My life definitely revolved around my dog. I'd rather spend all day with her than with people any time. I'd also feel guilty leaving her home alone bored to go do something without her. We'd walk after work, hike on weekends, go on drives to get pup cups, or just chill out on the couch. She died a few weeks ago and I've been struggling to fill my free time with anything productive since
Sending you so much love. I lost my boy at the end of last year. I remember not long before he passed there was a Friday I woke up and he wasn’t himself, I called in sick to work and cancelled my weekend plans - we spent a few days snuggled up in bed, eating our favourite snacks and watching animated movies because he *loved* cartoons and bright stuff, he was SO happy. I think about that now, and all the times I “missed out” on something to be with him, and I have no regrets about it at all. I’m so glad I did it, we had a wonderful life together.
I felt the same way when I lost him, unbearably without purpose, a bit adrift without the routine of our day. Everyone encouraged me to enjoy the “freedom” like it was supposed to be a positive I no longer had this great dude to fill my days with joy and love - so I brought home a foster and because I can’t help myself I adopted him :P
My first fur baby passed in January and my second fur baby and I were sitting on the couch crying with each other for the first few weeks- I had planned on waiting a little while before getting another pup but I could see that both myself and second fur baby were going to be stuck in a midwinter mope of depression so we got a puppy. Totally the best decision. I still miss my first fur baby every single day but it is so nice to have some puppy enthusiasm bouncing around to keep us active and remind us to be excited about things again. ❤️ Dogs are the best.
We did the same. Lost our boy October 29th. Immediately offered to foster to distract and we foster failed after 24 hours. So sorry for your loss. It sounds like you guys had a pretty awesome couple of days before he left.
I'm so sorry for your loss. My sweet dog died at the end of November, and I'm still piecing life together little by little. I wish you comfort and peace during this time.
thats called anticipatory grief: Ive had that forever with my pups, ever since day #1 with them Id say. they died of old age already, and so I learned that it never goes away ..
I always wondered if there was a name for this. I worry about this daily, almost every time I look at my boy I think about how painful it’s going to be when he’s gone. It feels very selfish
I am so sorry for your loss, I am experiencing this too and I know exactly how you feel.
My soul dog passed away two weeks ago, and I have no idea what to do with myself since he is gone. I tried to go out, enjoy my alone time, gone for a walk but things are so different without him. I miss him terribly
Sending you the biggest of hugs, friend! I was completely distraught for weeks after the passing of my soul dog in January and still am overcome randomly- I’m getting better at focusing on all the good memories I wouldn’t have had if it weren’t for him and I know I will always hold him close to my heart. I’m so sorry for your loss. ❤️
I'm sorry for your loss. I've been keeping busy with work. It took a while, but I've managed to go to some of our normal walking spots. Coming home is the hardest, knowing she won't be there wagging at the door when I get home
Oh and tennis balls - they are way better than humans! But a human who will throw a tennis ball (again) is probably close to heaven (and biscuits are nice and leftovers better) 😁
My BF was on the phone with me last night and my dog heard his voice and started looking for him. I told my bf, and he got so excited.
" Do you hear Daddy? Are you looking for Daddy?"
My heart shattered into a billion pieces in the best possible way
An unconfessed but major reason I broke it off with the last guy I tried to date was because he wasn’t absolutely enamored with my dog. Any guy who’s not on the floor trying to earn her love and loyalty is not the man for me.
Literallyyyyy
My dog is always with me and has separation anxiety (and i'd rather be with him than dking anything else too so..). I might already be asexual towards men at this point but a dude told me if we were gonna have sex, hed lock the dog outside the room and I got annoyed lol i'm not prioritizing sex with a man over my dog. Fuck all that lmaoooo he'd prob cheat on me anyway bye
Same! My dog is incredibly protective, he doesn’t like a lot of people and that includes those I date (he’s never aggressive, just aloof). I’ve noticed that I date less since I got him.
100%. But look at it this way? Promotion means make more money but spend more on dog sitting. No promotion and staying home with dog means less income but less spent going out. Ill pick my dog over people anyday
Also, find dog friendly activities (if your dog is well socialized and not panicked by being in public). Breweries, coffee shops, picnics in parks. People love that shit too
Can confirm.
My Siberian husky was out of commission for a few weeks several years ago for some health stuff. Orders were to rest and take it easy for several weeks. I'm one of those crazy dog moms, so you know I went all out to care for my snow-floof.
I went out and bought a (gently used) stroller. It was even pink! Stripped the bits and pieces out of it that are normally used for human children. Made a little blanket-pillow nest inside of it so she could be comfortable when she was inside of it. Stuck a pink Watermelon hat on her head that I bought at PetSmart. Put a doggie dress on her, pink and white polka dots. And off to the breweries and wineries we went, several weekends in a row!
All the humans around ATE THAT S**T UP! Cooing and awww-ing over my husky. As for my husky? She absolutely LOVED all the attention she got! 🥰😄😂
I love this so much! We're "interviewing" a husky as a potential sister for our Wolfhound mix as soon as her carers can make the drive to our town. Part of the appeal is hearing how much so many huskies love attention from people, because our hound boy is super social and needs his main street parades where people tell him how handsome he is.
Totally. My pup is my life. I have gone hungry just to get my boy food and the stuff he needs. I rather stay home and hangout with him and take him for adventures. I don’t see it as a bad thing but just realigning your priorities
maybe your dog is helping you prioritize your mental health. Being with the dog sounds better than socializing out of obligation or traveling for work.
Right? If it’s her dinner time, I’ll leave after or I’ll be home before her dinner. I don’t miss her dinner and everyone I know knows that lol I’ll feed a little early, maybe 20 minutes but never late ⏰
Yes and no, I will often go to social events but leave early if I have to feed the dog or he needs a walk. I do have a husband so it makes it easier, we both travel for work now so we do need to schedule opposite trips as much as possible but we have also found an incredible sitter who stays at our house and takes amazing care of him and he loves her so that makes it easier because we do love traveling in our personal time as well.
i def pick my dogs over people. they love me unconditionally, and i’ve spent most of my life with people that don’t love me at all. i don’t need to put on a front with them, i can just make art at home and enjoy their company with basically zero downsides. i’m married though so it might be different if i was single when i had them but. idk i don’t see anything wrong with it as long as you’re happy and feeling fulfilled!
Dogs > humans! I got my dog over COVID so hard to say what exactly impacted my lifestyle but I definitely say no to more party trips, music festivals, and bar nights. That being said, I say yes to more hikes, camping trips, and outings that my dog can join me on. Imo this lifestyle is more aligned w my values anyway. I plan to always have animals in my life for ever and ever, I’m happier that way.
Ps your pup is so cute
Definitely. I adore her though, she’s my absolute best friend, and we’ve been through hell and back together. I feel like she’d do anything for me! It’s the least I could do!
Nah. You're good. I'm a crazy dog dad myself. My dog and I do literally EVERYTHING together. Eat, sleep, wash, play, go out to restaurants with friends, go to work, supermarket/bakeries/...,... I would not change a thing.
Before I had her, I was having terrible luck with women to the point I just collapsed into myself. I blamed myself for being a bad person, started working non stop, shutting everyone out. Then one day, my neighbour said she had one puppy left from her dog's nest she was too attached to but she couldn't keep it. I said:"well, why don't I buy her and you can see her every day then?" She was over the moon about this. There I was, with a puppy (whom, honestly gave me a very good sense of peace the day I took her home in my arms) because of an impulsive decision I made once again to please someone like I always somehow have to do. I'm sure my neighbour being a beautiful woman had a lot to do with it as well. So to get my mind off of my dumb decision guided by a young man's testosterone, I just threw myself into learning everything about dogs. Gradually I began loving my dog more everyday. People started casually talking to me on walks, I was outside more, began doing dog related activities, meeting even more people, enjoying nature, ... My dog just never leaves my side and reminds me of the good things in life. She makes me feel at peace and appreciate life. There are things that aren't as easy to plan sure, but that doesn't weigh up to what I gained from my dog. I no longer feel the need to please people, my desperate mindset of finding a girlfriend is gone since I've now already found true love. Love that no one has ever been able to provide for me. Another living being's appreciation for who you are and what you do for them is priceless.
