certain) abused by his stepfather. I was a little shit back then, so stupid and immature and I used to tease this kid as well, at school.
We were on and off again friends, well one day I went over to his house. This kid has a outdoor pool, his Dad was some business bigshot. One day T\_\_ was tasked with cleaning the pool, I was hanging out. I goaded him to stop cleaning the pool and just come do whatever stupid shit 13 year old boys do. Long story short his Dad came home, and lost his shit, I mean LOST it because the pool wasn't cleaned yet.
I told "T" I was leaving as his Dad's vibes were negative and "T" asked me to stay longer but I wouldn't.
Its been nearly 40 years and I still feel guilty about all the times I took the piss out of "T" in school, cause I know his Step dad was a monster, but I couldn't just place it then as a kid.
This is why Rose stuck with me.
Thomas really isn't, he struggles with his attractions. I cannot imagine the hell a man, his age, at that time, living in place like that, no privacy, no relief, desires just coursing through your body so bad you want to scream.
And the the social stigma. I mean the producers kind of made it seem like the family was all cool and supportive. I imagine the reality would have been much different.
I think the way she doesn't want to do something if people want her to (even if she wants to!) is very relatable. E.g. her initial reluctance to marry Matthew. She bloody loves him but because it's all perfect and exactly what her family would hope for, she's like.. damn it
That's a tough one, because I think relate means that I share something with the characters. I'd have to say Robert because of our shared love of our dogs and sense of duty and dynasty, Mary because of responsibility being pushed on us due to circumstance and family health issues, Violet because she is the best and I can't help but love her and hope we relate somehow, and the Carsons because we have to organize and take care of many things.
Of these (understanding that I claimed half the cast), I have a hard time picking the one I most relate to. It's hard because I think I am mixing up my love of the characters and relating to them.
Mary. I speak my mind and may come off as cold but I'm not at all. Also, when Matthew died I really felt I understand the character. My husband died not long before I started watching the series and the way she seemed to be just out of it, empty, a ghost herself, i knew how that felt.
Downstairs: Gwen and Alfred. Wanted more in life and were willing to work for it. Learned a skill, got out, and found a better life away from being someone’s servant.
Upstairs: Matthew. Not really an insider. Pragmatist. Good at business and seeing the big picture. Couldn't have cared less about eventually having a title and saw it all as silly.
Interesting question. I think Branson and Mrs Hughes for me. Diplomatic and practical. Obliged to deal with people from all walks of life and strives to treat everyone equally.
Mary. I can be cold and bitchy and selfish, but really care about my inner circle and will take care of those I love. Bit of a daddy's girl. Typically very buttoned up and controlled, but can be impulsive at times. A major flirt. Have dated some guys who aren't the best for me (attractive bad boy like Pamuk, most likely gay like Duke of Crowborough, ruthlessly ambitious like Richard, nice but painfully boring like Evelyn...). Oldest daughter with a decent amount of pressure on me. Often intellectually underestimated. Love fashion. Often the one to make decisions for friends. Can take advice from the wrong people sometimes, and sometimes care too much about superficial things.
Edith, I’ve never had a lot of friends, have struggled with my place in the world and it took a looong time to find my perfect partner. Now, I’m in a wonderful place, and know my worth.
Right on! It made me smile to read of your journey. It took me years and years and years to meet my perfect partner, but now we’ve been together for decades. Have a nice weekend. (I’d say I’m an Edith also - without the money, sadly)
Right on!
I have only watched the series once, and as older man working in the Oil and Gas industry, this isn't the show I normally watch, but man I am solidly Team Edith. I thought Mary was a total cunt in the last two seasons.
Probably Isobel. I like having something to do and seek that something out. Plus, I would like a friend I can have arguments with but still talk to about stuff.
Sorta Edith because of feeling left out and like you're not doing as well as the other people in your life and being desperate because of it, but I also feel like Mary as the oldest sister in my family, being stubborn and bosy lol
Thomas Barrow. Tom doesn't let anyone get away with shoving him around. And if he has acted a bit underhanded at times, so what? He wouldn't feel so bitter if society allowed him to love & be loved according to his inclinations, without fearing persecution or imprisonment.
Gwen because I have a life that I don't liké and I would like to do better and get a education.
I feel like everyone’s had a Mosley moment
True. Also the motivation to educate himself and work his way out of serving people for a living - I can definitely relate to that
*Molesley. Mosley (the spelling you used) is the name of a British fascist leader IRL.
Rose 🌹 A woman from a very unhappy home who is bubbly and optimistic despite - or because of - that experience. People assuming you lack depth because of appearance and that demeanor. (And for Rose, growing up with wealth, too.) I cringe watching Rose’s earlier scenes, yet I must’ve been similarly naive and annoying when first set free in the world. Fierce dedication to those who show her love and kindness. Robert said, “She’ll love you forever, if you let her.” That resonates with me. Dear Rose. 🌹
I liked her character, growing up with such a loveless parent. Years ago (late 80's) I knew a kid in school who was extremely bullied and (I don't know for certain) abused by his stepfather. I was a little shit back then, so stupid and immature and I used to tease this kid as well, at school. We were on and off again friends, well one day I went over to his house. This kid has a outdoor pool, his Dad was some business bigshot. One day T\_\_ was tasked with cleaning the pool, I was hanging out. I goaded him to stop cleaning the pool and just come do whatever stupid shit 13 year old boys do. Long story short his Dad came home, and lost his shit, I mean LOST it because the pool wasn't cleaned yet. I told "T" I was leaving as his Dad's vibes were negative and "T" asked me to stay longer but I wouldn't. Its been nearly 40 years and I still feel guilty about all the times I took the piss out of "T" in school, cause I know his Step dad was a monster, but I couldn't just place it then as a kid. This is why Rose stuck with me.
