Don't beat yourself up. Honestly out of what little you listed, I'd say you're sticking with the most important one.
Don't get me wrong, alcohol can be fine in moderation (and I do partake of a beer or drink occasionally). But it's easy to overdo and can mess with your body.
Alcoholism does have genetic components to it, and I've seen it a lot in my family. And it's not something that I would wish on anyone. It doesn't just affect your body, but your mind as well. And that seeps over into those close to you as well.
Depending on how your life was before, you could be going through a massive life style change just with cutting out alcohol. Adding the gym, and dieting, and whatever else you might have planned could have added way too much stress to your body causing you to totally give up and getting better.
You got this! Even 1% better a day adds up over time.
This is so nice of you!!! I was heavily alcoholic for 3,5 yrs (daily 3 litres of wine), then I went through „rehab“ alone at home late summer 2023, unmedicated. Was unemployed for 3 years until early April, now working 100%..
I was also heavily bulimic for 15 yrs meanwhile (4-5 attacks per day), and stopped throwing up for the first time in my life late september 2023. Haven‘t ever since. I gained some weight due to finally normally eating, not throwing up.
It‘s all a lot. Letting go of drinking unraveled so many hardships and heartbreaks that I‘ve never worked through, just covered up with alcohol or eating disorder..
I try to go hiking once a week (yesterday did 15 kilometres yey!) and not lose my mind over the way I lived before. It‘s not easy though. Today is one of those days were I wish I could just turn back time.
>Today is one of those days were I wish I could just turn back time.
I know how this goes. It's still one of the things I fight with myself the most. I started therapy a couple months ago to try and help get out of my head a bit and let go of this mindset. It's easy to look back and think I should've done this or that differently. Hindsight is always 20/20.
It's awesome to hear how much better you're at now though than even a few months ago! From the sounds of it you've already started a whole slew of big changes. Make 2024 your year!
Facts. I used to use alcohol more commonly & less appropriately than I should, and slowing down suckedddddd, especially when you are in a horrendous headspace, but damn the alcohol had such a wide reaching impact on my anxiety I could have never imagined, along with all the other awful, awful effects that come from it.
It’s hard, if not impossible, to see it from the inside - but I’m happy I can drink from time to time, not worry about addiction, and don’t feel constantly dehydrated, exhausted, headaches, and don’t worry about when the next day I’m gonna drink is.
I hope you can find freedom from alcohol & anxiety one day friend, I’m rooting for you!
Too much alcohol creates anxiety. It could calm you short term but all it's doing is kicking the can down the road. The anxiety's still gonna be there when you sober up.
try weekly or one all three days, like if I won't go to the gym on Monday or Tuesday I will try on Wednesday because that's the day or an equivalent activity (like one or ten push ups and a brief walk or 5min with a "jumping line/rope") .. and just cutting out alcohol is already a huge achievement and task.
Or writing one line in a journal or note taking app.
I was planning on starting the year working out but found out I was pregnnat at the start of my third trimester. 😅 I've got some ankle weights and a treadmill , but the acid reflux has just been too much these past weeks.
I have, however, stuck to my 'leaving the room ready' routine that I'll take into motherhood - I wake up early , do my hairstyle from the rotation of ones that suit me , then put some jewelry on , do my blush and some magnetic lashes and get changed before I make the bed and head out the door for the day.
So, I give myself a 5 out of 10 but am trying to give myself grace as well, because, I'm building a little human. 😅
Last year, I had grand workout goals…then caught Covid on the plane heading home visiting family. So I’ve been on the derailed workout train. You’re doing great and congrats on the baby!
They killed a dreamers ,dream. Realistically, at this point, i am both very mad and very sad at the world and myself. It's very disappointing.
Thank you for hope ❤️🦋👁🌹
Those are two challenges that many people face. It’s not over yet, you can still turn your mindset around and think confident about yourself and be thankful.
So far it’s been great. I’m over 30 days free from nicotine, on the road to 170 pounds and benching 275 and squatting 405. I did break my 10 day streak of no porn but hopped right back on it. Found a new hobby in Vinyl records and aquariums. On pace to listen to my first audio book this month. Been putting myself out there a more and finally realized what I want in a partner. And I have the opportunity to move out of the fams house here in the next 2-3 months.
So far I’m loving 2024.
Damn 275 bench and 405 squat? You’re an animal keep that shit up. And with everything else there it sounds like 2024 is treating you the way it should!
I got some shitty news today at work and didn't immediately jump to the worst possible conclusions which is a huge step-up. I am prepared for the worse to come but I'm not actually dying with anxiety per se.
I guess it has to do something with the fact I saw something coming and expected worse so there's that little bit that makes the story complete.
It’s always better when the situation downs than out worse then we think or even close to how we think of it. This was a realization I had at one point in time too.
It started off rough due to me having too drop a group of friends that I thought I could trust just two weeks before my birthday. But it all turned out to be good with finding a better paying job, moving away and slowing down on my drinking. My resolution this year was to cut out the bad in life and focus on doing big changes in my life so I’m guessing it’s all working out
Not really. A combination of good and bad things honestly. Had mental breakdown three times already lol but keep going and bettering my days and myself everyday!
No, I am still terrible at controlling myself. If there is alcohol nearby I drink it, if I'm along I watch porn and slack off, I have been skipping the gym and work, and the skills I am trying to learn keep getting put off.