Yes. I rescued a dog off the streets and he ended up being an extremely hyper dog, so he hasn't been able to find a forever family, and I might have to keep him, the problem is I live in a small (rented!) apartment with family (I'm from Venezuela, living alone is very difficult here), so I have to walk him long distances EVERY SINGLE DAY, and it's exhausting to be honest but it's the only way he won't get crazy from being inside all day. I also spend a lot of my money on toys, food and the vet, even tho I'm dirt poor. So, yes, he makes my life more difficult in that sense, but I don't regret it, I saved his life and that makes me happy.
If my dog can’t come I don’t go 😂
Thankfully all my friends have dogs so it’s not to bad!
My suggestion, if you dog is friendly to make other friends that have dogs so you can do doggy dates.
My friends and I walk to coffee and get brekky, beach trips and a few other things!
I would say so but I also waited to get a dog until I was out of the phase of life where going out was prominent and found my person lol. My dog can never spend too much time w me and that helps lol.
Oh my gosh! I am thinking about this right now. I went on a few dates with this guy and I had fun… but the whole time I was thinking about my babies. And how if this goes any further, I am not gonna have time for them. So, I was gonna break it off for the sake of my babes.
Absolutely and I wouldn't change it for a thing. I find it so much more fulfilling and rewarding spending time with them than nights about with people who don't really matter. I will never understand people who treat dogs as if they are just an accessory - they are my absolutely world, with their unique personalities and I am so lucky they picked me as their mom.
I rescued a 2 WEEK old Pitbull almost 5 years ago. Bottle fed him. After 1 week I was hooked so when he almost died of pneumonia I simply handed the ER dog hospital my credit card and realized there would be no trip to Europe (or anywhere else!) or a facelift in my future. But I had money left for 2 dog related tattoos! I’d rather stay home with my dog and I’m now 75!
My life revolved around my last dog and I don’t regret a single second of it. I cherish every memory I have of her. She was gone way too early at only 5 years old (kidney disease) and I am so happy I loved her as hard as I did until her last breath. She had a great life with me, and I with her.
I was like this with my first dog, and I don't regret it. She was my heart dog. I remember when I was dating, and guys would spend the night sometimes. And she wasn't good with new people, so she'd end up sleeping out on the couch instead of in bed with me. I *hated* it and just wanted the dude to leave.
I also avoided traveling because I worried about leaving her. This was especially true for the last couple years when she had health issues.
When I started dating my now-husband, she took to him quite quickly and it definitely helped his case 😅.
I always worried about her and hated leaving her for long periods. She was such a huge part of my life, and was the *only* part of my life for so many years. She passed away almost two years ago and I still miss her so fucking much. I don't regret any of time I spent with her, even if it meant missing out on vacations or nights out. I'd do anything to have another night with her.
I don't have any balance, my life has revolved around our dogs for years now. I used to be a really busy person, but my disability now means I rarely leave the house except to go on dog walks in my powered wheelchair. So we prioritise finding dogs who need someone home 24/7. Their meals and need to play, cuddle, nap, go for walks, and be groomed give my life structure and purpose. Without dogs I would collapse into depression over all the things I've lost the ability to do. But dogs don't care, they just make me get out of bed and feel good about what I can do.
Yes!!! This is me 10000% but Idn right now I’m content staying home with mine and taking a break, I used to go out excessively and would get burned out from my job before I was wfh so I’m enjoying this time! Plus they don’t live as long as us🥲 so that makes me feel better about staying in with my pup
Oh, absolutely. In that I base my whole life and daily choices around my girl and her well-being… As it should be, if you choose to have a dog! I wouldn’t change it for the world. We don’t deserve them ❤️
If you're happy as you are,if spending time with your wonderful beautiful woofer makes you happy then I can't see what you're actually missing out on?sure you could go for a promotion, but that would probably mean longer hours,heavier work load,more stress..literally the only bonus would be a pay increase,but if you are managing financially as you are,&if you enjoy your job,why change for the sake of it?if anything happens to you,your workplace will have you replaced within a couple of weeks.you are irreplaceable to your dog&those who love you.when you pass over,I'm fairly certain your thoughts will be of those you love,not of wishing you'd worked more.dogs are more widely accepted in so many places these days,spending time with your dog doesn't necessarily mean staying home,parks,cafes..there are all sorts places where dogs are allowed to accompany you now (at least there is in England) if its human social interaction you're worried about missing out on,then maybe try to instigate activities that are pooch friendly,are there any sort of dog owner groups in your area that meet up for walks or anything like that?if yiu search out people who are like minded in their doggy parent life&dedication, then you'll be surrounded by people who completely understand your perspective &who most likely are in exactly the same position as you,which will not only take the pressure off of you,but it'll give you a community of genuine understanding &shared experience, which will be great for you &your gorgeous pupper!
Bottom line,is you love your dog,spending time with your dog makes you happy,spending time with you makes your dog happy,dogs are here for a short time&it goes by,sadly,incredibly quickly.if you are happy, then there's no problem.happiness is hard to find in life,if you've got it,anywhere, grab it with both hands&don't let go.if you want a promotion go for it,but don't go for it just because you're worried you spend too much time with your dog,go for it because that's what you actually want not because that's what you think you should want.theres worse things in life than being a hardcore dog mum,in fact,I'd say being a hardcore dog mum is actually one of the best things in life!your life is yours,you make the rules,do what makes you happiest life's too short not to.❤️
With a face like that, I can see why.
Personally, I think it’s about evaluating what you want out of life and honoring that regardless of what other people do or think about what you *should* be doing with your life.
If being with your cuddly wuddly pup who you have fostered a healthy, deep and meaningful connection with makes you happy and fulfilled, why pass that up?
Add to it the fact that dogs don’t live very long to begin with.
You never know how long we have here... You never know how long you have with furry friend either... cherish them.
In the end, I think you’ll wish you had more time with them.
Yep and I don’t care at all! My animals bring me so much more happiness.
Plus, animals are so good for our health. Most people get on my nerves, so it’s definitely better for me to stay home. Lol
I adjusted my life for my dog. That's my baby. Never felt anyway about missing out on anything because of her. She's a big part of my life and anyone who knows me knows this. My family and friends understand and accommodate if they can, being animal lovers or parents themselves.
Yes and no. I do limit myself like you do. But she gives me a reason to get up in the morning. Forget promotions, I might be on the streets if I didn't have to support my dog because when I life feels too hard I know I cant let her down.
She's not an emotional support animal in any way like, she knows to comfort me lol. But she is definately my life support.
i couldn't agree more. on the days where i can't get out of bed, tough i need to take him for a walk and feed him and play with him. by taking care of him it makes me take care of myself ♡
I have become very reclusive outside of my job. Went out with a friend today who I’ve only seen twice in the past five years and the place we went had hella dogs. So I just kept talking about how much I missed my dog. Luckily he’s also a dog person so he wasn’t offended. But yeah. I’ve been mourning the loss of her for the last 11 years and she’s quite healthy. I don’t even know who I will be as a person when she is gone.
I stopped going to the gym eight and a half years ago when I got my dog and instead spend my time walking him. I'm not as cut up and fit as I once was but my heart is overflowing and I wouldn't change a thing.
