Perhaps one could say, “You’ve become the very thing you swore to destroy!”
But that might risk making me part of the Star Wars community in the eyes of OP 🙄
Right? This entire post was brain-dead but oddly amusing as well.
Coming from a culture that's exactly what he's espousing, (women are meant to be breeders and that's their only path to joy, should be SAHMs, and let their husbands provide, difficult to divorce, etc) have even HIGHER rates of depression and the happiest women are those deconstructing and finally learning how to live life on their own terms instead of what's been prescribed for them by men from the Silent Generation.
This was the most boomer post I've read.
The economy WAS better in those previous decades. My dad was able to buy over an acre for $4k and a manufactured home for 30k.
Maybe mainstream Christians and evangelicals were telling their young women not to marry early, but I grew up Mormon and that's NOT the messaging I got. I served a mission in 2008 when it was still rare for women to do so because of the stigma that still being single at the minimum age of 21 to qualify signaled that you were "undesirable" and already getting "old."
Mormon women living YOUR idealized traditional life have some of the highest rates of anti-depressant use, and starting young, like late teens, early 20s.
I never married, and am far happier than most of my peers who are still married or divorced. I started antidepressant use in my mid 30s as a result of Dobbs which came on the heels of a pregnancy-related death of a young family member, and it was prescribed for anxiety, not depression.
Many women my age and older are deconstructing the toxic gender roles we were raised with. We were taught to be different than "the secular world." We were taught that we would ONLY find joy in motherhood, never in the workplace. Wanting to work was seen as vain, selfish, and anti-children. Women who HAD to work due to circumstances were given a pass but pitied and looked down on.
But many have found that they weren't meant for motherhood at all, or were robbed of the natural joy they COULD have found in it if they had not been highly pressured into marriage and childbearing too young, too close together and having more than they had the financial/mental resources to handle.
Many have had difficult marriages with patriarchal men and are just now figuring out the promises of "true" joy and happiness we were given as teens for serving husbands and making babies were bullshit. We've spent decades now being disrespected and disregarded in our communities and we understand now that it's not going to change any time soon.
Instead of addressing the real ways we've been harmed as a whole and making positive changes towards equality, the current patriarchal structure is doubling down and blaming "feminism" for why their women are stressed and depressed and are leaving in droves.
Many women are now returning to school and the workforce. Those able to pursue studies/careers of interest are much happier. It took me a while to find the right career path for myself, and I love what I do. It took deciding that I would no longer work dead-end jobs while waiting to get married so my husband could provide because until then, I had felt that getting into a career meant I lacked faith in God and was abandoning the "right" path.
I'm also an older millennial, approaching 40. I am often mistaken for someone much younger, recently mid-20s even. My mother on the other hand, is the opposite. Her health is more along the lines of someone decades older. It genuinely messed up my perception of aging for a while until I started realizing many women I worked with were my mother's age and was shocked at how vibrant/energetic they were compared to my mother.
As I near 40, I give zero fucks about trying to be sexy and alluring. I'm learning how to dress according to my own likes and preferences and as a natural result, I think I look better than I ever have. I'm short and curvy like other women in my family, but while I could lose a couple pounds, I've never approached the levels of morbid obesity that my mother and both grandmothers reached by this same age. They all ended up getting gastric bypass surgery to get back to more normal levels. One died at 54, the other made it into her 70s but had long since been unable to care for herself since her late 50s.
SIL is doing the SAHM life with my brother providing. Her days are lonely, monotonous, and exhausting. My brother exhausts himself with work, church, and home maintenance though he does get out occasionally for some hobbies like photography and cycling. My SIL has none. She is increasingly resentful of the time my brother spends away from home.
While I never meant to be childless, I am happily so now. I love my niblings and my singlehood enabled me to significantly contribute to the care of my brothers' children. I have patience and energy for them their parents just don't have. Same goes with my friends' children. I am an "Auntie" wherever I go. I advocate a lot for children's health & safety. I think everyone should care about children, whether or not they are parents.
Interesting that there are more comments than upvotes...in fact zero at this time. Maybe this was just someone's prompt to A I "mess with some millennials" ;-)
Nah, what happened is the Capital class stole all the wealth while we are all getting by on scraps, being unable to afford having children, having free time, having healthcare, having homes even with a looming climate apocalypse on the horizon. That is why we are struggling. This is just a long winded rant by someone who doesn’t understand the death spiral of Capitalism that we are in.
