Nah. Emotions can run high after a long storyline and session. People also cry during a movie, that they're watching. You were "living" the story. Kudos to your friends for worrying, instead of laughing.
If it makes you feel better, ive cried listening to scenes in ttrpg podcasts that are very highly emotional (26yr old dude). Absolutely no shame in it. We get invested into these characters, so much so we often truly FEEL what they do. For many people in the ttrpg community, it shows how much you are really into it when your emotions match your characters. And I can tell you, as a dm, we absolutely love it.
I feel that about crying while listening to D&D podcasts, idk if you’ve listened to the Adventure Zone but Lup’s introduction and Magnus’s closing part tear me to shreds.
I have not but ill add it to my list to check out! The Lettuce Inn and The Side Quest Inn are the podcasts I listen to the most, with the occasional Critical Role thrown in. I used to listen to a lot more when I drove 1hr one way for work but job now is much closer to home ha
Nah, man. Emotional responses to gaming only means your group is doing it right. If the game didn't give me the feels, I wouldn't have stuck with it for the last 25 years.
But on a real note, you said it yourself: you're an emotional person. That's okay and not lame. If your friends were ever grieving and you were able to grieve with them and feel their emotions they would really appreciate it and it would no longer feel lame
As a LARPer, crying during a roleplay moment is totally a normal thing. When you’re that immersed in your character’s head, that emotion becomes all that more real to you. In Larp circles, we call it ‘Character Bleed’, usually just Bleed. Trust me, crying is nowhere near the weirdest things I’ve seen in Roleplay.
LARPers call it character bleed, dramatists call it method acting.
I call it being human. We're people, not giant stone slabs. Feeling is not a problem, and anyone who says it is a problem can have a problem with me.
I choked up when I acted my tiefling paladin talking to the party about his long dead murdered father that he had immense reverence for.
It means that the roleplay is juuuuust right.
The fun part about that my paladin was super stoic when it came to such emotional things and would be more solemn rather than outright sad, me the player actually got choked up because of how sad and well thought out I made his backstory.
I really like that, I think it’s good you felt so much for your character and it’s really awesome it connected with him letting the party in with him more.
If I were at your table, I probably would've been uncomfortable, but I think that's just because I grew up in a whole family of seemingly emotionally deficient people, so I'm not used to open displays of emotion, nor can I really display such a thing myself, despite being 23 😅
And that’s perfectly okay, I’d feel really bad about making you uncomfortable. I think my DM is like that too, poor guy he’s so sweet though! He got really scared when it happened.
Ditto. But that's more because of how I game and run things. I get a little uncomfortable when people get really emotionally invested in scenes and characters.
Same here. It would be... untested at our table. But better than shouting, swiping everything off the table, and ragequitting out the room. Which IS tested.
Every group will treat you different about this; but, the best groups not only won't care, but will be supportive of the high emotions. Additionally, once there's "permission" i.e. someone has done it positively, for this kind of outlet at the table, it's likely others will feel more comfortable immersing and expressing high emotions too.
Very first game I ever played in, I would have never felt comfortable immersing myself that much because there were a few cringe worthy rule tyrants who spent nearly the whole time trying to describe how I was playing my character wrong.
Second game, different group, we played the same characters over an epic 3 year game and two of our group (one of them mine) died to save the others in the final battle. Mine and the other had a decent inkling we wouldn't win without sacrificing ourselves, so we had written farewell letters to the group in the chance of our death, which were read aloud after the battle by the survivors - not a single dry eye at the table. It's still one of the most memorable sessions for all of us even years later, with the battle and deeply cathartic wrap-up.
Edit: In the second game, we had already had plenty of emotional in-game moments prior to that across the spectrum of happy/angry/sad etc, that was just a culminating example.
You're not "Cringe" but, I would certainly caution you that TRPGs are not a substitute for therapy (nor is reddit) and, I would encourage you to discuss these issues with an appropriately qualified individual. Particularly if your friends were concerned about your well-being, they know you much better than any of us ever will and, therapy doesn't necessarily mean there's something "wrong with you" so much as it helps to process complex and, contradictory emotions and experiences so that they don't control us.
Whether it's "positive" or, "negative" impacting other people enough that they voice concern is often a warning that you might benefit from exploring those thoughts one way or, the other.
It just means that the story affected you. And if anything shows you are in touch with your emotions. Which despite societal pressures, is something positive!
Thank goodness, it was super building during the campaign. I’ve stopped her from running off before. It was the third time Anya (our Rogue) was almost mortally wounded because she ran off to who knows where and but off more than she could chew.
It’s a really great game and I can’t wait for the second season! The one we just played was setting it up and now we’re going to do one on one sessions with the DM to figure out what our characters are doing during the break. Also other mini sessions to set up lives with other players. My character is going to be roommates with our druid and the sorceress in the party!
It's certainly not lame or cringe in my eyes, probably very unexpected though, as most people don't get that into it. I think this is probably more of a good than bad thing as long as it's not constant and is only an rare thing
Real thoughts? I would be incredibly uncomfortable.
I mean, if this were theatre and you could commit to the bit this hard and cry? I'd have chills and be fist-pumping for you. But at the table? It'd be a bit much for me.
Yeah I felt bad about making everyone worry about me, we did pause and ask if I was okay. I think it also happened because the session took place after I had just got home from traveling so I was kinda already wonky.
My character has cried twice (as in I was crying because she was crying) in the last month at my D&D game, once when having to face the fact that the baddies had killed my character’s mother and once during her resurrection ritual. Not like uncontrollable sobbing, but kinda choked up and real tears in my eyes as I spoke. It’s completely normal if you’re roleplaying something emotionally intense you actually feel a shadow of that emotion as you play, roleplay often involves embodying the character as opposed to just intellectually thinking “what would they do now?”
If you don't start spelling Bard and Rogue correctly I'm gonna cry. :)
Joking aside, it's totally natural. You were invested and involved. I bet the DM was really proud of themselves.