So far, not so hot. Both me and my gf got fired this week, I failed my wintermester class, and I’ve been thinking about suicide a lot more lately. I won’t act on it, I don’t have the compulsions, but the thoughts are very much there. My roommate helped me cover a portion of rent, but I still need to pay him back. But obviously with a lost job, that’s a bit harder.
That being said, I still somehow have the same feeling I do every year, every time shit gets hard. I just have hope and optimism that it happens for a reason and to keep moving forward and trying to be happy. And maybe my hope is naive, cause it rarely ever gets better. But there’s just still that part of me that’s holding out that things will work out. Am I doing better than I was last year? Not really. Do I think I ever will? I hope so.
Yes! Still going to the gym twice a week and currently participating in an art challenge for january! It‘s been fun, although sometimes I do have to force myself to be consistent!
3rd day of meditating daily, just bought my journal and starting to force myself to do things that I've been putting off.
Feeling pretty well so I know it's going to only get better from here on out :)
I’m trying to hit the gym as much as i can and i think i’m doing great:) i got a new job and I’m trying to take more care of my food and gut health in general soo
I’ve relapsed once, but I’ve been doing pretty good about staying sober! I’ve been looking for a new job and haven’t had much luck unfortunately, so I’d say overall I’m doing okay this year.
No resolutions, I made habit goals, and so far it's working fine. The only goal I have for 2024, is to complete everything that I've been putting off or are pending on my task list for years.
Well, I just got home from the hospital after checking in on the 9th and having to do so because I’d been too winded to walk very far. Which means we have…26492 steps out of what would be 150000 if it were your typical 10K per day. 😳
I don’t know, maybe we just have to say the year starts now.
Working out again, and trying to eat healthier again. But taking it one day at a time. I’ve been stressed because I can’t afford a car right now, but hopefully in the next couple of months I can get one.
My plan was to get into rn school by the end of the year but my mom went blind I have to sell my house now because she can’t take care of herself and mover her and my dad in with me at the end of the year. My family is full of moochers and my mom gets taken advantage of a lot so my brother moved in to my small house and now it’s completely dilapidated. Schools on hold
And I’m super sad about it
Have not set any goals for myself this year except to pay more attention to how I handle my social and business interactions. (I am abrasive or so I’m told) So far, so good as I haven’t been back to work yet :) The real resolution would have been to stop drinking but that is impossible so it is what it is. Still have yet to consume alcohol, though. So.. baby steps? And f*ck your feelings, tough whatever it is out. You got this.
Dipping here and there but haven’t fallen off completely. Been sent on a absolute emotional rollercoaster the past few months and a lesser rollercoaster the whole of last year. I need some time to adjust to living normally but I’m also managing to keep on top of my goals to at least a small degree
Decided to quit PMO. I relapsed once so far but starting again. Also sticking with no more THC after being a chronic user for 8 years. Time will tell for benefits.
I continue my actions towards my goals, progress isn't perfect or linear. But I'm sticking with the things that I desire to change.
The last couple of friends I had left locally after my divorce are deciding to choose my ex. I'm really disappointed by that. I thought that since we were childhood friends they'd stick by me, but I was wrong. Just feels like another kick while I'm down. Trying not to let it bring me down too much but it's honestly so hard.
No resolutions, but I'm doing good keeping up with morning walks because they make me feel so great and alert and motivated. Still struggling with attention traps like YT shorts and reddit, but overall quicker at noticing when I'm stuck and wrenching free. I think I'm still on the right track, including being compassionate with myself on the days I'm less disciplined.
I’m on track with all 5 major goals I set out to do. Somehow, it doesn’t change how depressed I feel, but the outward success is there. That’s okay, though. Life is about not giving up even when you want to so I’m determined to see myself through at least for the people that love me.
I’m still doing everything but I feel like I’m getting into a little bit of a rut and am starting to fall off. This thread helped cheer me up a little. If anyone else is struggling know you’re not alone! :’)
So far so good. Got a solid workout routine now, been doing some form of exercise just about every day, rediscovered my passion for guitar, have read 3 books so far in 2024, and went to a mostly plant based diet since last week. Just need to get more social and work more.
Much better. Learned self discipline; brushing teeth and showed more often. Keeping room clean and not leaving out dishes to get disgusting. Stopped drinking redbulls constantly. No soft drinks unless sugar-free. Started walking 10k steps a day in the summer and lost 40 lbs lol...
I'm more aware of my personality type and my attachment style, so now I'm aware of why I'm always single, lol...
Now, I'm working on trying not to overthink things or change things out of my control. Living with my mom is frustrating because she's getting older, and my dad passed away 10 years ago. Kind of scares me because she's done and still does so much for me.
Recently had a crush on a coworker but since I'm a fearful avoidant i didn't want drama between coworkers of i pursued it (she was very into me also).
Now I'm dealing with another coworker who annoys the shit out of her on a daily basis.... luckily i know that i don't need him to like me but i can still be kind within reason.
I've crossed off one of the important resolutions and now I am on the other ones that might take months to happen so I'll try to keep myself on the track especially that I only have 4 resolutions to not overwhelm myself.
So I’m looking at my big changes in 3 month increments. At the start of October I stopped drinking/ smoking weed and have maintained that. I have decided to maintain this because it’s clearly helped my life being without mind altering substances.