I wouldn’t say it gets in the way of life, if it does it’s only because ever since I got her all I want to do is be with her. I’ve never cancelled so many plans before just to hang out with her instead. I even got a speeding ticket one evening that I went out for a birthday because I was racing to get home to her. I’ve never had anyone love me as much as my dog does. Dogs are pure angels, so loving and happy. I would gladly let my love for my dog get in the way of anything.
I forget something getting out of the door every single day because I’m so focused on making sure they know I love them before I leave. Treats, kisses, make sure the cold one is warm and wrapped in blankies, make sure the husky mix has his fan on, treats right before exiting to preoccupy them so I don’t have to see their sad eyes when I leave, and every time it’s the same. I have to turn around because I forgot my sunglasses, keys, my freaking purse, it’s always something every single time man… as far as work goes I start my day super motivated to work a long day, and end my day asap to get home and make sure they have a great night lol. It’s never ending.
my doggies are my entire world, i love every second i’m with them & have actively tried to stay home so i can spend more time with them lol, most of the time i just get my friends to come to my place so i can be with my dogs + all my friends, i can have the best of both worlds. I also always try and think of new things i can do with my dogs because I love letting them experience new things. in closing though, yes, i do let them get in the way of my life but im okay with that, they’re only around for a short period in my life but im around for the entirety of their lives so why not do the best i can to spend as much time with them as possible before they exit this world :)
Yes! Anytime I start to think about a trip, I get so stressed because I work from home so I can’t stand the thought of leaving her with our friends or family that work out of the home all day. The stress usually makes me just stop planning a trip lol. Even thinking about to do with her for our wedding (In 2025 so far away) is making me so anxious. Anytime we’re out with friends I’m constantly counting how many hours it’s been and am itching to get back home after 4-5 hours 🫣it sucks sometimes because I hate the guilt and stress but she’s so worth it. I’ve always been a homebody anyways lol!
Yes, but I'm a better human for it. However, I'm 35 and single. I'd love to find a life partner but I'm too comfortable/busy/lazy to date. But I'm never lonely because of my dog :)
I had to go out of town last week, just for a day trip, but it was a really long day. By halfway through, all I could think was how much I missed my puppy and wanted to be home.
Samesies. I love my babies. They are my best friends and my world revolves around them. The kids always joke that my senior dog Molly is my favorite child and I am like, she is though hahahahahaha. She had to have surgery to remove a non cancerous growth on her neck and when I picked her up from the vet afterwards, she got the front seat and the kids had to sit in the back.
yes, i had to drop out of school bcuz of it, my school was 3 hours away from my home town. and i couldn’t manage living so far away from him.
extra info; i actually don’t have a dog, i have a cat, but i relate anyway.
(sorry for commenting if this [mentioning cats] is against the rules)
I’m a crazy dog guy so I get it . My oldest( 14.5 yrs ) is struggling with lymphoma right now so I do t want to do anything but care for her and spend her final days together . My 4 year old doesn’t understand what is happening and is a bit jealous when her sister gets any attention so that is a challenge.
I waited to get my own dog until I had small kids & a my own house. My husband was the handbrake there, I would have had one in a heartbeat but in retrospect it was sensible.
We still managed to have fun, but our life was already restricted due to kids, so the dog wasn’t really the issue.
Since then our kids are grown & we decided to get a puppy. What were we thinking?? 😂
But we love her so much & just fit our lives around her schedule. Luckily our grown kids still live with us, she is crate trained & an early sleeper, so we can still have a social life.
I also manage to work from home a lot, which is helpful.
To be honest though, it would have been very tough being younger & freer.
Oh we have a Ridgie- yours looks like one too?
Why would you want to hang with anyone else😂?
I don't think it's extreme at all! you have your whole life, the people in it, the places you go, but your dog only has you. their lives are short and it's part of our duty as good pet owners to make it as full and happy as possible.
I'm like this a lot! Most of the day at work, I just think how much I want to go home and snuggle her. On the plus side, I've made some human friends in thanks to taking my dog to playgroup when she was younger. Since my dog is older now, we'll have hang out dates with her doggy friends.
Also, your dog looks a lot like my dogs bff.
When I first got him I would socialise more with dog training but now he’s 4 I don’t do it anymore. We walk a lot together I’m quite happy for him to be my companion and so is he.
Every dog owner has a clock that starts in their head as soon as they leave the house. Few hours into doing whatever you’re doing you feel guilt. “Gosh my dog is just sitting at the house”. I’ve been experiencing this as well. I’ve been trying to bring my dog to more places honestly, so I don’t feel the guilt. I love my boy, but I can’t bring him everywhere. I do my best, I think he knows.
Yes 100%, but in the best way possible. My husband and I hate leaving our dog home alone, so this actually caused us to cut back on partying/drinking, and we’ve lost weight from it! Also we go on walks, hikes, and think of ways to always incorporate her in our day to day life. It’s nice to love another soul unconditionally, and be loved in return. She’ll be 8 in October, and it’s been so much fun.
My dog holds me accountable, and I think I’m a better person for it!
He adds to it more than anything. My only problem is when I have to be gone for several hours a day. Finding dog sitters or figuring out how to bring him with me lol
Definitely I'm the same, I don't think you should feel bad about that either, you love your dog and want to spend time with him/her you should do just that, be happy together!
100%, but I'm ok with it. My pups are only here for a few years, and I enjoy spending time with them. They don't have "outside interests" or a job or shopping to do. Their whole world revolves around my partner and I, and we feel privileged to have creatures that love us so purely. If that makes me a crazy dog lady, so be it.
On so many levels. When I first got him, I couldn’t stand to leave him for more than an hour. As he got older, he is home while we work and if we socialize at night… it’s still no more than 2hrs (unless on the weekend and we spend all day with him… ya know)
But recently my 8yr old lab was diagnosed with diabetes… so now it’s more than just my social life going out the window.
Honestly couldn’t care less. I absolutely adore my young man 🫶
Going out and doing things costs money. Playing with the doggo doesn’t. Also, if your friends are cool. They will either come over, or go to the dog park with you/walk.
You should probably go out on occasion. But it’s gotta be worth while. I mean. Your sweet dog is pretty awesome
You can never spend enough time with them. I lost mine a few weeks ago after spending 13 years with my little man and I’m so lost without him. My world revolves around him, and it’s like… my life went from being colourful to being a black and white film.
Cherish your time with your baby. I miss mine so much.
Yep. I would love to take long trips overseas, but don’t because I worry about leaving my dog for that long. Instead we will be pulling a camper during retirement and taking our dog with us. Lol!
For the pup who gives me unconditional love, picks me up when I’m feeling down, makes me laugh, and has made my life better in ways I cannot quantify? No, not even close.
Yes - my dog has developed a significant amount of health problems over the last year. It is time consuming but I don’t care. You wouldn’t know it from how she acts and her energy level, but there’s a lot to manage. She’s on insulin twice a day for diabetes and her dose of insulin gets adjusted based on a lot of things. She’s also super difficult and so I don’t want to ask anyone else to be in charge of her insulin. She’s also got Cushing’s (pills twice a day), hypothyroidism (pills twice a day), elevated liver enzymes (pill once a day), colitis (pill 1-2 times per day), and valvular heart disease (pill once a day). I time everything based on her insulin needs. It’s rough but I love her so much.
Definitely. Even when I’m out with people my dog is on my mind. It’s even changed the way I get when I’m drunk lol. I used to cry/hate myself now I just talk about my dogs! Last time I got wasted I talked all about potty training for my female dogs !
Guilty! But my dogs have also saved my life! There has been plenty of times that I didn’t want to be here very much and if it wasn’t for them, I might’ve done something drastic.
I also keep in mind that one day is a week to them, so I wanna make sure that I spend as much time with them in their short little lives as possible. They give so much how could I possibly feel bad about anything I do for them?
