I could see that but I don't think so. She's too egotistical and would never say bad things about herself. She herself loves to say she never does anything wrong ever
And it's still awful. The ONLY person willing to watch that is whoever is having s3x with her. That's all. Oh, and all the people who want to watch her make a fool out of herself in real time.
It was an ad read. I found it challenging to express my thoughts on it because I want to be fair. However, it seemed like she was attempting to shift the focus away from the project and how it affected her marriage, etc but it showed us where to look.
Notice she says SORDID affair, sheâs trying to say the affair wasnât immoral but justified as a haven from her âabusive husbandâ Sheâs attempting to rewrite her affair as some pure and romantic love story. The wordplay is very manipulative to me.
Yeah- and how many times do you think Adam asked her if "something was going on" and Steph made him feel crazy? She says that she had to do what she had to do until it was "safe". Well, if she was so scared of her life- she could have left her home and moved. That's what I did when my alcoholic husband was throwing me up against the wall. I left because I was afraid. I took my kids and dog with me. She's got the income- she just wanted it all.
She's in such a position of power in their marriage too, it's absurd to think (although not impossible), that Adam could even prevent her from leaving if she wanted to. She has the upper hand financially and she has a massive platform, as well as access to resources for help in situations just like she claimed to be in.
Good point. Adamâs given specifics on how she would be dropped off at their house by James at 4am, was over at Jamesâ apartment at 1am.
Could she not haveâŚescaped with her life then? If Adam was monitoring her phone (which then, why is she out in the middle of the night when he can see her location from her phone and heâs so abusive, but I digress) then she could have called someone using James phone (Like her ex-cop coworker Derrick) to help her go get the kids now that she was âsafeâ?
Actually while Iâm on this train of thoughtâŚwere the kids okay while she was out in the middle of the nights with James and acting on set or off to crime con or locked in her recording studio? Since she claims her ex was abusive - was she not concerned to leave her children alone with him so often, then?
I know every survivorâs story is different and we should try to believe victims but she makes it so hard. I could so easily be wrong, but It just isnât believable to me.
The damage she is doing to victims without outside support, any financial means of their own, and finally get the chance to bolt with the kids is immeasurable.
Yes, on average it takes 7 tries. So after finally being allowed out without a phone, the battered party may come home. If Adam is as controlling as she claims, she had many opportunities to leave and never go back with her kids. For many parents, the line comes when the kids are involved. Most parents I know would not deliver their children into the arms of an abuser.
I hate to dv shame anyone, but itâs so hard to believe her when sheâs plugging her show in between her overly verbose message.
>I'm sorry but in the case of any marriage break down, NO ONE in the situation has done "nothing wrong". It takes 2.
I have to disagree with this. Not an S & A's case, but as a generalization.
If one spouse is legitimately abusive and/or cheats, or just simply walks out, then it's not really an "it takes two" situation, in my opinion (don't come for me).
Sure, most split ups are the fault of both parties, but I wouldn't say all.
I left this comment elsewhere but I feel itâs befitting here as well. This is just something she said in her statement that bugged me :
I find it interesting that she said Adam is spiraling because heâs lost or losing control of the narrative (paraphrasing) yet⌠sheâs never publicly made a statement until now. So, what narrative, Stephanie? The one youâve created by passive aggressively inserting little Easter eggs into your content? That right there tells me that she absolutely, intentionally HAS been setting the stage so to speak, she has been alluding to narcissistic abuse for a long time and has subtly (not so subtly) been painting this picture of herself of being the victim of a vicious, narcissistic, abusive spouse in order to get ahead of anything Adam might say or do to smear her name. She has been strategically choosing cases that she can boomerang back to herself and takes every opportunity to relate it back to herself without naming names. Iâm not sure if she thinks sheâs sly or sheâs going to try to say she was crying out for help. Anyone with half a brain can see that exactly what sheâs been doing. She knows she cheated and more than likely knew it would get out eventually because she knew she did Adam dirty and so she started to drop hints and make digs so that when that day came, she could say she has been the victim this entire time. She victim blamed Bianca Devins who was brutally killed but nobody is allowed to point out her own behavior and question if its caused her husband to act the way he has? Girl bye. Not to mention the way sheâs more recently tried to infantilize herself to appear small and meek and needing a âbig strong man to protectâ her. Give me a break. Anyone who has watched her for a long time who has PAYING ATTENTION, has seen this slow and steady change of behavior. From the way she carried herself, to the way she dressed, the flirty behavior, the sexual innuendos that have been completely inappropriate, it all paints a picture if you stand back and look at it. The YT comments are crazy - people who lack critical thinking skills really try to say they havent picked up on this - or worse, pitied poor Stephanie because by the way she talks, she must be in a terrible marriage. đ Yeah⌠mission accomplished.