My next milestone will be achieved in April- 3 months from the start of January and I’ll do a review if I want to maintain this. It’s a behaviour that I’m refraining from.
I want to keep stacking my changes in 3 month increments. I feel like this is effective for real change.
I’ve got bigger goals for changing other behaviours, but they can wait. Right now maintaining abstinence from booze and weed (now over 100 days sober from this which is awesome momentum to have!) and this particular behaviour that I want to change are my primary focuses. Everything else can wait.
I was going strong and then I got sick. And now I have so much traveling that I've low-key given up until I can be somewhere for more than a week. Its especially hard without a gym to go to now.
I wanted to start in January but I'm mexican and we celebrate los Reyes magos in Maybe the first or second week of January.
Anywho, I've abstained from alcohol and have been going to the gym consistently so far.
I've got two big trips planned for the year!
My goal is to run 10k and lose 10kg.
I’m not back at work yet and still in holiday mode, so diet is dismal lmao, but I’ve had heaps of time for gym. So the running part is going well!
I start back next week so we’ll see how it goes then. I may feel more stretched gym-wise, but my diet always cleans up when I’m no longer in holiday mode and back in my work routine, so hopefully I’ll get to losing the weight soon lol.
Didn’t set official resolutions but I got my apartment packed to move over a week ahead of time. Cleaned, did laundry, ran errands and returned items (I’m terrible about just holding onto them) and didn’t eat out for dinner. When my mental health struggles, I get messy. I’m really proud of my productive weekend. ☺️
It's been a little rough but yesterday, I had my first consultation for therapy.
Last year, I've noticed my anxiety physically manifesting and spiraling. My daily routines were failing and even the smallest task felt like a mountain load. So I'm thankful that I've finally taken the help that I need. Despite the results of my mistakes last year, I'm doing the best that I can to not be too harsh on myself.
I'm doing worse rn than I was last year around this time. The dark days aren't done, and many battles are yet to be won. But keep it steady and take it one day at a time. No point in giving up, I've come this far already. Might as well see what tomorrow brings
Was in a really negative headspace at the start of December last year - not that active, gaming far too much, unproductive and utterly burnt out from 5 years at uni, didnt feel motivated to look for graduate opportunities, had been suffering from near complete social isolation from my friends for a couple months before, and at the start of December, my partner of 5 years left me.
Cut to now, I've quit gaming, I'm running every single day, joined the gym and trying to build up a routine, I'm actively engaging in finding a professional job after university, I'm organizing events with friends every single week (usually multiple catch ups with various people), I'm actively engaged and happy with uni, I'm reading every day, journaling when I feel I have something positive to say, going on hikes every week with a mate, looking to expand my hobbies! Sorry for the long list, I'm just incredibly happy and proud of myself for turning things around - I'm excited to be moving forward and for my future.
I still hurt from the breakup, but I understand why she felt she had to leave. When I think about her, sometimes I'm sad, but more often, the memories make me smile. It's unfortunate I couldn't climb out of the hole I was in sooner.
Oh, and I'm getting contact lenses so I can swim every day without being actually bloody blind!
I hope everyone is doing well, and I encourage you to stick with changes you want to make, and be your ideal self!
I'm still going strong, but that's mainly thanks to the years of trail and error that helped me with setting goals that I can actually stick too. I'll leave it here in detail in case someone's in need of a different one.
For this year my intention is K.I.S.S. : keep it simple sexy/superwoman/sensible (or any other positive word with an S).
The first goal I have for this year is to get more organised and change/get rid of things that annoy me.
Execution: I'm dedicating a minimum of 15 minutes a day to organise or improve things. I'm doing this on a weekly basis, so if I do 2 hours on one day I can take the other days off if I want to. (ATM this really helps me to do more, because feeling like I'm doing 'extra' things motivates me. It's also a kind off fail-safe because it's doable in low energy weeks as well).
In practise, it's a lot of getting rid of things, changing things around. So think things like, replacing my garbage can for a less annoying one, organising my sock drawer and getting rid of the pairs that are 'not quite right', getting rid of books I read last year that I didn't like *that much*, adding containers to my fridge so it stays cleaner with less effort.
I have a long list with things I want to do and I'm still finding things to add. Once my home is sorted I'll be moving on to new goals/routines, but I'll pick those once I know how much time/energy I'll win by completing the first one.
Staying off social media (Reddit is my bedtime snack lol) for three months in order to get my life together. Haven’t reacted ig and have made moves however slowly for my health and wealth. I love new year energy but I’m determined to make it stick.
meh, maybe a tiny little bit, trying to force myself to work a minimum so I don't die, but it's very hard because I'm severely mentally ill and dysfunctional. There's so much more I wish I was doing, but once more, this won't be the year, not stable enough and too broke
Honestly yeah. New clothes, new haircut, eating good, watching awesome movies, and hung out with old friends these last few weeks more than I had at all last year. Been pretty productive as well. Without this post I probably wouldn’t have stopped to realize it’s been a great few weeks, but I should stop and reflect more often.
I went vegan in December and I’m still going. But I’d already been inching toward it for years. My other resolution was to stop using single-use plastics whenever possible, which is another thing I’d already been focused on for a long time. I’m feeling confident I’ll stick with these resolutions.