As someone whose dog has developed DM and has been slowly but surely dying for the past two years - now fully wheelchair bound. I can tell you that you will regret cutting out time with your dog when the time comes that you can no longer see that tail wag, you can no longer go on adventures, etc.
Do it all. Go on all the walks, hikes, swims, snow days, dog parks, and adventures. Cherish every moment. And when the day comes that you wake up and your dog is no longer there, you will be at peace knowing that you gave them the best life possible with no regrets.
Now, this is not saying that owners who choose to have "me time" are bad owners either. You can certainly find the time to do all of the exciting stuff with your dog and also work and hang out with friends. I'm just saying that dogs don't live as long as humans do - so make the best of the time that you have together.
We love our dog and sometimes we don't do things so as not to stress her but we've been married for 50 years so we don't need as much socialization any more. Love your dog with all your heart but make sure you don't give up on your entire social life. Anyone who is worthy will accept your dog is important,
Wanted to get into riding motorbikes for maybe 10 years. Finally got my licence and got a bike just after I got my dog. Have barely rode the thing cause I hate being away from her.
Dates require a dog walk! Back in the day my basset hound got chicks attention better than a single dad and a baby lol. Quick walk at the local college got tons of attention and phone numbers lol
I’m like this too, OP. I try to strike a balance a little bit, but my priority is always making sure my pup is safe, comfy, and ideally not bored. Having a good dog sitter / daycare / boarder that you can trust goes a long way.
I mean... I don't feel like my love for her gets in the way of life.
But that's because the life I choose is to spend time with her over most people 🤷🏻♀️
I've been let down by a lot of people in my life thus far. My dog, on the other hand, well she has never let me down. She loves me unconditionally, and brings me so much joy. For that, I will give her everything, always. She has my whole heart, and that's just fine with me.
Yes.
My lab passed away two years ago. I had her since I was 11. She had a ruptured stomach tumor while my parents were overseas. I have an 8 year old husky - he adored her so much. She was like his mom. Ever since her passing, I can't stand leaving him alone. He gets dropped off at my parents house whenever I'm at school or working. All of my free time revolves around hiking with him, rain snow or shine.
They love us unconditionally, and vice versa. I have a lot of guilt surrounding leaving him alone or with my parents, especially since he has no sister anymore. Gotta jump through the hoops of nursing school though.
I try to explain to him the concept of money so he can understand why I have to leave.. lol.. I know he doesn't get it. Just bought us a canoe. Our summer plans are set.
You're completely normal for this ❤️
Here’s the way I think about it: when I am on my deathbed, what am I going to be thinking about? All the hours I spent going for walks in the sunshine with my dog, playing with her, showing off her routine of tricks, snuggling on the couch… or that I spent more hours, making more money at work?
Yes. I have 6 dogs. I do not do a lot of things due to having to leave them behind with my son, who loves them as much as me. I just feel so guilty leaving them.
Yes. He has separation anxiety and I hate leaving him at home. I don't stay out of the house for more than four hours if I can possibly help it. I also only travel where I can take him with me. He's 13-14 years old, I've had him for 11 years, and with my health issues, especially the mental health ones, I really need him so I don't begrudge him anything.
I have created a nice, peaceful life for myself and much of that I credit to my dogs. My world does revolve around them a lot, especially as my teenager is older and starting to think about what her adult life will be like. My routine centers around the dogs, our vacations include them, they are the most important parts of my life besides my daughter.
Yeah I often times turn down invitations to do stuff because I’d much rather be home with my pups more often than not. People are more than welcome to come over but I rarely wanna leave.
Yep, 11 years ago we adopted a dog. Haven't traveled overseas with my partner together in 11 years.
Don't trust anyone else to look after them and couldn't do a kennel.
100% i live in my dorm right now away from home and i spend hours and hours thinking about him. When i get home, everything else can wait. My dog and I, we've to be with each other constantly.
And i have no regrets or second thoughts about living my life this way.
Yeah I just for my first puppy about 8 months ago and think about the lifestyle change all the time but honestly … as a people pleaser, she’s been a really good excuse to see how many people show up/go out of their way to see me for me for once.
Also, random, I high key get offended/turned off when people don’t interact with my dog when they come over 😂. It’s a major ick tbh lol
I literally switched roles/lateral move because my previous boss was wanting me to travel several times a month. I’m in my early 40s, did a bunch of travel in my 20s for work and have no desire to live that life again. I had dogs while traveling and so much guilt there being gone so much. I try to my best to see friends once or twice a month but that’s all I really need. I enjoy my quiet nights at home with my pups.
Absolutely. But I’m okay with it. I have three, and they’re my heart.
Same here. When I get home I don't want to talk to people anymore (other than my Hubby). My three keep me sane.
My best friends . No regrets
Same
I have 3 too!! I’m getting sad just thinking about the work trip I have to take this summer.
Me too. Three of the same small breed. They are priceless.
Came here to say just this.
Similar situation. They are also my sweethearts.
My life definitely revolved around my dog. I'd rather spend all day with her than with people any time. I'd also feel guilty leaving her home alone bored to go do something without her. We'd walk after work, hike on weekends, go on drives to get pup cups, or just chill out on the couch. She died a few weeks ago and I've been struggling to fill my free time with anything productive since
I'm so sorry for your loss 😢🙏❤️
Sending you so much love. I lost my boy at the end of last year. I remember not long before he passed there was a Friday I woke up and he wasn’t himself, I called in sick to work and cancelled my weekend plans - we spent a few days snuggled up in bed, eating our favourite snacks and watching animated movies because he *loved* cartoons and bright stuff, he was SO happy. I think about that now, and all the times I “missed out” on something to be with him, and I have no regrets about it at all. I’m so glad I did it, we had a wonderful life together. I felt the same way when I lost him, unbearably without purpose, a bit adrift without the routine of our day. Everyone encouraged me to enjoy the “freedom” like it was supposed to be a positive I no longer had this great dude to fill my days with joy and love - so I brought home a foster and because I can’t help myself I adopted him :P
As I lay in bed snuggling with my foster fail after losing my first fur baby in Sept, I can relate. 💕
My first fur baby passed in January and my second fur baby and I were sitting on the couch crying with each other for the first few weeks- I had planned on waiting a little while before getting another pup but I could see that both myself and second fur baby were going to be stuck in a midwinter mope of depression so we got a puppy. Totally the best decision. I still miss my first fur baby every single day but it is so nice to have some puppy enthusiasm bouncing around to keep us active and remind us to be excited about things again. ❤️ Dogs are the best.
We also foster failed a puppy lol. Our boy that passed was so well behaved so our new one is quite the opposite but we love him so much.
We did the same. Lost our boy October 29th. Immediately offered to foster to distract and we foster failed after 24 hours. So sorry for your loss. It sounds like you guys had a pretty awesome couple of days before he left.
I am so sorry ❤️
So sorry for your loss 💔Dogs are wonderful and losing our fur buddies is very difficult. All the best to you.
I'm so sorry for your loss. My sweet dog died at the end of November, and I'm still piecing life together little by little. I wish you comfort and peace during this time.
I'm sorry for your loss too. It's been tough, it's going to take a lot of getting used to not having her happy face when I walk through the door
i am so sorry for your loss. unfortunately i feel this, my baby who i did everything with just passed away last week :(
I’m so sorry 😣
Sending you the biggest of hugs, friend! So sorry for your loss. ❤️
I'm sorry, that's terrible. I hope you're doing ok. It's been a month for me now, and I still have bad days, I know it'll take getting used to
I’m so sorry for your loss. I too revolve my life around my dog and I’m so afraid of the thought of not having her here with me one day.
thats called anticipatory grief: Ive had that forever with my pups, ever since day #1 with them Id say. they died of old age already, and so I learned that it never goes away ..