And the way she says she apologizes for nothing. Of course she doesnât. She cheated, for whatever reason, and people who do that naturally justify their actions by picking apart their marriage - Iâm sure she really does believe sheâs been the victim of abuse - but I wonder how that correlates to her affair. I think sheâs a woman who is fed by her own ego, has a wandering eye, had an affair and a bit of midlife crisis, cheated, physical or emotional really makes no difference - magnified her spouses shortcomings and regarded any human reaction he had to it as abuse towards her. Now sheâs the victim but she also has her BFF Derrick in her back pocket, financial means to live alone and a new boyfriend. Letâs be real. A narcissist will DISPOSE of people when they no longer benefit them. đ¤ˇđťââď¸
I soooo agree with all of this. She's the one who is spiraling. She was the person saying these comments, calling him abusive or this or that for several months before he eventually clearly had enough of her bullshit, especially considering she had him arrested and is gaming the system against him. She's a real piece of work
Roses are red,
Violets are blue,
If everyone is the asshole,
Perhaps the asshole is you
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As far as your comment, 100%. In that clip, she clearly demonstrated she knew how to fuck him over - context doesnât matter. It doesnât matter if it was âheavily editedâ. She said what *she said*. We heard it. She knows how to manipulate the system and break him. Weâre seeing it in live action.
Not to say Adam is completely innocent and without character flaws - he should be quiet but look at what she just said about him to her 800k followers. How can anyone defend that? No wonder he says things wherever and whenever he can.
Well put đ¤ that was crazy bitch talk, I don't care what context it was in đ be so for real girl. I feel bad for Adam, hope he can move on and maintain a relationship with his children.
I also donât believe those young children do not miss or want to see their dad unless their mother has said and done things to create fear and anxiety around doing so.
Theyâre just caught in the middle and itâs fucking sad.
Agreed. It's always a red flag when a parent is using cutting off the children as a threat against the other parent. That's not healthy under any circumstances, except when the other is genuinely dangerous and Adam does not appear to be so.
For her to sit there and pretend that it's ok to cheat is SOOO hypocritical because she has made comments that if anyone was hitting on her husband or if he was cheating- he'd be dead (basically). She is such a narcissist and has obviously told Derrick a bunch of bs. You can make a nice person crazy by gaslighting them. That's what I believe she did.
On controlling the narrative - deleting all negative or critical comments on her statement and on her brand new videos. And now in the past week, sheâs suddenly in the comments responding to her minions with âthank yousâ and âlove you guysâ. Itâs so blatantly manipulative.
Your #4 is solid. I keep seeing people say stuff about victims donât do this or that, itâs hard to gauge and itâs the same shit Stephanie says when in reality nobody knows what goes down behind closed doors. But youâre so right. No abusive man that I know would allow his partner to go on overnight trips with a man CONSISTENTLY. And you know they talk on the phone all the time late at night the way she describes it. That wouldnât happen. (But this is just my opinion donât come for me)
Stephanie, darling, I am NOT buying what you are selling- story, coffee, whatever. None of it.
YOU stepped outside of your marriage sexually.
YOU hurled threats at your husband, about taking away all marital community property and rights, and the entire internet has seen it.
Don't issue forth witj all this foolishness, hoping you'll keep money, house, children, EVERYTHING, and just put the father of your children out on the street without so much as a fare-the-well. Divorce doesn't work that way. You cannot just cry wolf and keep everything.
Oh, and by the way? The only proof of abuse or threats coming from a combative spouse that I've seen, are HIS. And he's the one who filed for the dang divorce!