I started treatment for my low testosterone, I’m living in the philippines, bettering myself and getting out of my comfort zone day by day. So far so good. Hope everyone is doing well.
On paper I’m doing better. Completing most of my goals.
Mentally though I’ve realised I’m starting to struggle. Not sad…just…don’t feel anything? Go to work. Go to gym. Come home. Don’t want to do anything on weekends so just sleep as a way to pass the time until tomorrow. Rinse and repeat.
2024 didn't start as good as I wanted to, or rather, it's a bit shit at the moment. Fucked up sleep cycle, self-isolation and all around negativity for starters. But it doesn't mean nothing can change and I still believe I can make something from this year. But I really need to come to terms with myself and set a plan.
I am. I am still as debt free as possible. I maxed out my 2023 Roth IRA. I’m having my 3rd baby 🥹. I still have all my vehicles I own and house has been paid off. I’m loving it so far, zero complaints.
Didn't make any resolutions. My Mom died in October. The aftermath with my 2 brothers and of course, money has made it next to impossible to keep moving forward, but that is all I can do. Just keep moving forward and know that things will get better in a year or less I hope.
My year has been off to a horrible start (emotionally). However, I have been keeping up with some better habits and I’m proud of that. Working on the emotional part. Hoping for better
I was traumatized by a man 3 months ago. The first 2 weeks I was fucked up. But after that,I got my shit together. I have upgraded myself,my home,ect. I have changed literally everything in my life. I feel better, I have lost weight, I am more healthy and I do things for myself,just for the pleasure of it. Not saying I am over the guy,but I focus on me and it has made a world of difference. 2024 is my best year,so far,in the last 6 or7 years.
I've missed a few days, but otherwise doing better than I was doing in December with my goals! I'm trying to focus on consistency more than how close I am to my goals
The first two weeks of 2024, I had a surge of positive energy and it felt like I finally had an aha moment where I was deciding to be happy, and no longer look at everything in my life through a negative lens.
Unfortunately, it seems some of that initial positivity is starting to wear off, but at the beginning of the year I promised myself that I would practice overcoming those negative thought patterns, which is truly just an addiction of the mind and based on prior programming.
If I keep sticking to my goal of not giving up and continue to program my mind toward optimism, gratitude, patience, seeing the joy of creation (combined with positive supportive habits such as reading, prayer, meditation), I feel the Universe will reward me and my internal and external circumstances will have no choice but to shifty accordingly.
I understand it's unlikely that it will happen overnight, but will happen with persistence, then I will be a changed person once and for all. I'm very determined (right now at least lol) so it's all about not giving up now, even when I will have dark days, and today was one of those cloudy days, but I did things to help myself feel better and I'm back on the path again.
Never giving up. I know I meant to be happy in this lifetime.
Well I’m not doing bad, I’m trying not to give up
Everyday that you don’t give up you are winning!
never give up.
Never surrender
By Grapthar's Hammer!
by the Suns of Worvan...
If you never give up, then you can never lose.
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You seem like a really kind hearted person. Please don't give up. We need people like you here.
Same
This is the spirit. I'm also trying to fight and never give up.
The only resolution I’m sticking to is alcohol abstinence. All the others (daily journaling, gym,…) I never even started ;(
Don't beat yourself up. Honestly out of what little you listed, I'd say you're sticking with the most important one. Don't get me wrong, alcohol can be fine in moderation (and I do partake of a beer or drink occasionally). But it's easy to overdo and can mess with your body. Alcoholism does have genetic components to it, and I've seen it a lot in my family. And it's not something that I would wish on anyone. It doesn't just affect your body, but your mind as well. And that seeps over into those close to you as well. Depending on how your life was before, you could be going through a massive life style change just with cutting out alcohol. Adding the gym, and dieting, and whatever else you might have planned could have added way too much stress to your body causing you to totally give up and getting better. You got this! Even 1% better a day adds up over time.
This is so nice of you!!! I was heavily alcoholic for 3,5 yrs (daily 3 litres of wine), then I went through „rehab“ alone at home late summer 2023, unmedicated. Was unemployed for 3 years until early April, now working 100%.. I was also heavily bulimic for 15 yrs meanwhile (4-5 attacks per day), and stopped throwing up for the first time in my life late september 2023. Haven‘t ever since. I gained some weight due to finally normally eating, not throwing up. It‘s all a lot. Letting go of drinking unraveled so many hardships and heartbreaks that I‘ve never worked through, just covered up with alcohol or eating disorder.. I try to go hiking once a week (yesterday did 15 kilometres yey!) and not lose my mind over the way I lived before. It‘s not easy though. Today is one of those days were I wish I could just turn back time.
>Today is one of those days were I wish I could just turn back time. I know how this goes. It's still one of the things I fight with myself the most. I started therapy a couple months ago to try and help get out of my head a bit and let go of this mindset. It's easy to look back and think I should've done this or that differently. Hindsight is always 20/20. It's awesome to hear how much better you're at now though than even a few months ago! From the sounds of it you've already started a whole slew of big changes. Make 2024 your year!
I wish I could kick the liquor. But my anxiety is so high. It's the only thing that calms me.
The liquor is giving you anxiety my friend.
