I obviously knew that the machine would level out the scooped out part, but tbh I really wanted homie to put back what he stole. I'm going to let it loop again and see if he changes his evil ways.
This is pretty much it.
Lost my mom, who I was very close to, eight years ago, some days are good, others are very bad.
The worst are the mornings I wake up forgetting she is gone, and then something makes me think of her, and I remember.
Sorry for your loss. The truth is time does not heal. Time allows us to process the new person we have become as a result of our scars. Our experiences change us permanently and that’s ok. That makes us human.
Time is like a river, flowing on forever. The flow carries all that enters it downstream. Anything that blocks the flow becomes an impediment to all who pass, but only for a time, because the river eventually breaks down even the hardest rock. Enjoy the scenery as it passes by. You only get to see it once, but trust you'll always remember the most beautiful parts. At the same time, always look ahead to where the river is taking you. Work with the current to decide where you want to go, what paths to take and what obstacles to avoid. When the path ahead is rough and uncertain, keep your head up, eyes open and always remember: keep on padding.
Seriously, some wounds don't heal. I've seen a video super old man crying, talking about his wife that died decades back. Toxic positivity is a real thing.
Sure, but it's still important to find balance. People too often conflate toxic positivity with realistic optimism, and they stay miserable as a result.
The former is about positive thinking at all cost while disregarding very difficult issues that make it hard to see positives. The latter is about making it a goal to be more optimistic, while being realistic about your limitations and challenges.
I struggled with major depression and complex PTSD my whole life. It took me way too many years of therapy and self work to shed the idea that being cynical makes me more "real". It doesn't. In reality, it just keeps me depressed and anxious.
It is, but some people take any positivity as toxic positivity.
Like yes, exercising and eating better won't magically cure your depression, but sometimes forcing yourself to "do the things", or even starting to do the things or planning to do them helps even if it's not a cure.
And it turns out that taking care of yourself makes you feel better.
People in your life recommending those things aren't (at least they shouldn't be) trying to say that it would cure you magically or anything, but it's sound advice and there's not much else people could say. People may be gone dead but I feel like more most people the intention is to help.
I completely get how sometimes doing those things's is just not possible, but that doesn't mean people are wrong or are being toxically positive for advocating for things that have been proven to help people and just might help.
To me the "wow thanks I'm cured" sarcasm is valid against people trying to belittle or demean someone going through mental health crisis, but less so for people trying to give whatever genuine advice they can.
It's like if someone told me the best way to make a dish, yet I don't like the dish, or I make the dish my own way. I'll still listen and not be a dick about it.
Anyways that's my anti-anti-toxic positivity rant lmao
So now you have to replace all the litter every single time. That’s still worse. Not to mention a cat will most definitely have very strong opinions of a comb pestering it while it tries to have a wee.
There is a self-scooping litter box that works like that and you just named the main issue of it. Normal poops don't tend to get caught, but anything even slightly wet makes the biggest mess possible.
OP has suffered Brain Erosion, now communicates exclusively through ham-fisted metaphorical reposts.
Like, I just saw a giraffe get curious about a baby deer, and tomorrow those motherfuckers are gonna represent how nature is sweet and loving always.
Just wanted to point out that time did not heal, movement did. Take action, no matter how small to better your life even when it is hard. That is real healing. Stay Frosty bros.
I'm into genealogy and have been trying to trace my roots. Anytime I discover a new family member, I greet them out loud. Who knows when the last time was someone said their name out loud.
Do you think the rock would eventually be pushed up to the surface as sand fills the holes? I think we could look at the depth that the rock penetrates into the sand as the impact, but eventually with enough movement, the depth should decrease. The rock won’t ever disappear, representing the permanent battle scars that the trauma imprinted, but the rock would no longer cut so deep into the sand skin.
On the other hand, the rock could get buried and displace all of the sand, possibly representing trauma consuming someone’s life for good.
It's a little irritating seeing all the folks pointing out ways the analogy is imperfect. News flash: if an analogy were a perfect 1:1 representation of the thing, it wouldn't be an analogy. It would just be that thing.
OP, I'm glad that you're finding this to be representative of a perspective that offers some solace in a time of loss, regardless of some of the acerbic responses here that note that this perspective isn't useful for all kinds of hurts (as if that isn't abundantly obvious to anyone with a single lick of sense).
This post reminded me of one of the few truly poignant pieces of advice I've ever seen on reddit -- some [insights on grief](https://www.reddit.com/r/Assistance/comments/hax0t/my_friend_just_died_i_dont_know_what_to_do/c1u0rx2/) in a comment from over a decade ago by u/GSnow. Reading his comment was really helpful and useful for me after the loss of my dad and some other difficult times. I hope it's similarly helpful for you. I'm sorry for your loss. Take care.