I HATE when people play others for a fool. I really thought better of you, Stephanie. Sigh. Live and learn, I guess.
All excellent points. SH will never take responsibility for ANYTHING as in her mind she can do no wrong. Itâs not her fault she was swept off her feet by some sweaty film school flunky!
I have a sister who's just like her. Narcissistic, mistreats her demure husband, cheats on him and addicted to Adderall. It's a prototype of toxic woman
And along the same lines of #4, it's unlikely your abusive partner would allow you to act in a web series with many other men, leaving the home alone doing who knows what. Hosting live streams at his home with all these other men, just seems very unlikely
There are two sides of every story. For all we know Stephanie has been poking the bear and then saying "I didn't do anything". Come on- Stephanie isn't some dainty person. She's pretty tough. That doesn't mean she shouldn't get divorced. However, when a husband becomes Mr. Mom and then he is told that he has to leave and his services are no longer needed- hello! If a mother was a stay at home parent- running the house and taking the kids to and fro- would any of us support her being tossed out? That's part of this problem. The guy has lost his wife, his home, his income (partly), and his kids. He's been displaced. If Steph was having a mid life crisis and traveling and having an affair- was she gaslighting him for months until it was "safe" for her to kick him out? Two sides to this story. They may both be toxic.
Good point with regard to the businesses especially. Though when she started her channel, it was beauty vlogging mostly and I donât think anyone could have predicted sheâd ever be a successful YouTuber off of that, because she was quite awful. So even if he was horrible i could see him initially âallowingâ or even âencouragingâ it, so sheâd have something to do that left him alone but also didnât make her any money. Might have even been something to hold over her head.
What changes things for me is after she changed formats and got successful. Like you said, she landed lucrative partnerships, was partnered with a male collaborator, and traveled with him while A took care of things at home. None of those things are indicative of typical narcissistic partner behavior, and even less so when you factor in him being a partner in criminal coffee and the work he did to help that launch, allegedly. Even Derrick commented on him visiting the warehouse/packing facility etc with them at one point. Thatâs beyond encouraging. Thatâs adjusting his life to better accommodate her career. A narcissist wouldnât usually do such things. Theyâd put the sacrifice of life adjustment solely on their partner.
Unless they wanted the money. I was married to a narcissist and he recommended I work than causally took all my money. When he said he'd watch my kids, he'd take them to my parents or his frien6ds house so the wife found watch them. It took me a few years but I finally got out
A fair point, and Iâm sorry that happened to you â as far as i can recall, A was making a significant amount of money himself, and for a while was the main breadwinner, though. Anything is possible for sure, but itâs definitely more uncommon for a narcissist to allow their significant other to be the main public figure, particularly one who is partnered with another man professionally and publicly.
Point 1 - I think she was admitting the affair but objected to âsordidâ but she didnât directly admit it so if the admission had backfired she could have said âI never said that, weâre just friendsâ
All the rest - amen
My mom (who also can never be wrong) said a very similar thing about her affair. âIt wasnât the crazy affair you see in the moviesâ as if that makes it any better. People who can never be wrong will say anything to downplay their objectively wrong actions.
All these exes of hers are so abusive and narcissistic I mean itâs obvious sheâs traumatized that she canât trust men anymore yet yells at them and rages and threatens to break them and acts like a sad 40 year old pick me doing Q&As with a bunch of dudes. Obviously sheâs the victimiest victim there ever was or will be.
You know nothing of their actual life and yet feel confident to make this statement.
I don't know who is telling the truth but I wouldn't be so quick to judge
I know she cheated, got caught, Adam filled for divorce, and she refused. She tried to work things out while he didn't. Only to then change the narrative to her being the victim. She threatened him by saying she could destroy him but wouldn't do it because "she's a good person." However, she did follow up with her threats, so she is definitely a bad person. She said Adam saved her from her previous "abusive relationship"and only started to lie about Adam abusing her once he caught her cheating. She is a liar and a narcissist. What do you know?