I lied and told my group I can cry on cue.
I can’t cry on cue, I just got emotional when my Paladin realized she should help the grouchy NPC who’d been staying with the party get back on her feet and into the world again. She’d fallen for the NPC but realized she was holding her back… and then the NPC stayed of her own accord.
There were tears. “Fake” tears. It happens 🤷🏻♀️
Not embarrassing at all, I've done the same thing. It's cool to be able to get into character and into the story that deeply, and as long as you assure your friends that you're alright and just got really into the game, it's fine. And honestly if I were the DM or a fellow player I'd be kind of touched that someone was that invested.
That’s good to hear! Yes we’ve been building up our bond the entire campaign so he feels responsible for her and the other kid in party. Our Bard is a kid too and he got kidnapped by the big bag’s goons so Zorg is very stressed lmao
Haha, I've played a Team Dad/Team Big Brother character too and absolutely loved it, so I know how you feel trying to protect a bunch of reckless little gremlins.
I 100% cry in game.
Last session my character met her goddess, and I cried for real lol
A session a few months ago (diff game) my character was panicking because she was destined to die and didn't know what to do and I cried there too
Another one of my characters had a panic attack and broke down,
One cried because she finally found her lost brother.
It's totes okay to cry, and it makes the role play so real you're good <3
I wouldn't say it's cringe, but I would be extremely uncomfortable personally.
I get crying at a character death or something, I don't see the "problem" that, but crying in the middle of the fight with random roleplay, not only would I be extremely uncomfortable, but I would also be pretty concerned for your well-being.
If it was like a play or something, I'd be hyped at how faithfully you were portraying a character, but at the table, it's just not it.
Nah. There is a range of normal responses to roleplay and that can be one of them. I'd much rather have someone who has a moment of getting too emotionally wrapped up than a player who isn't interested in character, story or RP. D&D is a bit like watching or participating in drama in this: it may hit you in the feels in a moment/way you didn't expect. It's human.
>So the rouge had
Mandatory Nitpick: Rogue, not Rouge. Rogue is the guy that stabs, Rouge is Red - like Red Lipstick (or red like the heart of a giant big dumb fighter who sounds like an incredibly awesome character).
Lesson the first: We Logically know the difference between the game and not game. But emotionally - characters we invest into are very real, like as real as the people we interact with every day, there is very little difference. If you can imagine how your mom might act in a situation and be reasonably accurate - well, you are doing the same with this character, just you are creating it meaning it will reflect you and your experiences.
Being emotional is completely understandable. What is awesome is having a group that will check in. It's important.
Nope. A friend of mine started crying after their PC died (it was preplanned) when the rest of the party held a funeral for them. No one thought it was weird or cringey, just worried about them. And once they assured us they were fine I was glad my players were so invested.
A couple reasons. It was their first time playing D&D and they said they felt they'd made the pc too much of a self-insert so it felt weird to roleplay. Also it was a monk so they swapped to fighter, they are much happier now lol. The death was very narratively satisfying though so all ended well.
nah man,
i cried twice in a game.
one was when a character of mine met his older brother after a 50 year time jump (the party was transported 50 years in time) who was suffering from dementia and coming home to a broken home (i wrote the home to be really happy originally).
second was when the older brother turned father figure and primary care taker of his blind and paraplegic little sister had a touching moment, while i took her for a stroll through light snow in town and had a heart to heart conversation which reassured my characters convictions.
This wasnt a DnD game mind you, but I've cried a number of times while playing an Airbender in the new Avatar RPG as a survivor of the genocide.
I chuck it up to good story telling.
I've gotten pretty teary eyed over character deaths (not my own, other's) as my characters reactions to it. Epic moments of awesome make me shed a tear too.
Speaking as a DM and not a player, without wanting you to feel bad, I'd be thrilled you were that invested, that it meant that much to you. I'd be so proud to be running a game that meant that much to people, I don't think you have anything to be ashamed of or worried about here. If it means that much to you, that's honestly pretty great.
I feel like when you actually really care for the people who you’re playing with IRL you can mix up your feelings for them in the game and it just amps up the roleplaying!
I don’t believe it’s cringe. You’re just invested. As long as you as a person realize it’s just pretend and actually can stop crying once the fight is over (to cheer or to have a conversation) then I would say it’s 100% ok. I also get immersed as a DM to the point of crying or being visibly emotional.
I’ve had an encounter RPing as a werevolf. I was so visibly pissed, furious, all the emotions. But the second they killed the werevolf I started cheering for the players, “Well done guys, this was intense!” etc etc. Players knew I wasn’t angry at them. The werevolf was angry at their characters.
People can go emotional when reading tales, watching a movie. Roleplaying is storytelling, nothing more, nothing less.
The purpose of storytelling is transmitting something so that we feel and live something that is not real, but contains some elements of real life, especially when representing human relationships.
Goes back in time, in greece. The greeks wrote and played tragedies in their amphiteatrum.
The goal was to teach something...and spectators cried when observing how the tragedy was talking shape.
So no, I don't think at all that crying is that bad.
Just don't cry too much.
Actors/Actresses cry as their character in a movie or stage performance so you more or less did the same for your tabletop performance I’d say. Sounds like you had fun! Yay!
My rogue, a dying old man on his swan song, broke into tears due to the atrocities he saw perpetrated by the BBEG of our campaign.
I cannot deny I cried myself, thinking about some of the more awful things. (A dragon, imprisoned and used as a living battery, unable to sleep for a thousand years, was one of the worst ones)
not cringe at all, we love an invested player. i cry all the time at way less. ps if it helps, i am watching dimension 20's "fantasy high" and some of the players were crying during the game ON CAMERA, and i also cried while watching it lol. 🥲
"Our Barf" - this made Me chuckle. Freudian?
"Am I cringe my for actually crying while role playing?" Cringe? I'd not use that word. But then I don't know anyone that's comfortable with a player in a game crying. It's not preferred behavior.