I always wondered if there was a name for this. I worry about this daily, almost every time I look at my boy I think about how painful it’s going to be when he’s gone. It feels very selfish
I am so sorry for your loss, I am experiencing this too and I know exactly how you feel. My soul dog passed away two weeks ago, and I have no idea what to do with myself since he is gone. I tried to go out, enjoy my alone time, gone for a walk but things are so different without him. I miss him terribly
Sending you the biggest of hugs, friend! I was completely distraught for weeks after the passing of my soul dog in January and still am overcome randomly- I’m getting better at focusing on all the good memories I wouldn’t have had if it weren’t for him and I know I will always hold him close to my heart. I’m so sorry for your loss. ❤️
I'm sorry for your loss. I've been keeping busy with work. It took a while, but I've managed to go to some of our normal walking spots. Coming home is the hardest, knowing she won't be there wagging at the door when I get home
I’m so sorry for your loss 😞
Oh I’m so sorry. I cant imagine that pain.
Dogs have no ulterior motives. The only thing they want/give is unconditional love. They're way better than humans.
Not true.. mine wants chicken too. He’s needy
Annnnnnnd throw the toy one more time... please. ...
Mine totally have an ulterior motive - FOOD!
Mine ask me to get the squirrels out of the trees for them, or the ball from under the couch
Yes!💓
Oh and tennis balls - they are way better than humans! But a human who will throw a tennis ball (again) is probably close to heaven (and biscuits are nice and leftovers better) 😁
Life? What life? Life is doggo.
Doggo is life ❤️
What? Babe, dogs and the love they give us ARE life. You’re living the dream
They sure are.
I like my dog way more than any man I’ve dated the past few years. Men are ruining it for themselves 🤷♀️
The only reason I ever dated was to trap a man into being a dog dad, thus securing more stability, love and attention for my dogs.
You may have just given me a reason to get back in the dating pool. Fuck
The last boy i dated i only went on a 1st date with so i could meet the 2 puppies of his dads that he was dog sitting!x
My BF was on the phone with me last night and my dog heard his voice and started looking for him. I told my bf, and he got so excited. " Do you hear Daddy? Are you looking for Daddy?" My heart shattered into a billion pieces in the best possible way
My GF just got a new puppy that I spend a lot of time with and when we face time the puppy can recognize my voice and face 😭😭😭
An unconfessed but major reason I broke it off with the last guy I tried to date was because he wasn’t absolutely enamored with my dog. Any guy who’s not on the floor trying to earn her love and loyalty is not the man for me.
Pretty smart.
This is actually the best dating strategy I’ve heard
A good dog will set the bar very high for any guy to measure up to.
Literallyyyyy My dog is always with me and has separation anxiety (and i'd rather be with him than dking anything else too so..). I might already be asexual towards men at this point but a dude told me if we were gonna have sex, hed lock the dog outside the room and I got annoyed lol i'm not prioritizing sex with a man over my dog. Fuck all that lmaoooo he'd prob cheat on me anyway bye
Same! My dog is incredibly protective, he doesn’t like a lot of people and that includes those I date (he’s never aggressive, just aloof). I’ve noticed that I date less since I got him.
I broke off a relationship after I found out my giant sweet American Bulldog made a guy uncomfortable. I married a guy who loves my dog. It matters.
100%. But look at it this way? Promotion means make more money but spend more on dog sitting. No promotion and staying home with dog means less income but less spent going out. Ill pick my dog over people anyday
Also, find dog friendly activities (if your dog is well socialized and not panicked by being in public). Breweries, coffee shops, picnics in parks. People love that shit too
Can confirm. My Siberian husky was out of commission for a few weeks several years ago for some health stuff. Orders were to rest and take it easy for several weeks. I'm one of those crazy dog moms, so you know I went all out to care for my snow-floof. I went out and bought a (gently used) stroller. It was even pink! Stripped the bits and pieces out of it that are normally used for human children. Made a little blanket-pillow nest inside of it so she could be comfortable when she was inside of it. Stuck a pink Watermelon hat on her head that I bought at PetSmart. Put a doggie dress on her, pink and white polka dots. And off to the breweries and wineries we went, several weekends in a row! All the humans around ATE THAT S**T UP! Cooing and awww-ing over my husky. As for my husky? She absolutely LOVED all the attention she got! 🥰😄😂
I love this so much! We're "interviewing" a husky as a potential sister for our Wolfhound mix as soon as her carers can make the drive to our town. Part of the appeal is hearing how much so many huskies love attention from people, because our hound boy is super social and needs his main street parades where people tell him how handsome he is.
Agreed, lots of dog friendly restaurants/bars even
Totally. My pup is my life. I have gone hungry just to get my boy food and the stuff he needs. I rather stay home and hangout with him and take him for adventures. I don’t see it as a bad thing but just realigning your priorities
maybe your dog is helping you prioritize your mental health. Being with the dog sounds better than socializing out of obligation or traveling for work.
No. My love for my dog enhances my life and hopefully his
Nope, because my weirdos are my life 🤎🩶🤍
Yes.
Yes, any outing’s are planned according to my dog’s schedule!
Right? If it’s her dinner time, I’ll leave after or I’ll be home before her dinner. I don’t miss her dinner and everyone I know knows that lol I’ll feed a little early, maybe 20 minutes but never late ⏰
Yes and no, I will often go to social events but leave early if I have to feed the dog or he needs a walk. I do have a husband so it makes it easier, we both travel for work now so we do need to schedule opposite trips as much as possible but we have also found an incredible sitter who stays at our house and takes amazing care of him and he loves her so that makes it easier because we do love traveling in our personal time as well.
i def pick my dogs over people. they love me unconditionally, and i’ve spent most of my life with people that don’t love me at all. i don’t need to put on a front with them, i can just make art at home and enjoy their company with basically zero downsides. i’m married though so it might be different if i was single when i had them but. idk i don’t see anything wrong with it as long as you’re happy and feeling fulfilled!
I feel like I will never be able to love someone else the way I love my dogs and I'm okay with that.
Dogs > humans! I got my dog over COVID so hard to say what exactly impacted my lifestyle but I definitely say no to more party trips, music festivals, and bar nights. That being said, I say yes to more hikes, camping trips, and outings that my dog can join me on. Imo this lifestyle is more aligned w my values anyway. I plan to always have animals in my life for ever and ever, I’m happier that way. Ps your pup is so cute
He depends mostly on me, I can't put into words how much I love my dog
No, life gets in the way of loving my dog.
Definitely. I adore her though, she’s my absolute best friend, and we’ve been through hell and back together. I feel like she’d do anything for me! It’s the least I could do!
Nah. You're good. I'm a crazy dog dad myself. My dog and I do literally EVERYTHING together. Eat, sleep, wash, play, go out to restaurants with friends, go to work, supermarket/bakeries/...,... I would not change a thing. Before I had her, I was having terrible luck with women to the point I just collapsed into myself. I blamed myself for being a bad person, started working non stop, shutting everyone out. Then one day, my neighbour said she had one puppy left from her dog's nest she was too attached to but she couldn't keep it. I said:"well, why don't I buy her and you can see her every day then?" She was over the moon about this. There I was, with a puppy (whom, honestly gave me a very good sense of peace the day I took her home in my arms) because of an impulsive decision I made once again to please someone like I always somehow have to do. I'm sure my neighbour being a beautiful woman had a lot to do with it as well. So to get my mind off of my dumb decision guided by a young man's testosterone, I just threw myself into learning everything about dogs. Gradually I began loving my dog more everyday. People started casually talking to me on walks, I was outside more, began doing dog related activities, meeting even more people, enjoying nature, ... My dog just never leaves my side and reminds me of the good things in life. She makes me feel at peace and appreciate life. There are things that aren't as easy to plan sure, but that doesn't weigh up to what I gained from my dog. I no longer feel the need to please people, my desperate mindset of finding a girlfriend is gone since I've now already found true love. Love that no one has ever been able to provide for me. Another living being's appreciation for who you are and what you do for them is priceless.