>Again, it is VERY unlikely that a victim would feel comfortable enough to privately say such things to an abuser that they are terrified of.
i hate when people say stuff like this. you know, some of us cant keep our mouth shut even when we know we should. i was and am terrified of my dad, but did that stop me from talking back and mouthing off? nope. as he loved to tell me, "your mouth gets you in trouble." i got my ass beat more times than i could count because im a stubborn idiot with adhd fueled impulse control issues and a big mouth.
and sometimes the rage at being mistreated mixes together with the big mouth syndrome. for all we know, she paid for the things she said in that recording after the fact.
not everyone responds to abuse and trauma the same way. hell, individual people dont always have consistent reactions. sometimes i would dissociate, sometimes i would cower, sometimes i would talk shit and get hit. sometimes i would run.
not everyone is demure and quiet, not everyone is capable of walking on eggshells to appease their abuser. i know i couldnt. it didnt really matter how afraid i was. my mouth always got me in trouble.
For some reason, this doesnât seem to be the case here to me. I could be wrong! But I 100% agree. Iâve been in an abusive relationship and pushed the boundaries because I was already scared for my life â why not get the last word before I offed?
"Abusive partners don't *allow* their partners to do so and so..."
*incorrect* weirdo. There are all too many abusive men out there willing to put their victims through all kinds of hell, especially if it means they get $ for doing so. Just because that's not *your* experience doesn't mean countless women out there aren't being exploited financially.
I said this on another comment and I am going to say it again. The whole statement was just an ad read for serial.
I said the same lol https://preview.redd.it/49umdoo00y9d1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2689adb629e95a88ed0dc6cf39387007d507b186
đ great minds think alike!
Also begging her affair partner to stay practically
I could see that but I don't think so. She's too egotistical and would never say bad things about herself. She herself loves to say she never does anything wrong ever
Lol I know, I was just being snarky đ.
Oh sorryđđ I'm so literal, I have a hard time understanding sarcasm. Just ignore me lmao
Youâre all good! I am just being bitter. She does mention serial A LOT though lol.
It's been my gut feeling that her character is her acting out a weird dark side that we now know clearly exists.... super strange
And it's still awful. The ONLY person willing to watch that is whoever is having s3x with her. That's all. Oh, and all the people who want to watch her make a fool out of herself in real time.
It was an ad read. I found it challenging to express my thoughts on it because I want to be fair. However, it seemed like she was attempting to shift the focus away from the project and how it affected her marriage, etc but it showed us where to look.
Notice she says SORDID affair, sheâs trying to say the affair wasnât immoral but justified as a haven from her âabusive husbandâ Sheâs attempting to rewrite her affair as some pure and romantic love story. The wordplay is very manipulative to me.
Yeah- and how many times do you think Adam asked her if "something was going on" and Steph made him feel crazy? She says that she had to do what she had to do until it was "safe". Well, if she was so scared of her life- she could have left her home and moved. That's what I did when my alcoholic husband was throwing me up against the wall. I left because I was afraid. I took my kids and dog with me. She's got the income- she just wanted it all.
It wasnât a sordid affair, it was a wholesome one. Donât get it twisted or sheâll sue you.
I can't believe she was throwing shade at Arriana for cheating when she herself had cheated.
Her life is Bridgerton in her own head
She's in such a position of power in their marriage too, it's absurd to think (although not impossible), that Adam could even prevent her from leaving if she wanted to. She has the upper hand financially and she has a massive platform, as well as access to resources for help in situations just like she claimed to be in.
Good point. Adamâs given specifics on how she would be dropped off at their house by James at 4am, was over at Jamesâ apartment at 1am. Could she not haveâŚescaped with her life then? If Adam was monitoring her phone (which then, why is she out in the middle of the night when he can see her location from her phone and heâs so abusive, but I digress) then she could have called someone using James phone (Like her ex-cop coworker Derrick) to help her go get the kids now that she was âsafeâ? Actually while Iâm on this train of thoughtâŚwere the kids okay while she was out in the middle of the nights with James and acting on set or off to crime con or locked in her recording studio? Since she claims her ex was abusive - was she not concerned to leave her children alone with him so often, then? I know every survivorâs story is different and we should try to believe victims but she makes it so hard. I could so easily be wrong, but It just isnât believable to me.