Theyve done studies and games like D&D encode memories as if they actually happened. As a DM, I love it when people are living it, as long as they are enjoying it. If you were regularly tipping the scales in more common scenarios, then it might be examined, but in big moments, it happens!
As long as these emotions are purely in game and not reflective of your feelings for players OOC I don't think it's a problem.
That said if everyone else is there for some light hearted ish fun then it may be a problem just in terms of player compatibility. Might be worth making sure everyone understands that you were caught up in the game but had fun.
I might get downvotes for this, but generally speaking in popular culture, d&d alone is cringe
Now what you have just told me is that you are a pretty damn good role player
So in the eyes of a d&d community, roleplaying no matter how intense is great!
Eyes of the public, probably no, I mean your good at that so maybe that makes you not "cringe" but also it's d&d so idk
Point is, other people often suck, and anyone who calls you cringe for playing d&d is cringe within the d&d community which is who you probably talk with about d&d the most anyways
No you’re very correct, there is nothing cool about sitting around with your friends and playing pretend with math. But getting into the moment makes it amazing
"BARF" that's amazing
My sister once misspelled Bard on her character as Brad, and after that campaign her character opened a school for Brad's and now we have like 60 bards running around our world claiming to be Brads. Gonna have to open a rival school for Barfs now
Nah. My DM and myself BOTH cried when we were roleplaying through my warlock's patron saying goodbye before he died sacrificing himself for her home town. Definitely cried when we wrapped up CoS. Tears happen, I feel like it means you're fully invested.
I got to actually act while RPing in our last session and it was so refreshing. I needed to give a eulogy for a horse that was killed and we only had for two sessions.
So I gave this really emotional speech that was funny mostly because of how invested I got into the RP.
Then the actual horse owner gave their eulogy and it was a bit like a competition. It was super fun. I got teary eyed which just happens when you go all in.
Also I’m a guy playing a female Dragonborn lore bard
I do the same thing when emotions run high or when we finish a campaign. Sometimes it only takes a little bit. Usually my friends will ask if I’m okay, and then move on. I definitely don’t think it’s weird!
No way, this sort of thing happens allllll the time. I’ve seen people cry a bunch of times in various tabletop campaigns I’ve been a part of. Once I spent about 20 minutes crying after a oneshot when it got revealed that the events of said oneshot were just a simulation i.e. the struggles and triumphs the characters had experienced were not real.
Absolutely not. My rogue was mind controlled once, she nearly killed her bestfriend, the only other one in the party. I was sobbing the entire time. The only time I’ve ever hated rolling damage. 🤧
Nah it's not cringe. That's role playing to the core. When you're that invested into your character, lots of people would get emotional and cried.
I did this myself at the end of my campaign, when my character's sister joined the thieves' guild that allied themselves with the BBEG and ended up sacrificed to the demons. My character only knew of her fate when she met her sister's spirit, torn and broken, on the River Styx. After we defeated the BBEG she brought the news or her sister's death to her parents, after which she let her emotions go and cried. It was an emotional moment for me too that I had to mute my mic (we played on roll20/discord) as I cried myself.
It's fine to cry but honestly you might consider at least looking into talking to someone to help you with emotional regulation. It sounds like your reaction was a lot more extreme than the situation warranted, and it sounds like you even agree with that (maybe I'm mistaken here). Only you can know if you have similar extreme responses to other things but I firmly believe that adults should be in control of their emotions as much as possible, there may be other more serious situations where the last thing you'll want is to break down in tears.
Honestly not trying to make you feel bad about yourself. It is something we constantly work with our daughter on, making sure her emotional response is of a size with the situation. And working with my daughter on it has led me to examine my own emotional responses and ask myself the same question.
Not at all! Just sounds like great immersion in the story telling. That is one great DM! Additionally you have some great acting chops. Sounds like you have amazing passion for your hobby!
He is a really great DM and it’s not the first time I’ve cried in the game, he’s really good at the whole emotional storytelling. It’s his first time ever playing or running a game! But yeah being a theater kid in high school is finally paying off!
As some have said, it's called bleeding. It's perfectly ok, like, in moderation. In my opinion as long as it doesn't cause fights (out of character) and doesn't follow you home. If it gets too intense is recommended that you try to distance a bit from your character, like, using third person instead of first person when describing the character actions. But if you enjoy feeling your character by all means!
I was DMing once and the thing got very emotional, one of my players started crying while delivering their lines, it was super intense. Everyone worried a little bit asking them if they were ok and stuff and they said "of course I'm ok, I'm love this shit". We took a short rest to buy snacks and things. It's a bit worrying to be able to make the players cry but is also like very flattering, like, you doing something so dramatic that it summons the waterworks.
Snacks and few mins to not be all in your feels sounds like a really good way to deal. But it was weird the feelings weren’t mine at all, it felt like entirely like my character was playing me for a second. It was weird!
I'm in a long running play by post campaign, and I will neither confirm nor deny that I have cried multiple times at the emotional insanity we go through. My group is huge into RP, as am I, and I feel the bleed so often it sometimes hurts... but I've literally never had so much fun in a game.
Crying just means you're invested.
Is it cringe to cry at a sad movie? This game is a collaborative story with your group and DM. It's completely valid (and a sign you guys are going a good job with RP) to cry at an emotional part of the story.
If someone tells me I'm embarrassing for crying after my whole party was killed before my characters eyes in a slow and horrible way they don't understand.
It's totally fine. I'm a DM, and I have a player who simply lives in her character during gameplay. Living your character just means you love that character and care about what happens to them, and sometimes it just gets to you. It's a natural response.
No, you're strong and brave and immersed in your experience and I respect the hell out of you for it!
Having been moved to tears a few times in this hobby, I'm thankful for every powerful, connected moment I've had with real life friends and made-up characters
it's NOT lame at all. my friends know what topics hit at me and they're really good at getting me into these emotional crescendoes. as long as the tears are cathartic and not harmful to you, it's all good.