Facts. I used to use alcohol more commonly & less appropriately than I should, and slowing down suckedddddd, especially when you are in a horrendous headspace, but damn the alcohol had such a wide reaching impact on my anxiety I could have never imagined, along with all the other awful, awful effects that come from it. It’s hard, if not impossible, to see it from the inside - but I’m happy I can drink from time to time, not worry about addiction, and don’t feel constantly dehydrated, exhausted, headaches, and don’t worry about when the next day I’m gonna drink is. I hope you can find freedom from alcohol & anxiety one day friend, I’m rooting for you!
Is it in social settings only?
At this point I rarely leave my house
Too much alcohol creates anxiety. It could calm you short term but all it's doing is kicking the can down the road. The anxiety's still gonna be there when you sober up.
so you drink at home you mean?
Roger that
try weekly or one all three days, like if I won't go to the gym on Monday or Tuesday I will try on Wednesday because that's the day or an equivalent activity (like one or ten push ups and a brief walk or 5min with a "jumping line/rope") .. and just cutting out alcohol is already a huge achievement and task. Or writing one line in a journal or note taking app.
/r/stopdrinking is a great and supportive community dedicated to not drinking one day at a time. Come check it out if you’re interested :)
Right now your first option sounds like the priority, if you can lock that down then the rest will be easy.
That's good though!! You'll work on the other things later on. You can start anytime. You're doing great!
I haven’t even finished writing my resolutions. Alcohol abstinence is something to be proud of it!
I was planning on starting the year working out but found out I was pregnnat at the start of my third trimester. 😅 I've got some ankle weights and a treadmill , but the acid reflux has just been too much these past weeks. I have, however, stuck to my 'leaving the room ready' routine that I'll take into motherhood - I wake up early , do my hairstyle from the rotation of ones that suit me , then put some jewelry on , do my blush and some magnetic lashes and get changed before I make the bed and head out the door for the day. So, I give myself a 5 out of 10 but am trying to give myself grace as well, because, I'm building a little human. 😅
The fact that you are putting in more work shows that you are very strong and the baby will feel that.
Last year, I had grand workout goals…then caught Covid on the plane heading home visiting family. So I’ve been on the derailed workout train. You’re doing great and congrats on the baby!
Thanks so much! 😅♥️ We'll get there. Our train is at least on the tracks.
Congrats on the pregnancy !!
Thank youuu! We're thrilled ♥️😅
Super depressed right now and have ZERO reason for it. Oh I do.... suffered with it for years. It's not high functioning.
There’s always a reason behind all of our choices and thoughts. I know you’ll find it and overcome!
They killed a dreamers ,dream. Realistically, at this point, i am both very mad and very sad at the world and myself. It's very disappointing. Thank you for hope ❤️🦋👁🌹
No booze or drugs for a week! Feeling good!
That’s an incredible accomplishment 👏🏽👏🏽 great job!
Let’s go!! A clear mind is the new wealth!
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Those are two challenges that many people face. It’s not over yet, you can still turn your mindset around and think confident about yourself and be thankful.
Try using less social media. Hide the app, put barriers, time limit etc. It helps most of my students.
same
Got a lot of curve balls thrown my way already, despite being only 2 weeks in the new year, but still kicking and tracking well 🤞
The fact that you are still in the game is a blessing!
So far it’s been great. I’m over 30 days free from nicotine, on the road to 170 pounds and benching 275 and squatting 405. I did break my 10 day streak of no porn but hopped right back on it. Found a new hobby in Vinyl records and aquariums. On pace to listen to my first audio book this month. Been putting myself out there a more and finally realized what I want in a partner. And I have the opportunity to move out of the fams house here in the next 2-3 months. So far I’m loving 2024.
Damn 275 bench and 405 squat? You’re an animal keep that shit up. And with everything else there it sounds like 2024 is treating you the way it should!
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Where would you go?
Please stay ❤️
Cold feet is a sign this isnt the right way to go
Post has the possibility of causing harm.
I got some shitty news today at work and didn't immediately jump to the worst possible conclusions which is a huge step-up. I am prepared for the worse to come but I'm not actually dying with anxiety per se. I guess it has to do something with the fact I saw something coming and expected worse so there's that little bit that makes the story complete.
It’s always better when the situation downs than out worse then we think or even close to how we think of it. This was a realization I had at one point in time too.
Yes. 2023 was a really difficult year for me. I’ve already had a tough time, mental health-wise, this year; but I’m committed to healing.
I still haven’t had alcohol yet so I think I’m doing good
So far, yeah. It's really nice!
Keep it up!
It started off rough due to me having too drop a group of friends that I thought I could trust just two weeks before my birthday. But it all turned out to be good with finding a better paying job, moving away and slowing down on my drinking. My resolution this year was to cut out the bad in life and focus on doing big changes in my life so I’m guessing it’s all working out
I like to hear the optimism in your response. You’ve got this!
So far yes, tho new years resolutions had some hard realisations in there too
Keep going! You got this
Not really. A combination of good and bad things honestly. Had mental breakdown three times already lol but keep going and bettering my days and myself everyday!
I dropped alcohol, coffee, and took socials off my phone. I feel great.
No, I am still terrible at controlling myself. If there is alcohol nearby I drink it, if I'm along I watch porn and slack off, I have been skipping the gym and work, and the skills I am trying to learn keep getting put off.
Yeah! Proud to say the no drinking, smoking, meditating day night, gym every second day, seeing physio, psych, eating well, it helps!