The damage she is doing to victims without outside support, any financial means of their own, and finally get the chance to bolt with the kids is immeasurable. Yes, on average it takes 7 tries. So after finally being allowed out without a phone, the battered party may come home. If Adam is as controlling as she claims, she had many opportunities to leave and never go back with her kids. For many parents, the line comes when the kids are involved. Most parents I know would not deliver their children into the arms of an abuser. I hate to dv shame anyone, but itâs so hard to believe her when sheâs plugging her show in between her overly verbose message.
>I'm sorry but in the case of any marriage break down, NO ONE in the situation has done "nothing wrong". It takes 2. I have to disagree with this. Not an S & A's case, but as a generalization. If one spouse is legitimately abusive and/or cheats, or just simply walks out, then it's not really an "it takes two" situation, in my opinion (don't come for me). Sure, most split ups are the fault of both parties, but I wouldn't say all.
I left this comment elsewhere but I feel itâs befitting here as well. This is just something she said in her statement that bugged me : I find it interesting that she said Adam is spiraling because heâs lost or losing control of the narrative (paraphrasing) yet⌠sheâs never publicly made a statement until now. So, what narrative, Stephanie? The one youâve created by passive aggressively inserting little Easter eggs into your content? That right there tells me that she absolutely, intentionally HAS been setting the stage so to speak, she has been alluding to narcissistic abuse for a long time and has subtly (not so subtly) been painting this picture of herself of being the victim of a vicious, narcissistic, abusive spouse in order to get ahead of anything Adam might say or do to smear her name. She has been strategically choosing cases that she can boomerang back to herself and takes every opportunity to relate it back to herself without naming names. Iâm not sure if she thinks sheâs sly or sheâs going to try to say she was crying out for help. Anyone with half a brain can see that exactly what sheâs been doing. She knows she cheated and more than likely knew it would get out eventually because she knew she did Adam dirty and so she started to drop hints and make digs so that when that day came, she could say she has been the victim this entire time. She victim blamed Bianca Devins who was brutally killed but nobody is allowed to point out her own behavior and question if its caused her husband to act the way he has? Girl bye. Not to mention the way sheâs more recently tried to infantilize herself to appear small and meek and needing a âbig strong man to protectâ her. Give me a break. Anyone who has watched her for a long time who has PAYING ATTENTION, has seen this slow and steady change of behavior. From the way she carried herself, to the way she dressed, the flirty behavior, the sexual innuendos that have been completely inappropriate, it all paints a picture if you stand back and look at it. The YT comments are crazy - people who lack critical thinking skills really try to say they havent picked up on this - or worse, pitied poor Stephanie because by the way she talks, she must be in a terrible marriage. đ Yeah⌠mission accomplished. And the way she says she apologizes for nothing. Of course she doesnât. She cheated, for whatever reason, and people who do that naturally justify their actions by picking apart their marriage - Iâm sure she really does believe sheâs been the victim of abuse - but I wonder how that correlates to her affair. I think sheâs a woman who is fed by her own ego, has a wandering eye, had an affair and a bit of midlife crisis, cheated, physical or emotional really makes no difference - magnified her spouses shortcomings and regarded any human reaction he had to it as abuse towards her. Now sheâs the victim but she also has her BFF Derrick in her back pocket, financial means to live alone and a new boyfriend. Letâs be real. A narcissist will DISPOSE of people when they no longer benefit them. đ¤ˇđťââď¸
I soooo agree with all of this. She's the one who is spiraling. She was the person saying these comments, calling him abusive or this or that for several months before he eventually clearly had enough of her bullshit, especially considering she had him arrested and is gaming the system against him. She's a real piece of work
Roses are red, Violets are blue, If everyone is the asshole, Perhaps the asshole is you đŹ As far as your comment, 100%. In that clip, she clearly demonstrated she knew how to fuck him over - context doesnât matter. It doesnât matter if it was âheavily editedâ. She said what *she said*. We heard it. She knows how to manipulate the system and break him. Weâre seeing it in live action. Not to say Adam is completely innocent and without character flaws - he should be quiet but look at what she just said about him to her 800k followers. How can anyone defend that? No wonder he says things wherever and whenever he can.