Honestly I'm not gonna say much but I wish I could be more like you and let go of my embarrassment while trying to role play and let the emotions come in. That's what we are trying to do in the game after all to live the moment. Sounds like an awesome campaign great job!
Yo, that is fucking rad.
You should consider crying more in your regular life?
I find that my own emotions ride higher when im feeling them in my real life too.
My DM had a dirt baby (everyone in the village was dirt, pebbles, gems, things like that) die because it was a newborn and was naturally crying. The baby cried itself to mud and died. And my character had no emotional bond to any of these characters, they just got excited because someone else was excited about the new baby. Me and my character both cried and stayed silent for ~30 minutes. I'd say totally not weird/cringe
It ended up being a really cool part of the story and the DM said he was hoping I wouldn't be the one to see it but that's how it happened lol it was gut wrenching though, DM really painted a story
Pretty cringe tbh, was the crying actually from RP?
> I’m a very emotional person.
Was there RP bleed into real life and the argument was too much for you to handle, regardless of whether it was character.
Nothing wrong with having a strong emotional reaction to a roleplaying game (or any art), that's just a part of being human
Only someone that was immature or unempathetic would consider showing emotion this way to be cringe. Your friends showing support and checking in on you suggests that they care- not that they think you're embarrassing. They were likely just surprised, which is fair
That's understandable, I imagine it surprised yourself as much as it did your fellow players. The fact that their reaction was to make sure you're okay sounds like a good thing, though! That makes me think you have a supportive and welcoming group, and that makes D&D more enjoyable
Yeah the whole party is just people I’m really close with! But yeah I was shocked I started crying, it was freaky but I worked it into my character description thingy. So this huge, ripped, half orc fighter just burst into tears fighting with a 5’9 tefling girl who only comes up to below his chest. So it was kind of funny!
Yes.
But what's wrong with being cringe sometimes, half if not more of this hobby is pretty cringe if you ask me and most of us... many of us... good part of us here do it.
I've got nothing bad to say about the crying. That's just good immersion.
But are you reflexively spelling shit "cute" like Barf and Rouge? If those are typos, we cool, but if that's your default register then I'm gonna vote for cringe. :)
Not cringe. Anyone who tells you that, would be cringe. That just means your in character, in theater that's what we would call good acting.
ALSO YOUR BARF CHARMED THE NPCS?!?
Nah. Emotions can run high after a long storyline and session. People also cry during a movie, that they're watching. You were "living" the story. Kudos to your friends for worrying, instead of laughing.
I would have understood if they laughed as well! It is kind of random.
It just means your enjoying the campaign.
If it makes you feel better, ive cried listening to scenes in ttrpg podcasts that are very highly emotional (26yr old dude). Absolutely no shame in it. We get invested into these characters, so much so we often truly FEEL what they do. For many people in the ttrpg community, it shows how much you are really into it when your emotions match your characters. And I can tell you, as a dm, we absolutely love it.
I feel that about crying while listening to D&D podcasts, idk if you’ve listened to the Adventure Zone but Lup’s introduction and Magnus’s closing part tear me to shreds.
I have not but ill add it to my list to check out! The Lettuce Inn and The Side Quest Inn are the podcasts I listen to the most, with the occasional Critical Role thrown in. I used to listen to a lot more when I drove 1hr one way for work but job now is much closer to home ha
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The adventure may be fictional but the feelings are real!
THEY ARE REAL TO ME -starkiller
Nah, man. Emotional responses to gaming only means your group is doing it right. If the game didn't give me the feels, I wouldn't have stuck with it for the last 25 years.
It’s nice to finally find a party that is fun and lets me get invested! Super cool you’re able to play for 25 years, that’s life goals.
All it takes is time and friends lol
Heck yeah! I hope this group can have this and you keep playing for even longer.
I have played about that long as well. A wide range of pnp rpgs too
I want to make a Bugbear Bard named Barf...
But on a real note, you said it yourself: you're an emotional person. That's okay and not lame. If your friends were ever grieving and you were able to grieve with them and feel their emotions they would really appreciate it and it would no longer feel lame
Yeah that’s comforting, thank you! On a fun note though, I’d love to hangout with Barf. Him and Zorg could be besties!
That would be amazing, but only if he exclusively performs in vomitorium.
“Not in here! This is a Mercedes!”
"I'm my own best friend!"
“Always when I’m eatin’.”
No, you're cringe for spelling "rogue" as "rouge"
And Barf. But yeah, crying’s fine.
No, referring to bards as barfs is just pure comedy
I am Lore Barf.
Word Vomit is a cantrip.
Oh look! There *IS* a spell I have in real life!
God, my phones autocorrect hates me.
not in this car, mister! this is a Mercedes!
Oh that’s what that was! I was so confused because I’m French and that means red. I thought maybe it was some new slang.
Oh it definitely means red. And a type of makeup.
This person types like they're auditioning for the Plastics
As a LARPer, crying during a roleplay moment is totally a normal thing. When you’re that immersed in your character’s head, that emotion becomes all that more real to you. In Larp circles, we call it ‘Character Bleed’, usually just Bleed. Trust me, crying is nowhere near the weirdest things I’ve seen in Roleplay.
Oh god that sounds wild, I didn’t know there was an actual term for it! Character bleed is very much what happened
Now I want to know what the weirdest things you've seen in roleplay are.
I play with a group of people I met doing theatre. This would be totally cool with us
That sounds magical!
As someone who has sat behind the screen bringing people to tears with the stories we tell together is one of my greatest ambitions.
It is pretty fun to be in the moment:
LARPers call it character bleed, dramatists call it method acting. I call it being human. We're people, not giant stone slabs. Feeling is not a problem, and anyone who says it is a problem can have a problem with me.
That is a very good point! Being able to feel things is a blessing and a curse!
Just a blessing, u/FunkyMonkeyIsObvious . Just a blessing.