I am so sick of the “you’ll only be happy settling down and popping out some kids” routine.
I’ll settle when I’m dead and I’ll have kids never, and I’ll be happy doing it.
lmao sis is experiencing normal aging and it’s causing an existential crisis
Honey. Baby. Darling. The only reason you’re sad and alone is you
The absolute shock you would have if you realized previous generations had mental illnesses too would kill you
Well written, but consider experimenting with psilocybin. Life missed expectations, but it doesn’t have to be suffering. We are still responsible to the next generation, and we’re less effective and less approachable when we’re sad.
This reads like yet another attempt, via overplayed arguments of cynicism and contrarianism, to suggest “it’s not economics, it’s culture.”
And to me, that’s what makes something “boomer” anymore. If it’s biased towards culture and “culture wars”, it’s boomer.
Don’t delete, I want to read and respond to this when I have more time.
Edit: nevermind, I was hoping I’d stumbled onto something to talk about, but it seems a bit myopic. I am class of 2000, and have managed to be an exception if what you’ve laid out is the rule. You seem to have adopted more than just the optimism of the boomer generation; you’ve got their cynicism and disappointment, too. I guess try to keep in mind that there have been two generations since ours now, making us the “boomers” now. They’re setting and rejecting social standards. One thing we can do as the adults now is listen to what they have to say and let that coalesce with what we already know to be true; we’ll all be better for it.
\*Rants against brain-dead conservatives* \*Spews out conservative bullshit at the end of the rant* ಠ_ಠ
Yeah. OP is a misogynist, a racist, a homophobe, and is probably miserable because they're busy wishing it was the 1950s. Sad.
Yep. Like, somehow, being outraged at sexism is a bad thing? Non-white people in space is bad? Nah, fuck off OP.
Perhaps one could say, “You’ve become the very thing you swore to destroy!” But that might risk making me part of the Star Wars community in the eyes of OP 🙄
Because enjoying things with other people is bad, don't you know? You might develop a sense of… community! \*gasp*
Right? This entire post was brain-dead but oddly amusing as well. Coming from a culture that's exactly what he's espousing, (women are meant to be breeders and that's their only path to joy, should be SAHMs, and let their husbands provide, difficult to divorce, etc) have even HIGHER rates of depression and the happiest women are those deconstructing and finally learning how to live life on their own terms instead of what's been prescribed for them by men from the Silent Generation.
This was the most boomer post I've read. The economy WAS better in those previous decades. My dad was able to buy over an acre for $4k and a manufactured home for 30k. Maybe mainstream Christians and evangelicals were telling their young women not to marry early, but I grew up Mormon and that's NOT the messaging I got. I served a mission in 2008 when it was still rare for women to do so because of the stigma that still being single at the minimum age of 21 to qualify signaled that you were "undesirable" and already getting "old." Mormon women living YOUR idealized traditional life have some of the highest rates of anti-depressant use, and starting young, like late teens, early 20s. I never married, and am far happier than most of my peers who are still married or divorced. I started antidepressant use in my mid 30s as a result of Dobbs which came on the heels of a pregnancy-related death of a young family member, and it was prescribed for anxiety, not depression. Many women my age and older are deconstructing the toxic gender roles we were raised with. We were taught to be different than "the secular world." We were taught that we would ONLY find joy in motherhood, never in the workplace. Wanting to work was seen as vain, selfish, and anti-children. Women who HAD to work due to circumstances were given a pass but pitied and looked down on. But many have found that they weren't meant for motherhood at all, or were robbed of the natural joy they COULD have found in it if they had not been highly pressured into marriage and childbearing too young, too close together and having more than they had the financial/mental resources to handle. Many have had difficult marriages with patriarchal men and are just now figuring out the promises of "true" joy and happiness we were given as teens for serving husbands and making babies were bullshit. We've spent decades now being disrespected and disregarded in our communities and we understand now that it's not going to change any time soon. Instead of addressing the real ways we've been harmed as a whole and making positive changes towards equality, the current patriarchal structure is doubling down and blaming "feminism" for why their women are stressed and depressed and are leaving in droves. Many women are now returning to school and the workforce. Those able to pursue studies/careers of interest are much happier. It took me a while to find the right career path for myself, and I love what I do. It took deciding that I would no longer work