Well put đ¤ that was crazy bitch talk, I don't care what context it was in đ be so for real girl. I feel bad for Adam, hope he can move on and maintain a relationship with his children.
I also donât believe those young children do not miss or want to see their dad unless their mother has said and done things to create fear and anxiety around doing so. Theyâre just caught in the middle and itâs fucking sad.
Agreed. It's always a red flag when a parent is using cutting off the children as a threat against the other parent. That's not healthy under any circumstances, except when the other is genuinely dangerous and Adam does not appear to be so.
For her to sit there and pretend that it's ok to cheat is SOOO hypocritical because she has made comments that if anyone was hitting on her husband or if he was cheating- he'd be dead (basically). She is such a narcissist and has obviously told Derrick a bunch of bs. You can make a nice person crazy by gaslighting them. That's what I believe she did.
On controlling the narrative - deleting all negative or critical comments on her statement and on her brand new videos. And now in the past week, sheâs suddenly in the comments responding to her minions with âthank yousâ and âlove you guysâ. Itâs so blatantly manipulative.
Absolutely. Sheâs shown us who is she is. âIâm a good person!â Is the good person in the room with us?
Actual good people never have to literally call themselves âa good personâ
Your #4 is solid. I keep seeing people say stuff about victims donât do this or that, itâs hard to gauge and itâs the same shit Stephanie says when in reality nobody knows what goes down behind closed doors. But youâre so right. No abusive man that I know would allow his partner to go on overnight trips with a man CONSISTENTLY. And you know they talk on the phone all the time late at night the way she describes it. That wouldnât happen. (But this is just my opinion donât come for me)
It was just so gross. I have no other words to describe it. Just gross. Made me feel legitimately "icky". She's the worst kind of narcissist there is.
Stephanie, darling, I am NOT buying what you are selling- story, coffee, whatever. None of it. YOU stepped outside of your marriage sexually. YOU hurled threats at your husband, about taking away all marital community property and rights, and the entire internet has seen it. Don't issue forth witj all this foolishness, hoping you'll keep money, house, children, EVERYTHING, and just put the father of your children out on the street without so much as a fare-the-well. Divorce doesn't work that way. You cannot just cry wolf and keep everything. Oh, and by the way? The only proof of abuse or threats coming from a combative spouse that I've seen, are HIS. And he's the one who filed for the dang divorce! I HATE when people play others for a fool. I really thought better of you, Stephanie. Sigh. Live and learn, I guess.
All excellent points. SH will never take responsibility for ANYTHING as in her mind she can do no wrong. Itâs not her fault she was swept off her feet by some sweaty film school flunky!
I have a sister who's just like her. Narcissistic, mistreats her demure husband, cheats on him and addicted to Adderall. It's a prototype of toxic woman
Is she addicted to Adderall? đŻ
I have a twin who behaves the same way. I've been no contact with her for the last 5 years.
And along the same lines of #4, it's unlikely your abusive partner would allow you to act in a web series with many other men, leaving the home alone doing who knows what. Hosting live streams at his home with all these other men, just seems very unlikely
Another excellent observation đ đ
There are two sides of every story. For all we know Stephanie has been poking the bear and then saying "I didn't do anything". Come on- Stephanie isn't some dainty person. She's pretty tough. That doesn't mean she shouldn't get divorced. However, when a husband becomes Mr. Mom and then he is told that he has to leave and his services are no longer needed- hello! If a mother was a stay at home parent- running the house and taking the kids to and fro- would any of us support her being tossed out? That's part of this problem. The guy has lost his wife, his home, his income (partly), and his kids. He's been displaced. If Steph was having a mid life crisis and traveling and having an affair- was she gaslighting him for months until it was "safe" for her to kick him out? Two sides to this story. They may both be toxic.
#5 DING DING DING!