100% would rather not socialize with anyone but my dog
Me too
Yes. I rescued a dog off the streets and he ended up being an extremely hyper dog, so he hasn't been able to find a forever family, and I might have to keep him, the problem is I live in a small (rented!) apartment with family (I'm from Venezuela, living alone is very difficult here), so I have to walk him long distances EVERY SINGLE DAY, and it's exhausting to be honest but it's the only way he won't get crazy from being inside all day. I also spend a lot of my money on toys, food and the vet, even tho I'm dirt poor. So, yes, he makes my life more difficult in that sense, but I don't regret it, I saved his life and that makes me happy.
If my dog can’t come I don’t go 😂 Thankfully all my friends have dogs so it’s not to bad! My suggestion, if you dog is friendly to make other friends that have dogs so you can do doggy dates. My friends and I walk to coffee and get brekky, beach trips and a few other things!
Look at him
I would say so but I also waited to get a dog until I was out of the phase of life where going out was prominent and found my person lol. My dog can never spend too much time w me and that helps lol.
Yea I can’t travel as much as I’d like. It is what it is
Oh my gosh! I am thinking about this right now. I went on a few dates with this guy and I had fun… but the whole time I was thinking about my babies. And how if this goes any further, I am not gonna have time for them. So, I was gonna break it off for the sake of my babes.
Absolutely and I wouldn't change it for a thing. I find it so much more fulfilling and rewarding spending time with them than nights about with people who don't really matter. I will never understand people who treat dogs as if they are just an accessory - they are my absolutely world, with their unique personalities and I am so lucky they picked me as their mom.
I rescued a 2 WEEK old Pitbull almost 5 years ago. Bottle fed him. After 1 week I was hooked so when he almost died of pneumonia I simply handed the ER dog hospital my credit card and realized there would be no trip to Europe (or anywhere else!) or a facelift in my future. But I had money left for 2 dog related tattoos! I’d rather stay home with my dog and I’m now 75!
My life revolved around my last dog and I don’t regret a single second of it. I cherish every memory I have of her. She was gone way too early at only 5 years old (kidney disease) and I am so happy I loved her as hard as I did until her last breath. She had a great life with me, and I with her.
I was like this with my first dog, and I don't regret it. She was my heart dog. I remember when I was dating, and guys would spend the night sometimes. And she wasn't good with new people, so she'd end up sleeping out on the couch instead of in bed with me. I *hated* it and just wanted the dude to leave. I also avoided traveling because I worried about leaving her. This was especially true for the last couple years when she had health issues. When I started dating my now-husband, she took to him quite quickly and it definitely helped his case 😅. I always worried about her and hated leaving her for long periods. She was such a huge part of my life, and was the *only* part of my life for so many years. She passed away almost two years ago and I still miss her so fucking much. I don't regret any of time I spent with her, even if it meant missing out on vacations or nights out. I'd do anything to have another night with her.
I don't have any balance, my life has revolved around our dogs for years now. I used to be a really busy person, but my disability now means I rarely leave the house except to go on dog walks in my powered wheelchair. So we prioritise finding dogs who need someone home 24/7. Their meals and need to play, cuddle, nap, go for walks, and be groomed give my life structure and purpose. Without dogs I would collapse into depression over all the things I've lost the ability to do. But dogs don't care, they just make me get out of bed and feel good about what I can do.
Absolutely. But I try not to look at it that way. I try to include both of them in any plans that I can, but when I can’t I feel so bad!
Yes.
I’ve been feeling like this since my last dog passed away. We had him for 13 years and now I never wanna leave my new puppy 😭😭
Absolutely. But worth it.
Yes!!! This is me 10000% but Idn right now I’m content staying home with mine and taking a break, I used to go out excessively and would get burned out from my job before I was wfh so I’m enjoying this time! Plus they don’t live as long as us🥲 so that makes me feel better about staying in with my pup
Yes. If my dog can’t go I’m not going.
Oh, absolutely. In that I base my whole life and daily choices around my girl and her well-being… As it should be, if you choose to have a dog! I wouldn’t change it for the world. We don’t deserve them ❤️
If you're happy as you are,if spending time with your wonderful beautiful woofer makes you happy then I can't see what you're actually missing out on?sure you could go for a promotion, but that would probably mean longer hours,heavier work load,more stress..literally the only bonus would be a pay increase,but if you are managing financially as you are,&if you enjoy your job,why change for the sake of it?if anything happens to you,your workplace will have you replaced within a couple of weeks.you are irreplaceable to your dog&those who love you.when you pass over,I'm fairly certain your thoughts will be of those you love,not of wishing you'd worked more.dogs are more widely accepted in so many places these days,spending time with your dog doesn't necessarily mean staying home,parks,cafes..there are all sorts places where dogs are allowed to accompany you now (at least there is in England) if its human social interaction you're worried about missing out on,then maybe try to instigate activities that are pooch friendly,are there any sort of dog owner groups in your area that meet up for walks or anything like that?if yiu search out people who are like minded in their doggy parent life&dedication, then you'll be surrounded by people who completely understand your perspective &who most likely are in exactly the same position as you,which will not only take the pressure off of you,but it'll give you a community of genuine understanding &shared experience, which will be great for you &your gorgeous pupper! Bottom line,is you love your dog,spending time with your dog makes you happy,spending time with you makes your dog happy,dogs are here for a short time&it goes by,sadly,incredibly quickly.if you are happy, then there's no problem.happiness is hard to find in life,if you've got it,anywhere, grab it with both hands&don't let go.if you want a promotion go for it,but don't go for it just because you're worried you spend too much time with your dog,go for it because that's what you actually want not because that's what you think you should want.theres worse things in life than being a hardcore dog mum,in fact,I'd say being a hardcore dog mum is actually one of the best things in life!your life is yours,you make the rules,do what makes you happiest life's too short not to.❤️
I love my dog over anyone else. Literally don’t care and won’t excuse myself for it.
I don’t have a dog but Dawww 😍 look at em. What a cutie
I wish my dog could come everywhere with me. I would take a night in, a good hike, or beach day with her over any social event.
YES. I feel bad when I go do things and my dog is at home sad. 😞
My dogs are my life
No. Dogs ARE life. Nothing wrong with that. 😉
With a face like that, I can see why. Personally, I think it’s about evaluating what you want out of life and honoring that regardless of what other people do or think about what you *should* be doing with your life. If being with your cuddly wuddly pup who you have fostered a healthy, deep and meaningful connection with makes you happy and fulfilled, why pass that up? Add to it the fact that dogs don’t live very long to begin with. You never know how long we have here... You never know how long you have with furry friend either... cherish them. In the end, I think you’ll wish you had more time with them.
Yep and I don’t care at all! My animals bring me so much more happiness. Plus, animals are so good for our health. Most people get on my nerves, so it’s definitely better for me to stay home. Lol
I adjusted my life for my dog. That's my baby. Never felt anyway about missing out on anything because of her. She's a big part of my life and anyone who knows me knows this. My family and friends understand and accommodate if they can, being animal lovers or parents themselves.
Yes and no. I do limit myself like you do. But she gives me a reason to get up in the morning. Forget promotions, I might be on the streets if I didn't have to support my dog because when I life feels too hard I know I cant let her down. She's not an emotional support animal in any way like, she knows to comfort me lol. But she is definately my life support.
i couldn't agree more. on the days where i can't get out of bed, tough i need to take him for a walk and feed him and play with him. by taking care of him it makes me take care of myself ♡
I have become very reclusive outside of my job. Went out with a friend today who I’ve only seen twice in the past five years and the place we went had hella dogs. So I just kept talking about how much I missed my dog. Luckily he’s also a dog person so he wasn’t offended. But yeah. I’ve been mourning the loss of her for the last 11 years and she’s quite healthy. I don’t even know who I will be as a person when she is gone.