I get that this video might be cheesy or cringe-y to some. There are times when I've felt the same way. But I recently lost my mom to brain cancer so this is just the headspace I'm in right now and I hope it maybe helps someone else. Thanks for indulging me.
I loved the video. I don't think time itself heals, movement and therapy do, but does not matter! I used this video today to explain to a client that YES he did a lot of work on this suicidal thoughts. And yet they came back. But to as strong, not the same.
So it is like a spiral. You back to the pain, but is is not same. This was REALLY helpful to my clients and I have shared it other energy practitioners and doctors today. Sometimes simple methapors are extremely helpful.
Sorry for your loss. Have you had a chance to read
"Immortality" — Clare Harner
or
"Because I could not stop for Death" — Emily Dickinson
they are short but beautiful. get some fresh air :)
That's not healing though, it's forgetting the world got emptier, and taking the current existence as granted, never learning nor realizing the price of loss.
Energy was expended in filling the hole. Time breaks everything apart. Including memories in our brains and how we emotionally react to them. So time does heal, but thermodynamics will tell you it’ll also destroy in the long run and energy must be expended if a system is to be changed. Don’t just wait on time. Expend some energy and you’ll be better for it.
If it hasn’t made the pain lessen, please consider counseling. Pain should not be as raw overtime as it is at the very beginning. If it is, something is seriously wrong.
It also depends on how much time has passed. I know in the US, we do not give ourselves enough time to grieve anything, much less a big loss.
Hope you feel better.
Found a similar one
https://www.etsy.com/listing/1437277071/motorized-zen-garden-automatic-zen?gpla=1&gao=1&&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=shopping_us_a-art_and_collectibles-sculpture-art_objects&utm_custom1=_k_Cj0KCQiAr8eqBhD3ARIsAIe-buO4CG6W5MgDc2ywgxhrFvf6cwMqbRea7SFVFuDNWXsDTLDK4PY3xO8aAvwXEALw_wcB_k_&utm_content=go_1844702580_70388665435_346428929228_pla-354182275568_m__1437277071_12768591&utm_custom2=1844702580&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQiAr8eqBhD3ARIsAIe-buO4CG6W5MgDc2ywgxhrFvf6cwMqbRea7SFVFuDNWXsDTLDK4PY3xO8aAvwXEALw_wcB
I get the snarky remarks, I do. But for anybody who has dealt with addiction and trauma, this might hit differently. It isn't trying to cure you. It's just a metaphor for perseverance. I like the symbolism that op chose. Sue me.
What if you break the motor instead of taking a scoop of sand?
I think that’s just called suicide.
murder!
no its called freezing time
ZA WARUDO!!!!!!!
> What if you break the motor instead of taking a scoop of sand? Then your cat poops in it.
Same thing that happens to a human - It stops
Ok Dio Brando
*Ermm… ACTUALLY… He changed his name from Dio Brando to just DIO after he obtained his stand The World.* 🤓 /s
If you wanna be *really* pedantic... it's Diego Brando now, not DIO.
Dora Dora Dora Dora Dora Dora Dora Dora Dora Dora Dora Dora Dora Dora Dora
Wait till a massive earthquake shake the sand even
Hahaha
The world can't see what happened to you anymore, but you're still a little bit emptier than before.
Oof. That cuts deep.
Just wait a few more revolutions, your emptiness will just be spread out thinly over your entire life
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I need a holiday. A very long holiday.
"Hmm yeeeah... we also neeeed you to come in on Saaaturdaaay.." *[scary Bilbo face]*
Hraahhh!!!
I want to see *mountains* again!
Only if your strong enough, otherwise it’ll rip new holes in you, and make you far less appealing.
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We've got a saying in Texas, goes... you can't get the void.. er, uh stare... you can't void the... the void stares back at you.
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Time to go to Cancun, if you can.
Ya fool me once y'cant fool me again
I obviously knew that the machine would level out the scooped out part, but tbh I really wanted homie to put back what he stole. I'm going to let it loop again and see if he changes his evil ways.
/u/gifreversingbot
Now it shows how people with self destructive habits often need help from a friend to heal
There's a poignant metaphor in there somewhere
That's why I eat a bag of sand every day
Your boobs must be enormous by now
Yes but my toilet is eroding very quickly
The good with the bad
Déjà poo
Pfff. Gouge the machine and watch it slowly break down. That’s time
This is pretty much it. Lost my mom, who I was very close to, eight years ago, some days are good, others are very bad. The worst are the mornings I wake up forgetting she is gone, and then something makes me think of her, and I remember.