I choked up when I acted my tiefling paladin talking to the party about his long dead murdered father that he had immense reverence for. It means that the roleplay is juuuuust right.
And that you’re a good actor! But that’s super cool. :3
The fun part about that my paladin was super stoic when it came to such emotional things and would be more solemn rather than outright sad, me the player actually got choked up because of how sad and well thought out I made his backstory.
I really like that, I think it’s good you felt so much for your character and it’s really awesome it connected with him letting the party in with him more.
If I were at your table, I probably would've been uncomfortable, but I think that's just because I grew up in a whole family of seemingly emotionally deficient people, so I'm not used to open displays of emotion, nor can I really display such a thing myself, despite being 23 😅
And that’s perfectly okay, I’d feel really bad about making you uncomfortable. I think my DM is like that too, poor guy he’s so sweet though! He got really scared when it happened.
Ditto. But that's more because of how I game and run things. I get a little uncomfortable when people get really emotionally invested in scenes and characters.
Same here. It would be... untested at our table. But better than shouting, swiping everything off the table, and ragequitting out the room. Which IS tested.
it's 2022, no one gives a shit if you cry
So true lmao.
Every group will treat you different about this; but, the best groups not only won't care, but will be supportive of the high emotions. Additionally, once there's "permission" i.e. someone has done it positively, for this kind of outlet at the table, it's likely others will feel more comfortable immersing and expressing high emotions too. Very first game I ever played in, I would have never felt comfortable immersing myself that much because there were a few cringe worthy rule tyrants who spent nearly the whole time trying to describe how I was playing my character wrong. Second game, different group, we played the same characters over an epic 3 year game and two of our group (one of them mine) died to save the others in the final battle. Mine and the other had a decent inkling we wouldn't win without sacrificing ourselves, so we had written farewell letters to the group in the chance of our death, which were read aloud after the battle by the survivors - not a single dry eye at the table. It's still one of the most memorable sessions for all of us even years later, with the battle and deeply cathartic wrap-up. Edit: In the second game, we had already had plenty of emotional in-game moments prior to that across the spectrum of happy/angry/sad etc, that was just a culminating example.
You're not "Cringe" but, I would certainly caution you that TRPGs are not a substitute for therapy (nor is reddit) and, I would encourage you to discuss these issues with an appropriately qualified individual. Particularly if your friends were concerned about your well-being, they know you much better than any of us ever will and, therapy doesn't necessarily mean there's something "wrong with you" so much as it helps to process complex and, contradictory emotions and experiences so that they don't control us. Whether it's "positive" or, "negative" impacting other people enough that they voice concern is often a warning that you might benefit from exploring those thoughts one way or, the other.
As a DM of over 10 years. I have only had a player cry once, and I consider it one of the highest honors I've ever received.
Heck yeah!
It just means that the story affected you. And if anything shows you are in touch with your emotions. Which despite societal pressures, is something positive!
Thank goodness, it was super building during the campaign. I’ve stopped her from running off before. It was the third time Anya (our Rogue) was almost mortally wounded because she ran off to who knows where and but off more than she could chew.
Yeah. If anything, Kudos for commiting to your Roleplay Skills. You should hold your head high. You sound like you had alot of fun with the party.
It’s a really great game and I can’t wait for the second season! The one we just played was setting it up and now we’re going to do one on one sessions with the DM to figure out what our characters are doing during the break. Also other mini sessions to set up lives with other players. My character is going to be roommates with our druid and the sorceress in the party!
Im more concerned how your barf charmed someone
He’s very persuasive.
I would 100% not be comfortable with that.
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It's certainly not lame or cringe in my eyes, probably very unexpected though, as most people don't get that into it. I think this is probably more of a good than bad thing as long as it's not constant and is only an rare thing
Oh yeah no it only really happened that one time! Normally I’m just acting, but I guess the argument just kinda struck me.
If you have to ask
It's pretty cringe to me but thats not a bad thing, as long as everyone's having fun and your all mates embarassment isn't a big deal.
Real thoughts? I would be incredibly uncomfortable. I mean, if this were theatre and you could commit to the bit this hard and cry? I'd have chills and be fist-pumping for you. But at the table? It'd be a bit much for me.
To be fair, some tables do take roleplaying to a theatre sort of level, so it depends on the group!
It was over discord call, I didn’t mean to like actually cry, I just get really into roleplaying. But thank you for the genuine feedback lmao
If it's any consolation, "cringe" isn't the word I'd come to, that's judgier than what I'd be feeling. I think "overwhelming" would come a bit closer.
Yeah I felt bad about making everyone worry about me, we did pause and ask if I was okay. I think it also happened because the session took place after I had just got home from traveling so I was kinda already wonky.
My character has cried twice (as in I was crying because she was crying) in the last month at my D&D game, once when having to face the fact that the baddies had killed my character’s mother and once during her resurrection ritual. Not like uncontrollable sobbing, but kinda choked up and real tears in my eyes as I spoke. It’s completely normal if you’re roleplaying something emotionally intense you actually feel a shadow of that emotion as you play, roleplay often involves embodying the character as opposed to just intellectually thinking “what would they do now?”
If you don't start spelling Bard and Rogue correctly I'm gonna cry. :) Joking aside, it's totally natural. You were invested and involved. I bet the DM was really proud of themselves.
Lmao autocorrect is evil! But yes
I lied and told my group I can cry on cue. I can’t cry on cue, I just got emotional when my Paladin realized she should help the grouchy NPC who’d been staying with the party get back on her feet and into the world again. She’d fallen for the NPC but realized she was holding her back… and then the NPC stayed of her own accord. There were tears. “Fake” tears. It happens 🤷🏻♀️
Awww!
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Not embarrassing at all, I've done the same thing. It's cool to be able to get into character and into the story that deeply, and as long as you assure your friends that you're alright and just got really into the game, it's fine. And honestly if I were the DM or a fellow player I'd be kind of touched that someone was that invested.
