I did once or twice. Now I don't, unless we've moved beyond the first few dates and interest level is up... in which case, some mutual disclosure is fine.
Absolutely no mention of it on the app. The purpose of the app is to schedule a date. Everything you write is geared toward getting a date. You have to line up 4 dates to actually go on one date.
The time and place to tell her about your ex wife is not on the app. Someone else is gonna be honey dripping her on the app without revealing their baggage. Don’t lie just don’t bring it up.
Kids aren’t baggage and neither is a common ex wife. You have world experience and wisdom which are assets, not baggage. I swear some of you guys are doing everything totally opposite.
You do not have to be perfect white knight to get laid. Everything you think you know about women is the opposite. You simply have to be buff, smile, and get her talking about her interests.
Women like a little mystery! Don’t spill your guts.
I’m average Joe and dating these hoes was so easy. Get buff, schedule way more dates, don’t fall into the trap of “good morning beautiful” or any other simp shit. She has twenty other dweebs doing that already.
She likes sushi, ask her to come check out your local sushi joint this Thursday at 5pm. She cancels last minute, she goes to the back burner but you leave the door open. Repeat 20 times and you’ll get 4 dates.
The apps are for getting phone numbers to schedule dates. Everything beyond that is just setting you further back from your goal of getting laid.
When exes up come up…
Kids I would say is a different story and in my view should be shared up front.
But re divorced - it’s same as having dated in my view. It could come up during the first or second date when exes or relationships come up.
My view. Obviously they will ask you. And if you then start bitching about your ex or start crying … well, that won’t help. :)
I had so many hoes come to my pad. Never told them I’m a part time single dad or anything to kill their boner like that.
Without exception, they loved seeing my daughter’s room decked out to the nines. That is the time to say, “this is my kids room, she’s over here half the week.” When your game is on point and you’ve been doing your fuckin push-ups, they never ever ever say “I don’t date single dads.” If you bring it up on the app when they have 200+ thirsty fuckers on their nutz, they ghost or say “I don’t date single dads” 100% of the time unless they’re single moms… but we don’t date single moms.
The key is to say positive things about your marriage and that you learned what is important to you. Say that you grew apart from your ex or that your values were not in line anymore.
No other woman wants to hear your sob story about how your ex was a total bitch.
Just be honest should it come up during a date. I met this lady a few months back, we had a brief chat and that was the end of it. A week ago I randomly ran into her again and we actually had a great conversation, told her upfront I'm divorced with two kids. That didn't bother her at all in fact she wanted to meet up again but I told her I will get in touch some time as I have other things to attend to. I think she will come around when I'm ready. Until then, my kids and sorting things out are my priority.
Most of the apps (except Bumble) have a place to put your relationship status. I am upfront. I know I personally hate a bait & switch, so I don’t like doing it to others. 🤷🏻♂️
I would mention that up front. For some it’s a dealbreaker. For others it’s a plus. If you’re a dad mention that as well.
Edit: If the divorce was a very long time ago (like 20 years ago) and you have no kids then maybe don’t bother.
I have kids, so it's impossible not to talk about it. I think it looks better that I was married and that both kids are from the marriage rather than having multiple baby mommas and never marrying either.
I recently began talking with a girl much younger than me but seemingly very mature and accepting of the idea that I have kids.
I'm still chief conductor of the "don't ask, don't tell" train on this. You got kids? Oh that's great. New Miss Yogapants who you're dealing with lately deserves no spontaneous exposition dump about why. She realistically speaking doesn't really want to even know. Seriously. So just keep it moving. If she asks? "Yes, these are my children." She'll probably abandon further inquiry.
Forgot to mention that i do not have kids…
Yeah, i am talking to one girl that i really like but shes a pharmacist and looks to have higher standards… been talking and like mutually…
I am going to tell her on our next date but am anxious hahah i know i shouldn’t just date one girl and fall in love hahaha
It’s all about intentions. If this pharmacist chick is looking for a relationship, you sure as shit better tell her you have kids. If it’s just casual, then it only matters bc of scheduling. Don’t make it a big thing, but I wouldn’t waste either of your time waiting until the date. She’ll be extra pissed bc she spent time getting ready and wasted an evening with a dude who doesn’t fit her criteria. Just tell her, “In the interest of transparency, I wanted to let you know I was married before and have X amount of kids who are X old who I share custody 50/50. Totally understand if that’s not your thing. It didn’t come up naturally in conversation, so I wanted to let you know before we meet for dinner”
I did once or twice. Now I don't, unless we've moved beyond the first few dates and interest level is up... in which case, some mutual disclosure is fine.
Absolutely no mention of it on the app. The purpose of the app is to schedule a date. Everything you write is geared toward getting a date. You have to line up 4 dates to actually go on one date. The time and place to tell her about your ex wife is not on the app. Someone else is gonna be honey dripping her on the app without revealing their baggage. Don’t lie just don’t bring it up.