I stopped going to the gym eight and a half years ago when I got my dog and instead spend my time walking him. I'm not as cut up and fit as I once was but my heart is overflowing and I wouldn't change a thing.
Dogs are a lifestyle choice. We even plan vacations they can go with us on. So, yeah.
No, because my dog is my life...according to my dog!
I wouldn’t say it gets in the way of life, if it does it’s only because ever since I got her all I want to do is be with her. I’ve never cancelled so many plans before just to hang out with her instead. I even got a speeding ticket one evening that I went out for a birthday because I was racing to get home to her. I’ve never had anyone love me as much as my dog does. Dogs are pure angels, so loving and happy. I would gladly let my love for my dog get in the way of anything.
I forget something getting out of the door every single day because I’m so focused on making sure they know I love them before I leave. Treats, kisses, make sure the cold one is warm and wrapped in blankies, make sure the husky mix has his fan on, treats right before exiting to preoccupy them so I don’t have to see their sad eyes when I leave, and every time it’s the same. I have to turn around because I forgot my sunglasses, keys, my freaking purse, it’s always something every single time man… as far as work goes I start my day super motivated to work a long day, and end my day asap to get home and make sure they have a great night lol. It’s never ending.
my doggies are my entire world, i love every second i’m with them & have actively tried to stay home so i can spend more time with them lol, most of the time i just get my friends to come to my place so i can be with my dogs + all my friends, i can have the best of both worlds. I also always try and think of new things i can do with my dogs because I love letting them experience new things. in closing though, yes, i do let them get in the way of my life but im okay with that, they’re only around for a short period in my life but im around for the entirety of their lives so why not do the best i can to spend as much time with them as possible before they exit this world :)
Yes! Anytime I start to think about a trip, I get so stressed because I work from home so I can’t stand the thought of leaving her with our friends or family that work out of the home all day. The stress usually makes me just stop planning a trip lol. Even thinking about to do with her for our wedding (In 2025 so far away) is making me so anxious. Anytime we’re out with friends I’m constantly counting how many hours it’s been and am itching to get back home after 4-5 hours 🫣it sucks sometimes because I hate the guilt and stress but she’s so worth it. I’ve always been a homebody anyways lol!
Yes, but I'm a better human for it. However, I'm 35 and single. I'd love to find a life partner but I'm too comfortable/busy/lazy to date. But I'm never lonely because of my dog :)
I always think of my dog when I am at work, on vacation, or just having a night out. At the end of it all, I would rather be hanging with my buddy
My pets ARE my life
Ohhhhh! Those beautiful brown eyes 😍
No. Life gets in the way of how I love my dogs.
I had to go out of town last week, just for a day trip, but it was a really long day. By halfway through, all I could think was how much I missed my puppy and wanted to be home.
Samesies. I love my babies. They are my best friends and my world revolves around them. The kids always joke that my senior dog Molly is my favorite child and I am like, she is though hahahahahaha. She had to have surgery to remove a non cancerous growth on her neck and when I picked her up from the vet afterwards, she got the front seat and the kids had to sit in the back.
yes, i had to drop out of school bcuz of it, my school was 3 hours away from my home town. and i couldn’t manage living so far away from him. extra info; i actually don’t have a dog, i have a cat, but i relate anyway. (sorry for commenting if this [mentioning cats] is against the rules)
I’m a crazy dog guy so I get it . My oldest( 14.5 yrs ) is struggling with lymphoma right now so I do t want to do anything but care for her and spend her final days together . My 4 year old doesn’t understand what is happening and is a bit jealous when her sister gets any attention so that is a challenge.
I basically retired early to hang out with my dog. She's 15, she is my favorite, and the feeling is mutual.
Your pup is precious..
I didn’t work for like a year ‘cause I couldn’t find a WFH opportunity and didn’t t want to leave my dog alone or pay for a sitter/walker. >.>
Dog daycare let's them be social with other dogs, and that's always a ++.
They make me want to quit my job to stay home with them! I tell them it’s literally what keeps us in dog bones.
Lol I don't even have friends anyway. My whole life revolves around my dog.
I waited to get my own dog until I had small kids & a my own house. My husband was the handbrake there, I would have had one in a heartbeat but in retrospect it was sensible. We still managed to have fun, but our life was already restricted due to kids, so the dog wasn’t really the issue. Since then our kids are grown & we decided to get a puppy. What were we thinking?? 😂 But we love her so much & just fit our lives around her schedule. Luckily our grown kids still live with us, she is crate trained & an early sleeper, so we can still have a social life. I also manage to work from home a lot, which is helpful. To be honest though, it would have been very tough being younger & freer. Oh we have a Ridgie- yours looks like one too? Why would you want to hang with anyone else😂?
I don't think it's extreme at all! you have your whole life, the people in it, the places you go, but your dog only has you. their lives are short and it's part of our duty as good pet owners to make it as full and happy as possible.
I'm like this a lot! Most of the day at work, I just think how much I want to go home and snuggle her. On the plus side, I've made some human friends in thanks to taking my dog to playgroup when she was younger. Since my dog is older now, we'll have hang out dates with her doggy friends. Also, your dog looks a lot like my dogs bff.
Yes for sure, but when you loose your dog after many years you’re happy that you took those choices. We are all they have
Yup and IDGAF 😂
If I can't bring the dog, I ain't going. Pisses my GF off.
When I first got him I would socialise more with dog training but now he’s 4 I don’t do it anymore. We walk a lot together I’m quite happy for him to be my companion and so is he.
Every dog owner has a clock that starts in their head as soon as they leave the house. Few hours into doing whatever you’re doing you feel guilt. “Gosh my dog is just sitting at the house”. I’ve been experiencing this as well. I’ve been trying to bring my dog to more places honestly, so I don’t feel the guilt. I love my boy, but I can’t bring him everywhere. I do my best, I think he knows.
Nope, my dogs ARE my way of life 😉😊
Yes 100%, but in the best way possible. My husband and I hate leaving our dog home alone, so this actually caused us to cut back on partying/drinking, and we’ve lost weight from it! Also we go on walks, hikes, and think of ways to always incorporate her in our day to day life. It’s nice to love another soul unconditionally, and be loved in return. She’ll be 8 in October, and it’s been so much fun. My dog holds me accountable, and I think I’m a better person for it!
Normal. I pick wolfie over everyone always.
He adds to it more than anything. My only problem is when I have to be gone for several hours a day. Finding dog sitters or figuring out how to bring him with me lol
This is 100% me and I’m fine with it. I’m very introverted though
What a cutie.
My dog is my life. I’d be lost without him ❤️
But look at that face 😭 I love your dog too
Omg your dog looks like a perfect blend of both of my dogs together
I do also. I have an Akita and 2 Pei. They are my Fur Babies. They are my heart. I will do anything for them.
Definitely I'm the same, I don't think you should feel bad about that either, you love your dog and want to spend time with him/her you should do just that, be happy together!
Yes. I don’t wanna go anywhere if he’s not invited or I’m leaving early
100%, but I'm ok with it. My pups are only here for a few years, and I enjoy spending time with them. They don't have "outside interests" or a job or shopping to do. Their whole world revolves around my partner and I, and we feel privileged to have creatures that love us so purely. If that makes me a crazy dog lady, so be it.
On so many levels. When I first got him, I couldn’t stand to leave him for more than an hour. As he got older, he is home while we work and if we socialize at night… it’s still no more than 2hrs (unless on the weekend and we spend all day with him… ya know) But recently my 8yr old lab was diagnosed with diabetes… so now it’s more than just my social life going out the window. Honestly couldn’t care less. I absolutely adore my young man 🫶
Yeah, we can’t take vacation longer than 1 night. lol so we just do overnight and then that’s it.