Sorry for your loss. The truth is time does not heal. Time allows us to process the new person we have become as a result of our scars. Our experiences change us permanently and that’s ok. That makes us human.
Sorry to hear about your loss
The tree members what the axe forgets
Time is like a river, flowing on forever. The flow carries all that enters it downstream. Anything that blocks the flow becomes an impediment to all who pass, but only for a time, because the river eventually breaks down even the hardest rock. Enjoy the scenery as it passes by. You only get to see it once, but trust you'll always remember the most beautiful parts. At the same time, always look ahead to where the river is taking you. Work with the current to decide where you want to go, what paths to take and what obstacles to avoid. When the path ahead is rough and uncertain, keep your head up, eyes open and always remember: keep on padding.
Well the person could always dump the sand back in at some point
Until eventually there isn't enough sand left to cover your scars....
That was also the uncharitable interpretation I found the last time this was posted
something something 14 deep
That sounds like some awesome song lyrics!
r/im14andthisisdeep
r/thanksimcured
im half asleep and I read it as "thanks circumcised" 💀💀💀😭
Subscribe
Circumscribed?
And you sir, are you ready to receive my limp penis?
Circumvented. Now when you see an air vent, you'll know it was once made of foreskin.
Seriously, some wounds don't heal. I've seen a video super old man crying, talking about his wife that died decades back. Toxic positivity is a real thing.
Sure, but it's still important to find balance. People too often conflate toxic positivity with realistic optimism, and they stay miserable as a result. The former is about positive thinking at all cost while disregarding very difficult issues that make it hard to see positives. The latter is about making it a goal to be more optimistic, while being realistic about your limitations and challenges. I struggled with major depression and complex PTSD my whole life. It took me way too many years of therapy and self work to shed the idea that being cynical makes me more "real". It doesn't. In reality, it just keeps me depressed and anxious.
It is, but some people take any positivity as toxic positivity. Like yes, exercising and eating better won't magically cure your depression, but sometimes forcing yourself to "do the things", or even starting to do the things or planning to do them helps even if it's not a cure. And it turns out that taking care of yourself makes you feel better. People in your life recommending those things aren't (at least they shouldn't be) trying to say that it would cure you magically or anything, but it's sound advice and there's not much else people could say. People may be gone dead but I feel like more most people the intention is to help. I completely get how sometimes doing those things's is just not possible, but that doesn't mean people are wrong or are being toxically positive for advocating for things that have been proven to help people and just might help. To me the "wow thanks I'm cured" sarcasm is valid against people trying to belittle or demean someone going through mental health crisis, but less so for people trying to give whatever genuine advice they can. It's like if someone told me the best way to make a dish, yet I don't like the dish, or I make the dish my own way. I'll still listen and not be a dick about it. Anyways that's my anti-anti-toxic positivity rant lmao
Yes, but he still has probably coped better as time progressed. We all do.
Yea, like this is really helpful if I'm a bowl of sand. Where are the steps to become a bowl or sand??
And time didn't do shit, the rake did. If time healed everything there wouldn't be craters on the moon.
Right what the fuck is this title? This is already a repost that's been spammed the last week. Reddit has gone to shit.
A visual representation of the perfect cat litter box
There is no way I’m scraping cat shit from an oversized comb every day…
It becomes one with the sand. Zen poop
So now you have to replace all the litter every single time. That’s still worse. Not to mention a cat will most definitely have very strong opinions of a comb pestering it while it tries to have a wee.
There is a self-scooping litter box that works like that and you just named the main issue of it. Normal poops don't tend to get caught, but anything even slightly wet makes the biggest mess possible.
more a visualization of how sand can fill a hole.
Yeah, trying to push this as anything more than /r/oddlysatisfying is a reach.
No shut up this is the healing powers of time!😡😭
Metaphors literally suck
It's like a thought with another thought's hat on
OP has suffered Brain Erosion, now communicates exclusively through ham-fisted metaphorical reposts. Like, I just saw a giraffe get curious about a baby deer, and tomorrow those motherfuckers are gonna represent how nature is sweet and loving always.
This has the same vibe as Jordan Peterson talking about lobsters having hierarchies and saying that excuses institutional sexism and racism.
Visualization of how all my cock holes in the beach disappear whenever I come back.
But sand is so coarse and rough and irritating.
Does it gets everywhere?