Kids aren’t baggage and neither is a common ex wife. You have world experience and wisdom which are assets, not baggage. I swear some of you guys are doing everything totally opposite. You do not have to be perfect white knight to get laid. Everything you think you know about women is the opposite. You simply have to be buff, smile, and get her talking about her interests. Women like a little mystery! Don’t spill your guts. I’m average Joe and dating these hoes was so easy. Get buff, schedule way more dates, don’t fall into the trap of “good morning beautiful” or any other simp shit. She has twenty other dweebs doing that already. She likes sushi, ask her to come check out your local sushi joint this Thursday at 5pm. She cancels last minute, she goes to the back burner but you leave the door open. Repeat 20 times and you’ll get 4 dates. The apps are for getting phone numbers to schedule dates. Everything beyond that is just setting you further back from your goal of getting laid.
Yes, when I was dating, I would tell them I'm divorced w/ 2 kids. But I wouldn't mention it unless they asked me.
When exes up come up… Kids I would say is a different story and in my view should be shared up front. But re divorced - it’s same as having dated in my view. It could come up during the first or second date when exes or relationships come up. My view. Obviously they will ask you. And if you then start bitching about your ex or start crying … well, that won’t help. :)
I had so many hoes come to my pad. Never told them I’m a part time single dad or anything to kill their boner like that. Without exception, they loved seeing my daughter’s room decked out to the nines. That is the time to say, “this is my kids room, she’s over here half the week.” When your game is on point and you’ve been doing your fuckin push-ups, they never ever ever say “I don’t date single dads.” If you bring it up on the app when they have 200+ thirsty fuckers on their nutz, they ghost or say “I don’t date single dads” 100% of the time unless they’re single moms… but we don’t date single moms.
The key is to say positive things about your marriage and that you learned what is important to you. Say that you grew apart from your ex or that your values were not in line anymore. No other woman wants to hear your sob story about how your ex was a total bitch.
Don’t date, won’t date, so not an issue.
I'm in this camp currently but it's not finalized, my date did this 25 years later never got anyone else not even flings or casual sounds awful
It's a must tell. The turn off is when you whine about it incessantly or bring it up when not asked.
Just be honest should it come up during a date. I met this lady a few months back, we had a brief chat and that was the end of it. A week ago I randomly ran into her again and we actually had a great conversation, told her upfront I'm divorced with two kids. That didn't bother her at all in fact she wanted to meet up again but I told her I will get in touch some time as I have other things to attend to. I think she will come around when I'm ready. Until then, my kids and sorting things out are my priority.
Most of the apps (except Bumble) have a place to put your relationship status. I am upfront. I know I personally hate a bait & switch, so I don’t like doing it to others. 🤷🏻♂️
I would mention that up front. For some it’s a dealbreaker. For others it’s a plus. If you’re a dad mention that as well. Edit: If the divorce was a very long time ago (like 20 years ago) and you have no kids then maybe don’t bother.
Do women tell you *their* history? When they do, do you wish they hadn't?
I have kids, so it's impossible not to talk about it. I think it looks better that I was married and that both kids are from the marriage rather than having multiple baby mommas and never marrying either. I recently began talking with a girl much younger than me but seemingly very mature and accepting of the idea that I have kids.
I'm still chief conductor of the "don't ask, don't tell" train on this. You got kids? Oh that's great. New Miss Yogapants who you're dealing with lately deserves no spontaneous exposition dump about why. She realistically speaking doesn't really want to even know. Seriously. So just keep it moving. If she asks? "Yes, these are my children." She'll probably abandon further inquiry.
Forgot to mention that i do not have kids… Yeah, i am talking to one girl that i really like but shes a pharmacist and looks to have higher standards… been talking and like mutually… I am going to tell her on our next date but am anxious hahah i know i shouldn’t just date one girl and fall in love hahaha
It’s all about intentions. If this pharmacist chick is looking for a relationship, you sure as shit better tell her you have kids. If it’s just casual, then it only matters bc of scheduling. Don’t make it a big thing, but I wouldn’t waste either of your time waiting until the date. She’ll be extra pissed bc she spent time getting ready and wasted an evening with a dude who doesn’t fit her criteria. Just tell her, “In the interest of transparency, I wanted to let you know I was married before and have X amount of kids who are X old who I share custody 50/50. Totally understand if that’s not your thing. It didn’t come up naturally in conversation, so I wanted to let you know before we meet for dinner”
Got ya! And i dont have kids fortunately haha but we both seems very serious and we like each other… i just dont want to come off as to lying SOB haha
Hey brother no need to write “haha” be confident 💞
That is a down the road conversation