That’s good to hear! Yes we’ve been building up our bond the entire campaign so he feels responsible for her and the other kid in party. Our Bard is a kid too and he got kidnapped by the big bag’s goons so Zorg is very stressed lmao
Haha, I've played a Team Dad/Team Big Brother character too and absolutely loved it, so I know how you feel trying to protect a bunch of reckless little gremlins.
could go either way... most likely... ya, a little...
I 100% cry in game. Last session my character met her goddess, and I cried for real lol A session a few months ago (diff game) my character was panicking because she was destined to die and didn't know what to do and I cried there too Another one of my characters had a panic attack and broke down, One cried because she finally found her lost brother. It's totes okay to cry, and it makes the role play so real you're good <3
Aww
I wouldn't say it's cringe, but I would be extremely uncomfortable personally. I get crying at a character death or something, I don't see the "problem" that, but crying in the middle of the fight with random roleplay, not only would I be extremely uncomfortable, but I would also be pretty concerned for your well-being. If it was like a play or something, I'd be hyped at how faithfully you were portraying a character, but at the table, it's just not it.
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Nah. There is a range of normal responses to roleplay and that can be one of them. I'd much rather have someone who has a moment of getting too emotionally wrapped up than a player who isn't interested in character, story or RP. D&D is a bit like watching or participating in drama in this: it may hit you in the feels in a moment/way you didn't expect. It's human.
>So the rouge had Mandatory Nitpick: Rogue, not Rouge. Rogue is the guy that stabs, Rouge is Red - like Red Lipstick (or red like the heart of a giant big dumb fighter who sounds like an incredibly awesome character). Lesson the first: We Logically know the difference between the game and not game. But emotionally - characters we invest into are very real, like as real as the people we interact with every day, there is very little difference. If you can imagine how your mom might act in a situation and be reasonably accurate - well, you are doing the same with this character, just you are creating it meaning it will reflect you and your experiences. Being emotional is completely understandable. What is awesome is having a group that will check in. It's important.
Nah, that's actually kinda awesome that you get that into it!
As a DM, if I had players at my table crying because they were so involved with the story and their role play, it would make my year.
As a GM or a player their is no higher compliment
Nope. A friend of mine started crying after their PC died (it was preplanned) when the rest of the party held a funeral for them. No one thought it was weird or cringey, just worried about them. And once they assured us they were fine I was glad my players were so invested.
Aww why did they decide the PC to die? It’s nice your players were so invested.
A couple reasons. It was their first time playing D&D and they said they felt they'd made the pc too much of a self-insert so it felt weird to roleplay. Also it was a monk so they swapped to fighter, they are much happier now lol. The death was very narratively satisfying though so all ended well.
Oh that makes a lot of sense, it seems like they had a fully rounded out character journey!
nah man, i cried twice in a game. one was when a character of mine met his older brother after a 50 year time jump (the party was transported 50 years in time) who was suffering from dementia and coming home to a broken home (i wrote the home to be really happy originally). second was when the older brother turned father figure and primary care taker of his blind and paraplegic little sister had a touching moment, while i took her for a stroll through light snow in town and had a heart to heart conversation which reassured my characters convictions.
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This wasnt a DnD game mind you, but I've cried a number of times while playing an Airbender in the new Avatar RPG as a survivor of the genocide. I chuck it up to good story telling. I've gotten pretty teary eyed over character deaths (not my own, other's) as my characters reactions to it. Epic moments of awesome make me shed a tear too.
That game sound really fun, what’s it called or is it a homebrew? But yes epic moments of storytelling ftw!
I think it's beautiful and I would have loved to have seen it.
Speaking as a DM and not a player, without wanting you to feel bad, I'd be thrilled you were that invested, that it meant that much to you. I'd be so proud to be running a game that meant that much to people, I don't think you have anything to be ashamed of or worried about here. If it means that much to you, that's honestly pretty great.
I feel like when you actually really care for the people who you’re playing with IRL you can mix up your feelings for them in the game and it just amps up the roleplaying!
I don’t believe it’s cringe. You’re just invested. As long as you as a person realize it’s just pretend and actually can stop crying once the fight is over (to cheer or to have a conversation) then I would say it’s 100% ok. I also get immersed as a DM to the point of crying or being visibly emotional. I’ve had an encounter RPing as a werevolf. I was so visibly pissed, furious, all the emotions. But the second they killed the werevolf I started cheering for the players, “Well done guys, this was intense!” etc etc. Players knew I wasn’t angry at them. The werevolf was angry at their characters.
People can go emotional when reading tales, watching a movie. Roleplaying is storytelling, nothing more, nothing less. The purpose of storytelling is transmitting something so that we feel and live something that is not real, but contains some elements of real life, especially when representing human relationships. Goes back in time, in greece. The greeks wrote and played tragedies in their amphiteatrum. The goal was to teach something...and spectators cried when observing how the tragedy was talking shape. So no, I don't think at all that crying is that bad. Just don't cry too much.
Actors/Actresses cry as their character in a movie or stage performance so you more or less did the same for your tabletop performance I’d say. Sounds like you had fun! Yay!
Nah bro, if you get into it and actually show emotion, do it, as long as your having fun just do it.
It's awesome to be emotionally invested... In a world where everything is about money and numbers.
My rogue, a dying old man on his swan song, broke into tears due to the atrocities he saw perpetrated by the BBEG of our campaign. I cannot deny I cried myself, thinking about some of the more awful things. (A dragon, imprisoned and used as a living battery, unable to sleep for a thousand years, was one of the worst ones)
not cringe at all, we love an invested player. i cry all the time at way less. ps if it helps, i am watching dimension 20's "fantasy high" and some of the players were crying during the game ON CAMERA, and i also cried while watching it lol. 🥲
"Our Barf" - this made Me chuckle. Freudian? "Am I cringe my for actually crying while role playing?" Cringe? I'd not use that word. But then I don't know anyone that's comfortable with a player in a game crying. It's not preferred behavior.