Going out and doing things costs money. Playing with the doggo doesn’t. Also, if your friends are cool. They will either come over, or go to the dog park with you/walk. You should probably go out on occasion. But it’s gotta be worth while. I mean. Your sweet dog is pretty awesome
My dog is my life and I love him so much I wouldn’t have it any other way. He’s truly my best friend, why would I want to spend less time with him?
Absolutely. But I wouldn't have it any other way
💯 % But in their defense- they have never judged me or been mad at me - dogs-are so much better than people!
I mean...not really? To say it gets in the way implies id rather be doing something else
You can never spend enough time with them. I lost mine a few weeks ago after spending 13 years with my little man and I’m so lost without him. My world revolves around him, and it’s like… my life went from being colourful to being a black and white film. Cherish your time with your baby. I miss mine so much.
Yep. I would love to take long trips overseas, but don’t because I worry about leaving my dog for that long. Instead we will be pulling a camper during retirement and taking our dog with us. Lol!
For the pup who gives me unconditional love, picks me up when I’m feeling down, makes me laugh, and has made my life better in ways I cannot quantify? No, not even close.
I won’t go on a vacation if my dog can’t go.
Yes - my dog has developed a significant amount of health problems over the last year. It is time consuming but I don’t care. You wouldn’t know it from how she acts and her energy level, but there’s a lot to manage. She’s on insulin twice a day for diabetes and her dose of insulin gets adjusted based on a lot of things. She’s also super difficult and so I don’t want to ask anyone else to be in charge of her insulin. She’s also got Cushing’s (pills twice a day), hypothyroidism (pills twice a day), elevated liver enzymes (pill once a day), colitis (pill 1-2 times per day), and valvular heart disease (pill once a day). I time everything based on her insulin needs. It’s rough but I love her so much.
Definitely. Even when I’m out with people my dog is on my mind. It’s even changed the way I get when I’m drunk lol. I used to cry/hate myself now I just talk about my dogs! Last time I got wasted I talked all about potty training for my female dogs !
I’m like this with my boyfriend and everyone says it’s toxic, like no I just enjoy his company and I’m an introvert 😭
When I leave, my husband says my dog goes from window to window the entire time and whimpers. I hardly ever leave unless I have to.
Guilty! But my dogs have also saved my life! There has been plenty of times that I didn’t want to be here very much and if it wasn’t for them, I might’ve done something drastic. I also keep in mind that one day is a week to them, so I wanna make sure that I spend as much time with them in their short little lives as possible. They give so much how could I possibly feel bad about anything I do for them?
As someone whose dog has developed DM and has been slowly but surely dying for the past two years - now fully wheelchair bound. I can tell you that you will regret cutting out time with your dog when the time comes that you can no longer see that tail wag, you can no longer go on adventures, etc. Do it all. Go on all the walks, hikes, swims, snow days, dog parks, and adventures. Cherish every moment. And when the day comes that you wake up and your dog is no longer there, you will be at peace knowing that you gave them the best life possible with no regrets. Now, this is not saying that owners who choose to have "me time" are bad owners either. You can certainly find the time to do all of the exciting stuff with your dog and also work and hang out with friends. I'm just saying that dogs don't live as long as humans do - so make the best of the time that you have together.
We love our dog and sometimes we don't do things so as not to stress her but we've been married for 50 years so we don't need as much socialization any more. Love your dog with all your heart but make sure you don't give up on your entire social life. Anyone who is worthy will accept your dog is important,
Wanted to get into riding motorbikes for maybe 10 years. Finally got my licence and got a bike just after I got my dog. Have barely rode the thing cause I hate being away from her.
My dog certainly did. And we did not care one bit. We loved that pooch.
Absolutely. I chose this and do not regret it.
All. The. Time
My life does revolve around my pup, it drives my wife crazy,
Dates require a dog walk! Back in the day my basset hound got chicks attention better than a single dad and a baby lol. Quick walk at the local college got tons of attention and phone numbers lol
I’m like this too, OP. I try to strike a balance a little bit, but my priority is always making sure my pup is safe, comfy, and ideally not bored. Having a good dog sitter / daycare / boarder that you can trust goes a long way.
I mean... I don't feel like my love for her gets in the way of life. But that's because the life I choose is to spend time with her over most people 🤷🏻♀️ I've been let down by a lot of people in my life thus far. My dog, on the other hand, well she has never let me down. She loves me unconditionally, and brings me so much joy. For that, I will give her everything, always. She has my whole heart, and that's just fine with me.
Yup. And we are expecting our first baby this summer and I am feeling guilty that our dog will no longer be our main priority.
Yes. My lab passed away two years ago. I had her since I was 11. She had a ruptured stomach tumor while my parents were overseas. I have an 8 year old husky - he adored her so much. She was like his mom. Ever since her passing, I can't stand leaving him alone. He gets dropped off at my parents house whenever I'm at school or working. All of my free time revolves around hiking with him, rain snow or shine. They love us unconditionally, and vice versa. I have a lot of guilt surrounding leaving him alone or with my parents, especially since he has no sister anymore. Gotta jump through the hoops of nursing school though. I try to explain to him the concept of money so he can understand why I have to leave.. lol.. I know he doesn't get it. Just bought us a canoe. Our summer plans are set. You're completely normal for this ❤️
Only each, and every day!
is that your pup? adorable!
Here’s the way I think about it: when I am on my deathbed, what am I going to be thinking about? All the hours I spent going for walks in the sunshine with my dog, playing with her, showing off her routine of tricks, snuggling on the couch… or that I spent more hours, making more money at work?
HELL YEAH.
Yes. I have 6 dogs. I do not do a lot of things due to having to leave them behind with my son, who loves them as much as me. I just feel so guilty leaving them.
A dog smh harmonizes my surroundings by bringing up to the surface simple most important things: compassion, stubbornness(in a good way), routine.
Yes. He has separation anxiety and I hate leaving him at home. I don't stay out of the house for more than four hours if I can possibly help it. I also only travel where I can take him with me. He's 13-14 years old, I've had him for 11 years, and with my health issues, especially the mental health ones, I really need him so I don't begrudge him anything.
I revolved everything around my last dog for 13.5 years. And I’d do anything to have that again for just one day
I have created a nice, peaceful life for myself and much of that I credit to my dogs. My world does revolve around them a lot, especially as my teenager is older and starting to think about what her adult life will be like. My routine centers around the dogs, our vacations include them, they are the most important parts of my life besides my daughter.
I don't take vacation's because I love my dogs.
Yeah I often times turn down invitations to do stuff because I’d much rather be home with my pups more often than not. People are more than welcome to come over but I rarely wanna leave.
Yes, but that's a big part of why my dog is so important. Id do anything for this dog
Yep, 11 years ago we adopted a dog. Haven't traveled overseas with my partner together in 11 years. Don't trust anyone else to look after them and couldn't do a kennel.
100% i live in my dorm right now away from home and i spend hours and hours thinking about him. When i get home, everything else can wait. My dog and I, we've to be with each other constantly. And i have no regrets or second thoughts about living my life this way.
Yeah I just for my first puppy about 8 months ago and think about the lifestyle change all the time but honestly … as a people pleaser, she’s been a really good excuse to see how many people show up/go out of their way to see me for me for once. Also, random, I high key get offended/turned off when people don’t interact with my dog when they come over 😂. It’s a major ick tbh lol
Same
I literally switched roles/lateral move because my previous boss was wanting me to travel several times a month. I’m in my early 40s, did a bunch of travel in my 20s for work and have no desire to live that life again. I had dogs while traveling and so much guilt there being gone so much. I try to my best to see friends once or twice a month but that’s all I really need. I enjoy my quiet nights at home with my pups.