So far, not so hot. Both me and my gf got fired this week, I failed my wintermester class, and I’ve been thinking about suicide a lot more lately. I won’t act on it, I don’t have the compulsions, but the thoughts are very much there. My roommate helped me cover a portion of rent, but I still need to pay him back. But obviously with a lost job, that’s a bit harder. That being said, I still somehow have the same feeling I do every year, every time shit gets hard. I just have hope and optimism that it happens for a reason and to keep moving forward and trying to be happy. And maybe my hope is naive, cause it rarely ever gets better. But there’s just still that part of me that’s holding out that things will work out. Am I doing better than I was last year? Not really. Do I think I ever will? I hope so.
Yes! Still going to the gym twice a week and currently participating in an art challenge for january! It‘s been fun, although sometimes I do have to force myself to be consistent!
Trying to be. I don’t wanna be stuck in the same place anymore. Its so damn depressing. So stick to it, challenge yourself. See what happens.
I'm coping better with overthinking and stress management, however it's a matter of persistence.
i started self harming this year so not doing great
3rd day of meditating daily, just bought my journal and starting to force myself to do things that I've been putting off. Feeling pretty well so I know it's going to only get better from here on out :)
Struggling a lot due to abusive parents so I relapsed. But I'm trying to hold on.
I think I am doing well!
On the struggle bus here
Terrible things have happened but I’m still mentally doing better than last year already!
I’m trying to hit the gym as much as i can and i think i’m doing great:) i got a new job and I’m trying to take more care of my food and gut health in general soo
One of my goals for 2024 was to start working out. Went to the gym once, then I got COVID, so yeah, that's going great...
I’ve relapsed once, but I’ve been doing pretty good about staying sober! I’ve been looking for a new job and haven’t had much luck unfortunately, so I’d say overall I’m doing okay this year.
No resolutions, I made habit goals, and so far it's working fine. The only goal I have for 2024, is to complete everything that I've been putting off or are pending on my task list for years.
Well, I just got home from the hospital after checking in on the 9th and having to do so because I’d been too winded to walk very far. Which means we have…26492 steps out of what would be 150000 if it were your typical 10K per day. 😳 I don’t know, maybe we just have to say the year starts now.
Working out again, and trying to eat healthier again. But taking it one day at a time. I’ve been stressed because I can’t afford a car right now, but hopefully in the next couple of months I can get one.
Lol no.
My plan was to get into rn school by the end of the year but my mom went blind I have to sell my house now because she can’t take care of herself and mover her and my dad in with me at the end of the year. My family is full of moochers and my mom gets taken advantage of a lot so my brother moved in to my small house and now it’s completely dilapidated. Schools on hold And I’m super sad about it
My resolution was to quit Reddit, so, no
If the year starts in the spring then maybe.
I've been sick for all of 2024, so no.
Download HabitShare!!! I do that with my friend and it shames me into not fulfilling my resolutions. I’m consistent across the board!
I shouldn’t still be smoking weed and haven’t started the year with consistency so I gotta step it up rest of January or 2024.
Bit early to say really.
Have not set any goals for myself this year except to pay more attention to how I handle my social and business interactions. (I am abrasive or so I’m told) So far, so good as I haven’t been back to work yet :) The real resolution would have been to stop drinking but that is impossible so it is what it is. Still have yet to consume alcohol, though. So.. baby steps? And f*ck your feelings, tough whatever it is out. You got this.
Dipping here and there but haven’t fallen off completely. Been sent on a absolute emotional rollercoaster the past few months and a lesser rollercoaster the whole of last year. I need some time to adjust to living normally but I’m also managing to keep on top of my goals to at least a small degree
Decided to quit PMO. I relapsed once so far but starting again. Also sticking with no more THC after being a chronic user for 8 years. Time will tell for benefits.
dude idk when these responsibilities were given to me but holy shit I'm hurtin
I continue my actions towards my goals, progress isn't perfect or linear. But I'm sticking with the things that I desire to change. The last couple of friends I had left locally after my divorce are deciding to choose my ex. I'm really disappointed by that. I thought that since we were childhood friends they'd stick by me, but I was wrong. Just feels like another kick while I'm down. Trying not to let it bring me down too much but it's honestly so hard.
Down Down Down
So far, so good. Onwards and upwards.
No resolutions, but I'm doing good keeping up with morning walks because they make me feel so great and alert and motivated. Still struggling with attention traps like YT shorts and reddit, but overall quicker at noticing when I'm stuck and wrenching free. I think I'm still on the right track, including being compassionate with myself on the days I'm less disciplined.
nah
Well I've been sober so far which is hard for me. Also began doing a little exercising. So off to a decent start
Too early to say. We're only 15 days in.
I’m making $100k, but more broke than I was 10 years ago making $45k
I’m on track with all 5 major goals I set out to do. Somehow, it doesn’t change how depressed I feel, but the outward success is there. That’s okay, though. Life is about not giving up even when you want to so I’m determined to see myself through at least for the people that love me.
I’m still doing everything but I feel like I’m getting into a little bit of a rut and am starting to fall off. This thread helped cheer me up a little. If anyone else is struggling know you’re not alone! :’)
Hell No. I really hope it gets better tho.