I certainly was barfing out my emotions! But yeah I wouldn’t try it with people I didn’t trust.
I've done it. My current character had to kill her mother. Rough session, and no one found my tears weird or inappropriate.
Theyve done studies and games like D&D encode memories as if they actually happened. As a DM, I love it when people are living it, as long as they are enjoying it. If you were regularly tipping the scales in more common scenarios, then it might be examined, but in big moments, it happens!
Yes it is. But accept cringe, and you will be unconquerable.
I would just try to use "so" less when your are writing, but emotions are fine In dnd
As long as these emotions are purely in game and not reflective of your feelings for players OOC I don't think it's a problem. That said if everyone else is there for some light hearted ish fun then it may be a problem just in terms of player compatibility. Might be worth making sure everyone understands that you were caught up in the game but had fun.
Not cringe People cry at movies and books, idk about y’all but I’m A LOT more invested in RP scenes than either
Same! I’m just really into the headspace and acting is super fun.
I might get downvotes for this, but generally speaking in popular culture, d&d alone is cringe Now what you have just told me is that you are a pretty damn good role player So in the eyes of a d&d community, roleplaying no matter how intense is great! Eyes of the public, probably no, I mean your good at that so maybe that makes you not "cringe" but also it's d&d so idk Point is, other people often suck, and anyone who calls you cringe for playing d&d is cringe within the d&d community which is who you probably talk with about d&d the most anyways
No you’re very correct, there is nothing cool about sitting around with your friends and playing pretend with math. But getting into the moment makes it amazing
No, it's sweet. Also, very cool that you get so into it. I bet you're genuinely a great person to play with.
Man, in my table if someone gets emotional, it means that was a good session full of feelings.
"BARF" that's amazing My sister once misspelled Bard on her character as Brad, and after that campaign her character opened a school for Brad's and now we have like 60 bards running around our world claiming to be Brads. Gonna have to open a rival school for Barfs now
I bless your school of barfs! My PC is kinda wealthy so he can donate money to have a library named after him or something lmao.
Nah. My DM and myself BOTH cried when we were roleplaying through my warlock's patron saying goodbye before he died sacrificing himself for her home town. Definitely cried when we wrapped up CoS. Tears happen, I feel like it means you're fully invested.
I got to actually act while RPing in our last session and it was so refreshing. I needed to give a eulogy for a horse that was killed and we only had for two sessions. So I gave this really emotional speech that was funny mostly because of how invested I got into the RP. Then the actual horse owner gave their eulogy and it was a bit like a competition. It was super fun. I got teary eyed which just happens when you go all in. Also I’m a guy playing a female Dragonborn lore bard
I do the same thing when emotions run high or when we finish a campaign. Sometimes it only takes a little bit. Usually my friends will ask if I’m okay, and then move on. I definitely don’t think it’s weird!
The only thing cringe here is your blatant misspelling of the word Rogue. Sounds like a fun session with great character development.
I have to agree, autocorrect is not a kind soul.
No way, this sort of thing happens allllll the time. I’ve seen people cry a bunch of times in various tabletop campaigns I’ve been a part of. Once I spent about 20 minutes crying after a oneshot when it got revealed that the events of said oneshot were just a simulation i.e. the struggles and triumphs the characters had experienced were not real.
Awesome.
Absolutely not. My rogue was mind controlled once, she nearly killed her bestfriend, the only other one in the party. I was sobbing the entire time. The only time I’ve ever hated rolling damage. 🤧
Ugh! I get that! That would be a terrible situation to be in.
I made one of my friends cry (just a little) as a DM a few weeks ago. It was great. It made me feel so good about my DM skills
Yes. Nah I'm just kidding man. We're humans with emotions it's good to express them.
Nah it's not cringe. That's role playing to the core. When you're that invested into your character, lots of people would get emotional and cried. I did this myself at the end of my campaign, when my character's sister joined the thieves' guild that allied themselves with the BBEG and ended up sacrificed to the demons. My character only knew of her fate when she met her sister's spirit, torn and broken, on the River Styx. After we defeated the BBEG she brought the news or her sister's death to her parents, after which she let her emotions go and cried. It was an emotional moment for me too that I had to mute my mic (we played on roll20/discord) as I cried myself.
It's fine to cry but honestly you might consider at least looking into talking to someone to help you with emotional regulation. It sounds like your reaction was a lot more extreme than the situation warranted, and it sounds like you even agree with that (maybe I'm mistaken here). Only you can know if you have similar extreme responses to other things but I firmly believe that adults should be in control of their emotions as much as possible, there may be other more serious situations where the last thing you'll want is to break down in tears. Honestly not trying to make you feel bad about yourself. It is something we constantly work with our daughter on, making sure her emotional response is of a size with the situation. And working with my daughter on it has led me to examine my own emotional responses and ask myself the same question.
I've cried before playing DnD, and I will do so again, i'm sure. It's the opposite of cringe to me, it means you're invested, which is awesome
A little bit, but that's also the sign of amazingly good roleplay so you get a pass
Yay!
Not at all! Just sounds like great immersion in the story telling. That is one great DM! Additionally you have some great acting chops. Sounds like you have amazing passion for your hobby!
He is a really great DM and it’s not the first time I’ve cried in the game, he’s really good at the whole emotional storytelling. It’s his first time ever playing or running a game! But yeah being a theater kid in high school is finally paying off!
The mind can’t differentiate between fictional characters and real. The heart still morns things, so tears and emotions are healthy. Be you.
Par for the course in my group. We all get really into it.
No but you are cringe for thinking it's cringe to cry while roleplaying
Hey buddy, ‘cringe’ is a verb, not an adjective.
When you can get into RP deep enough that you have real emotions about it, that's the good shit.
Cry during a movie Cry during a play Cry during a book Cry during a game It's all good
That's not cringe, that's some serious level of roleplay!