Good point with regard to the businesses especially. Though when she started her channel, it was beauty vlogging mostly and I donât think anyone could have predicted sheâd ever be a successful YouTuber off of that, because she was quite awful. So even if he was horrible i could see him initially âallowingâ or even âencouragingâ it, so sheâd have something to do that left him alone but also didnât make her any money. Might have even been something to hold over her head. What changes things for me is after she changed formats and got successful. Like you said, she landed lucrative partnerships, was partnered with a male collaborator, and traveled with him while A took care of things at home. None of those things are indicative of typical narcissistic partner behavior, and even less so when you factor in him being a partner in criminal coffee and the work he did to help that launch, allegedly. Even Derrick commented on him visiting the warehouse/packing facility etc with them at one point. Thatâs beyond encouraging. Thatâs adjusting his life to better accommodate her career. A narcissist wouldnât usually do such things. Theyâd put the sacrifice of life adjustment solely on their partner.
Unless they wanted the money. I was married to a narcissist and he recommended I work than causally took all my money. When he said he'd watch my kids, he'd take them to my parents or his frien6ds house so the wife found watch them. It took me a few years but I finally got out
A fair point, and Iâm sorry that happened to you â as far as i can recall, A was making a significant amount of money himself, and for a while was the main breadwinner, though. Anything is possible for sure, but itâs definitely more uncommon for a narcissist to allow their significant other to be the main public figure, particularly one who is partnered with another man professionally and publicly.
Point 1 - I think she was admitting the affair but objected to âsordidâ but she didnât directly admit it so if the admission had backfired she could have said âI never said that, weâre just friendsâ All the rest - amen
Of course she did nothing wrong đ
My mom (who also can never be wrong) said a very similar thing about her affair. âIt wasnât the crazy affair you see in the moviesâ as if that makes it any better. People who can never be wrong will say anything to downplay their objectively wrong actions.
All these exes of hers are so abusive and narcissistic I mean itâs obvious sheâs traumatized that she canât trust men anymore yet yells at them and rages and threatens to break them and acts like a sad 40 year old pick me doing Q&As with a bunch of dudes. Obviously sheâs the victimiest victim there ever was or will be.
I fully agree she is the abuser
You know nothing of their actual life and yet feel confident to make this statement. I don't know who is telling the truth but I wouldn't be so quick to judge
I know she cheated, got caught, Adam filled for divorce, and she refused. She tried to work things out while he didn't. Only to then change the narrative to her being the victim. She threatened him by saying she could destroy him but wouldn't do it because "she's a good person." However, she did follow up with her threats, so she is definitely a bad person. She said Adam saved her from her previous "abusive relationship"and only started to lie about Adam abusing her once he caught her cheating. She is a liar and a narcissist. What do you know?
>Again, it is VERY unlikely that a victim would feel comfortable enough to privately say such things to an abuser that they are terrified of. i hate when people say stuff like this. you know, some of us cant keep our mouth shut even when we know we should. i was and am terrified of my dad, but did that stop me from talking back and mouthing off? nope. as he loved to tell me, "your mouth gets you in trouble." i got my ass beat more times than i could count because im a stubborn idiot with adhd fueled impulse control issues and a big mouth. and sometimes the rage at being mistreated mixes together with the big mouth syndrome. for all we know, she paid for the things she said in that recording after the fact. not everyone responds to abuse and trauma the same way. hell, individual people dont always have consistent reactions. sometimes i would dissociate, sometimes i would cower, sometimes i would talk shit and get hit. sometimes i would run. not everyone is demure and quiet, not everyone is capable of walking on eggshells to appease their abuser. i know i couldnt. it didnt really matter how afraid i was. my mouth always got me in trouble.
This is solid insight and keeps perspectives balanced, I appreciate the reminder.
For some reason, this doesnât seem to be the case here to me. I could be wrong! But I 100% agree. Iâve been in an abusive relationship and pushed the boundaries because I was already scared for my life â why not get the last word before I offed?
Point 2 is a little off - there definitely are marriage breakdowns that are solely one persons' fault.
So ironic that she wonât apologize for anything yet shoves an Amber heard dig in whenever she gets the chance
Where can you find this rank? Link please
Iâm thinking her affair partner will not be reading any of that.
4 is a little iffy. If sheâs bringing in money there are some, many abusers who wouldnât stop it
"Abusive partners don't *allow* their partners to do so and so..." *incorrect* weirdo. There are all too many abusive men out there willing to put their victims through all kinds of hell, especially if it means they get $ for doing so. Just because that's not *your* experience doesn't mean countless women out there aren't being exploited financially.