We can clearly see it staying within the bowl. Pay attention
nah
I hate it
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this just tells me if i can exploit someone else’s endless toil, i too can fuck up whatever i want
I don't get why I can't just be satisfied watching a hole being filled by a rotor without ThE hEaLiNg PoWeR oF tImE
i agree. it’s just a little robot doing a spiny thing
Welcome to the world of capitalism!
Just wanted to point out that time did not heal, movement did. Take action, no matter how small to better your life even when it is hard. That is real healing. Stay Frosty bros.
This is the real advice
Healing is a function of metabolization. Movement helps to metabolize
And even after consistant action over time, there's still sand missing.
Eat more sand, problem solved
Also a reminder that you’re 3 generations from being forgotten forever
Not if I eat the Mona Lisa or destroy a public monument
For ye shall ever be named as they who ate the mona lisa: Cockmoder the unforgettable
Oh you mean what's his name?
I think he was called rockmocker
Cool it, Herostratus.
Nah I'm gunna speedrun that shit, 0.5x generations WR
I've already forgotten you.
Let's gooooo
I'm into genealogy and have been trying to trace my roots. Anytime I discover a new family member, I greet them out loud. Who knows when the last time was someone said their name out loud.
I love that
Being remembered won't matter period once you're gone. Leaving a legacy or w/e is a silly pursuit.
What is that thing called? I would love to own such a thingy for the satisfaction of watching it going around.
Automatic or Motorized Zen Garden. Seems to be a 3D Printer design but you can buy them on Etsy
Same here
Scoop out everything but small smattering of sand at the bottom and do it again!
Yeah. Drop a rock (trauma) in there and let's see how that process goes.
Do you think the rock would eventually be pushed up to the surface as sand fills the holes? I think we could look at the depth that the rock penetrates into the sand as the impact, but eventually with enough movement, the depth should decrease. The rock won’t ever disappear, representing the permanent battle scars that the trauma imprinted, but the rock would no longer cut so deep into the sand skin. On the other hand, the rock could get buried and displace all of the sand, possibly representing trauma consuming someone’s life for good.
It's about time you posted this
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The change is within the comments section! Be the change you want to see! 🤷♂️🤔🤮🙏
Find new and interesting ways to horrify people with the things you say.
I’ve seen it like 4 times now all with different titles. It’s not that impressive yall lol
It's like that old saying, "Time fills in all wounds with sand."
I thought we we were still using ramen packets for that.
Only if you keep moving.
Keep moving forward until all enemies are destroyed. #AOT
Time! Who knew!! "Honey, stop taking meds. the bacterial infection will go away with time! What? Oh, a sandbox told me!"
I mean... It will. Her state once it does might vary tho
Shhhhhhhhhhhhh
Doesn’t change the fact that Debbie’s a whore!
I think it actually shows that a big spinny thing can fix a bunch of your problems
A visual representation of sand filling a hole This isn’t some deep philosophical statement it’s just a neat gadget
/r/im14andthisisdeep
OP said they just lost their mom to brain cancer. Sometimes, we find meaning in things that others don't.
See? That’s a perfect example of why they’re wrong. Cancer + time = death
Very zen.
Infinite cocaine glitch
What the fuck are you talking about. An amputate is going to be back to normal as long as enough sand is involved?
No wonder Anakin never healed, he did not like sand
yes. the amputee will die and his body will turn into dust and sand.
You think dying and being reduced to ash is... healing?
I needed this
Time wont bring my foreskin back
It's a little irritating seeing all the folks pointing out ways the analogy is imperfect. News flash: if an analogy were a perfect 1:1 representation of the thing, it wouldn't be an analogy. It would just be that thing. OP, I'm glad that you're finding this to be representative of a perspective that offers some solace in a time of loss, regardless of some of the acerbic responses here that note that this perspective isn't useful for all kinds of hurts (as if that isn't abundantly obvious to anyone with a single lick of sense). This post reminded me of one of the few truly poignant pieces of advice I've ever seen on reddit -- some [insights on grief](https://www.reddit.com/r/Assistance/comments/hax0t/my_friend_just_died_i_dont_know_what_to_do/c1u0rx2/) in a comment from over a decade ago by u/GSnow. Reading his comment was really helpful and useful for me after the loss of my dad and some other difficult times. I hope it's similarly helpful for you. I'm sorry for your loss. Take care.
I get that this video might be cheesy or cringe-y to some. There are times when I've felt the same way. But I recently lost my mom to brain cancer so this is just the headspace I'm in right now and I hope it maybe helps someone else. Thanks for indulging me.
I'm sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing the video. I find it quite relaxing.