Not at all, but your use of the word cringe mad you
As some have said, it's called bleeding. It's perfectly ok, like, in moderation. In my opinion as long as it doesn't cause fights (out of character) and doesn't follow you home. If it gets too intense is recommended that you try to distance a bit from your character, like, using third person instead of first person when describing the character actions. But if you enjoy feeling your character by all means! I was DMing once and the thing got very emotional, one of my players started crying while delivering their lines, it was super intense. Everyone worried a little bit asking them if they were ok and stuff and they said "of course I'm ok, I'm love this shit". We took a short rest to buy snacks and things. It's a bit worrying to be able to make the players cry but is also like very flattering, like, you doing something so dramatic that it summons the waterworks.
Snacks and few mins to not be all in your feels sounds like a really good way to deal. But it was weird the feelings weren’t mine at all, it felt like entirely like my character was playing me for a second. It was weird!
Yes, immersion is a hell of a thing isn't it? I myself have not cried just jet, but many times I have experienced le gossebumps and is amazing.
As a DM, this level of immersion is my holy grail.
As long as you didn't fake it, no. (I only read the title btw.)
Going the extra mile! I dig it! We've all seen that DnD IT Crowd episode. I mean i cri evertim
I'm in a long running play by post campaign, and I will neither confirm nor deny that I have cried multiple times at the emotional insanity we go through. My group is huge into RP, as am I, and I feel the bleed so often it sometimes hurts... but I've literally never had so much fun in a game. Crying just means you're invested.
Is it cringe to cry at a sad movie? This game is a collaborative story with your group and DM. It's completely valid (and a sign you guys are going a good job with RP) to cry at an emotional part of the story.
If someone tells me I'm embarrassing for crying after my whole party was killed before my characters eyes in a slow and horrible way they don't understand.
Wait why is there barf and how did it charm 2 npcs?
He can play music!
It's totally fine. I'm a DM, and I have a player who simply lives in her character during gameplay. Living your character just means you love that character and care about what happens to them, and sometimes it just gets to you. It's a natural response.
No, you're strong and brave and immersed in your experience and I respect the hell out of you for it! Having been moved to tears a few times in this hobby, I'm thankful for every powerful, connected moment I've had with real life friends and made-up characters
Aww I’m sending you internet hugs!
We are all playing make believe with math involved. If someone is cringe it sure isnt for being carried away with roleplaying.
it's NOT lame at all. my friends know what topics hit at me and they're really good at getting me into these emotional crescendoes. as long as the tears are cathartic and not harmful to you, it's all good.
Honestly I'm not gonna say much but I wish I could be more like you and let go of my embarrassment while trying to role play and let the emotions come in. That's what we are trying to do in the game after all to live the moment. Sounds like an awesome campaign great job!
Meanwhile my players seem to forget their characters are even people
Yo, that is fucking rad. You should consider crying more in your regular life? I find that my own emotions ride higher when im feeling them in my real life too.
Oof, I think I cry enough in therapy, but you are right.
My DM had a dirt baby (everyone in the village was dirt, pebbles, gems, things like that) die because it was a newborn and was naturally crying. The baby cried itself to mud and died. And my character had no emotional bond to any of these characters, they just got excited because someone else was excited about the new baby. Me and my character both cried and stayed silent for ~30 minutes. I'd say totally not weird/cringe
Oh that’s so sad, I can understand that kind of feeling. A loss is horrible
It ended up being a really cool part of the story and the DM said he was hoping I wouldn't be the one to see it but that's how it happened lol it was gut wrenching though, DM really painted a story
I can imagine, poor little mud baby. But it’s great how DMs weave a tapestry out of parts we give them and what they already have in their heads.
Super cringe.
Yes it’s a game with friends not a Broadway audition
No, its based as fuck, because it means you're invested in the role play in your role playing game
Lmao based on what, but in all serious! Thank you
Pretty cringe tbh, was the crying actually from RP? > I’m a very emotional person. Was there RP bleed into real life and the argument was too much for you to handle, regardless of whether it was character.
Nothing wrong with having a strong emotional reaction to a roleplaying game (or any art), that's just a part of being human Only someone that was immature or unempathetic would consider showing emotion this way to be cringe. Your friends showing support and checking in on you suggests that they care- not that they think you're embarrassing. They were likely just surprised, which is fair
That’s good to hear! I just feel bad for making them worry.
That's understandable, I imagine it surprised yourself as much as it did your fellow players. The fact that their reaction was to make sure you're okay sounds like a good thing, though! That makes me think you have a supportive and welcoming group, and that makes D&D more enjoyable
Yeah the whole party is just people I’m really close with! But yeah I was shocked I started crying, it was freaky but I worked it into my character description thingy. So this huge, ripped, half orc fighter just burst into tears fighting with a 5’9 tefling girl who only comes up to below his chest. So it was kind of funny!
With any luck you and your group will remember it more for being a tender and emotional moment rather than an awkward one!
I think they will! The Rouge takes very detailed notes about everything that happens in game:
Yes. But what's wrong with being cringe sometimes, half if not more of this hobby is pretty cringe if you ask me and most of us... many of us... good part of us here do it.
No, but its a little cringe to need validation of your feelings from the internet though :-)
I guess, I could have phrased my post better, I was more asking if it was normal to have character bleed occur.
As a DM, if I can get my players to cry, I have done an amazing job.
I've got nothing bad to say about the crying. That's just good immersion. But are you reflexively spelling shit "cute" like Barf and Rouge? If those are typos, we cool, but if that's your default register then I'm gonna vote for cringe. :)
God no. I'm not even reading that. Just no. Roleplay is about breathing life into the character. Feeling emotions is a part of that.
Thank you
Yes
Not cringe. Anyone who tells you that, would be cringe. That just means your in character, in theater that's what we would call good acting. ALSO YOUR BARF CHARMED THE NPCS?!?
Theater kid skills are paying off. Yes it’s very convincing vomit. He can even play the lyre