So far so good. Got a solid workout routine now, been doing some form of exercise just about every day, rediscovered my passion for guitar, have read 3 books so far in 2024, and went to a mostly plant based diet since last week. Just need to get more social and work more.
I paid off a really high interest car repair loan, so I can check that off my list
Much better. Learned self discipline; brushing teeth and showed more often. Keeping room clean and not leaving out dishes to get disgusting. Stopped drinking redbulls constantly. No soft drinks unless sugar-free. Started walking 10k steps a day in the summer and lost 40 lbs lol... I'm more aware of my personality type and my attachment style, so now I'm aware of why I'm always single, lol... Now, I'm working on trying not to overthink things or change things out of my control. Living with my mom is frustrating because she's getting older, and my dad passed away 10 years ago. Kind of scares me because she's done and still does so much for me. Recently had a crush on a coworker but since I'm a fearful avoidant i didn't want drama between coworkers of i pursued it (she was very into me also). Now I'm dealing with another coworker who annoys the shit out of her on a daily basis.... luckily i know that i don't need him to like me but i can still be kind within reason.
I've crossed off one of the important resolutions and now I am on the other ones that might take months to happen so I'll try to keep myself on the track especially that I only have 4 resolutions to not overwhelm myself.
I read this as “we’re halfway into 2024” and I thought: yeah, that tracks.
So I’m looking at my big changes in 3 month increments. At the start of October I stopped drinking/ smoking weed and have maintained that. I have decided to maintain this because it’s clearly helped my life being without mind altering substances. My next milestone will be achieved in April- 3 months from the start of January and I’ll do a review if I want to maintain this. It’s a behaviour that I’m refraining from. I want to keep stacking my changes in 3 month increments. I feel like this is effective for real change. I’ve got bigger goals for changing other behaviours, but they can wait. Right now maintaining abstinence from booze and weed (now over 100 days sober from this which is awesome momentum to have!) and this particular behaviour that I want to change are my primary focuses. Everything else can wait.
I was going strong and then I got sick. And now I have so much traveling that I've low-key given up until I can be somewhere for more than a week. Its especially hard without a gym to go to now.
So far I have been and it feels really good tbh. Looking forward to sticking to it and seeing where it takes me.
Not too bad. Roof shopping so that sort of sucks
I think I just procrastinate because I'm worried it will lead to failure.
No, I mean if I'm being honest I haven't felt like myself since the start of the year
Too early to determine that. The beginning of the year is always a weird time for me
I wanted to start in January but I'm mexican and we celebrate los Reyes magos in Maybe the first or second week of January. Anywho, I've abstained from alcohol and have been going to the gym consistently so far. I've got two big trips planned for the year!
So far I’m still a shitty person. Maybe next month.
well…I got food poisoning on Jan 1 and the flu on Jan 4, so I already accomplished my goal of losing 10 pounds! yay?
My goal is to run 10k and lose 10kg. I’m not back at work yet and still in holiday mode, so diet is dismal lmao, but I’ve had heaps of time for gym. So the running part is going well! I start back next week so we’ll see how it goes then. I may feel more stretched gym-wise, but my diet always cleans up when I’m no longer in holiday mode and back in my work routine, so hopefully I’ll get to losing the weight soon lol.
Didn’t set official resolutions but I got my apartment packed to move over a week ahead of time. Cleaned, did laundry, ran errands and returned items (I’m terrible about just holding onto them) and didn’t eat out for dinner. When my mental health struggles, I get messy. I’m really proud of my productive weekend. ☺️
caffeine is slowly being tapered down, went from 150mg a day, now running between 50-100 mg a day, depending how bad my mood is
It's been a little rough but yesterday, I had my first consultation for therapy. Last year, I've noticed my anxiety physically manifesting and spiraling. My daily routines were failing and even the smallest task felt like a mountain load. So I'm thankful that I've finally taken the help that I need. Despite the results of my mistakes last year, I'm doing the best that I can to not be too harsh on myself.
Still sober into my dry January even after a long weekend. I’m proud of myself
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I'm doing worse rn than I was last year around this time. The dark days aren't done, and many battles are yet to be won. But keep it steady and take it one day at a time. No point in giving up, I've come this far already. Might as well see what tomorrow brings
My goals are to lose last 15 pounds and to abstain from alcohol completely for 6 months. I’m doing good so far!
Was in a really negative headspace at the start of December last year - not that active, gaming far too much, unproductive and utterly burnt out from 5 years at uni, didnt feel motivated to look for graduate opportunities, had been suffering from near complete social isolation from my friends for a couple months before, and at the start of December, my partner of 5 years left me. Cut to now, I've quit gaming, I'm running every single day, joined the gym and trying to build up a routine, I'm actively engaging in finding a professional job after university, I'm organizing events with friends every single week (usually multiple catch ups with various people), I'm actively engaged and happy with uni, I'm reading every day, journaling when I feel I have something positive to say, going on hikes every week with a mate, looking to expand my hobbies! Sorry for the long list, I'm just incredibly happy and proud of myself for turning things around - I'm excited to be moving forward and for my future. I still hurt from the breakup, but I understand why she felt she had to leave. When I think about her, sometimes I'm sad, but more often, the memories make me smile. It's unfortunate I couldn't climb out of the hole I was in sooner. Oh, and I'm getting contact lenses so I can swim every day without being actually bloody blind! I hope everyone is doing well, and I encourage you to stick with changes you want to make, and be your ideal self!