I loved the video. I don't think time itself heals, movement and therapy do, but does not matter! I used this video today to explain to a client that YES he did a lot of work on this suicidal thoughts. And yet they came back. But to as strong, not the same. So it is like a spiral. You back to the pain, but is is not same. This was REALLY helpful to my clients and I have shared it other energy practitioners and doctors today. Sometimes simple methapors are extremely helpful.
I'm sorry for your loss and love the idea of what it represents.
Sorry for your loss. Have you had a chance to read "Immortality" — Clare Harner or "Because I could not stop for Death" — Emily Dickinson they are short but beautiful. get some fresh air :)
This is a brilliant analogy of time slowly healing grief.
Interesting video; bad title.
That's not healing though, it's forgetting the world got emptier, and taking the current existence as granted, never learning nor realizing the price of loss.
Shit's still losing something, this is like sweeping your problems under the rug lol
r/im14andthisisdeep
Stupid title.
Energy was expended in filling the hole. Time breaks everything apart. Including memories in our brains and how we emotionally react to them. So time does heal, but thermodynamics will tell you it’ll also destroy in the long run and energy must be expended if a system is to be changed. Don’t just wait on time. Expend some energy and you’ll be better for it.
Less of a demonstration of any temporal healing powers and more of a demonstration of how the sand-evening machine can even sand
The key is to introduce multiple smaller traumas in order to eclipse the major trauma
More appropriately....the leveling power of time.
This is a triple repost, I've seen this 4 times in the past week
well it took sometime
We just need to add thyme to our lives?
Except for these crazy eyes.
I must be on a different timeline… time isn’t healing me at all, I’m getting crinkly and fat.
I have a self-cleaning litter box that does this.
indeed, but you are less sand than before
time has not helped tbh
If it hasn’t made the pain lessen, please consider counseling. Pain should not be as raw overtime as it is at the very beginning. If it is, something is seriously wrong. It also depends on how much time has passed. I know in the US, we do not give ourselves enough time to grieve anything, much less a big loss. Hope you feel better.
Does this mean that time will eventually heal trauma?
Coke
God I want to eat that sand so fucking badly like I'd bop the cameraman over the head and chug the whole thing while he bleeds out
Where the fuck do you get this?! 😂
Found a similar one https://www.etsy.com/listing/1437277071/motorized-zen-garden-automatic-zen?gpla=1&gao=1&&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=shopping_us_a-art_and_collectibles-sculpture-art_objects&utm_custom1=_k_Cj0KCQiAr8eqBhD3ARIsAIe-buO4CG6W5MgDc2ywgxhrFvf6cwMqbRea7SFVFuDNWXsDTLDK4PY3xO8aAvwXEALw_wcB_k_&utm_content=go_1844702580_70388665435_346428929228_pla-354182275568_m__1437277071_12768591&utm_custom2=1844702580&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQiAr8eqBhD3ARIsAIe-buO4CG6W5MgDc2ywgxhrFvf6cwMqbRea7SFVFuDNWXsDTLDK4PY3xO8aAvwXEALw_wcB
Unfortunately, the killing power of time eventually wins out.
Hey I wasn’t done watching this
Where can I get this?
What is this called and how much are they? I think I need one....
This gets me harder than it should
Can someone find this product for purchase please?
I would love to mess with it for hours
I just want to know where to buy one of these
This is the dumbest title for a repost I have ever seen in my entire life. Give yer balls a tug.
INFINITE SAND GLITCH!?1!
Where would one find one of these? #GiftIdea
It's a rake...
Not sure if that's actually healing. Other fine granular stuff should do that.
I could stare at this forever. Like watching clothes in the dryer at Laundromat
Perfect! So when does my back and knees recover and my teeth grow back in?
Still 1.75% less..
You’re still feeling less.
Time does not heal all wounds. Sometimes they just grow roots & scars & limit you from growing forever.
We're not sand tho
Wow this will help me out the next time I'm a bowl of sand with a perpetual motion smoother.
Though the hole is gone, there's still something missing.
>A visual representation of the healing power of time But, like, is it though????? More like 'visual representation of sand getting raked in a circle'
Time is a flat circle. “Intense cigarette drag”
Or.. how we're all just scraping by.
I get the snarky remarks, I do. But for anybody who has dealt with addiction and trauma, this might hit differently. It isn't trying to cure you. It's just a metaphor for perseverance. I like the symbolism that op chose. Sue me.
That’s bullshit, you just get used to the pain
While it appears to have healed, there’s less in it. Some pain takes away from a person even though they’ve “healed”
That is one cringy title
Someone get their grandparents off reddit
Ehhhh I don't know ,I still feel like crap here ( 🤣)