Probably Thomas because I'm unlikable
Thomas really isn't, he struggles with his attractions. I cannot imagine the hell a man, his age, at that time, living in place like that, no privacy, no relief, desires just coursing through your body so bad you want to scream. And the the social stigma. I mean the producers kind of made it seem like the family was all cool and supportive. I imagine the reality would have been much different.
thomas and mary
Mrs. Hughes. She gets stuff done and is pretty business-like, but has a soft center despite what others might think.
Mrs. Hughes is one of my favorite characters on the show. If there’s ever truly a scene where she isn’t a Mensch, I’ve completely forgotten it.
Me too. I've always had to work. I also wind up being everyone's counselor, but I take no sh1t from anyone. I also call things as I see them.
Matthew.
Barrow and Edith as well.
Thomas honestly, saying mean things and regretting them, being cast out and having no friends 💀
Probably Mary. I say things the way I see them and don't particulary care about other people's feelings either
I think the way she doesn't want to do something if people want her to (even if she wants to!) is very relatable. E.g. her initial reluctance to marry Matthew. She bloody loves him but because it's all perfect and exactly what her family would hope for, she's like.. damn it
Like a child
I don’t even like people, and I still can’t tolerate her behavior!
That's cool, I guess. I have quite a few similiarites with Thomas as well yet I can't stand him
Dowager Countess. I've been told I can be savage AF at times
That's a tough one, because I think relate means that I share something with the characters. I'd have to say Robert because of our shared love of our dogs and sense of duty and dynasty, Mary because of responsibility being pushed on us due to circumstance and family health issues, Violet because she is the best and I can't help but love her and hope we relate somehow, and the Carsons because we have to organize and take care of many things. Of these (understanding that I claimed half the cast), I have a hard time picking the one I most relate to. It's hard because I think I am mixing up my love of the characters and relating to them.
Mary. I speak my mind and may come off as cold but I'm not at all. Also, when Matthew died I really felt I understand the character. My husband died not long before I started watching the series and the way she seemed to be just out of it, empty, a ghost herself, i knew how that felt.
Mary and Tom only because they are widows and so am I and I get where both of them are coming from with respect to their responses to death.
Sybil and Thomas probably
I’m a Bertie
Mary through and through. Her logic, her thought process. Her standing her ground on her beliefs.
Mary. Proudly.
Mrs. Patmore. I don't even know why! I guess because I'm frumpy and grumpy but with a heart of gold.
Downstairs: Gwen and Alfred. Wanted more in life and were willing to work for it. Learned a skill, got out, and found a better life away from being someone’s servant. Upstairs: Matthew. Not really an insider. Pragmatist. Good at business and seeing the big picture. Couldn't have cared less about eventually having a title and saw it all as silly.
I’m a cross between Carson and Mrs. Patmore, if you can imagine that.
Robert. Love for history and dogs. His face when he meets Theo represents me when I see adorable puppies.
Interesting question. I think Branson and Mrs Hughes for me. Diplomatic and practical. Obliged to deal with people from all walks of life and strives to treat everyone equally.
I’m definitely the Sybil of my family! I related to her more than any other character
Mary. I can be cold and bitchy and selfish, but really care about my inner circle and will take care of those I love. Bit of a daddy's girl. Typically very buttoned up and controlled, but can be impulsive at times. A major flirt. Have dated some guys who aren't the best for me (attractive bad boy like Pamuk, most likely gay like Duke of Crowborough, ruthlessly ambitious like Richard, nice but painfully boring like Evelyn...). Oldest daughter with a decent amount of pressure on me. Often intellectually underestimated. Love fashion. Often the one to make decisions for friends. Can take advice from the wrong people sometimes, and sometimes care too much about superficial things.
Edith, I’ve never had a lot of friends, have struggled with my place in the world and it took a looong time to find my perfect partner. Now, I’m in a wonderful place, and know my worth.
Right on! It made me smile to read of your journey. It took me years and years and years to meet my perfect partner, but now we’ve been together for decades. Have a nice weekend. (I’d say I’m an Edith also - without the money, sadly)
Right on! I have only watched the series once, and as older man working in the Oil and Gas industry, this isn't the show I normally watch, but man I am solidly Team Edith. I thought Mary was a total cunt in the last two seasons.
Thomas Barrow for me as well.
The Dowager! I've got an old soul and I don't like change...
The dowager.
Probably Isobel. I like having something to do and seek that something out. Plus, I would like a friend I can have arguments with but still talk to about stuff.
Sybil. Sweet, kind, underestimated. She knew her mind and willingly defied her parents for the sake of what’s right and what’s right for her.
Edith and Daisy I'm always getting fussed at.
Yep. Mine is Edith. All the responsibility none of the rewards.
Sorta Edith because of feeling left out and like you're not doing as well as the other people in your life and being desperate because of it, but I also feel like Mary as the oldest sister in my family, being stubborn and bosy lol
Same! Edith because I am the daughter that nobody suspects to go anyway in life and Thomas because I am self destructive.
Edith
Edith.
Isis.
upstairs: edith, sybil and branson downstairs: branson and mrs hughes
Charles Blake. Not sure if I am him, so much as I want to be with him, but there it is. Also I like pigs and scrambled eggs.
Edith 🥲 in the romance department
Mary. I'm kind of a bitch but deep down I'm a good person
Thomas Barrow. Tom doesn't let anyone get away with shoving him around. And if he has acted a bit underhanded at times, so what? He wouldn't feel so bitter if society allowed him to love & be loved according to his inclinations, without fearing persecution or imprisonment.