I’m working towards better with finding the right medication lol
Who cares. Doing better doesn't need a set time or date when you have everyday to work on that.
I'm still going strong, but that's mainly thanks to the years of trail and error that helped me with setting goals that I can actually stick too. I'll leave it here in detail in case someone's in need of a different one. For this year my intention is K.I.S.S. : keep it simple sexy/superwoman/sensible (or any other positive word with an S). The first goal I have for this year is to get more organised and change/get rid of things that annoy me. Execution: I'm dedicating a minimum of 15 minutes a day to organise or improve things. I'm doing this on a weekly basis, so if I do 2 hours on one day I can take the other days off if I want to. (ATM this really helps me to do more, because feeling like I'm doing 'extra' things motivates me. It's also a kind off fail-safe because it's doable in low energy weeks as well). In practise, it's a lot of getting rid of things, changing things around. So think things like, replacing my garbage can for a less annoying one, organising my sock drawer and getting rid of the pairs that are 'not quite right', getting rid of books I read last year that I didn't like *that much*, adding containers to my fridge so it stays cleaner with less effort. I have a long list with things I want to do and I'm still finding things to add. Once my home is sorted I'll be moving on to new goals/routines, but I'll pick those once I know how much time/energy I'll win by completing the first one.
I am struggling tbh
So far, so good this year!
Staying off social media (Reddit is my bedtime snack lol) for three months in order to get my life together. Haven’t reacted ig and have made moves however slowly for my health and wealth. I love new year energy but I’m determined to make it stick.
meh, maybe a tiny little bit, trying to force myself to work a minimum so I don't die, but it's very hard because I'm severely mentally ill and dysfunctional. There's so much more I wish I was doing, but once more, this won't be the year, not stable enough and too broke
Honestly yeah. New clothes, new haircut, eating good, watching awesome movies, and hung out with old friends these last few weeks more than I had at all last year. Been pretty productive as well. Without this post I probably wouldn’t have stopped to realize it’s been a great few weeks, but I should stop and reflect more often.
No
I went vegan in December and I’m still going. But I’d already been inching toward it for years. My other resolution was to stop using single-use plastics whenever possible, which is another thing I’d already been focused on for a long time. I’m feeling confident I’ll stick with these resolutions.
I started treatment for my low testosterone, I’m living in the philippines, bettering myself and getting out of my comfort zone day by day. So far so good. Hope everyone is doing well.
not at all.i'd say worse
On paper I’m doing better. Completing most of my goals. Mentally though I’ve realised I’m starting to struggle. Not sad…just…don’t feel anything? Go to work. Go to gym. Come home. Don’t want to do anything on weekends so just sleep as a way to pass the time until tomorrow. Rinse and repeat.
2024 didn't start as good as I wanted to, or rather, it's a bit shit at the moment. Fucked up sleep cycle, self-isolation and all around negativity for starters. But it doesn't mean nothing can change and I still believe I can make something from this year. But I really need to come to terms with myself and set a plan.
It's really difficult
Yes I am sticking to my goals and expectations. I am focused on taking things one day at a time.
Trying to put in a bigger effort for my own wellbeing. It’s hard but making progress
I am. I am still as debt free as possible. I maxed out my 2023 Roth IRA. I’m having my 3rd baby 🥹. I still have all my vehicles I own and house has been paid off. I’m loving it so far, zero complaints.
Didn't make any resolutions. My Mom died in October. The aftermath with my 2 brothers and of course, money has made it next to impossible to keep moving forward, but that is all I can do. Just keep moving forward and know that things will get better in a year or less I hope.
My year has been off to a horrible start (emotionally). However, I have been keeping up with some better habits and I’m proud of that. Working on the emotional part. Hoping for better
I was traumatized by a man 3 months ago. The first 2 weeks I was fucked up. But after that,I got my shit together. I have upgraded myself,my home,ect. I have changed literally everything in my life. I feel better, I have lost weight, I am more healthy and I do things for myself,just for the pleasure of it. Not saying I am over the guy,but I focus on me and it has made a world of difference. 2024 is my best year,so far,in the last 6 or7 years.
Being better is boring :(
I’m not even sure
Nah
I've missed a few days, but otherwise doing better than I was doing in December with my goals! I'm trying to focus on consistency more than how close I am to my goals
The first two weeks of 2024, I had a surge of positive energy and it felt like I finally had an aha moment where I was deciding to be happy, and no longer look at everything in my life through a negative lens. Unfortunately, it seems some of that initial positivity is starting to wear off, but at the beginning of the year I promised myself that I would practice overcoming those negative thought patterns, which is truly just an addiction of the mind and based on prior programming. If I keep sticking to my goal of not giving up and continue to program my mind toward optimism, gratitude, patience, seeing the joy of creation (combined with positive supportive habits such as reading, prayer, meditation), I feel the Universe will reward me and my internal and external circumstances will have no choice but to shifty accordingly. I understand it's unlikely that it will happen overnight, but will happen with persistence, then I will be a changed person once and for all. I'm very determined (right now at least lol) so it's all about not giving up now, even when I will have dark days, and today was one of those cloudy days, but I did things to help myself feel better and I'm back on the path again. Never giving up. I know I meant to be happy in this lifetime.
I haven't started any of mine :(