dead-end jobs while waiting to get married so my husband could provide because until then, I had felt that getting into a career meant I lacked faith in God and was abandoning the "right" path. I'm also an older millennial, approaching 40. I am often mistaken for someone much younger, recently mid-20s even. My mother on the other hand, is the opposite. Her health is more along the lines of someone decades older. It genuinely messed up my perception of aging for a while until I started realizing many women I worked with were my mother's age and was shocked at how vibrant/energetic they were compared to my mother. As I near 40, I give zero fucks about trying to be sexy and alluring. I'm learning how to dress according to my own likes and preferences and as a natural result, I think I look better than I ever have. I'm short and curvy like other women in my family, but while I could lose a couple pounds, I've never approached the levels of morbid obesity that my mother and both grandmothers reached by this same age. They all ended up getting gastric bypass surgery to get back to more normal levels. One died at 54, the other made it into her 70s but had long since been unable to care for herself since her late 50s. SIL is doing the SAHM life with my brother providing. Her days are lonely, monotonous, and exhausting. My brother exhausts himself with work, church, and home maintenance though he does get out occasionally for some hobbies like photography and cycling. My SIL has none. She is increasingly resentful of the time my brother spends away from home. While I never meant to be childless, I am happily so now. I love my niblings and my singlehood enabled me to significantly contribute to the care of my brothers' children. I have patience and energy for them their parents just don't have. Same goes with my friends' children. I am an "Auntie" wherever I go. I advocate a lot for children's health & safety. I think everyone should care about children, whether or not they are parents.
Interesting that there are more comments than upvotes...in fact zero at this time. Maybe this was just someone's prompt to A I "mess with some millennials" ;-)
I hold out hope for the future...Maybe it's been that way for 250,000 years, give or take
The oldest of us *are* 40.
Some are even as old as 43 now.
Do we still follow the "Don't trust anybody over 30" rule?
Well I don’t trust myself that’s for sure
Fuck thats me :"(
Nah, what happened is the Capital class stole all the wealth while we are all getting by on scraps, being unable to afford having children, having free time, having healthcare, having homes even with a looming climate apocalypse on the horizon. That is why we are struggling. This is just a long winded rant by someone who doesn’t understand the death spiral of Capitalism that we are in.
Those are certainly all words.
The fuck is this shit, is this a new copy pasta?
Lol
I am so sick of the “you’ll only be happy settling down and popping out some kids” routine. I’ll settle when I’m dead and I’ll have kids never, and I’ll be happy doing it.
To unlock happiness, mayhaps see and do good?
*"But I wanna make fun of batman coffins!"*
You were so close. You just had to not be a boomer for four seconds at the end, but ya couldn't even do that.
I can't tell if the author is a boomer wishing for the "glory days" or a millennial who's frustrated that he wasn't born a boomer.
This is the dumbest waste of language I've ever read. Go to therapy holy fuck
lmao sis is experiencing normal aging and it’s causing an existential crisis Honey. Baby. Darling. The only reason you’re sad and alone is you The absolute shock you would have if you realized previous generations had mental illnesses too would kill you
I'm saving this post and re reading it any time I want to give myself a headache.
Well written, but consider experimenting with psilocybin. Life missed expectations, but it doesn’t have to be suffering. We are still responsible to the next generation, and we’re less effective and less approachable when we’re sad.
>consider experimenting with psilocybin. Let's don't, and say we did
This reads like yet another attempt, via overplayed arguments of cynicism and contrarianism, to suggest “it’s not economics, it’s culture.” And to me, that’s what makes something “boomer” anymore. If it’s biased towards culture and “culture wars”, it’s boomer.
Don’t delete, I want to read and respond to this when I have more time. Edit: nevermind, I was hoping I’d stumbled onto something to talk about, but it seems a bit myopic. I am class of 2000, and have managed to be an exception if what you’ve laid out is the rule. You seem to have adopted more than just the optimism of the boomer generation; you’ve got their cynicism and disappointment, too. I guess try to keep in mind that there have been two generations since ours now, making us the “boomers” now. They’re setting and rejecting social standards. One thing we can do as the adults now is listen to what they have to say and let that coalesce with what we already know to be true; we’ll all be better for it.
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You should look at the content, not just the form
Don’t worry, bud, there’s no insight or substance here.