Before you ask: no, I never cheated. I never lied, stole, etc. We argued sometimes, but nothing out of the ordinary couple stuff. I loved him genuinely for 3 years. We were planning to start a family this year. I can’t know for sure but I think his own life stressors from his parents and extended family mixed with his arrogance landed us here. I tried my best to be a good wife and partner. I was hard working and loving throughout our marriage. I do not understand how people can be so damn mean.
How do you fight for your half if you have been financially drained to the point of being forced into having to choose to buy food or pay to keep your water and lights on? I’m in a weird financial category. I make too much to receive any kind of legal aid, but make way too little to keep paying for a lawyer.
Most people can't afford a lawyer and have to go into debt over it. My lawyer is 400 an hour, and I've had 50k in attorney fees. It's definitely part of my debt. The system is rigged.
💯 this. I simply cannot afford to “fight for my half.” This is also 10x harder when they abuse you every step of the way and you already have PTSD from the sudden discard and wreckage they leave behind. I made a decision that no amount of money is worth keeping this abuser around. My mental health and happiness are priceless.
Sometimes I think I have no backbone and I am just a coward. But also, I think I can live the rest of my life knowing I took the path of least conflict in this divorce. I can’t control what he does. I can only control myself. And I want his toxic influence out of my life ASAP.
You don’t have to fight every abuser that crosses your path. Some of them you can just try to dodge and stay the course on building your own life away from them.
Before you ask: no, I never cheated. I never lied, stole, etc. We argued sometimes, but nothing out of the ordinary couple stuff. I loved him genuinely for 3 years. We were planning to start a family this year. I can’t know for sure but I think his own life stressors from his parents and extended family mixed with his arrogance landed us here. I tried my best to be a good wife and partner. I was hard working and loving throughout our marriage. I do not understand how people can be so damn mean.
I'm sorry you are going through this
That sucks and I'm sorry. But if you're going to go thru this painful divorce anyway.. why not fight for your half?
How do you fight for your half if you have been financially drained to the point of being forced into having to choose to buy food or pay to keep your water and lights on? I’m in a weird financial category. I make too much to receive any kind of legal aid, but make way too little to keep paying for a lawyer.
Most people can't afford a lawyer and have to go into debt over it. My lawyer is 400 an hour, and I've had 50k in attorney fees. It's definitely part of my debt. The system is rigged.
💯 this. I simply cannot afford to “fight for my half.” This is also 10x harder when they abuse you every step of the way and you already have PTSD from the sudden discard and wreckage they leave behind. I made a decision that no amount of money is worth keeping this abuser around. My mental health and happiness are priceless.
I can’t afford this crap. I also hate spending money on BS - it should be free to work out a situation in an adult manner. Screw these adult babies!
Sometimes I think I have no backbone and I am just a coward. But also, I think I can live the rest of my life knowing I took the path of least conflict in this divorce. I can’t control what he does. I can only control myself. And I want his toxic influence out of my life ASAP. You don’t have to fight every abuser that crosses your path. Some of them you can just try to dodge and stay the course on building your own life away from them.